Everyday Bliss For The Modern Woman

Sometimes, we're just moving too fast for our desires to be able to actually reach us. What if more slowness, spaciousness, and stillness were the answer to the question of why they're not here yet? What if your willingness to go deeper inside yourself than you've ever gone before was the direct route to the destination you're rushing to get to? What if less really was the more in this case? Less effort, less striving, less improving, less reaching, less leaving the “now” to become what you believe you're not already.

Sometimes, it's only when we completely let go of all the should's, the pressure, the have to's, and the resistance to a certain experience that there's actually enough space for our authentic desire to arise once again… But, THIS time, from a much deeper and more embodied place. It's here that you can begin to feel the stirrings of that direct line back to the clarity of inspiration that feels even more delicious, more turned-on AND that, this time, is sooo much more compelling that you can't help but move in that direction…

It's possible that, where you are right now, is feeling really hard to accept, because … It doesn't match your expectations for where you thought you'd be or your desires for where you wish you were. And, what I want to offer is a gentle, yet transformational, step in the direction of your power … One that can start to ease the suffering and shed some light into the darkness.

The very thing we crave the most can so often be the very thing we avoid and resist so often. We forget that what we're really looking for and always seeking is so much closer than we realize … as close as our next breath. If what we really want is to be deeply fulfilled and be able to take in the nourishment of the moment, then we must be available for it. Being available for it means slowing down enough to move deeper inside rather than further up and farther out. It means opening our bodies to be able to receive and relish life through each and every one of our senses. As women, what happens when we're not in a consistent pleasure practice and are stressed out with our lives is that we simply can't feel the pleasures that are available.

Your belief in what has yet to reveal itself is the juice and the power that calls it forth. Your receptivity and willingness to be with more pleasure and goodness is what allows you to become the woman who lets herself have that much joy, abundance, and expansion of all kinds and to become the vessel that can hold more of it than you've allowed yourself to receive up until now. The more you remind yourself of this, the you will want to nurture this relationship with your desires above all else by prioritizing your connection with your inner world rather than letting the outer world constantly distract you from what it is you're here to become, to create, and to experience. Get your FREE "Ecstatic Feminine Embodiment Meditation" here: www.SalonaCarlisle.com

It's so easy to skip over countless moments as insignificant and as nothing more than a means to get to some other place or experience. But, when we remember that it is the moments that make up the days that make up the years that make up a lifetime Then this moment becomes immeasurably precious and potent It becomes a radically honest reflection of what you are choosing to embody and what you are transmitting into the field. When you remember that this moment is a microcosm of the macrocosm of your life, then you realize that how you are showing up to this moment is how you are showing up to your life

You might be growing increasingly impatient for direction and for the answers to some big questions in your heart right now, which only makes you more constricted and unavailable to hear and receive them … When what's actually being asked of you is to get even more comfortable and rest even more deeply in the not knowing… When you're willing to stay long enough and to go underneath that initial anxiety that can feel so unbearable, what you end up cultivating is an even deeper strength than the one we think that comes from always knowing what to do. It's the strength that comes from expanding your capacity to be with all of your experience (both inner and outer) without needing it to change… True growth, fulfillment, and mastery isn't born out of being able to manifest whatever you want when you want it. It's in the recognition that there's nothing is wrong with right now…

Sometimes, we want so much for things to change that it costs us our pleasure and our joy in the moment. We want so much to be somewhere else more than we're willing to allow ourselves to feel good right where we are. We want things to be different more than we're committed to doing whatever it takes to be happy in our current life no matter what. It's ok if this is you right now or ever has been. Just know that it's a choice and that this choice is always on offer wherever you are. And, you can choose again in any moment you remember and desire. There's no wrong choice you could ever make. There's simply the choice that...

When you realize that the current of ecstasy is available - even in what you may experience as discomfort, as contraction, as despair, as the void, as emptiness, as a rock bottom moment… And you know how to make contact with it… Then consider that perhaps you'd be in less of a hurry to get away from where you are and less fixated on the agenda you have for how life should be going. It takes having the eyes to see it. It takes having the heart to feel it, the mind to perceive it, and the body to sense and receive it. It takes being permeable enough to reach beyond what the mind habitually latches onto as the only reality there is right now in your direct experience and touch something even deeper.

When you're desiring something to change in your life, give yourself permission to spend even more time doing nothing... To drop into more moments of stillness and spaciousness... To get quiet - and then even quieter To slow down your pace - and then slow down even more. If you've been spinning your wheels, swirling in confusion, feeling lost, stuck or uncertain of your next step or the way forward, all it means is that there's more listening that's needed to what wants to be heard. There's more listening that's needed to what's trying to reach you in this space that you're in. So much of the time - without even knowing it - we're trying force our will on reality, thinking that this is what it means to be a powerful creator. Sometimes, the more authentic power is the once that comes from...

The key is to realize that what you're really after is this feeling of deep, embodied wholeness and presence It's the experience of deep peace and overflowing joy for all that you have and all the feelings that come on line within you as a result It's the experience of no longer needing someone or something from outside to complete you and no longer being dependent on a particular circumstance for your inner state and fulfillment. Your power lies in remembering that all those qualities are on offer now. They're all available to you now. You've just turned your back on them… Because you've decided that they're not here and that you don't have access to them until the outer conditions conform to how you think things need to be in order for you to feel the happiness you're not feeling now.

What if there's nothing in the way? What if there has never been anything in the way It just hasn't been time yet. Something else has needed to be nurtured first. Some things have had to evolve within you through certain experiences before you can fully receive what it is that you've been asking for. Rather than beat yourself up for not being where you wish you were or not yet having what you wish you had by now… Rather than blame life or blame others or blame yourself… Rather than assume something's going wrong or time has been lost or you've missed the boat … Assume that it's so much more right than you can even begin to perceive or understand from where you are.

The woman you desire to be and the experience of life that you're craving don't have to wait for anything or anyone - even though you might be so convinced that they do. Every moment contains every possibility. But, you are the one who has to choose it To claim it for yourself And then to devote yourself to embodying that which is most calling you but that you feel is missing.

Why you want what you want is so much more important than what you want. And, it's equally important to get to know the parts of you that don't want it. When we identify a desire that we want to go after, our tendency is to start to focus on what needs to happen out there in order to make it happen. But, if we're not experiencing it, it's an opportunity to get even more curious about what within us is not actually available for it yet and still has some objection to it happening. Part of the work is to recognize that what you are currently experiencing is what a part of you wants to keep that way.

When we so seduced by the beauty of our dreams… The risk is, that we can become so focused on manifesting the dream life and forget how to be present in our current one. Ultimately, what we're really desiring is the ability to truly soak up and enjoy the life we do have and are already living.

The most magnetic, potent, and powerful force is the feminine slowing down and deeply feeling. There is so much wisdom in this very moment. Listen even more closely as if it was whispering to you a secret to your deepest hunger and an answer to your innermost prayer. There is so much medicine in the very circumstance that you wish different. Listen in to hear more...

It's so easy for women to feel like less of a woman, less attractive, and less desirable when they're single. It's also easy to find yourself falling into mindless habits, feeling flatlined and less inspired, maybe even giving up on your desires, and behaving as though you're waiting to live… As if single life is just a place holder and the space in between in which you're just passing time. What if, instead, it became a time to deepen into even more and relish the rich opportunity you have to receive more of yourself than you ever have before… A time to harness all that desire and yearning for the One into becoming the woman who belongs to herself, who doesn't need a man or relationship to feel the way she wants to feel A woman who knows a level of freedom, wholeness, and confidence that is unshakable Who knows, in every fiber of her being, that she is worthy of worship without needing anyone to validate or confirm it.

There are times when allowing the space is far more important than what you're filling it up with. You see … The expansion you are hungry for comes just as much from elimination as it does from addition Just as much from being as it does from doing Insider secret: what you're really craving is an experience of yourself and your life that you believe all the circumstances you're chasing will give you. Listen in to hear more... Get your FREE "Ecstatic Feminine Embodiment Meditation" here: www.SalonaCarlisle.com

Most people are afraid to lean into their desire with all their heart for fear that it may not happen. It feels safer to protect themselves from the potential disappointment. But here's the thing … You don't know that it won't happen any more than you know that it will happen. You don't actually have any more proof that it's unrealistic and out of reach than you have proof that it's literally closer than ever and just about to unfold in your experience. One option is to never let yourself go there and just keep feeling disappointment ahead of time. The other option is to allow yourself to lean into what hasn't happened yet with all your heart and be willing to risk believing in what you cannot see. Listen in to hear more...

Finding deeper presence and a greater capacity to receive from where you are IS the portal to all the fulfillment you desire. When you make being present to the moment and finding even more to love in it become your new obsession - rather than being in such a rush to get away from it… Then, every moment gets to be your happily ever after. Only you can make it so. Listen in to learn more...

We rarely let ourselves be in the nothingness for long enough to allow our impulse to move into action arise from inspiration rather than compulsion… To arise from desire rather than fear that nothing's going to happen if I don't do something To arise from pleasure rather than pressure This is why it's so important to remember that who you are now is who you will be then. How you do life here is how you will do life there … unless you start making different choices. Tune in to learn more

Every woman deserves to feel exquisite in the skin she's in, to be madly in love with the life she's living right now (not just later), and to know how to live into the depth of fulfillment she was born for no matter where she is on her journey and whether there's a man in her life or not. But, what so often happens for the women who come to me is that their default state has become one of waiting and sleepwalking through their days rather than actually embodying their full aliveness. You don't need to go to a different place in order to find the richness you long for. Listen in to learn more...

Don't wait for life to slow down enough and help you come back inside to realign yourself with the highest vision you have for yourself and your life. Rather than be at the mercy of the winds and storms of life and the endless distractions at your fingertips, Practice the art of finding more moments of presence when you can come all the way in and remind yourself of what it is you most deeply desire… What it is that you deeply desire to experience, to feel, to create, and to live more of.

If you do nothing else today other than this, you will be opening into, moving closer to, and expanding your capacity to receive what it is you're most wanting. Stop as much as you remember to before you start. Go in, and then in a little further, before you keep going out and out and out. Slow down your pace enough to listen. Listen more deeply to yourself before you take in any more of the external input from others. That still, small voice needs space and quiet to emerge. Breathe more life into your body and then breathe more life into your desires until they get even just a little bigger and more powerful than your doubts and fears. Turn up the volume on your trust and faith in the perfection of what doesn't make sense and in what may feel really messy and confusing right now. When doors feel closed When you can't see and don't know the way forward When clarity feels impossible to find When things aren't how you wish they were, and the solution is unknown… The most loving thing you can do is give yourself permission to devote even more time to what would feel the most nourishing at the deepest level.

This moment and season of your life is giving you exactly what you need. Listen deeper. Find out what it is teaching you. Sip every drop of nectar from it that you possibly can. Our goals never give us what they promise to anyways, because what we're actually chasing never actually comes from the external world. It only ever comes from you activating it from within, which means YOU are the source of your experience. That's why your greatest work will only ever be you. So, make it your goal to keep choosing you…the you you want to be and become no matter what circumstances may be.

So many of us think that finding ourselves, finding fulfillment, and discovering lasting peace can only come from being in a particular situation or in the right circumstance. “I just need to get away from it all, go on retreat, move across the country or to the other side of the world, so I can find myself and my happiness.” I've been down that path. I've been around the world and back a few times, in extended periods of silent retreat, deep in the wilderness for weeks in solitude, and in the mountains and monasteries of the far east. At the time, all those experiences were exactly what I needed. They took me way out to my edges and beyond as well as far deeper into my innermost center. I also realized that the real work didn't begin or end there.

It can feel hard to let go of the outer in service of the inner sometimes. It can feel as though you're giving up on your desires. It can feeling as though you're going to miss out on getting to the life you really want, especially when you've been hinging your happiness on things going a certain way by a certain time. But, the exact opposite is true… Because skipping over the softer parts of you and drowning out the whispers of your soul to get there faster will never lead to a life you feel really good in and love living. That's why… Sometimes, when you think it's time to expand further outwards, it's actually time to sink even more deeply within.

We prefer the grace over the grit. Of course, we do. It feels so much easier on our hearts and so much better to our egos. But, what we're forgetting when we resist the discomfort and adversity is that where gold is actually found is literally buried and hidden within layers of grit. Without the very experience you're having… The one that may feel extremely harsh and abrasive right now The one that keeps swallowing you up and digging its teeth in The one that feels interminable and impossible to get out of… You would not end up the woman you are becoming that you ultimately desire to become.

It takes enormous courage to slow down enough to feel more fully alive … Especially when we've been trained to believe that going faster, doing more, and filling up our days is what will eventually lead us to, hopefully someday, feeling the happiness and fulfillment we crave. But, it's only by having this courage, discipline, and trust to do so that you will ever be able to create the life you love being in so much that you're no longer willing to sacrifice your current joy and aliveness by living in the trance of “someday when”. It's only by choosing radical presence over the perpetual forward thrust that you will ever be able to find here what you have only ever been seeking everywhere else.

When we narrow our definition of pleasure, we narrow our life. We constrict our aliveness and cut ourselves off from the very nourishment that we require to thrive. There will be a whole world of delight that you will feel deprived of and a chronic feeling, however subtle it may be, that something essential missing… Not because pleasure isn't available, but because you're not home in your body to experience it and let yourself have it. That's why so much of becoming more fully alive as a woman starts with expanding your definition of pleasure into the sensual, everyday pleasures... And finding the ways into it that feel truly authentic to you and so deeply nourishing -- rather than threatening -- to your nervous system.

A woman tapped into her bliss knows that her life is made up of the moments and the days she's living right now, and she knows that who she is being and how she is living right now is what is creating her future. The Everyday Bliss For The Modern Woman Podcast is designed for the woman who is looking for the way home to a life she feels really good in no matter what's happening out there and who knows that discovering the pleasure, the deep satisfaction and fullness, and the embodied wholeness and self-worth that is independent of circumstances just might be the greatest achievement of her entire life.