Eve, Elevated

Coming off of 2 heavy episodes, we wanted to decompress a little and talk about the positive, healthy coping mechanisms that have helped us get to where we are. We're still learning how to "self protect" and we're new to being self aware, but these are some of our positive, personal takeaways from divorce and the huge life changes we've both experienced in the past several years. Rachel Hollis 5 to Thrive: https://msrachelhollis.com/2020/02/11/five-to-thrive/Rising Strong by Brene BrownUnFu*k Yourself by Gary John BishopGirl Wash Your Face by Rachel HollisInward by Yung PuebloGirl Stop Apologizing by Rachel HollisUntamed by Glennon DoyleSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Content/trigger warning: suicidality and mental health. Over 1 MILLION people attempt suicide per year. It's more prevelant than we can imagine and we try to dive into some data, tips on being empathetic, as well as resources for prevention in this powerful episode. Charisse also shares some insight on her own story with suicide and how her mental health shifted through the process of being at rock bottom. You are not alone. You have purpose, you have value, we see you, we love you.REFERENCES:***Suicide Statisticshttps://afsp.org/suicide-statistics/***Suicidality Signshttps://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/11352-recognizing-suicidal-behavior***To Write Love on Her Armshttps://twloha.com/***American Foundation for Suicide Preventionhttps://afsp.org/ Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

We present to you a very raw, emotional, and virtually un-edited episode that was very difficult for us to record. Charisse talks us through her divorce: what prompted it, who initiated it, and how things were handled throughout. We highly recommend you listen to our previous episodes before beginning this one so you have some context.The intent of this episode is to share our very personal experiences so that our listeners who can relate know they're not alone. This episode was very vulnerable and scary, but was necessary for growth and healing. REFERENCES:***2020 U.S. Divorce Ratehttps://www.smudailycampus.com/sponsoredcontent/promoted/how-frequently-are-people-divorcing-in-2020***CDC Most Recent U.S. Divorce Rate (2018)https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national-marriage-divorce-rates-00-18.pdf***National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)https://www.nami.org/HomeSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Part 2 of our amazing talk with Kathryn Avery, Life Coach and Personal Trainer, about BOUNDARIES! Aren't you tired of being tired? Sick of feeling resentful, the fear of abandonment or responsible for others' feelings? Buckle Up, Buttercup. It's time to put your foot down, establish boundaries, and live a happier life! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Join us and our very first guest, the gritty and graceful Kathryn Avery! She is a life coach and personal trainer who describes her approach like this: "A good life coach is a detective! I will help shine a light on the parts of your life where you feel stuck." In part one of this incredible discussion, Kathryn goes over the importance of boundaries, why members of high demand religions struggle with them, and how we can hold them for ourselves. Eve, Elevated is proud to partner with Outer Darkness Shop! Use code EVE15 at checkout for 15% off your entire purchase! https://www.instagram.com/outerdarkness.shop/?hl=enSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Being 30-somethings is hard enough without having to work at maintaining old friendships. It's rough! We're busy, you're busy, some of us live 2000 miles away..... And don't even get us started on attempting to organically make NEW friends at this point in our lives.This week we jump head-first into navigating one of the most important relationships in our lives as adults: Friendship. Thanks to our amazing Patrons for choosing this topic for us!(We apologize in advance for the slight feedback behind Emily's audio in some places. It's time for an equipment upgrade!)Eve, Elevated is Sponsored by Outer Darkness Shop! Use our code EVE15 for 15% off your entire purchase! https://www.instagram.com/outerdarkness.shop/?hl=en REFERENCES:***Social Relationships and Health: A Flashpoint for Health Policyhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3150158/***How to Maintain Friends; The New York Times, 01/18/2018https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/18/smarter-living/how-to-maintain-friends.html***How Friendships Change Over Time in Adulthood; The Atlantic, 10/22/2015https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/how-friendships-change-over-time-in-adulthood/411466/***Loneliness; AARP Research Topicshttps://www.aarp.org/research/topics/life/info-2014/loneliness_2010.htmlSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Part 2! Part 2! A quick discussion about The Church’s outward, physical expression of modesty: Garments. But what we are most excited about is our dive into YOUR personal experiences! Thank you to everyone who submitted personal stories and feelings, we were in awe.

LOADED topic this week (but really, when aren't things heavy over here?) that's so big we had to spit it into TWO episodes! We are chatting about Modesty: what it means in The Church, what it meant to us growing up, and what it means to us now. Special thanks to our "Guest Professional" who provided some amazing insight!WTF are "porn shoulders?"REFERENCES:***Modesty Definition: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/modesty?lang=eng#:~:text=Modesty%20is%20an%20attitude%20of,1%20Corinthians%206%3A19)***Your Body is a Temple:https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/modesty?lang=eng#:~:text=Modesty%20is%20an%20attitude%20of,1%20Corinthians%206%3A19)***For the Strength of Youth:https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/modesty?lang=eng#:~:text=Modesty%20is%20an%20attitude%20of,1%20Corinthians%206%3A19)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

This "Charisse-centric" episode explores some of the toxic factors she experienced while married that lead up to a divorce and crises of faith, as well as her unhealthy coping mechanisms. We don't always see the red flags through our rose-colored glasses, but we hope this episode helps those of you who might have toxic factors in your life recognize them and have the courage to trust yourself and to take action, where we didn't. **SOURCES** Quotes from Brene Brown and Yung Pueblo. Www.freetheself.comSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Our overall FAITH in the Church has been questioned not only by others, but most definitely by ourselves as we navigated our memberships while married. In this episode, listen to us explore the "level" of devoutness we considered ourselves and what monumental trials of Faith we endured along the way. We feel like this was only the tip of the iceberg and still have a lot to say on the subject, but we will dive deeper in a future episode.REFERENCES:***Prop 8 News Release: "California and Same-Sex Marriage"https://newsroom.churchofjesuschrist.org/article/california-and-same-sex-marriage***Gordon B. Hinkley 60 Minutes Interviewhttp://www.lds-mormon.com/60min.shtml***"Come and Belong" -Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorfhttps://www.thechurchnews.com/leaders-and-ministry/2020-04-05/general-conference-april-2020-sunday-afternoon-session-elder-uchtdorf-179349***"You Know Enough" -Elder Neil L. Andersenhttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2008/10/you-know-enough?lang=engSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Stepping away from the heavy topics this week and discussing the WINNER of our poll by an overwhelming amount: BOOZE! You asked, we answered. And then some....We are not by any means experts in the field (except Charisse, she lives and breathes beer for a living). But please, enjoy listening to what we DO know, what we love and hate about the so-called "Liquid Courage," and a couple cautionary tales about the dangers of over-indulging.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

A topic that both of us are fiercely passionate about. Take a listen to us discuss what it was like growing up with the expectation of becoming a mother in the church, and where those feelings migrated to now that we've left. We have 2 VERY different perspectives and experiences and even though this is our shortest episode yet, it packs a pretty huge emotional punch. REFERENCES:**Pew Research Center’s 2014 Religious Landscape Studyhttps://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/05/22/mormons-more-likely-to-marry-have-more-children-than-other-u-s-religious-groups/#:~:text=Mormons%20ages%2040%2D59%20have,the%20national%20average%20(0.6)**The Family: A Proclamation to the World https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world?lang=eng**Today's Family: The Eternal Role of Mothershttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/prophets-and-apostles/unto-all-the-world/the-eternal-role-of-mothers?lang=engSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Strap in and hang onto something as we delve into the crazy world of dating and marriage within the LDS Church, as experienced by us! How and why did we get engaged to our ex-husbands? Did our families approve? What was the wedding night like? (don't worry, no graphic details, tehe) Learn about the differences between a Civil and Temple wedding along with a bit about Polygamy on this Earth and in the Eternities. REFERENCES:**Riess, Jana (May 7, 2013), Why Mormons Have the Lowest Rates of Interfaith Marriage, Religion News Service** **Kosmin, Barry A.; Keysar, Ariela (March 2009), American Religious Identification Survey 2008: Summary Report(PDF), Trinity College (Hartford, Connecticut), p. 13** **https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/chastity?lang=eng** **https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-principles/chapter-38-eternal-marriage?lang=eng** **The Book of Mormon: D&C 132:19** **The Book of Mormon: Alma 39:5**Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)

Dive in, sit back, and relax as we say "Hiyeee!" Let us introduce ourselves, tell you a bit about where we're at and where we've been, how we got here, and why we decided this Podcast was important to share with everyone. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/eveelevated)