Podcasts about Infidelity

        Why can't I believe anything my spouse says after infidelity—even when they may finally be telling the truth? After cheating, affairs, pornography, or repeated deception, your brain can learn that your spouse's words are no longer reliable evidence of reality.   In this episode of Marriage Redesigned, Lisa explains the neuroscience behind why betrayal can leave you questioning everything your spouse says. You'll learn why your brain begins scanning for deception, why reassurance alone doesn't rebuild trust, and why consistency, transparency, and changed behavior matter more than promises. We'll also look at what Scripture teaches about truth, trustworthiness, and recognizing change by its fruit—and the important difference between forgiving someone and automatically trusting them again. If you're struggling with betrayal trauma, hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, or wondering, “How will I ever know if my spouse is telling me the truth?” this episode will help you understand why you feel this way and what rebuilding trust can actually look like. Safety before intimacy. Truth before trust. :: NEXT STEPS WE ARE NOT CRAZY 7 PILLARS OF HEALING FROM BETRAYAL TRAUMA Join our Beauty Beyond Betrayal Sisterhood:   Healing from an affair: Heartbreak Recovery for Christian Women Email:   info@marriageredesigned.com WEBSITE:  www.marriageredesigned.com Got a question you want answered?  ASK HERE  

In this episode, we explore why mystery isn't something to eliminate from life — it may be the very thing that keeps us moving, connecting, hoping, and growing. Beginning with a two-year mystery involving peanut shells appearing outside a house, the conversation expands into relationships, neuroscience, detective stories, fear, curiosity, and the courage to enter the unknown.Topics include:Why humans are drawn to mysteries, whodunits, crosswords, and haunted housesThe psychology of curiosity and how uncertainty activates the brainWhy new relationships feel electric and emotionally aliveThe difference between healthy mystery and painful uncertaintyHow “let's find out” can become a philosophy for livingWhy certainty can sometimes lead to boredom, paralysis, or emotional deadnessReflections on rejection, risk-taking, creativity, science, and wonderThe idea that hope only exists when the future remains unwrittenMysteries(Listen) Mistletoe Murders: https://shorturl.at/qftcN(Read) Fresh Water For Flowers: https://shorturl.at/mcjtL(Watch) Chestnut Man: https://shorturl.at/R5qxKThrive With Leo Coaching: If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey.If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help:In the US: Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386Outside the US:International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

Send us Fan MailThe moment betrayal hits, your brain starts demanding a guarantee: which choice won't hurt as much, which choice your kids will “be fine” with, which choice you'll regret less. I slow that panic down and challenge the question underneath it, because “Should I stay married or get divorced?” often turns into a right-versus-wrong trap that keeps you frozen for months or years.We talk about why there may not be one objectively correct answer after infidelity, and why both staying and leaving can hold grief, uncertainty, and growth. I unpack the moral stories that get layered onto divorce especially in religious communities and how to separate morality from your preferences, values, and real-life consequences. This isn't about proving you're a good person. It's about deciding which life you're willing to help create next.I also break down why fence sitting feels safer but usually creates the most misery, and why you should give yourself time to calm your nervous system so you're not deciding from fight, flight, or freeze. You'll hear the exact questions I want you to ask when you're craving certainty, plus how to build self-trust so you can take the next step without needing a perfect forecast. If you're ready to get off the fence and move forward with clarity, subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review so more people can find support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

(Episode 348)  A betrayed partner who has a history of neglect, abuse, people-pleasing, or self-abandonment may find it especially difficult to identify and defend her own wants, needs, and boundaries after betrayal. She may feel compelled to logically justify every boundary, educate her addict partner about betrayal trauma, remind him to work recovery, and provide affection even when she does not genuinely feel safe or connected. But recovery requires a healthier division of responsibility. While the betrayed partner should communicate her unique experience and tell her partner what creates or destroys safety for her, she should not have to become his teacher, therapist, recovery coach, or primary source of motivation.For the addict, lasting recovery must progressively shift from being partner-driven to internally motivated. Fear of divorce, consequences, or a partner's anger may initially bring someone into recovery, but those external pressures are rarely enough to sustain long-term change. The recovering addict needs to develop his own reasons for becoming honest, emotionally mature, empathetic, and sexually healthy. Part of that responsibility includes proactively educating himself about betrayal trauma, integrity abuse, deception, relational safety, and the impact his behaviors have had on his partner. A betrayed partner can certainly share resources or explain what resonates with her, but inviting him to learn is very different from carrying responsibility for whether he actually learns and changes.This same principle applies to boundaries, affection, and sexuality. A betrayed partner does not need an airtight argument before she is allowed to say that something feels unsafe, nor is she obligated to provide physical affection simply because her partner wants it. If affection feels like self-betrayal, slowing down may actually benefit both partners by allowing the betrayed partner to reconnect with her authentic self and giving the addict an opportunity to examine whether his desire for affection is rooted in healthy connection or unhealthy codependency, reassurance-seeking, entitlement, or emotional regulation. Ultimately, healing becomes possible when each person takes ownership of what belongs to them: the betrayed partner discovers and expresses her authentic voice, boundaries, wants, and needs, while the addict takes responsibility for his recovery, education, empathy, and growth.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Is it My Job to Educate My Addict Partner about My Betrayal Trauma & My Boundaries?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Can a relationship survive infidelity? Yes, but surviving is a very low bar. Some relationships stay together after cheating but remain distrustful, resentful, or emotionally empty. Others genuinely rebuild into something healthier and stronger. And sometimes, leaving is absolutely the right decision. In this video, I break down what actually determines whether reconciliation is worth pursuing, including: • The difference between wanting to stay and being afraid to leave • How online horror stories can distort your view of reconciliation • The signs that your partner is genuinely changing • Why you cannot carry the entire reconciliation process yourself • What honesty, accountability, transparency, and consistency actually look like • Why the goal shouldn't be to get your “old relationship” back • The questions to ask before deciding whether rebuilding is worth it If you've been cheated on and you're struggling with the pain, obsessive thoughts, triggers, forgiveness, or simply figuring out what you actually want to do next, you can book a free call with me here:

How Do You Know If Your Unfaithful Partner Is Really Changing? --With Sam's Healing Podcast After infidelity, promises can sound reassuring—but how do you know whether your partner is actually changing? In this episode, Lora Cheadle talks with Sam from Sam's Healing Podcast about what real recovery looks like on the unfaithful side of betrayal. They explore why actions matter more than apologies, why the unfaithful partner needs to take initiative instead of waiting to be managed, and why becoming teachable, confrontable, and emotionally mature is essential for rebuilding trust. They also discuss communication tools like AVR—acknowledge, validate, reassure—along with self-regulation, co-regulation, childhood patterns, boundaries, and the difference between performing recovery and genuinely becoming someone new. Top 3 Takeaways Stop listening only to what they say. Watch what they do. Promises like “It will never happen again” have very little value if they are not backed by consistent behavior. Real change shows up between sessions: seeking help, reading, doing exercises, attending meetings when appropriate, learning new skills, telling the truth, following through, and taking initiative without being parented by the betrayed partner. The unfaithful partner goes first. The person who created the rupture has a responsibility to lead the repair. That means booking appointments, finding resources, doing the work, becoming teachable and open to correction, and learning how to respond to the betrayed partner's pain rather than becoming defensive or demanding that they “get over it.” Healing requires more than understanding why the affair happened. Childhood wounds and family-of-origin patterns matter, but insight alone does not automatically create empathy, emotional maturity, communication skills, or safety. Both partners eventually need to learn self-regulation and co-regulation, while the unfaithful partner demonstrates through consistent action that they are becoming someone capable of rebuilding trust. Favorite Quotes “Forget about what they're saying. Look at what they're doing.” —Sam “The only currency is action.” —Sam “There is a time where we as unfaithful stop saying what we will do. We just do it.” —Sam “You can't regulate yourself out of a toxic relationship.” —Lora Cheadle About Sam Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of Infidelity Recovery's most prominent and renowned influencers and YouTubers. For over 15 years Samuel has been one of the leading content generators for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create, and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and most recent project, Ask the Unfaithful Podcast, Samuel continues to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair.  You can catch Lora's interview on Sam's Healing Podcast Here: https://youtu.be/FzIx6yiCxw4?si=H23oDpoQu5-_KWET  LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.  Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. 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Can a relationship survive infidelity? It is possible, but recovery isn't as simple as forgiving a cheating partner, staying together, or deciding to walk away. In this episode, host Gabe Howard talks with licensed professional counselor Dr. Monique Thompson, author of The Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples, about what really happens to a relationship — and to a person's sense of self — after an affair. The conversation also examines what the partner who cheated can do to rebuild trust, why apologies and grand gestures aren't enough, how “living amends” can demonstrate meaningful change, and why past behavior doesn't necessarily guarantee future behavior. Listeners Will Learn: Why couples shouldn't rush to stay or leave Why betrayal can change how you remember the relationship What the partner who cheated can do to rebuild trust What forgiveness actually means after an affair How long infidelity recovery can take Whether you're trying to recover from infidelity, considering whether to stay, or struggling to understand what happened to your relationship, this conversation offers a compassionate look at healing after betrayal. Listen Now! Our guest, Dr. Monique Thompson, is a licensed professional counselor, EMDR-trained therapist, and trauma-informed life coach with over 20 years of experience in private practice. She specializes in betrayal trauma, infidelity recovery, depression, anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, and PTSD. Her work integrates neuroscience, body-based trauma approaches, attachment theory, and parts-based work to help clients restore internal stability, self-trust, and clarity after emotionally destabilizing experiences. Dr. Thompson is known for translating complex psychological science into practical, humane insights that resonate with both clinical and general audiences. She is the author of a bestselling workbook on infidelity recovery, The Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples and is frequently featured as a mental health expert on podcasts, radio, and community education platforms. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com.

Infidelity can shatter trust and leave people questioning their relationships and themselves. Galena Rhoades, PhD, discusses why people cheat; infidelity in the age of dating apps, social media and AI chatbots; what makes some betrayals harder to overcome than others; and how psychologists help individuals and couples begin to heal after an affair. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Glenn Hutchinson, a psychotherapist who developed the personality science behind the assessments used by Match.com, explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of infidelity: why people sometimes violate their own values without fully understanding how they arrived there. The conversation begins with a broader look at human behavior. Glenn explains that much of what drives our decisions happens outside conscious awareness. Using the familiar experience of driving on "autopilot," he argues that our unconscious mind is constantly shaping our judgments, emotions, and interactions long before we recognize it. As he puts it, "subjective experience is very deceiving," and "our behavior is more complicated. It comes from a deeper place than we realize." A central theme is how people interpret situations through mental categories rather than objective reality. Someone may believe they are "just being friendly" instead of crossing emotional boundaries, or see an affair as "a unique situation" rather than recognizing it for what it is. Glenn explains that these unconscious mental frameworks can influence behavior in powerful ways, even for people who genuinely see themselves as honest and faithful. The discussion also challenges the tendency to blame oneself after betrayal. Glenn explains that there is "no evidence" that a partner's infidelity means the betrayed person was lacking. He discusses several research-backed risk factors, including growing up aware of parental infidelity, having many sexual partners before marriage, and an anxious attachment style, while emphasizing that these are risk factors—not predictions—and that greater self-awareness and healthy boundaries matter far more. The conversation concludes with practical guidance for both preventing and recovering from infidelity. Glenn argues that no one is completely immune to temptation, making honest communication and emotional openness essential in long-term relationships. For those healing after betrayal, he advises avoiding rash decisions, finding a trusted person to talk to, and recognizing that recovery takes time. As he says, "The first thing you got to do is become aware of it." Lasting change begins by recognizing the unconscious assumptions that shape behavior and gradually aligning actions with personal values. Get Glenn's book, Unfaithful Minds, here: https://tinyurl.com/ybxtnrcs Claim your free gift: Free gift #1 McKinsey & BCG winning resume www.FIRMSconsulting.com/resumePDF Free gift #2 Breakthrough Decisions Guide with 25 AI Prompts www.FIRMSconsulting.com/decisions Free gift #3 Five Reasons Why People Ignore Somebody www.FIRMSconsulting.com/owntheroom Free gift #4 Access episode 1 from Build a Consulting Firm, Level 1 www.FIRMSconsulting.com/build Free gift #5 The Overall Approach used in well-managed strategy studies www.FIRMSconsulting.com/OverallApproach Free gift #6 Get a copy of Nine Leaders in Action, a book we co-authored with some of our clients: www.FIRMSconsulting.com/gift

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I have back on the program Melissa Macomber to explore the often-overlooked impact of parental infidelity on adult children. Melissa shares her personal journey of discovering her parents' affair as a teenager and how it shaped her into adulthood. Together, we discuss how secrecy, family roles, and betrayal affect trust, relationships, and self-expression later in life. Melissa also introduces her online program, Authenticity After Family Betrayal, offering hope and community to adult children still carrying this hidden pain. Her message is clear: healing is possible, and you are not alone.To learn more about Melissa and her online program, visit MelissaMacomber.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: The impact of parental infidelity on adult children.Personal experiences of discovering parental infidelity and its long-term effects.The reasons parents may choose to withhold information about infidelity from their children.Emotional and relational challenges faced by adult children of parents who have cheated.The role of secrecy and denial in family dynamics and its effects on trust.Common coping mechanisms and family roles adopted by children in response to infidelity.Differences in sibling reactions to parental infidelity and its impact on their relationships.The connection between childhood experiences of infidelity and adult relationship patterns.Strategies for adult children to establish healthy boundaries with their parents.Support programs and resources available for adult children dealing with the aftermath of parental betrayal.More Resources: Authenticity After Family Betrayal (online group starting September 8, 2026)How Keeping Secrets About Your Parent's Infidelity Stresses Your BrainMelissa's Research on Parent Infidelity and Its Effect on Adult ChildrenRelated Podcasts: Understanding the Impact of Parent's Infidelity on Adult ChildrenWhy Do We Cheat?----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.

Tracy speaks with therapist Lauren LaRusso, author of the new book "Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your Life." LaRusso shares her own chump street cred -- how discovering her (now ex) husband's affair changed her life and how she practices therapy today. Most of all, she focuses on new beginnings. How the awful catalyst of betrayal can lead to a much better life on the other side. 

In Episode 347, a betrayed partner who recently ended a three-year relationship asks whether her former partner can genuinely recover after more than two decades of compulsive pornography use, high-risk sexual behaviors, drug-fueled acting out, and extensive secrecy and deception. Her central concern is not merely whether he can stop acting out, but whether someone who has spent years lying, denying, withholding, and creating an alternate sexual reality can ever become trustworthy. We explain that sexual betrayal often creates a uniquely profound injury because it strikes at the intimate agreements upon which a romantic relationship is built. The sexual behaviors are devastating, but the lying, gaslighting, and “secret sexual basement” can fracture a partner's entire sense of reality, leaving her questioning not only him, but her own judgment, worth, memories, and ability to trust herself.   We believe genuine recovery is absolutely possible, even after decades of addiction, but recovery cannot be reduced to simply stopping pornography or other sexual behaviors. Sobriety is the starting point, not the finish line. True recovery requires the addict to address the larger patterns surrounding addiction—secrecy, emotional immaturity, shame, reactivity, avoidance, entitlement, and disconnection—and replace them with honesty, vulnerability, empathy, accountability, and proactive transparency. In cases involving extensive deception and major unknowns, rebuilding may require a professionally facilitated disclosure process, appropriate verification, daily transparency, consistent recovery work, and the addict taking the lead rather than forcing his partner to drag him through the process. Trust should therefore return gradually and in proportion to sustained evidence, not promises, apologies, or short periods of sobriety.   Finally, the fact that recovery and restored trust are possible does not mean every relationship should or will survive. Sometimes the accumulated damage is simply too great, and the betrayed partner must assess not only his capacity to change, but her own capacity, boundaries, needs, and willingness to participate in rebuilding something she did not destroy. She also does not need to remain in an unhealthy relationship because she fears he might someday recover and become a better partner for someone else. Love and desire alone are not enough; compatibility, capacity, emotional maturity, and consistent action all matter. The goal is not to recreate the pre-betrayal relationship, because that relationship can never simply be restored. The real question is whether both people can build something new—one grounded in truth, healthy boundaries, sustained recovery, safety, and authentic connectionFor a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   Can my Partner with 2 Decades of Porn Use & Years of Secrecy & Lying Genuinely Recover?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

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Send us Fan MailSilence can be louder than the affair itself. When cheating hits a family, kids often feel the shift long before they get any explanation and sometimes they find out through a phone, an iPad, or a rumor in the community. I sit down with Melissa Macomber, who coaches adult children whose parents had an affair, to talk about what that betrayal does to a child's nervous system, identity, and sense of safety, even decades later.We unpack the three common roles adult kids slip into after parental infidelity: the secret keeper, the emotional caretaker, and the mediator. We also get practical about boundaries, especially when a betrayed parent is understandably in pain but starts venting to their child. Melissa shares simple, clear ways adult children can protect themselves while still loving their parents, plus why “do-overs” and honest repair conversations can change everything.We also dig into the question so many parents wrestle with: should you tell the kids, when do you tell them, and how much is too much? We walk through age-appropriate honesty for little kids, teens, and adult children, and why it's almost always better for kids to hear a clean truth from you than to discover details online. If you're dealing with betrayal trauma, divorce after infidelity, or the long shadow of a parent's affair, you'll leave with language, perspective, and real hope that healing is possible.Subscribe for more honest conversations, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more families can find support. What part of this topic do you want us to go deeper on next? BIO: Melissa Macomber helps adult children navigate the emotional turmoil following a parent's infidelity and rebuild healthier relationships with their families. As a former therapist with 10 years of experience, Melissa's work is deeply informed by her own journey after discovering her mother's long-term affair. In her spare time, she is writing a memoir about her experience healing from parental infidelity.Find out more about Melissa's work, including Authenticity After Family Betrayal, her online support program for adult children coping with a parent's affair, on her website: melissamacomber.comPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

This week we're re-airing a conversation between Mike Cosper and Harrison Scott Key about marriage, community, and the gift of laughter in life's darkest moments. Key's latest book, How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Every Told, details his wife's infidelity and the couple's fight to save their relationship. Mike and Harrison talk about why it's better to be the comedic hero than the tragic hero, looking to the scriptures for real wisdom, and leaning on the church community in times of tragedy. REFERENCED IN THE SHOW: How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Every Told - Harrison Scott Key GO DEEPER WITH THE BULLETIN:  Join the conversation at our Substack.  Find us on YouTube.  Rate and review the show in your podcast app of choice.  ABOUT THE GUESTS: Harrison Scott Key is the author of How to Stay Married; Congratulations, Who Are You Again?; and The World's Largest Man. Harrison's humor and nonfiction have appeared in The Best American Travel Writing, Oxford American, Outside, and The New York Times. He is the winner of the Thurber Prize for American Humor.  ABOUT THE BULLETIN:  The Bulletin is a twice-weekly news analysis podcast from Christianity Today, with editor-at-large Russell Moore. Each episode offers commentary on current events and headlining news with a roundtable of premier guests, and shares a Christian perspective on issues that are shaping our world   The Bulletin listeners get 25% off CT. Go to https://orderct.com/THEBULLETIN to learn more.    “The Bulletin” is a production of Christianity Today Host: Alexa Copeland Associate Producer: Alexa Copeland Editing and Mix: Kevin Morris Graphic Design: Rick Szuecs Music: Dan Phelps  Executive Producer: Erik Petrik  Senior Producer: Matt Stevens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Betrayal by a loved one--especially sexual infidelity--can be one of the most traumatic events a person experiences. And if you've been betrayed by a romantic partner, you know firsthand how devastating the blow can be. In fact, those who are betrayed often find themselves drowning in a sea of endless questions, overwhelming anxiety, and doubt. Despite the trauma they've endured, the betrayed individual often feels pressured to accept a partner's apology, invest in the relationship, and move on. But what if true recovery requires--first and foremost--rebuilding of the self? Today, we're joined by a renowned betrayal trauma specialist and author, Beth Fischer, who is the creator of The Betrayal Trauma Healing Method and The Integrity Journey. Beth will guide us into the art of healing from the deep pain of betrayal.Topics discussed include sexual betrayal, emotional betrayal, financial betrayal, infidelity, loss, grief, pain, trauma, PTSD, shame, marriage, relationships, intimacy, trust, self-trust, nervous system, dysregulation, betrayer, betrayed, marriage therapy, relationship therapy, individual therapy, healing, divorce, and self-work.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Details: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). As applicable, additional resources may be provided in the show notes.Non-Emergency Online Mental Health Information: https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/and https://odphp.health.gov/myhealthfinder/healthy-living/mental-health-and-relationships IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: No expert is offering medical or psychological direction or advice; the content is purely informational in nature. Please consult your physician or healthcare provider before undertaking any new regimen or procedure.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr_carlamanly_imperfect_loveTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships Imperfect Love Relationship & Oracle Card Deck by Dr. Carla Manly:Etsy AmazonConnect with Beth Fischer:Website: https://www.healingwithbeth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/betrayaltraumahealingmethod/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@betrayaltraumahealingmethodFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Coach-Beth-Fischer/100088850988627/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healing.betrayal.traumaAdditional Resources:On the Other Side of Pain: Healing After Betrayal: A Gentle Trauma-Informed Guide to Truly Heal Betrayal Trauma and Rebuild Your Life After InfidelityLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to lose their hearing gradually while insisting they hear just fine? It turns out this isn't simply denial or stubbornness. The way hearing fades can fool the brain into believing everything is normal—often delaying treatment until significant hearing has already been lost. Listen as I explain what's really happening and why recognizing the signs isn't nearly as easy as you might think. Source: https://www.nidcd.nih.gov/health/age-related-hearing-loss Few things are more painful—or more confusing—than discovering a partner has been unfaithful. Why do people risk everything for an affair? Is it simply a lack of self-control, or is something much deeper happening beneath the surface? And if infidelity comes to light, is the relationship automatically doomed, or can couples actually recover? Glenn Hutchinson, a clinical psychologist and behavioral researcher, joins me to separate myth from science and reveal what decades of research tells us about why people cheat, what their behavior really means, and what happens next. He is author of the new book Unfaithful Minds: The Science and Psychology of Infidelity (https://amzn.to/3UedjS8). Why do smart, capable people forget appointments, lose their train of thought, make impulsive decisions, or struggle to stay focused—even when they know better? The answer lies in something called executive function, the remarkable system in your brain that quietly manages attention, planning, memory, emotional control, and decision-making. When it works well, life feels easier. When it doesn't, the consequences can show up everywhere. Adrian Owen, professor of cognitive neuroscience at the University of Western Ontario, explains how executive function shapes nearly everything you do—and, more importantly, what you can do to strengthen it. He is author of the new book Think Before You Think: Understanding and Mastering Executive Function (https://amzn.to/4fGvlFd). Why do so many projects seem to fly along at first... only to crawl painfully toward the finish line? Whether you're remodeling a house, writing a report, or tackling a long to-do list, there's a surprising psychological reason the last stretch often feels endless. Once you understand what's happening, you'll have a much better chance of finishing on time instead of wondering where all the extra time disappeared. Source: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/planning-fallacy PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS AIR DOCTOR: Head to ⁠https://AirDoctorPro.com⁠ and use promo code SYSK to get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers, including the 3500, 4000, and 5500 models. Plus, you'll receive a free 3year warranty, an $84 value, and AirDoctor's 30-day money back guarantee WAYFAIR: Ready to upgrade your home for way less? Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Wayfair.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less.  QUINCE: Elevate your everyday. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too! SHOPIFY: It's time to turn those "what ifs" into CHA CHING with Shopify Today! Sign up for your $1 per month trail and start selling today at ⁠https://Shopify.com/realm⁠ INDEED: Get a $75 Sponsored Job credit to help get your job the premium status it deserves at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Indeed.com/PODCAST⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as anger, or dismissed entirely. In this episode, Dr. Laney Knowlton joins us to look honestly at what betrayal trauma looks like for men.We talk about the support gap, look at the cultural messages men carry, and how those make healing challenging.Most importantly, we talk about what actually helps and what genuine healing looks like whether a man chooses to stay or leave. Dr. Laney Knowlton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor and clinical sexologist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology. She maintains a private practice, Knowlton Counseling with physical offices in TX and UT and is licensed across more than a dozen states. She specializes in sexual abuse, betrayal, and problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Knowlton is the author of Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (Routledge, 2025) and the developer of the Connected Recovery® framework. She currently serves as President of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH). KnowltonCounseling.com & ConnectedRecoveryTraining.comLaney@KnowltonCounseling.comlinktr.ee/connectedrecoveryFree Handouts Most Recent BookSASH podcast Other Resources in this Episode: Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionHelping Couples Heal From Infidelity and Find Love AgainThe Intimacy PyramidThe Betrayal ShrinkEnjoyed This Episode?Here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review

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How to Make Decisions After Infidelity When Every Choice Feels Wrong After betrayal, every decision can feel catastrophic. Stay or leave? Give more grace or set a harder boundary? Invest in support or save the money in case you need it later? When your brain is hyperalert, every possibility can begin to look like proof that one wrong choice will ruin your future. In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why hypervigilance can disguise itself as careful decision-making—and why self-trust does not mean making perfect choices. Through the story of rebuilding her home after a devastating sewer explosion, along with her own experiences of choosing beauty, pleasure, and higher standards, Lora shows how recovery shifts when you stop trying to recreate the old or justify every choice and begin creating a life that genuinely reflects who you are now. Top 3 Takeaways Hypervigilance can make every possibility look like catastrophe. After betrayal, your brain is trying to protect you from ever being blindsided again. That can turn thoughtful decision-making into endless analysis, freezing, catastrophizing, and searching for guarantees that do not exist. Self-trust is not making the perfect decision. Self-trust means knowing that you can choose, experience what happens, gather more information, ask for help, reassess, change direction, and choose again. A decision that does not turn out perfectly is not proof that there is something wrong with you. Recovery is not about rebuilding the old life. Whether you stay, leave, remodel your marriage, or create something entirely new, the deeper question is what you want your life to feel like now. Higher standards are not perfectionism. They are a willingness to value truth, emotional safety, beauty, pleasure, self-respect, and a life that feels fully yours. Favorite Quotes “Familiar does not mean it's automatically right. Cheap does not mean it's automatically the wisest decision. Practical does not automatically mean it's aligned with who you are and where you're going.” “Beauty and loving yourself and loving your surroundings…is evidence that you've come back to life.” “Your decisions do not have to be perfect. You just need to trust yourself enough to manage your life.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.  Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT  READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? 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What happens when the life you thought was secure suddenly falls apart? My friend Danna Demetre knows what it’s like to face deep betrayal and to discover God’s faithfulness right in the middle of it. We talk honestly about heartbreak, forgiveness, rebuilding trust, and what it means to anchor our identity in Christ when everything feels shaken. Danna also shares how her own painful experience inspired her debut novel, Beyond Betrayal, which she wrote in her 70s! This conversation is a beautiful reminder that God doesn’t waste our pain, forgiveness and trust aren’t the same thing, and you are never too old or too young to pursue the purpose God still has for you. Remember, I'd love to connect more on Instagram, where you'll find me at @donnaajones. And don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss a single episode! Xo, Donna Key Takeaways: 0:00:12 - Never Too Old to Pursue New Dreams 0:03:00 - Turning Personal Betrayal into Powerful Storytelling 0:07:08 - When Long Marriages Are Shattered by Infidelity 0:15:00 - Identity in Christ Amid Layered Midlife Crises 0:27:44 - Forgiveness vs. Trust: Two Very Different Journeys What We Talk About Why Danna decided to write her first novel in her 70s How her personal experience with marital betrayal inspired Beyond Betrayal What happens to our identity when someone we love rejects us Learning to depend on Jesus when the outcome we desperately want isn’t guaranteed Giving yourself permission to grieve while continuing to live with purpose The difference between forgiveness, reconciliation, and trust Why reconciliation requires two willing people Recognizing the spiritual battle without avoiding personal responsibility Why guilt can lead us toward repentance while shame keeps us stuck How friendship, journaling, prayer, and Scripture can help us process pain The reminder that God still loves us even in our deepest brokenness Why age should never keep us from pursuing a new dream or calling Forgiveness, Trust, and Reconciliation Are Three Different Things Forgiveness: I release the offense rather than living in bitterness, resentment, or constant scorekeeping. Trust: Trust is not automatically restored because forgiveness has been given. Trust must be rebuilt through consistent actions over time. Reconciliation: A restored relationship requires two people. I can do what God asks of me, but I cannot control another person’s choices. Danna’s reminder is so important: forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending something didn’t hurt. It doesn’t mean forgetting, immediately trusting again, or skipping the grieving process. It means releasing the offense to God while allowing Him to guide what comes next. Donna’s Resources: Order a copy of my latest book - Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: A Biblical Guide to Communicating Thoughts, Feelings, and Opinions with Grace, Truth, and Zero Regret. It is available anywhere books are sold– here is the link on Amazon. If you need a helpful resource for someone exploring faith and Christianity or simply want to strengthen your own knowledge, you’ll want a copy of my book, Seek: A Woman’s Guide to Meeting God. It’s a must for seekers, new believers, and those who want to deepen their faith. Connect with Danna: Lean Healthy Ageless: https://leanhealthyageless.com/ Danna’s Book: Beyond Betrayal: A Story of Heartbreak, Healing, and Redeeming Love: https://ageless-woman-store.com/collections/books/products/beyond-betrayal-autographed-copy-bookmark Let’s Connect: Instagram: @donnaajones Website: www.donnajones.org Donna’s speaking schedule: https://donnajones.org/events/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

What if feeling trapped isn't about having a bad life—but about having a life that leaves no room for you? Using Odysseus and The Odyssey, I explore the idea that sometimes we can have love, security, success, and comfort while still feeling profoundly disconnected from ourselves.Why Odysseus rejects Calypso's version of paradiseHow your greatest strengths can become sources of sufferingThe difference between wanting your life to end and wanting your current life to changeWhy boredom, burnout, and entrapment can be signs of lost agencyHow asking “Where do I get to be myself?” can become a first step toward finding a way forwardThrive With Leo Coaching: If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey.If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help:In the US: Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386Outside the US:International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.Gambling Addiction: 1-800-GAMBLER

Send us Fan MailBetrayal can make you doubt more than your partner. It can make you doubt your own instincts, your memories, your body, and even your identity. I'm Jen, and today I'm naming a pattern I see all the time in infidelity recovery and divorce healing: imposter syndrome after betrayal. That quiet fear that you're not enough, that you missed something obvious, or that you're somehow a fraud because your marriage looked “fine” from the outside. We unpack what imposter syndrome really is, why social media and comparison fuel it, and how cheating creates the perfect storm for self-doubt. I share the apples and oranges truth that stops the affair-partner comparison spiral, plus a simple way to separate the facts of betrayal from the painful story we add on top. We also talk about why you don't have to believe what a lying spouse says about you, and why proving your worth is a trap especially if you're considering reconciliation. You'll leave with practical journaling prompts and new thoughts to keep in your back pocket, along with a stronger focus on rebuilding self-trust, regulating your nervous system, and choosing boundaries that protect your healing. If you're ready to move from “What's wrong with me?” to “What do I need now?”, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find this support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are? 

In Episode 346, a betrayed partner wonders whether her husband can genuinely recover from pornography addiction when he admits that lying, hiding, gaslighting, and hurting her are wrong but still insists that pornography itself is not “bad.” While we believe there are very substantial reasons to view pornography as harmful, we also believe that turning recovery into a debate about morality can actually become a distraction. An addict can endlessly argue research, compare himself to others, minimize consequences, or find someone willing to validate his position. The more important distinction is between compliance and conversion. Compliance says, “I will stop because my wife, therapist, church, or circumstances require me to.” Conversion says, “I am beginning to understand that this behavior is fundamentally incompatible with the person I want to become.” External motivation may get someone through the recovery door, but lasting change requires the motivation to eventually become internal.The deeper examination involves asking what pornography has actually trained within the individual. Repeated pornography use can condition the mind toward objectification, scanning, comparing, novelty, entitlement, immediate gratification, fantasy, and consumption. Healthy relational sexuality, by contrast, requires presence, patience, mutuality, vulnerability, emotional connection, and the ability to tolerate another person's needs and boundaries. We discovered in our own recovery that pornography was often a counterfeit substitute for the real connection we desperately wanted but did not know how to create. And these patterns do not necessarily remain isolated to sexuality. A consumer mindset can spill into marriage, family, friendships, business, and everyday relationships, where people subtly become means to our own emotional or relational ends. The critical question therefore becomes: Does this behavior increase my capacity for authentic connection, or does it train me further into escape and disconnection?Finally, an addict who strongly insists that pornography is not wrong may need to ask whether that is truly his deepest conviction—or whether the argument is protecting something he still does not want to surrender. Pornography may have functioned for years as comfort, stimulation, emotional anesthesia, escape, control, or self-soothing, and giving it up can feel frightening. Underneath the intellectual debate may be a much more vulnerable truth: I still want this, or I don't know how to cope without it. That is where meaningful recovery can begin. The betrayed partner cannot argue or research her husband into transformation; she can establish boundaries, protect her own healing, and watch whether his recovery increasingly becomes authentic and internally motivated. Ultimately, true recovery occurs when the addict moves beyond “I won't use porn because it hurts my partner” toward “I don't want to live this way because it moves me away from honesty, connection, integrity, self-mastery, and the man I genuinely want to become.”For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   If He Doesn't Think Porn Is Bad, Can He Still Truly Recover?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

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After betrayal, every decision can feel catastrophic. Stay or leave? Give more grace or set a harder boundary? Invest in support or save the money in case you need it later? When your brain is hyperalert, every possibility can begin to look like proof that one wrong choice will ruin your future. In this episode, Lora Cheadle explores why hypervigilance can disguise itself as careful decision-making—and why self-trust does not mean making perfect choices. Through the story of rebuilding her home after a devastating sewer explosion, along with her own experiences of choosing beauty, pleasure, and higher standards, Lora shows how recovery shifts when you stop trying to recreate the old or justify every choice and begin creating a life that genuinely reflects who you are now. Top 3 Takeaways 1. Hypervigilance can make every possibility look like catastrophe. After betrayal, your brain is trying to protect you from ever being blindsided again. That can turn thoughtful decision-making into endless analysis, freezing, catastrophizing, and searching for guarantees that do not exist. 2. Self-trust is not making the perfect decision. Self-trust means knowing that you can choose, experience what happens, gather more information, ask for help, reassess, change direction, and choose again. A decision that does not turn out perfectly is not proof that there is something wrong with you. 3. Recovery is not about rebuilding the old life. Whether you stay, leave, remodel your marriage, or create something entirely new, the deeper question is what you want your life to feel like now. Higher standards are not perfectionism. They are a willingness to value truth, emotional safety, beauty, pleasure, self-respect, and a life that feels fully yours. Favorite Quotes “Familiar does not mean it's automatically right. Cheap does not mean it's automatically the wisest decision. Practical does not automatically mean it's aligned with who you are and where you're going.” “Beauty and loving yourself and loving your surroundings…is evidence that you've come back to life.” “Your decisions do not have to be perfect. You just need to trust yourself enough to manage your life.” About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign. Resources & Links  Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com  Book your $97 Introductory Session: https://introductorysession.com  Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Healing after betrayal often requires more than insight alone. Therapy can provide additional support, stabilization, and guidance as you navigate the emotional impact of infidelity and betrayal trauma. BetterHelp listeners receive 10% off their first month: www.betterhelp.com/FLAUNT LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future Download Now ➜ www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com (MAKE THIS A BUTTON) You deserve more than survival. You deserve sovereignty, peace, and joy.   Books By Lora • International Book Award, Finalist Motivational Self-Help 2021 • Tattered Cover Bestseller 2019 Are you tired of living a life dictated by others? If you've felt trapped by expectations and long o be free, FLAUNT! is the key to unlocking who you are, expressing yourself authentically, and choreographing your life your way.   Reclaim yourself with this transformative guide that empowers you to strip away societal expectations and reveal your smart, sexy, and spiritual self. Through a unique blend of humor, wisdom, and actionable steps, you can uncover your deepest desires and build the confidence to live a life full of passion and purpose. Buy Now on Amazon, or wherever books are sold. It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, is the essential guide for burnout and betrayal relief. Packed with insight and practical tools, this book is a must-have for individuals, teams, and leaders alike. Available on Amazon. Learn more at www.itsnotburnoutitsbetrayal.com Hashtags: #BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalTrauma #HealingAfterInfidelity #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticHealing #EmotionalHealing #LoraCheadle #TraumaRecovery

Philosopher Stefan Molyneux talks with the husband first and the wife second in this couples call-in show, where a man's drinking, porn, and near-cheating trace straight back to his dad's scam prison time and the family's cover-up of it all. He pushes both partners to drop the denial, get sober, own the damage, and put the kids first before the cycle repeats.JOIN ME IN NASHVILLE SEPTEMBER 12! https://wordwardebate.com/Use code STEFAN for 10% off!GET FREEDOMAIN MERCH! https://shop.freedomain.com/SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/FREEDOMAIN2026

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The 4 Phases of Betrayal Recovery, Part 2: Are You Ready to Move On—or Waiting for a Perfect Solution? Sometimes you truly need more information, more time, or more nervous system regulation before you can make a decision. But sometimes “I don't know what to do” means something deeper: you know more than you are ready to admit, you do not like your options, or you are waiting for a perfect solution that does not exist. In Part Two of this guided coaching series, Lora Cheadle walks you through the Stages of Change and helps you identify how ready you really are to move forward. You will explore the difference between needing more information and postponing action, why uncertainty feels unsafe, how fear of making the wrong choice keeps you frozen, and what it means to become the protagonist in your own life. Top 3 Takeaways Not knowing and not liking your options are not the same thing. Sometimes you genuinely need more information, legal advice, financial clarity, time, or evidence of sustained change. Other times, you already know what is true but are not ready to face what that truth may require. Readiness can be supported, even when it cannot be forced. The Stages of Change—precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance—help you identify where you are without shame. Instead of asking what is wrong with you, ask what would help you become more ready. The perfect solution does not exist. Every meaningful choice contains uncertainty, consequences, gains, and losses. The goal is not to find the option with no downside. It is to make the most honest, self-honoring choice available and trust yourself to respond as new information emerges. Favorite Quotes “Sometimes you're not stuck because you lack options. You're stuck because none of the available options are perfect.” “Maturity is not finding the option with no downside. It's deciding which truth, which consequence, and which responsibility you are willing to live with.” LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing. Get your free downloadable guide on the “The Top Three Ways You Betray Yourself Every Day, and How to Stop” at www.burnoutorbetrayal.com. https://workplace-burnout.com/the-top-3-ways-you-betray-yourself-every-day-and-how-to-stop/ If you're ready to Rise Up & Reign as the creator and queen of your life, let's talk. I will walk by your side and give you the perspective, permission, and wisdom needed to turn your betrayal experience into something constructive, empowering, and transformative in all the right ways.  Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal. After uncovering her husband's 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy. A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Get the support you need to find your footing, begin making sense of it all, and feel better fast. As an attorney, betrayal recovery expert, and survivor of infidelity I can help you find the clarity and confidence to create a life that you love on the other side of betrayal. Book Your Session Here: https://calendly.com/loras-schedule/coaching-session Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT  READY TO START A BETTER CHAPTER? Step into the future you've always dreamed of with the power of transformative rituals with the Mindful Subscription Box. Get a monthly box full of crystals, aromatherapy, and other spiritual tools worth $120. You deserve high-quality gems, crystals, oils, and mindfulness tools for self-care that truly work. It's a monthly dose of self-love delivered right to your door! Go to www.Mindfulsouls.com  and use Discount Code LORA25 for 25% off your order!

Makenna Gibbons became part of one of Utah's most public scandals when the “Mormon swinging” story exploded online in 2022. Behind the viral headlines, Makenna was simultaneously dealing with infidelity, divorce, motherhood, public scrutiny, and the collapse of the life she knew.In this episode, Makenna sits down with Jimmy to tell her side of the story and, more importantly, share what happened after the headlines faded. She talks about the boundaries she wishes she had protected, how group dynamics and alcohol contributed to decisions she regrets, the painful process of rebuilding her identity, and what years of therapy taught her about accountability without shame.Makenna also opens up about rebuilding a healthy co-parenting relationship with her ex-husband, getting remarried, learning to trust herself again, and why she believes even the darkest seasons eventually end.This conversation is ultimately about what happens when your worst mistakes become public—and how you rebuild a life you're proud of afterward.Follow Makenna Gibbons: IG

In today's r/relationship story, a 17-year-old says he saw his girlfriend's older sister - who's engaged - making out with a completely different man at his workplace/ Now he's stuck wondering if he should tell the fiancé and risk blowing up the entire family... or stay quiet and pretend he never saw anything. But what he decides to do next might ruin more than just one relationship...0:00 Intro0:20 Story 15:14 Story 1 Update 19:49 Story 1 Update 215:20 Story 1 Update 321:01 Story 222:16 Story 2 Update 125:48 Story 2 Update 2 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Finding out your spouse had an affair is one of the most devastating things a person can go through. After almost 20 years in family law, here's the hard truth I have to sit down and tell those clients: the affair itself probably won't change your divorce. But how you react to it can change everything.In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I'm joined by CoilLaw attorney Savannah Lawrence to talk about affairs, betrayal, and what actually happens when infidelity meets family court. This one is close to my heart, because the gap between the emotional damage of betrayal and what the law will actually do about it is one of the hardest things we have to explain to a client.Here's what most people don't realize. Utah is a no-fault state, which means the divorce is almost always granted on irreconcilable differences no matter who did what. Infidelity can matter in a very narrow set of circumstances, and I actually argued a case on exactly this in front of the Utah Supreme Court, but the scope is tiny and it only touches alimony. For the vast majority of people, the painful reality is that cheating will not hand you the win you're looking for. There is no justice or revenge waiting for you in divorce court, and chasing it usually costs you more than it ever gives back.Savannah and I get into when an affair genuinely does affect a case, like when the cheating spouse spent marital money on the affair or when it directly impacts the kids, and why even those are harder to prove than people expect. We talk about the myth that your ex is hiding piles of money somewhere, and why that rabbit hole almost always costs far more than it recovers.Then we get to the part that matters most: how betrayal makes people quietly sabotage their own case. The furious text message. The social media post. Following your ex to prove the affair, which crosses into stalking and harassment faster than people think. The blow-up that becomes a domestic violence charge or a protective order. Betrayal rarely destroys your case. Your reaction to it can. We share real, practical advice for staying out of that trap, including how to keep your communication clean, why revenge is a word I stop my clients from ever using, and how to keep your kids completely out of the middle of it.If you're living through this right now, please hear the most important thing we say. Let yourself grieve, lean on your people, and get a good therapist. But keep your emotional healing separate from your legal strategy, because they don't move at the same speed, and the calmer you stay, the stronger you come out the other side.⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/

In episode 345, a couple is facing the enormous aftermath of pornography addiction, sexual betrayal, deception, failed disclosure, and trickle truth. The husband reports that he is now 18 months sober, has become rigorously honest and transparent, participates in therapy and 12-step recovery, and is working to sit with his wife's pain without defensiveness. Yet his wife's trauma remains intense. She has maintained a boundary of no physical contact for approximately 18 months, frequently expresses disgust and anger toward him, and periodically insists that she wants a divorce while demanding that he be the one to file. The critical reality is that his recovery does not erase the impact of his past choices. Sobriety, honesty, and improved behavior matter tremendously, but they cannot dictate the pace of her healing or guarantee that she will ultimately want reconciliation.At the same time, understanding the source of a betrayed partner's anger does not mean that every form of communication should continue indefinitely. If the marriage is going to have a genuine chance, patterns of contempt, humiliation, name-calling, aggression, defensiveness, and retaliation must progressively give way to healthier communication and individual accountability. The husband must continue owning the tremendous harm he caused while recognizing that his job is to create the best possible environment for his wife's healing—not to control or perform that healing for her. Likewise, although she did not cause the betrayal or deserve its consequences, she is ultimately the only person who can pursue her own healing, recover her voice and agency, and determine what she authentically wants. Both partners need to move away from “I did this because you did that” and toward taking responsibility for how each chooses to show up now.The deeper question is therefore not simply whether he should file for divorce because she tells him to. He can authentically say that he does not want a divorce, respects her right to choose one, and still wants to give the marriage an opportunity to heal. But neither partner should remain indefinitely trapped in a painful holding pattern. With professional support, they need to identify what reconciliation would actually require, what each person's deepest wants and needs are, whether those needs are compatible, and whether both genuinely want to undertake the work necessary to build a fundamentally different relationship. If both choose reconciliation, the long-term goal must be a return to true partnership rather than a permanent dynamic of offender and victim, guilty spouse and judge. If one or both ultimately determine that reconciliation is no longer possible, healing must continue individually so that both can move toward lives of greater honesty, wholeness, safety, and peace.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   My Addiction Shattered My Wife; She Wants a Divorce, but I Don't. Now What?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

When a boss's email, meeting request, or tone of feedback feels disproportionately intense, it may not be about the present moment alone. For many people, workplace dynamics can quietly reactivate older emotional patterns tied to childhood experiences of criticism, invisibility, powerlessness, or conditional approval. This episode explores how that happens—and how to recognize when the nervous system is responding to the past, not just the job.In this episode:Why authority figures at work can unconsciously resemble early caregiversHow simple workplace feedback can trigger shame, fear, or collapseThe role of childhood experiences in shaping adult stress responsesWhy “professionalism” can sometimes override emotional self-protectionHow to tell the difference between present-day feedback and old emotional memoryWhat it means to stay grounded when the body reacts before the mind can interpretThrive With Leo Coaching: If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey.If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help:In the US: Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386Outside the US:International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

Every failing of faith is infidelity! Forgiven, but infidelity nevertheless!

Claire saw her new boyfriend's brother with a woman that's not his wife. Should she tell her new guy or let the secret simmer? Jason, Colleen, Holly, and listener give Claire advice so she can FIX HER LIFE!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Harry went from a sexless marriage full of infidelity to pegging, BDSM, couple swaps and more and he called in to talk all about it. Tune in to hear all the details including when he married his first wife and what was going down in their bedroom before he realized she was cheating, how he caught her cheating and exactly where she was hooking up with the other guy, how and why his ex-wife wound up having a nervous breakdown, why he stayed and tried to save the marriage, how he eventually started cheating on multiple women over many years, the much younger woman he fell for and eventually left his wife for, how they got into pegging and how that led him to explore his attraction to men, the free pass she gave him to hook up with guys, the first bi couple they hooked up with and exactly what went down, their first full couple swap and why they both loved it, how they recently got into CBT (cock and ball torture), tease and denial, chastity play, how and why they recently joined a. new nudist swinger community plus a whole lot more. GET A COPY OF THE STRICTLY ANONYMOUS BOOK! Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers. A bunch of short, super sexy, TRUE stories. GET YOUR COPY HERE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/4i7hBCd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  or Pre-order audiobook version ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   To see HOT pics of my female guests + hear anonymous confessions + get all the episodes early and AD FREE, join my Patreon! It's only $7 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and when you join, I'll throw in a complimentary link to my private Discord! To join SDC and get a FREE Trial! click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sdc.com/?ref=37712⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to SDC.com and use my code 37712 Want to be on the show? Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠strictlyanonymouspodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and click on "Be on the Show." Want to confess while remaining anonymous? Call the CONFESSIONS hotline at 347-420-3579. All voices are changed.   Sponsors:  ⁠https://TakeLean.com⁠ - 20% off + FREE rush shipping on Lean weighloss  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bluechew.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Buy 2 months of Bluechew GOLD and get the third month FREE! Use code: STRICTLYANON⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://VB.HEALTH⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- To get 10% off DRIVE BOOST by VB Health, use code: STRICTLY  ⁠https://Motorbunny.com/Strictly⁠ - For $50 off your whole order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beduc.at/pd2626-anonymous⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Click here to take the quiz and  get your personalized SUMMER roadmap to sexual happiness Follow me! Instagram  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ X  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Everything else: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Top Ten from 2025: #1 Maximizing Sexual Connection as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner (Episode 252)   *DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults   Ephesians 5:21 (NIV) Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.   *Transcription of original episode* Maximizing Sexual Connection as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner (Episode 252)   Questions and Topics We Cover: What are a couple of your most important tips for newlyweds? What are your favorite recommendations to share with couples who want to be proactive and enhance their sexual intimacy, even if things are currently going pretty well? Will you define what constitutes a sexless marriage and share  any trends you've seen over the years?   Thank You to Our Sponsor: The Sue Neihouser Team   Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner are best known for their pioneer work in encouraging people of all faiths to connect their sexuality with their belief system ─ helping them embrace sex as good and of God. Dr. Clifford is a licensed clinical psychologist and Joyce is a registered nurse and clinical nurse specialist. They are highly respected authors and speakers, in addition to being parents and grandparents.    Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner's Website   At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.    Books By Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner: Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex Restoring the Pleasure The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment Sex FAQ We Didn't Have Time to Cover Today Information on Pelvic Pain   Previous Savvy Sauce Episodes with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner Maximizing Sexual Intimacy During the Three Most Challenging Phases of Marriage with Christian Sex Therapist Pioneers, Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner   Additional Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Hope For Treating Pelvic Pain with Tracey LeGrand Treatment for Sexual Issues with Certified Sex Therapist, Emma Schmidt Talking With Your Kids About Sex with Brian and Alison Sutter Natural Aphrodisiacs with Christian Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau Healthy Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, and Parenting Children with Autism with Counselor, Lauren Dack Pain and Joy in Sexual Intimacy with Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Identifying and Fighting Human Trafficking with Dr. Jeff Waibel Bridging the Gap Between Military and Civilian Families with Licensed Professional Counselor, Coauthor, Podcaster, and 2015 Military Spouse of the Year, Corie Weathers Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma Enjoying Parenting and Managing Conversations About Sex with Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen Conflict Resolution, Infidelity, and Infertility with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese Hormones and Body Image with Certified Sex Therapist, Vickie George Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery Female Orgasm with Sue Goldstein Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and Treatments Available with Dr. Irwin Goldstein Turn Ons, Turn Offs, and Savoring Sex in Marriage with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Desire Discrepancy in Marriage with Dr. Michael Sytsma Answering Listener's Questions About Sex with Kelli Willard Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Healthy Minds, Marriages, and Sex Lives with Drs. Scott and Melissa Symington Female Pornography Addiction and Meaningful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day Building Lasting Relationships with Clarence and Brenda Shuler Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand Pornography Healing for Spouses with Geremy Keeton Sexual Sin Recovery for You and Your Spouse (Part Two) Personal Development and Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Sibylle Georgianna Our Brain's Role in Sexual Intimacy with Angie Landry Discovering God's Design for Romance with Sharon Jaynes Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas Sex Series: God's Design and Warnings for Sex: An Interview with Mike Novotny Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler Sex Series Orgasmic Potential, Pleasure, and Friendship: An Interview with Bonny Burns  Sex Series: Sex Series: Healthy Self, Healthy Sex: An Interview with Gaye Christmus Sex Series: Higher Sexual Desire Wife: An Interview with J Parker Sex Series: Six Pillars of Intimacy with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo 215 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part One with Dr. Kris Christiansen 216 Enriching Women's Sexual Function, Part Two with Dr. Kris Christiansen 217 Tween/Teen Females: How to Navigate Changes during Puberty with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 222 Pornography: Protecting Children and Personal Healing, Victory, and Recovery in Christ with Sam Black Special Patreon Release: Holy Sex: An Interview with Dr. Juli Slattery Special Patreon Release: His Desires and Her Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen 224 Surprising Discoveries of Sex in Marriage: An Interview with Shaunti Feldhahn 227 Resolving Conflict in Marriage with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo Patreon 28 Re-Release: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 23 Her Desires and His Desires in the Bedroom with Dr. Jennifer Konzen Patreon 26 Holy Sex with Dr. Juli Slattery Patreon 28 Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Patreon 29 Remaining Sexually Engaged Through The Years with Dr. Michael Sytsma Patreon 49: Story of Healing from Sexual Betrayal in Marriage: An Interview with Bonny Burns Patreon 52 God, Sex, and Your Marriage with Dr. Juli Slattery   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast.   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

When intrusive thoughts feel like a war zone, the goal isn't to defeat every thought—it's to establish a ceasefire. Just as peace agreements are more likely to hold when neutral third parties monitor them, our mental peace is more sustainable when therapists, friends, journals, or mindfulness practices help us observe thoughts without escalating them.Key Takeaways: Intrusive thoughts can feel like repeated violations of an internal ceasefire.A neutral third party helps monitor, interpret, and de-escalate mental conflict.Therapists, trusted friends, journaling, and meditation can serve as peacekeepers.The goal is not to eliminate thoughts, but to prevent them from triggering emotional retaliation.Healing comes from creating distance between the thought and the response.Thrive With Leo Coaching: If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey.If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help:In the US: Crisis Text Line: Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 or 988The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386Outside the US:International Association for Suicide Prevention lists a number of suicide hotlines by country. Click here to find them.

Belle Burden was, by her own account, the good girl. Quiet, compliant, the kid who wrote her own book report and did her homework on Friday afternoons. Then one night in the second week of the 2020 lockdown, a stranger left a voicemail: your husband is having an affair with my wife. By 6 a.m. her 20-year marriage was over, and the life she thought she could count on stopped making sense. In her memoir of the event and its aftermath, Strangers, Belle traces how she got to this place - and how she found her way back. They get into the stuff we all carry: why "being good" can quietly cost you yourself, how kids notice far more than we give them credit for, and why it's never too late to tell them the truth. Dr. Becky wrote up her thoughts on how to get the "good girl" tendency out of your own emotional driver seat. * Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: Girl Scouts: If you have a daughter in kindergarten through 12th grade, visit girlscouts.org to learn more LMNT: Get a free gift with your purchase at drinkLMNT.com/goodinside Pampers Easy Ups: Start your potty training journey with Peppa Pig Pampers Easy Ups Little Spoon: Get 50% off your first order at littlespoon.com/rattled with code RATTLED Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.