Fake Straight

On this episode of the Fake Straight™ Podcast, host @xoxotanara and her hetero homegirl, @aotherealtor, get real about love, breakups, and all the messy in-between when it comes to same-sex relationships. They dive into the speed of queer relationships (aka the infamous U-Haul effect), the struggle of moving on, and what it really means to date with intention. @aotherealtor shares her ‘fake gay' moments and how her understanding of her sexuality has evolved, while @xoxotanara reflects on her own journey into dating women and the role of deep friendship in queer relationships. They also break down the importance of boundaries, self-reflection, and healing—because growth is a must. From past baggage to present lessons, this convo is all about learning how to love yourself and others with intention and respect.

In this episode of Fake Straight™, host @xoxotanara chops it up with @callmekenn_ about his journey from Kansas City to New Orleans, growing up as a queer person of color, and navigating family dynamics while coming out. Kenn gets real about navigating identity, social media's role in coming out to his dad, toxic love, and  the beauty of authenticity. We dive into the power of self-love, the weight of societal expectations, and what it means to prioritize self-love and happiness in the LGBTQ+ community.

Socials: Host: @xoxotanara Fake Straight™ Podcast: @fakestraightpod Guest: @damnmindy In this two-part episode of the Fake Straight Podcast, @xoxotanara sits down with @DamnMindy, the internet's favorite voice on bisexuality and relationships. Mindy gets real about the ups and downs of dating, figuring out your sexual identity, and the ins and outs of lesbian love. She drops gems on what attraction really means, why communication is everything, and how to embrace your truth without letting society's labels hold you back. If you've ever wondered how to navigate love, self-discovery, or family acceptance, this episode's for you. Tune in for a raw, honest convo that'll have you thinking about love and relationships in a whole new way.

On this episode of Fake Straight, host xoxotanara sits down with the one and only @damnmindy —a popular internet personality who keeps it real and hilarious about bisexuality and relationships. This convo was so full of gems, we had to make it a two-parter! In Part 1, we get into Mindy's journey of self-discovery, her experiences dating women, and the complexities of navigating family acceptance as a Haitian-American baddie. Mindy breaks it down about the ups and downs of dating, why vulnerability is the real flex, and how the vibes are just different when dating men vs. women. It's all about staying true to yourself while pushing back on society's tired traditional expectations. Don't miss this one, y'all—it's as real as it gets!

Season 2 of the Fake Straight™ podcast kicks off with xoxotanara chopping it up with @murdaugh_shewrote discussing her journey of self-discovery and identity. Crystal opens up about navigating life as a gold star lesbian, growing up in a strict Christian household, and how her faith has shaped her views on dating and relationships. From wild dating stories to unpacking the toxicity of past relationships, Crystal keeps it real about her shift from dating women to now exploring connections with men. It's a conversation about faith, finding peace, and embracing the evolution of identity—all while staying true to yourself.

Season 2 of the Fake Straight™ podcast kicks off with xoxotanara chopping it up with @murdaugh_shewrote discussing her journey of self-discovery and identity. Crystal opens up about navigating life as a gold star lesbian, growing up in a strict Christian household, and how her faith has shaped her views on dating and relationships. From wild dating stories to unpacking the toxicity of past relationships, Crystal keeps it real about her shift from dating women to now exploring connections with men. It's a conversation about faith, finding peace, and embracing the evolution of identity—all while staying true to yourself.

On this episode of Fake Straight™, we chop it up with Lex, a non-binary trans masc bisexual. Lex gets real about their personal journey—unlearning church talk and learning to embrace critical thinking and self-acceptance. Plus, they spill on their polyamorous dating life, the importance of showing up for your people, and why respecting pronouns matters. Lex's story of transitioning, finding community, and putting themselves first through therapy, yoga, and travel is inspiring. Tune in for a convo that's as deep as it is empowering! Episode Takeaways Living authentically and embracing your true self can be a challenging but rewarding journey. Having a supportive community and friends who understand and accept you is crucial for personal growth and well-being. Self-care is essential during the process of self-discovery and transitioning, and it can include therapy, yoga, travel, and expressing your needs to others. Transitioning can involve physical changes, such as taking hormones like testosterone, to align one's body with their gender identity.

On this episode of Fake Straight, we chat with Lauren and Nathalie (@herandhergirlfriend), two dope Black women who found each other all the way in South Korea. Lauren and Nat get into how they've defied society's expectations to embrace their true selves, dropping gems on conflict resolution and staying authentic. The convo gets real as they talk about their intentional eight-month break, focused on self-care and personal growth, which helped them come back even stronger. We dive deep into the challenges that come with relationships, the power of letting go, and the importance of leveling up individually before coming together as a stronger unit. Lauren and Nat don't just preach it—they live it as relationship coaches, helping others with their ebook, How to Fight Less and Love More. This episode is all about self-discovery, embracing your true self, and doing relationships on your own terms. Instagram: @Herandhergirlfriend/Nathalie Facebook Youtube  Positive Affirmation Playlist New Ebook: Fight Less, love more 5 Shocking Techniques to Transform Conflict & Create Emotional Safety in Your Relationship 1-on-1 Coaching  Podcast

Part 1: On this episode of Fake Straight™, host xoxotanara chats with Lauren and Nathalie (@herandhergirlfriend/ @_fabulousnat), two dope Black women who found each other all the way in South Korea. Lauren had been caught up in messy situationships with men, but this time around, she wanted something real. Nathalie was vibin' and enjoying her single life when she was drawn to Nathalie. Their love moved fast because they created a safe and nurturing vibe for each other. They're keeping it real about what it takes to make a relationship work: open communication, setting expectations, and learning from their eight-month "break-up-to-grow-up" phase, where they prioritized self-care and personal growth. We dive deep into the challenges of love, letting go, and leveling up individually as well as gender roles and showing up as your authentic self while still holding space for each other. Don't forget to tune in next week for Part 2 of Lauren and Nathalie's story!! Connect with Lauren + Nathalie! ⁠ Lauren and Nathalie Website⁠ IG: @Herandhergirlfriend  Follow Nathalie Facebook Youtube  Positive Affirmation Playlist 1-on-1 Coaching Podcast New Ebook⁠- Fight Less, love more 5 Shocking Techniques to Transform Conflict & Create Emotional Safety in Your Relationship

On this episode of Fake Straight™, we chop it up with Engineer Bae about her journey of finding herself, breaking free from societal expectations, and stepping into her truth as a proud lesbian. We're getting real about coming out, dating both sides (men and women), and the power of putting your happiness first. Engineer Bae shares her raw, real experiences and the lessons learned in finding true self-acceptance. Takeaways: Coming out ain't easy, but living your truth? Unmatched. Keep your circle tight—support and community is everything. Real talk: Chemistry, communication, and shared vibes are the keys.

Trigger Warning: This episode of Fake Straight contains discussions about domestic violence, toxic relationships, and emotional abuse. The content may be distressing for some listeners. Please take care of yourself, and if you need support, consider pausing or skipping this episode. Resources and support services are available in the episode notes. Check out this episode of Fake Straight, where xoxoTanara chops it up with her day one, Quiana, who's breaking free and finding her truth as a recently out lesbian after 22 years of marriage to a man. Quiana keeps it real about the ups and downs of her coming-out journey, the messy drama of her past relationships (catfishing, toxic vibes, and all), and what it's like to navigate love on the other side. xoxoTanara and Quiana also spill the tea on dating younger vs. older women, family reactions, and why good communication is everything when you're trying to make it work in a queer relationship. Grab a seat; this convo gets deep! National Resources (USA): The National Domestic Violence Hotline Website: ⁠thehotline.org⁠ Phone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text: Text "START" to 88788 Offers 24/7 support, including chat options, and provides resources for individuals in abusive relationships, including those in LGBTQ+ communities. The Trevor Project Website: ⁠thetrevorproject.org⁠ Phone: 1-866-488-7386 Text: Text "START" to 678678 Focused on crisis intervention and suicide prevention for LGBTQ+ youth, but also offers resources and support for those facing relationship abuse. Love is Respect Website: ⁠loveisrespect.org⁠ Phone: 1-866-331-9474 Text: Text "LOVEIS" to 22522 Provides information and support on healthy relationships and dating abuse, including tailored resources for LGBTQ+ relationships. The Anti-Violence Project (AVP) Website: ⁠avp.org⁠ Phone: 1-212-714-1141 Specializes in providing support for LGBTQ+ individuals experiencing domestic violence, sexual assault, and other forms of violence. Offers a 24/7 bilingual hotline. GLBT National Help Center Website: ⁠glbthotline.org⁠ Phone: 1-888-843-4564 Provides free and confidential support for LGBTQ+ individuals, including those facing domestic violence. Your local LGBTQ+ community center may also have specialized resources or can direct you to local services tailored to LGBTQ+ individuals facing domestic violence. State coalitions against domestic violence often have specific programs or partnerships with LGBTQ+ organizations. Forge Forward Website: ⁠forge-forward.org⁠ Offers resources for transgender and gender non-conforming survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Trans Lifeline Website: ⁠translifeline.org⁠ Phone: 1-877-565-8860 A peer support hotline run by and for trans people, providing resources and support for those experiencing abuse. These resources can offer immediate help, counseling, legal advice, and more. It's crucial for anyone experiencing abuse to seek support from professionals who understand their specific needs.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of domestic violence, violence, and drug use. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This week, we're sitting down with @Monienolovve to dive into her wild ride through dating. From a relationship that took a dark turn when a partner pulled a gun on her, to finding her footing in the dating world with both women and men. We're talking about the ups, downs, and everything in between on her journey to self-discovery and figuring out what love really means. National Resources (USA): The National Domestic Violence Hotline Website: thehotline.org Phone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text: Text "START" to 88788 Offers 24/7 support, including chat options, and provides resources for individuals in abusive relationships, including those in LGBTQ+ communities. The Trevor Project Website: thetrevorproject.org Phone: 1-866-488-7386 Text: Text "START" to 678678 Focused on crisis intervention and suicide prevention for LGBTQ+ youth, but also offers resources and support for those facing relationship abuse. Love is Respect Website: loveisrespect.org Phone: 1-866-331-9474 Text: Text "LOVEIS" to 22522 Provides information and support on healthy relationships and dating abuse, including tailored resources for LGBTQ+ relationships. The Anti-Violence Project (AVP) Website: avp.org Phone: 1-212-714-1141 Specializes in providing support for LGBTQ+ individuals experiencing domestic violence, sexual assault, and other forms of violence. Offers a 24/7 bilingual hotline. GLBT National Help Center Website: glbthotline.org Phone: 1-888-843-4564 Provides free and confidential support for LGBTQ+ individuals, including those facing domestic violence. Your local LGBTQ+ community center may also have specialized resources or can direct you to local services tailored to LGBTQ+ individuals facing domestic violence. State coalitions against domestic violence often have specific programs or partnerships with LGBTQ+ organizations. Forge Forward Website: forge-forward.org Offers resources for transgender and gender non-conforming survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Trans Lifeline Website: translifeline.org Phone: 1-877-565-8860 A peer support hotline run by and for trans people, providing resources and support for those experiencing abuse. These resources can offer immediate help, counseling, legal advice, and more. It's crucial for anyone experiencing abuse to seek support from professionals who understand their specific needs.

Join host, @xoxotanara, as she welcomes guest Angie, a badass bisexual woman married to a man. Angie spills the tea on her journey of self-discovery. From navigating relationships and experiences with both men and women to juggling her sexuality with her faith, Angie keeps it real. She debunks myths about being bi in a heterosexual marriage and highlights the power of having community and fostering a safe space to own your truth.

This episode dives into all things relationships, boundaries, and self-love. Host, @xoxotanara, chats with guest, Donnie, about dating ups and downs, setting boundaries, and finding your worth. We also get real about protecting your peace, dealing with toxic vibes, and embracing your true self.

In this episode of Fake Straight, @xoxotanara chats with @mzsanks about her wild ride as a "liquor lesbian." They dive into the spectrum of attraction to women, the importance of self-acceptance, and the ups and downs of relationships and societal pressures. Tasha opens up about her journey to embracing her sexuality and finding her confidence. They also touch on the dynamics of Tasha's relationship with her husband, highlighting the key roles of communication and understanding. This episode is all about owning who you are and loving yourself unapologetically.

In this raw and real episode, our host gets super personal about her rough journey through a toxic relationship. She opens up about living with a partner who was not only an alcoholic but probably on drugs too. Despite all the abuse and chaos, she stuck around, trapped in a vicious cycle. With unfiltered honesty, she talks about the fear, confusion, and heartache she went through, and why it was so hard to leave. This episode is a no-holds-barred look at the impact of addiction and abuse, highlighting the tough road to finally breaking free. Tune in for a heartfelt chat about resilience, survival, and finding the strength to move on. **Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about drug and alcohol use, domestic violence, including verbal, psychological, and physical abuse. Listener discretion is advised, as the content may be triggering or distressing for some individuals.** **The Network/La Red**:   - A survivor-led organization that addresses partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, BDSM, polyamorous, and queer communities.   - Provides free services, including safety planning, support groups, and legal advocacy.   - Website: [⁠tnlr.org⁠](⁠https://tnlr.org/⁠) **National Domestic Violence Hotline**:   - Offers confidential support and resources for anyone affected by domestic violence, including LGBTQ+ individuals.   - Provides crisis intervention, safety planning, and referrals to local resources.   - Call: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or chat online at [⁠thehotline.org⁠](⁠https://www.thehotline.org/⁠) **GLBT National Help Center**:   - Provides free and confidential support for LGBTQ+ individuals, including those experiencing domestic violence.   - Offers peer support chat, hotline, and online resources.   - Call: 1-888-843-4564 or chat online at [⁠glbthotline.org⁠](⁠https://www.glbthotline.org/⁠) **The Anti-Violence Project (AVP)**:   - Offers support and advocacy for LGBTQ+ survivors of violence, including domestic violence, sexual assault, and hate crimes.   - Provides counseling, safety planning, legal advocacy, and community organizing.   - Website: [⁠avp.org⁠](⁠https://avp.org/⁠) **Lambda Legal**:   - Provides legal advocacy and support for LGBTQ+ individuals facing discrimination, including in cases of domestic violence.   - Offers resources on legal rights, protections, and strategies for survivors.   - Website: [⁠lambdalegal.org⁠](⁠https://www.lambdalegal.org/⁠) **Fenway Health**:   - Provides healthcare, counseling, and support services specifically for LGBTQ+ individuals, including survivors of domestic violence.   - Offers resources on healthy relationships and LGBTQ+ affirming care.   - Website: [⁠fenwayhealth.org⁠](⁠https://fenwayhealth.org/⁠) **RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)**:   - Offers support for survivors of sexual violence, including those within the LGBTQ+ community.   - Provides a hotline, online chat, and resources for survivors and their loved ones.   - Call: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or chat online at [⁠rainn.org⁠](⁠https://www.rainn.org/⁠) **Trans Lifeline**:   - Offers direct emotional and financial support to trans people in crisis, including those experiencing domestic violence.   - Provides a hotline staffed by transgender volunteers.   - Call: US: 877-565-8860, Canada: 877-330-6366, or visit [⁠translifeline.org⁠](⁠https://translifeline.org/⁠)

**Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about domestic violence, including verbal, psychological, and physical abuse within same-sex relationships. Listener discretion is advised, as the content may be triggering or distressing for some individuals.** **The Network/La Red**:   - A survivor-led organization that addresses partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, BDSM, polyamorous, and queer communities.   - Provides free services, including safety planning, support groups, and legal advocacy.   - Website: [tnlr.org](https://tnlr.org/)**National Domestic Violence Hotline**:   - Offers confidential support and resources for anyone affected by domestic violence, including LGBTQ+ individuals.   - Provides crisis intervention, safety planning, and referrals to local resources.   - Call: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or chat online at [thehotline.org](https://www.thehotline.org/)**GLBT National Help Center**:   - Provides free and confidential support for LGBTQ+ individuals, including those experiencing domestic violence.   - Offers peer support chat, hotline, and online resources.   - Call: 1-888-843-4564 or chat online at [glbthotline.org](https://www.glbthotline.org/)**The Anti-Violence Project (AVP)**:   - Offers support and advocacy for LGBTQ+ survivors of violence, including domestic violence, sexual assault, and hate crimes.   - Provides counseling, safety planning, legal advocacy, and community organizing.   - Website: [avp.org](https://avp.org/)**Lambda Legal**:   - Provides legal advocacy and support for LGBTQ+ individuals facing discrimination, including in cases of domestic violence.   - Offers resources on legal rights, protections, and strategies for survivors.   - Website: [lambdalegal.org](https://www.lambdalegal.org/)**Fenway Health**:   - Provides healthcare, counseling, and support services specifically for LGBTQ+ individuals, including survivors of domestic violence.   - Offers resources on healthy relationships and LGBTQ+ affirming care.   - Website: [fenwayhealth.org](https://fenwayhealth.org/)**RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)**:   - Offers support for survivors of sexual violence, including those within the LGBTQ+ community.   - Provides a hotline, online chat, and resources for survivors and their loved ones.   - Call: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or chat online at [rainn.org](https://www.rainn.org/)**Trans Lifeline**:   - Offers direct emotional and financial support to trans people in crisis, including those experiencing domestic violence.   - Provides a hotline staffed by transgender volunteers.   - Call: US: 877-565-8860, Canada: 877-330-6366, or visit [translifeline.org](https://translifeline.org/)

Get ready to dive into some real talk on the latest episode of the Fake Straight™ Podcast! Hosted by the one and only xoxotanara, this episode spills all the tea on her dating escapades with women and the hurdles she had to jump over. From navigating drama and jealousy in the lesbian scene to grappling with whether to take the plunge into relationships, xoxotanara keeps it real about the highs and lows. Tune in as she dishes about her rollercoaster ride through different relationships, showcasing the diverse dynamics and outcomes along the way. It's raw, it's relatable, and it's all happening right here on @Fakestraight. Grab your headphones and get ready for some serious girl talk!

In this episode, @xoxotanara shares her personal journey of dating men and women. She discusses her background growing up in a religious household and the misconceptions about women dating women. She talks about her longest relationship with a man and her realization that traditional life was not what she wanted. @xoxotanara explores different relationship paths and her experiences with dating men again and her transition into dating women. The episode concludes with @xoxotanara emphasizing the importance of defining oneself and not letting others label or define them.

The conversation revolves around host, @xoxotanara's experience of coming to terms with her sexuality and the challenges she faced in her first same sex relationship. She emphasizes the importance of supporting individuals going through similar situations and encourages understanding and empathy. Future episodes will explore the Black and Brown queer world and share other people's journeys.