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"Don't buy him letters." That's what a professional told Cari Ebert when her son Aaron was two. He was "obsessed," they said, and needed to be moved toward more appropriate play. Cari ignored them. Those letters were how Aaron showed joy, and how she connected with him. Nearly two decades later, that same deep interest in letters, numbers, and dates is what landed him a job he loves. That moment is the heart of today's episode, because it's exactly what happens when we treat autism as a journey instead of a tragedy. This is Cari's keynote from this year's Preschool Autism Summit. She brings two lenses to it: 30+ years as a pediatric SLP, and 21 years as mom to her autistic son. Together they make a case that so much of what we were taught to fear, grieve, and "fix" was never the problem. The problem was the language, the linear milestones, and the compliance-first thinking we inherited. Cari walks us through Aaron's whole story, from spelling words before he could speak, to teaching himself to tie his shoes at 20, to reading bedtime stories to his baby nephew. Along the way she gives us a clearer, kinder way to talk to families and a real shift in how we show up for autistic children. We'll talk about: why the child is exactly the same the day after a diagnosis, and it's the adults who need to shift the power of first messages, and how "red flags" teach families to fear a diagnosis deficit-based language versus affirming, neutral, strengths-based language what autism is not, and what it actually is the spiky, non-linear developmental profile reframing the spectrum into a support-needs profile honoring autistic joy as the doorway to connection and learning Because we don't get to decide where an autistic child's journey ends. Our job is to keep believing there's more ahead. In This Episode, You'll Learn Why autism is a journey, not a tragedy, and what changes when we lead with curiosity instead of fear How deficit-driven language sends the message that something is "wrong" with the child, and how to choose affirming or neutral language instead Why autism is not a delay, a disease, or something a child outgrows What a spiky developmental profile is, and why milestone charts don't fit autistic development How to give families space to grieve their expectations, not the child in front of them What presuming potential looks like in real life, including how video modeling helped Aaron learn a skill on his own timeline Why deep interests, from Metallica to NASCAR, are the way in, not something to redirect Key Takeaways The diagnosis doesn't change the child; it changes how the adults see and support them Regulation creates the conditions for learning, and connection comes before communication All behavior has meaning; it's a clue, not a problem to extinguish Progress isn't linear, and growth continues across the whole lifespan Communication is a right, not something a child has to earn Autistic children are different, not less We stretch strengths instead of fixing deficits Families are the experts on their child, and the most important members of the team Try This Take one traditional IEP goal and ask AI to rewrite it in neurodiversity-affirming language, without percentage-of-accuracy measures Swap deficit words for neutral ones this week: "deep interests" instead of "obsessions," "prefers consistency" instead of "rigid" Learn one child's deep interest, and use it as your starting point instead of redirecting it Reframe a behavior you'd usually try to stop, and ask what it's communicating about the nervous system Notice a child's glimmers, the small things that bring them micro-moments of joy, and make room for them Start with connection before you ask for a single communication skill Related Resources & Links Cari Ebert's website - The Learning to Learn program, the Silly Sounds cards, and The SLP Talk Show podcast Preschool Autism Summit 2026 - Grab the summit replay bundle, a free guide, and get on the waitlist for 2027 Autism Little Learners Membership When we treat autism as a journey instead of a tragedy, we stop asking a child to prove they're worthy of our belief and start offering it from the very beginning. Cari's son didn't become worthy the day he got a job or gave a keynote. He was always worthy. Once you see every autistic child that way, it changes everything about how you teach.
Weekly Podcast #551 - The gang creates a Hallmark-like small town. Bubba plays his favorite sounds from the show. They also share radio stories from days gone by.
TAJOFH- The One With The Silly Sounds by Tyler and Jerry: Old, Fat and Hairy
00:30 Greek Salad Truths: Catherine has just returned from Greece, and can confirm: There should be no lettuce in your "Greek" salad. … 07:47 What I Did on My Summer Vacation: It's no surprise that our kids' experiences are a lot less free-range than our own were. But we did find at least one common thread. … 18:30 Speed Round: Summer Birthdays: One thing Terri and Catherine did during their school holidays was attempt to celebrate their birthdays. It wasn't easy, but those born under other astrological signs can have a tough time too. … 25:37 Roundabout Roundup: Little Women on PBS (https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/masterpiece/shows/little-women/); The Band's Visit cast album (https://geo.itunes.apple.com/us/album/the-bands-visit-original-broadway-cast-recording/1346806048?mt=1&app=music&at=11lRqa); compression bags for packing (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01960PY96/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&psc=1&linkCode=sl1&tag=motherswithattit&linkId=2d44c9c7153e1ae6979f97e382188585). … 31:06 Shameless Self-Promotion: "The Serious Value of Silly Sounds" (https://www.highlights.com/parents/articles/the-serious-value-of-silly-sounds); Special Needs News on Twitter (https://twitter.com/SNNewsTweets); weekly inclusive education chats on Twitter (https://twitter.com/hashtag/iechat?src=hash). … For quotes, archives, and more, visit us at http://parentingroundabout.com.
Public Service Announcement; by The Ministry of Silly Sounds; From Volume CLXVI, Number 1, of Speculative Grammarian, November 2012 — The Ministry of Silly Sounds wishes to inform the public that the following sounds have been collaboratively developed in EU laboratories or successfully replicated from aberrant non-major languages. All of them will soon be released to the public and thus become available for borrowing or wholesale phonological restructuring projects. As some sounds may have detrimental effects on either speakers or speaking targets, a modicum of caution is suggested. Select sounds are tentatively scheduled for official promulgation and may be required in future dialects of English. (Read by Trey Jones.)
MoonieCast Episode 11 for July 5, 2006 - Sailor Pluto - Remember Moonies' Shop (shirt with sigs available!) - The Moonie Song video is available on YouTube (see link below) - "Sisters" 5 (teehee) - MJ's Top 10: You Know You're Nuts About Sailor Moon When . . . : Yes, Stacie and MJ are nuts about Sailor Moon - Sheep (baaaaa), turkey, and the annoying, persistent alarm clock! - JAPANESE 101: Social issues Part 1! - Look out for Japanese pop quiz, coming soon! - *NEW* For our Fan Challenge: Send in pictures displaying your love of Sailor Moon (or MoonieCast?) to us by July 31 (Stacie's birthday)! Music: Starlight ni Kisu Shite (requested by Celestia!) Links Mentioned: - http://www.cafepress.com/moonies_shop/ (Our Shop!) - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AfVOKD6Pu3c (Moonie Song Video) - http://www.moonsenshi.org/ (Information) - http://www.sailorenergy.net/ Thanks to: - Sailor V4 for the Top 10 List! - Small Lady for the Silly Sounds! - Each and every one of our hundreds of listeners! We wouldn't be here without you! Our site: http://www.moonies-hideout.cjb.net Contact us at: mooniesforumadmn@aim.com
MoonieCast Episode 9 for May 21, 2006 - AINO MINAKO! - Stupid Dubbers! Why must you take out important episodes?!?! - Five Minutes Later… - Mystical Silver Crystal - Stacie’s Story - Top 10 Songs - Sera My You! - Sera Mew!!! - Travelin’ with MJ. Yes, NYC style! - Silly Sounds at Concerts - Ahh, Godzilla! - Love is in the air on Japanese 101 - Itte kureta kimi dake ga! - MJ, TJ, and PJs! Music: C'est La Vie and Romance, Baby, Baby! Links mentioned: - http://www.cafepress.com/moonies_shop/ (Our Shop!) - http://www.youtube.com/ (SM Videos) - http://www.moonsenshi.org/ (Information) - http://www.sailorenergy.net/ Thanks to: - emma_leanne for the Top 10 List! - Lexi (Sailor Mini Moon) for the shoutout! - Tashi (Sailor Chibi Chibi) for the shoutout! - All of our listeners! We wouldn't be here without you! Our site: http://www.moonies-hideout.cjb.net Contact us at: mooniesforumadmn@aim.com
MoonieCast Episode 6 for April 23, 2006 - Dude, new theme! - MOONIES' SHOP! Visit it at http://www.cafepress.com/moonies_shop/ - Yeah, so buy a MoonieCast t-shirt! - Part 2! - Check out PGSM at http://www.youtube.com . (search 'pgsm act 1. . . 49') - Ami Mizuno! The chess master ans genius senshi! - ummmmm . . . - THEY ALL DIE! - MJ's Top 10 - Silly Sounds with Stacie - "This is a frickin' rodent!" - "C'est la vie!" Music: Sailor Team No Theme (Requested by Jasmine!) Links mentioned: - http://www.cafepress.com/moonies_shop/ - http://www.youtube.com/ - http://www.moonsenshi.org/ Thanks to: - Jasmine, for requesting and listening! - 'Ami Mercury' for the link to PGSM! - All of our listeners! We wouldn't be here without you! Our site: http://www.moonies-hideout.cjb.net Contact us at: mooniesforumadmn@aim.com