Practically Kinky podcast

In this episode we discuss the why how and what of mummification and then we wrap it up by wrapping me up.

Well it has been two years since we sat down at the table and compared notes on poly. We figured it was high time to look back at where we've come from and take stock. Oh and I got into trouble for not having written my poly manual ... again.

Well ... It's been ten months since last we donned our podcasting pants. In this episode we talk about time and how managing it effectively is not dissimilar to stuffing one dozen lubricated marmots into a novelty-sized cowboy hat. We also talk about the struggles of settling into a new town and the unanticipated challenges of being kinky and poly in a busy and complicated world. But mostly the marmot thing.

Does balance of power have a place in a kinky relationship? In our opinion, yes. We talk about that a bit and decide that my new name is Maverick. 

Compliments! What makes for a good compliment? What should you desperately avoid? Pro podcasting tip: it's a good idea to hit record. 

Other World Kingdom. Yes it does (or at least did) exist and in this episode we chat with Super Toy about his experiences there. We also explore the idea that sometimes it's important to be adventurous and throw caution to the wind. 

In this episode we talk about how you can set up a feminization scene: activities you can do and headspaces you might find yourself in. 

In this episode we speak about "emotional labor" - the expectation that, generally speaking, women are frequently expected to be responsible for the emotional health of the relationship. If you are interested in reading the background article mentioned in the podcast, here it is: http://goo.gl/Fdg1Dw

If you are new to kink, how do you figure things out? How do you learn about what you want? How do you go about meeting people? We get this kind of question all the time, so in this podcast we have a quick chat about what to do and what not to do.

We chat about a typical day in our household: how we live out our power exchange, make poly work and generally get practical yet incredibly important stuff done - like breakfast. 

This episode is about male appearance and what dommes look for. We discuss physique, manner, etiquette, body language and even mansmetics.

Expectations, great or otherwise, form part of any relationship. In this episode we talk about the kinds of expectations you might encounter in a D/s relationships and offer some ideas on how to approach them.

Just a quick update on our big upcoming European vacation! To our British, French, Swiss and Dutch listeners - we'd love to meet you!

In this episode we raid our kink cabinet and tell you all about the weird and wonderful goodies that lurk inside. 

Continuing our trend of long, deep and meaningful conversations, this conversation between AlphaDomme, MissRose, Mistress Hilda and beta_boy is an in-depth look into the guiding principles we have established in making a kinky, polyamorous relationship work.

In episode 4 (three years ago now!) we published an episode called "The Big Talk". We were actually pretty uncomfortable about releasing it at the time, because we felt it revealed a lot of the kink and relationship issues we were struggling with. Then we realized that this is the whole point of hosting a podcast so we went ahead. It remains one of our most popular episodes.In episode 42 we decided it was high time to do a follow up episode which predictably enough we decided to title "The Bigger Talk". In it we take some time to pat ourselves on the back at how far we've come and we compare notes on the ways in which our relationship has shifted between episode 4 and now.I also decided to leave in the bit where we go and check on soup, because if we have learned anything, big moments are often made up of little ones. Also it was REALLY good soup.

Sometimes you just want to cozy up with your kinky friends and loved ones and spend a wholesome hour or two playing a board game. This is especially true when it's cold and wintry outside. In this episode (after I get zapped a few times) we talk about some of our favorite board games and why we love them.

What does it mean to take a risk? As kinksters, many of us engage in activities that carry some element of hazard, both physical and emotional. What is a sensible way to manage these risks?In this episode we have the pleasure of chatting with Regina-, one of our most active supporters and contributors. Thanks Regina for a great conversation!

In this episode we have a chat about polyamory. We start off with a conversation about the highlights so far, along with some of the more tricky challenges we've faced. We then turn to next steps and have an (at times weirdly heated) discussion about a poly personals ad we plan to put out on Fetlife, much of the debate centering on whether it's ok to be greedy. Spoilers alert: It is OK. Greed is good. Glad we settled that.

And we're back with our first episode of 2015! Thanks so much everyone for bearing with us. In this episode, AlphaDomme, Miss Rose and Beta Boy have a relaxed living room chat about entry level kink: what kinds of play you can do if you're starting out and a bit unsure of where to begin.

AlphaDomme and Betaboy discuss some listener feedback, shamelessly plug some of their stuffs and generally discuss the way their relationship works. If you haven't done so already, please subscribe to our podcast in Itunes or in any other RSS reader that floats your boat. You can find our Itunes feed here. 

We have a special announcement to make. The Men Submit podcast is leveling up! A name change is imminent and a number of new cool features are in the pipeline. And if all that isn’t excitement enough, betaboy gets his testicles repeatedly zapped with a dog collar.

Roles can be confusing in kink. You got your kajiras, your slaves, your tops, your bottoms, your pets, your toys your masters and mistresses and kinksters – to name but a few. In this episode we take a quick walk through the vast array of commonly used roles in the world of kink and offer our opinions on what they mean. If you are a newb to kink this episode is for you.

Men! This podcast is all about that moment of exasperation where women roll their eyes and utter the word “men” as though it were a swear word. It’s a sad fact that many men out there can behave like complete and total dicks when it comes to meeting women. This podcast episode casts a critical gaze over the vast array of dick moves men regularly perpetrate in the kink world. We explore the reasons behind, impact of and ways of avoiding said dickishness. This episode was recorded while we were drinking wine. It helped.

Today we interview Kristina, CEO of xdress.com, a business that sells beautiful lingerie for men. She explains the history of the company, what inspired the bold move to wanting to make men look pretty and she tells us some stories of acceptance and prejudice. Betaboy has been wearing xdress undies for a few weeks now and is a very happy camper. AlphaDomme has no complaints either, although imho she has spent a little bit too long marvelling at the pictures she received of gorgeous models in said attire. You have to check this stuff out. You’ll find it at http://www.xdress.com

In this episode we gab about stealth submission – or as AlphaDomme terms it, “stealth topping”. This is the idea that a submissive male can quietly sneak his submission into a vanilla relationship. We talk about why this tactic fails the great majority of the time and what better approaches a submissive guy can take if he desires to introduce power exchange into his relationship. Then our conversation takes a sharp left turn and shifts heavily into AlphaDomme’s and MissRose’s attitude toward penises, in their many and varied forms.

In this follow up scene, AlphaDomme, MissRose and BetaBoy play out the scene they had planned and then debrief on what it felt like. The recording quality is not brilliant (on account of the fact that it was recorded in a bedroom!) but you’ll hear a lot of screaming and laughing, which hopefully will make up for any technical deficiencies.

AlphaDomme, MissRose and BetaBoy get together to talk in detail about setting a scene. What do guys like? What do women like? How do you find a middle ground? Where does safety fit in? How do you find creative new ideas? All good questions to discuss but our plans are far more ambitious. We go on to plan an actual, bona fide scene and in part two you will hear how it all goes down. Enjoy!

Wanted. After addressing some listener feedback, in this episode we talk about our poly adventures, and AlphaDomme’s most recent efforts at finding another submissive male with whom to share a relationship.

The Punishment Experiment. This episode captures a Sunday afternoon living room conversation. This week AlphaDomme and I stumbled into an interesting (and at times emotionally challenging) discussion about the nature of punishment in a FLR. On Sunday we sat down and reflected on everything we had gone over and decided. We thought we would give listeners a window on that conversation. The take home message from this discussion, we feel, is that the relationship must always take precedence over kink.

In this episode we have the great pleasure of introducing Miss Rose, Betaboy’s new domme and AlphaDomme’s metamour. After Betaboy absolutely embarrasses himself gushing at how happy and lucky he feels to be recording a podcast with two mistresses in attendance we get down to the nitty gritty and talk about body worship: what it is, what makes it hot, how to do it and the mental spaces required to make it good. This is our first three way conversation and I think regular listeners will note the excitement as we tumble our way through this sexy discussion topic.

In this episode we talk about our favorite things, and spoilers: raindrops on roses do not get a mention. We also talk about a big change in our relationships status and offer some first impressions of our foray into female led polyamory.

First off in this episode we debrief (pun intended) on the Men Submit CFNM cocktail party. In short it was a riotously awesome success. Hurrah! Cock decoration and impact play for everyone. Then we spoke with Susan Wright of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom to get a sense of what they do and why they do it. Visit their website here.There are some great services you’ll find in the site. It is worth taking the time to explore everything they have to offer. One resource in particular that we direct our users to again and again is the Kink Aware Professionals Directory. The Kink Aware Professionals Directory is the most comprehensive online database of kink aware and kink friendly doctors, therapist, lawyers and other professionals. This is your go to resource if you are seeking professional help or representation and require a kink friendly and aware ear.

In this episode we talk with Eva Blake, a certified sexological body worker, about all things anal play. A lot of people out there (both ‘inserters’ and ‘insertees’) are drawn to anal play but find themselves a bit unsure of where to begin, what to expect and how to do it. In this podcast, Eva answers all these questions and then some. What positions work best? How to do it safely? What kinds of sensations can you expect? All shall be revealed. Eva was incredibly generous with her time and wisdom in this episode and we really want to thank her. Find her website here.

In this episode we share our impressions of KinkFest, an amazing few days of all things kink which we recently both attended in Portland. Guys, this event was ridiculously fun and enlightening and we recommend the hell out of it!

Shame! What is it good for? (Absolutely Nothing!)In this podcast we get the ball rolling by talking about Kinkfest, a big kink event coming up in Portland. We’re both really, really, really, really excited about this event. (Really). We talk through some of the events they have lined up and generally enthuse about the “infamous” parties in our near future.

This podcast is about how to write a post on a kink forum without the whole thing blowing up in your face. I know it sounds a bit negative, but a lot of people out there have been burnt by a negative reaction to a post submitted in an online forum like Fetlife, She Makes The Rules or even this site. Now don’t get us wrong – we think that the resources available to learn and talk about kink online are amazing and valuable. If you are new to kink (or even if you aren’t) one of the best ways to get the most out of life is to learn from other people and to get involved in communities of like minded people online.The thing is, to get the best result and to avoid big, nasty unpleasantness you need to do it right. Get it wrong and there’s a good chance you could find yourself on the explody end of a blog grenade of insults, criticism and general bad karma. Life’s too short for this kind of unpleasantness! In this podcast episode, AlphaDomme gives you the scoop on three things you can do to minimize your risk of a kaboom moment.

In this podcast we talk about the chaotic, kinky frenzied fun of playing with pervertibles. ‘What are these pervertemawatchits of which you speak?’ I hear you ask with jowl-wobbling indignation. It’s easy really. Pervertibles are pretty much anything. Glad I could clear that up for you! Pervertibles are, in essence, any household “thing” that has been repurposed (or perverted if you will) to be a kink toy. The beauty of kink is that you can get creative. Sure you can spend thousands of dollars at your local kink store purchasing everything that inserts, inflates and incapacitates … or you could just raid your kitchen drawers! That is what this podcast is all about: having fun with the stuff you have to hand.Show Notes

We really had fun recording this one! Four dominant ladies at different points along the sadism continuum agreed to sit down and record a frank and fearless discussion about sadism: how it works, how it looks and how it feels. The discussion was amazingly candid and revealed some fascinating variations and contrasts in what it means to have a sadistic streak. … We also met Gordon the Magnificent, but that’s too complicated to go into right now.Show Notes

Times they are a changin’. In this podcast we talk about the future of Men Submit. Some important changes are in the works, including a bigger focus on producing quality podcasts about a wide range of issues relating to female led relationships. We also give you some early information about a new partnership we are forming with a “sister site”, She Makes The Rules. Finally, we announce the launch of our brand spanking shiny and new book, “Finding Your submissive”, in the process revealing a deep rift in our admiration for the acting talents of Tony Danza. All this and more in episode eighteen of our illustrious podcast.

In episode 17 of the Men Submit podcast we touch on a somewhat contentious topic. We talk about play that is “forced”. That is to say, those activities that are based around a scene in which the submissive has no control. We talk about why this can be such a difficult topic to negotiate and come up with some ideas for how to traverse the murky waters.

In episode 16 of the Men Submit podcast, we explore fantasy - and in particular, kinky fantasies. Is it ok to have them? Is it important to have them? Are some fantasies right and some wrong? We talk about all these issues and along the way I stumble into asking a very dangerous question, but emerge miraculously unscathed (although the night is still young.) We also answer a question posed by one of our very active members, Domesticsub. In talking about fantasies AlphaDomme mentions a book. It’s called 101 Nights Of Great Sex, by Laura Corn, and it’s highly recommended.

In episode 15 of the Men Submit podcast, we (AlphaDomme, Subtlyhers and betaboy) get our heads together to gab about the Shangri La of kinky submissive experiences: subspace. Why are we all so obsessed with it? What does it feel like? How is it triggered? What delicious food analogies can we use to explore it? These and many more headscratchers will be dealt with in this podcast. Enjoy!

In this podcast we announce the release of our first book: Meeting Your Domme. The book is the product of lots of experiences, so in this book we delve into some of those by exploring our top ten kink dating disasters. Beta Boy’s shock revelation will cause you to fall off your chair and shake your head in complete disbelief (sarcasm). We also give a shout out to one of our all time favorite podcasts, Dan Savage’s Lovecast. We also talk a bit about our brand spanking new “Meeting People” feature in the Men Submit website, and how you can get started with it. Enjoy!

Welcome to Spank, the kinkiest Men Submit podcast to date! Yep, this is quite the change of pace from our very service-oriented housework series. Here, we cast down the dishmop and the broom in favor of implements of spanky torture. In Spank: the podcast, we wanted to do two things. In the first part, we run you through all the basic information you need to know before you pick up a paddle (or bend over while someone else picks up said paddle). Once we get the theory of spank covered, BetaBoy drops his pants and we get practical; VERY practical. AlphaDomme will provide you with a blow by blow account (literally) of what it feels like to deliver a spanking, and BetaBoy tries to coherently describe the experience, occasionally lapsing into bouts of begging and swearing. Essentially we’ve prepared a workshop type presentation, and we hope it is interesting and helpful.Two somewhat related warnings here. First, this podcast contains audio footage of an actual spanking. If this is not for you, then this is probably a good podcast to skip. Second, there’s a lot of spank induced swearing in this podcast. I apologize!Show Notes

Great Scott! This episode is entitled Back To The Furniture II. (See what I did there?) It revisits the issue of housework in a FLR. You get to hear if I managed to lift my game in the domestic sciences, and if I recovered from my public disgrace at being a sub par house hubby. In the second part of the episode we shift gear and talk about the Men Submit website and some changes in its …. Future. Again, see?