Sisters and Sonder: The Stories of Unheard

Grab the tissues again, and some icecream! In this final episode of our first season of Sisters & Sonder Sammee and Tori bring it back to where they started, with their great grandmother Norma. In this episode each sister shares about the day great grandma passed away, what that looked like for them and the grief that followed. Grief is a complicated emotion. Join the sisters in an episode of memories, tears and stories. Rest in peace Shorty 1902-2010. If you're interested here is a link to Norma's ObituaryAs always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

In this episode Sammee and Tori are joined by Sammee's friend Deanna tells us the rest of her complex, challenging story about childhood trauma. **Content/trigger warning this episode includes conversations and mentions of sexual abuse/assault, sexual trauma, childhood trauma, family induced trauma, and religious trauma. Please be advised and seek any help you might need.Some definitions:Cognitive Processing Therapy: CPT is a specific type of cognitive behavioral therapy that helps patients learn how to modify and challenge unhelpful beliefs related to the trauma.Sexual Trauma/Abuse: is unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent.Religious Trauma: Religious or spiritual trauma is a form of psychological abuse and brainwashing that inculcates the shameful message that we are sinful and must live in a constant state of penance and atonement to escape the ravages of hell and God's punishment.Gaslighting: is a form of emotional abuse that's seen in abusive relationships. It's the act of manipulating a person by forcing them to question their thoughts, memories, and the events occurring around them. A victim of gaslighting can be pushed so far that they question their own sanity.Generational Trauma: is a accumulation of neural network in the brain that are established by patterns in behavior and hormones. Trauma can be a very difficult thing to heal. The more engrained it becomes in family systems, the harder the chains are to break.Brene Brown's book I Thought It Was Just (Me But It Isn't)As always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

In this episode Sammee and Tori are joined by Sammee's friend Deanna who has a complex, challenging story to share about childhood trauma. **Content/trigger warning this episode includes conversations and mentions of sexual abuse/assault, sexual trauma, childhood trauma, family induced trauma, and religious trauma. Please be advised and seek any help you might need. Some definitions:Cognitive Processing Therapy: CPT is a specific type of cognitive behavioral therapy that helps patients learn how to modify and challenge unhelpful beliefs related to the trauma.Sexual Trauma/Abuse: is unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent.Religious Trauma: Religious or spiritual trauma is a form of psychological abuse and brainwashing that inculcates the shameful message that we are sinful and must live in a constant state of penance and atonement to escape the ravages of hell and God's punishment.Gaslighting: is a form of emotional abuse that's seen in abusive relationships. It's the act of manipulating a person by forcing them to question their thoughts, memories, and the events occurring around them. A victim of gaslighting can be pushed so far that they question their own sanity.Generational Trauma: is a accumulation of neural network in the brain that are established by patterns in behavior and hormones. Trauma can be a very difficult thing to heal. The more engrained it becomes in family systems, the harder the chains are to break.Brene Brown's book I Thought It Was Just (Me But It Isn't)As always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

In this episode Sammee and Tori discuss, well rant, about how it really felt being a Black person in March-June as Black Lives Matter erupted. They let it all out. Grab the tissues and hide little ears (adult language used throughout episode) as Sammee and Tori get raw and open. Special love, shoutout and thanks to Adrienne at Fempower Media who mentored us to start this podcast after awarding us a scholarship through her Amplify Melanated Voices Scholarship. Without her podcast consulting, this podcast would not have happened. Check her services and podcast out at https://www.fempowermedia.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/fempowermedia/.As always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

In this episode Sammee and Tori discuss the N word and how powerful and hurtful it truly is. Content warning, in the poem read during storytime with Sammee, the N word is said twice. There is also some adult language in this episode. Sistersandsonder.comPoem: The Last Time I Used the N Word by Tony GloegglerPocatello Highschool Retiring MascotAs always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/"Why fit in when you were born to stand out." Dr. Suess

Police brutality, especially toward Black and Brown bodies is an increasingly prominent problem and a difficult conversation to have but it continues to be an important one. In this episode we finish out or time discussing these issues with our grandpa. We are so grateful to have been able to have these conversations with him and look forward to many more. We hope this episode helps you start conversations, research and support for radical reimaging of our policing. To learn more visit the links below:No knock WarrantsBreonna Taylor911 communication challengesPolice current trainingPolice Brutality ReportsDomestic Violence As always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/"Why fit in when you were born to stand out."- Dr. Suesssistersandsonder.com

In this episode, Sammee and Tori got to sit down with their grandfather to discuss the Black Lives Matter Movement and how different his experience was as a White, older man in a small town in Idaho. He shares his past experiences watching other movements taking place as well as his current interactions and feelings towards today's movements. "Why fit in, when you were born to stand out" Dr. Suess www.sistersandsonder.comBooks Mentioned in intro:The Hate You Give- Angie ThomasWhite Fragility - Robin DiAngeloSo You Want to Talk About Race- Ijeoma OluoAvailable on Netflix:13thThe Hate You GiveTo learn more about: Black Lives MatterBreonna TaylorKent State ShootingMalcolm XMartin Luther King JrPocatello Idaho MarchBlack Owned BusinessDiverse Books for All AgesTolerance Education ResourceSilent March In SeattleContact you SenatorsAs always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

As misfits, many of us have experienced times of not belonging, not fitting in, and not feeling welcome. In this episode Tori shares an experience of this very thing, not belonging. Sit back and enjoy the story of belonging. "Why fit in, when you were born to stand out" Dr. Suess. https://www.sistersandsonder.com/As always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/Story read: Sneetches by Dr. Suess.

The feeling of loneliness is one that can be heavy. It can also be one of freedom. Join us as Sammee shares a story of loneliness during a time that no one wants to be lonely. We have all been there. "Why fit in, when you were born to stand out" Dr. Suesshttps://www.sistersandsonder.com/Poem: Bryant Park at Dusk by Geoffry BrockPhotographer mentioned: Humans of New YorkAs always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

Welcome to our first episode! In this episode we will explore the feeling of Sonder. The realization that each passerby is living a life as complex as your own. We will also share with you some of the inspiration for our podcast including our late great grandma who inspires us to this day. The feeling of Sonder is one that we may or may not have felt so far in our lives. We hope you can watch for it after listening. "Why fit in, when you were born to stand out" Dr. Suess. https://www.sistersandsonder.com/As always, while Tori is a professional, this podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you need help, please reach out through one of the resources below. You are worthy of healing.National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 https://www.nami.org/Homehttps://therapyforblackgirls.com/https://www.mentalhealth.gov/