Domestic Abuse:The Cutting Edge

A returning guest ,Zoe Dronfield , speaks to us about her journey of penning her lived experience of Domestic abuse in her book"Mind over Manipulators" , Family Court  atrocities and a vital piece of work she is working on to help other victim/survivors recover and healIf you find need support please call :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge Much love and light Maz 

 https://gofund.me/eaf6aafdToday I speak with Joy Lange , the Director of St.Anne's Home , shelter for destitute ,abused and disadvantaged mother's and children where care and empowerment is in abundance . St.Anne's home is motivated by the principle empowerment and they do their best to enable distressed and disadvantaged women and their children to find relief , support and a chance to become independent, confident and self-sufficient. Here is a YouTube link for St.Anne's home:https://youtube.be/Qt57CTWjNNIhttps://www.stanneshomes.org.za/I have set-up a GoFundMe account to help raised funds to keep their doors open . Please if you are able to donate ,(even as little as a £2 ,which is less than a cup of coffee ), then click on the link below and donate today because the best gift you can give a child from an abusive home is a healed ,empowered mother .  https://gofund.me/eaf6aafdNATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Alissa is my special guest on this first episode of Season 2 as promised . Alissa is a trans-women who has just recently come out , she is 25 years old . A child and adult victim/survivor of domestic abuse . Alissa is from Belgium but lives in Austria. Her heartbreaking struggles with childhood domestic abuse stretching far into her adulthood along with her gender struggles from a very young age is a double-sworded traumatic lived experience and she has been most courageous to share her story with us . NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE   0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge ALISSA'S VIDEO LINKS :Hi Maz,Here are the links, this was obviously from before I even thought of transitioning:part 1: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3698159426890102/part 2: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3700041150035263/part 3: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3702943436411701/part 4: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3705709152801796/part 5: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3707979535908091/part 6: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3710356615670383/part 7: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3712854765420568/Best Regards,Alissa

IT IS THE END OF SEASON 1- A final letter to Dear JohnNATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeKEEP A WATCH OUT FOR SEASON 2 COMING SOON Much love and lightMAZ

TO THIS DAY EVERYTHING ABOUT ME HAS CHANGE AND TO THIS DAY NOTHING HAS CHANGED ABOUT JOHN. MY JOURNEY OF RECOVERY FROM THE ABUSE HAS BEEN PROFOUND IN EVERY WAY.NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode be a taster of what I hold in store for Season 2 of my podcast . Come back and listen next week .A NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE  EVERYMONDAY  

My sincere regrets that I did not have an episode uploaded last week Monday . I had a very distressful undesirable circumstance befall me just over a week ago but I refused to accept it as my final reality .Now I am back on my feet and on my journey ,so thank you for your patience .It really is worth the wait as I have a shocking interview for this episode but also a very inspiring story of overcoming childhood abuse. My guest for today Jacklena Bentley all the way from Canada  . Jacklena is the author of her autobiography PART TRUTHS where she narrates her devastating and shocking lived experience of Domestic Child Abuse . Jacklena has appeared on the "Shadoe  Davis "Podcast were she talks about her very traumatic and horrific lived experience of domestic child abuse perpetrated by her mother , brother and uncle . Jacklena is a remarkable woman who survived her childhood abuse and trauma and talks to me about it and how she survived and reclaimed her life . NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE UK0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk CANADIAN NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE :toll-free  1 800 363-9010 /1-800-563-0808You can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode  will feature Maz the survivor vs John the unchanged. Maz and John then and now  A NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

Trauma bonding is as dangerous as the abuse itself and its another super-power for the abuser to use to remain in control of the relationship. We all need to recognise this if we are to ever get anywhere near to eradicating domestic abuse.  NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode  will feature another guest speaker , Jacklena Bentley from Canada , a victim of domestic child abuse and sexual abuse in her home as a child . Jacklena has written her autobiography called Part Truths . so tune in next week for this very heartbreaking shocking lived experience of child abuse   THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

Recognising the red flags , some are very obvious and others far more subtle but equally dangerous signs. NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode will tackle the most powerful glue that prevent severing an abusive relationship – Trauma bonds . What is trauma bonding and why is it so detrimental?THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

THE TERM CODEPENDENCY: what is codependency by definition , what are the causes of it and what are the signs of codependency and how my codependency play a huge role in becoming a victim of domestic abuse . Well worth the listen.NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode episode will talk about RED FLAGS , what are the red flags and how to spot them .THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

Dear ListenersI do apologise for not having an episode for Monday gone. I completed a half marathon on Sunday for a Domestic Abuse Helpline  fundraising. I unfortunately suffered from severe sunstroke after the marathon and was bedridden for two days . I am up and ready to restart  Much love and light MazToday's guest speaker is Anon , he is a male victim of domestic abuse . It is important that we remain mindful and acknowledge that domestic violence is not exclusively abuse against women only. That  there are male victims and  female perpetrators of domestic abuse in heterosexual relationships , male and female perpetrators in LGBTQ+ relationships. I am pleased to have Anon gives us his perspective a a male victim of domestic abuse.Respect men's advice line : 0808 8010327ManKind Initiative : 01823 334244You can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge Finally the next episode episode will tackle THE TERM CODEPENDENCY: what is codependency by definition , what are the causes of it and what are the signs of codependency and how my codependency play a huge role in becoming a victim of domestic abuse . Well worth the listen.THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

In this  episode tackles how the narcissistic abuser uses money to abuse and how they use money as a mechanism to control . What the red flags are that indicate such abuse and controlNATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode episode will tackle the topic of family and friends. How the abuse we suffer affects them and how they can support us but also how the perpetrators family are enablers of his abuseTHE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

My guest for this episode is Rita, mother of two and a wife to a loving husband , a survivor of domestic abuse and a very good family friend. Her story follows the traumatic abuse she suffered at the very young age of 19.NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge Finally the next episode will tackle Financial Abuse. How the narcissistic abuser uses money to abuse and how they use money as a mechanism to control . What the red flags are that indicate such abuse and control.THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

This episode tackles the tools of control used by narcissistic abusers , which follows well from what we have heard from Natasha in the previous episode. Gaslighting, Love-bombing, Trauma bonds, Stonewalling and Threats to share intimate images. NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode will feature another survivor of domestic abuse , guest speaker Rita , who experienced domestic abuse at a very young age . THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

My guest for this is Natasha Saunders , a domestic abuse survivor , a mother of 3 beautiful children and a wife to a loving husband. Natasha played a major role as a DA champion for Refuge in her powerful and significant campaigning ‘The Naked Threat' , an amendment put forward to the DA Bill to include  threats to share intimate images a crime. Natasha is also a Public Speaker , a voice for victims of Domestic abuse . If you find need support please call :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode will tackle tools of control which follows well from what we have heard from Natasha today.THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY   Much love and light Maz 

I am dedicating this episode to how the system failed me, and my child .My focus will be mostly on how the police failed us  in 2006-2007 and again in 2015 -2018. If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeFinally the next episode will feature another guest speaker , Natasha Saunders, who is a survivor, a mother  and wife ,a DA champion and a public speaker. Natasha help lead the Naked Threat campaign all the way to the DA Bill.THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY 

In this episode I highlight escalation of serious harm that strangulation poses , the clause in the DA bill around non-fatal strangulation and more of my survivor story.For this episode I need to give a TRIGGER WARNING -some of the detail in this episode will contain descriptions of abuse and violence. If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge The next episode will be on Monday and I  will talk about the successes and failures of the various services involved in my lived experience of domestic abuse 

My guest today is Zoe Dronfield . A survivor of domestic abuse and stalking by her ex-partner which lead to a unspeakably violent attack on her by her ex-partner that lasted for 8 hours ,leaving her narrowly escaping death. Zoe has been a champion in campaigning for a Register for serial stalkers and perpetartors of domestic abuse to be included in the DA Bill as amendment 42.If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge My next episode will tackle   the escalation of serious harm that strangulation poses , the clause in the DA bill around non-fatal strangulation and more of my survivor story

In this episode I will tackle the question of why victims stay, why and how we become the chained elephant . How the psychology of the chained elephant best describes how an abuser conditions his or her victim and why victims stay for so long or in some cases never leave.If you find need support please call :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeTHE NEXT EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE  ON MONDAY 19th APRIL AND EVERY MONDAY AFTER THAT A NEW EPISODE WILL BE RELEASED. Much love and light Maz  

My Guest speaker on today's episode is Claire Throssell  MBE.Claire is a survivor of domestic abuse .A mother of two beautiful angels ,Jack and Paul, who were killed by their abusive father during a Family Court sanctioned unsupervised visit with him, Jack and Paul were 12 and 9 years old when they died at the hands of their abusive father . Claire is a Campaigner and Public speaker . She is an Ambassador for Women's Aid and an IDAS champion. And she is at the forefront of ChildFirstCampaign.Claire received a MBE this year for her powerful campaigning on behalf of children subjected to domestic abuse .If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

In this episode I will beginning my story of how I met John and the very first time the physical abuse started .I will also delve into the nature of the narcissistic abuser and narcissistic personality disorder .If you find need support please call :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeTHE NEXT EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE  ON WEDNESDAY 14th APRIL AND EVERY MONDAY AFTER THAT A NEW EPISODE WILL BE RELEASED. Much love and light Maz 

I am Maz , a survivor of domestic abuse . This pilot episode leads up to my narrative of my lived experience of domestic abuse  , starting with the common denominator between a victim and the abuser . What is the common denominator ? I invite you to take a listen and enlighten yourself . If you find need support please call :NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE0808 2000 267 freephone and confidentialOR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.ukYou can find me on :www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.comhttps://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.comTwitter - @AbuseEdgeInstagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge Facebook -Maz  Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting EdgeTHE NEXT EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE  ON MONDAY 12th APRIL  FOLLOWED BY WEDNESDAY 14TH APRIL AND THEN  EVERY MONDAY AFTER THAT A NEW EPISODE WILL BE RELEASED. Much love and light Maz