Deviant Discussions

It's the final episode of Season Three! We're talking body parts. What are the body parts that turn you on? Do you have a specific fetish? Have you struggled with a partner's body part fetish?

The team talk about the negative experiences - Injuries, emotional tolls, violated agreements, abuse. It's important to know how to overcome the truly negative experiences within kink and BDSM - not just the comical experiences.

What is CNC? What is it not? How can the topic of wanting to do CNC be broached? Why should you do it (if you want to), and what should you be mindful of with this risky kink activity?

What is a trigger? Why do we have them? Do they follow a set format? What can you do if you've triggered your partner? What can you do if you realize you've been unexpectedly triggered?

We talk about the importance of discussing sexual health with potential partners, STD/STI testing, and the statistics of sexually transmitted infections and diseases. Recommended listening: In My Blood by Shawn Mendes

Subspace, Domspace, Topspace, Bottomspace... What are each of these spaces? How does one reach it? Is it a good thing? What if you don't reach it? How does it feel? Is it different for different people? Learn more about the headspaces of kink. Recommended listening: Rocketman by Taron Egerton

Believe it or not, kinksters feel shame about their kinks, even without being directly shamed for it. We talk about our struggles, the things that help deal with feelings of shame or inadequacy related to our kinks, and ask why we shame ourselves for things that come naturally.  Recommended listening: Ashamed by Jamestown Story

Lots of things are risky in kinky play: STDs, Rope/Implements, Safe words, etc. What do you need to be mindful of in general, and what steps should you take if you don't feel safe? Recommended listening: Safety Dance by Men Without Hats

Part of our "What's It Like Being..?" series, the team explore what it's means being submissive: How it feels, the pros and cons, and why it fulfills a part of us nothing else can. Recommended listening: Happiness In Slavery by Nine Inch Nails.

There's a big difference between being Dominant and being Domineering. A bully does not make a Dom. So what are some of the things you should look out for as red flags and warning signs? Recommended Listening: Mean by Taylor Swift

In the last episode of Season Two, the team discuss the kind of kinky events out there and what their personal experiences have been - including behaviour, etiquette, and a few surprises along the way! Recommended listening: One Time by Justin Bieber. Deviant Discussions will return in October 2021

Anal sex, figging, rimming, and all manner of other fun goes into anal play. As part of our seasonal Fetish feature, the team talk about nothing but butt in the penultimate season two episode. Recommended listening: Relax by Frankie Goes To Hollywood.

Have you experienced kink shaming? We have. And we're not afraid to talk about it. It's a prevalent issue in the kink world, and one that shouldn't even exist. Kinksters might say your kink is not my kink (and that's OK), but do we really practice what we preach? Recommended listening: Shame On You by Gun

Curious about DDlg and the plethora of Caregiver/little dynamics? As part of our What's It Like Being series, the team interview GlassGirl about how she interacts as a little, what it means, what misconceptions there are, and how to best explore DDlg and CG/l dynamics. Recommended listening: Forever Young by Alphaville

Are you out and proud as a kinkster? The team discuss what to expect if you're planning on coming out, and ideas on how to do it. Is it safer to be out than outed? Recommended listening: I Want To Break Free by Queen

What's the difference between 'hurt' and 'harm' in BDSM and kink? With so many kinky activities designed to hurt, where is the line between consensual kink and malice? This week, the team talk about their experiences of kinky hurt and dangerous harm, and why it's so important to understand the difference - what's the difference to you? Recommended listening: Hurt by Nine Inch Nails

One of the common activities in BDSM is spanking. It's almost universal. Getting down with impact play - specifically spanking - the team discuss what makes ass, clit, and tit spanking a thing, how it feels, and why they like (or vehemently dislike) it. Recommended listening: Smack My Bitch Up by The Prodigy

Nobody likes boring bedroom antics - How do you spice things up? How did you arrive at the kinky front door, or knock on someone else's? The Deviant Discussions team cover asparagus watersports, jiggle boob dances, backhanders during blowjobs, and roleplay. Recommended listening: Spice Up Your Life by Spice Girls.

Nobody talks about what happens after the end of a dynamic. If aftercare is important following a scene, why isn't it more important after a relationship? The Deviant Discussions team talk about how their kink identity has been challenged by break-ups and the grief of lost dynamics. Recommended listening: In The End by Linkin Park.

Teddy bears, ladles, and trailer hitches - oh my! With so many opportunities to pervert everyday objects, will kink ever become the norm? The new team of Deviant Discussions talk about kink in the media, corrupting vanillas, and what everyday utensils they've turned into perverted kinky toys. Recommended listening: Preaching To The Perverted by Pop Will Eat Itself.

Old Relationship Energy, New Relationship Energy, leniency, cheating... The challenges faced in long-term kink and BDSM dynamics aren't all that different to a vanilla relationship, so the kinksters talk about their experiences and how they face difficulties.

What is Discipline in the world of BDSM? What does it mean to us? Why do people like it? What's it used for? Some dynamics rely heavily on discipline; other kinky dynamics don't involve it at all - Is it all punishment, or can it be funishment?

What kind of toys do you like to include in your kinky play? This episode explores our favorite kinky toys and tools that make for a fun time; paddles, floggers, canes, crops, whips, you name it!

Part of the ‘What's It Like To Be…' series, this episode focuses on bisexuality in and out of BDSM. The kinksters discuss the trials and tribulations of their sexual identity in today's society, as well as involvement with varied sexualities and genders in relationships.

Safewords are a key component of BDSM dynamics - How do you know when, or how, to let your partner know enough is enough? Is there ever a time when a safeword is a gesture? Are there dynamics without a safeword?

We all have one or two stories that are too funny not to share, right? In this episode, we cover off what nobody ever warns you about with the distinctly unsexy side of kink. If there's one message to take away from this podcast - it's that s**t happens!

The team discuss some of the ins and outs of what being poly does and doesn't mean, how to deal with the issues of jealousy that can arise, as well as some of the other key terms often linked to poly.

It's a common jibe in the kink community about "twueism", but what is it, and where does it come from? Is there really such a thing as a 'true' way to do kink? In this episode, the team discuss their understanding and experience of how they each do what they do, and whether that makes it any more or less valid than how anybody else might do it.

In this episode, the crew discuss some of the preconceptions and misconceptions that surround the world of D/s, especially in the media. How much is fictional fantasy, and how much is real? We try and address what to expect in dynamics, and what is unrealistic.

What makes kinky sex kinky? Is there a difference between normal sex and not-so-normal sex? In this episode, we discuss what makes sex particularly kinky for us, and whether kink has to be sexual at all.