Grief Relief: It Takes Time

Grief is not a forever place…so where do I go from here? In this episode Invite you to that place and I'm beyond grateful to meet you there… --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mary-wuerdeman/message

Would you rather be a brilliant meteor, with every atom of your being ablaze or is hanging around as a sleepy lump of a planet good enough? Life brings with it opportunities to wake up and make that choice. But how? Listen in and I'll give you the scoop. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mary-wuerdeman/message

What you tell yourself about your story can create peace and healing or it can be painful and keep you stuck. Listen in as I share how to keep from getting stuck in your story and how to find more peace. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mary-wuerdeman/message

Are the thought that you're telling yourself about your story really true?  Is what you are telling yourself about how you feel today creating your tomorrow and dictating your healing? 

Mischel and I chat about her riveting story of hope, empowerment and love. After years of struggling for answers and nearly dying, her determination to advocate for herself led her to the answers that ultimately saved her life. She shares her story to give hope and empowerment to others.

Grief is lonely. Grief is Connecting. Grief is sacred

Is Healing Possible?

Chapter 2 The Choice Becoming Radiant by Tom Zuba

In order to become who you have never been, you must do what you have never done...

Diving into "Becoming Radiant" Tom Zuba's second book I did not come to the planet to suffer. I came to be radiant. And so did you.

Tom and Mary get together to chat about Tom's second book, Becoming Radiant and to kick off my reading of the book on the podcast.

Do you want o get back up on the horse of life again? Say yes to life. Say yes to love. Say yes to you!!

The relationship that we have with our loved continues. Always. It is eternal...love is eternal. 

Are there gifts in grief? Are you willing to look for them?

Fourth of July 2020...Can happiness and sorrow coexist on holidays and other festive occasions? Can you open the door just a bit to create a little hope?

Do you believe that your beloved was taken too soon? And is that a painful belief? Is there any other way to look at it that might bring peace instead of pain?

Do you receive signs and messages from your beloved?

You are stronger than you think. You may be walking through the fire of grief now, but you will step out of the fire as radiant light. You are healing!

Is keeping busy the path to healing? Does Keeping busy fix the hole in your heart? No, but there is a path to healing.

Words have power. The story you tell yourself is the story you live. The beliefs that you hold onto become your words. Your words become your story. The story you tell yourself either brings you pain or gives you peace. What story are you telling yourself?

Do you believe in Heaven? Do you believe that you will be reunited with your loved one when you get there? Do you need to wait until you get there to have a relationship with your beloved?

 Have you ever wanted God to do life your way? Have you ever prayed for a miracle? How do you define a miracle? Have you ever considered that a shift in perception might bring you peace? Let's unpack these big questions and find an answer that might bring peace.

Tom answers life's fundamental questions. Asking and answering these question until you find the answers that bring you peace instead of pain is a path to healing.

Healing is not a matter of strength. In order to heal you must give yourself permission to mourn. You must give yourself permission to feel the feelings and to ask the questions. 

Sit down and breathe. Your heart wants to tell the story of your beloved over and over and over again until it no longer needs to. That is how you take in what has happened. That is a path to healing. Come sit down. I will listen.

When someone we dearly, dearly, dearly love leaves this world it cracks us wide open. It leaves us with questions that we need to answer. Those answers allow us to put the pieces of our life together in a way that brings us peace.

When someone you dearly, dearly , dearly love vanishes from this world, it feels as we've lost him or her. But did you? Are they really lost?

Healing is possible. With intention, commitment and concrete action. Listen to hear tangible tools that are the path to healing.

If you are grieving, you have entered the wilderness of grief. This is not an orderly place. It's wild and it's messy. But it is not a forever place. To get out of the wilderness of grief, you must go through it. You must give yourself permission to mourn.

Even in the darkest of moments you are not alone. Can you hear the whisper? Life is not done with you! Choose life!

We can turn this ship around! How can I help? By healing your broken heart.  We stuff our emotions, act "normal" and tell others "we're fine". But what is that doing to us? and how much of what is happening today is about stuffed down grief that just cannot be contained any longer? Be what you wish to receive. 

In the beginning, when someone you dearly love has died, your only job is to breathe and hold on. Many have walked this path and have risen from the ashes...You can too. But for now just hold on. And remember that you are not alone.

Chapter 2- If you are new to grief I would transport you to the most comfortable, lovely room where your every need would be attended to....Join me for this beautiful chapter....

Join me as I read and reflect on Chapter 1 of Permission to Mourn by Tom Zuba. The death of someone we love cracks us open big time. It is supposed to. Then what? Then the Dance begins....

Author Tom Zuba joins me to discuss his incredible book, Permission to Mourn and our upcoming collaboration here on GRiTT! There's a new way to do grief...

Join me as I unpack Mother's Day 2020. There's much to take in, grieve and also appreciate as we continue to find our way through this unsettling time. 

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss. We are all grieving the loss of something right now, but we are not victims and there is much we can do for ourselves and others! Join me as I give tips that can help during this unpredictable time.

Please join me as I discuss the many spaces of grief and offer some guidance on how to move through those spaces and into a better space where we can feel better and maybe even find recovery!

Grief relief, or recovery, takes time, but time alone will not bring relief. Busting through this and other myths on how to cope with loss and making a conscious choice to simply feel better sets the stage for real relief and recovery.

So, Thanksgiving is behind us and Christmas is about a week away. In Holiday Help Part One we talked about awareness, anticipation and how to prepare for unexpected feelings. But how do we cope with those feelings once they're there? Join me for Holiday Help Part 2 as we explore the answer.

Please join me as share ideas and thoughts around how we can anticipate and cope with the challenges that the holidays can present when we're feeling the weight of grief. Awareness, anticipation and preparation can make a huge difference and just might even bring a bit of piece, and even some smiles as we think of our loved ones during the holidays. This episode is for you if you are feeling a little anxious or sad about the upcoming holidays. You don't have to go it alone. I'm right there with you. I see you.

GRiTT 8: Where to Find What You Need The Most We've never really been taught how to cope with loss in our culture. Most of us just try to let time fix it for us. We hope that time alone will dull the pain and we really don't know where to look for long term relief and recovery. We put a smile on our faces to mask the tears that we're trying to hold back...Please join me for this latest episode of GRiTT where I share insights into grief that just might provide a little direction and help you to move forward.

On the 3rd Angelversary of the loss of my son, Brian I am sharing my thoughts on how to approach tidal wave sized grief and the conflict of emotions that grief evokes. I also pay tribute to my son, Brian Patrick.

This episode explores the complexity of forgiveness; How the very nature of forgiveness ties into Grief/loss and how to take steps toward the release of feelings that keep us in pain.

We tell ourselves stories and play the same tapes over and over which keep us tossed helplessly on waves of intense emotion! In this episode I discuss tools that help us to get unstuck and move forward toward healing and even joy.