Coaching Through Cancer

This is a big week. Big in terms of events and emotion. In this context I am thrilled to feature this interview with Bobby Moss.  Bobby is an amazing human and I had the pleasure of connecting with him a few months ago to hear, learn and be edified by his journey of love, loss and life.  Like so many of us life changes permanently and profoundly.  I know you will be moved and inspired!    Also this is the week of Camp Widowed San Diego. Camp Widow® is a unique and incredible experience. This innovative program provides practical tools and research-informed resources for widowed persons rebuilding their lives in the aftermath of the death of a spouse or partner. Camp Widowed combines a conference format, an inspiring retreat, and a reunion with great friends. If you're planning on attended we'd love to meet you!https://www.instagram.com/coaching_u_through/We can find each other on Instagram.

This week's episode I talk about the importance of community and connection.  I have chosen with intention to be a part of different communities and share how they have added to my life and I'm told allowed me an add in positive way to others as well.  There's a perception that widowed persons are unhappy most of the time but as I continue my journey and share in the journey of others I have found that I am better than happy...hope you enjoy.

If everything around you seems dark, look again you may be the light. Is the quote that inspired this podcast.  It's easy and normal to fall into negative thinking. In fact your brain is wired to work that way.  It can be made worst by getting stuck in this pattern.  But I've recently been encouraged by moments when I've allowed myself to listen to others when they are struggling. I have discovered that sometimes this leads to a discover that I may in fact - in the midst of all my struggles - be light for someone else's darkness.  We  can't always access this capacity but when we can it comes with moments of healing and deep human connection. Enjoy.

You may have heard this phase and it can be confusing and frustrating...it was for me at first.  There's so much to discuss in this week's episode because it is a rich and complex topic.  It involves deeply held feelings and differing perspectives.  But I offer some touchstones for navigating this emotionally charged area.  I share my perspective and what I learned with you that helps me navigate my feelings and the feelings others in your life might have on love after loss.I hope you enjoy and if you do please like and share or maybe leave a review.  Thanks and Happy Holidays.

Today's episode talks about what to do when your "crystal ball" gets broken.  We through life feeling certain about our plans and our direction in life and when we loose or person uncertainty and fear come flooding in. It can leave us feeling paralyzed and stuck.  Today I offer some of what helped - still helps - me when I'm feeling stuck.  Also it really helps me to help more people if you take a moment to like, share or write a review.  

So with all the holiday meals it got me thinking about grief as an ingredient in life.  It has the unusual quality of making the sweet ingredients in life more bitter but also the bitter ingredients more sweet.  That's this week's podcast.In addition I'm so happy to back! I've taken a few weeks off.  This has been a season of grief like no other.  This time of year has always been tough but this year in particular I've been "pancaked" by losses that seem to come every 3 or 4 years on cycle that I wish would end.  The podcast and my coaching practice have been transformed/ reborn to focus on our journey as widowers.  So many good things to come and  I'm excited to share with you.

For today's episode I thought about two seemingly different painful experiences.  I look at the similarities in our responses and in how we can deal with each using some of the same tools.  

In a not to Pink Floyd today's episode is called another brick in the wall.  I walk through how we often deal with pain by putting up walls.  We think the walls protect us but in fact they isolate us when we most need to expose the pain we are going through.

This episode is about being in indecision.  We can get stuck here due to fear, lack of trust and their emotional cousin perfectionism. Not deciding is a decision in itself. I talk about how to move forward and why to move forward. Enjoy.

I don't really think hiking sucks but this weekend's hike proved to be a good metaphor for life.  I was reminded of how we view change and challenge in life.  It was funny, encouraging and enlightening.    Enjoy.

This week I'm talking about finding joy through discomfort.  Discomfort is a part of life and it's not going away so we might as well get good at feeling it. 

This week's episode is about find beauty in brokenness and healing through scars.  I find the art of Kintsugi to be a metaphor for this.  It is and art form where broken bowls, dishes, vases and other items are repaired in a very auspicious manner by fusing the pieces back with gold inlay.  The finish product is more beautiful and more valuable than the original piece.  If you can excuse my sniffles I hope you enjoy.

Today I want to make the case that boredom is not the problem we think it is and that if we can get better at being bored - we might get better at living life to it's fullest.Enjoy

This week my cat Joe caught a lizard and brought it into the house to show everyone. Nasty yes.  But what if I told you he did it for love and there's a lesson about coaching to not be missed.Enjoy.

Today's podcast is about being present.  If you have someone in your in your life who's fighting cancer I offer some practical guides and benefits of being present.As a bonus I put together a free guide that you can use to deepen you ability to experience and share the benefits of being present.

In this week's episode we talk about community and how important all forms of c community can be in the face of cancer.  in spite of the incredible strength and courage of the those we know with cancer it is also vital to have a community that you belong to..maybe as small as your family or a few friends or as large as organized support groups. I also daylight my desire to create a community for you should you chose to be a part of it.Enjoy.

This week's podcast is about my participation as a 1:1 mindset coach for Stacey Boehman's 200K Mastermind 3-Day live event Nashville.  It was amazing and inspiring.  I feel as if a shift occurred over the course of the event and while I can't quite "put a finger on" what that shift is or how it will ultimately look I want to share my process for figuring that out.I hope you enjoy.

This is perhaps my most personal podcast. Enjoy.

This week is a rant.  I normally publish on Mondays and it's Thursday. Yes I had thoughts about why bother. But then I had a very rough emotional experience this week and in both cases I put into practice the things that coaching has taught me and that I've taught others - but very distinctly different experiences and how I applied coaching to each. Warning this podcast is a rant. No script but that's kind of the point because sometimes life can be a rant with no script.

This week we talk about dealing with resistance.  What is it? Why do we experience resistance? Hint in most cases it's not helpful nor is it an indicator of what you should or should not be doing.  

This week we talk about the power of the word "and".  You're already using this powerful and transformational word in your life...but not to your best advantage.  In this episode we talk about how to do that. Enjoy

In this week's short episode we talk about the parable of the farmer.  Presented with a variety of situations that  on the face seem clearly good or clearly bad the farmer replies maybe.  In what may be our culture a frustratingly noncommittal approach is in fact a mindset that is born of self discipline, strength and trust. I hope you enjoy.

Today's episode is about acceptance and permission when dealing with cancer diagnosis.  It is an understatement that it is difficult to find and live from a place of joy, hope and gratitude but I want to offer that while cancer is full of ugly surprises we have to tricks up our sleeves as well. 

First pardon the wind noise. I recorded the podcast outdoors at a weekend retreat. Today's episode is about fight languages.  Most of us have heard of love languages but it my opinion we need more understanding of what our fight languages look like and how to manage them - like their counterpart love languages to really have successful relationships. Enjoy.

This week's episode concludes the series on reconnecting with life, love and purpose.  I felt it was important to discuss these topics individually and that it was fitting to have the interview with Mikey V before this last part.  Enjoy.

Today I am grateful to have Mikey V and a guest on today's podcast.  This is episode # 45 airing on Memorial Day and Mikey will share his inspirational story.  There was so much to talk about and this podcast only covers half of his incredible and heroic story so more to come on future podcast.  Enjoy.

This week is part 2 of Reconnecting with Life, Love and Purpose.  We talk about the necessity as you transition through your suffering and/or loss to focus on your own self care.  This may not be possible nor expected when we are in survival mode. But it is a necessary part of the process of beginning to heal and grow again.  I hope you enjoy.Next week we have our first guest, Mike,  who will be telling his unique and inspiring story - don't miss it.

In this weeks episode we continue with the program of helping widows and widowers reconnect with life, love and purpose.  We discuss what we mean in reconnecting with life and I'm excited to share that we may have our first guest share their story in an upcoming episode. Enjoy.

Hello today's episode is about reconnecting.  As I have continued in the changes in my self-concept so has this podcast.  In this episode I begin a series of discussions about reconnecting with life, love and purpose. 

If this episode I discuss how the focus of my coaching practice and my life have aligned.  I hear to help connect people to their life, to love and their purpose. I hope you enjoy.

Today's podcast is a reflection back on my decision to start a podcast.  It was in part a decision birth out of a desire to connect with people in my community and honor those in my family.  As I have explored my various identities as the spouse of someone with cancer, to life coach, to widower the podcast has changed with me as I explored those topics.  So this episode I look back and look forward to what's next. 

In this podcast I talk about some ways to get unstuck.  It was a challenge for me creatively to  create this podcast.  I hike on the weekends at that's typically a time when the creativity starts to flow but this week - blank.  So how do you get unstuck? Lets talk about it.

This week's podcast is about thinking better thoughts (Alternate Title: If a Tree Falls in the Woods does it Still Make a Sound). A lot of us default to negative thinking that drags our feelings down and we can't get out of that spiral.  Today I talk about how we can get control over all that negativity and make conscience and intentional choices about how we think and feel. It's about being aware and curious and doing the emotional work. Not just thinking happy thoughts that don't stick and don't offer lasting transformation . Hope you enjoy.

In this week's episode I talk about the shift in my perception when my deceased wife was diagnosed with cancer.  It was not immediate but when it crystalized it made all the difference moving forward. It gave me a sense of purpose and hope.  I hope it does the same for you.

In this weeks podcast I talk about my love of quotes for the concise wisdom they offer but also discuss how the shorthand they provide can do more harm than good. Enjoy.

Today's podcast is back to the basics - managing your mindset. This is a topic we will revisit from time to time because it's foundational to the practice of life coaching.  We talk about processing emotions as well - thoughts give birth to feelings so to truly address mindset we offer tips for both.  Enjoy. 

Thoughts we think over and over again are stories you tell yourself. These stories can have a powerful effect on us.  In this week's episode we talk about these stories and their impact.

Resistance is often talked about in positive terms and I think there are positive applications.  But are there situations were resistance is not the best response.  How can you create or break a habit without resistance.  That's. in todays episode - I hope you enjoy.

I'm a fan of Stoic philosophy and there's a lot of overlap with mindset coaching.  I this episode I talk about the Stoic principle of "Amor Fate" and we discuss how to love where you are in life.  Okay I hope you enjoy!

In this episode I talk about Fight Club.  I think we don't give ourselves enough credit for what we are capable of - both good and bad.  I think  we can bring out our worst selves when suppress our fears and avoid the difficult feelings that come with them. But when we face them and process the emotions that come with them we find the we a stronger and more capable than we ever knew.

We've all heard "Fake It Till You Make It". This quote is not as helpful as you think.  It implies that you're an imposter and that if no one finds out at some point in the future you might make it.  In this podcast I suggest some alternative thoughts that a.) I don't think you ever heard before and b.) are far more helpful. I hope you enjoy.

This week's episode is about a book recommended to me by one of my clients.  It's called The Expectation Effect:  How Your Mindset Can Change Your World  by David Robson.  The book delves into the science behind mindset and it's super interesting and I think profound. 

This week's episode is about feelings. I talk about the difference between feeling and emotion and processing an emotion.  Feeling is a reaction we all do it.  Processing is an intentional act and most of us don't do it or are not very good at it.  In this episode I want to help you get started or get better at processing your emotions with intention. 

This week's episode is about failure.  I offer a piece of my perspective on on failure and how to to deal with failure in a new way.  You often hear don't call it failure call it an opportunity but I suggest changing your relationship with the word and concept of failure.

In this podcast we discuss goals.  This is not a how to set and achieve your goals there's plenty of information on that elsewhere.  Instead I want to explore what's the point of setting a goal.   

Podcast is series of discussions, interviews, reflections and coaching for those of who have a partner with a cancer diagnosis. I'm here to walk you through the journey.  Give you a place to share, to vent, to support and be supported.

Podcast is series of discussions, interviews, reflections and coaching for those of who have a partner with a cancer diagnosis. I'm here to walk you through the journey.  Give you a place to share, to vent, to support and be supported.

Podcast is series of discussions, interviews, reflections and coaching for those of who have a partner with a cancer diagnosis. I'm here to walk you through the journey.  Give you a place to share, to vent, to support and be supported.

Podcast is series of discussions, interviews, reflections and coaching for those of who have a partner with a cancer diagnosis. I'm here to walk you through the journey.  Give you a place to share, to vent, to support and be supported.

Podcast is series of discussions, interviews, reflections and coaching for those of who have a partner with a cancer diagnosis. I'm here to walk you through the journey.  Give you a place to share, to vent, to support and be supported.

Podcast is series of discussions, interviews, reflections and coaching for those of who have a partner with a cancer diagnosis. I'm here to walk you through the journey.  Give you a place to share, to vent, to support and be supported.