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Send us a textIn this week's Journal Club, Ben and Daphna unpack a wide range of recent neonatal studies with pragmatic, practice-centered discussion. First, they explore a study on low-dose dexamethasone for BPD in preterm infants, showing potential benefits in brain development and motor outcomes—despite ongoing concerns about long-term effects. Next, they discuss a large dataset analysis of oxygen and respiratory support trajectories in extremely preterm infants, offering real-world FiO2 trends and benchmarks that may help frame clinical decisions and counseling.They also examine the diagnostic limits of consumer-grade pulse oximeters, like the Owlet, comparing their accuracy to hospital-grade monitors—raising real concerns about missed events. A safe sleep initiative study offers evidence that modeling and education during birth hospitalization can improve post-discharge sleep practices, especially across different demographic groups. Finally, they review parent engagement with NICU-focused online health communities, identifying both the benefits and potential friction these platforms create in team-family communication.From cerebral oxygenation during kangaroo care to the use of enemas in ELBW infants, this episode covers it all—with a focus on what clinicians can take back to the bedside.Listen in and join the conversation. As always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below. Enjoy!
It's BINGO TIME!! Xannie, André, Solène, and Katja use a bingo game as a vehicle to share personal recovery wins, experiences, and practical skills that have helped them navigate the complexities of BPD. Don't miss this opportunity to learn, heal, and celebrate small victories in the recovery journey! Hit that subscribe button and turn on notifications for more insightful content!
What if your “crazy” behavior isn't crazy at all—but a perfectly logical response to trauma, fear, and unmet needs? In this raw and powerful episode, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist and trauma expert Britt Frank to unpack the truth about what we often mislabel as sabotage, emotional instability, and being "too much." We dive into parts work, BPD misdiagnosis, and why your self-critic isn't your enemy—it's actually trying to protect you. If you've ever felt like you're your own worst enemy, this conversation is your invitation to pause and reframe. You'll learn why we spiral, why your nervous system matters more than any diagnosis, and how to start building self-trust without bypassing the mess. Plus, we're sharing tools from our brand-new Self Love Course—because healing doesn't require perfection, just permission to start. The Self Love Course is available for presale now! Get the lowest price we'll offer this course for, $100 off regular pricing, and the first 50 people to sign up get a free copy of Britt's new book 'Align Your Mind: Tame Your Inner Critic and Make Peace with Your Shadow Using the Power of Parts Work' Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can't control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 15% off your first Fatty 15 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going HERE! and using code SABRINAZOHAR at checkout. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
Did you miss the usual Tuesday episode?! Well I have a surprise for you- this holiday weekend, listen and watch this panel discussion between Xannie Stavert of the BPD Bunch, Melanie Goldman of Mind Over Borderline, and myself as we describe recovery, treatment options, and offer words of support and encouragement to combat the stigma and to offer you HOPE! You are not alone, you are worthy, you are loved and you CAN do this. You can find Melanie here: https://mindoverborderline.ca/ and @mindovermelanie You can find Xannie here: https://www.youtube.com/@thebpdbunch and @xannibelleBook Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday. Xannie, Carys, Céline, Jack, Darren, and Solène share personal experiences, revealing the challenges that come with maintaining self-care routines amidst the emotional turmoil of BPD. Whether you're a person with BPD or a loved one seeking to understand, this episode is packed with relatable insights and powerful discussions. Discover what self-care truly means, the obstacles we face, and how to foster compassion over judgment in our journeys. Don't forget to hit like, subscribe, and turn on notifications for more transformative content
In our last episode of season 6, Xannie, Carys, Céline, Jack, Darren, and Solène discuss the complexities of self-care for those living with Borderline Personality Disorder. The Bunch share personal stories, challenges, and strategies that reveal the often misunderstood relationship between self-care and BPD. Whether you're struggling with symptoms or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and a community of understanding. Don't miss out on the wisdom shared as we explore how to prioritize yourself without guilt. Like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our journey together!Friday we'll be back to share some of the aspects of self-care that we still struggle with. Hit that subscribe button to stay connected!
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I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship. It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms: Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.” Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share! On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! 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Xannie and Katja hear from special guest, Nasiba, who shares her harrowing journey of trauma, self-discovery, and healing as someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). From childhood abuse to the struggles of adulthood, her candid storytelling reveals how cultural perceptions of mental health can complicate recovery. Join us as we explore the emotional rollercoaster of BPD, discuss self-destructive behaviors, and celebrate the journey toward self-acceptance and forgiveness. This episode is not just for those living with BPD but also for friends and family seeking to understand. Don't miss the insights that could change lives!
Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday, Xannie, Jay, André, Georgette and Katja sdiscuss practical tips for creating effective routines, the importance of external accountability, and how to balance chaos with calm. Thanks again to our BPD Besties on Patreon for voting on this topic and joining us behind the scenes during filming! We always have a blast with you.Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with insights that can make a real difference. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on our journey together!More on what Katja said about habits in 66 days: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-does-it-take-to-form-a-habit#:~:text=Depending%20on%20what%20it%20is,help%20to%20develop%20new%20onesMay 21st we'll be back to talk about BPD & Structure. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
Every daughter wants a loving, close relationship with her mom. Yet, in real life, sometimes the mother-daughter relationship is fabulous, sometimes it's so-so, and sometimes it is downright horrible. And in cases where a mother engages in controlling, narcissistic, or other abusive behaviors, the cost to the daughter can be exceedingly high. The road to recovery--to discovering or reclaiming your voice and self-determination--can be long and challenging. But the good news is that you can take steady steps forward to heal your heart, soul, and life. Join Dr. Carla and psychotherapist Katherine Fabrizio for a compelling journey into the realm of narcissism, borderline personality disorder, difficult mothers, and how you can heal yourself and (possibly) the mother-daughter relationship.Topics discussed include relationship dynamics, attachment, narcissism, narcissistic supply, motherhood, daughters, psychological resilience, criticism, approval, borderline personality disorder, BPD, narcissistic personality disorder, defenses, superiority, defense mechanisms, appropriated daughter, abandonment, autonomy, intrusive, culture, patriarchy, mother-daughter relationship, personality traits, diagnosis, intergenerational wounding, intergenerational transmission of violence, agreements, contracts, self-work, personal evolution, and healing.Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911," "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline), or SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). Support/informational links are in the show notes.Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Katherine Fabrizio:Website: https://daughtersrising.info/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherinefabrizio/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegooddaughter/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@katherine.fabrizioYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kkfabrizio/aboutBook by Katherine Fabrizio:The Good Daughter Syndrome: Help For Empathic Daughters of Narcissistic, Borderline, or Difficult Mothers Trapped in the Role of the Good Daughter Daughters Rising: Rising above the hidden messages of shame, guilt, and self-doubt passed down from mother to daughterLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
Are you looking for hope this BPD awareness month? Listen in to hear Zoe's hope and joy! She is on her journey and manages to stay positive and bubbly. Check her out here Straight Up ZoeBook Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
THANK YOU to our BPD Besties on Patreon for voting on this topic and joining us behind the scenes during filming! We always have a blast with you.In this episode, Xannie, Jay, André, Georgette and Katja share personal stories, struggles, and insights about the impact of BPD on their ability to maintain a structured life. The Bunch cover both extremes; the difficulties that come from being overly rigid with structure, as well as the struggles to maintain any structure at all.Whether you're battling BPD yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with relatable experiences and valuable advice that may just change your perspective. Don't miss out on this emotional journey filled with laughter, hard truths, and important takeaways. Check out the shortcut to Lena's intro video to see what Xannie was referencing!Friday we'll be back to share our top tips for maintaining structure. Hit that subscribe button to stay connected!May 21st we'll be back to talk about BPD & Structure. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
https://podawful.com/posts/2564 ANOTHER WIN FOR THE LOAD! Hackamania, celebration of all things Dabbleverse (so, just Steel Toe Morning Show) was held in Vegas this past weekend, and hosted by Nobody Likes Onions. Nick Rekieta left his wife and children behind to enthrall audiences with his tales of being a cuck with Aaron Imholte, and Dick Masterson, Vito, and Mersh lap it all up like good little Toe-heads. But Patrick Melton was BUSTING out the big guns for this one, edging the audience with a titillating surprise finish, the climax of the event that would ensure nobody's money was shot. PLUS: The problem with "Cumguys," Microchimerism and your BPD ex-girlfriend, Maddox is becoming a father, Aaron's intimate photos, and I believe ALL women (always). VIDEO: https://youtube.com/live/pDa5D2gW-wI Buy A Shirt: http://podawful.shop PODAWFUL is an anti-podcast hosted by Jesse P-S
https://podawful.com/posts/2564 ANOTHER WIN FOR THE LOAD! Hackamania, celebration of all things Dabbleverse (so, just Steel Toe Morning Show) was held in Vegas this past weekend, and hosted by Nobody Likes Onions. Nick Rekieta left his wife and children behind to enthrall audiences with his tales of being a cuck with Aaron Imholte, and Dick Masterson, Vito, and Mersh lap it all up like good little Toe-heads. But Patrick Melton was BUSTING out the big guns for this one, edging the audience with a titillating surprise finish, the climax of the event that would ensure nobody's money was shot. PLUS: The problem with "Cumguys," Microchimerism and your BPD ex-girlfriend, Maddox is becoming a father, Aaron's intimate photos, and I believe ALL women (always). VIDEO: https://youtube.com/live/pDa5D2gW-wI Buy A Shirt: http://podawful.shop PODAWFUL is an anti-podcast hosted by Jesse P-S
Send us a textIn this special anniversary edition of the Journal Club, Ben and Daphna celebrate four years of The Incubator Podcast while diving into a compelling lineup of neonatal studies. The episode kicks off with a review of a phase 2 multicenter trial on the safety of furosemide in preterm infants at risk for BPD. Despite widespread Lasix use in NICUs, data on dosing and safety have been lacking—this study finds no significant increase in serious adverse events but emphasizes the need for larger trials to better define its role. The team then explores a study from India comparing 7- vs. 14-day antibiotic courses in culture-proven neonatal sepsis, showing that shorter courses may be safe and effective in select populations.Additional discussions include a randomized trial from Australia evaluating “sigh breaths” during high-frequency oscillatory ventilation and their effects on lung volume and oxygenation, a study examining how kangaroo mother care boosts breast milk intake, and a large Japanese cohort study detailing neurodevelopmental outcomes of infants born at 22–31 weeks. Finally, a meta-analysis on prenatal cannabis exposure underscores risks of low birth weight and preterm birth. With depth, humor, and clarity, Ben and Daphna guide listeners through evidence that shapes neonatal care. As always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below. Enjoy!
In this minisode, Xannie, Carys, André, and Katja share personal stories and insights that reveal how a lack of boundaries can lead to emotional turmoil and self-destructive behavior. Are you struggling with relationships or feeling overwhelmed by your emotions? This episode is packed with wisdom and real-life experiences that can help you understand the critical role boundaries play in your mental health. Don't miss out – subscribe now and turn on notifications for more enlightening discussionsMay 14th we'll be back with our PATRON'S VOTE Episode, on BPD & Structure! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
Christina returns to the podcast to tell us her experience with a recent move, relapse, new relationships, no-contact updates. Really just all the things in her world. We get down on them all. Thank you, Christina, for sharing your BPD story with the world. YOUTUBE: WATCH THIS EPISODE HERESend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderline Corey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports: National Suicide Pr...
Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday Xannie, Carys, André, and Katja share their personal revelations and experiences, exploring the hidden triggers that lead to self-destructive behaviors. The Bunch discuss how moments of clarity can spark meaningful change and the importance of recognizing when we are our own worst enemies. Whether you're living with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement. Don't miss out on the chance to better understand yourself or your loved ones in this journey of healing and self-acceptance. Hit that subscribe button and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode!May 14th we'll be back with our PATRON'S VOTE Episode, on BPD & Structure! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
Are you looking for hope this BPD awareness month? Listen in to hear Vasu's progress and beautiful recovery story. Her part one can be heard in earlier seasons of the podcast.Book Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
In this candid episode, Xannie, Carys, André and Katja discuss the struggle of self-sabotage faced by many living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The Bunch share their personal stories and experiences, exploring the emotional turmoil that leads to self-destructive behaviors. Discover how these patterns impact relationships, careers, and self-worth. If you or someone you care about is navigating the complexities of BPD, this episode is a must-watch. Hit that subscribe button for more insights and support in your journey toward healing!Friday we'll be back to talk about how we've learned to recognize self-sabotaging behavior. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you can join us as we unravel these captivating stories!May 14th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Structure. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
Send Me a Message! In the next chapter of My Therapy Reflections, I share a very significant IFS (Internal Family Systems) breakthrough that has reframed how I view some of my darkest moments. When life feels too loud and too bright (which is most of the time), I tend to mentally retreat, like hiding in a tunnel—a cold, dark place that where I sometimes I can sleep for days. But this session revealed something surprising: my internal parts weren't trying to trap me there like I had thought. They were waiting at the top, encouraging me to come back.Even my inner critic—the voice I've long seen as cruel and as my enemy—was there trying to help. Not to tear me down, but to shield me from a world I'm not built for. This unexpected shift helped me see that every part of me, even the ones I've battled with, have been trying to protect me in their own, unique way.I also uncovered a younger part of myself, frozen at age 15, holding trauma I hadn't accessed in years. That story continues in Part B. But in this episode, it's all about beginning to see your inner system not as broken, but as misunderstood. Maybe, like me, you'll start to feel compassion for the parts of yourself you once feared.Support the showTo support the show, CLICK HEREYou can follow me on Instagram: @elliot.t.waters
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“I hate you.” If you've ever heard those words from your child, you know how painful and jarring they can be. In this episode of Family Vision, Rob and Amy Rienow continue their series on the Ten Commandments with a deep dive into the Sixth Commandment—“You shall not murder”—and how Jesus reveals that anger and hatred in the heart are spiritual expressions of that same sin. They unpack what it means for parents and children to struggle with anger, bitterness, and hatred—and how we can proactively disciple our families toward healing, grace, and reconciliation. This is a timely conversation for any parent dealing with emotional outbursts, strained relationships, or the heartache of children turning away. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - Why anger and hatred are spiritual violations of the Sixth Commandment - What to do when your child says “I hate you” - How the words we use—like “idiot” or “hate”—reveal the condition of our hearts - The cultural danger of justifying hatred in the name of righteousness - A biblical strategy to help children (and parents) find freedom from anger Featured Resources: Free MP3 Seminar — Helping Your Child Find Freedom from Anger: https://visionaryfam.com/freedom Visionary Family Camp — Join us at Cedar Bay, July 19–25. Register by June 1: https://visionaryfam.com/camp Join the Visionary Family Community — Learn more and sign up at https://visionaryfam.com/community Need Prayer? We'd love to pray with you. Send your requests to podcast@visionaryfam.com. Like This Episode? Help more families discover the podcast by subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with your friends. Next Episode Preview: Next week, we take on the Seventh Commandment—“Do not commit adultery”—and talk about how to help our children and teens pursue purity in a world filled with temptation.
Send us a textIn this inspiring and deeply informative episode of The Incubator Podcast, Dr. Audrey Miller, neonatologist at Nationwide Children's Hospital and newly appointed Medical Director of their BPD Service, joins the hosts to unpack the intricacies of chronic lung disease care and her rapid career ascent. Miller outlines the five key principles guiding her team's nationally recognized approach to BPD: ventilator strategies tailored to BPD physiology, aggressive infection prevention, proactive pulmonary hypertension screening, prioritization of linear growth, and uncompromising developmental care.She shares the rationale behind “slow lung” ventilation, the importance of recharacterizing infants as they evolve from micro-preemies to complex chronic patients, and how individualized, patient-driven care often begins by doing less, not more. Beyond technical insights, Miller reflects on the professional mentorship and collaborative culture that propelled her into leadership just two years post-fellowship.She offers candid advice on tackling imposter syndrome, embracing delegation, and building confidence in administration—while remaining anchored in purpose. Whether you're a fellow exploring BPD, a clinician curious about slow lung strategies, or an early-career neonatologist navigating your next move, Miller's perspective is both practical and empowering. This is a must-listen for anyone thinking seriously about the future of chronic care in neonatology. As always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below. Enjoy!
Join Xannie, Georgette, and Katja as they tackle common clichés like "people with BPD can't maintain relationships" and "BPD means you're selfish." Through candid conversation, they explore the nuances of living with BPD, the impact of trauma, and the importance of treatment. Whether you're struggling with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode aims to shed light on the complexities of the disorder and debunk harmful myths. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on all things BPD!
Dr. Liz talks about the potential physical effects of hypnosis both positive and negative in this mini-episode. About Dr. Liz Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and hypnosis to people wanting a fast, easy way to transform all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing. -------------- Do you have Chronic Insomnia? Find out more about Dr. Liz's Better Sleep Program at https://bit.ly/sleepbetterfeelbetter Search episodes at the Podcast Page http://bit.ly/HM-podcast Help yourself with Hypnosis Downloads by Dr. Liz! http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads --------- A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation. Schedule your free consultation at https://www.drlizhypnosis.com. Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work Thank you for tuning in! Please subscribe to auto-download new episodes to your listening device.
Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday Mo, Hak Ja, Xannie and André discuss the borderline personality disorder (BPD) traits they observe in TV characters Lila West from Dexter and Jessica from Jessica Jones. The Bunch share how they relate to these characters, revealing how their struggles reflect real-life experiences of those living with BPD. Whether you're navigating your own journey with BPD or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with relatable moments, emotional insights, and a candid discussion about the impact of media representations on our understanding of mental illness. Don't miss out on a chance to connect and share your thoughts! Hit that subscribe button for more enlightening conversations!May 7th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Self Sabotage. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
Send Me a Message! In this episode, Elliot records from inside his car as rain pours down outside, reflecting nicely the turbulence felt within all week. Battling extreme and rapid mood swings that have left him exhausted and overwhelmed, Elliot shares how poor sleep, stimulant medication, grey weather, and sensory sensitivities have compounded to intensify his struggles. As the rain falls mirroring his rapidly dropping mood, he offers listeners a genuine glimpse into the exhausting reality of managing emotional dysregulation and fatigue. --Follow my journey living with mental illness and the hard-fought lessons learned along the way. Lived experience is the driving force of this podcast, and through this lens, my stories are told. This is a raw, honest, and authentic account of how multiple psychological disorders have shaped my past and continue to influence my future.Support the showTo support the show, CLICK HEREYou can follow me on Instagram: @elliot.t.waters
Join Xannie, André, Hak Ja and Mo as we explore the complex characters of Anakin Skywalker from Star Wars and Jinx from Arcane through the lens of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). We dive into their emotional struggles, impulsive behaviors, and the devastating impact of their relationships. This two-part series not only highlights the traits of BPD as depicted in popular culture but also offers relatable insights for those affected by similar challenges. Whether you're struggling with BPD yourself or supporting someone who is, this discussion is packed with empathy, understanding, and a deep connection to the characters we love. Friday we'll be back to talk about Lila West from Dexter and Jessica from Jessica Jones. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you can join us as we unravel these captivating stories!May 7th we'll be back to talk about BPD & Self Sabotage. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
Are you addicted to your emotions? In this episode, I share my experience with emotions and offer some insight into emotional addiction. Book Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
In this heartfelt episode of BPD Brunch, we dive into the unique challenges faced by stay-at-home moms living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Xannie chats with Georgette and Mo about their personal experiences, discuss the intense emotions that accompany motherhood, and explore the importance of community, support, and self-care. If you've ever felt lonely, overwhelmed, or misunderstood as a parent, this episode is for you. Discover practical advice on managing your emotions, strengthening relationships, and understanding the impact of BPD on parenting. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell for more insights and support on your journey!
In this episode, Dr. Otto Kernberg, a pioneer of Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP), discusses personality disorders through a psychoanalytic lens. Explore key insights into Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), identity diffusion, primitive defense mechanisms such as splitting and projective identification, and the complexities of narcissistic, paranoid, schizoid, and histrionic personalities. Dr. Kernberg also shares reflections on sexuality, aggression, reflective functioning, and why therapists choose to help others. By listening to this episode, you can earn 1.5 Psychiatry CME Credits. Link to blog. Link to YouTube video.
Join Xannie, and educators Katja and Georgette as they share their unique experiences navigating the challenges of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in the classroom. From the rollercoaster of emotions to the surprising strengths that emerge from their struggles, this discussion uncovers the realities of teaching while managing BPD symptoms. Whether you're living with BPD or a friend or family member of someone who is, tune in for insights, inspiration, and a sense of community. Discover how these educators turn their challenges into teaching moments and find out what it truly means to teach with empathy and resilience. Don't miss out on their powerful stories!
In July 2024, the murder trial of Karen Read ended with a deadlocked jury and a mistrial in the death of her boyfriend, Officer John O'Keefe. Now, Read faces another jury while not only maintaining her innocence but also asserting that she was framed for this murder. This episode of the Court TV Podcast takes you to Dedham, Massachusetts, with opening statements from 4/22/2025 in the retrial of Karen Read. For more on the case against Karen Read, Click Here.Watch 24/7 Court TV LIVE Stream Today https://www.courttv.com/Join the Investigation Newsletter https://www.courttv.com/email/Court TV Podcast https://www.courttv.com/podcast/FOLLOW THE CASE:Facebook https://www.facebook.com/courttvTwitter/X https://twitter.com/CourtTVInstagram https://www.instagram.com/courttvnetwork/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@courttvliveYouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/COURTTVWATCH +140 FREE TRIALS IN THE COURT TV ARCHIVE https://www.courttv.com/trials/ HOW TO FIND COURT TV https://www.courttv.com/where-to-watch/
What happens when the pain of trauma from sexual assault collides with the struggles of borderline personality disorder (BPD)?Join Xannie, Katja, Madhurima and André in this vulnerable episode as we discuss the harrowing experiences of individuals living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) who have faced the trauma of sexual assault. With raw honesty, the Bunch share their stories, revealing the complexities of their emotions, the challenges of healing, and the importance of community support. This episode is a safe space for those who feel isolated in their struggles, offering insights and encouragement. If you or someone you know is navigating these difficult waters, tune in to discover that you are not alone. Note: While we will discuss the emotional impact and experiences related to these issues, we will not go into graphic detail about the assaults themselves. April 30th we'll be back to talk about BPD in TV and Movies. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
BPD's latest report outlines the threats facing CMOs—and reveals the bold opportunities to lead, influence, and transform from the inside out. In this episode, Stephanie, Desirée, and Chris take a deep dive into The Future of the CMO, BPDs latest report, unpacking how marketing leaders can expand their influence, claim greater value, and lead transformation inside the health system enterprise. Plus: a spirited debate on speculative fiction, Des' surprising pick, and why metaphors might just be magic. Subscribe to the No Normal Rewind for early access to all of BPD's thought leadership—and a front-row seat to the future.Check out our latest report: "The Future of the CMO"
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
This week we concluded our Jungian archetype series with the Wise Old Man/Woman, using BPD, Jung, and our moral compass—love, honesty, loyalty, courage, self-discipline, forgiveness, joy, selfless service, humility, kindness—for recovery. This ep has raw insight that'll leave you wanting more (hint: sessions have it).Share this with someone who knows the chaos too- there is hope!Skill: Values Check-In—5 minutes to choose actions based on values, not emotions, for a steady identity.Connect: Tried the check-in or other tools? Share at rose@thriveonlinecounseling.com or join our community fromb2b.mn.co!Next Up: Episodes on using these values in relationships for deeper BPD recovery.Resource: Curious about Jung? Man and His Symbols unpacks archetypes for real life.Book Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
Did you know that Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) wasn't "discovered" but actually created? A group of male psychiatrists voted to define it as a diagnosis, and women, in particular, are disproportionately labeled with it, and it's often weaponized against them. What if we told you that BPD isn't a disorder at all, but rather a logical and rational response to repressed emotions and shame caused by trauma, whether systemic or sexual? This is exactly what we're unpacking in today's episode. Join Elisabeth and Jennifer as they welcome Mollie Adler, podcaster, writer, and existential thinker, to dive deep into the issues surrounding the BPD diagnosis. Together, they discuss the stigma around BPD, the trauma as a potential cause, and how repressed emotions and shame fuel the symptoms. Also, Mollie shares her own experience of seeking a diagnosis, and why she didn't receive one. What we explore in this episode is eye-opening: BPD is not a disorder, but a survival mechanism from unresolved trauma, one that can be healed by working to create safety in the nervous system and getting to the root cause. If this resonates with you, don't miss out—tune in to learn more and discover how healing is possible. Topics discussed in this episode: Mollie Adler's personal journey with BPD The problems with the current diagnostic framework The stigma surrounding personality disorders How BPD characteristics contribute to long-term emotional and interpersonal instability The systemic trauma linked to BPD Understanding the inputs that create the output, and how to create change with BPD The impact of sexual trauma and fawning in women with BPD The history and legacy of hysteria The power of releasing repressed emotions and toxic shame to heal The privilege of reclaiming your BPD diagnosis What it means to disidentify from your diagnosis Connect with Mollie Adler by heading to her Instagram page here: https://www.instagram.com/backfromtheborderline/?hl=en Find Molly's podcast Back from the Borderline on all platforms that host podcasts. 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Send us a textIn this Journal Club episode, Ben and Daphna review several impactful studies shaping neonatal care. They begin with a secondary analysis of the ETTNO trial, which examined whether liberal transfusion thresholds reduce intermittent hypoxemia or improve neurodevelopmental outcomes in extremely low birth weight infants. Despite prior concerns, the study found no benefit to liberal thresholds, supporting current restrictive practices. A JAMA Network Open study follows, revealing that late preterm infants are least likely to receive mother's own milk at 12 weeks, underscoring an overlooked group in breastfeeding support efforts. Dr. David Rube joins the show to discuss a two-year follow-up of the IN-RECSURE trial, which investigated whether lung recruitment before surfactant administration leads to improved long-term outcomes—ultimately showing no difference in death or disability. The hosts also explore a meta-analysis on umbilical cord blood therapy for children with cerebral palsy, highlighting benefits in motor function for younger children with milder CP when treated at higher doses. Additional topics include the association between funisitis and cerebral palsy in extremely preterm infants and the AZTEC trial's conclusion that azithromycin does not reduce BPD. The episode concludes with a review of best practices for discussing autopsy with families in the NICU setting. As always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below. Enjoy!
Join Xannie and Katja for the fun and absurdity of 'Would You Rather' questions that not only entertain but also reflect our unique perspectives on life's challenges. Whether you're navigating the ups and downs of BPD or supporting a loved one, this episode is packed with relatable moments and emotional insights. Grab your favorite brunch beverage and join the conversation—because sometimes, a little silliness is the best distraction! Don't forget to leave your thoughts in the comments!
The term Highly Sensitive Person was recently referenced in a DBT training I was attending and I thought "I've really gotta read about this" to myself. In today's episode I give a brief overview of what an HSP is, the differences and similarities between BPD and HSPs and what I think about the quiz when taking it for myself. Don't forget a bonus podcast episode went live today on Patreon about defensiveness with our partners as well as tons of other bonus content. Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderline Corey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports: National Suicide Pr...
Understand where Panic Attacks come from and learn tools to decrease them with insights from Dr. Peters' book, "A Path Through the Jungle." In this mini-series, we talk about how your brain changes that lead to Panic Attacks and how to heal it. We discuss the emotional chimp mind and the more rational “human mind.” Dr. Liz talks about actual steps you can take if a Panic Attack hits and how to help a friend or loved one through one. “Helpful Autopilots” phrases are given throughout this episode. “A Path through the Jungle” can be purchased on Amazon: https://a.co/d/4hx7M7M See more about Dr. Peters at https://chimpmanagement.com About Dr. Liz Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and hypnosis to people wanting a fast, easy way to transform all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing. -------------- Do you have Chronic Insomnia? Find out more about Dr. Liz's Better Sleep Program at https://bit.ly/sleepbetterfeelbetter Search episodes at the Podcast Page http://bit.ly/HM-podcast Help yourself with Hypnosis Downloads by Dr. Liz! http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads --------- A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation. Schedule your free consultation at https://www.drlizhypnosis.com. Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work Thank you for tuning in! Please subscribe to auto-download new episodes to your listening device.
Wrapping up their conversation from Wednesday, Xannie, André, Solène, Raf, Georgette and Melanie share personal stories and insights on how online and in-person support groups can serve as an alternative pathway to recovery. From connecting with like-minded individuals to gaining invaluable perspectives, discover how these communities can provide the understanding and encouragement you need on your journey. April 23 we'll be back to talk about BPD & Sexual Assault! Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
Are you searching for effective ways to manage symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) outside of traditional therapy?Join Xannie, André, Solène, Raf, Georgette and Melanie as they share their personal journeys and practical tips. Discover how everyday activities—like yoga, creative pursuits, and learning from life experiences—can play a vital role in your healing journey. Whether you're struggling with BPD or supporting a loved one, this episode is packed with relatable stories and invaluable insights. Friday we'll wrap up this conversation, sharing how peer and community supports have helped us on our recovery journeys. April 22nd we'll be back to talk about BPD & Sexual Assault. Can't wait until then? Sign up for our "BPD Buddies" or "BPD Besties" tiers on Patreon to get early access to an exclusive extended cut of next week's episode NOW! https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
You're not broken; you're a story unfolding. This is just the beginning." Living with Borderline Personality Disorder can feel like your identity is a kaleidoscope—shifting, breaking, and hard to pin down. One day you're strong, the next you're lost. In this session, we dive into Carl Jung's idea of archetypes—universal patterns in our minds—to help make sense of that chaos. We'll explore how these “inner characters” shape who we are and offer a way to steady the storm of BPD identity struggles. Plus, you'll walk away with one simple skill to start reclaiming your sense of self. This ep has raw insight that'll leave you wanting more (hint: sessions have it).Share this with someone who knows the chaos too. Recap: Explored the Hero archetype—your inner courage to face BPD's chaos. It's not about perfection but taking small, brave steps toward a steadier identity.Skill: Hero's Quest Journal—write the Dragon (challenge), Hero's Move (action), and Treasure (possible gain) to turn struggles into growth.Connect: Tried the journal or Shadow dialogue? Share your wins with us at rose@thriveonlinecounseling.com!Next Up: We'll tackle another archetype—maybe the Self, to find your center. Stay tuned!Resource: Curious about Jung? Check out Man and His Symbols for a beginner-friendly dive.Book Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
Today, I sit down with Dr. Courtney Tracy (aka The Truth Doctor)—a USC-trained psychotherapist, mental health advocate, and survivor of borderline personality disorder (BPD)—to uncover how our unconscious mind shapes reality. Courtney's raw journey from addiction, stigma, and self-destruction to healing, empowerment, and human-first living will leave you inspired. We dive into her groundbreaking book Your Unconscious Is Showing, dismantle myths about BPD, and explore how spirituality and science collide to reclaim control over our minds. 00:00 Introducing Dr. Courtney Tracy & BPD Stigma00:39 Welcome & Courtney's Mental Health Journey01:10 From Addiction to Healing: A 20-Year Relationship Story05:30 Defining Unconscious, Subconscious & Conscious Mind10:15 “Human First” Philosophy: Beyond Labels15:46 Borderline Personality Disorder: Myths vs. Reality20:40 Somatic, Cognitive & Psychoanalytic Unconscious Explained25:15 How Trauma Shapes Our Unconscious Reactions30:00 Breaking Cycles: Spirituality, Buddhism & BPD Healing35:37 The 12-Step Model for Conscious Living40:00 Navigating a World of Projected Unconsciousness44:00 How to Find Courtney & Her Book47:00 Closing: The Power of Radical Self-Awareness MORE ABOUT DR. COURTNEY TRACY
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
"You don't have to figure out your whole identity today. Jung's archetypes—like the Shadow, Hero, or Self—are like threads in BPD's tangled web. Start with one—maybe that loud Shadow—and give it a moment. You're not broken; you're a story unfolding. This is just the beginning."Living with Borderline Personality Disorder can feel like your identity is a kaleidoscope—shifting, breaking, and hard to pin down. One day you're strong, the next you're lost. In this session, we dive into Carl Jung's idea of archetypes—universal patterns in our minds—to help make sense of that chaos. We'll explore how these “inner characters” shape who we are and offer a way to steady the storm of BPD identity struggles. Plus, you'll walk away with one simple skill to start reclaiming your sense of self. This ep has raw insight that'll leave you wanting more (hint: sessions have it).Share this with someone who knows the chaos too. Hit us up with your own fire—how do you keep rising? Let's talk about it. Back next Tuesday with more !Resources:Book: The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious by Carl JungBook Sessions with Rose Here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/Schedule with Jay Here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here:https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for therapy or clinical services. We are mindset coaches and want to offer this content for the betterment of the BPD community. We offer mindset coaching for individuals nationally and internationally. Jump start your recovery today!Want to make a podcast- choose riverside!**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**
Dr. Blaise Aguirre is an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He specializes in dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) with a particular focus on borderline personality disorder (BPD). He discusses his recent clinical work on self-hatred and discusses his new book, I Hate Myself: Overcome Self-Loathing and Realize Why You're Wrong About You.Dr. Aguirre's book: https://www.ihatemyselfbook.com/. If you're interested in seeing or buying the furniture that Paul designs and makes follow his IG for his woodworking which is transitioning from @MIHHfurniture to its new handle @ShapedFurniture WAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via iTunes. It costs nothing. It's extremely helpful to have your subscription set to download all episodes automatically. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media. It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.