Uncommon Self Esteem Tips

Really emotionally secure people don't assume things have to go well. Neither do they assume that something is bound to be 'a disaster' So what's their secret? Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email. 

Here's a thought I think you'll find helpful. You don't have to think about believing in yourself when you do believe in yourself and you don't have to try to be positive when you are positive. Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.  

Ever heard of the 'Bannister Effect'? Before 6 May 1954, it was thought 'impossible' to run a mile under four minutes... Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.  

Does someone keep criticising you? Relentless criticism wears you down and if you've been prone to low self esteem then you may have found yourself internally agreeing with the critic. Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.    

Never give up! Determination and perseverance make for more successful and ultimately happier lives. Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to subscribe to self esteem tips by email.

Have you ever felt you didn't 'deserve' success? You didn't feel able to 'push yourself forward' in life?  Watch this tip on video on our blog here Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Click here to sign up for free Self Esteem tips by email. 

"If you don't make mistakes you don't make anything" Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RqAF9M Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free Self Esteem tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Here's a question: What does 'success' mean to you? If it fits with what other people assume is 'successful' then that's fine..but maybe it doesn't and that needs to be fine too... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RkDBuK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips        

Low self esteem cons you into feeling like you are 'a failure'. But to be 'a success' we need to get beyond simplistic notions of 'success' or 'failure'. Why? Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1U1BUlX Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Do you sometimes fear failure too much to even try things? Fear of failure is closely linked to fear of rejection and the dread of being thought poorly of. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1QtRKmY Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

So we've talked quite a bit about the risks of being too nice. So what are we to make of it all? Well, if we are not to be taken advantage of at work or in relationships, becoming more assertive will help. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1PEJRaw Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Last time we saw how the snake had made life difficult for itself by becoming too nice. This time I want to look at how people respond to too much niceness. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RuB0Me Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

The snake was vicious, snarling, and dangerous. He terrified the villagers, biting the children and scaring all the adults. But sometimes he felt lonely and craved companionship. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RDphwm Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Consider this... If you were delivering life-saving mouth-to-mouth on someone in public, you'd be totally focussed. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1keKIFx Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Do you remember my client John from a few podcasts back? Who couldn't bring himself to pursue his dream of opening a small hotel in Spain because of what people might think? Listen on to find out what happened. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1mnmqe4 Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

People say "be yourself" don't they? But they never say how. Firstly, remember it's human to mimic other humans... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/21U7V1V Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

'We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.'- Ethel Barrett Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1N0yw5E Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

The imagination is a wonderful thing. Except when it's not. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1XisuVK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Have you noticed that some people use disapproval as a weapon?  Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1XisuVK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

I've noticed that people who are overly concerned with approval assume that other people will think them 'a terrible person' or 'a loser' if they say or do something that isn't somehow right... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1LyWq3X Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Peer pressure can make us go against what we truly know to be decent and civilized behaviour. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1HaT8sy Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

You may have spotted this, but anxiously seeking approval is often an attempt at trying to gain and keep a sense of control. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1WXfEMH Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Constantly seeking approval means we're perpetually worried that others are forming a bad opinion of us. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1NsTU0w Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to and feel better right away. Sign up for free tips by email: http://www.unk.com/selfesteemtips

Some approval seeking is inevitable of course - after all, we all need friends. But if we are led through life doing what we've come to believe is 'expected of us', then, in a way, we cease to exist, to live, and be real. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1liS0t0 Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel b

'Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?' - Brigham Young. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RWXovO Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel bet

If you feel guilty for something you did, ask yourself: "Did I mean to cause pain to others or myself?" Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1Ol8WLL Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.

If you feel guilty for something you did, ask yourself: "Did I mean to cause pain to others or myself?" Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1M53xGd Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.

Continuing on our topic of self forgiveness, think whether you've found it hard to forgive yourself because other people have had trouble forgiving you. Consider: Are they using this as psychological blackmail with which to manipulate you? Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1MsZ7eo Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.

Self-forgiveness doesn't mean making excuses; rather, it's about finding understanding. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1RYsLqA Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.

'If only my nose was straighter...then I'd be confident and happy!' 'If only I earned ten thousand more a year...then my life would be good!' 'If only I could be exactly the same as Bob...then I'd feel great about my/himself!' Have you ever thought like that? Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1NSeEEu Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

If you feel inferior, imagine for a moment how you'd need to be to feel great about yourself. What would you need to look like, to own, to be doing? Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1MzrTsi Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

It's so freeing when you give yourself permission to be yourself. No one has written on his tombstone: "Here lies Ralph; he was quite like John." Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1PqOIzg Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

We can know we're inferior in some ways without this making us feel bad. So here's what to do if you find yourself feeling inferior to someone... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1OfBswl Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

Do you think that perhaps the people you think of as the 'best' also have people that they feel inferior to? Here's one way around this trap... Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1PeYSmv Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.

Let's face it, most of us compare ourselves to others. Mass media beams in the finest looking, richest, and most talented people into our lives 24/7. This creates the illusion that we 'know' all these beautiful, clever, younger, athletic, rich, able people. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://bit.ly/1LmlxNK Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.

  We've been talking a lot about low self esteem, but we really need to know what makes for solid self esteem. After all, if you don't know the destination, how are you going to get there? Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/what-makes-up-solid-self-esteem Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

Is there any chance you feel like this sometimes? 'If it's not perfect then it's a total failure!' In my years as a therapist I've found this is a very common approach to life taken by people with low self esteem and general anxiety. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/are-you-sucking-the-satisfaction-from-success Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

Low self-esteem makes us magnify failures and personal faults. It also makes us minimize or completely discount successes and personal strengths. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/what-causes-low-self-esteem Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

In this podcast I'll tell you one thing that almost every person I've treated for low self esteem does (including our friend Joy from my last podcast), how to understand it, and how to fix it in your mind. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/are-you-spreading-bad-stuff-about-yourself Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

A diamond doesn't know its value to others. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/joys-self-esteem-story Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

Contrary to popular belief, healthy self-esteem doesn't mean loving yourself no matter what you do. Shame, guilt, and self-reproach do have a place if we behave badly. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/what-are-the-signs-low-self-esteem Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

Please take a moment to read this next sentence. Low self-esteem is a false perception of oneself. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/what-is-low-self-esteem-really Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.  

There are more theories about self esteem than there are leaves on the tree outside my window, but if there's one thing I know after 15+ years of helping people with low self esteem, it's this: Low self-esteem almost always results from how we are conditioned by other people. Watch this tip on video on our blog here: http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/blog/what-causes-low-self-esteem Subscribe to receive more bite-sized self esteem tips you can listen to right away to feel better.