Podcasts about pjs

Show Intro0:00-12:00 – News reporter that Dave is convinced got a boob job12:00-15:00 Guy who lets ladies line up and slap him in the face15:00-22:00 – Car for sale listing includes pic of couple selling it22:00-35:00 - Burger King CEO is changing the Whopper35:00-39:00 – Old lady crashed into a church39:00-41:00 – Old lady crashed into a restaurant41:00-44:00 – Woman led police on chase and ends in landfill44:00-45:00 – Woman's tires blow out during police chase45:00-49:00 – New details are still coming out about Nancy Guthrie case49:00-52:00 – Tampa Airport wants to ban PJs at the airport52:00-58:00 – Kid lost his Pokémon binder at airport58:00-1:09:00 – Listeners have been sharing scope stories with Jason1:09:00-1:15:00 – MLB's Matt Waldron has butt infection1:15:00-1:17:00 – Terrion Arnold mentioned in robbery case1:17:00-1:21:00 – Pink's reported divorce was fake1:21:00-1:26:00 – Haliey Welch doing adult content?1:26:00-1:28:00 – Streamer buys Breaking Bad house1:28:00-1:29:00 – Sci-fi movies with buzz in Hollywood including new Star Wars1:29:00-1:31:00 – Scream 7 has lowest Rotten Tomatoes score of the franchise1:31:00-1:36:00 – Dispute at Wendy's leads to customer throwing stuff at drive-thru1:36:00-1:39:00 – Woman tried to pay bail with fake money1:39:00-1:42:00 – Thief broke into business through roof1:42:00-1:47:00 – Serial thieves stealing from homes1:47:00-1:51:00 – Parents accidentally packed canned martini in kid's lunch1:51:00-1:55:00 – Woman was dangling from ski lift1:55:00-1:57:00 – Missing guy was stuck in mud for several days1:57:00-2:04:00 – Fruit of the Loom creates sweat suit formal suit2:04:00-2:08:00 – Man's smart mattress alerted him to his slow heartbeat2:08:00-2:18:00 – Ask Dave & Chuck The Freak: he feels uncomfortable planning buddy's bachelor party2:18:00-2:26:00 – Ask Dave & Chuck The Freak: found empty condom wrapper under bed2:26:00-2:35:00 – Ask Dave & Chuck The Freak: his lady is making money on TikTok and wants her to consider OnlyFans2:35:00-2:36:00 – Baby had to be thrown from 2nd floor patio during house fire2:36:00-2:39:00 – Kid calls 911 to report someone stealing his bike at gun point2:39:00-2:43:00 – Lady who kept sneaking onto flights does it again2:43:00-2:47:00 – AI chatbot that makes sure BK employees are being polite to customers2:47:00-2:50:00 – Dr. Pepper and Johnsonville sausage2:50:00-End – 90-year-old busted for graffiti in JapanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Wrap Party Podcast is more show after the show! Maney and LauRen are unfiltered, untamed, and sometimes wildly unhinged! Today LauRen takes aim at travelers in their PJs at the airports and strongly agrees with Tampa Bay airport's new "ban" on Crocks and PJs for travelers, while Big Al is here for it. Who do you agree with ? Hit us up on our socials @theMLMorningShow. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today on What's Right:Block layoffs blamed on AIHow to handle the AI replacementHillary deposed regarding Jeffrey EpsteinFlorida airport bans PJs and CrocsThanks for tuning into today's episode of What's Right! If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to the show on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and make sure you leave us a 5-star review.Have personal injury questions? Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sam & Ash Injury Law⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to get free answers 24/7.Connect with us on our socials:TWITTERSam ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@WhatsRightSam⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠What's Right Show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@WhatsRightShow⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOKWhat's Right Show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/WhatsRightShow/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAMWhat's Right Show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@WhatsRightShow⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EMAILSam sam@whatsrightshow.comProducer Robbie robbie@whatsrightshow.comTo request a transcript of this episode, email ⁠⁠marketing@samandashlaw.com

The worst tech embarrassments Matty's awkward haircut John Aiken, expert from MAFS joins the show to spill all about MAFS PLUS answers your relationships questions! PJS awkward moment on the plane Matty's husband has bought another horse... AGAIN! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's a sport we've all had experience with. But this take on pillow fighting is something you may not be ready for. And before you go down that path of ladies at sleepovers, let us say this is an all out battle of athleticism, in the ring.With competitors from around the globe and in varying weight classes, The PMC brings a new form of fighting and entertainment together for events that are drawing fans around the world. The pros are made up of UFC fighters and athletes from an array of sports, but they've also made it a point to ensure all can participate. Amateurs and kids can get in on the action as well, with opportunities for all.The PFC is quickly becoming an ESPN favourite and we, of course, had to find out how we too could get in on the action. We spoke to PFC founder Steve Williams on how the sport began, the strategies to great fighting, and who he thinks would win between Heidi and Luke. You know this fight is happening one day and feathers will be flying! (Not from the actual PFC pillows though, those are far more hardcore)Put on your PJs, have a listen, and get ready for the action. For more information, check out the PFC website. To get right into the action, check out some of their key fights on their YouTube channel.

You don't hear about beer pong injuries very often! People that wear full PJs to bed are crazy! Do you ever hide food from your kid?! All this and more on The Mark and Jess Replay!

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$10K Race - We've got $6k to giveaway, and we're going to do $100 to every caller until it goes! PJs become obsessed with the classic ol' thermos Brendon got in touch as he can't think of a name for his SEVENTH baby. Can we name her? When did you put your foot in your mouth? Matty admits to PJ he lost the $10 from the $10K Race on the first day! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Description: What's your ideal girls night—cozy pajamas or wild nights out?

The girls are getting cosy in their PJs as they gear up for Valentine's Day. Ashley relives the very awkward moment she was caught out when multiple bouquets arrived on the same Valentine's Day, Lauren shares a sneaky Alexa hack that helped one woman expose her cheating fella, and the girls read out some brutally brilliant words of wisdom from a listener who finally ditched the d***head she caught in the act.It's not all lies, sorrow and scandal though, as Ashley and Lauren share their love poems to each other and they are belters!Head over to our socials @niptuckpod and click the link in our bio to find our YouTube, where full video episodes will be released every Wednesday at 5pm. If you're a Patreon member, you'll now be able to watch the Friday Bonus too!Get in touch with your questions, dilemmas and Slutty Susie's via our Whatsapp or email hello@niptuckpod.com

In today's episode of The Therapy Crouch, it's Valentine's Day week—and love is not in the air for everyone. Abbey and Peter dive into the chaos of coupledom, unpacking dodgy Valentine's Day traditions, emotionally-charged listener rants, and their own romantic misfires.The duo also get into thoughtful (and not-so-thoughtful) gifts, including matching PJs that never made it and strawberry body butter that's become too predictable.We also hear from a listener whose Valentine's re-evaluation spiral triggered a relationship crisis, and another whose fiancé ruins every gift by announcing it first. Plus, there's a steamy surprise segment on erotic literature—complete with dramatic readings and some very questionable knots.Finally, it's nickname heaven as listeners send in their best ever rude, weird and wildly inappropriate names for mates—featuring “Pothole”, “Slinky”, and the unforgettable “Joy Button.”Send in your Agony Abs, weekly wines, and nickname game entries below!00:00 - Introduction04:32 - Gone Golfin'18:01 - Valentine's Day!29:05 - Bonk Beats Book Club35:20 - Joy Button41:18 - So (Ham) Salad45:33 - Competition time!To contact us: Email: thetherapycrouch@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetherapycrouchpodcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/ @thetherapycrouch Website: https://thetherapycrouch.com/ For more from Peterhttps://twitter.com/petercrouchFor more from Abbeyhttps://www.instagram.com/abbeyclancyOur clips channelhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZntcv96YhN8IvMAKsz4Dbg Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  https://www.uncommen.org/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Church-Hurt.mp3 Quick Answers Is church hurt real? Yes. It isn't just "feelings"; it is often the result of broken trust, bad teaching, or leadership failure. Should I stay home? While isolation feels safe, the "PJs and YouTube" model cannot replace the community and accountability of the local church. How do I start healing from church hurt? Healing begins by separating the character of God from the failures of men and re-engaging with Scripture for yourself. What if it wasn't "hurt"? Sometimes what we call "hurt" is actually the Holy Spirit convicting us of sin through a difficult message. Is there a "Plan B"? The local church remains God's "Plan A" for the world, despite the fact that it is filled with broken people. The Invisible Scar Man, you've been there. You walk into a lobby, the smell of cheap coffee hits you, and suddenly your chest tightens. You remember the meeting behind closed doors, the legalistic comment made about your family, or the pastor who turned out to be someone completely different behind the scenes. You aren't "weak" for feeling this. You are reacting to a breach of a sacred trust. When we talk about healing from church hurt, we have to start by acknowledging that the pain is legitimate. For many men, the church was supposed to be the one place where they didn't have to keep their guard up. When that environment becomes the source of the wound, the natural instinct is to retreat, bunker down, and vow never to get burned again. But here is the hard truth: staying in the bunker won't heal the wound; it only lets it fester into cynicism. Defining the Damage: Hurt vs. Conviction One of the most important steps in healing from church hurt is identifying exactly what happened. In our current culture, "hurt" has become a catch-all term, but there is a massive difference between being wounded by a person and being convicted by the Truth. The podcast hosts made a vital distinction: if you left a church because the pastor talked about lust, greed, or pride, and it made you "feel some kind of way," that isn't church hurt. That is the Holy Spirit doing His job. Real healing from church hurt involves a gut-check. Are you mad at the messenger because the message was true? Or were you truly mistreated by a "broken, sinful person" in a position of authority? If a leader used their platform to shame you, manipulate you, or offer bad theology in the face of tragedy—like the story of the pastor telling a grieving family their daughter's accident was due to their sin—that is a legitimate wound that requires a process of restoration. The "PJs and YouTube" Trap Since the COVID-19 era, many men have traded the sanctuary for the sofa. It feels safer. You can't get burned by a screen. You can change the channel the moment the teaching gets too close to home. But this "pseudo-soul feeding" is a dangerous substitute for the real thing. Healing from church hurt cannot happen in total isolation. You were designed for the "gathering of the saints". When you stay home, you lose the iron-sharpening-iron accountability that keeps a man sharp. You lose the opportunity to serve and be served. You might feel "fed" by a podcast, but you aren't known by a community. Broken People in a Holy Place We often forget that the church is not a showroom for saints, but a hospital for sinners. Every person in that building, from the guy in the front row to the man behind the pulpit, is a "broken, sinful person" just like you. When we expect perfection from the local church, we set ourselves up for resentment. Healing from church hurt requires us to adjust our expectations. We don't go to church because the people are perfect; we go because the God they serve is. As the podcast mentioned, "Hurt people, hurt people". Recognizing the humanity of those who hurt you doesn't excuse their behavior, but it can be the first step toward the forgiveness that sets you free. The Role of Scripture in Your Recovery If you want to move toward healing from church hurt, you have to stop being "spoon-fed". A major cause of spiritual wounding is a lack of personal biblical literacy. If you don't know the Word for yourself, you are vulnerable to "false teachers" or "misinformed" leaders who spout nonsense as if it were Gospel. You need to "crave the Bible" and study it enough so that if someone quotes it incorrectly, you catch it immediately. When your foundation is built on the actual text of Scripture rather than a personality behind a pulpit, your faith becomes much harder to shake. Healing from church hurt often starts with a man opening his own Bible and saying, "Lord, show me who You really are, regardless of what that last guy said." Five Practical Steps for Healing from Church Hurt 1. Separate God from His "Salesmen" The biggest casualty of church hurt is often our view of God. We assume that because a leader was cruel, God is cruel. Because a church was disorganized, God is chaotic. Healing from church hurt requires you to consciously decouple the Creator from the flawed people who claim to represent Him. 2. Practice "70 x 7" Forgiveness The podcast reminded us that we are called to forgive "seventy times seven". This isn't a suggestion; it's a command for our own survival. Holding onto bitterness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Healing from church hurt isn't about saying what happened was "okay"; it's about handing the debt over to God so you don't have to carry the ledger anymore. 3. Seek a "New Model" If the "model" of church you were in featured sarcasm, control, or heresy, it's time to find a healthy community. Not every church is like the one that burned you. Look for a "Church Home" where the leaders invite you to "do your own research" and read along in the Word. 4. Engage in "Breath Prayers" When the anxiety of re-entering a church space hits, use small physical and spiritual shifts. A simple prayer like "Lord, give me peace" can reset your nervous system. These small acts of trust are vital components of healing from church hurt. 5. Stop the "Silent Retreat" Tell a trusted friend what happened. Silence is where shame and bitterness grow. By bringing the hurt into the light, you rob it of its power. A key to healing from church hurt is realizing you aren't the only one who has walked this path. When It's Time to Move On There is a time for reconciliation, and there is a time for relocation. If the teaching in your current environment is "straight up the opposite of what the Lord said," you have an obligation to lead yourself and your family elsewhere. Healing from church hurt sometimes looks like a clean break from a toxic environment so you can find a place where the Gospel is actually preached. However, make sure you are leaving because of "legitimate church hurt" and not just because the truth got uncomfortable. If you find yourself "changing the channel" every time a pastor mentions a sin you're struggling with, the problem isn't the church—it's the heart. The Goal: A Restored Spirit The ultimate goal of healing from church hurt isn't just to get you back into a seat on Sunday. It's to ensure that you don't "turn your back on your faith" because of a human being's failure. Your relationship with Jesus is too valuable to be held "hostage" by the actions of a broken leader. God wants you to have a "settled kind of calm" that isn't based on a perfect church experience, but on His presence. As you navigate the road of healing from church hurt, remember that Jesus Himself was "hurt" by the religious establishment of His day. He knows the sting of betrayal, and He is the only one who can truly bind up those wounds. FAQs on Healing from Church Hurt How do I know if I'm ready to try a new church? If you can talk about your past experience without a flare-up of intense anger, you are making progress. Healing from church hurt is a journey; you don't have to be 100% "fine" to walk through the doors of a healthy church. What if my wife wants to go, but I'm still too hurt? Be honest with her. Don't just "stay home in your PJs" and let her go alone. Take small steps together. Perhaps start with a small group or a mid-week service where the pressure feels lower. Does "healing from church hurt" mean I have to trust the old leaders again? Forgiveness is mandatory; trust is earned. You can forgive someone for hurting you without putting yourself back under their authority. Is online church enough? Online resources are great supplements, but they aren't a replacement for "the gathering of the saints". You need to be in a room where people know your name and your story. A Challenge for the Wounded Man Don't let a bad experience with a "model" of a man or a church define your eternity. The world will try to convince you that the church is obsolete or toxic, but God calls it His Bride. The challenge today is to take one small step toward healing from church hurt. Pick up your Bible. Reach out to a brother. Decide that your faith is worth more than your past pain. If you are going to be something, be uncommon. Check out our other resources in our library. Follow Our Podcast on Apple | Spotify

Work has a way of following us home—replaying that one frustrating meeting, stealing our attention from the people we love, and turning Sunday night into a countdown to stress. In this conversation with psychologist Guy Winch, we talk about why switching off feels so hard, and what actually helps when work starts to take over your life.We get practical about breaking rumination, handling that end-of-weekend dread, protecting your energy, and staying in that “just enough stress” zone where you can still function without burning out. This is the first half of a two-part conversation. In this one, we're focused on your professional life; next week, we'll dive into burnout in your love life.---►► Preorder your copy of Dr. Guy Winch's new book Mind Over Grind (which will arrive in bookstores on Feb. 10) at guywinch.com/books/mind-over-grind►► Head to CozyEarth.com before February 8 and use my code LOVELIFEBOGO to get PJs for you and someone you love.►► Ask me anything at AskMH.com—try it for free to get instant answers now via voice or text. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What makes Batavia "Batavia"? We often talk about our town's identity as if it's a permanent fixture—a "vibe" we inherited. But a closer look at our history reveals that our reputation for being on the "right side of history" wasn't an accident or a guarantee. It was a series of individual and cultural habits.In this episode, I sit down with Kate Garrett, Director of the Batavia Depot Museum, to trace the lineage of Batavia's civic character. From the radical abolitionist roots of the 1840s to the fair housing battles of the 1960s, we explore how Batavia has chosen a path of belonging (and where Batavia wavered)—and why that choice is more fragile than we think.Pictured in the cover art is B. C. Yates, the anti-slavery Kane County Sheriff who won election in 1848 with support of the Liberty Party, James Stewart, whose father was the first Black person to own property in Batavia and who was a Civil War veteran of the USCT 29th, and the Congregational Church, where the original Kane County Anti-Slavery Society was formed. Our next live show: Cozy in Community will be February 21st at 5pm at Sturdy Shelter. Join us for a chill, warm, inviting get together as part of Sturdy Shelter's Cozy Fest. Save the date and set aside your favorite PJs! 630 Members get free entry for themselves and a guest. For all others, tickets are available for $10 at the door via cash or Venmo. Subscribe to our newsletter to be updated about Area Code: Batavia and find out when new episodes are available. Area Code: Batavia is always looking for sponsors. Click here for more information. Area Code: Batavia is produced by Area Code Audio. It's hosted and produced by Richard Clark. Edited and mixed by Matt Linder. Additional production help from Jennifer Clark.

On today's episode, we discuss James's first full day living with his new Tesla, from accidental 80-mph “hurry mode” on a complex Jackson interchange to the car's eerie ability to catch his mistakes before they become collisions. The hosts describe how Full Self-Driving treats turn-signals, lane changes, parking lots, and even chained-off entrances as “suggestions,” branching through options in real time while still relying on the driver to understand modes and settings much like an aircraft autopilot. They compare slow mall chargers with newer, much faster superchargers in Ruston, detail how Smart Summon and parking-spot “training” work, and recount the car confidently handling ice, snow, and muddy driveways in conditions that would rattle most human drivers. From there, the conversation widens to Elon Musk's broader empire: Cybertruck orders, a planned merger of SpaceX and xAI, plans to move AI compute into space, and speculation that Musk could become more powerful than nation-state leaders because satellites are outside traditional regulatory reach. In geopolitical news, they revisit Trump's pressure campaigns on Venezuela, Cuba, and Iran, Russia's moves in Ukraine, Panama ejecting China from canal contracts, and how “blockade and siege” strategies can topple regimes without direct invasions. Domestic politics center on ICE raids, masked officers, new body-camera requirements, battles over the SAVE Act, real ID, filibuster rules, and the difficulty of preventing election fraud across multiple “vectors” like machines, mail ballots, and lax ID laws. The hosts close with frustration over slow accountability for alleged 2020 election abuses and Epstein-related revelations, but they argue that many cheating methods have been shut down, Trump is still advancing a longer-term plan, and in the meantime at least “the Tesla drives great and PJs coffee is still hot.” Don't miss it!

This week on Growing Beth has been affronted by a few too many unsolicited and (quite frankly rude) comments about her beautiful and growing body (carrying twins no less) so this is a PSA to pipe down in the cheap seats and leave pregnant women aaaaalone. No notes. Lil's playing bed tetris trying to figure out sleeping arrangements for her toddler and making sleep (sort of) work in her household with a baby on the way. Recipes:Hot chook mad? Check out @nataliechassay ‘One Chook Three Salads' Series @villageformama  Chicken & Quinoa Stew – nourishing, grounding, and perfect for the postpartum season (or any season, really).Recommendations@piyama_co Pajamas – Lil (on behalf of Beth and herself) is voting PJs as self-care essentials. They're soft, cute, and perfect for your postpartum cocoon. Shop PiyamaLauren Sissons' Fruit & Veg Memory Game – A gorgeous and fun way to play with your little one: Shop the Memory GameWe're so glad to have you here — truly.If you loved the episode, leave us a review, share with your mum club, or tag us over on Instagram:@growingthepodcast | @lillian.beth | @birthwithbeth_

By extremely popular demand, Dear Shandy's WORLD-FAMOUS RECAPS are back, this time covering season 4 of The Traitors! Today Shandy breaks down episode 7! Thank you to our sponsors...- Go to https://drinkolipop.com/SHANDY to buy any two cans of Olipop in store and get paid back for one!- Shop Sharleen's favorite Bras and Underwear at https://www.skims.com/SHANDY- Go to https://cozyearth.com/SHANDYBOGO for buy-one-get-one PJs only available through February 8th!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:08 - Episode 721:16 - Round Table38:34 - Best DressedIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BE WARNED: It's LuAnna, and this podcast contains honest, upfront opinions, rants, bants and general explicit content. But you know you love it.On this week's LuAnna: the girls record in their PJs after a sleepover, the start of our OnlyFeet content, Lu reveals her very bougie plans for her 40th in St Barths (kids very much not invited) and Anna shares what might be her lowest-ever moment involving a massage, a leaking nipple and a pair of black jeans.Plus, the girls debate friendship politics, a listener discovers her 97-year-old granddad's stiff gel and saucy DVDs, another wrestles with the guilt of moving abroad and we dive into haunted cottages. Oh, and Lu ISN'T AN AIRBNB.GRAB YOUR TICKETS FOR THE BIG PARTY AT EVERYTHINGLUANNA.COMRemember, if you want to get in touch you can: Email us at luanna@everythingluanna.com OR drop us a WhatsApp on our brand new number 075 215 64640Please review Global's Privacy Policy: https://global.com/legal/privacy-policy/

Katie Sommers brought an interesting story up to our attention... how often should you be washing your PJS? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie Sommers brought an interesting story up to our attention... how often should you be washing your PJS?

What level of comfort do you aim for when you travel? In this week's episode, Merrill gives his take on wearing PJs when flying.

Happy New Year, everyone! In this first episode of 2026, we talk about dressing festive for Christmas: MJ and Ethan wear PJs while Spencer rocked a Bart Simpson tee to drink with Santa. We also talked about wearing black tie on NYE, where Ethan went out in the rain while MJ smartly stayed home. Also, Ethan briefly discusses the great 70s fashion in the Sterophonic, The! Most! Tony! Nominated! Play! Of! All! Time! Blog Post: https://alittlebitofrest.com/2026/01/12/stereophonic-christmas-festivities-a-rainy-new-years-eve/ Support us on Patreon and join the Discord: https://www.patreon.com/styleanddirection/ Follow us on Instagram! www.instagram.com/styleanddirection/ Podcast is produced by MJ

No one won the Regular Season of the TBP NFL Deathmatch Challenge, because it's not about winning. However...the Postseason picks are rolling in! This episode, we welcome BACK Cincy Brewcast and Barstool Perspective, and we wax poetic as we converse about Cincy Brew Dads and The Weekly POINT. We talked about things such as: breakdowns. More curation than anyone realizes. Producer dAIvid hates Gnome. Cincy Brew Dads housing crackers and Fabreezing their PJs. Remembering when we last talked about snacks. Mike breaking bad news to Bret and Bret mansplaining. **The music used in the NFL Deathmatch Challenge is by DonRock the Imposter on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqKSIaE_QE8 @donrocktheimposter912 Wildcard Week:  Gnome's Pick : Patriots Marco's Pick : Rams Julia's Pick : Bears Current points for the postseason:  Gnome : 0 Marco : 0 Julia : 0 ----- This episode covers the following shows : The Weekly Pint - Ep 295 - What's Next For Craft Beer? Cincy Brewcast - V11 Ep 11 - Higher Gravity's Beervent Calendar - A Breakdown Cincy Brew Dads - The Last Porch Beer of 2025 - Dark Charge Skyline Chili Spice by Braxton Brewing Co Cincy Brew Dads - Stout, Stout, Let It All Out - Styles Clash Ep 4 Barstool Perspective - 1/2/2026 ----- What we drank :  MadTree - Identity Crisis - Black IPA Coronado Brewing - Weekend Vibes - American IPA High Grain - Clare - American IPA Esoteric Brewing - Pearlescent - Belgian Strong Golden Other Half Brewing - Short, Dark, and Handsome - Maple and Vanilla Stout ----- Episode recorded on 1/6/2026 at our amazing podcast host, Higher Gravity Summit Park! https://highergravitycrafthaus.com/ Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by Truth, Beer, and Podsequences are those of the participants alone and do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of any entities they may represent. ------  Links to everything at http://truthbeerpod.com/ or https://truthbeerpod.podbean.com/ Find us on all the social medias @ TruthBeerPod Email us at TruthBeerPod@gmail.com Subscribe, like, review, and share! Find all of our episodes on your favorite Podcast platform or https://www.youtube.com/@TruthBeerPod ! Buy us a pint!  If you'd like to support the show, you can do by clicking the "One-Time Donation" link at http://truthbeerpod.com ! If you want exclusive content, check out our Patreon!  https://www.patreon.com/TruthBeerPod If you'd like to be a show sponsor or even just a segment sponsor, let us know via email or hit us up on social media! ----- We want you to continue to be around to listen to all of our episodes.  If you're struggling, please reach out to a friend, family member, co-worker, or mental health professional.  If you don't feel comfortable talking to someone you know, please use one of the below resources to talk to someone who wants you around just as much as we do.   Call or Text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Chat with someone at 988lifeline.org http://www.988lifeline.org ----- Our Intro, Outro, and most of the "within the episode" music was provided by Gnome Creative. Check out www.GnomeCreative.com for all your audio, video, and imagery needs! @gnome__creative on Instagram @TheGnarlyGnome on Twitter https://thegnarlygnome.com/support http://gnomecreative.com http://instagram.com/gnome__creative http://www.twitter.com/TheGnarlyGnome

Welcome to 2026 and welcome to the Catnip Cafe where you can celebrate the holidays by wearing PJs and reading to a cat.  Sounds like heaven to Holly!

Slip into your comfy PJs because it's time for one last trip into the Land of Dreams. The Slightly Slobbering Sleepyheads face-off against Lucifer, Furies, and pantheons of gods to assist the Morpheus in his final battle in the Netflix Original series, The Sandman - Season 2!

Happy New Year, everyone! Grab your heating pad and stay in your holiday PJs with us as we reflect on an incredible year in the aesthetics industry. In this episode, Jon and Nicole take a deep dive into the personal and professional highs and lows of 2025—from the "Year of Yes" to the reality of running a growing practice.We're getting vulnerable about the lessons that changed us, the skincare trends we want to leave in the dust, and the "unbiased education" we hope to see more of in 2026. Plus, Nicole shares the nerves behind her upcoming live cadaver injection, and Jon opens up about his personal journey with grief and growth.In this episode, we discuss:➡️The Power of Delegation: How a personal assistant and trusting a team saved our sanity.➡️Pushing Comfort Zones: From public speaking to live stage injections.➡️Aesthetic Trends to Ditch: Why the Hyaluron pen and "parking lot injections" need to stay in 2025.➡️What's Exploding in 2026: The rise of bio-stimulators and the focus on skin health.➡️Personal Growth: Navigating new motherhood, business expansions, and finding your "posse."➡️Our 2026 Treatment Plans: What we're doing for our own faces this year (Skinvive, PDGF, and avoiding the "waxy" look).***DISCLAIMER***The content of this episode of Fill Me In: An Aesthetics Podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The hosts, guests, and producers of this podcast do not endorse or recommend the off-label use of any medical product without proper clinical training, patient assessment, and full informed consent. Listeners are strongly advised to consult with their healthcare providers and adhere to all applicable laws and regulatory guidelines. We expressly disclaim any and all liability for any outcomes related to the use or misuse of the information presented in this episode.Fill Me In is hosted by Jonathan LeSuer, MSN, NP-C and Nicole Bauer, MSN, APRN, FNP-BC. Follow Fill Me In on Instagram!https://www.instagram.com/thefillmeinpod/Follow Nicole on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/aestheticnursenicole/Nicole's Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/aestheticnursenicole?utm_source=searchExhibit Medical Aesthetics website:https://exhibitmedicalaesthetics.com/Follow Jon on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/injectorjon/Jon's Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/Injectorjon?utm_source=searchTox and Pout Aesthetics website:https://toxandpout.com/Join Moxie! Is the business side of your Med Spa overwhelming? Moxie is the all-in-one growth system built to help you scale without the stress. Get software, marketing, compliance tools, and expert coaching all in one place. Fill Me In listeners get $500 off their launch fee! ➡️ Visit www.joinmoxie.com/fillmein Producer of Fill Me In: Joey Ginexi#AestheticsPodcast #InjectorJon #AestheticNurseNicole #AestheticTrends2026 #MedSpaLife #BioStimulators #SkincareRoutine #NewYearNewYou #FillMeInPodcast

In this unexpectedly playful episode of Pinky & Ava Pajama Party, Pinky opens up about a major first: stepping into the role of Top during a recent scene—and what that experience unlocked inside her. From the emotional high of her book release party to a tearful, vulnerable reaction that caught her off guard, Pinky reflects on how saying yes instead of no shifted her energy, confidence, and sense of self. She talks about letting her inner Domme out, feeling unexpectedly energized in scene, and how this moment became part of a much bigger reflection on the year she's had and the woman she's becoming. Along the way, the conversation takes a cozy Pajama Party turn—because of course it does—with side quests into banana bread & date balls; and the comfort of laughter, and softness after growth. It's an episode about power, permission, embodiment, and honoring your own evolution… with a little kitchen-table chaos mixed in. Slip into your PJs and join the party.

In this episode of the **Business First Podcast**, host Sonia Alleyne sits down with Vanessa and Dallas Streeter, the mother-and-son duo behind **PJs for the Culture**, a pajama brand rooted in cultural pride and representation. Vanessa and Dallas share the inspiration behind creating holiday pajamas that reflect Black culture and identity, and how a simple idea turned into a growing business. The conversation explores the realities of product development, from concept to production, and the challenges they faced bringing their vision to life. They also discuss what it's like navigating entrepreneurship as a family, balancing roles as mother and son while building a brand together. Along the way, they reflect on the overwhelming support from their community, the importance of listening to customer feedback, and how that feedback continues to shape their business decisions. Looking ahead, Vanessa and Dallas share their plans for expansion, new product lines, and how they hope to continue creating products that celebrate culture while building generational impact. This episode is an inspiring look at family, entrepreneurship, and building a business with purpose.

In this special Christmas episode, Ronan, Janine, and Steve slow things down and talk about what this season really means—not just for their families, but for photographers everywhere. From Christmas Eve feasts and quirky traditions to childhood memories and the joy (and chaos) of shutting the studio doors for a few precious days, this episode is all about connection, nostalgia, and being present—everything photographers ask their clients to embrace, yet so often forget to give themselves.It's a cosy, funny, real conversation about recharging, making memories, being human in your business, and leaning into the magic your clients feel this time of year. If you need permission to switch off, breathe, and enjoy the people who matter most, this is the episode to curl up with.Key HighlightsThe one time of year the entire photography world finally slows down—and why it matters for your creativity and mental health.How Janine shifted from “militant Christmas Eve commander” to intentional, slow, meaningful traditions… and why your clients crave the same energy.Why the small rituals—hot cocoa bars, new ornaments, matching PJs—are the things your children remember for life.Christmas around the world: Irish potatoes, Italian lasagna, Australian barbies, and flaming whiskey-soaked pudding.Why showing the human behind the business in your content is more important than ever (especially during the holidays).The honest truth: photographers give so much all year… but struggle to give themselves permission to rest.A reminder every photographer needs to hear: “The hardest person to celebrate is yourself.”Ronan, Steve, and Janine's Christmas wish for every Difference Maker photographer—and a seasonal invitation to join the community.Join the Difference Maker Revolution!Take the first step toward creating a photography business that makes a difference. Visit Difference Maker Inner Circle to learn more about transforming your business through proven strategies and mentorship.The Difference Maker Revolution podcast helps you grow your photography business by teaching you how to:Generate highly targeted leads.Increase conversions with ideal clients.Build long-term client relationships.Create consistent, predictable revenue.This show is hosted by industry experts:Steve Saporito: Serial portrait studio owner and photography educator.Jeanine McLeod: Family portrait photographer specializing in joyful, storytelling photography for parents.Jonathan Ryle: Photography marketing funnel specialist.Ronan Ryle: Board of Directors of the PPA, Professional Photographers of America.Tune In for Real-World StrategiesGain insights from professionals who know what it takes to build a successful photography business. Whether you're looking to increase client satisfaction, improve your sales, or align your work with what clients truly value, this episode is packed with actionable advice.Through fun, educational, and inspiring discussions, the Difference Maker Revolution aims to help you create a healthier society through photography.

The countdown to Christmas is on and we're in our PJs, getting in the festive spirit! This week, our Sarahs are keeping us BUSY. One Sarah has been told by a Brian that he's a spy (yes, seriously…), while another Sarah is wondering why her Brian has apparently blacklisted her family from Christmas forever. Festive? Yes. Concerning? Also yes.Join us on Patreon for an extra ep every week!! https://www.patreon.com/TheGirlsBathroomWelcome to The Girls Bathroom! We're Sophia & Cinzia, life-long besties who share a YouTube channel. The Girls Bathroom is a place we all know to be full of girl chat and gossip, and the place we often confide in girls we've never even met before! In this podcast we want to help you with your dilemmas, by trying to make sense of these boys wasting our time, the girls trying to make our lives difficult and all the things in between. So come join us for a fun but real chat in the girls bathroom! Disclaimer: we can't promise we'll stay on topic!! Follow us on Instagram: @thegirlsbathroom Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of High Performance Parenting, Greg & Jacquie Francis share candid stories and practical wisdom about navigating holiday stress in a way that protects your peace and strengthens your family.From an 8–9 hour snowstorm road trip to injury chaos at 11 p.m., they reveal how trying to “do it all” stole peace — and how learning to say no reshaped their family traditions.What You'll Learn:Why you don't have to cram your December calendarHow to say no to obligations without guiltHow flexible traditions (like shifting dates) build peaceWhy slowing down helps your kids emotionallyHow to protect evenings for connectionWhy celebrating later can actually deepen meaningHow to decide as a couple what truly mattersListen & Watch:

Critics absolutely torch With Love, Meghan: Holiday Celebration, mocking broccoli wreaths, therapy-speak crackers and brunch guests in matching red PJs as reviewers label the show joyless, fake and unintentionally hilarious. The Free Press dubs Meghan the “Slop Princess,” while U.S. commentators say the Sussex brand is sliding fast: Harry's Trump joke draws boos, their star power is “waning,” and Meghan's eye is drifting toward Kardashians-style beauty deals. Now add in As Ever's twelve-dollar chocolate bars with bee pollen and “weeds” that social media calls “insane” and “gross,” and you've got the full Montecito package: high price, high gloss, and a reputation that's starting to melt.Hear our new show "Crown and Controversy: Prince Andrew" here.Check out "Palace Intrigue Presents: King WIlliam" here.

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, one of HeHe's all-time favorite ways to stay cozy during pregnancy and postpartum. Their ultra-soft PJs, loungewear, and sheets make those long nights and lazy days feel a little more luxurious — and they're a simple way to detox your home while you're at it! Right now, you can use code HEHE to stack up to 40% off holiday sale prices on anything from dreamy PJs to new sheets: https://cozyearth.com/ Understanding Epidurals: Everything You Need to Know with Marissa Mulder of Sassy Anesthesia In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe dives into the real talk on epidurals with Marissa Mulder, a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist (CRNA) and the brain behind the popular Instagram account Sassy Anesthesia. They break down why every labor is unique (so stop comparing yourself to everyone else!) and go step by step through the epidural process — the risks, benefits, pros, cons, and the myths you've probably heard. Plus, they cover the difference between epidurals and spinals, how to advocate for a birth experience that truly works for you, and how tools like the Birth Lounge App can give you bite-sized, evidence-based education to feel confident from pregnancy through postpartum. Whether you plan to use an epidural or not, this episode is packed with the knowledge and empowerment every parent deserves. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Advice on Epidurals 01:00 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast 01:53 Introducing The Birth Lounge App 02:10 Features and Benefits of The Birth Lounge App 05:21 Today's Topic: All About Epidurals 05:54 Guest Introduction: Marissa Mulder, CRNA 06:54 Epidural FAQs and Common Concerns 10:41 Epidural Placement and Procedure 30:03 Medications Used in Epidurals 36:49 Postpartum Comfort: Cozy Earth's Bamboo Jogger Sets 40:20 Eating and Drinking During Labor: What's the Risk? 42:54 The Importance of Honesty with Hospital Staff 43:55 Why Partners Might Be Asked to Leave During Epidural Placement 48:36 Adjusting Your Epidural: What You Need to Know 51:53 Epidurals and Labor Progression: Myths and Facts 58:40 Epidural Risks and Benefits Explained 01:01:56 Spinal vs. Epidural: What's the Difference? 01:09:53 Emotional Aspects of Choosing an Epidural 01:13:59 Final Thoughts and Where to Find More Information   Guest Bio: Marissa is a CRNA and first time mama to a busy 5 month old and can be found on insta & tiktok at @sassyanesthesia .  SOCIAL MEDIA: Connect with HeHe on Instagram  Connect with Marissa on Instagram    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere. And if you haven't grabbed it yet… Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor. Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what's really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience. Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress.

What if the first “fight” in a new relationship isn't a red flag at all? Maybe it's your first real chance to see how you both show up when things get real . . . and whether you can grow together on the other side of it. This week on the Love Life Podcast, Matthew breaks down the early conflicts most of us dread, why attachment styles hijack our reactions, and how a moment that feels like the end of chemistry can be the beginning of something deeper.You'll walk away with tools for arguing in ways that build respect and actually bring you closer. If you're dating, in a relationship, or hoping to be one day . . . today's podcast may be your new secret weapon.---►► Last chance to grab our Black Friday special: 14 days of FREE access to Matthew AI, your personal coach for navigating love and relationships (seriously, this is like having Matthew Hussey in your pocket 24/7!) Sign up now at Askmh.com►► Hunker down in your coziest PJs with a warm, snuggly blanket. Treat yourself and your loved ones by going to cozyearth.com and use code LOVELIFE for 40% off before December 12. Your holiday list: complete. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to our annual holiday in Kansas City episode - our most popular of the year! Whether you're looking to start a new tradition or add something special to your holiday plans, this episode is packed with ideas from across Kansas City. Let's dive into the holiday magic! Favorite Places to Get Gifts Experience gifts like mom-and-me pedicures. Local memberships: KidScape, Deanna Rose Children's Farmstead, Union Station, Wonderscope, and The Kansas City Zoo Gift cards to neighborhood spots like Golden Scoop, Panera, or QuikTrip. KC-themed apparel for kids. Travel-related gifts: luggage, Disney gift cards for upcoming trips Tickets to local shows (Coterie, Broadway series) Best Spots for Holiday Lights KCMC Neighborhood Light Guides curated and vetted by KC moms (organized by geographic area). Deanna Rose parking lot lights: wear your PJs! Overland Park Arboretum's Luminary Walk Winter Magic (Northland drive-thru) Holiday Reflections at Union Station: indoor, interactive, and a new annual favorite. Favorite Ways to Give Back Check out our family friendly volunteer guide. Children's Mercy Happy Kits that families can assemble. Harvesters offers Family Day volunteer shifts for kids 8 and older. Visiting Santa KCMC's Morning at the North Pole event featuring an awesome Santa, crafts, hot chocolate and more. Junior League's Santa: booked in 10-minute increments with professional photos and no lines-worth the cost! The Plaza is bringing Santa back this year! Favorite Live Music and Theater Elf, The Musical at the Coterie. Nutcracker at the Kauffman Center Kansas City Symphony's Christmas Festival Favorite Adult Holiday Activities Tons of pop-up holiday bars, fun but require early reservations. Overland Park Arboretum's Luminary Walk adults only nights The Hallmark Holiday Experience, check out our guide! Holiday markets are great for girlfriend outings and local gift shopping Best Places to Take Out-of-Town Visitors Holiday Reflections at Union Station. Consider brunch or lunch at Harvey's before hand. When it's too chilly to play outside, find fun ways to keep kids moving indoors. Dance parties, hallway obstacle courses, and living room yoga are great ways to burn energy and to boost moods. Even 15 minutes of movement can make a big difference. Get creative, join in, and show them that staying active can be fun no matter the weather. Children's Mercy Kansas City is built for kids. That's why we have been taking care of the kids in the community for more than 125 years. Learn more.  Connect with Megan and Sarah We would love to hear from you! Send us an e-mail or find us on Instagram or Facebook!    

Ashley was driving around Tampa yesterday when she saw that the kids don't have the best fashion sense and they need to stop wearing PJs to school... listen to the entire heated and fun conversation this morning now.

Ashley was driving around Tampa yesterday when she saw that the kids don't have the best fashion sense and they need to stop wearing PJs to school... listen to the entire heated and fun conversation this morning now. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

December is officially HERE and I'm so excited to kick off this cozy, chaotic, magical month with you. In today's episode, we're talking about all the things: my flash sale, our favorite bamboo PJs, a little mom-life drama from the gym daycare, what I'm watching right now… and a mindset tool I cannot stop using! ⚡️ Flash Sale! I give a quick update on my flash sale (spoiler: it's GOOD), what's included, and why December is such a perfect time to refresh your routine and grab something that's going to make your year feel easier. Today is the last day!

Proclaim The Gospel(2 Timothy 4:1-22)For the bulletin in PDF form, click here.Message SlidesCome Before Winter - Chuck SwindollClosing Thoughts on 2 Timothy - StottThe Needs of the Needy - Chuck SwindollMortality - J.I. PackerI solemnly exhort you in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who is to judge the living and the dead, and by His appearing and His kingdom: preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; correct, rebuke, and exhort, with great patience and instruction. (4:1-2) NASBThe Proclamation of Scripture Commanded (4:1-8) Because we are the next generation, Serve in your SHAPE.Authority: God & Christ (4:1)Charge: Preach the Word (4:2)Preach: Declaration (κηρύσσω) “herald”Be Ready: Preparation (ἐφίστημι) “stand beside”Rebuke: Confrontation (ἐλέγχω) “have words”Reprove: Raising the Issue (ἐπιτιμάω) “make it important”Exhort: Partnering (παρακαλέω) “come alongside”Patience: Long Range View (μακροθυμία) “stay until results come”Teaching: Instruction (διδαχή) “give information well”Need: Sound Doctrine (4:3-5)Need: Paul's Death (4:6-8)Personal Desire: "Come before winter…” (4:9)Paul's Personal Situation: Alone & Not Alone (4:10-18)Final Greeting & Request (4:19-21)Benediction (4:22)God designed the church to proclaim the Word of Godto the very end of our lives—regardless of reception—because the Lord will return to judge the living and the dead.Home Church QuestionsThe Charge (4:1–2)What might it look like to be “ready in season and out of season” in your daily life or ministry? Have you even ministered when not ready?How have you seen the responsiveness of people to the message of the Bible change during your lifetime?The Message, The Means, and the Messenger (4:2)How do “patience” and “instruction” balance out the confrontational aspects of ministry?How can you cultivate a long-range view (“stay until results come”) when people seem resistant to the truth?The Model of a Faithful Finisher (4:6–8)What does it mean to have “fought the good fight” and “kept the faith”?How does the promise of the “crown of righteousness” motivate endurance today? Does it really motivate you personally?The Personal Heart of a Servant (4:19–22)What does this tell us about the importance of relationships?How can we finish our years with the same grace, hope, and focus Paul displayed?Pray for the Unreached: The Tiwa of IndiaThese people of northeastern India live between the hills and plains of Assam and Meghalaya, blending tribal customs with Hindu traditions. Many still worship local gods, though a few have embraced Christ. Their openness and love of festivals, including Christmas, show hearts ready for truth. Pray that Tiwa believers will rise up to disciple others, that their leaders will recognize Jesus as the true source of life, and that a vibrant movement to Christ will take root among them.FinancesWeekly Budget 34,615Giving For 11/16 24,985Giving For 11/23 29,630YTD Budget 726,923Giving 672,902 OVER/(UNDER) (54,021) Fellowship 101New to Fellowship? We invite you to join us on Sunday, January 11th, at 9 AM in the conference room (first floor) to hear about our mission, values, and ministries. During this time, you will meet some of our ministry leaders and get to ask questions. Register at fellowshipconway.org/register. This is an important step in getting connected at Fellowship. New to Fellowship?We are so glad that you chose to worship with our Fellowship Family this morning. If you are joining us for the first time or have been checking us out for a few weeks, we are excited you are here and would love to meet you. Please fill out the “Connect Card” and bring it to the Connection Center in the Atrium, we would love to say “hi” and give you a gift. Fellowship Women's Potluck and P.J.'sLadies, grab your cozy PJs, a dish to share, and join us for a fun night together on Thursday, December 4th, from 6–8 p.m. at 11 Skyland Dr. (home of Amy McKissack). Come with a friend or make a new one — it's going to be a relaxed evening of food, laughter, and great company! Join a Home ChurchHome Church small groups are about building a deep community where we are transformed into the image of Christ and serve a broken world for the sake of the gospel. If you are not in a Home Church, we encourage you go to fellowshipconway.org/homechurch or stop by the Connection table in the Atrium. Men's Discussion GroupMen's Discussion Group is tackling C.S. Lewis' The Great Divorce starting Thursday, December 4th from 6-8pm. Through fable and allegory, Lewis dreams he's on a bus between Hell and Heaven—a wild setup for compelling conversations. All men are welcome. Widows' Christmas Party Luncheon - Thursday, December 11th Join us for a special time of food, friendship, and Christmas fun! We'll gather at Ambra's home (3680 Gresham Dr) to enjoy lunch and celebrate the season together. Please RSVP by Monday, December 1 to: Judy: (501) 329-3535 or Ambra: (501) 730-6795. Fellowship Women's Hebrews Bible StudyThis February, join us for Jesus Is Greater—an eight-week Bible study through the book of Hebrews created to deepen your faith, renew your hope, and connect you with other women pursuing Jesus. Led by Rebecca Carter and Heather Harrison, we'll meet on Tuesday nights at 6:30 p.m., beginning February 3rd at Fellowship. Free childcare by texting Shanna at 501-336-0332 by January 28th. Register at fellowshipconway.org/women.OCC Celebration | December 14We're celebrating the thousands of Operation Christmas Child shoeboxes already packed—each one a Gospel opportunity placed into the hands of a child! Fellowship's goal is 8,200 boxes this year; however, we are a bit shy. Good news, there's still time to hit our goal by packing a box online! Every shoebox built online is $30, which includes shipping, and counts towards the 8,200. Go to https://sampur.se/4fGM4EO Let's finish strong together—let's hit 8,200! Men's Fellowship BreakfastJoin us on Wednesday, December 10, at 6:00 a.m. in the Fellowship Atrium for a great morning of food, fellowship, and encouragement. No sign-up is required—just bring your Bible and come ready to enjoy breakfast, connect with other men, and start your day with prayer and Biblical insight. Questions? Contact Michael at mharrison@fellowshipconway.org.

The Ringmaster and Producer Aaron are on their Thanksgiving break so our special guest for today is Kelly Nash. Kelly breaks down Transportation Secretary, Sean Duffy's comments about not wearing PJs at the airport. Senator Mark Kelly seems to act tough while being part of the sedition video, but should he be concerned. Eric Swalwell has thrown his bid for the California governorship, adding more trash to the heap fire of candidates in California. Plus, the View still spews hate, MSNOW claims to be fair and balanced, and no autopen to pardon the turkeys this year.

Continue in The Gospel(2 Timothy 3:1-17)For the bulletin in PDF form, click here. Message SlidesThe Uniqueness of Scripture - LeifeldDepravity on Parade - SwindollHow to Respond to Evil - Swindoll2 Timothy 3 - Bill MounceInterpretation - J. I. PackerMaking a Difference (Bible Study Methods) - SwindollThe Origin and Purpose of Scripture - John StottYou, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. (3:14-15) NASBThe Nature of the Last Days (3:1-9)Some have always been and will always be unresponsiveto the work of God-Run Away!False Teachers (3:1-5)Easy Victims (3:6-7)Clear Folly (3:8-9)The Power of God's Word (3:10-17)Paul's Example of Faithfulness (3:10-13)Timothy's Commission to be Faithful (3:14-15)The Inspiration & Value of Scripture Explained (3:16-17)Stay anchored in Scripture because it is foundational and transformative.Nature: God-breathed & ProfitableFunction: Belief & Behavior+ Teaching: Positive related to Belief  - Reproof: Negative related to Behavior - Correction: Negative related to Belief+ Training: Positive related to BehaviorResult: Character & Service= Adequate: Character (aptioc)= Equipped: Service (éEaptizw)God designed the church to have the God-breathed Word of God to shape our lives in both belief and behavior producing character and service-so that we will be a powerful witness in the last days.Home Church QuestionsThe Nature of the Last Days (3:1-9)Paul says the "last days" will be marked by people who "hold to a form of godliness but deny its power." What does this look like in You?How can we recognize this in ourselves before it takes root? How could living in real community prevent this.The Power of God's Word (3:10-17)Who has modeled faithful endurance in your life?What specific qualities make someone's example worth following?What might persecution look like in our Conway Arkansas today?Timothy's Commission to be Faithful (3:14-15)What spiritual habits have you learned that you need to continue in?In what ways can you pass a heritage of faith to the next generation?The Inspiration and Value of Scripture (3:16-17)What does it mean that Scripture is "God-breathed"? How does this conviction shape the way we read, trust, and apply the Bible?The passage outlines Scripture's four functions: teaching, reproof, correction, and training. Which of these do you most welcome in your life—and which do you resist? Why?In what ways do belief and behavior work together to make us powerful witnesses for Christ?Pray for the Unreached: The Ath Pahariya in Nepal In the hills of eastern Nepal, the Ath Pahariya people blend Hindu, Buddhist, and spirit worship traditions--strongholds that keep them from knowing the one true God. Dependent on farming and steeped in ritual, they live with deep spiritual need but little access to the gospel. Pray that God would send workers to share His truth, that the Ath Pahariya would turn from empty religion, and that a new movementFinancesWeekly Budget 34,615Giving For 11/09 50,812Giving For 11/16 24,985YTD Budget 692,308Giving 643,272 OVER/(UNDER) (49,036) Turn In Your Gospel Opportunities Today!What an amazing Collection Week we've had at Fellowship—thousands of shoeboxes have already been received and are ready to go on their way to children across the globe! If you haven't brought your boxes in yet, there's still time. Drop them off today between 1:00 and 6:00 PM. Remember, every single shoebox represents a child who will hear the hope-filled message of the Gospel—many for the very first time. Your generosity doesn't just send gifts; it shares the love of Jesus with a child and their family. We can't wait to celebrate all that God has done through our church! Join us on December 14 during both services as we reveal the final number of shoeboxes collected.New to Fellowship?We are so glad that you chose to worship with our Fellowship Family this morning. If you are joining us for the first time or have been checking us out for a few weeks, we are excited you are here and would love to meet you. Please fill out the “Connect Card” and bring it to the Connection Center in the Atrium, we would love to say “hi” and give you a gift. Fellowship Kids Parents' Night OutParents, this night is for you! Drop off your kids for an evening full of fun while you enjoy some time to yourselves. Feed your kiddos dinner, dress them in their favorite pajamas, and bring them over! We'll play games, make Christmas crafts, enjoy a snack, and watch a movie together.​ Register by November 24 at fellowshipconway.org/register. Fellowship Women's Potluck and P.J.'sLadies, grab your cozy PJs, a dish to share, and join us for a fun night together on Thursday, December 4th, from 6–8 p.m. at 11 Skyland Dr. (home of Amy McKissack). Come with a friend or make a new one — it's going to be a relaxed evening of food, laughter, and great company! Join a Home ChurchHome Church small groups are about building a deep community where we are transformed into the image of Christ and serve a broken world for the sake of the gospel. If you are not in a Home Church, we encourage you go to fellowshipconway.org/homechurch or stop by the Connection table in the Atrium. Men's Discussion GroupMen's Discussion Group is tackling C.S. Lewis' The Great Divorce starting Thursday, December 4th from 6-8pm. Through fable and allegory, Lewis dreams he's on a bus between Hell and Heaven—a wild setup for compelling conversations. All men are welcome. Widows' Christmas Party Luncheon - Thursday, December 11th Join us for a special time of food, friendship, and Christmas fun! We'll gather at Ambra's home (3680 Gresham Dr) to enjoy lunch and celebrate the season together. Please RSVP by Monday, December 1 to: Judy: (501) 329-3535 or Ambra: (501) 730-6795. Fellowship Women's Hebrews Bible StudyThis February, join us for Jesus Is Greater—an eight-week Bible study through the book of Hebrews created to deepen your faith, renew your hope, and connect you with other women pursuing Jesus. Led by Rebecca Carter and Heather Harrison, we'll meet on Tuesday nights at 6:30 p.m., beginning February 3rd at Fellowship. Free childcare is available - to reserve a spot, simply text Shanna at 501-336-0332 by January 28th. Come discover—or rediscover—the truth that Jesus truly is greater: greater than your stress, your schedule, your fears, and anything else vying for your heart. We'd love for you to be part of it. Register by clicking here.

This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, one of HeHe's all-time favorite ways to stay cozy during pregnancy and postpartum. Their ultra-soft PJs, loungewear, and sheets make those long nights and lazy days feel a little more luxurious — and they're a simple way to detox your home while you're at it! Through November, you can use code HEHE to stack up to 40% off holiday sale prices on anything from dreamy PJs to new sheets: https://cozyearth.com/ In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe sits down with nutrition guru Lily Nichols to cut through the noise around gestational diabetes (GD) and give parents tools that actually work. They compare the old-school GD advice with Lily's evidence-based approach from her books, focusing on keeping blood sugar steady without stress or guesswork. Lily dishes out the real deal on carbs, which ones matter, how much, and how to pair them for maximum impact, while busting myths about ketosis in pregnancy. She also shares clever, practical hacks like walking after meals, eating your veggies first (yes, first!), and tailoring your diet to what you actually need. They also tackle the nitty-gritty of continuous glucose monitoring (CGM) versus traditional glucose tests, all with a focus on personalized care. By the end, you'll have a playbook for nourishing your body, managing GD confidently, and skipping the panic… because informed choices and empowered parents are always in style. Black Friday is here, and it's your chance to snag $150 off your Lifetime Membership to The Birth Lounge — one of only two sales all year! This is your shot to get HeHe's full evidence-based birth system, handpicked Birth Box, advocacy scripts, partner prep, and all the tools you need to confidently navigate your birth, no unnecessary interventions, no guesswork, just you in control. Don't wait! The sale ends soon! Head to thebirthlounge.com/join and use code BF25 to claim your spot.   Guest Bio: Lily Nichols is a Registered Dietitian/Nutritionist, Certified Diabetes Educator, researcher, and author with a passion for evidence-based nutrition. Her work is known for being research-focused, thorough, and sensible. She is the founder of the Institute for Prenatal Nutrition®, co-founder of the Women's Health Nutrition Academy, and the author of three books: Real Food for Fertility (co-authored with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack), Real Food for Pregnancy, and Real Food for Gestational Diabetes. Lily's bestselling books have helped tens of thousands of mamas (and babies!), are used in university-level maternal nutrition and midwifery courses, and have even influenced prenatal nutrition policy internationally. She writes at https://lilynicholsrdn.com. INSTAGRAM: Connect with HeHe on IG  Connect with Lily on IG    BIRTH EDUCATION: Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!   Download The Birth Lounge App for birth & postpartum prep delivered straight to your phone!   LINKS MENTIONED: Connect with Lily:  https://lilynicholsrdn.com https://realfoodforgd.com/ Check out Lily's free video series on gestational diabetes here: https://realfoodforgd.com/free-stuff/   YOUTUBE LINKS: Connect with HeHe on YouTube.

It's a pajama party, besties! This week on Chins and Giggles, we're popping open the wine, slipping into our comfiest PJs, and getting very real (and very unhinged) about the holiday season. We're chatting all things festive stress-  including the Thanksgiving where we almost didn't have a turkey (the trauma lol), plus our nostalgic memories of 90's Black Friday when stepping into a store felt like entering a full-blown stampede. And let's be honest… holiday behavior today? Still chaotic. Still dramatic. Still giving “Ma'am, please chill” energy. It's cozy, girly, a little unhinged, and full of giggles. Grab your wine and tune in! This Episode of Chins and Giggles is Sponsored by:Macy's- Holiday Style with Macy's Personal Stylists. Shop in stores or on macys.comStella Rosa- Grab your bottle at StellaRosa.com or your local store. Must be 21+.Old Navy- Get into the holiday spirit and hit oldnavy.com to grab your look before it's gone!

He said her wearing PJs is why he is talking to other women! Plus DCS gives an update on their cat, tell us what a "super taster" is and talks Grammy nominations. 

Jadyn Hailey leans into cozy-girl winter: seasonal decor, feel-good rituals, holiday baking, warming drinks, thrifting tips, and a gentle reminder to feed your inner child. Pour a matcha or peppermint latte, put on your favorite PJs, and get actionable ideas to make this holiday season feel intentional, joyful, and wholly yours.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I do a coaching call with Joanna who has a 2-year-old and a 7-year-old. We cover how to make mindset shifts so you can better show up for your kids, as well as get into specifics around night weaning, bedtime battles, handling meltdowns, playful parenting and increasing our connection to our kids.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? Share it with them!We talk about:* 6:40 how to manage meltdowns* 9:00 Night weaning and bedtime challenges* 20:00 Emptying a full emotional backpack* 26:00 Kids who always want more attention* 28:00 Understanding blame and anger* 38:00 Games to play when a child is looking for more power* 44:00 How our mindset makes such a big difference when parenting* 47:30 Two keys to peaceful parenting!* 55:00 Playful approaches to bedtimeResources mentioned in this episode:* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* How to Help Our Little Ones Sleep with Kim Hawley * Episode 100: When Your Child Has a Preferred Parent (or Not) with Sarah and Corey * Episode 103: Playful Parenting with Lawrence Cohen * Playful Heart Parenting with Mia Wisinski: Episode 186 xx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in the spring for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. If it has been helpful or meaningful for you, your support would help us to continue to provide support for free, for you and for others.In addition to knowing you are supporting our mission to support parents and children, you get the podcast ad free and access to a monthly ‘ask me anything' session.Our sponsors:YOTO is a screen free audio book player that lets your kids listen to audiobooks, music, podcasts and more without screens, and without being connected to the internet. No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HERETranscript:Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's episode is a coaching episode. My guest is Joanna, mom of a 7-year-old and a 2-year-old. Joanna's 7-year-old is an intense child, and she wanted to know how to handle her big feelings and find more connection with her.She also had some specific challenges around bedtime, namely that her partner works shift work and is not home at bedtime. She still breastfeeds her 2-year-old to sleep, so is unavailable to her seven-year-old for a bit, and then has trouble getting her seven-year-old to bed without a fight. Joanna also shared how low she was on resources, and we had a great discussion about how that impacts her parenting and what she might do about it.Also, meltdowns—we talked about those too and how to respond. I know Joanne is not alone. One note: after we did the follow-up call, I realized I forgot to ask her about a few things. So she kindly recorded a couple of P.S.'s that I'll include. If you're curious, like I am, you'll be glad she gave us the latest updates.If you would like to come on the podcast and be coached by me, I am looking for a few parents who are interested. You can email me at sarah@sarahrosensweet.com.As always, please give us a five-star rating and a review on your favorite podcast app, and if you know another parent or caregiver that this would be helpful for, please screenshot it and send it to them. The best way to reach more families with peaceful parenting is through word of mouth, so we really appreciate any shares that you might be able to give us.Okay. Let's meet Joanna. Okay.Sarah: Hi Joanna. Welcome to the podcast.Joanna: Hi. Thanks for having me.Sarah: Tell me a little bit about yourself.Joanna: Sure. I live up in Ottawa, Canada, with my husband and my two kids. I'm a music therapist, so right now I'm working with babies. I teach Yoga with Baby and, um, a class called Sing and Sign at a local wellness center.Sarah: Nice. How old are—Joanna: Yes, I have a 7-year-old girl who we'll call Jay.Sarah: Okay.Joanna: And then a 2-year-old boy called JR.Sarah: JJ. Okay, perfect. Okay, so how can I support you today?Joanna: Yeah, so my daughter has always been, like, a bit of a tricky one. Um. She was born premature, so at 29 weeks. And no kind of lasting effects. But as she's gotten older, we've noticed, like, she's really struggled a lot with emotional regulation. Um, and she kind of gets stuck on certain behaviors. So I feel like we've done a lot to change our parenting, in part thanks to you and your podcast and all the material. Um, I did finally read, um, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids this past summer.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: And I feel like it also had a huge effect, just having, like, that bigger scope of understanding of, like, the peaceful parenting philosophy.Sarah: Uh-huh.Joanna: So I would say, like, even from where we were a few months ago, we've experienced tons of positive shifts with her.Sarah: Sweet.Joanna: Yeah, so we're already kind of well on our way, but there are certain behaviors that she has that still I find really perplexing. So I wondered if maybe we could go over a couple of them.Sarah: Sure. Yeah, no problem. For anyone—if, for anyone who doesn't know, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids is the book written by my mentor, who I trained with, Dr. Laura Markham. Um, and just for my own curiosity, what do you think? Because, you know, I always worry that people are—that they don't have the fully formed idea of peaceful parenting. And that—and I'm not saying you, because you've listened to the podcast so you probably have a deeper understanding—but some people are just getting their little snippets on Instagram reels, you know, and so it is hard to understand, like, the, the sort of the core reasons why we do the approach if you don't have that deeper understanding. And also, I'm working on a book right now, so hopefully soon you'll be able to say you read my book. But what did you—what do you feel like got fleshed out for you when you read that book?Joanna: I think she really breaks a lot of things down step by step, such as, like, what to do when your child is going through a meltdown.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: And that has always been an area—like, when my daughter gets to that point where she's, like, become really explosive and aggressive and she's just, like, in it and she's kind of unreachable at that moment—like, what to do step by step at that time. I think, like, that's been the most helpful because I've been able to really settle into my own parenting and just, like, really trust myself and anchor in at that point, which is exactly really what she needs and what was missing.Sarah: Yeah. Yeah.Joanna: So—Sarah: So I think, um—like I always say, focus on regulating yourself first. Like, when someone's having a meltdown, empathize.Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: Um, you know, it—yeah, it's—it can be hard because you often feel like you need to do something. And even though you're saying step by step, it's less about doing anything than just centering yourself, staying calm yourself, trying to get in touch with the compassion and empathy even if you're not—some pe—some parents say, “Oh, well, when I try to say anything, then my kid just screams more.” So sometimes it's just empathize—like, getting connected in your own heart to the empathy and compassion, even if you're not saying anything—and that, that does something.Joanna: Absolutely it does. Yeah.Sarah: Yeah.Joanna: Yeah, so that's all been really helpful. Now, in—in terms of emotional regulation, I do definitely think that that's the biggest piece.Sarah: Okay.Joanna: Uh, it's been the biggest piece for me and sort of, like, one of the big things that I wanted to talk to you about today is we are still really not getting sleep because my 2-year-old is not a good sleeper and has never been a good sleeper. And we've gone through periods where I'm like, okay, now he's only waking up, like, twice a night, and that feels manageable. Um, but he's kind of been back to waking up, like, three to six times a night again, which is so hard. And then my husband's very supportive; however, he works afternoons, so he's gone from about 3:00 PM to 1:00 AM, so he needs to be able to sleep until about eight, which means I'm up with my son between six and seven. My daughter gets up for school around 7:30, so that's, like, a tricky time of day because she's really quite grumpy in the morning. He's not—the toddler's really, like, kind of a totally different temperament. But, like, I'm tired after struggling with, like, night wakings all night. And then I'm with the kids from the time that she gets home from school, um, and then doing both bedtimes myself.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: Um, so there's a lot of time where, like, I am solo parenting, and I'm definitely, like, the preferred parent. Um, and both my kids really want me and need me at bedtime. So he is still nursing—like, I'm nursing to sleep and then nursing during the night. And I know that that's probably contributing a lot to all the night wakings. So, I guess my question is, like, I am at the point where I am ready to night-wean. I probably should have done it already, but—Sarah: Don't say “should have.” Like, it's—if you're not ready to make that change, like, in your heart, it's really torturous to try to—try to, like, not—so say you decide you want to night-wean, but you weren't really ready to do it. It would be so painful for you to deny your son nursing in the night if you were—if you didn't feel in your heart, like, “No, this is the right thing to do. I'm totally ready. I think he's ready.” So, so I think waiting until you're really, like, actually, yes, “I'm done with this,” is a smart thing. Yeah. So don't beat yourself up for not having done it already. But you're right, it probably does contribute to him waking up in the night.Joanna: Yeah. And, um, I do feel like I—I'm ready. I just—I'm not quite sure how to make that shift. So what generally happens is, like, we have some, like, virtual babysitting going on with my mom, where, like, when I nurse my son to sleep, which generally takes, like, between maybe 30 and 45 minutes, she'll, like, sit with her and do a workbook. So we'll have, like, a video chat, and then after—Sarah: Yeah, it's great.Joanna: So then after, um, I'm with her to get her ready for bed, and that oftentimes looks like a lot of, like, dragging heels on, like, “Oh, I want another snack,” and “I wanna, like, brush my teeth,” and “Whatever—don't wanna brush my teeth.” So, um, then that ends up taking usually about an hour, but we both sort of have, like, this expiration at about 9:00 PM, where, like, she just gets so dysregulated because she's so tired.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: So if I don't have her in bed at that point and, like, already kind of with the lights out, there's often just, like, a meltdown and some—like, she'll start calling me names and start, like, you know, throwing stuff down at me and whatnot. And then I'm just really tired by that point too. Yeah. So we can kind of joke around about it now—like, nine o'clock is the time where we're, like, where we both expire. So I'm trying to figure out, like, how can I night-wean? Because I know that that is supposed to start with, like, him being able to fall asleep by himself at the beginning of the night, so—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: Slowly phasing that out and laying with him. I know it's gonna probably take a lot longer in the beginning, so I'm just a little worried that, like, maybe if it takes, like, an hour, an hour and a half, then all of a sudden she's kind of, like, left hanging and it's getting later and her bedtime's being pushed back.Sarah: Are there any—are there any nights that your partner is home at bedtime?Joanna: There's two—Sarah: nights that—Joanna: he—Sarah: is,Joanna: yeah.Sarah: Yeah. I mean, I guess I would start with those nights.Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: Yeah. Start with those nights. And—and when was your son's birthday? Like, like how—two—is he—Joanna: He just turned two, like, two weeks ago.Sarah: Okay. So, I mean, I think I would start with trying to just practice, you know, nursing him and maybe nursing him somewhere else and then bringing him back, you know, and then putting him in—are you co-sleeping?Joanna: Sleep—yeah. Well, I put him—like, I generally nurse him to sleep. He has a floor bed in his room, and then I go to bed in my own room, and then at his first wake, then I go back in, and I just stay there for the room—the rest of the night from that point.Sarah: Right, right. So I, I guess I would try just, like, nursing him and trying to, like, pat his back and sing to him and, you know, tell him that—that he can have—I, I mean, what we did was, “You can have milk in the morning,” you know, “You could have it when it's light.” I remember my oldest son—when he—it took him a couple of days—and if you wanna hear the whole story of my failed night-weaning with my second son, it was in a podcast that we did about infant and toddler sleep, uh, with Kim.Joanna: Yeah, Kim?Sarah: Yes. So you could listen to that if you haven't heard that already. But my second—my first son was super easy to night-wean, and a couple of—it was, like, a couple of nights of a little bit of crying, and he would just say, “Make it light, Mama. Make it light,” because he wanted—I said, “You can nurse when it's light.” But, you know, I, I, I don't wanna get into that whole big thing on this podcast because—mm-hmm—just because I've already talked about it. But if you wanna listen to that, and if you have any questions when we do our follow-up, you can, uh, you can ask me. But, you know, I would just try, you know, talking to him about, then, you know, “You can have Milky in the morning,” or whatever you call it, and, you know, those two—see how it goes for those two nights where your partner's around. And if it doesn't—I would say, if it still seems really hard, maybe just waiting to do it until—I don't know if you have any other support you could enlist. You mentioned your mother—maybe she could come and visit, you know, because I do think it would be hard to try and do this and do the solo bedtimes for a while. So I don't know if there's a time when your mom could come visit or if there's some other support that you could have. But yeah—Joanna: I think the tricky part with that is that, like, she—even with my husband—like, she doesn't want him to put her to bed.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: And depending on the kind of night that she's having, sometimes she'll end up, like, screaming, and their bedrooms are right beside each other. So we've had it before where, like, she'll start having a meltdown and, like, wake him up, and then he's not able to fall asleep either. And then we—Sarah: There's also—your husband could be with your son.Joanna: It's the same—same situation though. Like, he doesn't—him—Sarah: It sounds—it sounds like possibly—I mean, there—kids do have preferred parents even when, um, they do have good connection with the—with the other parent. And you could maybe still work—have some—that be something that you're working on, having your partner, you know, maybe even practicing having—before you start doing the night-weaning—practicing having your partner doing some of the bedtime stuff. When you are—when, you know, when—before you're starting to make a change so that your son doesn't associate, you know, “I'm not getting what I want,” and my dad, you know, putting me to sleep.Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: So I would maybe try to get your partner a little bit more involved in bedtime before making a change. And—and even if there's some crying—we also have a podcast about preferred parents that you could listen to. So I—you know, I think maybe you do have a little bit of pre-work to do before you start doing the night-weaning, and, in terms of when—how can you get support at bedtime?Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: Okay.Joanna: I mean, the other option is if you just kick it down the road more and—or, you know, there isn't—there's actually a third option now that I think about it—it's that you still nurse him to sleep but then don't nurse him when you wake him up—when he wakes up in the night. Get him to go back to sleep without that.Sarah: I hadn't thought about that, because I think that everything that I've heard has been, like, they have to fall asleep on their own because then they're always gonna be—Joanna: looking—Sarah: for—Joanna: Yeah. Yeah.Sarah: But I mean, you could still try it.Joanna: Hmm. Okay.Sarah: Or you could try shortening the—you know, give him a little bit of milk and then see if he'll go to sleep, um, after he has a little bit, but without nursing to sleep.Joanna: Okay. Yeah. Okay, I'll give that some thought and try some different things there.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: Okay. Thank you. But yeah, I feel like just starting to get sleep again is pretty important. So, even in terms of, like, being able to center myself to handle all of the things that goes on with my daughter during the day, that feels like a really important piece right now.Sarah: For sure. And if she's—if she's some nights not going—it sounds like quite frequently maybe she's not asleep before nine.Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: And what time does she wake up?Joanna: 7:30.Sarah: 7:30. So do you think she's getting enough sleep?Joanna: Probably not. She's really lethargic in the morning.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: But I can't really seem to figure out how to be able to get her to sleep. Like, I did talk to her about it, and she was like, “Well, maybe when I turn eight, like, I can start putting myself to bed.” And I was like, “Okay, well what—what would that look like?” And she kind of went through, like, “Okay, I'll, you know, I'll brush my teeth on the phone with Grandma, and then I'll just, like, read in bed.” And—but this is, like, in a moment where she's feeling very regulated.Sarah: Right, right, right. And when's her birthday?Joanna: Uh, in about two months.Sarah: Okay. Yeah. Um, have you had a conversation with her about how neither of you likes the fighting at night? And, you know—and does she have any, like—not in the moment, but does she have any ideas of, you know, how you can solve the problem of her not, you know, not wanting to go to bed and then getting too tired and then getting really cranky?Joanna: Yeah, we have—we have talked about it, and we can talk about it with, like, a little bit more levity now, but I don't think that she's actually—we've gone to, like, the problem-solving—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: of that.Sarah: I mean, that might be a helpful conversation to have with her and just say, “You know, I've been thinking about what often happens at night, you know, and I totally get it, that you don't wanna go to bed. Like, you know, when I was a kid, I never wanted to go to bed, and I would've stayed up all night if I could. And I'm sure you're the same because it's just—you know, when you're young, going to bed is, like, you know, not any fun at all.” And you can make—you could even make a joke, like, “When you're old like me, like, you can't wait to go to bed.” But of course when you're young, you don't wanna go to sleep, and I totally get that. So, like, lots of empathy and acknowledging, like, her perspective. And—and then you could say, “And at the same time, you know, you do—you know, why do you think it's important to sleep?” So I guess you could have that conversation with her too about, like, you know, what happens when we're sleeping that—your, you know, you could talk about how your cells, like, fix themselves. Also we grow when we're sleeping—like, we get the—like, the growth hormone gets secreted, and that's the—if we don't get enough sleep, we're not gonna grow and we're not gonna feel happy the next day. So you can, like, talk to her about the importance of sleep. And then you could say, like, “So, you know, I know you don't wanna go to sleep, and I know how important it is, and now you do too. And, you know—and I hate fighting with you at bedtime. You know, do you have any ideas for how we can solve this problem? Because I really want us both to go to bed feeling happy and connected.”Joanna: Yeah. Yeah, that's a great suggestion. Thank you. I think the biggest barrier to her getting to bed on time is she is finally feeling, like, a bit more calm and relaxed at night. Like, she comes home after school with a lot—she's holding a lot from school. They have, like, a point system for good behavior at school.Sarah: Oh.Joanna: And you should see how she racks up the points. She has great behavior at school. The teacher's, like—would never believe what goes on at home.Sarah: Of course, yeah.Joanna: So then she comes home, and it's, like, a lot of unloading. So I feel like by that time of night she's, like, ready to pursue her hobbies. Like, she's like, “Oh, I just wanna do this one more little”—you know, she's drawing something, and it's always like, “I just need to finish this,” because once she gets started on something, she can't seem to break her focus on—We're very much suspecting ADHD. That's gonna be probably in the next year we pursue a diagnosis, but—Sarah: Typically—do have a lot of trouble falling asleep—that's with ADHD. What about—you know, so two outta three of my kids had a lot of trouble falling asleep, and they're both my ADHD kids, and what really helped them was something to listen to at night. You know—Joanna: Yeah, she does listen to podcasts falling asleep—Sarah: Does listen to stuff.Joanna: Yeah, she's always listened—listened to, like, a story falling asleep. I think part of it too is we don't get a lot of one-on-one time throughout the day.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: Because my son's around in the morning.Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: And it's usually just the three of us until my husband wakes up, which is shortly before she goes to school. And then it's again the three of us from after school till bedtime most days, except for the two days a week that he's off.Sarah: Well, I mean, that's something to explore too, like, in—are there, you know—I don't know if you live in a neighborhood that has some, like, tweens that could come over and play with your son for an hour—you know, just someone really fun that he would like to play with—and then you and your daughter could have some time together. Because what I was gonna say when you said that she comes home with what we call the “full backpack” in Peaceful Parenting—which is, she's been carrying around, for anyone who's listening who doesn't know what that is, it's a concept that my mentor, Dr. Laura, came up with—where you're holding on to all of the stresses, big feelings, tensions from the day, and then when you come home, it's too much to, you know, to keep holding onto it. And so that's what you were just referring to, is just that she's got a lot to unpack after the day at school. And so I'm wondering—so when you mentioned that, I was gonna say, like, what could you do to try to proactively get some of that emptied out? Couple of ideas: do you do any roughhousing with her?Joanna: We actually just started doing that, and I couldn't believe how much she was into it. Yeah, I was super surprised. But I also think that it's taken just a lot of, like, repair with our relationship to get to the point that I've even been able to try some of this stuff. Like, because at first, like, when I first started hearing about some of these, like, peaceful—I, I don't know if you'd call them techniques—but, like, being playful and, um, roughhousing and things like that—she was so not open to anything at all because she was just so serious and so edgy and like, “Get away from me,” like, so irritable. So now I think that we've just—I've poured a lot of time in on weekends just to, like, spend time together that's enjoyable, and I'm noticing a huge shift. So now we are able to do some of these things, and it—it is turning out more positively.Sarah: Good. I mean, as you're speaking, I'm thinking that it sounds like there was maybe, um, quite a—a breach when your son was born, like, the last two years. Or, or do you feel like your relationship has always been a little strained even before that?Joanna: I feel like maybe it's always been a little fraught. I don't know if his birth had, like, a huge impact on that. Um, it has always been pretty strained.Sarah: Okay, okay.Joanna: Just because she's the more challenging kid?Sarah: I think so. And, you know, when she was two there was the pandemic. I think, like, I was carrying a lot of trauma after the whole NICU experience with her. And then we had the pandemic, and then we moved, and then I got pregnant, and then I had my son. So it's like there's sort of been these, like, things along the way where—yeah, I don't know.Sarah: Yeah. Okay. Well, I mean, that's good that you brought that up because I think that, you know, maybe that's gonna be the pre-work—that even before bedtime starts to feel better is really working on—you know, if you can get some support in, because it is really hard to have one-on-one time with a 2-year-old who probably doesn't wanna leave you alone. But even if—you know, continue with your sort of bulking up on the weekends with that time with her and do some, like, roughhousing and special time with her. Do you guys do special time?Joanna: Yeah. And that's something I wanted to talk about because special time has been sort of a big fail when I call it special time and when we set a timer for special time, because it really tends to dysregulate her, I think, because she's like, “Oh my God, I only have you for 15 minutes.” Mm-hmm. She gets really stressed out, and then she's like—oftentimes she likes to do these, like, elaborate pretend plays—things which need, like, a lot, a lot of setup time. Yeah. So she'll be like, “Pause the timer so I can set this up,” and then it just becomes, like, more tension between us. Like, it's not enjoyable.Sarah: It's one of those things where, like, you really have to adjust it to how it works for your particular family. Um, so, you know, maybe you just have, like, a couple hours with her on the weekend and you're—and it would be good for your—your partner and your son too. Maybe he could take him to the park or go and—you know, for them to work on their connection, which might make him a little bit more willing to go to bed with his dad, you know, on the nights that your partner is home. So, you know, I would really work on that connection with her and do those pretend play things with her. And even—you know, and this is maybe obvious, which is why I didn't say it before—but, you know, partly she's dragging her heels because that's the only time she has you to herself—at bedtime, right?Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: And so she doesn't want that to end because that's the only time that it—her brother's asleep—she has you all to herself. So if you can increase the time where she has you all to herself, she might be more willing to, um, to go to bed. Yeah. The other thing I was gonna say is, do you have anything that you do together at bedtime that would be, like—it sounds like she's dragging her heels to actually get in bed. Is there anything that you can do to entice her to get in bed, like a chapter book that you're reading her, that you read a chapter every night or something like that?Joanna: Yeah, and that has worked in the past, but it can—it can also kind of cause tension because I find, like, then I am a lot more apt to kind of hold it as, like, a bargaining chip instead of, like, “Oh, let's get to that.” Right. But lately we've been playing cards, and she's really motivated to, like, play a game of cards when we're in bed. So that seems to be working right now, but it's always kind of like—it changes all the time.Sarah: Right, right. Well, just keeping—thinking of something that you can use to make getting in bed seem more attractive? Um, maybe—I mean, my kids used to love hearing stories about me when I was little or about them when they were little. So it could even just be, like, a talk time. I know Corey, who works with me, does—she started doing a 10-minute talk time with one of her sons, who's a little bit older than—than your daughter, but where they just have, you know, this time where they just get in bed and he tells her stuff and they—they talk. So that could be something too—just really pure, straight-up connection.Joanna: Yeah. Okay, I like that. Maybe I can just ask you a couple more things about some of the things I—She's kind of a person that really wants constant connection too. Like, it does feel like I could spend, like, all day with her, and then she—once it's over, she would still be like, “Well, why are we not still—” like, it—we've always kind of—my husband and I will joke that she's got, like, a leaky cup because it's, like, “Just fill up their cup,” but it doesn't seem to matter. He used to play with her for, like, two to three hours when she was younger, and then at the end she would just, like, not be satisfied. Like, it didn't seem like anything was going to, like, fill her cup.Sarah: And that—you know what, there are kids like that. I remember I had this client once whose son actually said to her, “Mama, all the—all the hours in the world are not enough time with you.” And there are some kids that are really just like that. And, you know, I'm not sure how you respond when she says, like, you know, “But we hardly even got to play,” after you play for three hours. I mean, that playful—like, “Oh my gosh, like, what if we could just play all day?” You know, either, like, playful response of, like, “We could play for 27 hours,” you know, “and—and—and we would still have so much fun together.” Or just pure empathy, you know, like, “Oh no, it just feels like it's never enough time, is it?”Joanna: And it almost seems like sometimes when I am empathetic, it almost, like, fuels her anger. I don't know if you've ever heard that before from anybody else, but—eh, I don't know. Like, we had a situation with—like, she was looking for a specific bear last weekend—a teddy bear that she's missing—because she wanted to bring it to a teddy bear picnic. And so we were sort of, like, you know, we had to get out the door to go to this party. She couldn't find this bear, and I was, like, you know, offering a lot of empathy, and just, like—the more that I was like, “I know, like, you're so frustrated; you're so disappointed that you can't find your bear,” it was like the more that she was like, “Yeah, and you took it, you hid it, you put it somewhere.” Like, it just—the more empathy I gave, it seemed like the more that she was using it as almost, like, fuel to be upset. Does that make sense? Right.Sarah: Yeah. No, that's pretty common. And the thing is, you have to remember that blame is trying to offload difficult feelings. It's like, “I don't wanna feel this way, so I'm gonna blame you.” And then—you know, it's anger—have you ever seen the image of the anger iceberg?Joanna: Yes.Sarah: Yeah. So the anger iceberg is, like, the anger is the only thing you see coming out of the water. But underneath the iceberg are all of the more tender feelings, right? And anger is actually a secondary emotion. So you don't start out by feeling angry. You feel—like, like for her, she maybe was feeling frustrated and disappointed that she couldn't find her bear. And those are the first feelings. But those more tender feelings are harder to feel, and so anger is often protective. And the tender feelings also set off that—you know, that overwhelm of our emotions registers as a threat to the nervous system, which sets off that fight, flight, or freeze. So there's all those things going on, right? Like, the blame of, like, trying to offload the feelings; the anger of feeling like it's easier to go on the offensive than to feel those tender feelings; and then the nervous system getting set off by that overwhelm that registers as a threat, right? It sets off the fight, flight, or freeze. And they're—they're kind of all different ways of saying the same thing. And yes, empathy often will help a child—that they get more in touch with those feelings. And I'm not saying that you don't wanna empathize, um, but just recognize that, you know, the feelings are happening, and when you empathize, they—you know, you're welcoming the feelings, which sometimes can have that fight, flight, or freeze effect.Joanna: And would you recommend that I continue to really lean into empathy more and just stay with all of that emotion until it passes?Sarah: So—totally depends. The other thing I was gonna say is it's possible—like the situation you just gave me—it's possible—like, how—were you actually feeling empathetic, or were you trying to just get out the door?Joanna: I think I was, but at a certain point I was like, “I think, you know, we have two options from here. Like, we can continue to be upset about the bear and it—it will make us late for the party, or at a certain point we can move on and make a new plan,” and, like, “get our—make our way over there.” So, um, is that effective? Yeah, I—I mean, she eventually was able to change gears. But, I mean, it doesn't feel like real life to just be able to, like, sit in your negative emotions all the time. And I think, like, maybe I struggle with doing that for, like, a long enough period of time to actually let her—let them out.Sarah: Well, I don't know—yeah. So, I mean, there's a difference between welcoming feelings and wallowing in emo—in emotion, I think.Joanna: Yeah. And she definitely is a wallower, and she almost has really, like, attached so much sadness and frustration and anger to this bear. Like, now she'll just, like, think about the bear and be like, “Oh, I still can't find that bear.” Like, she was just, like, you know, exploding about it again this past weekend. So it almost feels like she's just latching onto it to, like, feel bad there.Sarah: I mean, some kids—she's probably not choosing to latch onto it to feel bad, but she probably just has. So, so what I was gonna say is sometimes when kids seem to be wallowing, it's just that there's so much there that they haven't been able to get out on a regular basis. So I think it is just like a full backpack, and there's just a lot there. And it's not—it's probably not just about the bear. It's probably just like she's—it's, you know, processing other older things too. And you don't have to know what's in the backpack or try and figure it out. But you might find that if you had more opportunities for her to process feelings, then she might not get so stuck when they do start to come out.That's one thing that I would think of. Like—and more laughter should help with that. Like, more laughter and roughhousing to help her sort of process stuff. And also sometimes—so the bear thing reminds me of—some kids will just feel bad, you know, like feel bad sometimes from, like, a full backpack, or maybe they don't even know what it is, they can't connect. Or maybe they're just tired and low-resourced and their brain is kind of like, “Why do I feel bad? Why do I feel bad?” And she's like, “Oh, the bear.” You know, she remembers, like, the bear. Like, I've had clients tell me, my kid will say, like, “I miss Grandpa,” who they never met, who died before they were born—like, just kind of casting around for, like, “Why could I be feeling this way right now? Oh, I know—it's 'cause I can't find that bear.”Or maybe the bear is so important to her that it really is—that she thinks about it and it just makes her feel bad. But I think what you wanna remember when it seems like she's wallowing is that, you know, getting—like, having empathy. And I actually also did a podcast about this too, with another coaching call, where I talked about, you know, cultivating a certain amount of nonchalance after you feel like you've been pretty empathetic and welcomed the feelings. Because I think if we're too empathetic sometimes—and I do wanna be very careful with this because I don't want anyone to take this as, like, “Don't be empathetic”—but, you know, there is a time where you just say, like, “You know what? I hear how upset you are about this, and I get it. And I would be really bummed if I couldn't find the bear I wanted also. And we have to decide, like, are we gonna stay here and just keep feeling sad about the bear, or should we figure out another plan?” Like what you said, right.Joanna: Yeah, I have heard you say that before, and that's been so helpful for her. Mm-hmm. It seems like if I'm not so reactive to her emotions, she realizes that they're not an emergency either.Sarah: Yeah, yeah. Yeah. I mean—and that's a good point too, because I didn't even ask you, like, how's your regulation when this is happening? Like, are you getting, like, annoyed, frustrated, upset for her, kind of drawn in? Are you able to, like, kind of center yourself and stay calm?Joanna: It varies. I would say I currently am the most resourced that I've ever been—good with, like, the emotional regulation piece. And then that—I see, like, sometimes she is able to come out of it more quickly, or it just depends on, you know, what her tolerance is at that—at that time. So—Sarah: Joanna, it might be that, you know, you're coming out of—almost like you're coming out of a fog of, you know—you said all the things: like the NICU experience, and then the—and then COVID, and then your new baby, and—and that it might be that you're really, finally for the first time, kind of getting to tend—you know, look at yourself, your own regulation, and be more present and connected with your daughter. And all these things are gonna start having a little bit of, um, of a snowball effect. And it may be that you've just had this, like, seven-year period of difficulty, you know?Joanna: Oh, that's horrifying.Sarah: Well, but the good news is it sounds like things are shifting.Joanna: Yeah. It really does feel like that. Yeah. You're—I feel like even if I talked to you a few months ago, I would've been like, “Oh, help me.”Sarah: Well—and that you're recognizing what you brought—what you bring to the table, and that, you know, things have been fraught with your daughter, and that you're sort of starting to come out. And—and honestly, also doing that—doing that bedtime—after-school bedtime by yourself five days a week, that's gonna be tough too. Uh, so you've got situ—just that current situation doesn't sound like it'll change, but you're changing what you're bringing to it.Joanna: Yeah. Yeah. Um, if I can maybe just ask you, like, one more little thing?Sarah: Sure.Joanna: Maybe this is—it all comes back to, like, wanting a lot of connection, but this is also what kind of drains my battery. She constantly wants to, like, talk to me or ask me questions from, like, the time that she wakes up to the time that she goes to bed. And it will be—like, currently it's, like, “Would you rather.” It's like, “Would you rather eat all the food in the world or never eat again?” Uh-huh. In the past it's been, like, “Guess what's in my mouth?” But then she always really tries to make it—make me wrong in the circumstance, if that makes sense. Like, I don't know if that's just her, like, looking for power or, like, the upper hand, or like—I don't know. I'm not sure what it is.Sarah: Well, I mean, if you feel—if you have a sense that she's looking for power, I would bring that into the roughhousing—where you are the one who's weak and bumbling and idiotic, and, you know, you're so slow, and she beats you every time at a race. So I would really try to bring some of that—some of that stuff into your roughhousing where she gets to be—Do you know the kind of stuff I'm talking about? Like, “I bet you can't—um, you know, I bet you can't beat me at arm wrestling,” and then, like, you know, you flop your arm over in a silly way, and like, “How are you so strong? Like, I'm gonna beat you next time.” And it's obviously playful, because probably you are stronger than she is at this point, but, you know—feats of strength or speed, or, you know, figuring things out, and you act like you really don't know anything. And—but in, of course, in a joking way, so she knows that you're not—you know, you're pretending to be all these things, but she still gets to gloat and, like, “Ha, you know, I'm the strongest, I'm the best.” So really giving her that in roughhousing.And then also, like, real power. Like, I don't know if she gets to make—what kinds of decisions she gets to make, or, you know, how much—how flexible you are on limits. Because sometimes, as parents, we do set unnecessary limits, which can make our kids, you know—make them look for power in other ways. So really looking at what limits you're setting and if they're necessary limits, and—and how you're setting them. Uh, and also I think it sounds like it's connection-seeking—like, she just wants you. You know, she wants to know that you're there and paying attention to her. And so everything else that you're doing—that we're talking about—that you're gonna try to do more—more time with her and get more one-on-one time with her, hopefully that will help too.And I think it is okay to say, like, after you've done, like, 25 “would you rathers,” I just say—like, I used to say to my kids, “You know what? My brain is just feeling really stimulated from so many words. Like, can we have some quiet for a few minutes?” And not—and being very careful to not phrase it like, “You're talking too much,” or “I don't wanna listen to—” and I'm exaggerating for effect—but just framing it as, like, your brain and a regulation thing—like, “My brain,” and it is words. Yeah. And so, like, “Do you—should we put some music on?” You know, “Can we—like, think of—can you connect in a way that—let's listen to a story.” Okay. Something like that where you still, like, keep up connection with her, but—and it might not work. She—she might not be able to stop talking, but you can try it at least.Joanna: No, that's a—that's a really good suggestion. Almost like replacing it with some other kind of stimulation if she's looking for that in that moment.Sarah: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. So I think—I think it's just—I think it's fair. Like, it's totally—I, at the end of the day, with people, like, talking at me all day, I sometimes am like—you know, when my kids were younger, I'd be like, “Okay, you know, I—I just need a little—my brain needs a little bit of a break. It's feeling overstimulated.” So I think just using that language with her.Joanna: Okay. Okay. Great. Thank you. Well—Sarah: Yeah, I think you're—you know, I think that I've—that we've connected at a point where you're, like, at—you're, like, at the—sort of the top of a mountain, you know? And you've been, like, having all this struggle and uphill battles. And I think you've put—before even we talk—you've put a lot of pieces [together] of what—you know, why some of the challenges were. And they do seem to be connection—you know, connection-based, just in terms of, um, you know, her wanting more and you not being as resourced. And so hopefully working on connection is gonna help with that too.Joanna: Yeah. I'm gonna keep that at top of mind.Sarah: And your self-regulation too. You said you're—you know, you've been having—you're more resourced now than you ever have been, so you're able to work on really staying, like, calm and compassionate in those times when she's dysregulated. Going back to what I said in the beginning, which is that, you know, the steps for the meltdowns really start with our own regulation.Joanna: And I find it's a snowball effect too, because once you start seeing positive changes, it allows you to, like, rest in knowing that things will not always be so hard.Sarah: Yeah. So it—Joanna: It gives you motivation to keep going, I think.Sarah: Totally. And, you know, with complex kids—which it sounds like your daughter is one of those more complex kids—um, brain maturity makes such a huge difference. Um, like, every month and every year as she's starting to get older. And, you know, you mentioned ADHD—that you—that you suspect that she might be ADHD. ADHD kids are often around three years behind, um, in terms of what you might expect for them in terms of, like, their brain development. And not—and not across the board. But in terms of, like, their regulation, in terms of what they can do for themselves, um, like in—you know, and obviously every kid is different. But it really helps to think about, um, your ADHD kids as sort of, uh, developmentally younger than they are. My—my girlfriend who has—her son and my daughter are the same age, so they're both just starting college or university this year. And, um, she was—I—she lives in California, and I was talking to her, and her son has ADHD, and she was talking about how much support he's still needing in first-year college and how she was feeling a little bit like, “Oh, I feel like I shouldn't be supporting him this much when he's 18.” And—and she said, “Actually, I just re—you know, I always remind myself of what you told me a long time ago: to think of him as three years younger than he is in some ways,” and that that's made her feel a little bit better about the scaffolding that she's having to give him.Joanna: Yeah, I've never heard that before. That's good. She's also gonna be starting to work with an OT in a couple of weeks, so we'll see if that has any effect as well.Sarah: Cool.Joanna: Cool.Sarah: Alright, well, I look forward to catching up with you in around maybe three weeks or a month and seeing how things went, and, um, good luck, and I hope this was helpful and gave you some things to work on.Joanna: Okay. Thank you so much.Sarah: Hi Joanna. Welcome back to the podcast.Joanna: Hi Sarah.Sarah: So—how has—it's been about—I think it's been about four weeks since we talked the first time. How have things been?Joanna: Yeah, things I think have been going a little better. Like, every day is a little bit different. We definitely have, like, a lot of ups and downs still, but I think overall we're just on a better trajectory now. Um, it's actually—I was wondering if things—if, like, the behavior has actually been better, or if it's more just, like, my frame of mind.Sarah: That is the classic question because—it's so funny, I'm—I'm laughing because so much of the time when I'm coaching parents, after a couple of sessions they'll say, “This isn't even about my kids. This is all about me.” Right.Joanna: Yeah, it really, really is and just continues to be about, like, my own—not just frame of mind, but, like, my own self-regulation. That's always the biggest thing.Sarah: Yeah.Joanna: Um, I think the biggest challenge is, like—ever since, like, about six months ago, I just have had really bad PMS. So I find, like, the week before—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: I just feel so irritated by everything.Sarah: Yeah.Joanna: So I feel like that's a really—just so much more of a challenging time because then things that normally don't bother me are bothering me a lot more.Sarah: Right.Joanna: And then it's harder to keep that connection strong.Sarah: Totally. Yeah. And you also—as we mentioned last time—you have come off of a whole bunch of different events of, you know—we talked your daughter's premature birth, and then COVID, and then the new baby. And the new baby—you know, you're not sleeping that much, and, um, all of those things would make it also have your resources be low. Like, not only the PMS, but, like, anything that puts a tax on us—on our resources—is gonna make us more irritable.Joanna: Totally. And—but I'm really trying to lean into having a lot more compassion for myself, because I know that when I do that, I can have a lot more compassion for her and, mm-hmm, whatever's going on that she's bringing to the table too. So that's—that's, I think, probably the biggest thing. But I think that our relationship is just starting to have a lot more resilience—like, when things do start to go sideways, either she or I—we're able to kind of get back on track a lot more quickly than before, and it doesn't become as, like, entrenched.Sarah: That's awesome. And we—we talked last time about trying to get some more time with her so that the only time that she has with you isn't just at bedtime when you're trying to get her to go to bed. Have you been able to do that, and has it—do you think that's been helping?Joanna: Yeah. It depends. Like, we had a really busy weekend this past weekend, so not as much. And then I find that sometimes, like, a barrier to that is, like, by the time the weekend finally comes, I'm so depleted and really just, like, needing time for myself. As much as I'm like, “Okay, I need to spend one-on-one time with her,” I'm like, “I don't want to—I just, like, be by myself for a little while.” So it's—Sarah: I hear that.Joanna: It's always that—like, yeah, it's always that balancing act. And then, like, feeling guilty of, like, “Okay, no, I know I should want to hang out with her,” and I kind of just don't really.Sarah: Mm-hmm. No, you're—you're totally not alone. And it's funny that you just—you mentioned self-compassion and then you said, “I feel guilty 'cause I—I don't wanna hang out with her,” but we all—the theme so far in this five minutes is that, um, you know, what you're bringing to the—what you're bringing to the relationship has been improving. Like you said, your mindset has shifted, and that's helping things with her. So even if you're not getting time independently with her—and hopefully you can work towards that after you fill your own cup—but you're still helping things with her by getting time to yourself.Joanna: True. Yeah, because then I'm coming back just a much better, happier—yes—parent and person.Sarah: Totally.Joanna: Oh, thank you. That's helpful.Sarah: Yeah, and the—and I think you've—you know, you've touched—just in these few minutes—you've touched on two big things that I always say: if you can't really take these two things to heart, it'll be really hard to be a successful peaceful parent. And one is what you said—the mindset shift, you know, of how you see her behavior with, you know, that children are doing the best they can. You know, they're not giving us a hard time; they're having a hard time. And the other one is self-compassion. So making strides in both of those areas will really help you be that parent that you wanna be.Joanna: Yeah. And even though we're maybe not getting huge chunks of time individually, I am really trying to make the most of, like, those little moments—Sarah: Good.Joanna: —of connection. Yeah. So even, like—what we've started doing is, because my husband's on night shift, he is waking up with her in the morning because she has a really hard time in the morning. So now he's sort of with her, getting her ready in the morning. And then I am—like, we used to all walk to the bus together because my son likes to go too. But now my husband's hanging back with my son, so now I'm just walking her to the bus. And even though it's five minutes, it's like we're holding hands. She's able to tell me—Sarah: Yeah.Joanna: —you know, talking about whatever.Sarah: That's still—that—that totally counts. That's—and that also, um, that also takes care of something we talked about last time too, which is your husband and your son having more time together, um, so that the nights that—when your husband is home—maybe he can put your son to bed and start trying to shift that dynamic. So yeah. That's amazing that you're doing—that. Yeah, I think that's a great shift—walking to her—to the bus by herself.Joanna: And I think it—it actually makes a huge difference. You know, before it was like she would just kind of get on the bus and not really look back, and now she's, like, giving me a hug and a kiss and waving—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: —waving in the window. So, like, I can see that it's having a positive effect right away.Sarah: You could even leave five minutes earlier than you have to and have—turn that five minutes into ten minutes.Joanna: I would love to do that. It's always just—like, it's really hard to get to the bus on time as it is. We will work toward that though.Sarah: I hear that. Well, if you did try to leave five minutes earlier then it might be more relaxed, even if you didn't even have any extra time, but you were just, like—leave, you know, change your whole morning back five minutes and try to get out five minutes early.Joanna: Yeah. Yeah. True. So I think that we had talked a lot about roughhousing last time too—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: —and I do find that that's—that's really—it works well for her, but I run into this really specific problem where when, uh, like, we start roughhousing, and then she's enjoying it, but then my son wants to get in the mix—Sarah: Mm-hmm.Joanna: —and then right away she's like, “No, like, get outta here.” So then she'll start kind of, like, pushing him or, like, throwing kicks or something. So—and then he gets upset because he's like, “Mom! Mom!” So then I end up sort of, like, pinned underneath both of them—Sarah: Right.Joanna: —they're mad at each other, hitting each other—Sarah: Oh no.Joanna: —they both want me.Sarah: Well, maybe—maybe don't do it then if that's how it ends up. But I do have a couple of shifts that might help before you give up on it when you're alone with them. One is, do you ever try to do those “two against you”? Like, start it out right from the get-go—“You two against Mommy. See if you can—see if you can—” Um, it's funny you just said you end up pinned down because that's what I often say. Like, “See if you can stop Mommy from getting up,” or “See if you can catch me,” or, you know, trying to align the two of them against you. That might help.Joanna: Yeah, I love that idea. Never thought about that. Yeah, I think she would love that.Sarah: Yeah. So, “Okay, you two are a team, and you have to try to stop me from jumping on the bed,” or “You know, you—you have to stop me from getting to the bed,” or, you know, something like that.Joanna: Okay, I'm gonna try that. I think that they'll love it.Sarah: Yeah. Another idea is, um, what I call “mental roughhousing,” where you're not doing, like, physical stuff, but you're being silly and, like, um—I think I mentioned her last time to you, but A Playful Heart Parenting—Mia—W—Walinski. She has a lot of great ideas on her Instagram—we'll link to that in the show notes—of, like, different, um, like, word things that you can do. When I say mental roughhousing, it's like getting everyone laughing without being physical.Joanna: Mm-hmm.Sarah: Uh, which—you know, the goal of roughhousing is to get everyone laughing, and sometimes being physical might not work. But you can—like, I'll give you an idea. This isn't from Mia, but this is something that I used to do with my kids. Like, you know, one of you—you're like—you say to JR, “Oh—where did your sister go?” And she's sitting right there. “She was just here a minute ago. Where did Jay go? I don't see her. What happened to her? She disappeared.” And meanwhile she's like, “I'm right here! I'm right here!” You know—something like that that's more of, like, a—more of a mental roughhousing.My kids and I used to play this game that actually my brother-in-law invented called Slam, where, like, you both say a word at the same time. Um, so, like—I'm just looking around my—like, you know, “curtain” and, you know, “lemonade.” Uh, and then it's like—you both say it—both—you both say your word at the same time. And that actually wasn't a very funny one—kids come up with much funnier ones than I do—but it's like, “Is that, like, a lemonade that is made out of curtains, or is it a—what—” It's such a dumb example now that I think of it, but—but—or is it, like, a curtain that hides the lemonade? And so you just try and—like, you think of silly things that the two words together—the two words “slam” together—mean.Joanna: Okay, great. That's—that's on my next book—that's on my next thing to read. You—man—you keep mentioning—what is it? Playful—Playful Heart Parenting? She has an—I—Sarah: There was a book—there was a book too. And—Joanna: Oh—Sarah: Playful Parenting—the Larry Cohen book.Joanna: The Larry Cohen book, yeah.Sarah: Yeah.Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: That's a great book. Yeah, and he was on my podcast too, so you could listen to that. We'll also link to—Mia was on my podcast, and Larry was—so we'll link to both of those in the show notes as well.Joanna: Okay, great. I may have listened to one of those, but—yeah. Okay. Yeah.Sarah: And Playful Parenting is really great for also talking—and, like, Mia is just straight up, like, how to be more playful in life and to, you know, make more joy in your family kind of thing. And Larry talks about how to be more playful to also support your child through transitions and through big emotions and different things—like, it's a—it's a little bit more, um, like, all-around parenting—Playful Parenting.Joanna: Okay.Sarah: But it is different.Joanna: Yeah. I used to have a really hard time getting the kids upstairs to start the bedtime routine. And now it's like—I'll be like, “Okay, I'm gonna hide first,” and, like, I go upstairs and hide and we start—Sarah: Oh, I love that.Joanna: —we play hide-and-seek, and—Sarah: Oh yeah, it was a stroke of genius one day, and it's been working so well just to get everyone, like, off the main floor and—Joanna: —upstairs.Sarah: I'm gonna totally steal that idea. That's such a good idea. Yeah, because you could also send them up—“Okay, go hide upstairs and I'll come and find you.” And then you could do a round of you hiding. And I love that. That's a great idea. Yeah.Joanna: And I especially love hide-and-seek for sometimes when I need, like, 30 seconds by myself in a dark closet—Sarah: —to, like, take a breath.Joanna: That's great.Sarah: I love it. I love it. Yeah, it's—that's so great.As I mentioned before, I forgot to ask Joanna for an update about a few things. So here's the update about breastfeeding her son in the night.Sarah: Okay.Joanna: Hi, Sarah. So, in terms of the night-weaning, um, I haven't gone ahead and done anything about that yet just because he does have his last molars coming in and has been sick. So I want to wait until he's well and pain-free to kind of give us our best chance at getting that off on the right foot. But I have really realized that because he's my last baby, that this is really the last little home stretch of being woken up by a baby at night—specifically to nurse. So that's helped me kind of reduce my feelings of resentment toward it.Sarah: I love that Joanna zoomed out and looked at the big picture and the fact that this is her last baby, and used that to sort of just change her mindset a little bit and make it a little bit easier to continue on with something when she knew it wasn't the right time to stop. And now here is her update about bedtime with her daughter. And for this, I love that she got preventive—you'll see what I mean—and also playful. Those are two really great things to look at when you're having any struggles with your kids: like, how can I prevent this from happening? And also, how can I be playful when it is happening and shift the mood?Joanna: And in terms of bedtime with my daughter, we've made a couple of schedule changes to set us off on a better foot once I get back together with her after putting my son to bed. So I think we used to have a lot of conflict because it was like she was still asking for another snack and then hadn't brushed her teeth, and then it was just kind of getting to be too late and I was getting short on patience. So now we have, like, a set snack time where everybody has a snack, and I let them know, like, “This is the last time that we're eating today,” and then we're going upstairs—using hide-and-seek, like I mentioned—and then just really continuing to be playful in all doing our bedtime tasks together.So, for example, I'm saying, like, “Okay, I'm gonna go into my room and put my pajamas on. Can you guys go get your PJs on—and then don't show me, but I have to guess what pajamas you have on?” So she really loves that because, like I mentioned, she loves to get me to guess things. But also she's then helping her brother get ready for bed, and he's far more cooperative with her than with me in terms of getting his pajamas on. So it all works really well.Yeah, and then just kind of continuing to be silly and playful is really helping with brushing teeth—it's like, “Who can make the silliest faces in the mirror?” and stuff. So, really kind of moving through all those tasks together so that by the time I'm out of the room and ready to put her to bed, everything's done, and we can just get into playing cards and then snuggling and chatting and—and leaving from there after maybe a five- or ten-minute snuggle. So there's been way fewer meltdowns at the end of the night because we are able to just not get in this place where we're getting into power struggles in the first place. It's just really all about, like, the love and connection at the end of the day.Sarah: The final thing I wanted to check in with you about is—you were asking about the meltdowns. You know, when Jay gets really upset and, you know, how to—um—how to manage those. Have you had any chances to practice what we talked about with that?Joanna: Yeah, she actually had a really, really big, long, extended meltdown yesterday, and, um, I just continue to not really feel like I'm ever supporting her in the way that she needs supporting. Like, I don't—I always end up feeling like I'm not—I'm not helping. I don't know. It's just a really, really hard situation.Sarah: I was just talking to a client yesterday who—who actually wanted to know about supporting her child through meltdowns, and I said, “Well, what would you want someone to do for you?” You know—just kind of be there. Be quiet. You know, offer a—you know, rub the—rub your back—rub her back. I mean, I don't know exactly what your child wants, but I think that's a good place to start if you feel like you're not being successful—like, “Well, what would I want if this was happening to me?”Joanna: And I think that really—that's enough, right? It's enough—Sarah: Oh, totally.Joanna: —to be there. And it always—maybe I'm just feeling like it's not enough because we don't really even get, like, a good resolution, or, like, even—eventually it just kind of subsides, right?Sarah: If you were having a meltdown, that's what would happen. Nobody can come in there and fix it for you.Joanna: Um, exactly.Sarah: Nobody can come in and say the magic words that's gonna make you not feel upset anymore. So it's really just about that—being there for somebody. And we're—it's not that the resolution is “I fixed their problems.”Joanna: Yeah.Sarah: The resolution is “I was there with them for the journey.”Joanna: Yeah. And it goes back to what you were saying, where it's like, “Oh, this work really is just about me.”Sarah: Yeah, totally.Joanna: And learning how to show up.Sarah: And not feeling anxious when your child is upset and you're like, “I don't know what to do,” and just think, “Okay, I just have to be

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