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Dr. Vitz talks about controlling your perception of a situation so you can assess it accurately and provide help.  

Forget about having a traditional work-life balance. I've heard this echoed by many other startups and small business owners, and even a few well-known entrepreneurs. Personally, I set boundaries on only a handful of things—like my birthday and Christmas—but beyond that, most of my “social life” happens at conferences or networking events. I often work weekends, and it's not unusual for me to be up working until 3 a.m. The night-owl side of me, probably the astrophysicist in me, makes that routine feel almost natural.

Episode SummaryIn this episode, Ali welcomes Jo Cobbett - movement facilitator, artist, and poet - for a rich conversation about the transformative power of embodied movement. Jo shares her experiences navigating personal and community challenges, including the aftermath of wildfires, and how dance and somatic practices offer healing and connection, to self and community.Together, they explore the importance of presence, curiosity, and intention in reclaiming body intelligence. Other topics explored are inhibition, learning from the outside rather than the inside, and finding answers through movement. Jo discusses her approach to creating inclusive, supportive spaces where people of all backgrounds can rediscover themselves through movement. The episode offers inspiration for embracing change, building community, and finding body brilliance in every stage of life.FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:ALI - WebsiteALI - LinkTreeFOR MORE JO COBBETT:https://www.movinground.com/https://www.facebook.com/jobcobbettBIO:Jo Cobbett is a devotee and lover of wonder - crafting windows into profound self-encounters and discovering beauty throughout life's journey. Her primary portals are embodied movement and visual art, inviting play, curiosity, and existential dialogue with the world. Jo is directly engaged in life through nurturing family and creating spaces for self-exploration, expressed via her visual art, streamed poetry, and embodied movement offerings. Developing alongside her earlier partnership with Michael Mullen Skelton, Jo has been leading classes and workshops for over 30 years in Los Angeles and around the globe.She trained in bodywork at Esalen Institute, studied 5Rhythms with Gabrielle Roth, Soul Motion with Vinn Arjuna Martí, and Open Floor with Kathy Altman, Lori Saltzman, and Andrea Juhan, among others. Her practice has been further deepened through improvisation and creative play with Paula Shaw, Camille Maurine, and Ruth Zaporah.A primary influence in her life has been her training and collaboration with Susan Harper in Continuum Montage. Her ongoing inspiration also comes through Laura Sirkin‑Brown, and a lifelong conversation with nature — the whispers of wind, the flow of water, and the subtle intelligence of embodied movement.Jo honors countless teachers encountered along the way and remains continuously inspired — including by Ali Mezey, whose presence and insights have enriched her path.OTHER RESOURCES, LINKS AND INSPIRATIONS: Michael Molin-Skelton — Conscious Dance/Soul Motion“A few things that I hold sacred; the love of my life Anneli, the miracle of that love, Jaylan, resilience, friends that cherish and challenge me, integrity, dancing alone, dancing with you, transparency, love.”Esalen Institute -  A historic retreat center in Big Sur, California, focused on human potential and somatic practices.Five Rhythms® with Gabrielle Roth – A dynamic movement practice founded by Gabrielle Roth exploring flow, staccato, chaos, lyrical, and stillness.Soul Motion® with Vinn Arjuna Martí  –  A conscious dance practice rooted in presence, relational awareness, and creative expression.Open Floor with Kathy Altman, Lori Saltzman, and Andrea Juhan - A movement meditation practice designed for personal healing and collective connection.Improvisation with Paula Shaw, Camille Maurine, and Ruth Zaporah - Explorations in expressive arts, performance, and authentic movement.Susan Harper & Continuum Montage - Susan Harper is a Continuum teacher who developed Continuum Montage, blending movement, breath, and sound to deepen somatic awareness.Yakov & Susannah Darling Khan - Founders of Movement Medicine, a conscious dance practice integrating shamanic, therapeutic, and artistic paths.Emilie Conrad, Founder of Continuum MovementAndrea JuhanPaula ShawCamille Maurine Laura Sirkin-Brown  Anna Halprin - Pioneer in postmodern dance and healing movement practices; creator of the Life/Art Process.Baba Olatunji - Nigerian drummer and educator who popularized African drumming in the West; known for *Drums of Passion*.Rupert Sheldrake - Biologist and author known for his theories on morphic resonance and collective memory fields.Dancing in the Streets: A History of Collective Joy by Barbara Ehrenreich - A cultural and historical study of how communal dance and celebration have shaped human history.Ecstatic Dance - A global movement community offering conscious, freeform dance events with no talking, alcohol, or shoes.Let There Be Light by Jacques Lusseyran - Memoir of a blind French resistance fighter exploring inner vision and resilience.[From time to time, a word or phrase goes wonky. Please forgive my wandering wifi.]

In this episode of Personally Speaking, Msgr. Jim Lisante re-airs one of his favorite interviews, with actor Efrem Zimbalist Jr. This interview aired on Christopher Closeup when Msgr. Lisante was Director of The Christophers. Efrem Zimbalist Jr., who starred in the TV series “The F.B.I.” and “77 Sunset Strip”, talks about his faith and the values that mattered most to him.Support the show

Welcome back to This Person I Met! My name is Kayla, and I'm your podcast host.I've known Salem for around two years now. Our shared trauma of endless marching band rehearsals and similarities with flute led to a quick, close friendship. You'll hear in this interview that it's clear Salem is one of the funniest people I know and their presence is immediate comfort to all their friends, including me. Not only do I consider Salem one of my closest friends and flute buddies, I look up to them for advice like they're the village elder. A few months after we first met and became close, I came to learn of their more personal struggles, as all friends do with time. Personally, I think that the most beautiful part of a friendship is when your comfortability evolves into openness and a mutual understanding that you want to listen and learn, and your closeness makes room to do so. As you'll hear in this interview, Salem is very open about their diagnosis with depression and constant battle with their mental health, which would eventually lead to their hospitalization at the CS Mott's psych ward. Their story is a consistent reminder to me that no matter what, you never truly know what somebody is going through, and to always check up on the people that you love. As a quick content warning, this episode will deal with topics regarding mental health.

CP Personally Lead Squad In Search Of GentleDYahoo Biafra Group In Okigwehttps://osazuwaakonedo.news/cp-personally-lead-squad-in-search-of-gentledyahoo-biafra-group-in-okigwe/27/08/2025/#Nigeria Police Force #Biafra #Imo #Okigwe ©August 27th, 2025 ®August 27, 2025 3:44 pm Apparently angered by the continuous mass killings in Imo State, the Commissioner of Police, Aboki Danjuma has personally led a squad of joint security team to Forests in Okigwe area of the state, in search of the leaders and members of the Biafra Liberation Army that comprises of Black Marine often operating between Nigeria and Cameron borders, Biafra Resistance Fighters always operating within the Southeast states especially coordinating attacks against Nigeria security infrastructures within the connecting forests between Okigwe in Imo, Umunneochi/Ohafia in Abia, Afikpo/Ishiagu in Ebonyi, Ihiala in Anambra and Awgu in Enugu among other sub groups that are mostly commanded by Ifeanyichukwu Okpegbu Okoromenta Eze a.k.a Major General GentleDYahoo who hails from Aku community in Okigwe local government area that is currently witnessing mass killings in recent days, this, the Director General of the Department of State Services, DSS DG, Adeola Oluwatosin Ajayi was seen in Imo State on Tuesday after a video went viral, showing three young men suspected to be members of Biafra fighters shot dead at a close range by someone suspected and widely believed to be Major General GentleDYahoo who had accused the three young men of armed robbery, thus, he said the three young men who maybe in their twenties abandoned their duty posts and used their Biafra service guns to rob passengers by collecting their phones after the passengers' vehicle broke down on the road, the video elicited widespread condemnations against the Biafra commander, Major General GentleDYahoo who had vowed in some video press releases that he would always take action against any member of the Biafra fighters that involved himself in the act of robbery against certain members of the public like innocent civilians. #OsazuwaAkonedoBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/osazuwaakonedo--4980924/support.

David Parker Ray is believed to have tortured and killed more than 50 women inside his soundproof trailer – a trailer he referred to as his “toy box”.HOUR ONE: David Parker Ray is believed to have tortured and killed more than 50 women inside his soundproof trailer. A trailer he referred to as his “toy box”. (The Toy Box Killer) *** Two friends sipping soda and playing pool find the green table stained blood red, with no warning whatsoever. (Murder At The Pool Table) *** Malta, Italy is known for its splendid ruins, historical monuments, and ancient sites, but one of these places stands out; a mysterious underground complex that holds with in it many enigmas and oddities that remain unsolved to this day. (Malta's Cryptic Catacombs) *** Weirdo family member Robert Foster tells of a creepy incident that happened to him while working security at an army depot in Oregon. (The Phantom Truck) *** Imagine opening up the newspaper and reading this paragraph: “If anyone doubts this story in the least… they are reliable men who would under no circumstances lend their names to an untruth.” Newspapers just do not stand by their sources this unwaveringly, at least not anymore… and especially if the subject of the article is a haunted house. (The Ghost Told Them To Move)==========HOUR TWO: When you think of human sacrifice, you might picture Aztec or Mayan ceremonies, or maybe a Satanic cult standing in a pentagram with a naked woman on an altar – possibly even a volunteer. Personally, I picture Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom. While civilizations and groups such as these certainly did (and maybe still do) their share of brutal sacrificing, they are by no means the only ones that conducted death rituals. Some will most certainly surprise, and possibly disturb, you. (Sadistic Sacrificing of Souls) *** A shadow person is a humanoid figure that you perceive in a patch of shadow. Some believe that they are supernatural spirits or extra-dimensional beings. What are they? Paranormal researchers have a theory, neuroscientists have another theory. (Contact With a Shadow Man) *** An astronomy professor says we should begin focusing on space archaeology – starting with our own moon. Why? Well, he believes E.T. might have left a clue there of his existence. (Extraterrestrial Evidence on the Moon) *** Thousands of years ago, people were performing a form of surgery that involved boring holes through a person's skull. Why on earth would they do such a thing? (Trepanation: I Need That Like Another Hole In The Head) *** What Does It Mean To Dream About Aliens?==========SUDDEN DEATH OVERTIME: What if we were to discover there were aliens still living on the moon – and they were meddling in our affairs? How would you feel about that? Should extraterrestrials interfere in human affairs if they can help our society, or should we refuse that kind of leap in technology and medicine? (Should Aliens Interfere With Earthly Affairs?) *** Those who work nights are already in the creepy position of working what is called the “graveyard shift” - so you have to expect something to go wrong. If you are a security guard actively looking for something out of the ordinary during the graveyard shift, you know you're going to go home with stories to tell. (Tales of Graveyard Shift Security)==========SOURCES AND REFERENCES FROM TONIGHT'S SHOW:“What Does It Mean To Dream About Aliens” from Paranormality Magazine: https://weirddarkness.com/magazineBOOK: “The Secret War: The Heavens Speak of the Battle” by Heidi Holllis: https://amzn.to/3c0oeD7“Trepanation: I Need That Like Another Hole In The Head” by Robin Wylie for the BBC: https://tinyurl.com/yatx2ruu“Sadistic Sacrificing of Souls” by T.L. Perez for Ranker: https://tinyurl.com/y9noz4wz“Contact With a Shadow Man” by Stephen Wagner for Live About: https://tinyurl.com/y8j6j7qb“Extraterrestrial Evidence on the Moon” by Cynthia McKanzie for Message to Eagle: https://tinyurl.com/y86xeukz“Should Aliens Interfere With Earthly Affairs?” by Ellen Lloyd for Message to Eagle: https://tinyurl.com/y9yle3a6“The Toy Box Killer” by Christina Skelton: https://tinyurl.com/yafys82x“Murder At The Pool Table” by Robert Wilhelm for Murder By Gaslight: https://tinyurl.com/y3bzlff6“Malta's Cryptic Catacombs” by Brent Swancer for Mysterious Universe: https://tinyurl.com/ya9pa9je“Tales of Graveyard Shift Security” gathered by Bailey Brown for Ranker: https://tinyurl.com/ycyyuh3w“The Phantom Truck” by Weirdo family member Robert Foster“The Ghost Told Them To Move” from Strange Company: https://tinyurl.com/ycrke6qn==========Join the Weird Darkness Syndicate: https://weirddarkness.com//syndicateWeird Darkness theme by Alibi Music Library. 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Julie Dickerson joins co-host Carol Zernial and host Ron Aaron to talk about grief and supporting aging parents personally and professionally on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

Hi Stef, I've been wondering: If love is an "involuntary response to virtue," how can a parent love an infant? Can't animals display virtues, at least in a rudimentary fashion, as much as babies? ThanksI believe that individualism vs collectivism is the issue beneath all issues and that adopting a “content of character” mindset rather that a “judge by immutable characteristics” mindset, is the only peaceful and prosperous path forward for humanity. Most people are decent, and if we separated the world by decent people vs assholes there would be a lot less incentive to be assholes. Thoughts?Does philosophy come more naturally to honest people who are naturally attuned to the truth?Is it moral for a man to give his son a leg-up?- a good home with a loving mother- a virtuous example- a free college education- help with a home or business?Or is that unfair to another child from a poor and broken home?Can UPB define truth?i.e. it's the interpretation that could be useful to everyone.Do we have a moral duty to fight evil and pursue virtue?Are humans LLMs, with an extra mechanism on top ?Where does philosophy end and religion begin?What is more destructive: greed or jealousy

To what extent should we let Al 'think' for us? What are the myriad of ways we'll use it, in an attempt to make our lives easier? To do less work? Invest less energy? Use less brain power? And what might the potential ‘handing over of power, responsibility and work' do to our minds? Specifically, our cognitive function? Our resilience? Our mental and emotional health? Our memory? Our problem-solving skills? Our creativity? Personally, I don't think it's panic time, but it's definitely caution time. Awareness time. Kelly and I did a deep dive on this and lots more. Enjoy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hello Redlo Women! This episode is full of so many golden nuggets! Listen in if: You are a midlife womanYou are reinventing yourselfYou dream of starting a business but don't know where to startYou wonder how to show up onlineYou are curious about building a personal brand Brooke Moll is here to guide you forward as a coach and brand ambassador.Click here to Connect with Brooke on LinkedInConnect with Terri:Click here to connect with TerriClick here to get Terri's book, Step ForwardClick here to get on the waitlist for The Redlo Women CircleHave a question? Click here to submit it!Keep Stepping Forward!Terri❣️

In this episode of Personally Speaking, Msgr. Jim Lisante is joined by former professional basketball player Gordon Hayward. Gordon played for the NBA for 14 years, earning All-Star selection along the way before retiring in 2024. After a successful career with the Utah Jazz, Boston Celtics, Charlotte Hornets and Oklahoma City Thunder, Gordon decided to enter into full communion with the Catholic Church. Gordon talks about why he decided to become Catholic and what his faith means to him.Support the show

Anthony Albanese says he doesn't take Benjamin Netanyahu's attack personally... the productivity roundtable in Canberra talks better regulation around much-needed home construction...and Australia's best Indigenous netball talent gathers in Melbourne

LEARN HOW TO BE HARD TO CONVICT if you're ever compelled to use force in defense of yourself, your family, or your property. 100% FREE "Hard to Convict Webinar," taught PERSONALLY by me: lawofselfdefense.com/hardtoconvictIncreasingly, third-world migrants gracious accepted into our nation—or maliciously violating our national sovereignty—have begun to transition from gratitude for having achieved safety from their own third-world nations into arrogantly demanding that Americans subordinate their own culture to those of the migrants. Is this what Americans want for Americans? Is such immigration—legal or illegal—in America's interests? Do third-world immigrants magically become Thomas Jefferson when they step onto American soil?  Do we want America to become more like Mexico? Venezuela? Haiti? Djibouti? India? Pakistan? Is there an American exceptionalism worth saving from third-world invaders? The #1 guide for understanding when using force to protect yourself is legal. Now yours for FREE! Just pay the S&H for us to get it to you.➡️ Carry with confidence, knowing you are protected from predators AND predatory prosecutors➡️ Correct the common myths you may think are true but get people in trouble​➡️ Know you're getting the best with this abridged version of our best-selling 5-star Amazon-rated book that has been praised by many (including self-defense legends!) for its easy, entertaining, and informative style.​➡️ Many interesting, if sometimes heart-wrenching, true-life examplesGet Your Free Book: https://lawofselfdefense.com/getthebook

This week we turned to Psalm 126, a Song of Ascents:“The Lord has done great things for us, and we are glad… Those who sow in tears shall reap in joy.”These psalms were sung by worshippers on their way “up” to Jerusalem—pilgrim songs for people on the move with God. They remind us that following Him is both personal and communal, and it's a journey marked by steps: leaving behind distress, walking together in trust, and drawing near to His presence.Psalm 126 captures the beautiful tension of the spiritual life: joy for what God has done and longing for what He has not yet done. It invites us to hold both thankfulness and expectation at the same time. Personally, this means carrying gratitude while still trusting God for future promises. As a community, it means learning to hold space for one another—rejoicing with those who rejoice, and weeping with those who weep—without judgment, jealousy, or comparison.For more info, you can go to our website, check us out on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. If you would like to support STUDIO financially, you can do so here.Have a great week!

Do you really need a Roth IRA in retirement? Personally, I don't think so if you create a good income plan, so in today's episode, I share how a couple with $1.2m can generate tax-free income in retirement without any money in Roth IRAs.Other episodes or videos mentioned: Social Security Tax Video: https://youtu.be/fvrpISbRVak?si=g1qdLsCw-H9LMmYzTax-Gains Harvesting Video: https://youtu.be/7Qz0FD4XeN8

David Welch, Detroit Bureau Chief, Bloomberg joined Grayson Brulte on The Road to Autonomy podcast to discuss GM's renewed interest in autonomous vehicles.From robotaxis to personally owned autonomous vehicles, GM is once again preparing to enter the autonomous vehicle. This time in a initiative led by Chief Product Officer Sterling Anderson, GM is focusing on developing personally owned autonomous vehicles. Despite the shift in strategy, GM faces significant hurdles. The company must rebuild trust with the tech community to attract top talent after Cruise's high-profile failures. At the same time, the company continues to face intense competition from Tesla, whose rapidly advancing Full Self-Driving (FSD) system raises questions about whether GM can develop a competitive system in-house or if it will need to license technology from Waymo, Wayve, or Nuro.GM's return to autonomy opens the door to many questions. Questions that will only be answered in the years ahead.Episode Chapters0:00 GM Once Again Enters the Autonomy Market4:07 Can Sterling Anderson Revive GM's Autonomy Ambitions? 6:36 GM's “New” Autonomy System9:16 Super Cruise Subscription Revenue 10:37 Tesla13:48 Does GM Have to License?14:49 Rebuilding Trust18:26 Would GM ever do a Waymo Deal?20:04 Licensing + Data23:51 Timeline26:43 Pricing Autonomy32:41 Ford34:22 Where Does GM Ultimately Go?Recorded on Monday, August 10, 2025--------About The Road to AutonomyThe Road to Autonomy provides market intelligence and strategic advisory services to institutional investors and companies, delivering insights needed to stay ahead of emerging trends in the autonomy economy™. To learn more, say hello (at) roadtoautonomy.com.Sign up for This Week in The Autonomy Economy newsletter: https://www.roadtoautonomy.com/ae/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For the Glory KC is back with the 143rd episode of the show!Weather was top of mind in the two Kansas City versus Orlando matches as both games experienced three plus hour delays.Sporting Kansas City initially looked like they were going to keep some of the positive vibes from the San Diego game going when they had a solid first half against Orlando City. Then the second half happened. While the lightning delayed the game, the second half absolutely lacked electricity for Sporting KC.Personally, I think the tactical changes were all wrong and a lot of it went down to the substitution patterns and decisions. Maybe it was because all three center forwards started the game, so there were none to bring off the bench. However, it felt like it all centered around team captain Zorhan Bassong.As soon as Bassong was forced to move to left back for a fatigued Tim Leibold, everything fell apart. Sporting KC interim manager Kerry Zavagnin switched to a very conservative midfield by bringing on Nemanja Radoja and Jacob Bartlett and flipping into the 4-3-3 out of the team's second attempt at a 4-4-2. If the team wanted to push for a win, a back three likely shores up the defensive weaknesses and keeps Bassong and Jake Davis in the midfield together. It may not have worked, and hindsight is 20/20, but the decisions made were a disaster. Or maybe it was just the players inability to execute.If instead it was a back three of Jansen Miller, Alan Montes and Robert Voloder, the team could have gone much more attacking with the wingbacks and not ruined the defensive chemistry of that Bassong/Davis double pivot. Sheena and I weigh in on that, and a lot more from the 3-1 loss to Orlando.In the SKC round-up we have stories on Gianluca Busio, Latif Blessing, SKC II and a lot more.The KC Current had weather issues of their own on Saturday. As many pointed out when the schedule came out, a 3:00PM start time in August for the Orlando Pride match-up was never going to work. The league should have realized it wouldn't work far before they left fans sitting in the stadium for hours with updates every 15-minutes before a larger delay was announced.When the game was finally played, the product on the field suffered and KC broke their eight-game winning streak and earned their first draw of 2025. All while failing to score for the first time ever in CPKC Stadium. It's hard to maintain your homefield advantage when so many fans had left due to the heat.In the Digital Crawl, we hit on a few more topics, including:The US Open Cup Semifinals are setKC Comets legend Nacho Flores retiresAnd Premier League Mornings Live is coming to Kansas City!Here is a rundown of topics and start times:Sporting KC Collapse in Orlando - 2:38SKC Round-Up - 33:05Heat Ruins KC Current vs. the Pride - 47:55Digital Crawl - 1:02:48Upcoming GamesKC Current @ Portland Thorns, Sat. Aug. 23rd at 9:00PM CDTSKC II @ St. Louis City 2, Sun. Aug. 24th at 6:00PMSporting KC @ Seattle Sounders, Sun. Aug. 24th at 8:15PMAs a special gift to For the Glory KC listeners and KC Soccer Journal readers, Backheeled dot com is giving away 30 days of their amazing, independent American soccer coverage for free. If you decide you want to turn that into a paid membership, they'll give you 10 percent off too. Just follow this link!Big thanks to Splitter Conspiracy (listen to them here) for our theme music made with the permission of the KC Cauldron.

LEARN HOW TO BE HARD TO CONVICT if you're ever compelled to use force in defense of yourself, your family, or your property. 100% FREE "Hard to Convict Webinar," taught PERSONALLY by me: lawofselfdefense.com/hardtoconvictThis morning the great and powerful President Donald J. Trump directed his and America's attention against yet another great threat to our nation—specifically, the co-opted voting machines used in too many of our elections, and more generally the corruption of our electoral process that enables Democrats to illegitimately seize false power over us, co-opting our will as American citizens, and reducing American citizens to little more than tax serfs whose purpose is to facilitate the third-world invasion of our nation and to serve the personal and political ambitions of those Democrats who would be our feudal overlords. Sound dramatic enough? Well, dramatic or not, it's an accurate statement of our current situation.It's worth noting that our Founding Fathers responded matter more forcefully to rather less provocation—looking at you, Lexington and Concord.Join me as I break down this morning's Trump statement against corrupted voting machines, and illustrate how these machines are just another gear in the Progressive Fascist steam-punk era device to reduce Americans from citizens to servile shells of human beings. The #1 guide for understanding when using force to protect yourself is legal. Now yours for FREE! Just pay the S&H for us to get it to you.➡️ Carry with confidence, knowing you are protected from predators AND predatory prosecutors➡️ Correct the common myths you may think are true but get people in trouble​➡️ Know you're getting the best with this abridged version of our best-selling 5-star Amazon-rated book that has been praised by many (including self-defense legends!) for its easy, entertaining, and informative style.​➡️ Many interesting, if sometimes heart-wrenching, true-life examplesGet Your Free Book: https://lawofselfdefense.com/getthebook

"My name is Idiot." She's only four years old, but when police in Hot Springs, Arkansas responded to a report of child abuse, that's what she told them. The marks of abuse were all over her body. There were bruises everywhere, she had a black eye, she had scars on her back. Those will heal. But what about the names she's been called? So many times that she actually thinks "Idiot" is her name. But wait a minute! What about the names we've called people? Even people - maybe especially people - that we love. How many people we know carry invisible, but indelible scars from our own devastating words? It's not that we necessarily mean to hurt. We're just angry, or frustrated, or feeling unheard or ignored. As our emotions escalate, so do our words. And words are like bullets. Once they're fired, you just can't get them back. As the Bible says, "Reckless words pierce like a sword" (Proverbs 12:18). We all know that's true. We still feel the sting of the names we were called a long time ago, right? Even though the one who fired them at us has probably totally forgotten it. It's our children who are most damaged by our hurtful words, because children tend to become what we call them. Label them as "lazy" or "stupid" or "worthless" enough times, and it will stick. But then, so will "princess" or "smart" or "helper" or "fun." Of course, kids also store what they hear their parents call each other in those heated moments; giving them tacit permission to speak disrespectfully in their relationships, too. But family's not the only place our words leave wounds. Proverbs 18:21 says, "The tongue has the power of life and death" at school, at work, online, in all our close relationships. If people bled physically every time we wounded them verbally, I wonder what a trail we'd leave. I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Labeled for Life." God puts it this way, "The tongue is a world of evil…it sets the whole course of life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell" (James 3:6). Personally, that's one reason I know I need a personal Savior. I've found only one person strong enough to control that fire in me, and that is my death-crushing Jesus. He's that strong. King David was wise enough to know that we can't conquer this verbal monster without some supernatural intervention. Thus, his prayer should probably be somewhere that I can see it every day - maybe where you see it too. It's our word for today from the Word of God in Psalm 141:3 - "Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips." I'm thankful for the lasting imprint of something my wife told me years ago - and many times since: "Ron, don't ever forget the power of your words." I suspect a lot of us need that same reminder, huh? Because long after we've forgotten our "reckless words," the person we wounded may be carrying a long and lasting scar from them. What about all those names and putdowns that we ourselves carry from the scarring words of others? Well, I'm grateful that God has called me names, too: "God's workmanship" (Ephesians 2:10). Created "in His own image" (Genesis 1:27). God says, "My treasured possession" (Exodus 19:5). He calls us "The temple of the living God" (2 Corinthians 6:16). And then, "My sons and daughters" (2 Corinthians 6:18). And He says we are purchased by the blood of His Son (Revelation 5:9). If you've been beat down and you have thought you were worthless, you've got to take a trip up a hill called Golgotha (Skull Hill) and stand there at the foot of a cross where Jesus said you're worth dying for; for your sins so you could be with Him forever. Maybe you've never had that wonderful infusion of value and love that comes when you open your life to Jesus and you'd like to do that. Well take care of that right now. Tell Him, "Jesus, I am yours. Nobody loves me like you do." And if you'd like to know more about beginning this relationship, that's why our website's there. It's ANewStory.com. You know those people who've called you all those other things? They really didn't know who you are, who God says you are. So no one's name is "idiot." Not when God says, "You're my masterpiece."

Send us a textThis week's episode of The Renaissance Podcast looks a little different—Sydney steps back from the mic, and two incredible voices from the RMG team, Christina and Allie, step forward.They're sharing the employee perspective on leadership and workplace culture: ✨ How founders and entrepreneurs can support their team when life gets hard ✨ Creating a safe space where team members feel seen, heard, and valued ✨ Advocating for mental health in the workplace ✨ Building trust between employees and leaders ✨ Helping your team thrive, even when personal circumstances aren't idealThis conversation is honest, refreshing, and a must-listen for any leader who wants to foster a culture of empathy, trust, and resilience within their team.Support the showAbout The Host:Sydney Dozier, the visionary behind Renaissance Marketing Group, has been at the forefront of social media excellence since the agency's inception in 2014. Over the past 10 years, Sydney has cultivated a full-fledged team of social media aficionados and creative minds, elevating Renaissance to its current status as one of Nashville's premier agencies. With an extensive and diverse clientele, they've consistently delivered exceptional results. From coast to coast, Renaissance offers a comprehensive suite of services, spanning social media management, strategic guidance, content creation, paid digital advertising, email marketing, influencer partnerships, graphic design, branding, in-house professional photography and videography, and beyond. Their mission is simple: to drive optimal revenue and online growth while consistently surpassing client expectations. Beyond her role as a business maven, Sydney wears multiple hats. She hosts The Renaissance Podcast, an enlightening resource for entrepreneurs seeking to spark a modern-day Renaissance in their lives and businesses. Her passion for championing women in business gave rise to The Mona Lisa Foundation, a nonprofit organization committed to supporting and accelerating women entrepreneurs in Nashville through mentorship, grants, education, and a vibrant community. Sydney is also the driving force behind The Renaissance Women's Summit, an annual...

This week on the podcast we're diving into the trends uncovered in the July report authored by our own Alex Lockie documenting the rise of the so-called “non-domiciled CDL” in recent years in the U.S. It's a kind of license that many states can and do issue to those in the States from other countries and with temporary work authorization. If you haven't downloaded our report for yourself as of yet, it's available via this link: https://overdriveonline.com/15750917 Lockie painstakingly gathered non-domiciled CDL issuance data from most states in the nation, and put it all in a single, 20-plus-page report that's available now, even as federal officials work to begin and complete their own review of such CDL-issue practices. Context for it? As of but a year ago, very few around trucking had even heard the "non-domiciled CDL" term. That includes Raman Dhillon, head of the North American Punjabi Trucking Association, who tells his story in part in this episode. "I learned in the last seven, eight months or so" that such a license existed, he said. At once, as our own Alex Lockie reported in conversation with Dhillon in June, he could see the influx of people into trucking throughout the pandemic period, and continued issues on the CDL training front with fly-by-night schools rushing people into work behind the wheel: https://overdriveonline.com/15748790 The latter -- the inadequate CDL training issue -- is something he had personal experience with in years past, making it among principal issues for which he continues to advocates a fix. Personally, he's heartened to see the recent federal attention to CDL issuance practices broadly speaking, and non-domiciled CDL issuance in particular. "It's not only a trucking issue," as Dhillon has it. "It's a national security issue. A person crosses the border. Within a couple of months they get their work permit, and within the next month they get their [commercial] license." More time, more training, more vetting, he said, is certainly in order for all kinds of reasons. In the podcast, Dhillon walks back through his own experience immigrating to the U.S. in the early-1990s after his father drove truck in Indian military as he was growing up, through to establishing the Primelink Express trucking company with family and other close trucking associates, then the NAPTA association, in 2018, in the wake of advocacy ahead of the ELD mandate. NAPTA isn't just for Punjabi-Americans, though, as you'll hear. It's set up for any trucking company owner or operator with discount buying groups for fuel, tires, and other parts, likewise back-office support services and more. Dive into the story today with both Raman Dhillon and Overdrive Executive Editor Alex Lockie, who chronicles just how he came to author the 20-page report documenting non-domiciled CDL issuance in most states around the nation. If you haven't read the report yet, go give it a whirl: https://overdriveonline.com/15750917 As Alex Lockie puts it in the podcast, "i look at it as just kind of a factual framework," he said. "We have maps in the report. ... We have a detailed write-up of every single state and what they told me. Look at your state. See where your state is on this." You might just be surprised by what you find.

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Wispr Flow has transformed voice dictation from a frustrating novelty into a seamless productivity tool that users trust implicitly. With a recent $30 million Series A led by Menlo Ventures, the company has achieved remarkable product-market fit through 90% word-of-mouth growth and users who share the product organically without prompting. In this episode, I sat down with Tanay Kothari, CEO and Co-Founder of Wispr Flow, to learn about the company's pivot from hardware to software, their approach to manufacturing viral moments, and their strategy for competing against tech giants with distribution advantages. Topics Discussed: Wispr Flow's pivot from building voice assistant hardware to focusing on voice-to-text software The company's unique approach to achieving sub-half-second latency and exceptional accuracy Building viral growth through manufactured "aha moments" and exceptional user onboarding Competing against OpenAI and Apple through speed of execution and user experience focus The challenge of building for mainstream users beyond Silicon Valley's tech-savvy population Strategic decisions around cutting non-essential growth channels to maintain focus GTM Lessons For B2B Founders: Manufacture viral moments through obsessive user research: Tanay personally onboarded the first 500 users via Google Meet, watching their facial expressions, mouse movements, and emotional reactions in real-time. This intensive observation allowed him to identify and systematically reproduce moments of user delight. He explained, "Find the things that repeatedly create delight, make sure that never dies, and then find the other places where there's confusion and kind of take them out." B2B founders should invest heavily in understanding the micro-moments of user experience, as these compound into organic growth at scale. Leverage authentic product usage by your target buyers during fundraising: When Wispr Flow raised their Series A, every VC in Silicon Valley was already using the product daily. Tanay noted, "I didn't need to convince them about why the product was good. All I had to tell them about if you believe why Whisper is good today, here is where we can take the company." This eliminated the typical product demonstration phase and shifted conversations to vision and execution capability. B2B founders should prioritize getting their product into the hands of potential investors as users before ever pitching them as investors. Build anti-fragile technology that improves as the industry evolves: Rather than competing directly with AI model capabilities, Wispr Flow built infrastructure that gets better as underlying AI models improve. Tanay instructs his team: "If at some point that you feel afraid of a new model launching, you're doing something wrong." This philosophy led them to focus on latency, user experience, and integration rather than competing on raw AI performance. B2B founders in AI-adjacent spaces should identify where they can create value that compounds with industry improvements rather than being displaced by them. Cut aggressively to maintain focus during rapid growth: Despite conventional wisdom, Wispr Flow eliminated SEO efforts entirely because "no one is searching for voice dictation" and most people don't know the technology has reached usability thresholds. Tanay applies an extreme 80/20 rule: "You can cut the 80% of the things that are not giving you the results... You find a new 20% that's going to give you 80% more results and you can just keep doing that again and again." B2B founders should regularly audit their activities and ruthlessly eliminate even "best practices" that don't align with their specific growth dynamics. Design for mainstream adoption beyond early adopters: While most AI tools target Silicon Valley technologists, Tanay identified that 95% of the population represents the real market opportunity. He noted these users "end up being your most loyal users" because they have less churn and higher lifetime value than tech-savvy early adopters. B2B founders should resist the temptation to only build for sophisticated users and instead consider how their product works for less technically proficient buyers who may represent larger market segments.   //   Sponsors: Front Lines — We help B2B tech companies launch, manage, and grow podcasts that drive demand, awareness, and thought leadership. www.FrontLines.io The Global Talent Co. — We help tech startups find, vet, hire, pay, and retain amazing marketing talent that costs 50-70% less than the US & Europe.  www.GlobalTalent.co   //   Don't Miss: New Podcast Series — How I Hire Senior GTM leaders share the tactical hiring frameworks they use to build winning revenue teams. Hosted by Andy Mowat, who scaled 4 unicorns from $10M to $100M+ ARR and launched Whispered to help executives find their next role. Subscribe here: https://open.spotify.com/show/53yCHlPfLSMFimtv0riPyM 

In this powerful recap, Lesley and Brad reflect on Joy Hoover's inspiring interview about redefining women's safety through community and innovation. They highlight how Joy is working to change harmful narratives around victim shaming and help people recognize red flags before it's too late. From revolutionary tools for drink spiking prevention to bold leadership in gender-based violence advocacy, this episode is a call to rethink how we can band and protect one another.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How Joy Hoover is using innovation to revolutionize women's safety.Why collective action is more powerful than doing it alone.The real cost of gender-based violence and what we can do about it.The importance of storytelling and community in social impact work.Why listening to survivors is key to building safer communities.Episode References/Links:OPC Summer Tour - https://opc.me/tourUK Mullet Tour - https://opc.me/ukP.O.T. 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And I think like if we can all think about it differently, we can actually start to spot things and support people instead of going well, how did that happen to them? Lesley Logan 0:16  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:55  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the groundbreaking convo I had with Joy Hoover in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause this now and go listen to that one, or listen to this one and then listen to that one. You can do whatever order you want, but it's one you have to listen to. Brad Crowell 0:58  Whatever you want. Lesley Logan 1:00  I mean, I say it on all episodes, you got to go listen to it because, you know, we can only cover so much of what the guest said, but it's also like quite a unique, amazing thing. So Today is August 14th 2025 and it's got two things for you. I'm sure Brad want me to choose. I'm not going to do it. National, it's National Financial Awareness Day. So how much would you like to bet that most people don't know August 14th is National Financial Awareness Day?Brad Crowell 1:43  Well, it's about betting. They were being cute. I think it's cute. Lesley Logan 1:46  They still managed to say the date and the name. Brad Crowell 1:49  100% of the time they answer the question, they re-ask the question when answering the question always.Lesley Logan 1:54  It's more important than you think. And plus, what's more fun than financial independence?Brad Crowell 1:58  What is more fun? Yay. Skippy.Lesley Logan 2:01  Hey, you know what? Financial independence is literally the thing that, if you have you can do anything you want. You can leave any job, shitty relationship, shitty situation. Financial independence is like the thing. It's more, I think it's more important than just like, the ability to walk, you need to have financial independence.Brad Crowell 2:19  It's funny because it sounds silly, but at the same time, it's not something that anyone ever talks about. Like, no one, like, you're not taught this stuff at school. Right?Lesley Logan 2:32  Yeah, no, you're, no. I think I was taught to balance a checkbook, as if that did anything for me. But I like, I think about Tia Leving's episode. Brad Crowell 2:39  I have to say I was thinking about that.Lesley Logan 2:41  And I think about.Brad Crowell 2:42  If y'all don't remember, she was stuck in an abusive relationship where she had no control over the finances, and she couldn't leave, even though it was abusive, because if she did, she. Lesley Logan 2:52  Would lose her kids. Brad Crowell 2:54  She would lose her kids because she didn't have any money to support her kids. Lesley Logan 2:56  Yeah, this is where, like, a lot of people were like, oh, why don't they just leave? It goes back to, like, the Diddy stuff, oh they could have just left. No. When they're controlling your career, when they're controlling how where you live, and they're paying your rent and all these things, even if you think, oh, well, they did this. It was, there's, there's control, there's not financial independence, and if we have to teach that, even if the person's not abusive, because there's plenty of people who are partners, who are parents, who are bosses, who are non-abusive. Brad Crowell 3:03  Sure. Lesley Logan 3:05  But everybody deserves to have financial independence and financial awareness information so that they can make sure they're making the right decisions for themselves. And then they have options. You always have choices. Okay, back to why they want to educate us. So, first off, think about that great feeling you get when you don't have the looming spin specter of debt hanging over you. Also sound financial decisions can really make a difference down the road. Remember, retirement is a time to take all those vacations you couldn't when working the daily grind. I have so many problems with this day already, because you shouldn't wait for a retirement to take those vacations and don't let people tell you, debt is a big (inaudible).Brad Crowell 4:01  I was going to say the same thing, like, sure, debt can be looming, especially if it's like credit card debt that's keeping you bound. Lesley Logan 4:08  Yes, because they control you. Brad Crowell 4:09  Well, it's not just that. It's like, it's it's a it's oppressive to to moving forward because you're just paying the interest. But at the same time, like, I think my relationship with that changed when I became a business owner, because, you, you it's part of businesses also, you know, you can also have debt, and you can manage that debt without it destroying everything, so.Lesley Logan 4:30  And also, a good credit score is because you can show that you can manage debt. That's what it is. It's not being debt-free. It's managing debt. Which is which, yeah, okay, so there was good intentions with this day, anyways. Because money is important to our overall peace of mind, Financial Awareness Day is a great time to review where you are now and where you're going financially. Don't let bad financial decisions ruin the best years of your life.Brad Crowell 4:54  Okay, so we're just gonna stop reading this. But I think the points are still good. You know? I think, I think one thing that most, I'll tell you what I didn't do. I never reviewed my financial position. I didn't even know what that meant, right? I just knew that I needed to make enough money to get to the end of the month so that I could do it again, right? I never, like, stepped back and like was, was trying to look at like, oh, I have a car, the value of the car. Oh, I have a house, the value of the house, or, you know, whatever, like my, I have a savings account, or I have been putting money in my savings account. Do I have a plan? Never had a plan before, you know, the last couple of years and and now you can it's easy to get sidetracked from your plan. It's very easy to get sidetracked from your plan, unless you put things on an automated like your your money comes in, and then automatically, things happen at the end of the month. It's easy to forget to slide, you know, money over into your retirement fund, or whatever it might be, and you know, so what what you can do, which I think is really helpful, is to throw once a month review, you know, our just take a look at all the numbers. Take a look at it. Like, open up the credit card statement online, open up the bank account online, take a look at that. Like, log into your Social Security account. How weird is that to even say, does anybody do that? I do that. Okay. Lesley Logan 6:12  Yeah, I do it. I just don't I don't know, at this moment in time we're recording, I doubt we're gonna see any of it, but you should, I agree with you. Like, it's important to be aware of where all your accounts are, what's in all of them. Don't put your, don't be an ostrich. And also, like, please don't let the money stories of your parents or like, even your college years dictate like, what you think of yourself when it comes to money, because that attitude is not going to help you be it till you see it with financial success. Listen to our episode with wealth with Tess. That is the episode I want you to listen to if this day resonates with you. Okay, Love Your Bookshop Day. Of course, we talk about this becauseBrad Crowell 6:50  Tess's episode was 352. Lesley Logan 6:52  Wow. Brad Crowell 6:53  352Lesley Logan 6:54  So, Love Your Bookshop Day is celebrated every year, also on August 14th. It is a holiday that was founded by the Australian Booksellers Association. The aim is to appreciate bookshops around the country and highlight all the things that make local bookshops beneficial with an appreciation for books and encourages more people to read. Bookshops exist to serve the knowledge to the public, and that is a very important job. The more equipped bookshops are, the better quality of knowledge people can access to in a time when books are being ordered online, the local brick and mortar bookshop needs all the support it can get. You guys, they don't sponsor the show, but bookshop.org think that it's called, if you order your books through them, they send the money to support a local bookshop near you, and that if you want to have that online ease, but also support a local bookshop. I also like it's called a bookshop. So it's a bookstore. Anyways, go read a book. Go read, go read a book that's gonna, like, inspire you. Maybe I'll add a book (inaudible). Brad Crowell 7:47  Go sit in a bookshop, coffee shop. Lesley Logan 7:52  Oh my gosh. Have you been to the Writer's Block, babe? Brad Crowell 7:55  No, in Vegas? Lesley Logan 7:56  Yeah. Brad Crowell 7:56  Have not.Lesley Logan 7:57  Oh, they got a smoothie bar, coffee, a cat walk around. Don't take Bayon. Cats walking around the coffee shop. Maybe they have birds. I think it's a bird sanctuary, not cat sanctuary. Anyways, it is the coolest bookshop. And now listen to me, I'm gonna call it a bookshop my Australian accent, it's the coolest bookstore I've been to in a long time. But there's some other ones, and I actually want to start looking at some really cool bookstores when we start doing tours. Brad Crowell 8:19  It's a bird sanctuary. Lesley Logan 8:19  Yeah, bird sanctuary. You know how we like, we do vintage shops a lot. I think I want to switch that to, like, really cool bookstores, because there's some really cool bookstores out there. Okay, speaking of being on the road, we are on the road for a few more days, and so you can go to OPC.me/tour because I think you can get, if there's anything left, you can get to Idaho, Salt Lake or Las Vegas OPC.me/tour. Our winter tour will be announced in the fall, so stick around for that. Then we're home for a couple of weeks, and then, babe, we're headed to, where are we headed, in September, we're headed to the U.K. Brad Crowell 8:52  Yes, we're gonna, we're really fired up to be back to the U.K. and we actually have two stops we're doing this time. We're gonna be in Leeds and in Essex. So come join us. If you are in London. We actually set it up where you could be on a day pass with us.Lesley Logan 9:03  I think there's even all our workshops. So if you are someone who just wants to do one workshop now.Brad Crowell 9:07  Yeah, it might be. Go, go check it out. Go to opc.me/uk. We're going to be covering, it's mostly Pilates stuff. And then there's a couple of workshops. The workshops are skewed toward business, but they're not really business. It's like managing your calendar, that's managing, you know, how do you, how do you make an ideal schedule for yourself? And that, of course, can be used for business, but it's also you don't have to run a business to, you know, pull some benefits from that, and then, yeah, anyway, we can't wait to be back. It's gonna be awesome. In October, we're heading to Chicago. Lesley Logan 9:36  Yeah, there's Balanced Bodies, P.O.T. Chicago. And at the time of this record as this dropping, you can still get the early bird 10% off if there's any spots left. I do know that.Brad Crowell 9:46  Do you have a link for that? Lesley Logan 9:47  balancedbodypilates.com just like a P.O.T. Chicago and it comes up, like it kind of just comes up. But anyways, yeah, of course, it's a long link. However, when they emailed me last week, it was 75% sold out. So just so you know, don't wait on that. Then we're gonna go from Chicago to Cambodia.Brad Crowell 10:07  Directly, literally. Don't even go home. We just go straight through San Francisco to Cambodia. That's gonna be amazing. And basically, you know, we got, we still got room, and there's still time. It's only August. We're not going till October, right, so.Lesley Logan 10:20  Oh I know, people signed up for last one in December, we went. Brad Crowell 10:24  Six weeks ahead of time. Yeah. We had someone sign up six weeks ahead of time so. Lesley Logan 10:29  We had someone signed up two weeks ahead of time. Brad Crowell 10:29  Oh, it was only two. Lesley Logan 10:29  The last October, my mom's. Brad Crowell 10:31  Yeah, yeah, it was only two. Okay, yeah. So anyway, yeah, so it's possible there's still plenty of room come join us. It's gonna be amazing. And then, like, randomly, on the way home from Cambodia we're gonna be in Singapore.Lesley Logan 10:43  Yeah. So we're gonna see the Botanical Gardens, and we're working on teaching a gig. So you know, Singapore, Hi, we're coming. Brad Crowell 10:49  Yeah, we're coming. Lesley Logan 10:50  And then, of course, December is winter tour. We should be announcing all of that in the fall, so come October. But if you want to host with us, reach out. The team will help you fill out the forms. And if we're on the path this year, yay. And if we're not, we'll save you for another time. But don't, don't wait.Brad Crowell 11:06  Yeah that's going to be awesome. Before we get into this really interesting convo with Joy Hoover, also, like, scary-a-little-bit convo with Joy Hoover. From the statistics were like, mind blowing. I was like, What the hell. But before we get there, we got a question from Corinne_ca11 (aka Cori) from IG. She asks, hey, how many days a week do you recommend weight lifting in addition to your Pilates practice?Lesley Logan 11:34  Yeah, so here's okay. Brad Crowell 11:35  Great question. Lesley Logan 11:36  Great question. Personally, I lift weights three to four days a week and I do Pilates four to five days a week. Now, is that a scientific thing that you should be doing? I don't know. It's really works for my schedule. I particularly like an extra day of Pilates compared to my weight training, because I do feel like it keeps everything ready for the next one. Like weight training always makes my body feel a little bit heavy. I mean, of course, I feel great in it, and there's no knocks. Like, I believe every woman does need to lift some weights, but my body feels heavy. And so Pilates kind of like opens everything back up and readies it for the next time. And that's why I like it. But I will say, depending on what your goals are, you definitely, from what I've heard or what I've read, everyone should be lifting weights, two, three days a week, and then I believe Pilates should be done three to four days a week. And that doesn't mean hour long sessions, doesn't have to be, the amount of minutes is not as important as the consistency and the quality of the movement. So three quality reps over 10 is always better than it comes to Pilates, and that's just my opinion, but I particularly really like it, and I will we're actually we taught in Santa Barbara a workshop on mat Pilates for strength training, people who strength train. And I actually taught everyone there how to do a 20, 15-minute workout with 20 Pilates mat exercises that will benefit anyone who lifts weights. And you can literally do it after you lift all your weights at the gym, or you could do it before, or you could do it on your off days, or you could do it under your zone two as a way to, kind of like, stretch and move everything around. It's 15 minutes full body workout. It will absolutely improve your form and the results you're getting with your strength training. You can actually take a version of that workshop at fullbodyin15.com. Brad Crowell 13:17  Yeah, fullbodyin15.com love that, by the way, that's free. Lesley Logan 13:21  It's free. Brad Crowell 13:22  And it'll help you learn the five major spine shapes in Pilates and create that 15-minute workout. So definitely dig in there. Great question, Cori, thanks for that. If you have a question, text us at 310-905-5534 or because who can remember those phone numbers? Go to beitpod.com/questions beitpod.com/questions. Stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into this convo with Joy Hoover. Brad Crowell 13:49  Okay, now let's talk about Joy Hoover, who's our neighbor, by the way, temporarily, which is kind of cool. After experiencing a devastating family tragedy in 2013, Joy Hoover dedicated herself for 15 years in Vegas to improving women's safety, anti-trafficking and fighting gender-based violence. She founded the nonprofit Cupcake Girls, which y'all probably know because we support them with Profitable Pilates. And she later launched Esōes Cosmetics, pronounced SOS. It's spelled E-S-O-E-S the world's first patented smart lipstick featuring built-in drink testing strips and a panic button that is linked to a safety app. Her work has supported over 10,000 survivors and earned multiple awards and national media recognition. And it's quite, it's quite, quite clever. Lesley Logan 14:40  You know what's funny is we just recapped David Corbin, and you met Joy at the same exact event. Brad Crowell 14:46  David. Lesley Logan 14:48  Is that the same we just interviewed? Brad Crowell 14:50  Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Lesley Logan 14:51  You met them both at the same event.Brad Crowell 14:52  So yes, David, I did. I actually had lunch with Joy, or I sat at a table withJoy. Yeah, it was lunch. And then David was the after the event was over. You're right. What a great event that was.Lesley Logan 15:03  Yeah. And it's funny, because I didn't interview them near each other, but they're coming out next to each other, so that's hilarious. So we talked. I mean, first, I just want to say that, like, if you haven't yet listened to this episode and you there is, like, violent talk in there. There are some topics that could be triggering or activating in some people. So do take caution when you listen to it, but I do think it's really important to listen to because, I wanna highlight a couple parts of her story that have nothing to do. Well, they have a lot to do with all the things, but like, you can see yourself in those stories. So when she and her husband had their first kid, his dad killed his mom, and they just had a baby. And so can you imagine being new parents and then, like, dealing with, like, the, not just the loss of parent, but like.Brad Crowell 15:49  I think she said that their daughter was, like, eight days old and they had to fly across the country to handle that. Lesley Logan 15:51  I mean, of course, so tragic, but for them to figure out, for them to not let that define them, but instead allow them to create a, carve a path that could help them, use their story to support other people with different stories in them is really, really cool. And I think a lot of times we have these tragic things happen in our lives, and they become the story we tell ourselves that's held us back. Oh, I've lost seven people in my life. Oh, this happened, and I don't want to discount those things. Those are especially like, when you have abuse like that, ends in that way it is. It's devastating. But, I do think that, like. Brad Crowell 16:27  She said it was happening for like, 40 years. Lesley Logan 16:30  Yeah, and that's like, that's really hard to grow up around, to experience, to like, to have relationships and other things. And so I just want to say, like, I think that their their story and other people's stories that are similar, where they persevered through that. It kind of it, it changed who they are as parents and also how they raise their children, but also how they see other people. Because I think it's so easy to judge, like, why didn't she leave? Or why, like, we talked about this earlier with the financial stuff, like, Why didn't this? And it's like some of this stuff has been going on for so long, you know, you don't think it will ever turn to something that bad, right? So, and then the other thing that I want to highlight that happened to them as they started SOS, really cool company. Invest their life savings to, like, make this product, it's going to help.Brad Crowell 17:15  Raise money, like, had friends and family help support.Lesley Logan 17:17  It's gonna help people who, who need, access to support wherever they are, and obviously women, this is what the product is for. But we all need this. It can be helpful for anybody, but they had a fire like a freak electrical situation in their roof. First of all, the product helped get the fire department there. You have to listen to the story. It's insane. Brad Crowell 17:38  Faster than calling 911. Lesley Logan 17:39  Yes, faster than calling 911, this product, they were able to press the panic button and get the fire department there, which the fire department said, if they had, any, any minute later, they would have lost the whole house. So they got to keep the framework. Anyways, there's a lot going on there, but they lost all the product. Yeah, however, because they had to start from scratch, and they already had customers, and they'd already been going through it. They use it as an opportunity to make it even better. And I share this because, like, so many times, like.Brad Crowell 18:09  I mean, how do how deflating would that be that not only do you lose your house, but all your business at the exact same time. Lesley Logan 18:16  I mean, I don't even know how you just go get a job at Costco. Like, I don't even know how you go let me do this again. Brad Crowell 18:20  Let me start over. Lesley Logan 18:21  I, like, buy.Brad Crowell 18:22  After everything burned down. Lesley Logan 18:23  While I'm not living in my own home. Like, let me just start this over while like, all, that's what, I'm not gonna lie, like, I think I seriously would have got a job at Costco because I could get my steps in. You know, I hear good things. The hot dogs are $1.50 like, you know, like, I would have just, like, packed it in, but instead, they use it as an opportunity to make the product even better. Aand I think, as a business owner or someone who's working on a new project like we think we have to get it right from the first time, the first start, the first the first iteration has to be the best one. And actually, like most people's first ones are not the one that go like, not the one that goes to market. In fact, we have. Brad Crowell 19:01  How many websites have we rebuilt? Lesley Logan 19:03  Don't tell me. Don't tell me. But you know what? Even our mat deck, right? Like we have changed the mat deck, our Mat Flashcard Deck, because we put it out there, we sold 3000 decks, and then we printed a new version of it, because we've all the feedback we got. And then also how we know other people use the other decks? Ken Endelman said that, you know, Joe Pilates, a lot of his sketches and his patents that he sent in, and not really sent in, but he pretended like he did, those are not things he went to market with. He's like, you don't usually go to market with the first one. Like, you use that to get the patent, but that's not what what you go to market with. And so I think, like. Brad Crowell 19:38  I mean, even now, we've just made another change to the flashcard deck boxes, you know, like, like, like it. Because every time we learn something new, we're like, oh, we need to add that on, or we need to do this, or we should adjust this, or whatever. Lesley Logan 19:53  Oh, yeah, we have to made in the USA, on our boxes. Brad Crowell 19:55  How do we how do we miss that? Five years, we never, we were never (inaudible). Lesley Logan 19:58  Clearly, it wasn't like, I remember my dad, like, going, does it say made in the USA? No, you can't have it. So I don't even know how, like, I'd skipped my brain. We were printing it, but apparently it's a thing. Anyways, I just point this out, because even if you don't think the topic applies to you, you think, oh, I'm not going off having first dates, or I'm not, like, I'm not interested in this, every single one of us is going to do a first again? And then get frustrated because it didn't work. And honestly, it's because you're supposed to, you're supposed to go with the second thing or the third iteration. Brad Crowell 20:30  Yeah. I mean, there's also the tech. The tech part of the of it, it is proximity, or like, as well. So if somebody else in a room, if you are on the app and someone else in the room pushes the button, you will get notified as well. So like, you know, might not necessarily be you personally, who might be in that scenario, but it could be that you're in the proximity of someone who needs help. So, just interesting. Lesley Logan 20:53  Yeah, and this is, like, we're, we're like, you know, we can be, we always think we want it. We can be an alert for other people, but it's hard to be an alert when you can't see the signs, like we've talked about, like somebody like choking, you can see actual signs. They are choking. They need help. But when someone feels unsafe on a date or at a meeting or, you know, or walking down the street, you can't tell oftentimes that they feel unsafe. And this is a very discreet way, a very discreet tech that allows them to say, I'm not safe, and other people to be able to be witnesses or support in that, in that, yeah, so I think it's really cool.Brad Crowell 21:26  Yeah, definitely, you know, like a lot, like a lot going on there, you know, I think I have something else I wanted to talk about, but just the fact, first off, how the hell is it possible that they build a relationship with the emergency services, where pressing a button on a lipstick container would get the fire department to her house faster than calling nine fucking one one, like, what? How did they? How did they do that? I didn't even know that I didn't even know how that's possible. Lesley Logan 21:52  (inaudible) want to know. But obviously, like that might be like, you know, confidential information is I want people to know, not because, like, you know, like, maybe they're not allowed to say, maybe it's an NDA. But no, we called 911, and got put on hold.Brad Crowell 22:05  What? But it also makes you realize that there are, like, clearly, there are systems that can be tapped into, and they were able to figure that out. I didn't even know that that was a thing. Like, I would have imagined.Lesley Logan 22:19  It makes me think of what's the Italian Job where Seth Green's character is like, tapping into, like the yeah napster is like tapping into like the red lights up. That's a red light. That's a green light. Like, clearly, there's.Brad Crowell 22:32  Sorry, I won't start until you address me as Napster.Lesley Logan 22:34  Yeah, yeah, yeah. There's clearly, like, something. But I also just want to say, like, if you haven't yet listened to the episode, you want to listen to it so you could understand what the product is, and you can also see it on our YouTube channel. It's quite cool, and I think, an excellent gift for every woman in your life, even if they're married, it's you, you, because she talks about using it for like a kid she saw on the street. Brad Crowell 22:55  So yeah, she said, yeah. She and and her husband saw a kid with no shoes in Vegas, which walking down a sidewalk or whatever, and she's like, there's something wrong here clearly, you know, so, but, but, yeah, I mean, it's, anyway, the tech part is fascinating and really, really fancy. And then, of course, they have, it's lipstick, so presumably they will have different colors at some point. Lesley Logan 23:19  Yeah, there's a whole thing. It's, I mean, she's done a great job. Brad Crowell 23:22  And then, but anyway, you know, she was talking about blame culture, oh yeah. And she was talking about how there's a crazy number of people who've experienced drink spiking where, you know, I was looking up a bunch of stats, and, like, like, at very least 10% of women have reported it saying, like, I either have my drink spiked, or I saw someone spike someone else's drink. Lesley Logan 23:44  It's also, I think the number is so high because, like (inaudible). Brad Crowell 23:50  Well, that's, that's only, that's only, like people who have actually reported it, you know. And then there's, there's polling that has happened where you know it's, it's not, that's not necessarily reported to, like, it's a poll. Lesley Logan 24:00  Well, can you imagine if nothing, or you don't know if anything happened to you? Like, I have just in all the podcasts I listen to, like, people have called the cops and the cops are like. Brad Crowell 24:10  Don't do shit. Lesley Logan 24:11  Don't do fucking shit. And don't I'm not, like, I'm not against police, guys. What I am against is this culture of, like, not believing women, and it goes to this blame stuff. Like, what were you wearing? What were you doing? You know, like, if you're.Brad Crowell 24:23  Or it's like, did they, did they threaten you? You know, like, I guess maybe I don't know what the actually, this is interesting. If you, if you know, what do you need to say to get them to pay attention? That would be something that'd be worth finding. I don't know the answer to that. I mean, just, there's a there's a.Brad Crowell 24:43  Well, because here's like, I, my personal experience was I had somebody threaten me when I was living in L.A. right, and I was afraid, and I didn't know what to do, so I called the police, and it wasn't an emergency. He wasn't like, he wasn't at my door. But I called them, and I said, hey, I I don't know what to do here, but, like, this guy's threatened me, and he's he might be on his way over right now. I don't. know what to do. And they were like, did he threaten to kill you? And I was like, he didn't say, I'm going to kill you. And they were like, we're not going to do anything. And I was like, what? Like, he's, he's making me feel like I'm in trouble.Lesley Logan 25:11  Well, I just listened to, it was just, I was listening to, like, a Dateline or something like that. And they brought up the story about this woman, Denise, who was kidnapped from her home, and then, like, taken away for several days, and then, and then told not to tell anyone. And they called her the American Gone Girl, like the real life Gone Girl. They didn't believe her boyfriend. They said he must have done it. He must, must have done it. They didn't believe her. They tried to charge her with a crime. They just said that they, like, wasted the police time. Then come to find out, two other victims called separate police departments to claim the same thing, and those police departments didn't believe them. Why would anyone do that? Like, didn't believe them. So I am with you. Like, we don't we need to know. What do cops need to hear so they actually believe what you're saying. But also, like, I think it just goes.Brad Crowell 25:53  Like, it's a common experience among survivors is that they're like, I wasn't believed, right, and, and, like, the the number of people who, in polling have to have have said, hey, yes, I've experienced drink spiking, is like, could be, like, super high. It could be as high as one in two women. Right? And anyway, like when you put it all together, there's clearly a problem. It's fucked up, that there's a problem, but there is a problem, right? And then when women aren't believed, you know, and it doesn't actually just have to be women having their drink spiked. Anybody can have their drink spiked. Lesley Logan 26:28  I listen to the podcast Bad Dates, many men get their drinks spiked. Brad Crowell 26:31  Yeah, when, when if it's reported and it's not believed, what does that teach the person who reported it? Yeah, that they're they're not going to try to even report it next time. What's the point is what they're going to say. Lesley Logan 26:43  And that's what puts you people in not so great situations, where by the time something does happen, it's a little too late to get help. But I think, like, what, you know, she talked a little bit like changing, changing the shift of of shame from the survivor, from the survivor to the perpetrator, and making that the focus. And I think when you use a product like they have, or you educate women in an or man in this way of like, what? What does it mean to like it's not your fault. It really is is more empowering because now you, especially like, so many people are have fear about like, well, what goes what if something goes wrong on the date? What happens if something goes wrong in the interview? What if something goes wrong at the house showing like, we can take some of the fear away and put some control back in the hands of the person who might be might become a victim of something, and we can hopefully stop that or mitigate that.Brad Crowell 27:32  Yeah, and obviously, you know, Joy and her company are very aware of all of the stigma, so they've been intentional about their names of their products. Like, one of them is called We Believe You, It's Not The Dress, you know, like, like, stuff like that, which speak directly to the problem, the real problem, which is the blame game.Lesley Logan 27:54  Yeah, yeah. I just think it's like, you know, unfortunately, we're recording this, like, right after, like, some of the Diddy trials and Weinstein's retrial, and, like, it starts to make you think that, like, the Me Too movement, kind of, like, didn't, didn't have the effect that we thought it would have, and women aren't being believed as much or, or the blame is on them for putting themselves in the situations. And I think, like, if we can all think about it differently, we can actually start to spot things and support people, instead of going, well, how did that happen to them? Like with a judgment, it can, things can happen to anybody at any time in this world. And since we can't actually stop these perpetrators because we don't know who they are, what we can all do is band together and be part of a support system, of of being there for people, whether we know them or not, and just being a safety for them, and also not assuming it's what they wore or what they did at a certain time, or why would you be on that street, like all that stuff is unhelpful and.Brad Crowell 28:54  Doesn't solve the problem anyway. Lesley Logan 28:55  No, doesn't, doesn't. So, anyways, we can get our high horse on this forever. But I do love what Joy is doing, and I think this product is really cool. Brad Crowell 29:03  Yeah. And also, you know, driven by a clear problem that needs a solution. And, you know, it's just really, really clever. And you know, if you see, if you actually go look at the lipstick, it's pretty innocuous. You wouldn't act there's no like, press here, like Acme button kind of a thing. It's, it's quick, easy and then what, what I thought was also cool is you can set it so that, if I think there's settings, if you click it once, you can alert one person. If you click it twice, you can alert a different person.Lesley Logan 29:34  Yeah, you can set up the different things in the app for what you do. And one of our neighbors, you know, her daughter was going off to EDC. Daughter's 19 years old, going to EDC, and of course, the mom wants her daughter to go to EDC, like you should experience festivals when you're 19. She had this product, and she had a Narcan, a Narcan thing so she could be there in case someone needed it, right, like Narcan for somebody who's overdosing, but she had this product to make sure that her own stuff was safe. And that she could be safe so she could enjoy herself and be at EDC. You know, I love, for a 19 year to live in a place where she could just go to a festival and be fine. We don't live in that world. So I love that she was empowered to have a good time and also take care of herself and her friends. Brad Crowell 30:19  That's really cool. That's cool. All right. Well, stick around. We'll be right back, because Joy gave us a couple of really amazing Be It Action Items. We're going to dig into those. Brad Crowell 30:19  All right, welcome back. So finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Joy Hoover? She said, hold space for yourself. This came from her conversation around the collective trauma that she and her husband and, you know, daughter experience when her daughter was only eight, but with her in laws, right? And she said, immediately after it happened, they started to get therapy as a as a couple, and they've maintained, you know, therapy since, and that was 2013, so it's been a while, right? And she said, prioritizing your healing, it puts you in a position to help others without inadvertently hurting them, right? Like she said, she's and the call out here was, you have to heal yourself first. You can't heal the heal the world if you're not healing yourself first, right? And she said something very intention. She said it was it's not about your intention, right? It's about your impact. And you could have the intention of helping people, but actually be hurting them. So you need to heal yourself first before you're going on to support others in that kind of a way. She said, also, it's not selfish. It's she said, it is selfish to not heal yourself first. It's not selfish to take care of yourself. It's selfish if you don't take care of yourself. Lesley Logan 31:53  I mean now I love this. Brad Crowell 31:55  Yeah, and this is, like, obviously, right up our alley, you know? And.Lesley Logan 32:00  Do you know what I read the other day in it, in my own My Morning reads, And I am like, now preaching it, because I always say, like, self-care isn't selfish care, right? So self-care is actually an act of self-love. And if you do not love yourself, you actually cannot love other people. Can't. You can feel like you're loving on them and supporting them and liking them, but like, you actually can't truly love others because you don't love yourself. And the hatred and vitriol we're seeing in this world today, online, and in other places, is just because a bunch of people don't love themselves. And we're like, the world needs love. Gotta love yourself first. Cannot just like, go out you can't just spread yourself thin. And I think that that act of therapy, an act of self-love, it's an act of self-care. It's very important. It's not selfish. You're right. Brad Crowell 32:45  Yeah. What about you? Lesley Logan 32:44  Okay, so she said she encouraged us all to join the Swipe Red movement. The core slogan of the movement is, "No more shame, no more doubt. We see red flags, we call them out." And so you can contribute to the community awareness if you just go to Esōes Cosmetics, and that's at esoescosmetics.com and it provides platforms for community engagement. You can submit experiences you had so others can recognize and respond to similar threats. I think that's really important, because sometimes you have not experienced a red flag, but if you hear about other people's, you go, oh, and then you can see the signs. Brad Crowell 33:10  You know, it's funny, because it, I get a weekly email forwarded from my mom who gets notifications from her company about cybersecurity threats, right? And what people have done to trick other people into giving away information that eventually could hurt them, right? And so it's the same idea here. You know this, the community platform that they've put together is a way to just become more educated and be aware. So I love that. Lesley Logan 33:53  And also, in that community, you can ask for guidance on your own red flags. You can submit a question to inquire the situation the minor ick or a significant red flag. Here's the thing, I love this because, you know, 12 years ago, my therapist was like, Yeah, miss, you ignored the red flags in your relationship. So you need to go back into your memory box about those first dates and what flags did you ignore that were red so that you can spot them as you date. And then you have to practice like, how red is this flag? Is this an orange flag? Is it a yellow flag? What kind of flag is this? And I love this because you don't have to do it by yourself. You could do with other people. You could help you can use other people's red flags to help you. So I think it's really cool. I think it's cool. And what a unique Be It Action Item. So, I'm in. Really cool. I hope everyone goes and checks this out again. Like it can be a great gift for a woman in your life or a person in your life, but also, just like to be aware of what's going on. It's so easy for us to think it won't happen to us, and this stuff, you know, like, some people, I've heard people go, oh, I'm too old for that. Like it won't happen to me. And like, I worry the fuck out of like, my mom and women her age who are dating. I'm like, like, no, there are things that can happen to you. I remember my 80 year old clients, like, I can't get pregnant. I'm like, yeah, but you can get crabs, babe. Like, what? You can't just feel like life's good now I don't have anything to worry about. No, bad things happen to good people. You have to be aware. So, thanks, Joy for what you're doing. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 35:16  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 35:17  How are you going to use these tips in your life? Please let us know. Let Joy Hoover at Esōes Cosmetics know, let the Be It Pod know. Share this with a friend who needs to hear it. I think it's a great episode to share with a friend. Yes, there's some information that could be hard to listen to, but I think it's really important. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 35:35  Bye for now. Lesley Logan 35:35  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 36:19  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 36:24  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 36:29  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 36:36  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 36:39  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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In this episode of Personally Speaking, Msgr. Jim Lisante is joined by Christopher White. Until recently, Chris was the Vatican correspondent for the“National Catholic Reporter” and his award winning coverage took him to more than two dozen countries with Pope Francis. Just six weeks after the election of the new pope, NBC Vatican correspondent Christopher White has written a book about the pontiff titled, “Pope Leo XIV: Inside the Conclave and the Dawn of a New Papacy”. He talks about Pope Francis and Pope Leo giving insight to the papacy.Support the show

Double Tap Episode 422 This episode of Double Tap is brought to you by: Die Free Co., XTech Tactical, Night Fision, Blue Alpha, Rost Martin, Swampfox Optics and Bowers Group   Welcome to Double Tap, episode 422! Your hosts tonight are Jeremy Pozderac, Aaron Krieger, Nick Lynch, and me Shawn Herrin, welcome to the show! Winner of the cigar pack is Fucking Bill. - Dear WLS Kilo Meter - If I see a gun in Dealbro should I take that as an endorsement that it is good? Also, should I assume all those sites are good to go? Juan Ench-Johnson - "If yall were to go back in time and purchase your first gun again, what would you do differently. Personally my first purchase was a Kimber and I was back and forth between that and an HK P30L. I had issues with the Kimber and would probably still have the HK today if I had made that choice initially. Is there anything yall would change?" Mark B - I'm looking to purchase a Browning Hi Power clone in 9mm. A real Hi Power would be nice, but they are expensive for nice ones or are rough surplus models. Leaning toward the Springfield SA-35, but I know there are cheaper Turkish made clones. Do you have any experience with or a recommendation for a Hi Power clone? Alex W - Hey, y'all. I've seen videos of people shooting through their front door from the inside when someone is trying to break it down to force entry into the house. What are your thoughts on this? And I'm not talking about someone standing there knocking aggressively. I mean, if they're actually trying to break the door open. Would you go ahead and shoot? Or would you hold fire until they actually forced the door open? Jason S - I got a Riley defense rak308. My 1st time shooting it i was using winchester white box m80 7.62x51 and i was getting popped primers and and buldged primers. Riley defense said it was from using 7.62x51 and not 308. i didn't have any other ammo and haven't had a chance to shoot 308 ammo yet. I put a hyperfire trigger hammer and hammer spring in it. I'm just wondering if it's the ammo or something with the rifle? Joe J - What is a good flashlight that won't come on in my pocket? I anm getting tire on the end cap button getting pushed and running my battery dead. If y'all ever come to SD, hmu. Readem Anweep - I recently purchased Sixguns by Elmer Keith after discussing shooting text in the Cult Discord chat. This reprint of the 1955 "Standard Reference Work" came to me in hard back, smelling of my old college textbooks and filled with pictures to help those who cannot yet read. This book has been fantastic to read through and made me wonder what physical media the cast recommends to have in your Library of End Times? I will keep this to firearm related as we all know a shelf full of Dungeon Crawler Carl and Tom Stranger will keep many cold nights warm. But what would the cast of WLS suggest to create a firearm library before all the yootoob influencers tell us the SIG p320 is the best gun of all time. #WLSISLIFE   The winner of this week's swag pack is Joe J! To win your own, go to welikeshooting.com/dashboard and submit a question!   Gun Industry News Wyoming's New Shooting Complex Near Cody Wyoming is finalizing plans for a major shooting complex near Cody, covering over 2,000 acres and featuring various shooting ranges. Groundbreaking is expected in 2025, with a soft opening in 2026. The facility aims to enhance shooting opportunities in the area and may inspire similar developments in other states. CZ 600+: A Versatile Precision Bolt-Action Rifle CZ has launched the CZ 600+ bolt-action rifle series, designed for precision and versatility, featuring a modular design with innovations such as an adjustable trigger and interchangeable barrel system. The series aims to enhance performance for various shooting disciplines and is expected to attract interest within the...

If you have an insecure attachment style, a simple “no” can feel like rejection—triggering worst-case-scenario thinking and sending your nervous system into overdrive. In this episode, we'll reframe “no” as redirection, explore why it's often the best thing for both parties, and talk about how to stop taking it personally. You'll learn how to update your beliefs about boundaries, make space for uncomfortable feelings, and free yourself from people-pleasing overload.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you're interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I'd love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you're on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

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Today's podcast guest is James Dupré, a Bayou Chicot native with a voice that's earned him national attention on The Voice, The Ellen Show, and CBS Sunday Morning. He's currently touring as the lead vocalist on the More Life Tour, performing all of Randy Travis's greatest hits alongside Randy's original band. Personally chosen by Randy and Mary Travis, James was instrumental in the creation of the AI-assisted track “Where That Came From,” marking Randy's first new release in over a decade. From small-town beginnings to center stage at the Grand Ole Opry, James is carrying the country music torch in a way that's both fresh and rooted in tradition.Webiste: https://www.jamesdupre.com⸻

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A study conducted by the Harvard Graduate School of Education discovered that 58% of young adults claim their mental health is being negatively impacted due to a lack of meaning or purpose in life.   Personally, I remember feelings I had in my 20s when I achieved my only goal of becoming a CPA. In that ... The post The Purpose of Youth appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

Personally, if someone showed me what I'm about to show you, I would not believe them. I would immediately say, “No way! What's the catch???”. As much as it would disappoint me for you not to consider what I talk about in this week's episode of the podcast, I'd truly understand. If you are looking for a way to create some crazy return on investments (“ROI's”) in your monetary world, then you need to do what I'm doing! None of this is a Holy Grail or “get rich quick”. None of this is easy. But the math is the math and when you see how all the numbers fit together, I think the strategy is something worth seriously considering. If you are a day trader who wants to keep your risk to a minimum while truly opening up the world of upside potential, then this is a discussion you won't want to miss! Let's get to it!

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As usual, AI slop shownotes. They're all about 30 seconds off due to theme music. Enjoy! The Jacks start in Hong Kong's downpour before unpacking Tasmania's post‑election arithmetic and a machete “amnesty” with bins outside cop shops. They wade through protests, policing, and the far‑right's antics, then dig into the Gareth Ward case and the thorny politics of expulsion. There's a sharp turn into AI copyright fights, family life vs screens, and a listener letter on pilot mental health.Mid‑show is a deep dive on ME/CFS's genetic breakthrough, then a long, unsentimental look at Gaza, Hamas, ceasefires, and who could plausibly govern anything next. Stateside, Tulsi, Brennan, Mueller, and the Epstein files swirl together with youth‑vote and gerrymander chat. They close with sport: Wallabies' best fortnight in ages, a cracking England–India Test, Ashes nerves, AFL chaos at Melbourne, and a quick NRL/Swans CEO note—before ending on a Trader Joe's chicken funeral and a cheeky Ozempic joke.Chapters00:00:00 — Hong Kong's black rainTriple black rain signals; ~300mm in a day at Mid‑Levels.City empties as people stay home; flood photos doing the rounds.00:01:36 — Tasmania's numbers gamePremier commissioned without a majority; Greens won't move no‑confidence.Governor Barbara Baker's “test it on the floor” remark and what's in scope.Labor/Greens maths; low appetite for another poll, but conditions exist.00:05:49 — Bins for blades: the machete “amnesty”Drop‑off slots outside police stations; comparison to firearms amnesties.Media flurries vs actual incident data; last big cluster months ago.00:07:21 — Protests, policing, and the far‑rightSydney Bridge March crowd size; VIPs photographed with Khamenei backdrop.Nazis on Parliament steps in balaclavas; state‑by‑state policing contrasts.Flags, chants, and where police draw the line on intervention.00:14:18 — The Gareth Ward messConviction details; bail, incarceration, and expulsion difficulty.Kiama re‑election as an independent, salary while imprisoned.Appeals, precedent, and public disgust.00:20:20 — Farewells and AI fightsDavid Dale and Col Joy remembered.Productivity Commission's AI stance; artists vs scraping; Zuckerberg's book haul.Peter Garrett's industry savvy; JP Morgan's internal AI rollout.00:26:16 — Kids, screens, and breakfastThe great iPad panic; why we don't judge strangers' mornings.Family meals are good; mind your own business is better.00:28:23 — Mailbag: pilots and mental healthFAA caution vs counselling stigma; past “deliberate crash” cases.Policy that pushes people away from help is bad policy.00:31:10 — ME/CFS: genetics change the storyDecodeME links to immune and nervous system pathways.It's physiological, not psychosomatic; GET/CBT harm for PEM sufferers.RACGP guidance lag vs UK/US updates; a long‑overdue turn.00:37:10 — Gaza, Hamas, and the absence of good options2005 pull‑out, tunnels, aid skimming; ceasefire vs aid corridors.Who could govern Gaza; peacekeepers, UNRWA skepticism, and Hamas reality.Ehud Barak's Qatar funding allegations; elections, starvation, ethics.01:03:21 — US politics: Russiagate reruns and Epstein filesTulsi's evolution; Brennan on TV; Mueller was Trump‑era appointed.“Lock her up” vs AI Obama arrest video; the file‑release calculus.Youth‑vote shifts; Republicans' state‑house gerrymanders.01:21:42 — Media Watch vs SkyThe TikTok immigration clip Sky ran and then pulled.Why mainstream reporting beats cherry‑picked viral outrage.01:24:44 — Sport: a proper weekendWallabies find a game fans can love; Lions tour lifts the code.England–India: great chase, Siraj's spell, and pressure's toll.Ashes preview: Bazball mettle in Aus conditions; pace attack is the key.AFL: Simon Goodwin sacked, Melbourne chaos, Adelaide surging; NRL Panthers steady.Swans appoint Matthew Pavlich CEO.01:36:54 — Chicken funerals and closingA full black‑robed rite in a US supermarket.“Put Ozempic in the water” gag; letters and see‑you‑next‑week.Notable quotes00:00:25 — “We had three black rain signals… 300 mils in a day here at Mid‑Levels.”00:03:31 — “It's not for the governor to be deciding when numbers are tested.”00:06:01 — “Bins outside the police station so miscreants can slide the machete through the slot.”00:08:43 — “They stood on the steps of Parliament and zig‑hiled their way across that protest.”00:14:09 — “Personally, I think let people tell you who they are.”00:18:50 — “He's essentially been convicted of rape… he's going to get a holiday.”00:24:49 — “To boost productivity by 4%, it's decided you just let AI go.”00:33:59 — “It is neurological and immunological. It is not psychiatric.”00:47:42 — “There are no good choices at the moment.”01:25:26 — “The best fortnight for the Wallabies in a very, very long time.”Who and what gets mentionedPeople: Barbara Baker; Jacinta Allan; Bob Carr; Gareth Ward; Chris Minns; Meredith Burgmann; Bruce Learman; David Dale; Col Joy; Peter Garrett; Mark Zuckerberg; Jamie Dimon; Andy Devereaux‑Cook; Ghazi Hamad; Benjamin Netanyahu; Eyal Zamir; Ehud Barak; John Brennan; Tulsi Gabbard; Hillary Clinton; Bill Clinton; Pam Bondi; Prince Andrew; Michael Vaughan; Ricky Ponting; Dave Warner; Joffre Archer; Mark Wood; Simon Goodwin; Brad Green; Matthew Pavlich; Tom Harley; Abby Phillip; Scott Jennings; Van Jones.Places: Hong Kong; Tasmania; Melbourne; Sydney; North Shore; Central; Opera House; Kiama; Silverwater; Gaza; West Bank; Qatar; Egypt; Netherlands; Japan; Texas; California; Massachusetts; Illinois; New York; Maryland; Old Trafford; Perth; The Gabba; Adelaide; San Francisco.Organisations/teams: Greens; Labor; Liberal Party; National Socialist Alliance; IDF; Hezbollah; UNRWA; Palestinian Authority; Hamas; Mossad; BBC; Jerusalem Post; FAA; DecodeME; RACGP; Productivity Commission; Sky News; Media Watch; CIA; Wallabies; Penrith Panthers; Sydney Swans; AFL; NRL; JP Morgan.

For Jason's 48th birthday, we held an in-person sales workshop event for property management business owners in Orlando. What he didn't know was that his wife, daughter, team, and clients had a surprise for him! In this episode of the #DoorGrowShow, property management growth experts Jason and Sarah Hull discuss what Jason has learned in the last year in business, relationships, and life, and what he's looking forward to in the next year. You'll Learn [01:48] Reflecting on a Year of Innovation at DoorGrow [07:36] A Year of Relationship Growth  [16:27] The Power of Being Able to Ask for Help  [22:10] Shifting Your Beliefs and Setting Goals Quotables “Because boundaries are about setting your locus of control, not trying to control somebody else.” “If you have a partner that's growing, if you're with them, you're tethered to this roller coaster that's on the move.” “Leadership is about inspiring others to be willing to support and follow you.” Resources DoorGrow and Scale Mastermind DoorGrow Academy DoorGrow on YouTube DoorGrowClub DoorGrowLive Transcript Jason & Sarah Hull (00:00) Yeah, no big deal. Just a bunch of property managers about to take over the whole industry. That's what I feel like us and our clients are really going to do is we're going to dominate the entire industry.   Hi everybody. So I'm Jason Hull and this is Sarah Hull, the founder and CEO of DoorGrow and the COO of DoorGrow, co-owners. And this is the world's leading and most comprehensive coaching and consulting firm for long-term residential property management entrepreneurs. For over a decade and a half, we have brought innovative strategies and optimization to the property management industry. We...   have spoken to thousands of property management business owners, coached, consulted, and cleaned up hundreds of businesses, helping them add doors, improve pricing, increase profit, simplify operations, and build and replace teams. We are like bar rescue for property managers. In fact, we have cleaned up and rebranded over 300 businesses, and we run the leading property management mastermind with more video testimonials and reviews than any other coach or consultant in the industry.   At DoorGrow, we believe that good property managers can change the world and that property management is the ultimate high trust gateway to real estate deals, relationships and residual income. At DoorGrow, we are on a mission to transform property management business owners and their businesses. We want to transform the industry, eliminate the BS, build awareness, change perception, expand the market and help the best property management entrepreneurs win. All right, now let's get into the show. All right, so today is   June 30th, which is my birthday. So some of you may see this later. You may see the recording later. We'll broadcast it live later, because that's what we do now. But it's my birthday today. And so we were thinking like, Happy birthday to me. So I am 48 years old. Sarah surprised me. We came out to Orlando.   to do a sales training event to teach our clients on the new model of selling stuff that we've been doing, to teach them my framework, the golden bridge formula, which I am now just starting to work on writing a book about that I think could revolutionize sales. And she surprised me by having my daughter, Madi who's our head of client success, be here.   and our clients be here the first day we got in, which I didn't expect. And they said surprise and they surprised me and we all hung out and it was very cool. And so I appreciate that. And so we were thinking like, what should we talk about today? my suggestion was let's talk about the last year and how things are different for you and then what you're hoping for in the next year.   So yeah, reflecting, so we actually do our planning year at DoorGrow starting on July 1st, not because of my birthday on June 30th, but because we want to offset it by two quarters because kind of trying to reach end of the year goals and hit your goals and strive towards success and winning as a company doesn't really work out super well at during the holidays when everybody's focused on family and Christmas and stuff like that. And so we offset it.   And so that we're hitting the end of our planning year in the middle of the summer, which really allows us to focus on things, get excited about new things and our upcoming plan. And so this is the end of our planning year. And it's also end of the next year of my life here on the earth. And so this is a good opportunity to reflect just on like what have we accomplished in the last year. And we've made a lot of changes at DoorGrow, so   What are some of the things that we've accomplished at DoorGrow in the last year? I think one of the big things that we did is we added more to the onboarding and now we're doing some of the onboarding with clients in person. So it used to all just be, you know, kind of talk with us and meet with us on Zoom and talk with us on Telegram and, you know, watch some courses on DoorGrow Academy.   And there is still all of that. And then of course you get your one-on-one meetings with coach for the first couple of weeks and we walk you through everything and make sure that you have access and make sure you know where to find everything and that you can log in and you know how to use it. And then there's another part of it that we bring you guys out to the North Austin, Texas area and we do a one day deep dive into your business. And that that's been a big shift.   We have been doing that for just about a year now Yeah, it's really there's something we've noticed and I call it the real bubble there's this bubble or this perception that we have to burst that the internet zoom calls videos like this are not real life and We have to break that or burst that bubble and connect them to us being real people because we're actually real people   Like you can fist bump us, hug us, give us a high five, give us a hug. Like we're real people. But until we pass that barrier with our clients, we've noticed they don't get as good of results. They don't absorb the content the same because this is not real life in their mind. So videos in DoorGrow Academy. so yeah, the in-person onboarding has been a really big deal in allowing us to really get to know clients better, to connect with them.   get people breakthroughs, usually we can offset the cost of the whole program, maybe even in that first in-person session. So that can be pretty powerful. And it's really increased our retention rate. It's really allowed us as coaches to keep clients more engaged and have them stay a lot longer. Yeah, and I think it makes us a lot more accessible to people. Because until you meet us in person, it's like, you can message us any time.   Sometimes people feel a little weird about doing that. Sometimes they don't know, am I allowed to do that? Or should I reach out? Or no, I don't want to bother them with that. But it's just so much more personal once you meet us in person. then it's like there's so much more of a deeper connection and relationship. And then people go, ⁓ yeah, they'll know the answer. I can talk to them at any point. And then they really start to leverage that resource.   So yeah, we've spent the last several years making a lot of improvements to our program. And I think the last several years, this last year, we've really put a lot of attention on lead generation, on focusing on how to actually grow our business now that we've got the program even more well dialed in and figuring out how can we reach more people. And ⁓ even just recently, we got some really strong breakthroughs in how I think we could help a lot more people.   a lot more quickly and just optimizing our sales process, which I think is just, I'm really excited about. Like I'm really excited about the stuff that we're rolling out and that we're doing at DoorGrow. Personally, man, I feel like this has been a big year of growth for me personally. A lot of changes. I feel like our relationship has evolved a lot. Like it's been, you know, I think coming into a new relationship.   and we've been together, we've known each other for total maybe what did you say today, six years? He's listening, yeah, almost six years. Almost six years. I'm bad with dates, stuff like that. yeah, almost six years. so, yes, we've known each other for a little while, but I feel like I'm just now starting to get clarity on some of the things, my own issues, some of the things that have helped me back, some of my own insecurities, some of my own challenges.   This year has been a year of me really learning and growing in relationship. I feel like quite a bit as well. But I think one of the things I've noticed in you, especially over the last year, is you   you shift much more easily into leadership at home with the family. Okay. Yeah. I think I've put a lot of study into the masculine and the feminine and just recognizing my role as being a leader and being willing to lead. And I think that allows you to feel lot safer and calmer.   in the relationship. yeah, yeah, for sure. Which also makes me feel a lot safer and calmer in the relationship. And so I think there's a lot of men that you see out there complaining about women. You see a lot of women complaining about men. And I think really, I really do believe that men really are meant to lead in that. And that leading doesn't mean controlling. It doesn't mean bossing people around.   Leadership is about inspiring others to be willing to support and follow you. And I think men are meant to be leaders. Like if they don't step out and be leaders, I think it's men's responsibility. And so if men are complaining about women, well, it's your fault guys. And if women are complaining about men, you're right. It's the men's fault. That's how I view it. Women, women. So it's your fault no matter what, men. Yes. Like, yeah.   Because if men really stand up and they really lead and they're meant to be leaders and they're not waiting for women to change and trying to hold their breath till women change and they change, I believe that if they lead and they take responsibility and they work on themselves, women in their life, if the women love them, will follow and they will allow these men to step into leadership because that allows them to feel safer and to calm down and to like...   relax into the feminine. And so I think for a lot of men it's about shattering their own feminine frame and there's a great book on that I read that really kind of changed things for me that is called Shattering the Feminine Frame by Jerr J-E-R-R. I thought that was a brilliant book. I've given it to some guy friends and that were kind of in that feminine frame of that. And the feminine frame for guys is that they're trying to please, they're trying to please their partner, please their girlfriend, please their spouse.   They're trying to please everybody else. And in that state of pleasing, they become unsafe to everyone around them. They're not leading. And it's not appealing or generally attractive to most women when a guy's in that state. So that's something that I've shifted more into in stepping more into the masculine and stepping more into leadership. And   The thing I think that's key that I understood from that book and his other book, which is called The Wall Speaks by Jerr, J-E-R-R, this philosopher. The other basic principle is that men really need to believe in themselves. Like if they believe in themselves, a lot of times men were trying to get belief from our partner. Like I love when Sarah believes in me. It's everything. Like men are constantly trying to get women to believe in them. It's the thing we crave.   However, if a man is always trying to place his locus of control for belief and power in his woman, then the problem is she now feels unsafe and she's way less likely to believe in him. And so I think one of things I've realized is that I have to believe in myself. I have to believe in me first. Even if it's unrealistic or crazy, I have to have unrealistic.   impossibly amazing self-belief. And if I believe in myself, then everyone around me believes in me too. And if they don't, it doesn't matter anymore. If I believe enough in myself, either everyone else will go, my gosh, this person's amazing. I believe in them too. I want to follow this person. I want this person to lead me, they won't and you won't care because your self-belief is so strong.   And so I think it's really important for guys to develop that self-belief and not try to put that onto their partner. Because that's a really big burden for me to throw on your shoulders. Well, and I think for women, I can't speak for all women, but for myself, it's really hard to have belief in someone or something that isn't confident in themselves. So if I'm more confident in you than you are in you, there's a problem.   At least I do, like we can tell. We can just tell. yeah. Women can smell weakness because women are kind of born from birth, like having to deal with fear and having to deal with the dangers of society and men and difficulty things and whatever. Like men, we're not afraid to walk down the street generally.   We're not worried about somebody hurting us. Like we're generally the stronger half of the species, you know? And we just, don't have that mindset. We're not like looking for safety in a lot of instances. The thing we're looking for, physical safety, what we are looking for a lot of times is emotional safety. And we try to create that by pleasing. And maybe if I'm nice enough, she will be kind and it usually works out the opposite way.   because women want to test our strength and they want to test us emotionally, see if we are stable enough to support them and to handle them. And if we do, we kind of pass that unconscious test that they throw at us that they now can lean into us and feel safe and go, this man is a rock. This man is stable. I can have my feminine emotional waves of things going on and he is still that stable grounded rock that I can, know.   I can lean on. So that's been a big deal for me is to kind of take back that locus of control because I'm on my third marriage. This is like, I spend a lot of years thinking the game was happy wife, happy life, and I have to please my partner. And that becomes a really uncomfortable game if you have an unpleasable partner. And a lot of times by trying to please your partner, you end up doing the opposite. Like it makes them feel less and less safe and less and less pleased. And they want you to just step up and lead and plan some date nights and like...   make some decisions and let them actually relax and be in the feminine occasionally, right? And Sarah has to step into her masculine a lot in business and in work. And so I think being able to come home and being able to sometimes with me relax into the feminine is probably feels good. I don't know. Yeah, there are times and I think in every relationship you can kind of figure out what are the things that each person prefers to handle.   So for me, there are certain things that even if he did it, I would still want to go back and probably redo it or there would be things that I would have to confirm or check on because I wanted exactly a certain way. And if it's not, you know, exactly the way that I pictured it in my head, then I'm just not going to be satisfied. And then I'm going to feel like man, I should have just done it myself. So if you have those things and it can be anything, you just kind of have to figure out, what are the things that each partner wants to do?   and really what are the things that each partner can rely more on the other one for. Like every time we travel, my brain would not be able to handle it if he handled the travel details. Like booking the dogs and booking the hotels or the Airbnb, like where we're at right now, the Airbnb, or getting the flights and figuring out rental cars and all of the things. I just, I...   First all, it's fun for me to do that. And second of all, I wanted a very specific way. There's a right side of the airplane for me to sit on. It happens to be the right side. So if he books the ticket and then he puts me on the left side of the airplane, it's not that it's wrong, but it's sort of wrong. By the way, I upgraded our flights on the way home. And I got you an aisle seat. And I'm next to you.   because I know you love that and we're on the right side of the play. Okay, so you did it the right way. That's good. So there you go. So part and you know, part of that is also getting to really know and care about your partner. Like I take a lot of notes. I've got a lot of notes in my notes file. I have a whole folder in my notes app on my iPhone called Sarah. So I think I have like 80 notes in there. Yeah, that's how complex you are. So yeah, because I study her because you know, I want to win the game.   win the game of marriage and of life, but part of winning the game is not just being a pleaser and trying to please all the time. It's also recognizing my own boundaries and my own needs emotionally and being willing to ask. That's been a hard thing for me. That's really hard for you, which is so interesting because I don't feel like that's something that I struggle with. What I struggle with, I struggle with asking for help. I am not good at asking people for help.   because the way I grew up, it was viewed as weakness. If you need help, it's because you're weak. If you need help, it's because you don't know how to do it. If you need help, it's because you're less than. You're not good enough, you're not enough, you're not smart enough, you're not strong enough. It's whatever it is. So for me, it's so hard to ask for help. So my ways of asking for help are instead of directly asking or especially nicely asking, the way that most people would say,   Hey, could you please help me with this thing? Like I can't, I just, I can't seem to bring myself to ask that way. So I'll start to do something and then hope that somebody picks up on the cues that I'm giving, like sighing, like, like I'll wait. There was like a big, you know, case of water that I'm carrying. Like I'll carry everything else or I'll try, like try to go pick up the water and can I do it myself? Yes, of course I can.   But it's nice when your partner goes, hey, you know what? Do want me to help you with that? I'm like, yes, yes, I do. Because then I didn't have to ask. So I'm not good at asking for help, but you're not generally good at asking for what you want, which is really interesting. Because when I want something, I'm very good at just saying, and I don't generally ask, I just state it. It's more of a statement. I want this, I want that, I don't want this, I want this. So I'm very good at saying, this is what I want. I'm not great at asking for help, but you're...   really not great at asking for what you want. Well I think part of that is I grew up in this really conservative religious culture in which you were kind of the the right way of being was to self-sacrifice and to serve others and do it wasn't about what you want it was about taking care of everybody else and doing what God wants and what others want and it was not about what you want. And so I think that that   But if you don't ever ask for what you want or do things or try to get what you want out of life, then you end up depleted. You end up miserable. You end up frustrated. You end up wondering why nobody cares about you and other people might. They just can't serve you or reciprocate or benefit you if you don't ask them for what you want. And I mean, you know, it's it's so simple that sometimes I make such a big deal about it. But if I just ask you for something.   You're just like, okay, and then I get what I want. And it's, it know it's like magic, it's crazy. I know, it can be that simple. It's really weird when you ask for someone and then you get the thing that you asked for. I know, and then asking for help is difficult for you, but it's the secret thing for like, for women. Like, I have to ask somebody to help me do a thing that I should be fully able to do by myself. So especially if you're an attractive woman, it's so easy. You don't even have to ask for help.   You can, if you ask for help, everybody will give it to you. But if you just state how you feel about something, the person around you that cares will just step in. Like guys, we wanna be the hero. Like if she just says, my gosh, these water bottles are so heavy. Like I can tell she's feeling that away about them. Then I would just be like, my gosh, let me take care of this. Like I'll just step right in. Like that's the magnetic energy of women.   man it'd be so nice if these water bottles were just put away. That's a little obvious, right? It's like my way of asking. That's a really obvious way of doing it. It'd be so nice if I didn't have to do at you like, really? Okay, I can take care of this. Yeah, but see, there's a way that you can do it, right? That makes me feel honored and like, and there's a way that makes me feel nagged, right? Like if you were like,   I'll get the water bottles myself. I'm like, my gosh, I'll take home and and then I'm like Whatever she is So then yeah, so then I'm like that but then if she was like, my gosh, these are so heavy who can help me You know, I'm like, ⁓ damn's a little distress. Here comes your nine shining armor. I got it I'll take these water bottles   do with this water. so heavy. Let me come help you. But even if that's not real life, don't know real life. If women share, if they have a man that actually pays attention to them and cares about them, if she shares how she's feeling about something, not like to put him down, but saying this thing is causing me stress or I'm worried about this or it's really bothering me that there's this thing, then guy will want to step in and save the day. We just want to do, we would much rather save the day.   than be nagged to do something. That's like very easy. Like, so you don't even have to ask for help. If you ask for help, like obviously, if you're like, oh my gosh, could you please help me these water bottles, you big strong man. I'd be like, absolutely. Like, let me do this. Like, yeah, I would think I'm so great. That's like, that's the superpower. Like women have that superpower. You can just like, we wanna, we just wanna take care of you. So that's, I think that's been a big thing this year is kind of.   stepping a little bit more into recognizing the differences in masculine and feminine and being able to step into that. And gosh, what else this year? What I think you touched on it very briefly, but I think one of the things you've been a lot better at recently is setting boundaries. That's been interesting. Yeah, I read a book about boundaries and it   kind of gave me a breakthrough. I thought boundaries were about this is what I'm willing to tolerate and I need to control other people. And I think that what I read about boundaries though that kind of shifts in my thinking is that boundaries are not about saying what the other person needs to do or should do or shouldn't do. It's about figuring out what I will do and what I will do if people act a certain way. Because boundaries are about setting your   locus of control, not trying to control somebody else. It's about you being in control of you. And so figuring out here's what I'm comfortable with and if things are gonna go this way then I don't wanna be part of this or I'm not comfortable. So I think there's been a little bit of setting boundaries. I think though there's also been a heavy for me challenge in kind of resetting expectations boundaries. I grew up in a very conservative culture.   where the women did not, you're not really supposed to talk to other men if you're a married woman. Yeah, oh I know. And so that to me, it felt like Sarah was always trampling on my boundaries because she's like, this year you've really gotten into flying. And so she's spending hours alone with a guy, a dude in an airplane. And that's something like I've had to instructor is a male. Yeah, yeah. And so that's been something I've had to get.   I had to challenge those beliefs because that belief was causing me a lot of grief. A lot of times we think the other person is causing the grief. It's usually the belief you have connected that person that's causing. The belief was, Sarah shouldn't be talking to men. Now, I had to question that belief. If you've ever heard of Byron Katie, she's got this great book called Loving What Is, and this whole methodology she calls Doing the Work.   And went through and I did the work on this, which is you question the belief. You take the belief, you figure out what it is, you figure out how do I feel when I think this thought, when I have this belief? Well, then I feel angry and I feel hurt and I feel disrespected and all these kind of things. And so then I take that belief and I question it. Is it true? Is it true that Sarah shouldn't be around men or talk to men? Well, obviously, I can't say that that's totally true because...   We coach clients. We coach clients. We coach men. Yes. lot of our clients are men. Some are women. Yeah. And, you know, she has a pilot that she learns from. And so I recognized I had to find a truer belief. So the truer belief that I got in touch with was because part of the exercise is to turn around. Sarah should be around other men. And I was like, how is that true? Well, yeah.   ⁓ good men will help develop Sarah, good men will protect Sarah, good men will help expand her mind and help her reach higher levels and make her a better person. Good men will, right? And so I was like, okay, so that's true also. So there's this conflict, maybe that's not as true. And then I was thinking, well, if it's good for her to be around other men because they help her teach and they can help her learn and help her grow, then.   you know, then it can be a good thing. It can be a good thing about that. But if that's true, then what is all these feelings that I have? Well, my past relationship, there were a lot of challenges that traumatized me that like would bring up stuff. So then I had to actually deal with that stuff and heal things instead of try to get Sarah to be a certain way to make me feel safe. The other thing I got in touch with working with them,   Men's out there for a second. Yes, I feel like that's something that you do really well that not everyone can do What's that you well, you just did a whole bunch of work on that. Yeah, I mean you acknowledged hey I'm feeling a certain kind of way and is This how I should be feeling and does that belief and does that? Emotion and does that thought system does that actually serve me or is there something that's better and true and I should actually look   at myself instead of projecting that onto other people. And I think that's something that, I mean, you've generally always been really good at that, but I think like this last year, you've done that in a lot of different aspects. And I just wanna like commend you for that because I don't know that everyone can always do that. Yeah, I appreciate that. Yeah, I think that's true. think the fact that you are a high growth minded individual,   and you're reaching big goals and you're moving towards your dreams and you're flying and getting your dream car and doing all the stuff that you're doing. Yeah, mean, if you have a partner that's growing, if you're with them, you're tethered to this roller coaster that's on the move. And so yeah, think that being in relationship with you, I'm a high growth individual too. There's times where I thought I would outgrow you and it would create discomfort, like you wouldn't keep up with me.   And I've always been pleasantly surprised as well. And so I think that's the challenge and the benefit of being in a relationship with somebody that wants to grow when you want to grow as well. It's going to force you to grow in areas that you didn't expect to. And so I had to reconcile all these different feelings that would come up as you're stepping into new ways of being and new areas of growth to figure out to figure myself out and figure out why am I feeling this way and how do I feel about this and.   So yeah, I think that's been really beneficial to recognize that we have great mentors that are great men. Yeah. Right. And how what a shame it would be if I couldn't learn from people like that. And I would love for you to absorb as much as you can from some of these mentors and great men that we know. And and to have a belief that you shouldn't like communicate with men or or pair off with a guy or whatever. There's like that would make   flying pretty difficult or you'd to find a female pilot instead of the best most women don't like me. Maybe a lot of women don't like you, I don't know. It's hard. So I think, yeah, I think there's been a big year of growth in kind of figuring out that and figuring out what my needs are and, you know, my, mentioned I have a coach that coaches men. She's a woman and so I'm spending time with her, right?   And she's helping me to get insight and understand some of the things that are my challenges so that I can grow and develop and help me understand how this really allowing you to grow benefits me. You're a much more fun and playful, even feminine person as you get into the state of play in life and being able to do the things that you enjoy doing and flying planes and having dogs and all of the stuff that you love to do.   All right, well we have a few minutes before we wrap up because we've got your birthday dinner to go to. yeah. So before we end then what are you looking forward to in the next year? Well I'm really excited. I feel like I have been on a really strong personal trajectory for growth in the last year and I feel like our relationship has gotten a lot deeper. I feel a lot   safer and more connected. There's always been this kind of subtle anxiety from the previous traumas and the previous stuff that I'd gone through and relationships and stuff like that. And I feel just like, I feel like I finally understand you. Cause there was a lot of friction related to that previous thing thinking Sarah doesn't understand men and doesn't understand the dangers of men, doesn't understand the boundaries of men. And that Sarah   doesn't have boundaries towards men. So we had conversations about this, because this also allowed me to bring up my concerns. And then you shared, you're like, no, like this is how I would handle this. This is how I feel about this. This is how I would never do this. And like this sort of thing. so whereas before it felt like we were kind of playing this tug of war rope where I was trying to get you to be more respectful in relation to not.   being around men or communicate with men without me or something and you were trying to not feel controlled by this domineering husband. And so we're like, er. I like double down. That's what I, that's my fun game I like to play. Yeah. So we were both kind of misunderstanding each other. And so it's been a lot nicer to be able to recognize, ⁓ we really have a lot more in common related that and healthier boundaries. And we both really value the relationship.   And that's allowed me to feel a lot safer and for you to finally understand me and be able to communicate what's going on with me for you to understand that. And then my coach that I'm working with to say, hey, it's OK for you to have these feelings and have an issue that you need to work through and to go to your partner saying, hey, I could use some reassurance with this, but not to go to them with accusation and then they resist, right? To go to you and say, hey,   I'm feeling away about this and I'm getting all mixed up in my thinking or it's getting more than I can handle and I'm freaking out. You know, can you like reassure me and like if I communicate that way, then you can help me through that. And then it reduces the need for that because then I'm in a state of safety. Whereas what we were creating before was kind of, it was snowballing into more and more anxiety in me because of that tug of war. so, yeah, so I'm really excited in the next year.   how our relationship will develop even more. I feel like we've grown so much and I feel like we've got really big goals that we've connected with in the business. Just even in the last few weeks. Just even the last few weeks that we're planning to do that really can take DoorGrow to the next level and really have it dominate and benefit the industry. And we've got some big, big enemies we want to go after. We've got some big goals that we want.   To do we've got some big impact we want to have to make a difference and you know And it's been just so rewarding to be able to connect with clients about this and get them thinking it with a bigger vision as well So I think I truly feel like if you're not involved in DoorGrow You're going to miss it like you're gonna miss the bus like the the bus is taking off soon like it's going Get on it   But I feel like, that was one of my comments on Jeremy's post the other day. He's like, just me and 12 of my best friends having lunch. And I was like, yeah, no big deal. Just a bunch of property managers about to take over the whole industry. That's what I feel like us and our clients are really going to do is we're going to dominate the entire industry. And I'm super excited for that. Yeah, we just took a trip recently to Mexico. We were part of a big mastermind with some high level thinkers.   And we got some really good mental technology installed in our brain that really was a game-changer for us thinking outside the box with a bigger vision and We're injecting that into all of our clients getting the think bigger and I think we're going to have the most innovative group of property managers and clients ever and I nobody will be able to keep up with innovation and the things that we're all doing because we all have such bigger goals and our clients are little   They're excited. I'm excited. And so I think that DoorGrow is going to do some big things and I think we're going have a big impact, which is awesome. So that makes me really excited because there's nothing better than changing lives. you know, we've got a client named Joy and she messaged me the other day and she said, ever since we met and did our jumpstart session, she says, I'm finally sleeping again at night. And that's like, yeah, that's the stuff. That's way better than money.   You can't buy that. You have to really contribute to others to get something like that. And so that's really amazing. So I'm just really excited to help change some lives and have some impact. that's the next year. well. All right. Well, let's wrap up and go to dinner. All right. So if you've ever felt stuck or stagnant and you want to take your property management business to next level, reach out to us at DoorGrow.com   and join our free Facebook group. You can get into our free Facebook community. It's just for property management business owners by going to doorgrowclub.com. And if you found this even a little bit helpful, then don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review. We'd really appreciate it. And until next time, remember the slowest path to growth is to do it alone. So let's grow together. Bye, everyone.  

In this episode of Personally Speaking, Msgr. Jim Lisante is joined by Notre Dame University student Ryan Carmody. Ryan is a parishioner at Our Lady of Lourdes Church in Massapequa Park, NY and attended Regis High School, a Jesuit high school in New York City. Ryan talks about his life, his family and the importance of his Catholic faith.Support the show

Larry and I had a big sneak attack by an alcoholic demon possession this week. And I use the word “demon” to mean nasty, negative entities. I don't use the word in a religious way.Normally, we have excellent interactions with the people we love and care for. Most of our friends and relatives are people who, if not interested in personal growth, are caring, loving, intelligent, and friendly people.For a few weeks now, Larry has been planning to visit some close relatives in Alaska. The visit was important to him. Last time, he went with his kids via plane, train and boat, it's quite the journey. But none were free schedule wise this time, so he invited me on a road trip, using our new big truck, our camper, and a couple thousand miles of Canadian wilderness to travel through. I love a good road trip so I said, “yes.”He let his relatives know, he got an answer a week later, and he was told in no uncertain terms that I was not welcome in their home.Apparently, I am a very bad person and will upset the elderly who might then have heart attacks in my presence. Quite the reputation.There have been at least three interactions from the woman who has placed herself as “gatekeeper” for the couple we were visiting, which invariably begin with, “I don't want to sound confrontational, or get into a fight or drama, but…” This is a classic example of “preemptive framing” or “disarming language” - used manipulatively to appear non-aggressive while preparing an attack. Then followed by a barrage of covert narcissistic sentences. We can identify a covert narcissism when the person weaves their words to appear victimized or gentle while manipulating and harming others.Personally, I knew what was coming as soon as I heard those words, it is Psychology 101 and not hard to identify.The hit came in unexpectedly and deep for Larry, however. He thought she was calling to talk about her latest work trip, which sounded to be fascinating, and was her texted reason for not having answered for a week; she was away.His shock, surprise and upset was so big that it reached me like a hammer - which, of course, was the intent of the person involved.We know better than to go into defense when we are attacked. There are no lives at stake here, and no one is in physical danger. We have learned to strengthen our cores, and use them as refuge in a sense to shield us from assaults like these and others. Yet the surprise was the shock delivery vehicle, and a lesson learned. Semper Paratus, the Coast Guard motto which Larry was trained with means ”always ready” is not active when dealing with loved ones.I too was quite shocked at the strength of the energy woven into this person's words, both over the phone and via texts.Then I remembered that she finishes her days in a haze of alcohol.And it all fell into place. At least the strength of the power behind the words was explained, not the words themselves which are hers.The first attack came as a phone call. Larry took it in his stride - he knows better than to engage with others when he's triggered and upset. And he was very, very shocked and upset.The next attacks came in the form of texts. He answered, thanking the person for letting him know how they felt and that he would think about his trip. The “gatekeeper” then offered to pay for his entire trip if he travelled alone (not bringing me). This is a typical covert abuse tactic where the person is made to choose between two people he or she loves. And will be highly rewarded if they choose “the right person”.The texts kept coming, with the same sentence to open the person up at an energetic level - “I am being friendly and caring, I am not going to fight…” then, yes, you got it - she would push the dagger in. The covert narcissism continued.Of course, in her first ramblings I was an evil person who is here to harm. And the entity attached to this woman is right. My teachings do harm demons, as I do encourage people to stop drinking alcohol or taking recreational drugs. This will bring the person out of their alcoholic fog and usually they will then refuse the demon's influence. And she knows I discourage alcohol consumption, which for her probably feels like I am negatively judging her. Most alcoholics see the world through a lens of “I, me and myself”, and everything in some way becomes specifically about them.You have probably heard recovering addicts saying, “I am fighting my demons.” This is not figuratively speaking but is an actual account of what they are doing. At the same time, it is not spiritual bypassing where the person blames powerful external entities for their behavior so that they don't have to address difficult personal issues. The person does need to do that work also, he or she is nobody's victim, they receive a big kick of something in return for their possession.Saying that this woman has demons driving the conflict is not done to minimize her responsibility or actions. She is the one who welcomed those entities and they do feed her and her needs. At the moment, she gets off on drama and conflict, and this situation was just too juicy for her to refuse or leave alone. She has been feeding off it for years now. As the attacks on my person failed, she then started attacking Larry himself, telling him how bad and hurtful he had been the past few months and years.It has been a long time since these types of negative beings have reached us at any significant level through the people around us. At a superficial level, it is a non-issue. Words like these have come before from other people, and they wash off and are quickly discarded and forgotten.In the case of these relatives, the attack repeats again, at an amplified level. This is called psychological abuse through emotional manipulation and covert narcissism. As Larry did not “react appropriately” in these people's eyes by defending me or attacking them, he became the alleged bad person and aggressor.The abuser, having failed to be acknowledged as a victim and their invitation to drama completely refused, then tried to get their emotional feed by moving her aggressor projection onto Larry himself.These types of abusive behaviors only work with people who deeply care for the psychological abuser, as the entry to the attack is love itself.This is the way it works: the people it works on have to be close at an emotional, loving level.So, what do we do when these demonic beings come through an open door of love? Do we stop loving the person? Do we stop contact with them? Do we go and fight? Do we try to save them?We are in charge of how we feel. Other people and beings, including demons, can attack, try to influence, and try to goad us into a drama filled with food for them. But we are ultimately the ones who are responsible - have the ability to respond - within our own emotional, mental, and other bodies.What Larry did was to stop. He stopped answering because it became obvious that the answers, which were conciliatory, were not what these people wanted. Yet the feelings within Larry were still running strong, so the next step was to process those feelings. My exercise “Fear Processing Exercise” is excellent for processing upset, anger, and frustration too, so that's the next step.Step two is to process those nasty, sticky energies from our emotions and minds. And the step after that is to do something completely different. We are on that step now, and we will discuss what that looks like on our podcast.One of the things that negative entities - including people - cannot continue their abuse under is disclosure. If the drama and abuse happen behind closed doors, in secret and confidential agreements, the abuser thrives. By shining the light of disclosure and pointing the eyes of the universe toward the abuser, they shrink and are not able to continue. I didn't come up with this piece of enlightened wisdom, “sunlight as disinfectant” is a common psychological phrase used in narcissism recovery circles.This situation brought some reality to what many lightworkers are going through these days. It is easy to forget how the dark side of the light/dark paradigm can affect us when most of our interactions are with people who are awake and high-frequency.If you find yourself being goaded into a victim/aggressor cycle by family or close friends pushing on your love buttons, remember the steps:* Become aware that this is an invitation to feed the beast.* STOP* Process any sticky, nasty feelings, energies, and thoughts.* Do something else entirely.What you don't want to do is step into the “victim identity.” This aligns with the concept of “learned helplessness” in psychology. Nor the aggressor. When a person falls into the aggressor is also well known in psychology. It is called Reactive Abuse (also called provoked aggression or coercive provocation). We don't play those games. It's not for you, this battle, for you have chosen a new paradigm of joy-light-love and inspiration.The discussion doesn't stop here - listen to the full podcast episode for unfiltered insights from Inelia and our panelists. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.drivingtotherez.com/subscribe

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Tiff and Kristy take a look at patient privacy and the regulatory compliance associated with that privacy, including HIPAA and OSHA. They touch on their own experiences with compliance, how to better educate your practice, what not to do, and more. Episode resources: Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Schedule a Practice Assessment Leave us a review Transcript:  The Dental A Team (00:01) Hello, Dental A Team listeners. We are so excited to be here with you today. I have Kristy on crew with me. We have a slew of podcasts we're recording and just some really, really exciting information. We're gonna make it as exciting as we can, at least, that we wanna get out to you. We are more than halfway through the year, which is pretty massive. And so we're gonna be talking about...   a ton about how to end the year, things and pieces to look forward to, things you should be doing now to wrap up for the end of the year, and realistically things to look forward to for the upcoming year, which at this point of recording is 2026. So no matter what year you're listening to us, a lot of this should still be incredibly valuable. Kristy, I am so excited you're here with me today. Thank you so much for clearing your schedule, being here.   being open to this and just always coming with some really invaluable information for our listeners. How are you today, Kristy?   DAT Kristy (01:00) It's a good summer day and a good day to be with you as well. So happy to do it.   The Dental A Team (01:04) Thank you,   thank you. And for those of you who may not know, Kristy, Kristy lived in Arizona a long time ago. she originally, like her formative years were here, but then she left Arizona for quite a little while and she's recently relocated back to the desert. And she decided to come right at the beginning of summer, which I used to tell people like,   don't move here in the summer, like come in different months. But then I started realizing, I'm like, well, if you move here in the summer, you get the worst of the worst. And then the rest of the year is like icing on top of the cake. So Kristy, I actually think you did it in the right direction. And I keep telling you, I think you brought some awesome weather with you this year because we have not broken record heat this year for like the first time ever.   Honestly, we keep breaking records every year and I'm like, these are records we don't need to break. And this year, I think the record has been that it's been so nice. Like it truly, truly has been really light summer. So Kristy, thanks for bringing your weather with you and giving us a little reprieve here in Arizona. So I told you we're going to make these as fun as we possibly can. You guys, we always aim for that fun is actually one of our core values. So it's something we work really, really hard for.   I say that today because I really wanted to talk to you guys about some regulatory compliances, which just even in those words sounds like womp womp, right? Like we're just, how do you make that exciting? Well, with the Dental A Team, Dental A Team can make anything exciting. We can have fun with whatever we want in everything. We truly believe that if we're not having fun, why are we even doing it? So it doesn't mean that things aren't hard, things aren't difficult, that you won't have to push through hard things. It just means that there should be fun on the other side.   and it shouldn't be, you know, tears of pain the whole way through. So here we are, regulatory compliance. You guys know that this is actually really important in the dental industry. You guys have all heard of OSHA. So we'll dive into a little bit on the OSHA, but you guys have also heard of HIPAA. And I have to say, and Kristy, you can tell me what your thoughts are as well, I have to say that when I was in practice, like physically working in an office, we never talked about HIPAA.   We talked about OSHA constantly, like OSHA is going to come in and you've got to have everything six inches from the ceiling and off these certain walls. And you've got to have so many fire extinguishers and the fire escape plans and like all of these, you know, barriers and masks and gloves and don't wear gloves outside the door. All of these pieces for OSHA safety compliance, but   I never heard about HIPAA. I knew as a front office team member that patients had to sign the HIPAA forms and that they had to update them every so often, but I didn't actually know what it was. And when patients would ask me like, oh, what am I signing? I'm like, ah, it just says we're not going to give away your information. Right. And I'm like, I don't know if that's what it says or not, but like, that's what I heard someone say. And so I'm just repeating it. Right. So Kristy, I don't know if you had a different experience in office, but I really truly felt like until   I had to train people on it until I had to be like, no, you have to do HIPAA in the office. And until as a company, we had to start taking our own HIPAA courses every year. I had no idea exactly what it meant for a dental office. And Kristy, you may have had a different experience, but tell me what was your experience when it came to HIPAA in your dental practices that you've worked in?   DAT Kristy (04:36) Yeah, my experience   was actually you made me laugh. It was very similar to yours. I think it was what around 2013 that those forms came out and it was pretty funny because when it first started even patients were funny about it. Like I remember this big long form and you'd hand it to patients and say the same thing. ⁓ it just means we're not going to sell your information or give it to anybody and patients would start reading it and they're crossing things out. And then I'm asking my doctor like how   The Dental A Team (04:50) Yeah.   Yeah.   DAT Kristy (05:06) can they just rewrite it?" And he's like, it doesn't matter. It is what it is. It's just a form. And yeah, so really I started the same place you did. And then later years, ⁓ we ended up doing more formal training on HIPAA. But yeah, started in the same place.   The Dental A Team (05:23) Yeah, I remember   those sheets. They were like longer than it was. It was like a car contract.   where was like you had to fold it a certain way, like they were longer than the rest of the sheets and my patients did the same thing. They're like, well, I don't really agree with this. Like, and they just cross it off and then initial it. And I'm like, all right, like whatever, I just need to scan it into your document center. Like that's all I've got here, right? And if it's like in the paper folder, I had to like fold it so that it would fit. yeah, it was around 2013 and it was like so odd. And then every year they had updates to it. And I was like, I don't know what any of this means, except I did know at the bottom.   them it said, if we were to release your information, who would you want it released to? So my point of that is it's   2025 right now, I don't know what year you're gonna listen to this. 2013 we started this and it took many years for any of us to really learn and understand what it meant, let alone our patience even know and understand what it means. But it is incredibly invaluable and I'm not here to teach you HIPAA by all means, that is never my gig ⁓ or OSHA, but I do know that there are plenty of courses and even just like online forums or...   whatever that will go through it. There are two sides to it and they're incredibly important, especially for business owners. So doctors and owners out there, my doctor too, I was like, what is this? Just like Kristy, what you said, can they do this? He's like, I don't know. Just like, it's just a new form that they told us we need to do. So just do it. And I'm like, okay. He had no idea what it meant either. He just knew it was really important. So.   Doctors go get versed in it. We actually have to take a compliance course every year. All of us do for HIPAA compliance on the medical side, but then also on the business side. And that comes down, it boils down to really privacy, right? And what that looks like. And it actually will take you through what it looks like as far as electronic privacy, verbal privacy, ⁓ patient charts, like how long do you have to keep things? Where should they be kept? Like certain   certain things that honestly and truly your front office is looking up all the time. I don't know how many times I asked like wait a second how long do we have to keep these x-rays for? Wait how long do we have to keep these boxes of files for? Like we're going digital which crazily enough there's still plenty plenty of practices out there that are not digital. ⁓   I know some near and to my heart that are not digital. So like, I remember, but it's just these, these file boxes that you get from Staples and you put them together and we're putting the files in there and we're marking the year that we put them in there so that we could wait the right amount of time. But still in the back of my head, I'm like, is this even right? Like, am I waiting enough time? We would put the date that we boxed it and then the date that it could be destroyed, like, you know, destroy date.   But still I was like...   ⁓ this is still kind of scary. Like, am I doing this right? So my suggestion is to always make sure that you take those courses and that you're well versed in it, especially as a business owner. And I'm saying this after you're three of having to take the HIPAA course online for business compliance for our company, because it's really hard, you guys. I'm not gonna lie. When I go through it, it's like, Karen, I have this game that we play on who's going to get the better score. And to truth be told, like, it's like a barely   passing score and we're like how did how am I still not getting this we read through the stuff we tell we watch the videos and we get to the end and we're like what the heck I still didn't understand it so go take those courses it's just online it's super easy I'm sure we can throw you over a link if you want it so HIPAA I actually wanted to spend some time instilling in you the importance because I think the only thing we hear in dentistry is OSHA and we know so much of the OSHA stuff   But with that said, you also need to focus in on the OSHA. And Kristy, I don't know if you guys had this one too. I had that big red OSHA book that always went in the same spot up above the dental assistance computer so that we always knew where it was. We had the OSHA one, we had the MSDS sheets, and it was like, you did not mess with these books. They were always updated, the, you know, needle stick protocol. But still, you'd go in there and you're like somebody, somebody stuck themselves and you're just like,   frazzle and you're like I don't know what to do even though we've got this OSHA book that tells us what to do it was still a lot so Kristy how did how did you guys do HIPAA and OSHA within your practices like how did you make sure that we you guys had everything that you needed and then how do you train offices to do that now?   DAT Kristy (10:06) Yeah, that's   It's a good thing that you're touching on it because it's one of those things that I think even offices tend to not do because it's so complex. I will say ⁓ we just made it part of our yearly routine. And this is perfect timing because we're coming to the end of the year. And as we're future planning for next year, even setting our goals for the practice and all of that, looking at the calendar and making sure those days are marked out, just like you would your CPI.   The Dental A Team (10:14) Yeah.   DAT Kristy (10:37) are, you know, make sure your OSHA is booked every year in your ⁓ HIPAA training because they are serious, right? And they're one of those things, especially like OSHA, it could shut you down if you weren't compliant. So it is very necessary, but I would say do it as part of your yearly planning and just make sure it's booked on your schedule every year.   The Dental A Team (11:02) I totally agree with you. And I think one piece with that is to make sure you guys understand it too. I know that for us, in my practice, we always stressed about the OSHA because we were like, if they ever come in. And that's like one space of it, right? For sure, you want to be compliant. You want to have the right spaces. If they were to come in, you want to have everything you were supposed to have for sure. But on the flip side of that, like the reason that they do that isn't because they want to come in and like give you a bad grade or get you   in trouble, right? They do it because they actually want you utilizing the information. They want you knowing it and they want it to be helpful in keeping your business safe. And so   not only making sure that you're compliant for the passing grade, but that you're compliant in the fact that you understand it and you're able to use it because it really is truly beneficial for your practice. And there are actually some really valuable pieces in there, just like CPR. Like we have to take CPR to be compliant, but the day that you have to use it is the day you're like, thank God that they made me do that. Right. Like, gosh, this could have been really bad. Right. The day that my son   bless his freaking four-year-old heart at the time, decided to put gummy worms in his frozen yogurt and they turn into rocks and he's choking on it in the middle of the frozen yogurt store and I, thank God, knew what to do to...   pull it out of his mouth and make sure he doesn't have to resuscitate him, all of these pieces, right? We undervalue things because we think we have to do it because someone's telling us to. And if we don't, we're gonna get a bad grade or we're gonna get a slap on the wrist or whatever. Yes and. Like, Kristy, I love when you say yes and. This is a yes and situation. Yes, get the good letter grade, don't get a slap on the wrist, don't get a fine and.   save lives with this information too. HIPAA, you're not going to save a life, but guess what? It's better to be super safe because, I mean, honestly, cybersecurity is wild. And I have had many practices while consulting that have been hacked. And I don't know if you all remember a couple of years ago now, was it last year maybe? Yeah, all of the insurances got hacked and we were without insurance payments for three or four months. We couldn't even submit claims. Like it was wild.   these things do happen and if you're not HIPAA compliant, if you don't know what it means, things aren't stored correctly, you just you have a lot of patients that could be in a lot of trouble. So not only are you going to get in trouble from a business standpoint with you know the regulatory compliance people,   but you're putting your patient's information and your own information at risk. You've got payroll documents on there. You've got your team's information on there. There's a lot of very sensitive information that's stored on there. So OSHA is incredibly valuable. Know it, train on it. I know we used to do quarterly training for OSHA. We'd add it into our monthly team meeting. We'd do a two hour monthly team meeting and at least 30 minutes of that once a quarter would be OSHA training. And so it would be training on a   certain subject from the OSHA book. They literally give it all to you ⁓ and then what I would do now is actually add in some of that HIPAA training with it like quarterly, monthly, however you guys want to do it and yearly, especially making sure that we're all reviewing it, that we're all up to date, that we all understand it and we understand any changes because they change them at the drop of a dime and Kristy, I don't know if you've ever received a letter from OSHA saying, hey, these are the updates but I have not.   I've never seen anything that was just like, guess what? We've updated and changed. So you guys have to go out and look for that information on your own.   Kristy, how did you handle, I know in my practice we had two people. We had one that was responsible for OSHA and then one that was responsible for HIPAA, which at that point, you know, just made sure that we did the sheets. Now we know there's much more involved to it, but how did you handle that in your practice as far as someone like the accountability piece to it? And I never wanted the accountability myself, my doctor.   He's a very busy man. Personally, professionally very busy. I ran his schedule ragged. He was constantly on the move. There's no way on this earth.   that he was ever going to be able to hold anything accountable, especially Osher or HIPAA. So I never made him the owner of that. And then as the office manager, I tried to stay out of that lane as well because I didn't want it to get mixed up in other pieces. But Kristy, how did you handle it in your practice and how do you see practices now handling that kind of responsibility and accountability piece?   DAT Kristy (15:46) Yeah. ⁓   Honestly going back to what you said, it's it's having a champion, right? It doesn't mean that they're the only one responsible but somebody that is the point person that ⁓ Is checking on those things and reporting back? You know how it kind of makes me think of when you go into a restroom at a chain store one of those and they have those Checklists about they check the bathroom at a certain time using something like that to know   The Dental A Team (16:15) Yeah.   DAT Kristy (16:18) ⁓ Because even your fire drills guys we're supposed to have fire drills and make sure team right on Boarding did we teach them where the I wash station is did we show them our? Meetup area if something happens, so It's important and like I said have that point person that can report back   The Dental A Team (16:22) Yeah.   DAT Kristy (16:38) Potentially in one of your team meetings just check on it. Just make sure it's like we do our checklist and chart audits ⁓ I was gonna circle back to you too because I won't name names But we all heard of the corporate entity that also got hacked, right? It's maybe been a couple years now, but you know Think of that they they're a big nationwide chain lots of money, right? And so even if they it happened to them like us as little   The Dental A Team (16:40) Yeah.   Yeah.   DAT Kristy (17:08) guys that don't have that kind of money to spend, we have to be very diligent. I would also do like chart audit type thing. Maybe not necessarily chart, but listen, listen to your admin people. Are they breaching HIPAA in conversations? You know, are they checking IDs? Are we even getting photo IDs from patients?   The Dental A Team (17:18) Yeah.   No, most places   are not getting photo IDs.   DAT Kristy (17:34) Yeah.   And a lot of people, you know, they look, well, we want to know who's coming in. So we want to get your photo. No, don't share your secrets. But on the same token, like it is part of compliance. And if, if you guys have ever heard of red flag rule, if you're accepting insurance, you have a due diligence to make sure that that person is who they say they are. And I have experienced where somebody came in portraying they're somebody else. So ⁓ they're little things, but they can be.   big things and just like that corporate entity it was flashed all over the news and so it's also about saving our reputation those things are hard to come back from.   The Dental A Team (18:16) I totally agree. That's a really great point. And I don't think I know many practices, maybe a handful, that really truly understand the value of the ID portion of it. And I do hear that too, like, we want to know who's coming in. Yeah, but your ID is not going to... A lot of practices will use it for both, and I think that's great. But my picture on my ID, you're never going to know that it's me, right? But at least you took it. It's got my information. It's got my statistics, my demographics that match up   within my insurance card because that does happen constantly.   constantly patients or practices are reporting that they've had patients that come in with the insurance, but it's not actually the person who's on the insurance card. happens a lot. And as you're taking payments as well, like, you know, I'm, I'm surprised we don't get asked more often for our credit cards, but when, or for our ID with our credit cards, but when I do, I'm always like thrown off. But then at the same time, I'm like, actually, thank you for caring enough about my safety, right? My electronic safety that someone's not using my credit card. Who's not actually them. Cause that has happened.   I have had those charges pop up that my credit card is like someone's at Circle K trying to use $5 and they're just like testing it, right? So I do appreciate that and I value it and I think our patients would too. But it is a piece of the record keeping that you're supposed to have if you are going to accept insurance from those patients. So it is a massive piece. that was a great, great point, Kristy. Biggest takeaway today, you guys, two biggest takeaways. Go figure out what HIPAA is if you don't know what it is, medical and   and business like standing business HIPAA, go figure both of those things out. Make sure that you're OSHA compliant, that you've got your book, you've got your sheets, you've got everything that you're supposed to have and that you're training on both of those because those make them compliant as well. And then make sure you've got point people to ensure that these trainings are happening to ensure that we're up to date with everything we're supposed to have. So super easy, you guys, you just you got to dig in and do the work. And I challenge you guys to go take that HIPAA test. It's hard.   Even after taking the course that leads up to it, it is not easy. and I both have struggled with that sucker. So I challenge you to go take that ding test and tell me you know anything about HIPAA. HIPAA? OSHA? K?   Just be compliant, you guys, and figure out an easy way. Like Kristy said, schedule it every year. Schedule it out. You've got your Ops manual update, so do your Ops manual update, your OSHA update, your HIPAA updates, and then make sure that you've got a point person probably for each of those, and they should be three separate people in my opinion if you've got the capacity within your staffing to do it. Kristy, thank you so much for your nuggets and for letting me probe questions over to you about your past as well. You have always, always amazing points.   So thank you for being here with us. Is there anything else you can think of that I missed in that wrap up that they should be doing?   DAT Kristy (21:09) No, I think you hit it all. The only thing we didn't touch on was make sure you're doing PCI compliance because you mentioned credit cards and taking them. There's still a ton of practices that I go in and they're writing down cards. Guys, get rehearsed. You could be putting yourself into ⁓ some situations by doing that. So that would be the only other one that I would add in the mix.   The Dental A Team (21:15) there.   That's a that's actually a really good point. And I've had a couple of practices text me some office managers and be like, what does this mean this PCI like people don't know what that means. And they don't know what that is. So make sure your office managers do know what that is. It goes right along with HIPAA. And those two go hand in hand. So just make sure, again, that you're not running the team that's like, I don't know, we're just supposed to sign this that they actually know what they're for. Because with a reason behind it, things get done. So that was massive, Kristy, thank you for remembering the PCI compliance. Alright, guys, go do   the things they're not really that hard except for that HIPAA test and I do challenge you to go take it because I just want to hear from you on how fun it was. But go do the things if you ever need anything you guys know where to find us Hello@TheDentalATeam.com we are here to help you I know that we do the HIPAA test every year you guys know especially if you're my clients I don't actually know   the link for that, we can get it for you. So Hello@TheDentalATeam.com. We can send you the information for the company that we utilize within our team and our company. Just let us know. And as always, drop a five star review. We'd love to hear what you thought about this. And if you have any regulatory information or things that you'd like to share, put it in that review because people really do read through those and they'll catch it as well. Thanks so much, guys. We'll catch you next time.  

David Mayernik is an architect, artist, writer, educator and most of all, he is a life-long student. David grew up in Allentown Pennsylvania. As he tells us during this episode, even at a young age of two he already loved to draw. He says he always had a pencil and paper with him and he used them constantly. His mother kept many of his drawings and he still has many of them to this day.   After graduating from University of Notre Dame David held several positions with various architectural firms. He always believed that he learned more by teaching himself, however, and eventually he decided to leave the professional world of architecture and took teaching positions at Notre Dame. He recently retired and is now Professor Emeritus at Notre Dame.   Our conversation is far ranging including discussions of life, the importance of learning and growing by listening to your inner self. David offers us many wonderful and insightful lessons and thoughts we all can use. We even talk some about about how technology such as Computer Aided Design systems, (CAD), are affecting the world of Architecture. I know you will enjoy what David has to say. Please let me know your thoughts through email at michaelhi@accessibe.com.     About the Guest:   David Mayernik is an architect, artist, writer, and educator. He was born in 1960 in Allentown, Pennsylvania; his parents were children of immigrants from Slovakia and Italy. He is a Fellow of the American Academy in Rome and the British Royal Society for the Encouragement of Arts, Manufactures, and Commerce, and has won numerous grants, awards and competitions, including the Gabriel Prize for research in France, the Steedman Competition, and the Minnesota State Capitol Grounds competition (with then partner Thomas N. Rajkovich). In 1995 he was named to the decennial list of the top forty architects in the United States under forty. In the fall of 2022, he was a resident at the Bogliasco Foundation in Liguria and the Cini foundation in Venice.   His design work for the TASIS campus in Switzerland over twenty-eight years has been recognized with a Palladio Award from Traditional Building magazine, an honorable mention in the INTBAU Excellence Awards, and a jury prize from the Prix Européen d'Architecture Philippe Rotthier. TASIS Switzerland was named one of the nine most beautiful boarding schools in the world by AD Magazine in March 2024. For ten years he also designed a series of new buildings for TASIS England in Surrey.   David Mayernik studied fresco painting with the renowned restorer Leonetto Tintori, and he has painted frescoes for the American Academy in Rome, churches in the Mugello and Ticino, and various buildings on the TASIS campus in Switzerland. He designed stage sets for the Haymarket Opera company of Chicago for four seasons between 2012 and 2014. He won the competition to paint the Palio for his adopted home of Lucca in 2013. His paintings and drawings have been exhibited in New York, Chicago, London, Innsbruck, Rome, and Padova and featured in various magazines, including American Artist and Fine Art Connoisseur.   David Mayernik is Professor Emeritus with the University of Notre Dame, where for twenty years he taught in the School of Architecture. He is the author of two books, The Challenge of Emulation in Art and Architecture (Routledge, UK) and Timeless Cities: An Architect's Reflections on Renaissance Italy, (Basic Books), and numerous essays and book chapters, including “The Baroque City” for the Oxford Handbook of the Baroque. In 2016 he created the online course The Meaning of Rome for Notre Dame, hosted on the edX platform, which had an audience of six thousand followers. Ways to connect with David:   Website: www.davidmayernik.com Instagram: davidmayernik LinkedIn: davidmayernik EdX: The Meaning of Rome https://www.edx.org/learn/humanities/university-of-notre-dame-the-meaning-of-rome-the-renaissance-and-baroque-city     About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. 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Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:17 Well, hi and welcome once again. Wherever you happen to be, to another episode of unstoppable mindset. Today, we get to chat with David Mayernik, unless you're in Europe, and then it's David Mayernik, but either way, we're glad to have him. He is an architect. He is an award winning architect. He's an author. He's done a number of things in his life, and we're going to talk about all of those, and it's kind of more fun to let him be the one to talk more about it, and then I can just pick up and ask questions as we go, and that's what we'll do. But we're really glad that he's here. So David, welcome to unstoppable mindset.   David Mayernik ** 01:57 Oh, thanks so much. Michael, thanks for the invitation. I'm looking forward to it.   Michael Hingson ** 02:02 Well, I know we've been working on getting this set up, and David actually happens to be in Italy today, as opposed to being in the US. He was a professor at Notre Dame for 20 years, but he has spent a lot of time in Europe and elsewhere, and I'm sure he's going to talk about that. But why don't we start, as I mentioned earlier, as I love to do, tell us kind of about the early David growing up.   David Mayernik ** 02:25 Well, so my both of my parents passed away several years ago, and when I was at my mom's funeral, one of our next door neighbors was telling my wife what I was like when I was a kid, and she said he was very quiet and very intense. And I suppose that's how I was perceived. I'm not sure I perceived myself that way I did. The thing about me is I've always drawn my mom. I mean, lots of kids draw, but I drew like credibly, well, when I was, you know, two and three years old. And of course, my mother saved everything. But the best thing about it was that I always had paper and pencil available. You know, we were terribly well off. We weren't poor, but we weren't, you know, well to do, but I never lacked for paper and pencils, and that just allowed me to just draw as much as I possibly could.   Michael Hingson ** 03:16 And so I guess the other question is, of course, do you still have all those old drawings since your mom kept   David Mayernik ** 03:23 them? Well, you know? Yeah, actually, after she passed, I did get her, Well, her collection of them. I don't know that all of them. My father had a penchant for throwing things away, unfortunately. So some of the archive is no longer with us, but no but enough of it. Just odds and bits from different areas of my life. And the thing is, you know, I was encouraged enough. I mean, all kids get encouraged. I think when they're young, everything they do is fabulous, but I had enough encouragement from people who seem to take it seriously that I thought maybe I had something and and it was the kind of thing that allowed me to have enough confidence in myself that I actually enjoyed doing it and and mostly, my parents were just impressed. You know, it just was impressive to them. And so I just happily went along my own way. The thing about it was that I really wanted to find my own path as somebody who drew and had a chance in high school for a scholarship to a local art school. I won a competition for a local art school scholarship, and I went for a couple of lessons, and I thought, you know, they're just teaching me to draw like them. I want to draw like me. So for better or worse, I'm one of those autodidacts who tries to find my own way, and, you know, it has its ups and downs. I mean, the downside of it is it's a slower learning process. Is a lot more trial and error. But the upside of it is, is that it's your own. I mean, essentially, I had enough of an ego that, you know, I really wanted to do. Things my way.   Michael Hingson ** 05:02 Well, you illustrate something that I've believed and articulate now I didn't used to, but I do now a lot more, which is I'm my own best teacher. And the reality is that you you learn by doing, and people can can give you information. And, yeah, you're right. Probably they wanted you to mostly just draw like them. But the bottom line is, you already knew from years of drawing as a child, you wanted to perhaps go a slightly different way, and you worked at it, and it may have taken longer, but look at what you learned.   David Mayernik ** 05:37 Yeah, I think it's, I mean, for me, it's, it's important that whatever you do, you do because you feel like you're being true to yourself somehow. I mean, I think that at least that's always been important to me, is that I don't, I don't like doing things for the sake of doing them. I like doing them because I think they matter. And I like, you know, I think essentially pursuing my own way of doing it meant that it always was, I mean, beyond just personal, it was something I was really committed to. And you know, the thing about it, eventually, for my parents was they thought it was fabulous, you know, loved great that you draw, but surely you don't intend to be an artist, because, you know, you want to have a job and make a living. And so I eventually realized that in high school, that while they, well, they probably would have supported anything I did that, you know, I was being nudged towards something a little bit more practical, which I think happens to a lot of kids who choose architecture like I did. It's a way, it's a practical way of being an artist and and that's we could talk about that. But I think that's not always true.   Michael Hingson ** 06:41 Bill, go ahead, talk about that. Well, I think that the   David Mayernik ** 06:44 thing about architecture is that it's become, well, one it became a profession in America, really, in the 20th century. I mean, it's in the sense that there was a licensing exam and all the requirements of what we think of as, you know, a professional service that, you know, like being a lawyer or a doctor, that architecture was sort of professionalized in the 20th century, at least in the United States. And, and it's a business, you know, ostensibly, I mean, you're, you know, you're doing what you do for a fee. And, and so architecture tries to balance the art part of it, or the creative side, the professional side of it, and the business side. And usually it's some rather imperfect version of all of those things. And the hard part, I think the hardest part to keep alive is the art part, because the business stuff and the professional stuff can really kind of take over. And that's been my trial. Challenge is to try to have it all three ways, essentially.   Michael Hingson ** 07:39 Do you think that Frank Lloyd Wright had a lot to do with bringing architecture more to the forefront of mindsets, mindsets, and also, of course, from an art standpoint, clearly, he had his own way of doing things.   David Mayernik ** 07:54 Yeah, absolutely he comes from, I mean, I wouldn't call it a rebellious tradition, but there was a streak of chafing at East Coast European classicism that happened in Chicago. Louis Sullivan, you know, is mostly responsible for that. And I but, but Right, had this, you know, kind of heroic sense of himself and and I think that his ability to draw, which was phenomenal. His sense that he wanted to do something different, and his sense that he wanted to do something American, made him a kind of a hero. Eventually, I think it coincided with America's growing sense of itself. And so for me, like lot of kids in America, my from my day, if you told somebody in high school you wanted to be an architect, they would give you a book on Frank Lloyd Wright. I mean, that's just, you know, part of the package.   Michael Hingson ** 08:47 Yeah, of course, there are others as well, but still, he brought a lot into it. And of course there, there are now more architects that we hear about and designers and so on the people what, I m Pei, who designed the world, original World Trade Center and other things like that. Clearly, there are a number of people who have made major impacts on the way we design and think of Building and Construction today,   David Mayernik ** 09:17 you know, I mean America's, you know, be kind of, it really was a leader in the development of architecture in the 20th century. I mean, in the 19th century was very much, you know, following what was happening in Europe. But essentially, by the 20th century, the America had a sense of itself that didn't always mean that it rejected the European tradition. Sometimes it tried to do it, just bigger and better, but, but it also felt like it had its, you know, almost a responsibility to find its own way, like me and, you know, come up with an American kind of architecture and and so it's always been in a kind of dialog with architecture from around the world. I mean, especially in Europe, at Frank Lloyd Wright was heavily influenced by Japanese architecture and. And so we've always seen ourselves, I think, in relationship to the world. And it's just the question of whether we were master or pupil to a certain extent,   Michael Hingson ** 10:07 and in reality, probably a little bit of both.   David Mayernik ** 10:12 Yeah, and we are, and I think, you know, acknowledging who we are, the fact that we didn't just, you know, spring from the earth in the United States, where we're all, I mean, essentially all immigrants, mostly, and essentially we, you know, essentially bring, we have baggage, essentially, as a culture, from lots of other places. And that's actually an advantage. I mean, I think it's actually what makes us a rich culture, is the diversity. I mean, even me, my father's family was Slovak, my mother's family Italian. And, you know from when I tell you know Europeans that they think that's just quintessentially American. That's what makes you an American, is that you're not a purebred of some kind.   Michael Hingson ** 10:49 Yeah, yeah. Pure purebred American is, is really sort of nebulous and and not necessarily overly accurate, because you are probably immigrants or part other kinds of races or nationalities as well. And that's, that's okay.   David Mayernik ** 11:08 It's, it's rich, you know, I think it's, it's a richer. It's the extent to which you want to engage with it. And the interesting thing about my parents was that they were both children of first generation immigrants. My mom's parents had been older Italian, and they were already married, and when they came to the States, my father's parents were younger and Slovak, and they met in the United States. And my father really wasn't that interested in his Slovak heritage. I mean, just, you know, he could speak some of the language, you know, really feel like it was something he wanted to hold on to or pass along, was my mom was, I mean, she loved her parents. She, you know, spoke with him in Italian, or actually not even Italian, the dialect from where her parents came from, which is north of Venice. And so she, I think she kind of, whether consciously or unconsciously, passed that on to me, that sense that I wanted to be. I was interested in where I came from, where the origins of my where my roots were, and it's something that had an appeal for me that wasn't just it wasn't front brain, it was really kind of built into who I was, which is why, you know, one of the reasons I chose to go to Notre Dame to study where I also wound up teaching like, welcome back Carter, is that I we had a Rome program, and so I've been teaching in the Rome program for our school, but we, I was there 44 years ago as a student.   Michael Hingson ** 12:28 Yeah. So quite a while, needless to say. And you know, I think, well, my grandmother on my mother's side was Polish, but I I never did get much in the way of information about the culture and so on from her and and my mom never really dealt with it much, because she was totally from The Bronx in New York, and was always just American, so I never really got a lot of that. But very frankly, in talking to so many people on this podcast over almost the last four years, talking to a number of people whose parents and grandparents all came to this country and how that affected them. It makes me really appreciate the kind of people who we all are, and we all are, are a conglomerate of so many different cultures, and that's okay, yeah? I mean,   David Mayernik ** 13:31 I think it's more than okay, and I think we need to just be honest about it, yeah. And, you know, kind of celebrate it, because the Italians brought with them, you know, tremendous skills. For example, a lot of my grandfather was a stone mason. You know, during the Depression, he worked, you know, the for the WPA essentially sponsored a whole series of public works projects in the parks in the town I grew up in Allentown, Pennsylvania. And Allentown has a fabulous park system. And my grandfather built a lot of stone walls in the parks in the 1930s and, you know, all these cultures that came to the states often brought, you know, specialized skills. You know, from where they they came from, and, and they enriched the American, you know, skill set, essentially, and, and that's, you know, again, that's we are, who we are because of that, you know, I celebrated I, you know, I'm especially connected to my Italian heritage. I feel like, in part because my grandfather, the stone mason, was a bit of jack of all trades. He could paint and draw. And my mom, you know, wrote poetry and painted. And even though she mostly, you know, in my life, was a was a housewife, but before she met my father, and they got married relatively late for their day, she had a professional life in World War Two, my mom actually went to Penn State for a couple of years in the start of at the start of the war, and then parents wanted her to come home, and so she did two years of engineering. Penn State. When she came back to Allentown, she actually got a job at the local airplane manufacturing plant that was making fighter planes for the United States called company called volte, and she did drafting for them. And then after World War Two, she got a job for the local power company drafting modern electrical kitchens and and so I've inherited all my mom's drafting equipment. And, you know, she's, she's very much a kind of a child of the culture that she came from, and in the sense that it was a, you know, artistic culture, a creative culture. And, you know, I definitely happy and proud of   Michael Hingson ** 15:37 that. You know, one of the things that impresses me, and I think about a lot in talking to so many people whose parents and grandparents immigrated to this country and so on, is not just the skill sets that they brought, but the work ethic that they had, that they imparted to people. And I think people who have had a number of generations here have not always kept that, and I think they've lost something very valuable, because that work ethic is what made those people who they were   David Mayernik ** 16:08 absolutely I mean, my Yeah, I mean my father. I mean absolutely true is, I mean tireless worker, capable of tremendous self sacrifice and and, you know, and that whole generation, I mean, he fought in World War Two. He actually joined, joined the Navy underage. He lied about his age to get in the Navy and that. But they were capable of self, tremendous self sacrifice and tremendous effort. And, you know, I think, you know, we're always, you know, these days, we always talk about work life balance. And I have to say, being an architect, most architects don't have a great work life balance. Mostly it's, it's a lot of work and a little bit of life. And that's, I don't, you know. I think not everybody survives that. Not every architects marriage survives that mine has. But I think it's, you know, that the idea that you're, you're sort of defined by what you do. I think there's a lot of talk these days about that's not a good thing. I I'm sort of okay with that. I'm sort of okay with being defined by what I do.   Michael Hingson ** 17:13 Yeah, and, and that that's, that's okay, especially if you're okay with it. That's good. Well, you So you went to Notre Dame, and obviously dealt with architecture. There some,   David Mayernik ** 17:28 yeah. I mean, the thing, the great thing about Notre Dame is to have the Rome program, and that was the idea of actually a Sicilian immigrant to the States in the early 20th century who became a professor at Notre Dame. And he had, he won the Paris prize. A guy named Frank Montana who won the Paris prize in the 1930s went to Harvard and was a professor at Notre Dame. And he had the good idea that, you know, maybe sending kids to five years of architecture education in Indiana, maybe wasn't the best, well rounded education possible, and maybe they should get out of South Bend for a year, and he, on his own initiative, without even support from the university, started a Rome program, and then said to the university, hey, we have a Rome program now. And so that was, that was his instinct to do that. And while I got, I think, a great education there, especially after Rome, the professor, one professor I had after Rome, was exceptional for me. But you know, Rome was just the opportunity to see great architecture. I mean, I had seen some. I mean, I, you know, my parents would go to Philadelphia, New York and, you know, we I saw some things. But, you know, I wasn't really bowled over by architecture until I went to Rome. And just the experience of that really changed my life, and it gave me a direction,   Michael Hingson ** 18:41 essentially. So the Rome program would send you to Rome for a year.   David Mayernik ** 18:46 Yeah, which is unusual too, because a lot of overseas programs do a semester. We were unusual in that the third year out of a five year undergraduate degree in architecture, the whole year is spent in Rome. And you know, when you're 20 ish, you know, 20 I turned 21 when I was over there. It's a real transition time in your life. I mean, it's, it was really transformative. And for all of us, small of my classmates, I mean, we're all kind of grew up. We all became a bit, you know, European. We stopped going to football games when we went back on campus, because it wasn't cool anymore, but, but we, we definitely were transformed by it personally, but, it really opened our eyes to what architecture was capable of, and that once you've, once you've kind of seen that, you know, once you've been to the top of the mountain, kind of thing, it can really get under your skin. And, you know, kind of sponsor whatever you do for the rest of your life. At least for me, it   Michael Hingson ** 19:35 did, yeah, yeah. So what did you do after you graduated?   David Mayernik ** 19:40 Well, I graduated, and I think also a lot of our students lately have had a pretty reasonably good economy over the last couple of decades, that where it's been pretty easy for our students to get a job. I graduated in a recession. I pounded the pavements a lot. I went, you know, staying with my parents and. Allentown, went back and forth to New York, knocking on doors. There was actually a woman who worked at the unemployment agency in New York who specialized in architects, and she would arrange interviews with firms. And, you know, I just got something for the summer, essentially, and then finally, got a job in the in the fall for somebody I wanted to work with in Philadelphia and and that guy left that firm after about three months because he won a competition. He didn't take me with him, and I was in a firm that really didn't want to be with. I wanted to be with him, not with the firm. And so I then I picked up stakes and moved to Chicago and worked for an architect who'd been a visiting professor at Notre Dame eventually became dean at Yale Tom Beebe, and it was a great learning experience, but it was also a lot of hours at low pay. You know, I don't think, I don't think my students, I can't even tell my students what I used to make an hour as a young architect. I don't think they would understand, yeah, I mean, I really don't, but it was, it was a it was the sense that you were, that your early years was a kind of, I mean an apprenticeship. I mean almost an unpaid apprenticeship at some level. I mean, I needed to make enough money to pay the rent and eat, but that was about it. And and so I did that, but I bounced around a lot, you know, and a lot of kids, I think a lot of our students, when they graduate, they think that getting a job is like a marriage, like they're going to be in it forever. And, you know, I, for better or worse, I moved around a lot. I mean, I moved every time I hit what I felt was like a point of diminishing returns. When I felt like I was putting more in and getting less out, I thought it was time to go and try something else. And I don't know that's always good advice. I mean, it can make you look flighty or unstable, but I kind of always followed my my instinct on that.   Michael Hingson ** 21:57 I don't remember how old I was. You're talking about wages. But I remember it was a Sunday, and my parents were reading the newspaper, and they got into a discussion just about the fact that the minimum wage had just been changed to be $1.50 an hour. I had no concept of all of that. But of course, now looking back on it, $1.50 an hour, and looking at it now, it's pretty amazing. And in a sense, $1.50 an hour, and now we're talking about $15 and $16 an hour, and I had to be, I'm sure, under 10. So it was sometime between 1958 and 1960 or so, or maybe 61 I don't remember exactly when, but in a sense, looking at it now, I'm not sure that the minimum wage has gone up all that much. Yes, 10 times what it was. But so many other things are a whole lot more than 10 times what they were back then,   David Mayernik ** 23:01 absolutely, yeah. I mean, I mean, in some ways also, my father was a, my father was a factory worker. I mean, he tried to have lots of other businesses of his own. He, you're, you're obviously a great salesman. And the one skill my father didn't have is he could, he could, like, for example, he had a home building business. He could build a great house. He just couldn't sell it. And so, you know, I think he was a factory worker, but he was able to send my sister and I to private college simultaneously on a factory worker salary, you know, with, with, I mean, I had some student loan debt, but not a lot. And that's, that's not possible today.   Michael Hingson ** 23:42 No, he saved and put money aside so that you could do that, yeah, and,   David Mayernik ** 23:47 and he made enough. I mean, essentially, the cost of college was not that much. And he was, you know, right, yeah. And he had a union job. It was, you know, reasonably well paid. I mean, we lived in a, you know, a nice middle class neighborhood, and, you know, we, we had a nice life growing up, and he was able to again, send us to college. And I that's just not possible for without tremendous amount of debt. It's not possible today. So the whole scale of our economy shifted tremendously. What I was making when I was a young architect. I mean, it was not a lot then, but I survived. Fact, actually saved money in Chicago for a two month summer in Europe after that. So, you know, essentially, the cost of living was, it didn't take a lot to cover your your expenses, right? The advantage of that for me was that it allowed me time when I had free time when I after that experience, and I traveled to Europe, I came back and I worked in Philadelphia for the same guy who had left the old firm in Philadelphia and went off on his own, started his own business. I worked for him for about nine months, but I had time in the evenings, because I didn't have to work 80 hours a week to do other things. I taught myself how to paint. And do things that I was interested in, and I could experiment and try things and and, you know, because surviving wasn't all that hard. I mean, it was easy to pay your bills and, and I think that's one of the things that's, I think, become more onerous, is that, I think for a lot of young people just kind of dealing with both college debt and then, you know, essentially the cost of living. They don't have a lot of time or energy to do anything else. And you know, for me, that was, I had the luxury of having time and energy to invest in my own growth, let's say as a more career, as a creative person. And you know, I also, I also tell students that, you know, there are a lot of hours in the day, you know, and whatever you're doing in an office. There are a lot of hours after that, you could be doing something else, and that I used every one of those hours as best I could.   Michael Hingson ** 25:50 Yeah. Well, you know, we're all born with challenges in life. What kind of challenges, real challenges did you have growing up as you look back on it?   David Mayernik ** 26:01 Yeah, my, I mean, my, I mean, there was some, there was some, a few rocky times when my father was trying to have his own business. And, you know, I'm not saying we grew up. We didn't struggle, but it wasn't, you know, always smooth sailing. But I think one of the things I learned about being an architect, which I didn't realize, and only kind of has been brought home to me later. Right now, I have somebody who's told me not that long ago, you know? You know, the problem is, architecture is a gentleman's profession. You know that IT architecture, historically was practiced by people from a social class, who knew, essentially, they grew up with the people who would become their clients, right? And so the way a lot of architects built their practice was essentially on, you know, family connections and personal connections, college connections. And I didn't have that advantage. So, you know, I've, I've essentially had to define myself or establish myself based on what I'm capable of doing. And you know, it's not always a level playing field. The great breakthrough for me, in a lot of ways, was that one of the one of my classmates and I entered a big international competition when we were essentially 25 years old. I think we entered. I turned 26 and it was an open competition. So, you know, no professional requirements. You know, virtually no entry fee to redesign the state capitol grounds of Minnesota, and it was international, and we, and we actually were selected as one of the top five teams that were allowed to proceed onto the second phase, and at which point we we weren't licensed architects. We didn't have a lot of professional sense or business sense, so we had to associate with a local firm in Minnesota and and we competed for the final phase. We did most of the work. The firm supported us, but they gave us basically professional credibility and and we won. We were the architects of the state capitol grounds in Minnesota, 26 years old, and that's because the that system of competition was basically a level playing field. It was, you know, ostensibly anonymous, at least the first phase, and it was just basically who had the best design. And you know, a lot of the way architecture gets architects get chosen. The way architecture gets distributed is connections, reputation, things like that, but, but you know, when you find those avenues where it's kind of a level playing field and you get to show your stuff. It doesn't matter where you grew up or who you are, it just matters how good you are, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 28:47 well, and do you think it's still that way today?   David Mayernik ** 28:51 There are a lot fewer open professional competitions. They're just a lot fewer of them. It was the and, you know, maybe they learned a lesson. I mean, maybe people like me shouldn't have been winning competitions. I mean, at some level, we were out of our league. I wouldn't say, I wouldn't say, from a design point of view. I mean, we were very capable of doing what the project involved, but we were not ready for the hardball of collaborating with a big firm and and the and the politics of what we were doing and the business side of it, we got kind of crushed, and, and, and eventually they never had the money to build the project, so the project just kind of evaporated. And the guy I used to work with in Philadelphia told me, after I won the competition, he said, you know, because he won a competition. He said, You know, the second project is the hardest one to get, you know, because you might get lucky one time and you win a competition, the question is, how do you build practice out of that?   Michael Hingson ** 29:52 Yeah, and it's a good point, yeah, yeah.   David Mayernik ** 29:55 I mean, developing some kind of continuity is hard. I mean, I. Have a longer, more discontinuous practice after that, but it's that's the hard part.   Michael Hingson ** 30:07 Well, you know, I mentioned challenges before, and we all, we all face challenges and so on. How do we overcome the challenges, our inherited challenges, or the perceived challenges that we have? How do we overcome those and work to move forward, to be our best? Because that's clearly kind of what you're talking about here.   David Mayernik ** 30:26 Yeah, well, the true I mean, so the challenges that we're born with, and I think there are also some challenges that, you know, we impose on ourselves, right? I mean, in this, in the best sense, I mean the ways that we challenge ourselves. And for me, I'm a bit of an idealist, and you know, the world doesn't look kindly on idealist. If you know, from a business, professional point of view, idealism is often, I'm not saying it's frowned upon, but it's hardly encouraged and rewarded and but I think that for me, I've learned over time that it's you really just beating your head against the wall is not the best. A little bit of navigating your way around problems rather than trying to run through them or knock them over is a smarter strategy. And so you have to be a little nimble. You have to be a little creative about how you find work and essentially, how you keep yourself afloat and and if you're if you're open to possibilities, and if you take some risks, you can, you can actually navigate yourself through a series of obstacles and actually have a rich, interesting life, but it may not follow the path that you thought you were starting out on at the beginning. And that's the, I think that's the skill that not everybody has.   Michael Hingson ** 31:43 The other part about that, though, is that all too often, we don't really give thought to what we're going to do, or we we maybe even get nudges about what we ought to do, but we discount them because we think, Oh, that's just not the way to do it. Rather than stepping back and really analyzing what we're seeing, what we're hearing. And I, for 1am, a firm believer in the fact that our inner self, our inner voice, will guide us if we give it the opportunity to do that.   David Mayernik ** 32:15 You know, I absolutely agree. I think a lot of people, you know, I was, I for, I have, for better or worse, I've always had a good sense of what I wanted to do with my life, even if architecture was a you know, conscious way to do something that was not exactly maybe what I dreamed of doing, it was a, you know, as a more rational choice. But, but I've, but I've basically followed my heart, more or less, and I've done the things that I always believed in it was true too. And when I meet people, especially when I have students who don't really know what they love, or, you know, really can't tell you what they really are passionate about, but my sense of it is, this is just my I might be completely wrong, but my sense of it is, they either can't admit it to themselves, or they can't admit it to somebody else that they that, either, in the first case, they're not prepared to listen to themselves and actually really deep, dig deep and think about what really matters to them, or if they do know what that is, they're embarrassed to admit it, or they're embarrassed to tell somebody else. I think most of us have some drive, or some internal, you know, impetus towards something and, and you're right. I mean, learning to listen to that is, is a, I mean, it's rewarding. I mean, essentially, you become yourself. You become more, or the best possible self you can be, I guess.   Michael Hingson ** 33:42 Yeah, I agree. And I guess that that kind of answers the question I was was thinking of, and that is, basically, as you're doing things in life, should you follow your dreams?   David Mayernik ** 33:53 You know, there's a lot, a lot of people are writing these days, if you read, if you're just, you know, on the, on the internet, reading the, you know, advice that you get on, you know, the new services, from the BBC to, you know, any other form of information that's out there, there's a lot of back and forth by between the follow your dreams camp and the don't follow your dreams camp. And the argument of the don't follow your dreams camp seems to be that it's going to be hard and you'll be frustrated, and you know, and that's true, but it doesn't mean you're going to fail, and I don't think anybody should expect life to be easy. So I think if you understand going in, and maybe that's part of my Eastern European heritage that you basically expect life to be hard, not, not that it has to be unpleasant, but you know it's going to be a struggle, but, but if you are true to yourself or follow your dreams, you're probably not going to wake up in the middle of your life with a crisis. You know, because I think a lot of times when you suppress your dreams, they. Stay suppressed forever, and the frustrations come out later, and it's better to just take them on board and try to again, navigate your way through life with those aspirations that you have, that you know are really they're built in like you were saying. They're kind of hardwired to be that person, and it's best to listen to that person.   Michael Hingson ** 35:20 There's nothing wrong with having real convictions, and I think it's important to to step back and make sure that you're really hearing what your convictions are and feeling what your convictions are. But that is what people should do, because otherwise, you're just not going to be happy.   David Mayernik ** 35:36 You're not and you're you're at one level, allowing yourself to manipulate yourself. I mean, essentially, you're, you know, kind of essentially deterring yourself from being who you are. You're probably also susceptible to other people doing that to you, that if you don't have enough sense of yourself, a lot of other people can manipulate you, push you around. And, you know, the thing about having a good sense of yourself is you also know how to stand up for yourself, or at least you know that you're a self that's worth standing up for. And that's you know. That's that, that thing that you know the kids learn in the school yard when you confront the bully, you know you have to, you know, the parents always tell you, you know, stand up to the bully. And at some level, life is going to bully you unless you really are prepared to stand up for something.   Michael Hingson ** 36:25 Yeah, and there's so many examples of that I know as a as a blind person, I've been involved in taking on some pretty major tasks in life. For example, it used to be that anyone with a so called Disability couldn't buy life insurance, and eventually, we took on the insurance industry and won to get the laws passed in every state that now mandate that you can't discriminate against people with disabilities in providing life insurance unless you really have evidence To prove that it's appropriate to do that, and since the laws were passed, there hasn't been any evidence. And the reason is, of course, there never has been evidence, and insurance companies kept claiming they had it, but then when they were challenged to produce it, they couldn't. But the reality is that you can take on major tasks and major challenges and win as long as you really understand that that is what your life is steering you to do,   David Mayernik ** 37:27 yeah, like you said, and also too, having a sense of your your self worth beyond whatever that disability is, that you know what you're capable of, apart from that, you know that's all about what you can't do, but all the things that you can do are the things that should allow you to do anything. And, yeah, I think we're, I think it's a lot of times people will try to define you by what you can't do, you   Michael Hingson ** 37:51 know? And the reality is that those are traditionally misconceptions and inaccurate anyway, as I point out to people, disability does not mean a lack of ability. Although a lot of people say, Well, of course it, it is because it starts with dis. And my response is, what do you then? How do you deal with the words disciple, discern and discrete? For example, you know the fact of the matter is, we all have a disability. Most of you are light dependent. You don't do well with out light in your life, and that's okay. We love you anyway, even though you you have to have light but. But the reality is, in a sense, that's as much a disability is not being light dependent or being light independent. The difference is that light on demand has caused so much focus that it's real easy to get, but it doesn't change the fact that your disability is covered up, but it's still there.   David Mayernik ** 38:47 No, it's true. I mean, I think actually, yeah, knowing. I mean, you're, we're talking about knowing who you are, and, you know, listening to your inner voice and even listening to your aspirations. But also, I mean being pretty honest about where your liabilities are, like what the things are that you struggle with and just recognizing them, and not not to dwell on them, but to just recognize how they may be getting in the way and how you can work around them. You know, one of the things I tell students is that it's really important to be self critical, but, but it's, it's not good to be self deprecating, you know. And I think being self critical if you're going to be a self taught person like I am, in a lot of ways, you you have to be aware of where you're not getting it right. Because I think the problem is sometimes you can satisfy yourself too easily. You're too happy with your own progress. You know, the advantage of having somebody outside teaching you is they're going to tell you when you're doing it wrong, and most people are kind of loath do that for themselves, but, but the other end of that is the people who are so self deprecating, constantly putting themselves down, that they never are able to move beyond it, because they're only aware of what they can't do. And you know, I think balancing self criticism with a sense of your self worth is, you know, one of the great balancing acts of life. You.   Michael Hingson ** 40:00 Well, that's why I've adopted the concept of I'm my own best teacher, because rather than being critical and approaching anything in a negative way, if I realize that I'm going to be my own best teacher, and people will tell me things, I can look at them, and I should look at them, analyze them, step back, internalize them or not, but use that information to grow, then that's what I really should do, and I would much prefer the positive approach of I'm my own best teacher over anything else.   David Mayernik ** 40:31 Yeah, well, I mean, the last kind of teachers, and I, you know, a lot of my students have thought of me as a critical teacher. One of the things I think my students have misunderstood about that is, it's not that I have a low opinion of them. It's actually that I have such a high opinion that I always think they're capable of doing better. Yeah, I think one of the problems in our educational system now is that it's so it's so ratifying and validating. There's so we're so low to criticize and so and the students are so fragile with criticism that they they don't take the criticism well, yeah, we don't give it and, and you without some degree of what you're not quite getting right, you really don't know what you're capable of, right? And, and I think you know. But being but again, being critical is not that's not where you start. I think you start from the aspiration and the hope and the, you know, the actually, the joy of doing something. And then, you know, you take a step back and maybe take a little you know, artists historically had various techniques for judging their own work. Titian used to take one of his paintings and turn it away, turn it facing the wall so that he couldn't see it, and he would come back to it a month later. And, you know, because when he first painted, he thought it was the greatest thing ever painted, he would come back to it a month later and think, you know, I could have done some of those parts better, and you would work on it and fix it. And so, you know, the self criticism comes from this capacity to distance yourself from yourself, look at yourself almost as as hard as it is from the outside, yeah, try to see yourself as other people see you. Because I think in your own mind, you can kind of become completely self referential. And you know, that's that. These are all life skills. You know, I had to say this to somebody recently, but, you know, I think the thing you should get out of your education is learning how to learn and like you're talking about, essentially, how do you approach something new or challenging or different? Is has to do with essentially, how do you how do you know? Do you know how to grow and learn on your own?   Michael Hingson ** 42:44 Yeah, exactly, well, being an architect and so on. How did you end up going off and becoming a professor and and teaching? Yeah, a   David Mayernik ** 42:52 lot of architects do it. I have to say. I mean, there's always a lot of the people who are the kind of heroes when I was a student, were practicing architects who also taught and and they had a kind of, let's say, intellectual approach to what they did. They were conceptual. It wasn't just the mundane aspects of getting a building built, but they had some sense of where they fit, with respect to the culture, with respect to history and issues outside of architecture, the extent to which they were tied into other aspects of culture. And so I always had the idea that, you know, to be a full, you know, a fully, you know, engaged architect. You should have an academic, intellectual side to your life. And teaching would be an opportunity to do that. The only thing is, I didn't feel like I knew enough until I was older, in my 40s, to feel like I actually knew enough about what I was doing to be able to teach somebody else. A lot of architects get into teaching early, I think, before they're actually fully formed to have their own identities. And I think it's been good for me that I waited a while until I had a sense of myself before I felt like I could teach somebody else. And so there was, there was that, I mean, the other side of it, and it's not to say that it was just a day job, but one of the things I decided from the point of your practice is a lot of architects have to do a lot of work that they're not proud of to keep the lights on and keep the business operating. And I have decided for myself, I only really want to do work that I'm proud of, and in order to do that, because clients that you can work for and be you know feel proud of, are rather rare, and so I balanced teaching and practice, because teaching allowed me to ostensibly, theoretically be involved with the life of the mind and only work for people and projects that interested me and that I thought could offer me the chance to do something good and interesting and important. And so one I had the sense that I had something to convey I learned. Enough that I felt like I could teach somebody else. But it was also, for me, an opportunity to have a kind of a balanced life in which practice was compensated. You know that a lot of practice, even interesting practice, has a banal, you know, mundane side. And I like being intellectually stimulated, so I wanted that. Not everybody wants   Michael Hingson ** 45:24 that. Yeah, so you think that the teaching brings you that, or it put you in a position where you needed to deal with that?   David Mayernik ** 45:32 You know, having just retired, I wish there had been more of that. I really had this romantic idea that academics, being involved in academics, would be an opportunity to live in a world of ideas. You know? I mean, because when I was a student, I have to say we, after we came back from Rome, I got at least half of my education for my classmates, because we were deeply engaged. We debated stuff. We, you know, we we challenged each other. We were competitive in a healthy way and and I remember academics my the best part of my academic formation is being immensely intellectually rich. In fact, I really missed it. For about the first five years I was out of college, I really missed the intellectual side of architecture, and I thought going back as a teacher, I would reconnect with that, and I realized not necessarily, there's a lot about academics that's just as mundane and bureaucratic as practice can be so if you really want to have a satisfying intellectual life, unfortunately, you can't look to any institution or other people for it. You got to find it on your own.   46:51 Paperwork, paperwork,   David Mayernik ** 46:55 committee meetings, just stuff. Yeah, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 47:00 yeah. Yeah, which never, which never. Well, I won't say they never help, but there's probably, there's probably some valuable stuff that you can get, even from writing and doing, doing paperwork, because it helps you learn to write. I suppose you can look at it that way.   David Mayernik ** 47:16 No, it's true. I mean, you're, you're definitely a glass half full guy. Michael, I appreciate that's good. No. I mean, I, obviously, I always try to make get the most out of whatever experience I have. But, I mean, in the sense that there wasn't as much intellectual discourse, yeah, you know, as my I would have liked, yeah, and I, you know, in the practice or in the more academic side of architecture. Several years ago, somebody said we were in a post critical phase like that. Ideas weren't really what was driving architecture. It was going to be driven by issues of sustainability, issues of social structure, you know, essentially how people live together, issues that have to do with things that weren't really about, let's call it design in the esthetic sense, and all that stuff is super important. And I'm super interested in, you know, the social impact of my architecture, the sustainable impact of it, but the the kind of intellectual society side of the design part of it, we're in a weird phase where it that's just not in my world, we just it's not talked about a lot. You know,   Michael Hingson ** 48:33 it's not what it what it used to be. Something tells me you may be retired, but you're not going to stop searching for intellectual and various kinds of stimulation to help keep your mind active.   David Mayernik ** 48:47 Oh, gosh, no, no. I mean, effectively. I mean, I just stopped one particular job. I describe it now as quitting with benefits. That's my idea of what I retired from. I retired from a particular position in a particular place, but, but I haven't stopped. I mean, I'm certainly going to keep working. I have a very interesting design project in Switzerland. I've been working on for almost 29 years, and it's got a number of years left in it. I paint, I write, I give lectures, I you know, and you obviously have a rich life. You know, not being at a job. Doesn't mean that the that your engagement with the world and with ideas goes away. I mean, unless you wanted to, my wife's my wife had three great uncles who were great jazz musicians. I mean, some quite well known jazz musicians. And one of them was asked, you know, was he ever going to retire? And he said, retire to what? Because, you know, he was a musician. I mean, you can't stop being a musician, you know, you know, if, some level, if you're really engaged with what you do, you You never stop, really,   Michael Hingson ** 49:51 if you enjoy it, why would you? No, I   David Mayernik ** 49:54 mean, the best thing is that your work is your fun. I mean, you know, talking about, we talked about it. I. You that You know you're kind of defined by your work, but if your work is really what you enjoy, I mean, actually it's fulfilling, rich, enriching, interesting, you don't want to stop doing that. I mean, essentially, you want to do it as long as you possibly can. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 50:13 and it's and it's really important to do that. And I think, in reality, when you retire from a job, you're not really retiring from a job. You're retiring, as you said, from one particular thing. But the job isn't a negative thing at all. It is what you like to do.   David Mayernik ** 50:31 Yeah. I mean, there's, yeah, there's the things that you do that. I mean, I guess the job is the, if you like, the thing that is the, you know, the institution or the entity that you know, pays your bills and that kind of stuff, but the career or the thing that you're invested in that had the way you define yourself is you never stop being that person, that person. And in some ways, you know, what I'm looking forward to is a richer opportunity to pursue my own avenue of inquiry, and, you know, do things on my own terms, without some of the obligations I had   Michael Hingson ** 51:03 as a teacher, and where's your wife and all that.   David Mayernik ** 51:06 So she's with me here in LUCA, and she's she's had a super interesting life, because she she she studied. We, when we were together in New York, she was getting a degree in art history, Medieval and Renaissance studies in art history at NYU, and then she decided she really wanted to be a chef, and she went to cooking school in New York and then worked in a variety of food businesses in New York, and then got into food writing and well, food styling for magazines, making food for photographs, and then eventually writing. And through a strange series of connections and experiences. She got an opportunity to cook at an Art Foundation in the south of France, and I was in New York, and I was freelancing. I was I'd quit a job I'd been at for five years, and I was freelancing around, doing some of my own stuff and working with other architects, and I had work I could take with me. And you know, it was there was there was, we didn't really have the internet so much, but we had FedEx. And I thought I could do drawings in the south of France. I could do them in Brooklyn. So, so I went to the south of France, and it just happens to be that my current client from Switzerland was there at that place at that time, scouting it out for some other purpose. And she said, I hear you're architect. I said, Yeah. And I said, Well, you know, she said, I like, you know, classical architecture, and I like, you know, traditional villages, and we have a campus, and we need a master plan architect. And I was doing a master plan back in Delaware at that time, and my wife's you know, career trajectory actually enabled me to meet a client who's basically given me an opportunity to build, you know, really interesting stuff, both in Switzerland and in England for the last, you know, again, almost 29 years. And so my wife's been a partner in this, and she's been, you know, because she's pursued her own parallel interest. But, but our interests overlap enough and we share enough that we our interests are kind of mutually reinforcing. It's, it's been like an ongoing conversation between us, which has been alive and rich and wonderful.   Michael Hingson ** 53:08 You know, with everything going on in architecture and in the world in general, we see more and more technology in various arenas and so on. How do you think that the whole concept of CAD has made a difference, or in any way affected architecture. And where do you think CAD systems really fit into all of that?   David Mayernik ** 53:33 Well, so I mean this, you know, CAD came along. I mean, it already was, even when I was early in my apprenticeship, yeah, I was in Chicago, and there was a big for som in Chicago, had one of the first, you know, big computers that was doing some drawing work for them. And one of my, a friend of mine, you know, went to spend some time and figure out what they were capable of. And, but, you know, never really came into my world until kind of the late night, mid, mid to late 90s and, and, and I kind of resisted it, because I, the reason I got into architecture is because I like to draw by hand, and CAD just seemed to be, you know, the last thing I'd want to do. But at the same time, you, some of you, can't avoid it. I mean, it has sort of taken over the profession that, essentially, you either have people doing it for you, or you have to do it yourself, and and so the interesting thing is, I guess that I, at some point with Switzerland, I had to, basically, I had people helping me and doing drawing for me, but I eventually taught myself. And I actually, I jumped over CAD and I went to a 3d software called ArchiCAD, which is a parametric design thing where you're essentially building a 3d model. Because I thought, Look, if I'm going to do drawing on the computer, I want the computer to do something more than just make lines, because I can make lines on my own. But so the computer now was able to help me build a 3d model understand buildings in space and construction. And so I've taught myself to be reasonably, you know, dangerous with ArchiCAD and but the. Same time, the creative side of it, I still, I still think, and a lot of people think, is still tied to the intuitive hand drawing aspect and and so a lot of schools that gave up on hand drawing have brought it back, at least in the early years of formation of architects only for the the conceptual side of architecture, the the part where you are doodling out your first ideas, because CAD drawing is essentially mechanical and methodical and sort of not really intuitive, whereas the intuitive marking of paper With a pencil is much more directly connected to the mind's capacity to kind of speculate and imagine and daydream a little bit, or wander a little bit your mind wanders, and it actually is time when some things can kind of emerge on the page that you didn't even intend. And so, you know, the other thing about the computer is now on my iPad, I can actually do hand drawing on my iPad, and that's allowed me to travel with it, show it to clients. And so I still obviously do a lot of drawing on paper. I paint by hand, obviously with real paints and real materials. But I also have found also I can do free hand drawing on my iPad. I think the real challenge now is artificial intelligence, which is not really about drawing, it's about somebody else or the machine doing the creative side of it. And that's the big existential crisis that I think the profession is facing right now.   Michael Hingson ** 56:36 Yeah, I think I agree with that. I've always understood that you could do free hand drawing with with CAD systems. And I know that when I couldn't find a job in the mid 1980s I formed a company, and we sold PC based CAD systems to architects and engineers. And you know, a number of them said, well, but when we do designs, we charge by the time that we put into drawing, and we can't do that with a CAD system, because it'll do it in a fraction of the time. And my response always was, you're looking at it all wrong. You don't change how much you charge a customer, but now you're not charging for your time, you're charging for your expertise, and you do the same thing. The architects who got that were pretty successful using CAD systems, and felt that it wasn't really stifling their creativity to use a CAD system to enhance and speed up what they did, because it also allowed them to find more jobs more quickly.   David Mayernik ** 57:35 Yeah, one of the things it did was actually allow smaller firms to compete with bigger firms, because you just didn't need as many bodies to produce a set of drawings to get a project built or to make a presentation. So I mean, it has at one level, and I think it still is a kind of a leveler of, in a way, the scale side of architecture, that a lot of small creative firms can actually compete for big projects and do them successfully. There's also, it's also facilitated collaboration, because of the ability to exchange files and have people in different offices, even around the world, working on the same drawing. So, you know, I'm working in Switzerland. You know, one of the reasons to be on CAD is that I'm, you know, sharing drawings with local architects there engineers, and that you know that that collaborative sharing process is definitely facilitated by the computer.   Michael Hingson ** 58:27 Yeah, information exchange is always valuable, especially if you have a number of people who are committed to the same thing. It really helps. Collaboration is always a good thing,   David Mayernik ** 58:39 yeah? I mean, I think a lot of, I mean, there's always the challenge between the ego side of architecture, you know, creative genius, genius, the Howard Roark Fountainhead, you know, romantic idea. And the reality is that it takes a lot of people to get a building built, and one person really can't do it by themselves. And So collaboration is kind of built into it at the same time, you know, for any kind of coherence, or some any kind of, let's say, anything, that brings a kind of an artistic integrity to a work of architecture, mostly, that's got to come from one person, or at least people with enough shared vision that that there's a kind of coherence to it, you know. And so there still is space for the individual creative person. It's just that it's inevitably a collaborative process to get, you know, it's the it's the 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration. Side architecture is very much that there's a lot of heavy lifting that goes into getting a set of drawings done to get

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Episode Summary: In this episode, Dr. Jeremy Pollack explores one of the most common emotional traps we fall into—taking things personally. Whether it's a curt email, a dismissive look, or tough feedback, it's easy to assume it's about us. But in most cases, it's not. Dr. Pollack breaks down why we take things personally, how it affects our nervous system and workplace relationships, and five practical strategies to stop the spiral before it starts.What You'll Learn: ✅ Why we're wired to take things personally ✅ How to regulate your response with a simple breathing technique ✅ How to reframe negative assumptions with more balanced narratives ✅ Tools to stop mind-reading and start asking the right questions ✅ A daily practice to build unshakable internal confidenceKey Takeaways:Pause and Breathe to calm your nervous system before reacting.Reframe the Story and consider alternative explanations for others' behavior.Don't Mind-Read—you can't know someone's intent without asking.Ask Clarifying Questions to avoid unnecessary misinterpretations.Build Internal Confidence so others' moods don't shake your sense of worth.Connect with Me

Portland, Oregon is facing a massive construction slump — and things have gotten so dire that Governor Tina Kotek and Mayor Keith Wilson are stepping in personally to court housing investors.

Keri Eichberger shares a vulnerable reflection on enduring seasons of deep emotional and physical discomfort. From her father’s sudden brain hemorrhage to chronic scoliosis pain and financial strain, she wrestled with losing every worldly comfort—only to discover that the true source of peace and strength is found in God alone. Based on 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, this episode invites listeners to rethink where they turn when life unravels. ✨ Highlights: Real-life encouragement on trusting God in suffering Why worldly comfort fades but God’s comfort is eternal A reminder that God meets us in our pain, not just to rescue us, but to refine us A powerful call to seek comfort in God Himself—not just relief

When Ian Coss decided to get married, every living member of his family who had ever been married had also gotten divorced: parents, grandparents, and all his aunts and uncles on both sides — some of them twice. Today, he has questions: What is the value of a lifetime commitment? Are we doomed to recycle the patterns of behavior we get from our ancestors? Are we all just better off alone? Forever is a Long Time is a five-episode series from CBC's Personally that weaves reflection and original music through Ian's conversations with his wife and divorced family members — a look at love with people who have made mistakes.Get lost in someone else's life. From a mysterious childhood spent on the run, to a courageous escape from domestic violence, each season of Personally invites you to explore the human experience in all its complexity, one story — or season — at a time. This is what it sounds like to be human. More episodes of Personally can be found here: https://link.mgln.ai/fialt-wdtw Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

Utah State head basketball coach Jerrod Calhoun

Want to sell your wholesale deals faster and make more on every assignment? In this episode, Brent Daniels reveals the exact dispo system his team uses to move deals quickly and lock in the highest fees. From building the right buyer list to creating urgency and knowing which days to avoid, Brent walks you through a step-by-step strategy that works in any market.Make sure to check out TTP Training Program  for more deal finding magic.---------Show notes:(0:46) Beginning of today's episode(1:06) Best way to dispo your deals(1:49) Create healthy tension with your cash buyer(3:13) Do not dispo on Friday, Saturday and Sunday(4:27) Contact your A-List buyers first (9:08) Go to all the real estate investing groups(10:44) Personally contact your B and C list(14:17) Look for all the flips----------Resources:ZillowRedfinInvestor BaseInvestor LiftMailChimpGmailTo speak with Brent or one of our other expert coaches call (281) 835-4201 or schedule your free discovery call here to learn about our mentorship programs and become part of the TribeGo to Wholesalingincgroup.com to become part of one of the fastest growing Facebook communities in the Wholesaling space. Get all of your burning Wholesaling questions answered, gain access to JV partnerships, and connect with other "success minded" Rhinos in the community.It's 100% free to join. The opportunities in this community are endless, what are you waiting for?