Regular Black Girls

Hey girl Hey... I know it's been a month of Sundays, but I have not forgot about you. Life has kept me busy (some good and some bad) but nonetheless, here we are. One thing about me, I'm going to pick back up where I left off...so again, here we are. Today, I decided to turn on my mic and pick up the camera and did what needed to be done. I hope you take a moment to take a listen to what I've been up to and what my plans are for RBG this time around. Ive made it a personal mission to not drop the ball again, but being that I'm just a regular black girl, if I do... charge it to my head and not my heart. Ive missed y'all, did you miss me? Lets chat!  

Anddddd we're back!   April, came and went so quickly we didn't have a chance to gather our thoughts. Nonetheless, here we are! May is #mentalhealthawarenessmonth so we had to have one of our best girls on to talk about all things Mental Health. Brittany has been in the field for nearly 15 years and dropped some gems surrounding Mental Health that you may have not even known you needed to hear.   We also discussed being biracial and identifying as a Black woman and how that may have affected her personal mental health over the years.   Take a listen! We hope you enjoy!

As we close out Women's History Month, I wanted to make sure we honored a woman who is a BOSS in every sense of the word. Ebony Thomas is the President of the Bank of America Charitable Foundation in Charlotte, NC (two snaps for that, itself!). Not only has she been super successful in her career, but she has managed and mastered the ability to create a family, sustain friendships, travel the world and be super fly... like literally all the time. She is the perfect example to show us ladies that we can have it all. We can be girl bosses, getting to the bag and still have a fulfilling life outside of the office or our businesses. Don't let anyone make you think you have to choose. Take a listen... there are a few gems in this one you don't want to miss! 

When you think of your city, who are the socialites that come to mind? Of course, there are folks who believe they run the town, but who is really a figure that is moving and shaking? When I think of Charlotte, @ebonywelove is automatically who I think of. If you don't know her personally, I am almost certain you have been in the room with her at some point. Not only is she a successful business woman, holding down here 9-5 as well as her side hustle, @thevogueroom... but she is the peoples champ! She has mastered the art of networking and building meaningful relationships. A good friend and all around good person, it definitely makes sense that she is who the people want to know....   Take a listen to our latest episode and get to know her a little more yourself. 

Everybody is a self-proclaimed "IT" girl, but what does that even really mean? What does the "IT" talk like? What does she dress like? Who are her friends? What makes the "IT" girl really "IT"? This week, we have none other than one of our favorite it girls, Kendra @thelilaroseproject as a special guest to give us her opinion and to have some fun girl talk. Let us know your thoughts.

After about 7 months, a new episode...   Its short and sweet, but I really wanted to pop in and say Happy New Year AND to remind you that #RBG is still very much here.   Last year, was rough for some, if not most of us, but I've learned that trouble don't last always, God won't take you to what he can't take you through, and if he did it for you before... he will do it again. (Amen? Amen...) No, but seriously, life is going to life, we just have to live it to the fullest and take full advantage of the time we have ... so that's the plan.    Again, Happy New Year... hope you're still rocking with us. This year will be a good one, claiming it NOW!

As we get older we find ourselves having to have difficult conversations with those around us. These conversations can be with our significant other about issues in our relationship, conversations with our parents surrounding childhood traumas, or with our employer discussing pay raises. The fact of that matter is there is really no avoiding these conversations. Our question is how do you prepare? What have these conversations been like for you? Lets chat.

It's pretty safe to say that we have all fell in love with the potential of someone or something and consequently we end up let down. But why is that? why do we find ourselves falling for the potential instead of believing what's shown right in front of us? Would you say there is any reward in dating potential ? Let's discuss!

May is Mental Health Awareness month and we wanted to check in with one another as well as our audience and discuss what mental health looks like to us. This week we explore ways to continue to keep our mental health strong as well as different ways we can ensure those around us are doing their best to be mentally healthy. Take a listen!

Its been a while, but we are still around... This week, we finally got back in front of the camera and just had a chit chat. We wanted out new followers to know who we are and what we stand for and our supporters who have been with us for some time to know where we have been and that we aren't done. We hope you enjoy, we've missed you.

Of course on social media, most times we do not allow the world to see the areas in our life that we consider ourselves flawed nor do we display our insecurities. However, the reality of it is that we are all flawed and we all are insecure about something but that doesn't mean we aren't still top tier individuals who deserve the best of everything. Let's discuss.

We always hear that money is the root of all evil, but is that true? Does money makes us evil or is it greed? What is the difference between being ambitious and never satisfied? Are we greedy by human nature or is that a choice we make? Lets talk about it.

Do you believe it takes real skill/talent to be successful today or is it about who you know? Can your connections take you farther? is it better to be popular or talented? Lets discuss.

So, we have all heard the saying... "good guys finish last" but do we believe that is actually true? And if so, what does that mean? What even makes a guy "good" and what makes him "bad"? Does the same criteria apply for women and would we say "good girls" also finish last? Take a listen...

This week we discuss “sex talk” and whether it's a turn off when you are first getting to know someone. Men generally say they want a woman who knows how to turn up in the bedroom, but is ladylike to the outside world. However, most times they don't live by the same mantra. Is it okay with you if a man you're dating constantly has sex at the forefront of his mind or do you expect him to have some couth?

Its been a couple weeks since we've had a sit down so we wanted to check in with you all. This week we discuss end of year goals and where we are mentally, personally and career wise. We also discuss things we can do to prevent seasonal depression and putting our happiness first. Check it out.

In life there are many unwritten rules or codes that we all decided that we must live by. And while some of these rules are legit, is it fair to say that we are sometimes too loyal to these rules that don't really exists? In this weeks video, we discuss dating amongst friends. If you lick it (entertain, show interest, date, "talk" to someone, flirt, etc.) is it yours? Should friends stay clear once you call "dibs"? lets discuss!

So "they" say you should build a friendship with your partner in order to have a successful relationship. IF this is true, is it likely that the love of your life is a close friend of the opposite sex? This week we discuss whether or not we believe friends of the opposite sex can be strictly platonic. We also discuss if we have ever pursued (or been pursued by) a close friend and what that situation may have looked like. Check it out and let us know your thoughts!

This week we are discussing online dating. While many people have found love online, some of us still are super hesitant and even a little afraid to take that leap. With shows centered around this topic like MTV's "Catfish" online dating has a huge stigma surrounding it and most people believe that who you may fall for won't actually be who they say they are. Butttt, what if you are potentially risking NOT meeting the love of your life because you simply haven't downloaded an app? Check out this week's convo. We'd love to hear more of your thoughts an online dating as well.

We all have our own idea of what it means to be a loyal person, but how do you really know what loyalty is until yours has been tested? Of course when we think of loyalty, most of us think it is an ideal characteristic or trait to have, but can being loyal costs you? Does loyalty come with a price? Are you really loyal or are you basing your commitment to your relationships on time-served? let's really talk about it... Check out this weeks episode and let us know your thoughts.

Let's face it, dating is HARD. So many times we find ourselves in situations that are a complete waste of time.... Either one of us isn't ready to commit or someone still has some unresolved baggage they haven't healed from... its ROUGH out here. Butttt... let's say, hypothetically you meet someone who seemingly checks off all your boxes, but you find out they have a kid... or two. Does this complete shut things down for you or are you open to being a bonus parent? Check out our discussion and let us know your thoughts!

Throughout life, there has been many times we've made decisions we shouldn't have, went places we shouldn't have, entertained people who have wronged us, stayed where we weren't appreciated, took actions that didn't represent who we were... and all of that can be considered REGRET... if we allow it to. However, we have to do just that... allow it. We are firm believers in the saying "you live and you learn" ... we don't live life with regrets... everything happens FOR YOU and in the end,  the lesson always makes sense. Check out this weeks convo and let us know your thoughts. 

Many of us will admit that we are procrastinators, we will put off a task as long as we possibly can before finally just doing whatever it is. However, the chances that you are just a natural born procrastinator are pretty slim. In reality, most times when we put off a task, it is because we are afraid. This week we discuss whether or not we are simply lazy or if we are letting fear keep us from knocking out things and labeling both as "Im just a procrastinator" check it out. Let us know your thoughts! 

What is pretty privilege? Do both men and women benefit from being attractive? Are there consequences for simply looking "good"? This week we discuss if in fact we believe there is a such thing as pretty privilege and what that looks like for us navigating life. Check It out, let us know your thoughts.

This week we discuss two women who have been in a media frenzy, Ms. ShaCarri Richardson and Ms. Phylicia Rashad. In the last couple of weeks, both women have found themselves being praised for their accomplishments and soon after bashed for what some would call "poor decisions". In our conversation and our #talktometuesday questions to our audience, we wanted to discuss the fact the black women often times have no room for error. It seems as though the world loves us as long as we make no mistakes. We have to work 10x harder due to the fact that we are under a microscope, but why is this? Shouldn't we be extended the same grace as others? Let's discuss.

Maybe you haven't noticed, but to us, lately it seems there has been an increase in men who are giving their opinions on how women should carry themselves. From how we dress, wear our hair/makeup, comments on our weight, etc. It seems as if since they can't be the baddest b*tch, they want to try and coach us and we aren't having it. Take a listen, let us know your thoughts. 

What once was taboo has increasingly become more normalized....therapy. This week we discuss the stigma surrounding therapy in the black community and the importance of changing that mindset. We believe that most, if not all of us could benefit from seeking therapy and we discuss why. There is therapy for black women and we need to take advantage. Check out this week's episode and let us know your thoughts. 

Often times we get so caught up in the hype and the false sense of reality that social media brings that we forget to stop and be thankful for all that we truly have. When we really think about the vision that we had for our life growing up, many of us are sitting in the blessings we prayed for and if we are being honest, our lives are pretty LIT. This week we have conversations with our younger self as a sorta self evaluation and reflection of where we are. Join us and don't forget to check in with your young self this week as well.

When situations, relationships or friendships end, we often times find ourselves seeking closure before we feel that we can truly move on. However, many times that "closure" leaves us more confused or hurt than we were before. This week we discuss if closure is necessary, our own experiences with seeking closure and how you can find closure within. Check it out. 

We often find ourselves trying to convince one another that maybe we should date guys we aren't typically attracted to and just MAYBE that will lead us to the man of our dreams. Only issue is... how could he be the man of our dreams if physically we aint feeling him? This weeks topic centers around the discussion on if looks hold more weight than we'd like to admit and if men experience the same thing. Should we sacrifice physical attraction for other factors? Is that shallow? Are we all shallow? Take a listen!

What if we told you there are practices you can implement into your daily life that will help you not only manifest the life you want, but also the mindset? This definitely sounds like we are trying to sell you something, but that's not quite true. hahaha. This week we are discussing the book, "The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz. This book has transformed the lives of so many and could help you as well. Check out this week's convo and let us know your thoughts. Have you read this book? If not, pick it up today.

In the wake of the passing of the great DMX, we reflected on his life and the many demons that it appeared he may have battled with over the years. While reflecting, we began to discuss our own experiences with having parents who were addicts or substance abusers. In this week's video, we discuss how alcoholism and drug addictions affected us and in many ways molded us to be the women we are today. We also discuss what we feel the difference is between recreational use and addiction and whether or not we feel we are addicts ourselves. Check it out! 

Let's just call this the "GREAT DEBATE" when having conversations with our male friends, the discussion of submissive women almost ALWAYS comes up at some point. This is a topic that we have discussed privately so many times, but we wanted to ask you guys your opinion on what it means to be a submissive woman and what it takes for a strong woman to submit to her man. We also had to discuss Mr. Kevin Samuels since all the guys seem to loveeee him and his opinion (major side eye) lol. Check it out and let us know your thoughts! 

As women, we often times are criticized or categorized by the way we choose to dress. Some of us who are more confident with our bodies and sexuality like to express that in the way we dress. However, at times, this has resulted in cat calling, bullying, harassment and even assault. In today's video, we discuss in detail the importance of women being able to be expressive and protected at the same time. Check it out, let us know your thoughts!

He cheated so she gave him "Back to the streets..." Last week, news broke that Saweetie and Quavo have called it quits. According to her tweet, it appears that he was giving "intimacy to other women". For many of us, we like to say that cheating is a deal breaker, but how true is that? Do you expect that a man will cheat on you? Are you willing to forgive or are you a one and done type of lady? Let's talk about it. 

A wise woman once said... "age aint nothing but a number, throwing down aint nothing but a thing" and we might have to agree. This week, we discuss if age really matters to us when it comes to dating. How old is too old? how young is too young? Are there double standards for men dating younger vs women who date younger? Who makes the rules anyway? Join us and lets chat! 

At this point we have all heard the controversy surrounding Meghan Markle, Prince Harry and the Royal family. A major take away from the Oprah interview was the fact that she said members of the family were concerned that Archie would be "dark"....excuse me, say what? Although this is TRASHHHHH we saw a post on social media that pointed out the fact that we often do this to each other. Black on Black hate, or colorism if you will... is something that is prevalent today and we needed to speak on it.

This week our discussion centered around toxicity. Toxic relationships have been normalized and many of us have had our fair share of toxic romantic partners as well as friendships. Toxic to you may have a totally different meaning, so we wanted to know. Whats your definition? Have you been toxic? Have you had to give a toxic partner/friend the boot? Lets discuss.

For our first episode, we are jumping in head first. Hear us tackle the topic of dating, how soon is too soon to move on and say i love you, posting the new boo on social media (or maybe not) and why Lori Harvey reigns supreme. Give us a listen!