The Eros Sutras, Volume 3: Orgasmic Meditation

Hello and welcome to the Eros Sutras podcast. I'm Anjuli Ayer, and in this series of the Eros Sutras, Volume 3, Orgasmic Meditation, we explore the writings of Nicole Daedone. Rooted in the practice of orgasmic meditation, the Eros Sutras delineate a journey of understanding the erotic impulse. Nicole invites us to harness this impulse, channeling it toward peak states of consciousness, known as the erotic state. More than just a guide to OM, the Eros Sutras serve as a lens through which we can deepen our connections both with ourselves and the world around us. So whether you're familiar with Orgasmic Meditation or just getting started, I want to invite you to settle in and enjoy the Eros Sutras

In this episode, we explore the intriguing intersection of mind, body, and the erotic senses and how they collectively open the dimension of stillness. We discuss how the mind, once subsumed by the body, gains the power to isolate itself from the stream of thought, focusing solely on the point of connection. We also touch on the intriguing sensations that arise from this simple placement of attention. From the subtlest goosebumps to waves of electricity, we explore how these sensations can lead to a massive response from seeming inactivity. Join us as we journey through this unique exploration of stillness, erotic vision, and the transcendent power of the mind-body connection. This episode promises to be a deep dive into the unchanging reality of our existence and the hidden truths it reveals.

This episode delves into the profound concept of ‘play consciousness' and its transformative power. We explore how static becomes dynamic, how consciousness channels power, and how the full, unimpeded expression of oneself emerges. We discuss the high-risk, high-return nature of the play channel, the thrill of discovery, and the infinite possibilities it presents. We also touch on the importance of humor, resourcefulness, and resilience in this process. The episode further explores the concept of ‘brilliant reception' and how it can awaken the force of genius. Finally, we discuss the liberating power of saying ‘yes' to our experiences and how it activates the erotic mind. Tune in to discover how to elevate your rules of play and unlock your inherent potential.

In this episode, we delve into the concept of 'The Peak,' a state of pure potential energy and serene weightlessness. We explore this state's exhilarating and terrifying aspects, its liberating freedom from the familiar, and the anxiety it can induce. We discuss how to extend this peak, making it a home, and how it reveals our emergent self. We also examine the sensory level of an OM, the root sensations it can activate, and the thrilling uncertainty it brings. Finally, we discuss the practice of 'stroking at the peak,' the precision it requires, and the awareness it builds. Join us as we navigate the heights of sensation, the depths of change, and the journey to self-discovery.

In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of ‘Turn On,' a state of radical activation that transcends the rational mind and taps into the deeper intelligence of Eros. We explore how shifting our fuel from fear to desire can lead to a profound awakening, likened to being struck by lightning. We discuss the journey from the habituated mind to the erotic heart, the transmutation of energy, and the importance of embracing our innate power. We also touch on the concept of ‘turn off' and the practice of OM. This episode is a deep dive into the dynamic reality of Eros, the power of the erotic mind, and the potential for personal evolution and transformation.

In this episode, we explore how our pursuit of comfort and indulgence often leads to a cycle of diminishing returns, leaving us questioning, “Is this all there is?” We discuss the transformative power of erotic pleasure, a vital art on the path of eros, which can restore our senses and reveal the wisdom of our bodies. We also provide practical advice on how to break free from habitual patterns and truly experience pleasure, including techniques such as ‘OMing.' Join us as we navigate the complexities of pleasure, desire, and the quest for true fulfillment.

In this episode, we explore the journey of self-discovery, self-forgiveness, and healing as we come face to face with our raw, pulsing heart. We discuss the concept of homesickness for our true selves and how Eros guides us back home, revealing our authentic value and the source of our genius. We also touch on the physical sensations associated with this journey, such as hearing our own heartbeat from the inside. Finally, we discuss the resolution stage, where we learn to tune into subtle sensations and give ourselves permission to feel. This episode is a deep dive into the heart of Eros and the transformative power of love.

This episode discusses the differences between habituated and non-habituated climax and how they impact our body and mind. We explore the idea of surrendering to sensation, the importance of full engagement with each sensation, and how this can lead to a deeper, more fulfilling erotic experience. We also touch on the concept of ‘over-stroking' and the importance of transitions in our sensory experiences. This episode is a deep dive into the intricate relationship between our mind, body, and the erotic energy within us. Tune in to discover a new perspective on climax and how it can transform your understanding of pleasure.

In this episode, we delve into the Eight Stages of Eros, exploring how they serve as doorways to various manifestations of consciousness. We discuss the concept of erotic truth, where high-level abstractions can be traced back to physical realities and vice versa. We explore how we, as erotic beings, navigate through these stages, not linearly but dynamically, moving back and forth, seeking congruency across levels of abstraction. We also challenge the notion that higher is better, arguing that each stage holds its own unique wisdom. Join us as we journey through these stages, revealing how they shape our experiences in family, relationships, work, and our inner selves.

In this episode, we delve into the profound concept of the Eight Stages, exploring how they guide us in becoming one with life's ever-changing waves. We discuss how these stages are not mere milestones to be achieved but dimensions to intimately understand. We explore the concept of Eros, the erotic mind that thrives amidst constant flux, and how it teaches us to navigate life's tumultuous waves. We also discuss the misunderstood concept of climax, revealing its potential as a tool for personal growth and energy harnessing. Finally, we challenge our assumptions about the stages, emphasizing that each one is a necessary realm of exploration toward wholeness. Join us as we journey through the Eight Stages, learning to follow the body and discovering its innate wisdom.

In this episode, we delve into the three levels of human consciousness. We start with the basic level, where thoughts and sensations flow through us like a river unimpeded by our mind's grasp. We then ascend to the second level, where our thoughts and feelings become palpable, playing through us like keys on a piano, creating a symphony of sensations. Finally, we reach the third level, a state of profound awareness where we radiate clarifying light and absorb darkness, experiencing an intense connection with our bodies and the world around us. This episode will challenge your perception of reality and inspire you to seek a deeper understanding of your own consciousness. Tune in for a journey of self-discovery and enlightenment

In this enlightening episode, we explore how OM provides a mirror to our practice, reflecting our responses to various experiences. We discuss how attention can evolve from a passive state to an active, volitional one and how this progression can enhance our connection with ourselves and others. We also touch on the transformative power of attention, its ability to purify and transmit energy, and its role in achieving the erotic state - a state of consciousness marked by a deep sense of connection with all things. Join us as we journey through the landscapes of experience, harnessing the power of attention and surrendering to the body's wisdom.

In this profound episode, we explore our inner selves, navigating through the dense fog of confusion and separation between mind and body. We discuss the potential of this fog as a filter and how our reality is often clouded by our attempts to create a pain-free, pleasurable existence. We explore the importance of focusing on the fog, using our attention like sunlight to illuminate the densely packed thoughts, feelings, and emotions that arise. We discuss the liberating sensation of discovering our pure sensing beneath the structures that define us. Finally, we touch on the concept of apotheosis, the ultimate state of being, and how meeting our erotic self can guide us into the totality of being beyond good and evil. Tune in for a journey of self-discovery and enlightenment.

In this episode, we delve into the concept of ‘non-registering attention' and its impact on our lives. We explore the idea that beneath the fog of our consciousness, every experience registers in our body, even if it doesn't register in our attention. We discuss how our minds, in an attempt to protect us, can disconnect from the body, leading to a disconnect from reality. We also examine the consequences of ignoring our internal world and how it can lead to a build-up of unaddressed issues, creating a fog of confusion and disconnection. Join us as we uncover the importance of 360-degree attention, the journey of recovery, and how staying in tune with our experiences can help us live in harmony with reality.

This episode is about the world of connection, trust, and resonance. We explore the concept of ‘withdrawal' as a form of communication and how it can be used to gauge trust and build stronger relationships. The episode also touches on the importance of staying present and patient and how this can rewire trust. Furthermore, we examine the potential pitfalls of overstepping boundaries and their negative impact on connection and trust. Join us as we navigate these complex dynamics and offer practical advice on how to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the intricate dance of connection and power dynamics, exploring the concept of ‘stroking' as a metaphor for how we interact with others. We examine how our ability to maintain a steady focus, even amidst protest and withdrawal, can lead to a profound, unshakeable kindness. We discuss the pitfalls of appeasing or punishing and the importance of staying rooted in the neutral sensation of our own power. We learn how to navigate personal doubt, anger, and the transformative potential of keeping our attention on the sensation. Tune in as we unpack these concepts and more, providing insights on how to respond consciously and maintain genuine connections.

This episode discusses individuals' complex challenges when transitioning from consciousness to the body and how these distractions can often lead to a power imbalance in relationships. We explore the deep-rooted societal conditioning that associates powerlessness with attractiveness in women and how this can strengthen the bondage of conditioning. We reveal how a true OM can liberate consciousness and initiate a process of purification. Finally, we stress the importance of focusing on what liberates us and how this can dissolve the threads of relational power conditioning, leading to a greater sense of freedom for both partners. Tune in to learn more about the journey towards bodily consciousness and the role of OM in this process.

In this episode, we discuss how the adult erotic mind, rooted in approval and trust, embraces the ups and downs of life with equanimity. We explore the power of non-resistance and the wisdom of moving with the sensation, whether it's going up or down. We challenge the societal conditioning of playing savior and redefine the notion of compassion. Through this discussion, we invite listeners to experience the richness and nourishment of life's experiences, even those that may seem challenging. Tune in to learn how to fully immerse yourself in the unfolding direction of life with an open, trusting mind.

In this episode, we explore the wisdom of the erotic mind and its alignment with the natural law of life's cyclical nature. We go into the concept of peaking, the moment of fullness, and the necessity of descent for rebirth and greater ascents. We discuss how the erotic mind embraces the downward journey, shedding the burdens of fear, resentment, and expectation. We reveal the power of choice and the transformative potential of meeting reality with approval, not victimhood. This episode illuminates the natural cycle of Eros, revealing how this acceptance and release is the key to achieving higher levels of sensation and experience. Join us as we unravel the mystique of the erotic mind and its power to navigate life's peaks and valleys.

This episode explores how OM trains us to maintain continuous connection, fostering a sense of freedom and reducing reactivity. We discuss the concept of ‘optionality' - the ability to keep all options open equally and choose the one most aligned with Eros. We also touch on ‘vertical consciousness,' the capacity to enter an erotic state marked by presence, timelessness, and connection. Finally, we learn how OM leads to the state of ‘unconditionality,' opening up love, freedom, peace, Eros, and creativity, irrespective of life's conditions. Tune in to discover how OM can help develop a mind that's resourceful, resilient, subtle, and receptive.

This thought-provoking episode delves into the concept of the erotic mind and its transformative potential. We explore how embracing both attraction and repulsion, rather than viewing them as polarized forces, can lead to a deeper understanding of self and a maturation of being. We discuss the practice of ‘pendulating,' a process of weaving together seemingly opposing states, and how it can liberate us from internal conflict. We also touch upon how this practice can lead to the awakening of the ‘erotic self,' enabling us to transcend beyond our identities and align with our unique calling. Tune in for an enlightening discussion on the power of the erotic mind and its role in personal evolution.

In this enlightening episode, we explore the different types of strokes that can create a variety of sensations. Each stroke is carefully described, providing listeners with a detailed guide to the complexities of stroking. From the gentle 'Butterfly' to the powerful 'Summit', this episode is a journey through the sensory world, promising to leave you with a deeper understanding and appreciation of the power of stroking

In this episode, we explore the experiences of pressure, from heavy to light, and how our attunement, or lack thereof, can manifest in our emotional and spiritual realms. We discuss the varying speeds of life, from slow to fast, and how our level of attunement can either ground us or leave us feeling lost. We also examine the directions of life, up and down, and how our attunement can either help us build and hold on or release and let go. This episode is a deep dive into the understanding of our internal and external worlds and how our attunement can shape our experiences. Join us as we navigate the complexities of attunement and its profound effects on our lives.

In this episode, we explore the intricate relationship between the physical and the metaphysical as we discuss the five lengths of downstrokes and their impact on the human body and consciousness. We unravel the art of doing downstrokes deliberately, transforming panic into power, and how harnessing our attention can convert internal storms into a guiding wind. We discuss the primal power that lies at the bottom of the downstroke, where desire, fear, love, and human connection originate. We also explore the delicate balance between the downstroke and upstroke and how mastering this balance can lead to self-discovery and a deeper understanding of our own power. Join us as we journey deeper into the erotic state of consciousness and find eternal and interdependent connection.

In this enlightening episode, we delve into the concept of ‘downstrokes,' a term that often carries negative connotations but is a powerful tool for personal growth and emotional exploration. We discuss how downstrokes can help us navigate the highs and lows of our emotional landscape, bringing us face-to-face with our deepest emotions and unexamined experiences. We explore how downstrokes can lead us to a state of comfort and safety, allowing us to rest within ourselves rather than constantly seeking relief. We also discuss how downstrokes can bring us into the world of feelings, helping us to confront our fears and discover the bedrock of truth within us. Join us as we explore the transformative power of downstrokes and how they can help us to surrender, heal, and ultimately find our way home.

In this episode, we talk about the concept of ‘Upstrokes' - a metaphorical journey of transcendence and self-discovery. We explore how upstrokes, deeply rooted in our physicality, offer a sensory peak, a feeling of freedom, and a motivation to shed stagnant energy. We discuss the balance between anxiety and safety and how the sensation of upstrokes can lead to a full-bodied experience. We also touch on the importance of breath in expanding our capacity and the role of the ‘erotic body' in achieving this sensation. We'll guide you through the subtleties of the upstroke, its magnetizing quality, and how it can lead to a feeling of elevation and breakthrough. Finally, we'll discuss the power of the upstroke in revealing reality and how it can help us gather wisdom from below. Join us for this deep dive into the world of upstrokes and discover a new perspective on self-awareness and personal growth.

In this episode, we delve into the concept of medium-speed strokes, a key stage in the eight-stage restoration process. We explore how these strokes help us return to our homeostatic range, integrate our experiences, and ground ourselves. We discuss the sense of familiarity and calm they bring, akin to meditation, and how they can anchor the mind to prevent overwhelm. However, we also caution against complacency and the risk of becoming overly comfortable with medium strokes, which can hinder growth. We highlight the importance of precision, care, and good technique in maximizing the potential of medium strokes. Finally, we address the danger of losing the element of eros in pursuit of physical pleasure and the need to listen to what is being asked for at the point of contact. Tune in to learn more about the infinite doorways of sensation that medium strokes can open

In this episode, we delve into the art of touch, exploring the nuances of light, medium, and heavy pressure. We discuss how these different pressures can impact the body and mind and how they can be used to unlock energy and create a deeper connection between partners. We explore the challenges of applying heavy pressure without causing harm, the calming effects of medium pressure, and the expansive potential of light pressure. We also discuss the importance of being aware of our partner's responses and the dangers of disconnecting from the body. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of touch and its transformative potential. Tune in to learn how to turn the mundane into the magical and discover the spectacular in the mundane

In this episode, we delve into the art of touch, exploring the nuances of light, medium, and heavy pressure. We discuss how these different pressures can impact the body and mind and how they can be used to unlock energy and create a deeper connection between partners. We explore the challenges of applying heavy pressure without causing harm, the calming effects of medium pressure, and the expansive potential of light pressure. We also discuss the importance of being aware of our partner's responses and the dangers of disconnecting from the body. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of touch and its transformative potential. Tune in to learn how to turn the mundane into the magical and discover the spectacular in the mundane

In this episode, we delve into the complex world of sensory perception and its impact on our mental and emotional states. We explore the concept of pressure, specifically heavy, medium, and light, and how it affects our ability to perceive and process stimuli. We discuss the challenges faced by individuals with heightened sensitivity, leading to a state of constant hyperarousal and overstimulation. We also examine the role of societal conditioning in shaping our responses to pressure, particularly in women. The episode further explores the importance of balancing sensory inputs for a healthier, more connected experience of the world. Join us as we uncover the profound implications of these insights for our understanding of intimacy, eroticism, and the human mind.

In this enlightening episode, we delve into the profound concept of ‘Slow Strokes.' We explore how this technique can be a powerful tool to gain precision and deepen our understanding of sensations. We discuss how slow strokes can open space for deeper truths in our bodies to reveal themselves, allowing emotions and longings to rise and become dynamic. We also touch upon the darker side of slow strokes, where they can become a means of control, leading to a state of lockdown. We emphasize the importance of consent and responsibility in this process. Finally, once our system is open, we explore the liberating potential of slow strokes to deepen our relationship with sensation. Tune in to learn more about this fascinating technique and its potential to transform your understanding of your body and sensations.

This episode is about the profound connection between sensation and intimacy. We explore the four fundamental desires of life: love, visibility, purpose, and connection, and how they are communicated through the language of sensation. We discuss the practice of ‘OM,' a method of expressing and experiencing these elements, and how it can vary from uplifting to dark. We also explore the concept of the ‘essential self' and how it can be drawn out through layers of protection, often formed as survival skills. We discuss the importance of using our felt sense to guide us beyond these layers to touch the truth. Finally, we delve into the art of perceiving when the essential self emerges and how to find the ‘optimal light' that Eros expresses. Tune in to learn about this primitive skill and how to navigate it.

In this episode, we explore how our attention, like a singer hitting the perfect note, can open up awareness of the erotic state. We discuss how life is a unique art form, played across the spectrum of our existence, bound by universal laws that balance chaos and formula. We touch on the importance of mastering the basics, playing within the rules, and then stepping into the art for ourselves. We also discuss how our perceptions aren't tied to circumstances, freeing our interpretations from the confines of good versus bad or right versus wrong. Finally, we explore the concept of mastery, likening it to a musician playing with notes and how it all starts with a single stroke. Tune in to discover more about this fascinating philosophy.

In this episode, we talk about the intimate art of connection and sensation, exploring the profound impact of touch and attention. We discuss the concept of 'the spot' - a state of direct experience that exists beneath our fundamental confusion between who we are and what we do. We explore the dynamics of being the ‘stroker' and the ‘strokee' and how to navigate the sensations and responses that arise. We discuss the importance of staying connected, keeping our attention active, and allowing energy to move through us. We also touch on the delicate balance between control and surrender and how this tension can enhance our ability to stay connected. This episode is a deep dive into the world of mutual influence, the power of gentleness, and the transformative potential of focused attention. Join us as we explore the intricate dance of connection and sensation.

In this episode, we explore the idea that our overstimulated minds often miss the depth of sensation in every moment, leading to a state of sensory emptiness. We discuss strategies to reconnect with our senses, starting with identifying a single sensation and focusing our attention on it. We talk about the challenges of this process, such as the flood of judgments that can drown out the sensation and how to navigate them. We also discuss the importance of building a sensory vocabulary and how this can lead to a deeper connection with our bodies and, ultimately, greater intimacy. Tune in to learn how to train your mind to follow sensation and erotic truth and how this can transform your relationship with your body and the world around you.

In this episode, we delve into the concept of evolving variety and the seven levels of attention. We start by exploring the state of passive attention, characterized by inattentiveness, boredom, and a constant need for external stimuli. We discuss how this passive state can lead to a cycle of consumption and discarding, creating an unstable attention with an underlying sense of insufficiency. We then journey through the transformative process of shifting our attention from seeking to being, appreciating what we have, and developing a subtle mind that feeds on variety. We explore the power of noticing our inward reality, diving deeper into our feelings, and focusing on the delicate nuances of sensation. Finally, we arrive at a state of steady gratification, where our attention is focused on sensation, creating a permanent baseline of ambient attention. Tune in to learn how to strengthen your attention and find fulfillment within yourself.

In this episode, we delve into the profound concept of the ‘Evolving Connection.' We explore Eros's unique feedback state of reciprocal and mutually influencing energy that births a third energy source between two connected entities. We discuss the necessity of a dynamic consciousness that can simultaneously serve as both subject and object for true connection. We emphasize that it's the connection itself that heals. We also explore the four ways to access connection, starting with the feeling of disconnection, characterized by feelings of not belonging, loneliness, and a desperate scramble for connection. We discuss the dangers of bonding with anything, from food to emotionally unavailable people, to alleviate the pain of disconnection. We also touch on the importance of true desire in inviting connection. Join us as we unravel the complexities of connection and its healing power.

This enlightening episode delves into the concept of ‘Evolving Power.' We explore the idea that true power lies in the ability to choose to be with life exactly as it is and how this can lead to a sense of strength, vitality, and the capacity to attract what we deeply desire. We discuss the four stages of accessing power: feeling powerless, compensatory power, willed power, and evolved power. Each stage represents a different relationship with power, from giving it away to others to using it to manipulate, harnessing it for self-expression, and finally, fully integrating it into our consciousness. We also examine the difference between power and authority and how understanding this distinction can lead to a more harmonious and fulfilling life. Join us as we journey into the depths of our own power and learn how to use it to empower others.

In this episode, we dive into the Five Cornerstones of Attention: Approval, Intuition, Intimacy, Power, and Optionality. These cornerstones are the keys to unlocking our ability to fully engage with life and its infinite play. We explore how Approval allows us to embrace life in its entirety while Intuition guides us toward truth. We discuss the role of Intimacy in fostering a deep connection with our surroundings and how Power enables us to influence our environment through our mere presence. Lastly, we touch on Optionality, the consciousness that opens us to limitless possibilities. Join us as we journey through these cornerstones, learning how to cultivate dynamic attention that operates at all levels of intensity and subtlety, ultimately leading us to a state of consciousness where possibilities become numberless. Tune in and discover how to harness these cornerstones to engage in the infinite play of life

In this episode, we explore how the rational mind perceives desire and contrasts it with the Eros perspective, where we learn to savor the present moment and appreciate its saturated perfection. We discuss the importance of skillful wanting and the art of savoring, which is often overlooked in our goal-oriented world. We also explore the gap between having and wanting and how it can be a source of rich sensations and profound consciousness. We examine how anticipation can lead to personal growth and resilience and how it can transform anxiety into arousal. Finally, we discuss the dynamic aliveness found in the gap between self and other and how it leads to a deeper enjoyment of life. Tune in to discover how to harness the power of anticipation and savoring in your everyday experiences.

We often strive for clear-cut definitions of good or bad, black or white, but life, as we explore, is not so binary. We discuss the idea of 'OM,' a practice that encourages embracing both poles of our experiences, such as love and hate, attraction and repulsion. We explore how this simultaneous acceptance can lead to a new, unknown experience, a third occurrence. We also touch on the concept of erotic ambivalence, the idea that the richness and complexity of life's opposites can stir and arouse sensation. This episode invites listeners to expand their understanding of life's dualities, to awaken and sharpen their senses, and ultimately tap into the sublime. Tune in for a deep dive into the complexities of our emotional landscape.