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A podcast on how 2SLGBTQ+ folks make babies, create families, and parent our children. Note: While this is a family-related podcast, we do use profanity and leave no birthing or parenting-related topic unexplored. We have added Content Warnings (CW) whe


    • May 3, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 15 EPISODES


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    Episode 8, Season 2: Kyle chats with Cassie about becoming a new mom and starting a new (queer-centred!) business during a pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2021 84:39


    Kyle zooms with Cassie Naldoza - creator of gender-neutral baby apparel line, Born Human Apparel - about her experience as a non-gestational parent, the balancing act of being a new mom and starting a business during a pandemic, and what started her on her journey to create the perfect two-mom onesie for her baby. CW: mention of pandemic, multiple IUI attempts, description of IVF process, choice to do genetic testing of embryos, discussion of miscarriage, description of birth, talk of pain meds and bleeding, homophobia, and use of profanity. Links: Check out Born Human Apparel HERE - and don't forget to use bornhuman10 at checkout to get 10% off any purchase! Follow Born Human Apparel on TikTok and Instagram (both @bornhumanapparel) -------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 7, Season 2: Kyle chats with Sara about why she chose sleep training, her story into parenthood, and bullshit expectations around breastfeeding

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2021 87:42


    Kyle zooms with new pal Sara about her experience with sleep training, queer-mom life (including adventures in step parenting), and their shared dislike for the bullshit expectations society places on gestational parents to breastfeed. CW: discussion of sleep training, fertility struggles, tubal ligation, and endometriosis, mention of miscarriage, IUI, negative feelings around water breaking, hospital birth, watching yourself give birth, postpartum depression and sleep, fear of SIDS with co-sleeping, breastfeeding and weaning, pressures to sleep train and breastfeed, and use of profanity. Links (Please note that groups and links may not use language inclusive of LGBTQ+ families. User discretion is advised) Respectful Sleep Training and Learning St. Michael's study re: postpartum depression and lack of sleep (LINK TO FOLLOW) Huckleberry app WeeSleep Family Sleep Institute Connect with Sara on Instagram @sara.cat22 -------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 6, Season 2: Kyle chats with family & fertility lawyer Sara Cohen about known donors & surrogates

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2021 42:39


    Kyle zooms with Ontario family & fertility lawyer Sara Cohen about the provincial and federal laws that impact folks growing their families through a known donor or surrogate. PLEASE NOTE: Nothing shared in this episode is to be considered legal advice. It is strongly advised that you consult a lawyer in your province or state before entering into any agreement or embarking on any of the processes outlined in this show. Links: Connect with Sara HERE Family Law Act of Alberta Information on the Assisted Human Reproduction Act of Canada -------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 5, Season 2: Kyle chats with Cotie about his experience as a known donor and their shared love for Doughnut Party

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2021 47:43


    Kyle zooms with their pal Cotie Guzman about his experience with being a known donor for his best friend and her wife! CW: Discussion around miscarriage and diy (do it yourself) insemination Links: Cotie Guzman Fitness Doughnut Party Family Law Act of Alberta Information on the Assisted Human Reproduction Act of Canada -------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 4, Season 2: Kyle talks with Rob about getting sober, parenting after separation, and re-connecting with drag and culture through the Two-Spirit community

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2021 61:02


    Kyle (virtually) sits down with Rob about getting sober, his second coming out, parenting after separation, the impact of the 60s-scoop on his identity, and re-connecting with drag and culture through the Two-Spirit community. CW: parent-child conflict and child moving in with other parent, addiction and living in active addiction, mention of police interaction, childhood neglect, homelessness, homophobic parents, fear of coming out to your child, 60s scoop, cultural erasure, mention of prayer and 12 step programs, mental illness, and use of profanity. Links: The Edmonton 2 Spirit Society -------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 3, Season 2: Chats with Mike about the importance of inclusive sex ed, a reciprocal relationship of trust with their children, & their thoughts on masculinity since coming out as nonbinary

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2021 64:21


    Kyle (virtually) sits down with Mike Reynolds to chat about how inclusive sex education helped them realize their identity later in life, the affirming qualities of social media, the importance of building a reciprocal relationship of trust with their children, their thoughts on masculinity since coming out as nonbinary, and MORE! We hope you enjoy :) CW: discussion of pandemic, mental illness, coming out later in life, being misgendered, and profanity. Links: Follow Mike on INSTAGRAM and TIKTOK; Listen to Mike's podcast, THE SEW MANLY PODCAST! ----------------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 2, Season 2: Kyle talks with Ly about sobriety, coming out to their kid, and parenting with BPD

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2021 90:01


    Kyle (virtually) sits down with the brilliant and funny Ly, and they talk about it ALL - sobriety, coming out later in life, coming out to your kid, parenting with BPD, re-connecting with culture, and some fun things about dating during the pandemic. We hope you enjoy... CW: addiction and living in active addiction, mention of intimate partner violence, unexpected pregnancy, mental illness, BPD, medication, thoughts of suicide, coming out to family and children, internalized homophobia, racism, internalized racism, the pandemic, implied bondage, and profanity Links: AM I A LESBIAN MASTER DOC: click HERE Follow Ly on Instagram: @lykarwho || @hairbykarwho ----------------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 1, Season 2: Season 2 Kick-off with Kyle & Alexis

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2021 47:25


    Your two favourite queer moms touch base after wee break, and cover everything from doing drag while pregnant, to how and why they use the pronouns they do with their kiddos, to their postpartum experiences with body image and gender expression! We hope you enjoy... CW: Talk of blood, the pandemic, dysphoria, eating disorders, food talk, sobriety, body image and gender expression after pregnancy, assigning gender and pronouns to babies, and profanity Links: Kyle's drag instagram, @return_of_the_mac ----------------------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 7: Kyle shares Olivia's Birth Story

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2020 46:31


    QMUWUH co-host Kyle Bosch shares their conception and pregnancy stories, as well as what it was like to give birth to baby Olivia! CW: mention of pregnancy loss, description of childbirth and labour in a medical setting, and use of profanity ---------- Links Mom Care Docs https://allinclinic.ca/mom-care-docs/ The Rainbow Clinic at MacEwan University Health Centre https://www.muhealth.ca/ Kyle's Birth Plan HERE ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 6: Alexis shares Jovan's Birth Story!

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2020 72:55


    QMUWUH co-host Alexis Hillyard shares her conception and pregnancy stories, as well as what it was like to give birth to baby Jovan! CW: Discussion around morning sickness and bodily fluids, fears around child birth and labour, description of labour and vaginal birth, use of profanity ---------- Links Click HERE to watch Alexis baking a cake while in labour on her YouTube show, Stump Kitchen! ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 5: Michael and Pragya and their Art of Queer Conception

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2020 48:57


    During the summer we Zoomed with Michael and Pragya to talk about their journey to parenthood! Listen as they share how they navigated the tough times on their journey through perseverance, the support of community, and a bit of humour... CW: Use of profanity, discussion of early labour, IUI, IVF, negative experience in the medical system, multiple attempts at getting pregnant, and miscarriage. Links Janet Lansbury ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 4: Jess and Sahana and their Art of Queer Conception

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2020 75:43


    We had the pleasure of sitting down (via Zoom) with Jess and Sahana to talk about their DIY journey to parenthood, working with a known donor, and what it means to them to queerify their family! CW: Use of profanity, discussion around natural induction, ovulation tracking, at-home insemination, pregnancy loss, and meeting with sperm donor. Links Book: What Makes a Baby, by Cory Silverberg Donor Agreement: Copy of template Kyle used ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 3: Elizabeth and Priscilla and their Art of Queer Conception

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2020 91:38


    Elizabeth and Priscilla share with much knowledge, detail, humour, and care, how they grew their queer family through reciprocal IVF! CW: Use of profanity, brief discussion of sex and bondage wile pregnant, in-depth discussion around IVF and insemination, mention of needles, impacts of birth control on the body and mind, and self-advocacy in the medical system. Links Barbados IVF ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 2: Queer and Pregnant in a Pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2020 55:53


    We were planning on sharing our queer conception stories but then COVID hit? Yikes. CW: Discussion around sex, the medical system (including the NICU), consent, boundaries and the pandemic , talk of homophobia and ableism, and use of profanity. ---------- Links Kyle's drag Instagram https://www.instagram.com/return_of_the_mac/ Alexis' Stump Kitchen Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stump_kitchen/ ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

    Episode 1: Alexis and Kyle Birth a Podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2020 23:44


    Hello and WELCOME to The Queer Moms U Wish U Had, a podcast on how 2SLGBTQ+ folks make babies, create families, and parent our children. We are your hosts Alexis Hillyard (she/her) and Kyle Bosch (they/them). Regardless of how you identify, how you made your family, what your family looks like, or whether or not you have or want children, we are glad you made it here! We can't wait to share our stories and the stories of those in our community, along with advise and guidance from professionals, on how we do this damn thing... we hope you'll enjoy. CW: Use of profanity ---------- Want to share your story? Have a topic you would like to see us cover or someone you'd like us to interview? Have feedback or questions? Contact us HERE! Follow us on Instagram HERE! Able to support us through a donation to help us keep this show going? Click HERE! A queer-owned or allied business and want to talk sponsorship? Contact us HERE!

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