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A show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy shit. We unpack the relationship psychology and dating themes on reality TV shows, especially The Bachelor. Tune in for our weekly analysis of every episode of The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, Bachelor in Paradise, and Golden Bachelor, as well as other popular dating shows and movies. For video recaps, head on over to our YouTube Channel (youtube.com/HereToFindLove). Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

Here to Find Love


    • Sep 6, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
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    The most horrific ending to a Bachelorette season | The Bachelorette recap: Jenn's season finale

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2024 81:42


    We're in shock.Jenn Tran's Bachelorette story comes to a horrifying ending in the season finale, and we are devastated and frankly livid with this franchise. In this Bachelorette recap, we review the season finale where we learn Jenn and Devin's engagement came to a near-immediate end shortly after filming ended and then see a disgustingly cruel After the Final Rose live finale where Jenn is made to watch her proposal to Devin for the first time on stage with him setting next to her. This show failed Jenn in so many ways.We are absolutely aghast that this season — which we had been so excited and hopeful about, which loudly promoted Jenn as their first Asian American lead and promised us an incredible love story with her as the main character — ended in such a horrific way. We unpack that horrible ATFR segment, what happened between Jenn and Devin (and why we weren't surprised by his swerve), as well as takeaways from the Jenn and Marcus breakup (because we've known men like Marcus). We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)—

    Jenn's anxious fairytale | The Bachelorette recap: Jenn's fantasy suites & Men Tell All

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2024 91:38


    Fantasy suites brought us *two* surprise confessions of love, and if we're being honest, neither of them felt great.In this Bachelorette recap of Jenn Tran's season episodes 8 & 9, we deep dive into Jenn's connection with Marcus and why she's so invested in making their relationship work when there's little reciprocation— and why one of us (for better or worse... er, well, mostly for worse) actually swooned just a little over them this week.Then, we get to the Devin of it all. Devin spirals with doubt, Jenn confesses she doesn't know how to be in a healthy relationship, and they finish with “I love you's” prompting us to dig into how the conversation could've really gone—if they were being honest.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow 

    Are Jenn's men falling behind? | The Bachelorette recap: Jenn's hometowns

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2024 58:27


    Why did Jenn's hometown dates feel so… concerning?It's hometowns week on Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette (Season 21, Episode 7). Usually hometowns is a big ol' nothing-burger, but Jenn's hometowns with Devin, Jeremy, Jonathon, and Marcus actually raised many new questions and concerns about her final four men and the relationships she has with each of them. Devin says I love you to Jenn, but the rest of the men seem to be way far behind in terms of their feelings for her. Jeremy goes home for it, but Jonathon and Marcus both also seem to be struggling to emotionally get there with Jenn.In this Bachelorette recap, we dig into why Jenn's final men all seem to be hesitating now that we're getting to the end of the season, how Marcus became the new unavailable man in Jenn's life, and how Jenn get still get the happy ending she deserves.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow 

    Jenn's past vs. her future | The Bachelorette recap: Episode 5, Jenn's season

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 45:47


    This episode helped us learn a lot about Jenn - and it was heartbreaking. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 5 of Jenn's Bachelorette season with special guest Jeremy, we break down her dates with Jonathon and Grant. We chat about Austin self-eliminating created an important vibe shift to her season, and one of Jenn's most vulnerable moments to date. We go over why going back to an ex doesn't always work, what it looks like to date someone in the middle of a big healing journey, and who we could see her ending up with at the end.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    The Jennn and Sam M breakup, explained | The Bachelorette recap: Episode 6, Jenn's season

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 61:39


    Sam M goes off-script, and Jenn sends him packing!In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 6 of Jenn's season, Jenn has her first one-on-one date with Marcus. We weren't totally sure about Marcus — we've heard some fairly gruesome allegations about his past and we don't know if he's ready to get married with Jenn — but we can finally see why Jenn likes him so much. We talk about Sam M and Jenn's drawn-out breakup and why it's important she completed the process on her own time. We dissect Sam M short-circuiting on the show, his misogyny, and how Jenn's family patterns may have subconsciously influenced their attraction. Then we chat about her surprising connection with Jeremy and their cute interfaith connection, our shock on Grant and Spencer going home.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos.Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Jenn and Sam M's disturbing date | The Bachelorette recap: Episode 4, Jenn's season

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2024 60:33


    We don't often get a Bachelor date with so many red flags to unpack all at once, but the one-on-one between Jenn and Sam M. was really chock full of concerning moments. In this Bachelorette recap of episode 4 of Jenn's Bachelorette season, we break down each interaction from this date and what went wrong, from the way he unilaterally made decisions on her behalf to ignoring her feelings and boundaries— and also the complex way Jenn herself responded to the stressful situation.We also talk about Jenn and Marcus who make notable strides in their connection this week, as well as what we know about Jenn's ex Matthew who she apparently only dated for a few months several years ago.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL!(And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow 

    Can Jenn break her patterns? | Bachelorette recap 2024: Episode 3, Jenn's season

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2024 69:55


    It's week 3 and we've finally formulated a theory for Jenn's season! Let's get into it.In this Bachelorette 2024 Episode 3 recap, the conflict hasn't stopped and Thomas N and Sam M are continuing to perpetuate a culture of pettiness and negativity. We chat through their (many) red flags obsessing over the other men in the house, putting down Sam N, and focusing on anything other than Jenn. We chat about our complicated feelings liking Devin (with some trepidation) and how he may have the only genuine connection with Jenn. We talk about our excitement seeing Jenn making sense of her dating story, finding her voice, cutting off the toxic men in the show, and refining her dating picker—all in real time.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow 

    The villains emerge | Bachelorette recap 2024: Episode 2, Jenn's season

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 17, 2024 70:05


    It's only week 2, and the villains are already emerging. But… which guy is it?In The Bachelorette 2024 Episode 2, conflict begins to brew among Jenn Tran's men—in particular, between Devin, Aaron, and Thomas N. Devin is quickly becoming a controversial character, with some fans on the internet saying he did nothing wrong and others already ready to get him off the screen. In this Bachelorette recap, we dig into some of the key moments between these three men that helped us form our opinions of the situation—and why we're secretly not so fond of any of them.

    First impressions of Jenn Tran and her men [Bachelorette Season 21 Episode 1 Recap]

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2024 52:54


    We've been waiting all season for Jenn Tran's season premiere, and it did not disappoint! The episode kicks off with Jenn's intro package where she opens up about her Asian-American background, her passion being a physical assistant, and her history with toxic relationships. We start the night at a new mansion (!) where she meets her 25 men — and she gives her first impression to Sam McKinney and giggles with Thomas Nguyen, Dylan Buckor, Devin Strader, and others.Throughout this Bachelorette recap, we also dissect our early first impression of Jenn, our mixed emotions about her early standouts, her slow approach to physical intimacy and why that may be due to her upbringing, and then dig into our predictions for her season.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    The love story we didn't see | Bachelor recap: Joey's fantasy suites, episode 9

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2024 67:51


    *** Tap into a steamy universe filled with hundreds of sexy audio stories over at Dipsea, our lovely sponsor of this week's episode! Grab your 30 day free trial here: www.dipseastories.com/heretofindloveIn this week's Bachelor 2024 Episode 9 recap of Joey's season, we're getting into Fantasy Suites week and is it hot in here or is it just Kelsey and Joey STEAMING up the TV? We talk about their palpable chemistry and her frontrunner energy.We analyze her conversation with Golden Bachelor frontrunner Leslie, and why it's important to hold space for someone with skill. Then we go over Joey's sweet yet lackluster connection with Daisy (we're still not seeing it!!) and his rocky date with Rachel. We bring up Rachel's recent negative social media backlash and why we need to uplift diverse stories in media. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos.Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow Dipsea sponsored this video! 

    These hometowns were actually revealing… | Bachelor recap: Joey's season, episode 8

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2024 69:50


    Joey knew what he wanted this episode - and chaos was not it. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why Joey sending home Maria was a good idea, and our speculations that Rachel might be next on the chopping block. We analyze his strong connection with Kelsey and how it feels slightly different to Daisy's sweet albeit slightly underdeveloped relationship. In between, we discuss our favorite frontrunners for Joey and how much we missed Jenn's potential hometown this week.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)HUGE shoutout to Ashley of Ash Talks Bach for joining us for this Bachelor podcast!Follow @ashtalksbach literally everywhere:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashtalksbach/Twitter: https://twitter.com/AshTalksBachTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ashtalksbachAshley's Bachelor newsletter on Substack: https://ashtalksbach.substack.com/Watch the live recording of this Bachelor podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow https://www.instagram.com/heretofindloveshow/

    Maria is all over the place | Bachelor recap: Joey's season, episode 7

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2024 56:32


    You have to know someone to love them, but who is Joey really? In this Bachelor recap, we talk about why we think Daisy's really not that into him and our surprise on Joey sending home Jenn who is actually super into him. We talk about Maria's conflict styles and how they've been polar opposites the entire season - except for how they need their partner to show up for them. And why that quality may be Joey's dealbreaker. Along the way, we discuss why Kelsey A is a perfect combination of what he's looking for, plus our doubts that he'll actually choose her. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Lexi's surprising decision | Bachelor recap 2024: Joey's season, episode 6

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2024 46:10


    Relationships are all about timing, and for Joey and Lexi, timing is not on their side. In this Bachelor recap, we talk about Lexi's surprising decision to leave the show after learning that Joey wants a longer engagement and marriage before having kids - something that she can't get on board with. We discuss the challenge of navigating differing timelines in relationships and why Lexi's choice is so commendable. We also dig into what we've long surmised would be Joey's greatest struggle as the bachelor: figuring out how to open up and put himself first. As these issues start to come to the forefront, which woman will be able to embrace Joey in all his struggles and imperfections? We have our thoughts… We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    We have mixed feelings on Lea… | The Bachelor recap: Joey's season, episodes 4 & 5

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2024 80:43


    We were rooting for you, Lea!!! Why?!This week's two-day Bachelor special brought the demise of one villain and the rise of the next. Maria and Sydney went head to head in a two on one date, and we were disturbed and also just kinda saddened by Sydney's behavior before she left. Then we get into the Lea of it all, including her squishy confrontation with Madina, her hard line with Maria, and why we're both disappointed in her… but also sort of question the nature of the criticism she's now facing. Along the way, we talk about the ways in which therapy can fail us, how age can affect the ways we show up to disagreements, and the importance of taking women's pain seriously.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Sydney, Maria, and the power of language | Bachelor recap 2024, Joey's season episode 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2024 45:52


    Let's talk about this Sydney and Maria conflict, because there are SO many nuances to this situation. At first glance the drama seems to be about something pointless (a comment Maria made challenging the idea of age 31 being “old”), but Episode 3 unveils many more layers. In this Bachelor recap, we unpack the use of the words “bullying” and other therapy speak, the power of “in” and “out” group dynamics, and how Maria and Sydney each handled (and mishandled) the conflict. We are SO excited and honored to be joined by the wonderful JENNA from DATE CARD, one of our absolute favorite Bachelor podcasts! Jenna analyzes the The Bachelor franchise from a queer feminist lens, and her critique (and hilarity) always blows us away. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow Listen to DATE CARD wherever you get your podcasts and follow her on Instagram: @datecardpod

    What Is Joey looking for? | Bachelor Recap 2024 episode 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2024 35:38


    Joey's Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he's going to struggle most with this season. It's episode 2 of Joey Grazidei's Bachelor season, and we have some new dating theories! We discuss our new frontrunner picks, why we love Maria Georgas flirting game, and what Joey is really looking for in a match—and it's not what you think.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos.Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    This is who we'd pick for Joey after night one | Bachelor recap 2024 episode 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2024 36:12


    Joey's Bachelor season is upon us, and we are actually super excited! After the season premiere and limo entrances, we have our initial thoughts on who we think Joey Graziadei is most compatible with among his cast of women—and what we think he's going to struggle most with this season. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Will any of these couples last? | Bachelor in Paradise season finale recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2023 50:19


    Even though Bachelor in Paradise is over, some of the couples (Eliza & Aaron B, Kylee & Aven, John Henry and Kat) are still going strong way after the finale. We discuss if we can see them working as a couple, why it's so hard to date someone with too many expectations, and how everyone is deserving of love—yes even the “villains” who don't end up learning anything from their past experiences.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t.We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Leslie's righteous anger | The Golden Bachelor season finale recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2023 43:37


    Despite a happy ending engagement for Gerry and Theresa, it was Leslie's pain that was front and center in The Golden Bachelor season finale. We felt deeply uncomfortable seeing her fall back into her old, ugly stories about herself and witnessing her enduring anger toward Gerry—but in this Golden Bachelor recap, we discuss why maybe that discomfort is okay. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Is Leslie or Theresa the better match for Gerry? | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 8 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2023 68:56


    We're almost to the end of Gerry Turner's season and it's giving messy! In the Golden Bachelor Fantasy Suites episode, we see a surprising sex-positive side to Gerry—and we love the way he's approaching intimacy. However, we don't love that he's telling Leslie she's the one while staying open-minded and planning a future with Theresa. We discuss why it's important for Gerry to have his guard up and how different Leslie and Theresa are. Theresa feels more like a stable, long-term relationship while Leslie feels more like trauma healing.Then we go to Bachelor in Paradise and analyze the remaining couples on the beach, why we want to save Rachel from the beach, and go over Katie and Blake's closure convo.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

    Faith and Gerry had a breakup to remember | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 7 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2023 46:33


    In a move that surprised all of Bachelor Nation, Gerry Turner sent home Faith Martin after hometowns—but it was their emotionally raw reunion at the Golden Bachelor Women Tell All that we really need to talk about. Back on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, let's just say that we're starting to get tired of the messy and harmful patterns we're seeing from several cast members while fan favorites like Rachel Recchia get left behind.In this episode 7 recap, we discuss why some of this season's most chaotic and uninspiring couples—think Kat and John Henry, or Aaron B and Eliza—seem to be suceeding at love in spite of the controversies around them.We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    We're worried about Gerry | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 6 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2023 43:11


    Golden Bachelor Gerry Turner is getting in his feels, and he can't stop saying I love you to his top three women - amazing in the moment but heartbreaking at the rose ceremony. We discuss how the hometown dates went, why meeting their families made things more serious, and if we think it's Theresa or Faith that he will end up sending home. Then we talk about what's happening on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, as Kat tries to beat Tanner to the punch with the break-up conversation and then quickly move on with John Henry. At the end, we dig into the disappointment of seeing Brayden and Rachel's spark flame out, and the Charity, Aaron B, and Eliza ex drama. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    What exactly is Gerry looking for? | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 5 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2023 62:28


    Our golden bachelor Gerry Turner has narrowed down to his top 3 women, and the stakes are higher than ever. In this Golden Bachelor recap, we discuss who we think Gerry might choose in the end and what his choice may represent about what he's looking for from love at this age. Meanwhile on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise, we witness the slow unraveling of seemingly picture-perfect couple that was Blake and Jess, and we have thoughts about the way Jess is approaching the dating game. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Why Sean and Rachel's fight blew up | Bachelor in Paradise 2023 & Golden Bachelor episode 4 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2023 63:04


    Hurricane Kat hits the beach and it causes some *big* waves. Sean takes a page from Kat's book of non-empathy and talks to Jess, inadvertently setting off a chain of events that causes the truth to be revealed... and how he's been painting Rachel as more into him than she is. In this Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 4 recap, we talk about why Rachel and Sean's fight went off the rails and what he could've done differently. It mostly involves just being honest and not having to put someone else down to make himself seem more desirable.We then get into Golden Bachelor and our nuanced take on the Kathy and Theresa dynamic. We think Kathy was in the right but came across badly with her tone, and how Theresa wasn't innocent but came across like a victim because of Kathy's "zip it" comment. We then share our frontrunners of his season. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Dissecting Kat and Brayden's breakup | Bachelor in Paradise 2023 & Golden Bachelor episode 3 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2023 56:14


    The Kat and Brayden breakup conversation featured classic examples of defensiveness, right-or-wrong thinking, and (dare we say) a litttttttle hint of gaslighting. In this Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 3 recap, we dissect their breakup conversations in depth and talk about why things got so ugly so fast - and how we can all avoid or at least better manage these types of conflicts in our own dating lives. We also double click into the nuances of Theresa and Kathy's conflict in The Golden Bachelor episode 3, and we were surprised with how much we ended up empathizing with *both* women. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Truths and fantasies | Golden Bachelor & Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 2 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2023 46:40


    Golden Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise are giving whiplash with the wholesomeness and chaos, and we are here for all. Of. It. In the episode 2 recap, we discuss Gerry Turner's earnest enthusiasm for dating and how cute it is... and our hope he doesn't get hurt too badly in a vulnerable process designed to hurt many people. Then we dive into the love triangles on the beach between Mercedes, Eliza, and Aaron B + Will, Aven, and Kylee and the nuances of early dating. We discuss what it means to be honest when you're still exploring other people, and how to set mutual expectations. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLoveGet personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Olivia brings the mess | Bachelor in Paradise 2023 episode 1 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2023 42:38


    The newest season of Bachelor in Paradise is already bringing the mess, and it's only week one. In this episode 1 recap, we break down what happened between Olivia, Will, and Kylee. The two of us differed in whose side we took in this conflict, sparking a fascinating discussion on the meaning behind a kiss, what we owe the people we hook up with, and the secret to no-drama dating. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL! (And in case you're wondering: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!) Watch the live recording of this podcast on our YouTube channel: youtube.com/HereToFindLove Get personal with us on Instagram: @heretofindloveshow

    Rewriting the narrative on aging | Golden Bachelor episode 1 recap

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2023 31:31


    The Golden Bachelor season premiere is finally here! In this episode 1 recap, we dig into the ways the ladies of this season are challenging stereotypes about older women and rewriting the narrative of aging as a woman. We also discuss Gerry's back story, the tragic passing of his wife, and which women he has the most chemistry with. We're Kelly and Julie, and we're Here to Find Love: a show where two Asian American dating coaches go deep on frothy sh!t. We post reality TV dating show analysis and Bachelor recap videos. Welcome to HTFL!(Note: this is a spoiler-free Bachelor podcast!)

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