Mosaic Community Church of Dayton

You are built for intimacy. Without intimacy with others and with God, your heart does not get what it needs to be fully alive. In this series we take a look at what is needed to build intimacy into your relationships. Part One: This is Us In creating intimacy we need to move from a "you" and "me" and become an "us." Today we talk about one of the biggest barriers in accomplishing this.

You are built for intimacy. Without intimacy with others and with God, your heart does not get what it needs to be fully alive. In this series we take a look at what is needed to build intimacy into your relationships. Part One: This is Me We examine one key truth about intimacy, and one key skill in building intimacy.

Is hope a good thing, or is hope a dangerous thing? Doesn’t hope just set us up for disappointment? We take a look at The Shawshank Redemption and find parallel’s to the Easter message about hope.

What does a normal meal look like? What is a normal night's sleep? How much loneliness or sadness is it normal to have or tolerate on a daily basis? Whatever is normal to you is invisible to you even if it is harming you. In this series we talk about how to discover when we have normalized situations that prevent us from thriving. Part Three: Easy Sometimes we think that finding normal and moving out of survival mode is intensely difficult. Today we look at how God wants to make it easy.

What does a normal meal look like? What is a normal night's sleep? How much loneliness or sadness is it normal to have or tolerate on a daily basis? Whatever is normal to you is invisible to you even if it is harming you. In this series we talk about how to discover when we have normalized situations that prevent us from thriving. Part Two: Your People Picker If you want to move from surviving to thriving, you will need to examine your people picker. Today we talk about a key biblical principle in choosing which relationships will help us in finding normal.

What does a normal meal look like? What is a normal night's sleep? How much loneliness or sadness is it normal to have or tolerate on a daily basis? Whatever is normal to you is invisible to you even if it is harming you. In this series we talk about how to discover when we have normalized situations that prevent us from thriving. Part One: Survival Mode When we normalize situations that we were not meant to endure, we end up in survival mode. Today we talk about all the different layers of normalization that we need to watch out for in order to move from surviving to thriving.

Personal Bible study is a critical component to developing an intimate relationship with God, yet some books of the Bible can seem foreign and confusing to the modern reader. This talk will give you the background information you need to have a rich and profitable experience reading the book of Proverbs.

Have you ever been in a relationship that started out fun and life-giving but became all work with very little payoff? Chance are shame sucked all the joy out of the relationship. In this series we look at how shame functions and how it can dominate a relationship, and what to do about it. Part Five: Shame and Problem Ownership Your problems are not the obstacles to where you want to go in life, they are the stepping stones. However, when we take our problems into the shame triangle it can be like getting lost in a swamp. Today we talk about how to approach our problems in a way that strengthens our relationships.

Have you ever been in a relationship that started out fun and life-giving but became all work with very little payoff? Chance are shame sucked all the joy out of the relationship. In this series we look at how shame functions and how it can dominate a relationship, and what to do about it. Part Four: Whose Problem is This? (cont'd) Sometimes we have a problem that is not my problem or your problem, it's our problem. But when you "our problem" consistently becomes "your problem" then you wind up back in the shame triangle. Today we talk about how to have conversations to keep responsibilities clear when we have a problem.

Have you ever been in a relationship that started out fun and life-giving but became all work with very little payoff? Chance are shame sucked all the joy out of the relationship. In this series we look at how shame functions and how it can dominate a relationship, and what to do about it. Part Three: Whose Problem is This? In order to stay out of the shame triangle we need to have equal, adult to adult relationships. Today we talk about a simple, powerful step to help us do this.

Have you ever been in a relationship that started out fun and life-giving but became all work with very little payoff? Chance are shame sucked all the joy out of the relationship. In this series we look at how shame functions and how it can dominate a relationship, and what to do about it. Part Two: Shame and Your Relationships Often our relationships are structured to keep shame at the center of our lives. Today we talk about how this happens, and steps you can take to become aware of when shame is sucking the joy out of your relationships.

Have you ever been in a relationship that started out fun and life-giving but became all work with very little payoff? Chance are shame sucked all the joy out of the relationship. In this series we look at how shame functions and how it can dominate a relationship, and what to do about it. Part One: Shame and Your Heart Shame can separate you from your true self and suck all the job out of being you. Today we look at God's healing response to our shame.

Personal Bible study is critical component to developing an intimate relationship with God, yet some books of the Bible can seem foreign and confusing to the modern reader. This talk will give you the background information you need to have a rich and profitable experience reading the book of Ecclesiastes.

Personal Bible study is critical component to developing an intimate relationship with God, yet some books of the Bible can seem foreign and confusing to the modern reader. This talk will give you the background information you need to have a rich and profitable experience reading the book of Genesis.

New Year's Resolutions can be difficult to make when we don't have hope that we can achieve the results. Greg talks about some things he has learned this year about achieving a breakthrough in how to grow and change.

In becoming human Jesus chose to leave his perfect world and get in the middle of our mess - he was a bridge builder. Too often we don't follow his example and we become moat diggers, trying to keep others away so that we don't have to deal with their mess.

In the Christmas story we see a wide variety of responses to the announcement of the coming of the king. Joseph's response foreshadows the compassionate justice of the coming king.

This classic is one of the most popular and influential films of the holiday season. But does it really give us a recipe for a wonderful life? Today we talk about how to have a truly wonderful life.

In this beautiful and tender film we are given a picture of how Jesus would like his church to behave.

What would you do if you were stuck in one place, and every day was exactly the same, and nothing that you did mattered? We take a fun look at Groundhog Day and the Bible to see how that problem can be solved today.

Life is like a box of chocolates... you never know what you're going to get. In the midst of such uncertainty is it possible to find your destiny? Today we use the wisdom of Forrest Gump to uncover a biblical truth about what it takes to find your destiny.

In this final series on the stages of building great relationships we talk about the attitudes and skills that are necessary to keep a relationship on course. No one follows through perfectly on commitments to values, goals, or responsibilities, but in great relationships there is the capacity to talk about problems openly and quickly and get back on course. Part Three: Immediacy When practiced in a high-trust relationship, the skill of immediacy provides one of the best opportunities to grow in our ability to give and receive love. Today we learn what immediacy is and how and when to use this powerful tool.

In this final series on the stages of building great relationships we talk about the attitudes and skills that are necessary to keep a relationship on course. No one follows through perfectly on commitments to values, goals, or responsibilities, but in great relationships there is the capacity to talk about problems openly and quickly and get back on course. Part Two: Giving Hoest Feedback Giving honest and timely feedback is critical for maintaining an honest and intimate relationship. But, like confrontation, feedback can often come off as judgmental or petty. Today we talk about how to use feedback to protect and nurture your relationships.

In this final series on the stages of building great relationships we talk about the attitudes and skills that are necessary to keep a relationship on course. No one follows through perfectly on commitments to values, goals, or responsibilities, but in great relationships there is the capacity to talk about problems openly and quickly and get back on course. Part One: Healthy Confrontation It’s difficult to confront someone who not living up to their agreements. Sometimes we even believe that confrontation is judgmental and unloving. Today we learn how to confront in ways that lead to both growth and intimacy.

Personal Bible Study is a critical component to developing an intimate relationship with God, yet some books of the Bible can seem foreign and confusing to the modern reader. This talk will give you the background information you need to have a rich and profitable experience reading the book of Job.

Every once in a while we find a relationship we want to take to the next level. When we do this well, it can also take our lives to the next level. When we don't, we can end up stuck. In this series we talk about what is necessary to create a dynamic, next-level friendship. Part Five: Responsibilities The final component of a great next-level relationship is deciding who is responsible to do what. Yet we are all so busy that few of us are eager to take on new responsibilities. Today we talk about how to choose our responsibilities so that we can find balance and still live the lives we were meant to live.

Every once in a while we find a relationship we want to take to the next level. When we do this well, it can also take our lives to the next level. When we don't, we can end up stuck. In this series we talk about what is necessary to create a dynamic, next-level friendship. Part Four: Finding Traction Sometimes we feel like we are just spinning our wheels, and getting nowhere. Greg talks about how setting the right kind of goals can help us get traction and get moving forward, and also why it can be challenging for us to set goals.

Every once in a while we find a relationship we want to take to the next level. When we do this well, it can also take our lives to the next level. When we don't, we can end up stuck. In this series we talk about what is necessary to create a dynamic, next-level friendship. Part Three: Shared Values Next level relationships thrive when there are clear shared values. Greg talks about different kinds of values that we have and which ones are critical to clarify for healthy next-level relationships.

Every once in a while we find a relationship we want to take to the next level. When we do this well, it can also take our lives to the next level. When we don't, we can end up stuck. In this series we talk about what is necessary to create a dynamic, next-level friendship. Part Two: Where are you going? Next-level relationships only work when you want to go to the same place. And yet, sometimes we feel selfish when we put limits on a relationship because of what we want out of life. Greg talks about this tension and the need to have clear direction in your life.

Every once in a while we find a relationship we want to take to the next level. When we do this well, it can also take our lives to the next level. When we don't, we can end up stuck. In this series we talk about what is necessary to create a dynamic, next-level friendship. Part One: The Talk Have you ever dated someone long enough that you thought it was time to have "the talk?" Every next-level friendship has to have "the talk." In this message we explore the importance of "the talk" and what happens when we avoid or ignore this critical step of building a friendship.

We exist to help people grow in their ability to give and receive love in four key relationships. One thing that prevents our growth is the hurts, habits, and hang-ups we struggle with. Greg talks about the biblical foundation of the twelve steps and how they help us grow in these four relationships.

Greg follows his series on Creating Connections with a conversation with an atheist in order to model how to maintain warmth, empathy, and respect when talking to people whose views are very different from ours.

Do you ever wish you could feel more connected to the important people in your life? Would you like to know how to connect with new acquaintances and create more friendships? In this series we talk about four things you can do to create real connection with others. Part Five: Connecting through Feedback We cannot hide from ourselves and connect with others at the same time. Seeking feedback is not only a way to ensure that we are not hiding, when done well it can create deep connection with others.

Do you ever wish you could feel more connected to the important people in your life? Would you like to know how to connect with new acquaintances and create more friendships? In this series we talk about four things you can do to create real connection with others. Part Four: Practice Letting People Know What You Want Letting others know what we want and don't want can be challenging, and the strategies that we use to get around these challenges can be controlling and manipulative. Today we talk about how to be more genuine with your wants.

Do you ever wish you could feel more connected to the important people in your life? Would you like to know how to connect with new acquaintances and create more friendships? In this series we talk about four things you can do to create real connection with others. Part Three: Genuine Conversation In our conversations we can either communicate to control, or communicate to relate. Learning how to have genuine conversations is a critical element in building strong relationships.

Do you ever wish you could feel more connected to the important people in your life? Would you like to know how to connect with new acquaintances and create more friendships? In this series we talk about four things you can do to create real connection with others. Part Two: Concrete Communication We tend to listen in order to evaluate, judge, and categorize people, and this habit prevents a sense of connection, even in our closest relationships. Learning how to be concrete in our communication is a great way to connect more with the people in our lives.

Do you ever wish you could feel more connected to the important people in your life? Would you like to know how to connect with new acquaintances and create more friendships? In this series we talk about four things you can do to create real connection with others. Part One: Self-Disclosure Self-disclosure can be risky. We long for others to know and accept us for who we are, and yet self-disclosure creates the possibility for rejection and judgment. This talk explores the risks of self-disclosure and helps us reduce the risks involved while creating connection with more people in our lives.

Every great relationship (including a romance, friendship, or business partnership) has to have a solid foundation to build on. In this series we talk about what that foundation is made up of, and why our relationships have not been working without it. Part Five: Warmth: Getting Outside Yourself The final essential foundation of a great relationship is warmth. Greg talks about why warmth is critical, why we often lose it, and how learning to express warmth can help you grow in your ability to love God and others.

Every great relationship (including a romance, friendship, or business partnership) has to have a solid foundation to build on. In this series we talk about what that foundation is made up of, and why our relationships have not been working without it. Part Four: Respect Basic respect is another foundation to any relationship, because respect defines that there are two separate, unique, different valuable people in this relationship. Greg talks about why we struggle with giving basic respect, and the clearest way to know if someone respects you as an individual.

Every great relationship (including a romance, friendship, or business partnership) has to have a solid foundation to build on. In this series we talk about what that foundation is made up of, and why our relationships have not been working without it. Part Three: Feeling Better or Feeling Deeply When we see people we love feeling painful emotions, our first tendency is to try to make them feel better. But trying to make people feel better has some serious unintended consequences. Today we learn about those consequences, and why it's more important to help people feel deeply.

Every great relationship (including a romance, friendship, or business partnership) has to have a solid foundation to build on. In this series we talk about what that foundation is made up of, and why our relationships have not been working without it. Part Two: Listening with Empathy In order to connect your heart with other people, you need to be connected to your own heart. The problem is we have been told our whole lives to bury and hide our real heart from others. Today we learn about four things we need to excavate to have real relationship.

Every great relationship (including a romance, friendship, or business partnership) has to have a solid foundation to build on. In this series we talk about what that foundation is made up of, and why our relationships have not been working without it. Part One: Excavating Your Heart In order to connect your heart with other people, you need to be connected to your own heart. The problem is we have been told our whole lives to bury and hide our real heart from others. Today we learn about four things we need to excavate to have real relationship.

There are four stages we must go through to build a great friendship, romance, or business relationship. When we ignore these stages we find ourselves committed to relationships that are destructive. When we are aware of the stages we are empowered to create deep and lasting friendships.

This is a foundational series for Mosaic. Our goal is to be a place where people can grow in their relationships with God, themselves, and others. These four shapes are keys to ensuring that our relationships are on the right path. Part Four: Circles We live in an addictive society. There are so many parts of our lives that can take over and become unmanageable: drugs, food, sex, credit cards, work, and alcohol can all create havoc in our lives. In this talk we look at the root of addictive behaviors and ways we can create balance in our lives.

This is a foundational series for Mosaic. Our goal is to be a place where people can grow in their relationships with God, themselves, and others. These four shapes are keys to ensuring that our relationships are on the right path. Part Three: The Triange Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships where we really love someone and really care about them, and yet at the same time we're building up resentment against them. The Triangle helps us understand why this happens and how we can move back to a relationship where things don't feel so one-sided.

This is a foundational series for Mosaic. Our goal is to be a place where people can grow in their relationships with God, themselves, and others. These four shapes are keys to ensuring that our relationships are on the right path. Part Two: The Square The kinds of relationships that you are in have a huge impact on your health and happiness. In this talk we discover the four different kinds of relationship choices and how to spot the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationship choices.

This is a foundational series for Mosaic. Our goal is to be a place where people can grow in their relationships with God, themselves, and others. These four shapes are keys to ensuring that our relationships are on the right path. Part One: The Star Sometimes we struggle with the same problems year after year, while the Bible promises us transformed lives. Understanding how God gives his grace is the key to getting unstuck.

Unless we know what is wrong we will have a difficult time coming up with the solution. The biblical answer to this question can be surprising or challenging, but it is also the only answer that leads to peace and wholeness.

There are a lot of bad things that can happen to us in life, and many of them are out of our control. In the face of these bad things how can we have the kind of peace or serenity that Jesus promises? Part Four: One Day at a Time One thing that steals our peace is trying to live in the future. There are a couple of different ways that we do this, and both of them prevent us from being fully engaged with life today. In this talk we learn how to increase our serenity by focusing on the present.

There are a lot of bad things that can happen to us in life, and many of them are out of our control. In the face of these bad things how can we have the kind of peace or serenity that Jesus promises? Part Three: Facing out Fears The path to serenity involves changing the things that are within our power to change. But often in life our fear causes us to accept things that we have the power to change, and this impacts our lives and the lives of those around us. What do we do when we are stuck in our fear and can't seem to move forward?

There are a lot of bad things that can happen to us in life, and many of them are out of our control. In the face of these bad things how can we have the kind of peace or serenity that Jesus promises? Part Two: Learning to Let Go One of the biggest struggles we have with finding serenity in the midst of all the bad things that can and do happen to us is the fact that there is so much we cannot change. Greg talks about why we can get stuck here and what we can do about it.