Inner Fortitude with Isis

Emotional intelligence (EI) was conceptualized in 1990 by 2 social psychologists. This relatively young concept refers to the ability to observe, understand and manage our own emotions, observe and understand the emotions of others, and ultimately be aware of how our emotions affect the people around us. In practicing emotional intelligence, we can begin to see emotions as internal signals that help us make decisions. It's best to think of these signals as allies; or ´data´ about an event. And this data will be used to assist us in developing our EI. Many experts now believe that a person's emotional quotient (EQ) may be a more important factor than their IQ; as it is certainly a better predictor of success, quality of relationships, and overall happiness. In this episode, I share the basics on what EI is, and how it can benefit you in your own life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

In this episode, I provide a roadmap for your journey to self love. A methodology, if you will. Often times, people embark on the self-love journey, unaware that for some things to "stick," you must go in a particular order. It's very difficult to end toxic relationships when you have very low self-esteem or sense of worth. It's a huge challenge to take on new risks when you lack confidence. It's an uphill battle to ask for what you need when you're not even sure you deserve it. And it's hard as hell to stop taking things personally when you constantly seek the validation of others to feel good about yourself. You're probably drowning in a sea of information about self-love. You know you want it, and you're giving it your best shot, but you keep spinning your wheels. Chances are, it's because you haven't tackled some of the early work that is needed to successfully achieve this elusive "Self-Love" thing. Allow me to guide you... In the right order! I'll explain why you might feel stuck. It's not your fault... And you can do this! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

We spend so much time worrying about what others think of us. We feel pain or anger when someone uses the wrong words or says something that we perceive as hurtful. Why do we take other people's points of view so personally? Because we are afraid of not being accepted and being unworthy. A few years ago, I read a book that was life-changing. This book is called The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz. It was written about four principles by which the author believes we should all live. If we did so, we would have a much more fulfilling, happy, drama-free life. Not surprisingly, the second of the Four Agreements is "Don't Take Anything Personally." Per the author, "When we hear an opinions of others and believe it, we make it an agreement, and it becomes a part of our belief system." By making this an agreement (and taking things personally), we are essentially allowing others to make decisions on who we are and what we are worth. If you have been told that you are "too sensitive," or are quick to feel hurt or anger toward others, listen up. Settle in for a chit chat with me, and let me be your humble guide on how to stop taking things personally using simple steps. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

Confidence can push you forward, into success. And a lack of confidence can impede your ability to achieve it. It's something that gives you the resilience to cope with setbacks and failures (which everyone inevitably experiences at some point or another). It can drive you to trying new things, which will ultimately allow you to see that mistakes lead to growth. It's kinda like being open and willing to fail sometimes, because you know that taking risks is taking a chance at success! Join me in exploring the many ways you can begin building your confidence today. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

As the great Brené Brown says, "boundaries are simply our lists of what's okay and what's not okay. When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or choice." So - stop saying yes when you want to say no. It is perfectly okay to say "I can't take that on right now" or "My plate is full." As for your personal relationships, you need to be very clear about what is okay and what is not okay. If people don't respect them, they need to be held accountable. It's VERY important to mean what you say. If someone crosses your very clear boundaries, you must hold them accountable. Boundaries aren't set until you follow through on the consequence and stick to your convictions. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

I dedicate this podcast to anyone and everyone who suffers from low self-esteem and/or confidence. Self esteem is defined as: confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect. It is correlated with one's ability to achieve success, good relationships and overall satisfaction with life. It is also the building block for true self-confidence. Join me in discussing the ups and downs of self-esteem. In this episode, I will share tips on how to build your self-esteem, using life-long techniques that can bring you a huge step closer to developing your emotional intelligence, while also kick-starting your journey in self-love. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

How can you apply self-love to your current situation? Can it help you cope, or make the pain less intense? In this episode of Inner Fortitude, I answer a few questions real people have raised about self-love. I offer some practical insight on how you can cultivate self love while going through some challenging times or situations in your life. I will cover topics like: Dealing/coping with rejection Self-Awareness; getting to know and accept yourself Learning to love yourself, even if you aren't happy with the way you look How to stop repetitive negative cycles in your life Cultivating self-love without spending a dime P.S. If you enjoy the content I'm offering, please don't forget to subscribe! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

Self-awareness is the ability to see yourself clearly and objectively through reflection and introspection. In being self-aware, you are also able to recognize and understand your emotions and reactions. When you have a good understanding of who you are, and what makes you tick, you're empowered to make changes that increase your inner strength and continually improve areas of your life. After all, how do you fix a problem you're not aware exists? How do you improve relationships if you aren't even aware of how others perceive you? How can you influence people if you aren't aware of how you are coming across? Today, I share steps you can take today to begin developing a better understanding of the most important person in your life: You! P.S. If you enjoy the content I'm offering, please don't forget to subscribe! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

If you've ever wondered why men find it so hard to understand women or build strong relationships with them, this episode is for you. I've heard many times over the years that it is virtually impossible to understand humans of the female persuasion. I'm dedicating this show/podcast to addressing that from an emotional intelligence perspective. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

Curious about developing your emotional intelligence? If you've ever been told you are "sensitive" or feel like sometimes your emotions get the best of you, this episode is for you. In this episode, I explain a few things you may not know about emotions, why they are important and how you can process them in an effective way. Most of us have the ability to regulate or manage our emotions, so tune in to learn how. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

Self care is the act of taking care of yourself, physically and mentally. It means making sure that you dedicate the time and effort to ensure that your needs are met. When you were born, you were given one body and mind to live in. Your own little temple, so to speak. It is YOUR responsibility to nurture and care for it; to respect and honor it. It houses beautiful gifts and talents that are 100% uniquely your own. Inside lives a little child, and with self care, we offer that sweet child warmth, and comfort, and loving thoughts. That's OUR natural, God-given responsibility. To neglect it seems pretty bad now, doesn't it? Yet, so many people carry a ridiculously unhealthy 'martyr' mindset, where they believe that their responsibility is to do everything for others 100% of the time. But acting the martyr is not heroic – it's a dysfunctional and toxic form of behavior that slowly eats away at your own sense of self, making you and others miserable. It is absolutely neglecting your primary responsibility: Which is to care for yourself, so that you are THEN capable of caring for others. In this episode, we discuss the many forms of self care that you can incorporate into your life; and it isn't painful! Find your unique formula, and be on your way to honoring your mind, body and soul. You got this. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

If you're an overthinker, you know how debilitating and intrusive those manic thoughts can be. Overthinking and excessive worrying create stress and restlessness that can lead to anxiety or depression if left unchecked. Taking back control of your thoughts is the key to feeling peaceful again. In this short bonus episode, I share simple tips and tools you can use today to overcome those stubborn thoughts so you can tame the inner critic (a.k.a. beast)! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

I have personally struggled a LOT with self-forgiveness. I spent years beating myself up for my mistakes, until I realized that it was not benefiting me (or anyone else) at all. It was actually holding me back from healing and finding happiness. By learning to forgive yourself, you will improve your mental and emotional well-being, produce more positive attitudes and build healthier relationships with others (and with yourself). This outcome also ties self-compassion with higher levels of success, productivity, focus and concentration. In this episode, I share a simple process that I have successfully used to help YOU learn to keep the pain where it belongs: In the past. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

Consider that the key to happiness is this: The fulfillment of our needs, not our wants, is what makes us happy. When we focus more of our effort on chasing the things we don't have, the more deprived we actually feel. Consider that the mere definition of "wanting" is about not having; and according to a basic Buddhist principle, you cannot be fulfilled when you focus on what you lack. Join me in prioritizing your needs and distinguishing the difference between your wants and needs. Your happiness depends on it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

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Mindfulness is the first step toward practicing self-compassion. It brings awareness of harsh judgements that we make in difficult experiences that create negative emotions, feelings, or thoughts, and turns it into loving, controlled awareness to ourselves. If you find that you are kinder to other people than you are to yourself, you'll definitely benefit from this episode. More than a thousand research studies show the benefits of being a supportive friend to yourself, especially in difficult times. Join me in the first step of your journey to self love. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support

Without this ingredient, you may find yourself just blowing wherever the wind may take you. You may feel resentful about a life that doesn't quite feel like it's your own. You may look in the mirror and wonder, "Who is that person staring back at me?" Or "How did I get here?" Without it, purpose is just a word people throw around to describe what is supposed to motivate you, while YOU are simply riding the waves. Without it, your mistakes and imperfections can feel like limitations that prevent your growth or happiness. You may even blame other people for feeling unappreciated or undervalued. It's something that, if left unchecked, will absolutely hold you back from living a rich, full life where YOU are in control. This secret ingredient is called SELF LOVE. You've probably heard of it. It's the hot new thing in that those crazy self-help people are talking about. The term sounds very 'frusfrus,' but I'm here to tell you: It's not some a new age fad or some kind of luxury rather than a necessity… It's actually a practice that can change, not only how you see yourself, but how others treat you. If I asked you right now: Do you love yourself? You may think you do. I know that 10 years ago, I would have said I did, too. But I actually didn't. And I just didn't know it. And while I'm certain that you may love a few things about yourself, there are probably a several things you never even realized about your behavior that proves otherwise. So let's go down a list of 10 signs that you urgently, desperately, are in need of self love. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/isisbeirne/support