Swapping Secrets Podcast

Send us a Text Message.Tune in for a relaxed and honest conversation with Shalom Desota (actor/comedian), who grew up in a cult and faced serious intellectual and emotional limits. She opens up about her journey to self-discovery, moving from a restrictive past to a more authentic, free life. In this episode, Shalom talks about her shift to nonmonogamy and how finding the Lifestyle community helped her reconnect with herself.Please note, that this episode contains explicit content, and listener discretion is advised.If you enjoy this episode, we'd love your support! Give us a like or a share—spreading these stories helps us all understand each other better. Remember, understanding is always better than judgment.Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Podcast Producer:Arnold Parker (@senpaimediagroup) Video Editor:Audio Editor:

Send us a Text Message.Tune in for a relaxed and honest conversation with Shalom Desota (actor/comedian), who grew up in a cult and faced serious intellectual and emotional limits. She opens up about her journey to self-discovery, moving from a restrictive past to a more authentic, free life. In this episode, Shalom talks about her shift to nonmonogamy and how finding the Lifestyle community helped her reconnect with herself. Please note, that this episode contains explicit content, and listener discretion is advised. If you enjoy this episode, we'd love your support! Give us a like or a share—spreading these stories helps us all understand each other better. Remember, understanding is always better than judgment.Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Podcast Producer:Arnold Parker (@senpaimediagroup) Video Editor:Athalia Jorden (@queen_athalia_)Audio Editor:Athalia Jorden (@queen_athalia_)

Send us a Text Message.Welcome to Episode 26 of Swapping Secrets! Today, we're hanging out with the amazing couple, Ree and JT. They're sharing their unique journey with us, touching on finding strength through submission after tough experiences, exploring bisexuality, and navigating cross-dressing and non monogamous relationships. It's going to be a deep and eye-opening conversation you won't want to miss.If you enjoy this episode, we'd love your support! Give us a like or a share—spreading these stories helps us all understand each other better. Remember, understanding is always better than judgment.Send us a Message!

Send us a Text Message.In this deeply personal and heartfelt episode, join us as we, open up about our journey through divorce. We delve into the struggles we faced, the stressful situations that tested our limits, and the moments that made us stronger. By sharing our story, we aim to shed light on the complexities of ending a marriage and the emotional rollercoaster that accompanies it.We get vulnerable with our audience, discussing not just the external challenges but also the internal battles. Our conversation covers the highs and lows, the breakthroughs and setbacks, and the lessons we learned along the way. We hope our story resonates with those going through similar experiences and provides a sense of connection and understanding.Disclaimer: This episode contains references to psychological and verbal abuse. Viewer discretion is advised. The material may be distressing for some individuals and is intended for mature audiences only. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please seek professional help or contact local support services.Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Podcast Producer:Arnold Parker (@senpaimediagroup) Video Editor:Arnold Parker (@senpaimediagroup)Audio Editor:Arnold Parker (@senpaimediagroup)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Send us a Text Message. In this electrifying episode, we dive deep into the spectrum of non-monogamy with our special guest David AKA "Spectrum", who opens up about his unique kinks and personal experiences. From ethical non-monogamy to polyamory and swinging, we explore the diverse world of open relationships. Tune in to discover how embracing non-traditional relationship dynamics can lead to fulfilling and adventurous connections. Don't miss out on this candid conversation filled with insights, trends, and real-life stories. Perfect for those curious about or practicing non-monogamy. Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Send us a Text Message.Join us in this enlightening episode as we unpack the complexities of mental health and its ripple effects on relationships. We'll dive into how conditions like anxiety, depression, and more can strain partnerships and why empathy and communication are #RelationshipGoals. With expert advice and real-life stories, learn how to cultivate a supportive and understanding bond. Tune in and discover the keys to thriving together through mental health challenges. #MentalHealthAwareness #CouplesTherapy #EmpathyInRelationshipsConnect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Send us a Text Message.In this podcast episode, we discuss the role of autonomy in our marriage and relationships. We openly share our experiences and reflect on how maintaining our individual identities and independence played a part in our decision to part ways. The conversation is heartfelt and candid, with insights on how balancing personal freedom and togetherness can be challenging. We offer our thoughts on what we've learned and how others might navigate similar situations, making it an honest and relatable discussion for anyone dealing with relationship changes.Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we're diving into the emotional rollercoaster of separation. Tune in as we explore how we're transforming our dynamic, embracing new relationships, and processing all the intense feelings that come with such a big change. It's a heartfelt journey of growth, love, and discovering what comes next. Don't miss it!Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Send us a Text Message.Divorce? Separation? You'll know when we do! In all seriousness, our choosing to "separate" (and this definition has already started to change and will change for us over time) is the result of us loving one another for who we are and who we intend to be. Non-monogamy has taught us much about our relationship, ourselves as individuals, and the lives we want to lead. One thing is for certain: Swapping Secrets, with both of us walking in stride with our same shared vision, and we're in it for the long haul. Thank you, Tiger and MiiMii, for sharing with us in this moment.Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

On this episode,  we welcome Tiger, owner/operator of Club Safe Word, a lifestyle club in San Diego that serves couples, single women, and single men, and MiiMii, aka Linguist of Love, to discuss their work together within Club Safe Word.  We discuss their origins into NM and sex work, how their business partnership came to be, and what they have learned growing Club Safe Word and working in the sex industry. In more personal news, Bryan and Athalia are making some big life changes. They always say NM ends relationships, is that true? Sign up for Club Safe Word!Attend a Consent Workshop with Linguist of Love!Connect with Tiger: @tigerwoocswConnect with MiiMii: @linguistofloveConnect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

We welcome Silvia Saige to the Swapping Secrets Podcast! Silvia Saige is a world-renowned adult film star, comedian, and host of the podcast, "Sexy Funny Raw." While there's often this assumption that sex workers are Non-Monogamous by default, is that really always the case? We also explore her decision to dive into sex work, dating as a sex worker and comedian, and so much more!Follow Silvia: @thesilviasaigeSubscribe to Sexy Funny Raw: YouTubeConnect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

We spent most of the first part of the episode focused on Fae's individual journey. In this episode, we dive into the origins of House of Black and all that went into its inception. Some challenges faced along the way, how she learned the importance of fostering community, and so much more!Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

We welcome back Goddess Fae Black to the Swapping Secrets Podcast! We venture deep into her early years and exposure to sex and kink, her journey to becoming a Pro Dominatrix, and a whole lot more! Interested in attending an event at House of Black? Sign up here!House of Black IG: @houseofblacksdGoddess Fae Black IG: @goddessfaeblackhobConnect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

We felt like we left some stones unturned in Episode 14 so we doubled back to talk more about our solo exploration and some of the new things that happened even in the short time since we last recorded.We've worked on being more cohesive as podcasters, but this episode is not one of ‘em! We weave in and out of so many topics. Hope you enjoy!Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Video Editor:Cristina Perez (@crisporras24) Audio Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

What a special episode this was! Olivia and Gage (@VistaWife, @magicgage) reached out to us early in our journey as content creators, and we were met with nothing but grace, and they imparted so much wisdom on us and continue to support us in our growth.We talk about how we got connected, how SwingHub came to life, and what it takes to grow to the heights they have in this Lifestyle niche on social media. Download SwingHub wherever you get your apps!Apple: SwingHub on the App StoreGoogle: SwingHub on the Google Play StoreFollow Olivia: @VistaWifeFollow Gage: @magicgageConnect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

One of the biggest issues that s*x workers face is consistently being dehumanized. We use this episode to explore what motivated us to explore s*x work (money isn't everything) and what we've learned throughout our journey.

“I was gonna record a podcast…”This week we decided to let loose have some fun. We *allegedly* took some ed*bles and had a blast! Bryan had his first rough night out at LS event. What sparked it? What did he and Athalia learn from that night? Bryan and Athalia feel like they've settled into NM but what does it look like for them now?Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

One of the more frustrating barriers preventing Non-Monogamy from being accepted in general society is all the misconceptions that are often associated with it. Athalia & Bryan take some time and delve into the what and the why behind these misconceptions and why it is important to highlight and debunk them at every turn.Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Sorry, we left you hanging but Mr.X has so much to give. Single men wanting to achieve success in not only the Lifestyle but maybe chart a better course in life, we have something special for you. Mr. X is one of the most kind, genuine souls we have ever come across and we're so thankful he took the time to share so much of his journey with us. Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Mr. X of House of Black joins us to discuss his journey as a single man who has achieved success in the Swinging Lifestyle. If you're a single man who feels like it has been hard to find your footing, this is the episode for you. How should you approach a couple? What insecurities do you need to work through? And the list goes on. Wait, what's that sound?Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Join Bryan & Athalia at House of Black as they sit down with Goddess Fae Black and her husband, The Devil Trey. There is no one way to practice or the way to start the journey of Non-Monogamy and this episode serves as a wonderful reminder of that.  Listen in as we discuss their NM journey (what happens when one partner has a lot of NM experience and the other does not), Fae's decision to integrate Trey in running House of Black, and so much more!Interested in attending an event at House of Black? Sign up here!House of Black IG: @houseofblacksdGoddess Fae Black IG: @goddessfaeblackhobConnect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

"Just hold on, we're going home (going home)"Bryan and Athalia hopped on a plane for this one! They ventured to Bryan's home state of Connecticut and got some of his long-time friends together to discuss all things love, dating, relationships, and of course, non-monogamy.  All of our guests happen to be musicians, and just like being non-monogamous can change relationship dynamics, what happens when love and creation collide? Find our guests:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Ray Francis (@rayfranciss)Medusa Jade (@medusajade)Versiah (@_versiahh)Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

When people tell you Non-Monogamy changes your life. They think you're primarily talking about your sex life. The reality for many is we were conditioned to be monogamous. So transitioning to Non-Monogamy comes with its challenges. But in going through those challenges, not only do you learn more about your partner, but so much about yourself as well.  In this episode, Bryan & Athalia explore how Non-Monogamy changed them as partners, friends, and even parents. Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

A lot of us don't find comfort in being alone. As Bryan & Athalia shifted towards a Non-Monogamous marriage, they also found themselves wanting to not only embrace their own individuality, but championing it for each other as well. Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

We've spent a lot of the first few episodes talking about a lot of firsts. First conversations, first research attempts, first connections, first lifestyle events, and everything in between. Spend time with us as Bryan & Athalia reminisce on all the other firsts that come to my mind. What was your first experience like? Tell us all about it:(657) 221-7143‬Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Once you've had that first conversation, now what? In this episode, we discuss how we approached the next steps, deprogramming Monogamous tendencies like possessiveness and jealousy. Athalia and Bryan wasted little time talking about how they accelerated toward turning their lifestyle fantasy into reality. After Bryan had a really good play party experience, he comes to the realization that holding back during playtime to protect another man's ego is making for less fun experiences, and it's something he is going to change moving forward. After a lot of talking about feelings, how do you find a club? Where do you find other couples or singles? Let's talk about the logistics of it all.  LPT: if you're gonna be faceless expect less interaction, and it will be important for you to put yourself out there to generate interest. Does size matter? Shout out our Swinger Senseis!  Our transition into the LS was made much smoother by connecting with these special people. Our first date with all of the fun details, including all of the juicy details from our first club experience. And much more!Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Welcome back to the Swapping Secrets Podcast!Today we start a new tradition and share our wins for the week. We believe it is important to practice gratitude, and it's something we want to share with you. Tag us with your win for the week! We also explore some commonly found dynamics in the NM community. For those in the NM community: would you consider someone with a rare hall pass dynamic Monogamous or NM? Let us know! We did get a little carried away in our first episode and felt it was important to talk about that first conversation that sparked this whole journey for us. We know that conversation can be not only challenging to bring up, but challenging to explore what it means for your relationship.  Listen in for some things we learned from our experience and what it taught us as we moved forward.More about Relationship Anarchy:https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a45467577/relationship-anarchy/Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the Swapping Secrets Podcast! We are Athalia & Bryan. At the beginning of this year, we transitioned to a Non-Monogamous (NM) marriage. Exploring NM, not only helped us reevaluate what was best for us as a married couple, but also what was best for us as individuals. The transition to NM does not come without its challenges, but that's what inspired this podcast in the first place! Our goal is to help demystify that transition, and the way we believe to best help you in your own journey is through providing access to information, both through what we have learned and continue to learn, through our shared experiences, and what we believe they have taught us along our journey. In Episode 1, we invite you into our world and share what we hope to achieve with this podcast and some things we've learned (or unlearned) about life and love during our transition. One of the smaller challenges in approaching NM is all the fun new words! To ensure we're on the same page, let's go over some basics found throughout NM and dive a little deeper into some standard terms and labels found in the Swinging community. In true new podcaster fashion, we get a little (maybe, more than a little) sidetracked as we explore early common pitfalls, the idea that people explore NM because one or both partners lack fulfillment, and how we empower each other in our exploration as individuals. Are a lot of Swingers more insecure than they realize? Athalia weighs in. The Great Civil War amongst the Lifestyle Community: Team Kissing vs. Team No Kissing! We eventually get back on track with our tour through some common terminology. Connect with us:Athalia(@queen_athalia_)Bryan (@seabaggin)Swapping Secrets (@swappingsecrets)For business inquiries: swappingsecretspod@gmail.comJoin our Discord Community!:Swapping Secrets Discord Want advice? Leave us a voicemail!:(657) 221-7143‬Editor:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)Original Music crafted by:Houston Clark (@houstonclarkmusic)