What Would Love Do?

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about Receivership. Welcome to Season 2 of What Would Love Do. I thought I'd start the season off with this quick audio I recorded while waiting in the car while Brooklyn was napping :)

Why choose to live from Love over Fear? "Between stimulus and response - there is space. In that space is our power. To choose our response. In our response, lies our growth and our freedom." Viktor Frankl When we choose Love, we choose growth, we choose freedom, and we choose to honour the light that's within us. If we truly believe we are spiritual beings, having a human experience - we wouldn't choose Fear. Love is the access to connect to our spirit - and allow spirit to guide us. Our true-self is joy. Our true-self is light. When we live from this place - how can life not be magnificent?! It doesn't mean that there won't be challenges or pain - it just means that we choose to see that life is working for us. Each challenge and pain is an opportunity to deepen our understanding of the powerful energy of Love.

When we experience suffering - we have a choice. To expand, or contract. When we meet Fear, with Fear - the Fear expands. When we meet Fear, with Love, the Fear dissolves. Truth is this - people who are hurting, hurt other people. And yes, people can do bad things, and mean things - and we have a choice on how to see it. Blame, judgement, condemnation keeps us trapped. That's fear meeting fear. What if we choose compassion? Empathy?... What if we could see this circumstance as a reminder to take charge of our mind and take responsibility for the wounds that live within us? Fear is seeking Love. Let go of blame. There is no liberation to be found. Freedom is not found in Fear… Only Love Liberates. ---------------- Books mentioned: - Jordan B Peterson's: "12 Rules of Life"

The quality of your life is based on the quality of your questions. We don't know what we don't know. There are beliefs that live within the shadows of our minds - these beliefs create an invisible cage in which we live in. They can disrupt our relationships, they can hijack our experience of life, and they hold us back from being the master of our fate, and the captain of our soul. How do we shine a light on these beliefs? How can we bring these beliefs out from the dark shadows? The key is asking powerful questions in the moments that we are tested.

Our capacity to be accepting, forgiving, and learn from our mistakes impacts our courage - our courage to love, our courage to take risks, our courage to expand, our courage to live authentically. . Sometimes we make choices that are less than ideal. We falter. We dig a deep hole for ourselves... we hurt others. Yes, these situations suck. However, these situations are a reflection of the choices we have made in a moment in time - and they do not define our character. The failures, the mistakes do not define us. . Yes, you may have to have some tough conversations to ask for forgiveness.. and yes the people you hurt may not forgive you until they're ready - and it starts with you forgiving yourself. It starts with you letting go of your own condemnation and judgement. . When we know better, we can do better. And to know better means that we will make mistakes along the way! . The fear of making mistakes is debilitating. It kills us slowly. It holds is back. It seduces us into second guessing ourselves and not being ourselves up. It suppresses our deepest desires for fear of disappointment. . If you suffer from the habit of indecision, wanting to control everything, perfectionism, a lack of clarity - The fear of making mistakes is running the show.

When we are at our worst - that is when we need to feel loved the most. If our partner or child is at their worst - it is in these moments that they need to feel loved the most. Do we show up with love or is our love conditional?

In this episode - I reflect on 2018 and share with you my year in review and some of the reflection questions I would ask myself. The questions are listed below: Year in Review - 1. On a scale of 1 - 10; how courageous was I showing up in my life? 2. How did I live from Love? 3. In what moments did I live from Fear? 4. What challenges do I want more of? 5. Would those closest to me, experience being loved? 6. Review the different area's of life - from the perspective of Love and Fear Health & Fitness Intellectual Emotional Character Spiritual Love Relationships Parenting Social Career Financial Quality of Life Life Vision

It's not often you meet a man that says; "I use my heart as a compass". Guy Lawrence - an entrepreneur, teacher, coach, and podcast host. He founded 180 Nutrition - a successful health and wellness company and at the same time was the host of an extremely successful podcast that accompanied the business - and then one day he let it all go. He used his heart as a compass. I wanted to have this conversation with Guy as I find it extraordinary that he wears his heart on his sleeve and he uses his heart to guide the way. Guy shares his journey of transformation from being a plumber and tradie who is seeking purpose to a successful entrepreneur that built a multi-million dollar business - letting it go and then starting again. Because the heart said it was time to let go. AMAZING! Guy Lawrence - Let it In Academy: https://www.letitin.com.au/academy1 Guy Lawrence Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/the-guy-lawrence-podcast/id1350278772?mt=2

There is always something to be grateful for. Gratitude is this amazing energy and force that can transform the experience of lack and not enough to abundance and expansion. When we bring gratitude to loving another, we show-up in our relationships with courage, generosity and unconditional love.

Gina Yallamas is an Urban Shaman and Strategic Life Coach. She is the founder of "The Nature of Healing"; specialising in Quantum Healing. She is a "channel" for healing. In this episode we have a conversation on the expansive energy of Love - and how Love heals all. Gina Yallamas - The Nature of Healing: https://www.thenatureofhealing.org

Perfectionism is borne from Fear. The fear of not being enough, the fear of being unworthy, the fear of being unlovable.

When we know better, we do better. Parenting is transformational and is a healing process. Before we become parents, have we done the deep thinking into what needs forgiveness and acceptance in our past?

What would life look like if we could stop surrendering to fear or anxiety and start surrendering more to love or trust? - How would we show-up? What would our relationship to our life feel like? Why Love? Why should we invest our time and energy into understanding this energy called Love?

I use to think "Regret" was a dirty word. A word when spoken meant you were holding onto the past and you couldn't move on. In listening to an interview with Brene Brown on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday, my relationship to the word "Regret" transformed. If we value a growth mindset, we have to be willing to let go of beliefs that no longer served us. We have to be willing to unlearn what we have learnt. With Brene Brown's definition of Regret, I unlearnt my relationship to Regret. Regret can now be seen as a teacher. It shows us when we have acted being guided by Fear.

The fear of disappointment can be the thing that hinders us from showing up, from giving everything everything... and the thing that robs us of having a remarkable and magical rendezvous with life. We can choose to think that life is working for us, or life is working against us. We fear the experience of disappointment. We fear the experience of not knowing how to deal with heartbreak or being able to expand and keep our heart open when something doesn't work out the way we want it to be... however these fears haven't even been realised and these outcomes are just thoughts - and yet, we buy into these thoughts as though they are reality. We rob ourselves of joy and of experiencing the magic of life.

What is the reality of a fish that lives in a fish bowl? We are each our own fish in our own fish bowl - what does it take to be an observer of our life?

What if there was no Plan B? When we choose to live from a space of Love, we are present. We show up fully engaged. Our mind isn't thinking "if this doesn't work, we have a fall back plan". When we live from a place of Plan B, Plan C.. we are living from a place of fear. We are fearful of failure and the achievement of an outcome - so we create conditions to minimise our experience of disappointment and anguish. However, what if there is no Plan B? What would life be like if we lived with no back-up plan - and we show up with faith, love, and focus?... and trust that the outcome is perfect for our evolution and growth?

Bringing awareness to how we created our model of Love is the opportunity of transformation. We created a model on what Love is, what Love is, and how to Love based on our observations and our experiences as a child. When we can bring awareness to this, we have a choice to change the narrative and meaning of Love.

Being divorced was a blessing - it was my wake-up call to bring awareness to my unconscious beliefs and take responsibility for how I show-up in relationships. In this episode, I share 9 things I learnt from my divorce and how the transformation of my thinking contributes to crafting a magical and loving relationship.

Throw away the checklist. It is never about the other person, who they are, what they have, and who they are for us. What if the real work is about looking at ourselves? What if the real work in being able to craft a magical relationship is centred around understanding and being grateful on who we get to become, who we get to show up as, and being humbled by the joy of loving another?

Judgement says more about us than the other person. We judge when we are in fear. We also judge what we don't understand - and we take things personally, when we forget our wholeness. In understanding judgement, we can let go of the grip judgement creates in causing separation.

How to know where we have allowed our heart to harden. Look at our failures. Bring attention to where we feel separate, defensive, and attached to our beliefs.

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Our very first guest! This is a conversation about loss, love, and healing. “Samantha Bun - Writer, Poet, Pole Dancer!” “- Maybe we're just stars colliding, that's why people come and go” I love this heart to heart conversation with Sam. Sam lost her love to cancer. In this conversation Sam shares her journey of grief, of healing, and of her journey of healing through self-expression - Writing, Poetry, and Pole-Dancing!

Brene Brown, the author of Daring Greatly states that vulnerability is pivotal to connection, a sense of belonging, and being able to live wholeheartedly. In this episode, I explore "Why vulnerability?" - and explore an empowering context of vulnerability and what it makes available. In being able to allow ourselves to meet the emotions and feelings we run away from, by allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we are no longer bounded and trapped by these emotions and feelings - and this is needed if we want to feel seen, heard, and know that we matter. The experience of connection and belonging, is directly correlated to our capacity to be vulnerable. To allow another to really see us, know us, and love us - we need to confront the emotions and feelings that we are afraid off.

This episode has been inspired by a listener and friend. D says; “There are a few things around love I'd love explored. One is, how do you keep the love going when you've been together a long time… like 20 years!… and the is how do you explore love as you both get older and your values might shift” In this episode we explore how we can expand love during these times in a relationship; and how to choose to see it through the eyes of love.

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