The Naked Love Podcast

Wise men say you shouldn't mix business with pleasure, but in this episode hosts Khafi Ekpata and Theo Manderson unpack this topic with special guests Heavilyn and David Melodee, a dynamic Christian couple shaping the sound of the UK music industry.

**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode discusses the impact of trauma with reference to anxiety, sexual abuse and death. If you are impacted by the themes of this conversation please contact Premier Lifeline a space for you to express your concerns and discuss your uncertainties. Open 9am to 5pm Monday to Friday (excluding public holidays) on 0300 111 0101. Join the hosts Khafi Ekpata and Theo Manderson and their special guest Victoria Dada, The Faith Therapist, as they talk about how to love and support your partner through a traumatic situation.

How do you keep the spark in a marriage after the sweet honeymoon phase has passed? Join the hosts Khafi Ekpata and Theo Manderson and their special guest Pastor Bimbo Fola-Alade from The Liberty Church in London as they discuss this topic.

In the book of Proverbs we read that "Death and Life are in the power of the tongue", with this in mind hosts Khafi Ekpata and Theo Manderson discuss with their special guest Ezekiel Azonwu how we can maintain healthy communication in our relationships.

Should Christians pray before they have sex? Join Khafi Ekpata and Theo Manderson as they tackle the hot topic of the sex liberation movement, offering a Christian perspective on what a healthy sex life looks like.

Do you think it's time for the Church to rethink they way they speak about modesty? Join Khafi Ekpata and Theo Manderson, alongside their special guest Breeny Lee as they strip down this huge topic.

In this last episode of Season 2 of The Naked Love Podcast, Theo and Khafi chat to worship leader and recording artist, Elle Limebear and her husband Tom Limebear as they let off steam, put down the nappies and unpack the first few months of parenthood with us. Why was intimacy harder post-birth? How do they plan to raise their son in the faith? And who fell asleep whilst they were meant to be looking after the baby?? 

Are you single? Are you fit and single? Are you fit, high flying and single? Are you fit, high flying, Jesus believing and STILL single?? Why?!? And crucially, does it matter? On this week's episode, Theo and Khafi are joined by Singlehood Coach, Dr Sara-Jayne McLeod, and Tola-Doll Fisher, Editor of Woman Alive magazine, and she's a single lady who would like some answers. Listen as the conversation get honest, frank and very encouraging. 

When you pray for a spouse, do you pray that they come with 2 kids, an ex, your ex's family and a former family dog? Possibly not. But this extra luggage is becoming more and more normal as the ‘nuclear family' becomes a thing of the past and the ‘blended family' becomes the reality of today. As Christians though, is this God's plan for our family unit? Settle down as we hear what happened when Afua met Rexford.

The 7th Commandment says “Thou shall not commit adultery”, so it must be a serious sin! But as we know, even God fearing people can fall into this trap. Adaeze Chiwoko, Founder of Marriage4Real, took her husband's phone and had just seconds to look for the evidence, which would confirm what she had been suspecting for a year! What did she find? And how has it made her marriage, now, stronger than ever? Theo & Khafi listen in awe, as her ‘dirty laundry' is now hung clean.

This week's guest not only has The Voice to turn chairs, but also the strength to turn her life around. Singing sensation, Michelle John, joins Theo and Khafi to talk about years of domestic abuse at the hands of her now ex-husband. But rather than speak with hate, she speaks with grace, love and redemption, for both herself AND her former abuser.   

Many couples on their wedding day say the traditional vow, that they will love their spouse ‘in sickness and in health' – But what do you do when your spouse falls terminally ill just a few years into your marriage? Ibim Tumini Banigo opens her heart to Theo and Khafi – She speaks so frankly about the pain of looking after her dying husband whilst pregnant, but also about the beauty that came out of the ashes.   

There is A LOT of ‘sex' talk in this episode! But it's refreshingly pure and practical. Best-selling Author and Blogger, Sheila Wray Gregoire, joins Theo & Khafi to pull off the duvet and expose the beauty behind sex and intimacy. But in doing so, she reveals a shocking statistic that affects many Christian women in the bedroom! If you're looking for tips, if you're looking for spice or if you're looking for advice, this is the episode for you! 

Is a footballer good at playing the game or better at playing the field, metaphorically speaking? The media like us to think that football and infidelity go hand in hand but one couple are bucking the trend. John Bostock, Founder of BallersInGod and Doncaster Rover's player, and his wife, Sia, open up to Theo & Khafi about settling young, an unsettled home life and the real reason John is still settled in the game.

Theo and Khafi are joined by Gospel Rapper, Faith Child and his fiancée Viviane, for an entertaining and brutally honest chat about chastity and how they are managing it as they prepare for marriage – Including a 4-way heated debate about women and their appearance.  Listen to feel inspired, shocked and entertained, regardless of whether you are a virgin or not. 

Sadly, birth doesn't always mean life. This Baby Loss Awareness Week, Theo and Khafi return with Season 2, inviting Zainab and Junior Omokhe to share the story of their daughter, Noa. How did their baby's death affect their family outlook, was intimacy more difficult and did their faith hold strong? It's time to lift the taboo, and hear the story that is unfortunately all too familiar for many.

Can a relationship survive without 100% trust? And once a mistake has been made, is it sensible to adopt the mantra, “once bitten twice shy”, or should we forgive “seventy times seven” as told by Jesus? This week Khafi and Theo share personal stories of things they have struggled with and the place of forgiveness within relationships. With input from Claire Musters and Steve Musters

They say that ‘love is blind', but what if your partner doesn't resemble the person that you first met - The weight has piled on, the wig keeps slipping and the legs are hairy! How much should appearance play a role within our relationships and is there a fine line between attraction and lust?? Khafi and Theo remove the mask as they discuss their ‘ideal' spouse…But has that ideal matched up to who they have married?! With input from Tim Senna

Should you hold hands with your boyfriend or girlfriend, or is that a slippery slope to physical temptation? How much of your marriage should you share with your friends? And can speaking about your future plans lead to ill intent from others? Khafi and Theo break down the boundaries to discuss how to maintain peace in all relationships. With input from Fiona Banes from Time for Marriage

WARNING…THE CONTENTS OF THIS EPISODE INCLUDE DISCUSSIONS OF AN ADULT NATURE   Christians, talking about sex toys?!...YES! This week, Theo and Khafi talk about their role within a marriage. Do they violate what the Bible says about sex, or is fun in the bedroom allowed? Here is a frank conversation you definitely won't hear from the pulpit!

God said to Adam and Eve, “Be fruitful and multiply”, but what does that mean for married couples in 2021? Should couples wait until ‘their house' is in order, or should they throw out the contraception and trust in God's providence? But what if the trust is there but the babies aren't coming?? Khafi and Theo discuss the ins and outs of conceiving and whether children are the ultimate gift.

Is it possible to be in a loving relationship and not know the ins and outs of your partner's bank account? “The love of money is the root of all evil”, so is it surprising that finances are one of the top reasons for relationship breakdown? Khafi and Theo share the pin to their thoughts, but do all transactions lie on the man's plate or is it time for the provider to start wearing the skirt?

To have and to hold…and buy gifts, and affirm, and spend time, and to help round the home! Apparently, love can be shown in 5 different ways, but what if your partner sees your loving gifts as a waste of money? Theo and Khafi explore the importance of showing love and even conclude what they think God's love language is!

As we mark the first anniversary of George Floyd's killing, in a year when the world has woken up to racism, Theo and Khafi discuss what Black Love means. The media have often tried to present a stereotype that Black fathers are absent and Black mothers are troubled, but can true, monogamous, fulfilling and prospering Black Love really exist?

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage…But is there more to intimacy than bringing forth children? And what if your spouse is too busy/tired/distracted [insert excuse here] to be intimate…Does it really matter? In this very frank episode, Theo and Khafi come together to spill the beans on a topic that many Christians are just too shy to approach.    WARNING: Includes conversations of an adult nature.

Marriage is something that many desire – But do you actually understand what it means to be married? Should wives submit? Are you really expected to wait to do the deed? And as Christians, what is better…To live separate lives when the marriage breaks down or to just divorce? In this first frank episode, hosts Theo Manderson and newlywed Khafi aka A Cup of Khafi, share their naked views and don't always see eye to eye – Welcome to marriage!

A brand new weekly podcast hosted by Khafi aka A Cup of Khafi and Theo Manderson. The PC filter has been turned off and the truth is being laid bare. It's time to hear about real love, not just the type that is presented from the pulpit…It's time for Naked Love.