Podcasts about BPD

Have you ever known something could end badly and still felt like the risk barely mattered in the moment?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, André, Georgette, Melanie, Justin, and Dan get brutally honest about how risk-taking showed up in their lives with BPD. They share experiences with drugs, sex, unsafe situations, reckless driving, impulsive spending, validation seeking, and choices that made perfect sense in the moment and looked completely different afterward.They also dig into what was happening underneath those choices: chasing immediate relief, escaping painful emotions, wanting acceptance, feeling invincible, and sometimes simply not caring enough about themselves to think about what could happen next.Topics include:* BPD and risk-taking* BPD and impulsivity* Drugs and substance use* Sexual risk-taking* Reckless driving* Impulsive spending* Instant gratification and dopamine* Self-destructive behavior and BPDIf you've ever looked back at something you did and thought, “How did that not feel dangerous to me at the time?” this conversation is for you._____This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!

In that moment in therapy when the client says, ‘Aha!', what is going on? Does it inevitably indicate change? Can we facilitate it? We will discuss these points although we don't guarantee any lightbulb moments.To listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126  On YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ye7L9hcpHuoDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various modelsof psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about theworld of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also a psychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapyand counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a morehealthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through theconversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various differenttherapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder#BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts#positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth#mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma#breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness#anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness#selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude#selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

One minute, you're the person who understands them better than anyone. The next, you're the enemy. What causes that sudden shift?In this episode, Dr. Kibby McMahon explains what's commonly called “splitting” in borderline personality disorder (BPD), why intense emotions can lead someone to see themselves or the people they love as all good or all bad, and what's happening psychologically when that shift occurs.She also breaks down what loved ones can actually do in the moment, including how to stay grounded, validate emotions without agreeing with hurtful behavior, set boundaries, and avoid getting pulled into the same cycle. Pasted text (2)If you love someone with BPD, intense emotions, mental illness, or addiction and you're trying to support them without losing yourself in the process, this episode is for you.Learn more about KulaMind and support for loved ones at KulaMind

What Is Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)? Do you struggle to make decisions without someone else's approval? Do you constantly seek reassurance, fear being alone, or stay in unhealthy relationships because the thought of leaving feels terrifying? In this episode of the Ask Kati Anything Podcast, licensed therapist Kati Morton takes a deep dive into Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD). We explore the official DSM-5 diagnostic criteria, how DPD differs from anxious attachment, codependency, and borderline personality disorder (BPD), why DPD develops, and practical steps to rebuild self-trust and confidence. EPISODE SPONSOR Specialized virtual trauma treatment is available through Rebound. Founded by survivors and psychologists, Rebound provides clinically effective trauma therapy covered by leading insurance plans: https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction: Understanding Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) 01:31 - Q1: Am I Needy, Depressed, Traumatized, or Is It DPD? (DSM-5 Criteria) 10:30 - Q2: Capable at Work, But Indecisive at Home (Capability vs. Self-Trust) 15:15 - Q3: Asking Multiple People Before Making Decisions: Advice vs. Permission 18:54 - Advice vs. Reassurance: Finding What You Really Think 20:42 - Q4: Backtracking During Disagreements & Fear of Conflict 24:00 - Q5: Why Staying in Bad Relationships Feels Safer Than Being Alone 29:31 - Q6: Urgently Jumping Into Rebound Relationships 35:40 - Q7: DPD vs. Anxious Attachment, Codependency, BPD & Avoidant PD 44:33 - Q8: Where Does DPD Come From? (Genetics, Childhood, Overprotective Parenting) 53:32 - Q9: Why Does Reassurance Never Feel Like Enough? (The Reassurance Cycle) 56:31 - Q10: Transferring Dependency onto Your Therapist 01:02:03 - 5 Actionable Steps to Build Self-Trust and Overcome DPD MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? Traumatized Are u ok? ONLINE THERAPY - Enjoy 10% off your first month If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati - a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Substack https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Ask Kati Anything ep. 333 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Rose Skeeters explores how love, acceptance, and training can transform challenging traits into strengths, especially in the context of childhood development and adult self-acceptance. She discusses practical ways to reframe big emotions, hyperfixation, dissociation, and other traits as potential sources of growth and creativity.Keywordsself-acceptance, emotional regulation, childhood development, mental health, personal growth, trauma, sublimation, dissociation, hyperfixation, therapyKey TopicsThe importance of love, acceptance, and training in childhood developmentHow big emotions can lead to shame or growth depending on supportThe concept of sublimation and turning traits into creative or productive outletsThe role of dissociation and watching oneself as a movie in healingPractical examples of transforming hyperfixation into mastery or craftThe impact of shame on self-identity and how love can reshape itThe significance of training and acceptance in adult mental healthStrategies for turning traits like big emotions and hyperfixation into strengthsFall Group – Starting September 30 ⁠Fall group forming, register today!⁠⁠I'm running a small fall group beginning September 30. Space is limited on purpose so participants can actually practice these skills with support and feedback.If you've been wanting structured work around emotion regulation, abandonment fear, and breaking the safety-behavior cycle, this group is designed for that.Individual session openings are also available if you prefer one-on-one work.Details: ⁠⁠⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a session with Rose or Jay: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose .See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.

Empathy, kindness, compassion. What exactly is compassion and is its presence an essential part of the therapy process? How  does it impact the client, the relationship and the therapist her or himself?To listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126  To watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/MLEJiJextesDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore themind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know themakings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also apsychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed atpeople who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methodsand techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd#therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind#positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth#mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma#breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness#anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness#selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude#selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

In this episode, Kristen is joined by Dr. Daniel Lobel, author and internationally recognized expert on the diagnosis and treatment of borderline personality disorder (BPD), to explore how BPD can affect relationships and how loved ones can move beyond walking on eggshells.   You will learn: What borderline personality disorder (BPD) can look like in close relationships. Why fear of abandonment can lead to intense emotional reactions. How black-and-white thinking can affect relationships and self-perception. How enabling and "walking on eggshells" can reinforce unhealthy patterns. How setting consistent boundaries and reinforcing healthy behavior can help create healthier relationships. Connect with Dr, Daniel Lobel: mMysideofthecouch.com   When you purchase Dr. Daniel Lobel's books through these Amazon affiliate links, you're helping support the podcast at no extra cost to you:    1. Adult Children of Borderline Parents 2. When Your Daughter Has BPD: Essential Skills to Help Families Manage Borderline Personality Disorder 3. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Adult Children 4. When a Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Compassionate Guide to Building a Healthy and Supportive Relationship 5. Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents: How to Help Your Child (of Any Age) with Borderline Personality Disorder without Losing Yourself   Subscribe HERE and get a free 5-day journal to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. Connect with Kristen: Get Kristen's newsletter, packed with tangible tools, resources, and inspiration Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Kristen on Instagram   Kristen's TikTok   Have Kristen Speak at Your Event  Disclaimer This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.

Have you ever known an impulsive decision would probably end badly and still felt like you had to do it anyway?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Mo, Céline, and Melanie talk about what actually helped them manage BPD impulsivity, from sleeping on decisions and distracting themselves long enough for an urge to pass to checking their choices against their values.They also get into the deeper part: why impulsivity can become a way of escaping emotions, why consequences don't always stop the behavior, how they learned to trust their judgment, and what changed as impulsive urges became less intense during recovery.Topics include:*BPD and impulsivity*Acting on intense emotions*DBT skills for impulsive urges*Escaping and avoiding emotions*Thinking through consequences*Trusting your own judgment*Core values and decision-making*Reducing impulsivity in BPD recoveryIf you've ever looked back at an impulsive decision and wondered why the consequences felt so obvious afterward but not in the moment, this conversation is for you_____This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 ⁠here⁠Watch part 2 ⁠here⁠___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!

Send us Fan MailWhat if the constant sense that something is wrong with you was never about you at all, but about the family system you had to bend yourself around to survive?In this episode, we unpack what it means to be the adult child of a mother with NPD or BPD, starting with what the DSM actually says about each disorder and why narcissistic traits are not the same as a clinical diagnosis. We talk about how the entire family contorts around the illness, how collusion and gaslighting leave you feeling like the black sheep, and how growing up without room to develop a self can lead to identity crises decades later. We also cover where to find support if you recognize yourself in any of this.Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #539 | How Shame Prevents the Cycle of Motivation - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/539-how-shame-prevents-the-cycle-of-motivation/id1511831621?i=1000789504920Learn more about:

Have you ever known something was bad for you and still missed the intensity when it was gone?Freya joins Xannie and Jack to talk about a BPD recovery journey shaped by chaotic relationships, chronic emptiness, emotional avoidance, burnout, identity, and a constant need to stay distracted. She shares why “constant peril” once felt like living, why a full calendar made her feel loved, and what happened when she finally stopped running from difficult emotions.Freya also opens up about being trans with BPD, how she personally distinguishes gender dysphoria from BPD identity disturbance, receiving her diagnosis after hospitalization, and the roles DBT, ACT, and psychodynamic therapy have played in her recovery.In this episode:* BPD and chaotic relationships* Chronic emptiness and identity disturbance* BPD and gender dysphoria* Staying busy to avoid difficult emotions* BPD burnout and emotional overwhelm* Splitting and relationship patterns* DBT, ACT and psychodynamic therapy* BPD recovery and learning to tolerate emotionsIf you've ever chased intensity, distraction, relationships, or busyness because slowing down meant having to feel everything, Freya's story may feel very familiar._____Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!

Have you ever felt something so intensely that doing anything to make it stop seemed like a good idea in the moment?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Céline, Mo, and Melanie get brutally honest about what impulsivity actually looked like in their lives: impulsive tattoos, self-harm, drinking and drugs, binge spending, quitting jobs, cutting people off, and reacting to shame with anger instead of facing it.They also talk about the strange experience of getting better and realizing that the impulse itself doesn't necessarily disappear. What changes is the ability to pause, tolerate the emotion, and make a different decision.Topics include:* BPD and impulsivity* Impulsive self-harm* BPD and substance use* Binge drinking and spending* Anger and impulsive behavior* Cutting people off and splitting* Shame and defensiveness* Managing impulsive urges in BPDIf you've ever looked back after an intense emotion passed and thought, “Why the hell did I do that?” this conversation will probably feel familiar._____This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference!

Biases, preconceptions and assumptions about clients with autism and ADHD are all inevitable until we have learned about the misconceptions and ourselves . We discuss how these misconceptions might impact our work with neurodivergent clients and how we can broaden our understanding, becoming more responsive to their needs and so be better therapists.To watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/lYS9DK5ecqgTo listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126  Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore themind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know themakings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also apsychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed atpeople who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute ofPsychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methodsand techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd#therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind#positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth#mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma#breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness#anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness#selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude#selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

What would you do if your parent destroyed your beloved childhood toys, for no reason at all?  In today's breathtaking "Sessions With Gloria" segment, a client receives healing and guidance from Gloria around a traumatic memory of her mother, who struggled with BPD.  Watch powerful techniques used in real time, in a real story of hope, redemption, and the human spirit!Mentioned In Episode:

Healthcare consumers are changing faster than the systems trying to reach them. In this episode of What Just Happened?!, BPD's Emily Baker, VP of Innovation, and Stephanie Wierwille, EVP of Strategy & Innovation, unpack new findings from The Patient Next Door, our latest consumer research report. We cover how rising costs are changing care decisions, AI is moving the front door of healthcare, and what it all means for health systems trying to stay relevant.Download The Patient Next Door here: https://bpdhealthcare.com/what-we-think/guides/the-patient-next-door/

Mental health care is HIV care! Incorporating screening and treatment for mild to moderate cases of bipolar disorder, trauma, and personality disorders in HIV primary care can improve both mental health and HIV-related outcomes, but it is also important to know when to refer or escalate. Featuring audio from a live webinar presented by experts Kathleen Page, MD, and Glenn Treisman, MD, PhD, this case-based virtual Grand Rounds series explores practical strategies for integrating routine mental health care into routine HIV clinical practice. Visit the program page to follow along with the downloadable slides and to view other related activities.Topics covered include:Strategies for screening for mental health conditions as part of HIV careDeciding when to continue management vs referActionable ways to support engagement in care and ART adherenceGet access to all of our new podcasts by subscribing to the Decera Clinical Education Infectious Disease Podcast on Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music, or Spotify.Presenters:Kathleen Page, MDProfessor of MedicineDivision of Infectious DiseasesJohns Hopkins School of MedicineBaltimore, MarylandGlenn J. Treisman, MD, PhDEugene Meyer III Professor of Psychiatry and MedicineDepartments of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and Internal MedicineJohns Hopkins HospitalBaltimore, Maryland Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Last week we talked about strategies for dating when you have BPD. This week Talon and I talk about strategies for someone WITH BPD. Enjoy!Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

Shame says you are the problem. Living amends asks a better question: How will you live now so the same harm is not repeated?Living amends is not another apology. It is the practice of repairing harm by living differently—especially when shame, rumination, or a one-time “I'm sorry” has not created change.In BPD recovery, guilt and shame can become an identity. This episode explains living amends—repair through consistent action rather than endless apology—and how a simple writing practice can open the door to self-forgiveness without self-punishment.Key points• Living amends = ongoing changed behavior, not a transaction.• It is useful when contact would cause more harm, the person is gone, or words have already been overused.• In BPD recovery it counters shame-identity, builds accountability without self-attack, and practices consistency in relationships.• Writing clarifies the pattern, the impact, the new behavior, and the value underneath it.• Forgiveness here is not “it didn't matter.” It is releasing self-punishment while staying responsible.Fall Group – Starting September 30 Fall group forming, register today!⁠I'm running a small fall group beginning September 30. Space is limited on purpose so participants can actually practice these skills with support and feedback.If you've been wanting structured work around emotion regulation, abandonment fear, and breaking the safety-behavior cycle, this group is designed for that.Individual session openings are also available if you prefer one-on-one work.Details: ⁠⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠⁠Book a session with Rose or Jay: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose .See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.

What happens when you're overwhelmed, triggered, or emotionally flooded and the person you love just doesn't seem to understand?In this episode, Dr. Kibby gets personal. Fresh from an experience that left her feeling overwhelmed and unseen, she shares what it feels like to be on the other side of an empathy breakdown.She explores why feeling judged or invalidated can turn an already difficult emotion into anger, resentment, or an explosion, and why simply feeling understood can make such a powerful difference.Kibby also looks at the responsibility on both sides: how to communicate what's triggering you without attacking the other person, and how loved ones can listen, validate, and show that they're genuinely trying to understand.In this episode:• What an empathy breakdown can feel like• Why feeling unseen can intensify emotional reactions• The difference between validation and agreement• How judgment and shame can fuel conflict• How to communicate your triggers more effectively• Finding the balance between accommodation and learning to cope• Why feeling seen can create connection, even when the problem can't be fixedIf you love someone who struggles with intense emotions, BPD, addiction, or other mental health challenges, KulaMind teaches practical skills to help you communicate, reduce conflict, and support both your loved one and yourself.

How can you tell the difference between normal excitement about someone and a BPD “favorite person” relationship that's starting to take over?In this mini episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Jack, and Katja share their experiences with favorite person (FP) relationships and the signs that helped them recognize when attachment was becoming unhealthy.They talk about what happens when one person starts consuming your attention, affecting your priorities and other relationships, or even influencing your sense of identity. They also explore an important distinction: healthy relationships can influence us too. So where is the line?Topics include:• BPD favorite person relationships• Favorite person vs. healthy relationships• Obsession vs. normal relationship excitement• Idealization and splitting• Losing yourself in relationships• Identity disturbance in BPD• Neglecting other relationships and priorities• BPD relationships and recoveryThere isn't one behavior that automatically makes someone your “favorite person.” Looking at the intensity, context, and overall impact on your life can help you better understand what's happening in your relationships.We're taking a three-week break from our regular episodes to answer some of your questions! This season, we're exploring BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), and we'll be back with our next full-length episode on September 16 with an episode all about impulsivity.___

This week I chat with Josh. Josh talks about his content and how his goal is change the culture in the trades. To go from "if you're not the hammer, you're the nail" to a better way to go about things. We chat about both our journeys with BPD.

A couple of beers, one old song, and suddenly I'm right back in the headspace that kicked off Manchester Madness.But before I even set foot in the UK, there's a pretty big blind spot in this story that I need to own. This isn't just my story. It's also the story of a woman who got pulled into the chaos of my untreated, untamed Borderline Personality Disorder — and wore far more of the emotional fallout than anyone should have had to carry.I rewind to the lead-up to my student exchange, the Manchester Metropolitan University group chat, and the bigger, louder version of myself I started creating online. Then a psychology student goes from being “someone interesting” to, somehow, “the one”, before we'd even met.Looking back, the warning signs were everywhere: idealisation, obsession disguised as purpose, intense attachment and a desperate need for connection that I simply didn't understand at the time.I also unpack what BPD felt like from the inside, while being brutally honest about some of the more cringe-inducing parts of this story. Because if I'm going to tell Manchester Madness properly, I can't polish the uncomfortable bits or pretend my mental health only affected me.This is where the story really begins.--Follow The Dysregulated Podcast: Instagram – @elliot.t.waters Facebook – The Dysregulated Podcast YouTube – The Dysregulated Podcast (Official Channel)Created by Elliot Waters — Inspired by lived experience. Mental health insights, real stories, real conversations.

Today we talk about some of the strategies for how to date and how to identify if someone is "right" to date when you have Borderline Personality Disorder. Good luck out there!Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

BPD Exws What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not?BPD Exes what is the pathway to healing? It is not merely researching and "understanding" Borderline Personality Disorder. That canactually become a block to your healing and recovery process. In response to a commenter who is so lost, I talk about what isn't helpful when one has decided or knows they need to heal and recovery from a BPD toxic relationships and Codependency. I respond to a commenter who is really in a no-win place of unhealthy thinking "married" to being a "poor victim" of a person with VPD. Despite th e reality that people with (especially) untreate4d BPD hurt, abuse, use, and traumatize others, it's not helpful to stay in a "poor victim mentality" even though you have been victimized. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - One-to-one private sessionshttps://ajmahari.com - Online Store

What do you do when “this hurt me” gets heard as “you're a horrible person”?In this mini episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Justin, and Kaelah talk about criticism, splitting, defensiveness, and how to have difficult conversations when someone with BPD is highly sensitive to perceived rejection or shame.They get into what has actually helped in their own relationships, including balancing compassion with accountability, avoiding assumptions about someone's intentions, knowing when to pause a conversation, and accepting an uncomfortable reality: there may not be a perfect way to say something that guarantees the other person won't become upset or dysregulated.Topics include:* BPD and criticism* BPD splitting* Sensitivity to rejection and shame* Defensiveness in relationships* Communicating with someone with BPD* Walking on eggshells* Emotional dysregulation during conflict* BPD relationships and accountabilityIf criticism has ever sounded completely different inside your head than the words someone actually said, this conversation may feel very familiar.We're taking a three-week break from our regular episodes to answer some of your questions! This season, we're exploring BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), and we'll be back with our next full-length episode on September 16 with an episode all about impulsivity.___

Today you meet Justin Yates who is joining the show to tell a bit about his story as a sober man living with BPD. Music is a big part of his journey and he shares his love of that with us today. Justin can be found at https://www.justinyates.com/On instagram at @justinyatesmusicOn Youtube HERE And the fan page he preserves can be found here: Https://TeamOrel.comSend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

Fear looks like an ocean. It looks like it will swallow you.Jay puts language on something a lot of people in BPD recovery already feel: the fear is a mile wide and an inch deep. From a distance it looks massive. After you take one step, you find out you can stand.In this episode of From Borderline to Beautiful, Rose and Jay talk about what actually gets you across that threshold — not more confidence first, but action. Confidence comes after you begin.We cover:Why fear looks like drowning when it is often a puddleWhy you do not need confidence before you actHow past experiences make a small step feel hugeWhy “I'm frustrated” is not the same as “I'm leaving”Fight, flight, and freeze — and what each one is protectingHow fear gets used to control, cover, or avoid being exposedTrading humiliation for patienceAligning your fight with the desire of your heart: a life worth living, not comfort in shameIf you keep waiting to feel ready, the fear stays wide. If you take the inch-deep step with your eyes open, you collect proof that you can stand.Try this after you listenName the fear in one sentence. What are you actually afraid will happen?Separate history from this moment. What is old, and what is here?Take one action that matches the life you want, not the comfort you know.After you do it, do not disqualify it. Own it.Fall Group – Starting September 30 I'm running a small fall group beginning September 30. Space is limited on purpose so participants can actually practice these skills with support and feedback.If you've been wanting structured work around emotion regulation, abandonment fear, and breaking the safety-behavior cycle, this group is designed for that.Individual session openings are also available if you prefer one-on-one work.Details: ⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠Book a session with Rose or Jay: ⁠⁠⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Call/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Fall group forming, register today!Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose .See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.

How can you tell the difference between normal excitement about someone and a BPD “favorite person” relationship that's starting to take over?In this mini episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Jack, and Katja share their experiences with favorite person (FP) relationships and the signs that helped them recognize when attachment was becoming unhealthy.They talk about what happens when one person starts consuming your attention, affecting your priorities and other relationships, or even influencing your sense of identity. They also explore an important distinction: healthy relationships can influence us too. So where is the line?Topics include:• BPD favorite person relationships• Favorite person vs. healthy relationships• Obsession vs. normal relationship excitement• Idealization and splitting• Losing yourself in relationships• Identity disturbance in BPD• Neglecting other relationships and priorities• BPD relationships and recoveryThere isn't one behavior that automatically makes someone your “favorite person.” Looking at the intensity, context, and overall impact on your life can help you better understand what's happening in your relationships.We're taking a three-week break from our regular episodes to answer some of your questions! This season, we're exploring BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), and we'll be back with our next full-length episode on September 16 with an episode all about impulsivity.___

This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen talk about being the partner of someone struggling with mental health, or being the partner struggling, and what it's like to navigate mental illness within a relationship. They explore the balance between supporting a partner and overfunctioning for them, while recognizing that fairness doesn't always mean doing the same exact things. They also discuss how relationships can evolve as each person's needs, capacity, and mental health change over time.They answer listener questions about depression, ADHD, BPD, mental load, guilt, and boundaries, and discuss how to ask for more progress without making your partner feel unsupported. Along the way, they explore why support and expectations can coexist, how to recognize when you're becoming someone's treatment plan, and how to protect your own needs while showing up for someone you love.Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:15 to skip the intro and get straight to today's content.⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠ at The Therapy Group!⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠Our ⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠!!Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:Skims: Shop SKIMS Cotton, and all of our favorite pieces, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that followsOneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SHRINKCHICKS at https://www.oneskin.co/SHRINKCHICKS #oneskinpNine to Kind: Go to ninetokind.com and use code SHRINKCHICKS for 20% off your orderZenni: Go to Zenni.com/podcast and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first orderTumble: For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/SHRINKCHICKSQuince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Talk to a HG Coach 1-on-1: https://bit.ly/46bIkdoDr. K's NEW Guide to Love, Sex, & Relationships is here! Order now: https://bit.ly/4dO3x0VDr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQIn this episode, Dr. K explores the psychology of reassurance seeking, explaining why some people need constant validation and how we actually heal from trauma. Unpacking a viral clip about reassurance and a fascinating study on neurodivergence, he breaks down why modern society is experiencing a spike in trauma, how our brains are wired to prioritize bad experiences, and why we need to change how we screen for trauma in neurodivergent individuals. What to expect in this episode: Reassuring the Reassurance-Seeker: Why asking for reassurance about needing reassurance is a common loop, and why providing it is actually the easiest job in the world if you embrace a supportive, loving mindset. The Power of Stable Relationships: How borderline personality disorder (BPD) remission rates show that consistent, long-term reassurance actually works, with 50% of individuals recovering within two years of a stable relationship and up to 98% in remission after 16 years. The Candy Bar Metaphor & Dr. K's Real-Time Epiphany: A look at an adopted child's food insecurity and why the typical parental response—confiscating hidden food—accidentally reinforces the trauma of scarcity rather than resolving it. What Social Support Actually Means: Why social support isn't just having people physically around you, but is specifically the ability to safely re-engage with your trauma triggers without your survival instincts taking over. Why We Hold Grudges (The 3-to-10x Brain Bias): How the human brain is neurologically wired to weigh a single negative experience three to ten times more heavily than a positive one, meaning it takes massive amounts of positive validation to undo a single betrayal. The Erosion of Social Safety Nets: How remote work, blocking culture, and rage-bait algorithms on social media are actively preventing us from having the "corrective emotional experiences" required to heal from trauma. The Autism Trauma Gap: Why up to 47% of women and 70% of men on the spectrum suffer from PTSD caused by "non-traditional" traumas—like bullying, public vomiting, loss of a pet, or even psychological therapy itself—that neurotypical individuals easily bounce back from. A New Clinical Burden of Proof: Why Dr. K now operates under the assumption that late-diagnosed ADHD patients have a mood disorder, and autistic adults have trauma, until clinically proven otherwise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Kaytlyn Gilner, MA about complex post traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and borderline personality disorder (BPD). Kaytlyn discusses her personal journey with these diagnoses and how she came to specialize in working with clients with complex trauma and PTSD. Kaytlyn defines for listeners what CPTSD is and some signs and symptoms of the disorder. We discuss how CPTSD is not currently recognized as an official diagnosis in the DSM and how this impacts individuals receiving an accurate diagnosis and the clinical care they receive. Kaytlyn discusses what BPD is and some common misconceptions about BPD. We discuss similarities and differences between CPTSD and BPD, as well as misdiagnoses when it comes to individuals who have experienced complex trauma. We end the discussion by talking about therapeutic approaches that are best suited for individuals who have experienced complex trauma and/or are diagnosed with BPD.Information shared by guests on Psych Talk are reflective of their own values, perspectives, and life experiences. Psych Talk values platforming various perspectives and experiences even if those views are not necessarily reflective of Psych Talk's values and perspectives. Connect with Kaytlyn:IG: @itstherapykayIG: @notsodumbblonde_podYoutube: Therapy KayPodcast: Not So Dumb BlondeConnect with Me:Follow me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the podcast on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@psych.talk.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on Threads ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to Work With Me:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mind Over Matter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Be a guest on my podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anti-Racism Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary Setting⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Intro/Outro Music⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Life of Riley⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Kevin MacLeod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music License⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you ever known that isolating was making you feel worse and still felt like being around people was almost unbearable?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Raf, Mo, Céline and Madhurima talk about what has actually helped them manage depression and depressive spirals associated with BPD, including the parts that sound simple on paper and can feel incredibly difficult when you're in them.They get especially honest about opposite action: leaving the house when you want to hide, reaching out when shame tells you you're a burden, taking care of your body when everything feels pointless, and learning when “rest” has quietly turned into avoidance. They also discuss self-esteem, hopelessness, sleep, substance use, emotional avoidance, asking for help, and why small changes can matter more than one dramatic breakthrough.If you've ever thought, “I know what I'm supposed to do. I just cannot make myself do it right now,” this conversation is for you._____This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

Continuing the couples work series this week by finishing up the review on how to navigate conflict. Get cozy and listen with your partner! Enjoy! Worksheet: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/69546177b472270216a39483/1767137655885/ten_essential_skills_conflict_worksheet.pdfFamily Connection Program: https://bpdalliance.org/family-connections/Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

A six-month university semester to study in Manchester, United Kingdom was supposed to be the adventure of a lifetime. Looking back, it became the dividing line between thinking I was coping and realising there was a hell of a lot more going on in my head than anxiety and depression alone.Walking along Newcastle Beach (like so many times before), I kick off Manchester Madness, a three-part series looking back at one of the most chaotic and important periods of my life. Part 1 is the build-up: disengaging from uni, drifting through life without much direction, and then suddenly having this huge adventure on the horizon.Manchester became more than a student exchange trip. In my head, it was going to be the place where I beat social anxiety, became confident, found myself and maybe even found love. For a while, I felt almost invincible.But underneath it all were patterns I didn't yet have names for — intense relationships, intrusive thoughts, jealousy, emotional instability and behaviours I would later understand very differently.This is the story before everything went off the rails. Before the diagnoses. Before I understood what was happening to me.And before Manchester changed everything.--Follow The Dysregulated Podcast: Instagram – @elliot.t.waters Facebook – The Dysregulated Podcast YouTube – The Dysregulated Podcast (Official Channel)Created by Elliot Waters — Inspired by lived experience. Mental health insights, real stories, real conversations.

Have you ever tried DBT, decided it didn't work for you, and wondered whether you were the problem?In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Xannie and Melanie sit down with DBT experts Dr. Shireen Rizvi and Dr. Jesse Finkelstein to talk about what happens between learning a DBT skill and actually being able to use it when everything is falling apart.The conversation gets into some harder questions too: Why do some people with BPD experience DBT as invalidating? What if your therapist says they “do DBT,” but the treatment looks nothing like adherent DBT? Can a client actually fail DBT? And how do you know when treatment itself needs to change?They also discuss what DBT looks like beyond worksheets and coping skills, the tension between accepting yourself and changing your behavior, and what it actually means to build a life worth living.If you've ever thought, “I tried DBT and it didn't work for me,” this conversation may help you ask a different question: What kind of DBT did I actually receive?Links/info:Real Skills for Real Life:Shireen and Jesse are also the authors of Real Skills for Real Life, a new guide designed to make DBT skills easier to understand, practice, and actually use in everyday life.The book stays true to the DBT model and research while using illustrations, graphics, and step-by-step explanations to make complicated concepts more accessible. Whether you're learning DBT for the first time, currently in treatment, or looking for a refresher on skills you've already learned, Real Skills for Real Life is designed to help bridge the gap between knowing a skill and putting it into practice.The DBT-RU Cartoons YouTube ChannelDr. Shireen Rizvi is a licensed clinical psychologist, board certified in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). She obtained her BA from Wesleyan University and her MS and PhD from the University of Washington. At the University of Washington, her mentor was Dr. Marsha Linehan, the developer of DBT. Over the past 25 years, Shireen has conducted research and training in DBT which has resulted in more than 100 peer-reviewed publications and book chapters. From 2009-2014, Shireen was Professor of Clinical Psychology at the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology (GSAPP) at Rutgers University. She currently serves at Director of Psychology Training and Director of DBT Services and Research at Montefiore Einstein in New York City.Visit shireenrizvi.com to find many free resources related to DBT.Dr. Jesse Finkelstein is a licensed clinical psychologist and Linehan Board–certified clinician in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). He obtained his BA from Brown University and his PsyD from the Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology at Rutgers University. Dr. Finkelstein completed his predoctoral internship at Montefiore Medical Center and his postdoctoral fellowship at Columbia University Irving Medical Center, where he later served as an Instructor in Clinical Psychology. His clinical work focuses on evidence-based treatments including DBT, CBT, ACT, and exposure-based therapies for individuals struggling with emotion dysregulation, anxiety, trauma, and relationship difficulties.He is the co-founder of Therahive, where he develops accessible, skills-based psychoeducation grounded in evidence-based practices. He is also the founder of Axis Psychology, a private practice in New York City. _____

Do Codependents over-function in BPD relationships or emotionally, in life, generally? The odd person/professional out there claims, yes, that's what's going on. No, it's not what is going on for anyone with Codependency. People with Codependency are not "over-functioning" they are under-functioning and dysfunctioning. People with Codependency have (from childhood woundedness, or adverse experience) an unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship to and with self. That is why people with Codependency are trying so hard to control the Borderline, to change him or her to rescue, to fix, to get back to who the fantasy bond of BPD initial idealization convinced you that he/she was. People with Codependency need their own therapy to heal what is largely in the unconscious and being repeated with a person with BPD. It's not all about the Borderline. Self=abandoning yourself, not being able to love yourself and lacking emotional and other boundaries cannot be "Over Functioning" and there is not such thing as a High-Functioning Codependent because that's not an accurate descriptor within the lens of what Codependency is at all. People with BPD (untreated -not clinically shown to have recovered) aren't who you thought they were. You can't change that. You can't wait around for them to do the 10+ years real BPD recovery requires. https://ajmahari.ca - Sessions - Contact - Bloghttps://ajmahari.com - Online Store - Ebooks & morehttps://survivingbpdrelationshipbreakup.com - Podcasts & Blog

Send us Fan MailThe respiratory severity score is one multiplication most of us already do in our heads, mean airway pressure times FiO2. This week Dr. Dinushan Kaluarachchi joins Journal Club to walk through three papers built on it, RSS trajectories across gestational age in the PROP cohort, an RSS based grading of BPD at 36 weeks, and RSS after 40 weeks as a predictor of tracheostomy. He also talks about writing that last paper with his son, a high school junior, and why a brief communication is a realistic on-ramp for students. Plus a preview of two upcoming trials, including surfactant given through a supraglottic airway.https://www.nature.com/collections/ejaffajdhi----Bronchopulmonary Dysplasia Definition Based on Respiratory Severity Score. Kaluarachchi DC, Peebles PJ, Lasarev MR, Guthrie SO, Laughon MM.Pediatr Pulmonol. 2026 Jul;61(7):e71750. doi: 10.1002/ppul.71750.PMID: 42478108 Free PMC article. No abstract available.Respiratory severity score patterns by birth gestational age among a cohort of extremely preterm infants. Peebles PJ, Lasarev MR, Guthrie SO, Laughon MM, Keller RL, Kaluarachchi DC.J Perinatol. 2026 Jun 29. doi: 10.1038/s41372-026-02778-8. Online ahead of print.PMID: 42374145 No abstract available.Respiratory severity score as a predictor for need for tracheostomy in infants with severe bronchopulmonary dysplasia. Kaluarachchi NM, Afah Annah S, Lasarev MR, Peebles PJ, Kaluarachchi DC.J Perinatol. 2026 Jun 25. doi: 10.1038/s41372-026-02720-y. Online ahead of print.PMID: 42350618 No abstract available.Support the showAs always, feel free to send us questions, comments, or suggestions to our email: nicupodcast@gmail.com. You can also contact the show through Instagram or Twitter, @nicupodcast. Or contact Ben and Daphna directly via their Twitter profiles: @drnicu and @doctordaphnamd. The papers discussed in today's episode are listed and timestamped on the webpage linked below.Enjoy!

In this episode, we look at the quiet ways people with BPD try to protect themselves from abandonment, emotional overwhelm, and the fear of losing control — and how those same strategies often keep the fear locked in place.You'll hear a clear breakdown of safety behaviors, why they feel necessary in the moment, and how they prevent the brain from learning that the catastrophe is either less likely or more survivable than it feels. We also walk through imaginal exposure and response prevention as a practical way to start interrupting the cycle.This is a straightforward, skills-focused episode for anyone who recognizes the urge to check, test, shut down, or escape when the emotion gets big.In this episode we cover:What safety behaviors actually are in BPDThe four main types (avoidance, escape, BPD-specific strategies, and subtle cognitive ones)Real examples of how these behaviors show up in relationships and with intense emotionWhy short-term relief keeps the long-term fear aliveHow imaginal exposure works and the key rules that make it effectiveBuilding a simple hierarchy of feared situations and emotionsWhat tends to shift when you practice staying with the feeling without the usual exitsFall Group – Starting September 30I'm running a small fall group beginning September 30. Space is limited on purpose so participants can actually practice these skills with support and feedback.If you've been wanting structured work around emotion regulation, abandonment fear, and breaking the safety-behavior cycle, this group is designed for that.Individual session openings are also available if you prefer one-on-one work.Details: thriveonlinecounseling.comBook a session with Rose or Jay: ⁠⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠⁠Call/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Fall group forming, register today!Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose .See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.

Have you ever been so used to feeling awful that you genuinely thought you were fine?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie Raf, Mo, Céline, and Madhurima sit down to talk about depressivity in borderline personality disorder (BPD), including the experiences they didn't always recognize as depression at the time.They talk about feeling completely numb while somehow still being in unbearable emotional pain, partying and using substances to avoid being alone with their thoughts, staying in bed for weeks, intense self-neglect, believing they were fundamentally worthless, and even convincing themselves that people only liked them because they had somehow “tricked” them. They also explore why depression sometimes became more obvious once the louder BPD behaviors began to quiet down.In this episode:* BPD and depression* BPD depressivity* Feeling empty or numb with BPD* Shame, worthlessness and self-hatred* Quiet BPD and internalized depression* Reckless behavior and substance use* Suicidal thoughts and hopelessness* BPD recovery and recognizing emotionsIf you've ever looked functional from the outside while privately wondering how much longer you could keep doing this, you may recognize yourself in this conversation.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

Today you hear the first part of Matt's story, who joins the pod to talk about his BPD, ADHD, and ASD diagnosis. We talk the impact of abandonment, his own parenting, and more. Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! EMPOWERED Voices: Recovery to ResiliencyA heartfelt podcast series that brings to light the challenges and triumphs of...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is deeply misunderstood, heavily stigmatized, and far more complex than just "being emotional". In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton breaks down the official BPD diagnostic criteria from the DSM, explaining how BPD symptoms actually present in real life, therapy offices, and everyday relationships. She explores the underlying fear of abandonment, idealization and devaluation (splitting), identity disturbances, and why BPD so frequently overlaps with PTSD, trauma, and ADHD. Plus, discover actionable evidence-based BPD treatment options like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Schema Therapy, and Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT) to help manage emotional dysregulation, navigate relationship boundaries, and work toward long-term remission. Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 01:00 - Why "Personality Disorder" is a Misleading Term 01:55 - How BPD is Diagnosed: DSM Criteria Overview 02:55 - BPD Symptom 1: Fear of Abandonment & Attachment Styles 04:45 - BPD Symptom 2: Splitting, Idealization & Devaluation 07:25 - BPD Symptom 3: Identity Disturbance & Chronic Emptiness 08:31 - BPD Symptom 4: Impulsivity in Daily Life 12:05 - BPD Symptom 5: Recurrent Suicidal Behavior & Self-Harm 16:05 - BPD Symptom 6: Affective Instability (BPD vs Bipolar Disorder) 18:18 - BPD Symptom 7: Chronic Feelings of Emptiness 19:22 - BPD Symptom 8: Inappropriate, Intense Anger 21:53 - BPD Symptom 9: Stress-Related Paranoia & Dissociation 25:14 - Is it BPD or Just Being Emotional? 26:46 - What Does Having "BPD Traits" Mean? 28:49 - BPD vs. Anxiety, ADHD, and PTSD Overlaps 33:25 - The Deep Link Between Childhood Trauma and BPD 40:21 - Why People with BPD Push Loved Ones Away 41:35 - What is Quiet BPD? 43:33 - Can You Have a Healthy Relationship with BPD? 47:53 - Setting Healthy Boundaries Without Triggering Abandonment 53:05 - Can BPD be Cured? Understanding BPD Remission 56:23 - BPD Treatment: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Explained 01:04:33 - Alternative Therapies: MBT, Schema Therapy, & TFP 01:08:30 - The Role of Medication in BPD Treatment YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY - Enjoy 10% OFF your first month If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co DISCLAIMER The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. #mentalhealth #therapist #borderline Ask Kati Anything ep.326 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever run away hoping someone would follow, panicked when plans changed, or treated someone needing space like proof they were about to leave?Xannie, André, Georgette, Carys, Katja, and Justin share what actually helped them manage fear of abandonment and separation insecurity in BPD. They talk about relationship testing, canceled plans, reassurance, friendship jealousy, losing themselves inside other people, and the difference between feeling abandoned and actually being abandoned.They also discuss the less glamorous parts of getting better: asking partners not to reinforce unhealthy behavior, building an identity outside a relationship, tolerating separation, checking the facts, coping ahead, and accepting losses that cannot be changed.Topics include:* BPD and fear of abandonment* Separation anxiety in relationships* Testing partners and running away* Reassurance seeking and canceled plans* Losing your identity in relationships* Friendship jealousy and fear of being replaced* DBT check the facts and radical acceptance* Recovering from BPD relationship behaviorsIf a delayed reply, canceled plan, or one person needing space can make your entire relationship feel endangered, this conversation will probably feel painfully familiar.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

In the 3rd episode of this mini series Talon and I talk about the first 5 steps in navigating conflict. P.S. these are hard and we are FAR from perfect with these things. Enjoy! View the worksheet HERESend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! EMPOWERED Voices: Recovery to ResiliencyA heartfelt podcast series that brings to light the challenges and triumphs of...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

If you've ever wondered whether Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) causes abuse, or whether someone is using their diagnosis to avoid accountability, this conversation tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in mental health and relationships. We break down the difference between emotional dysregulation and abusive behavior, explain why a diagnosis is never an excuse for manipulation, and discuss how untreated trauma can create destructive relationship patterns. You'll also learn about splitting, emotional reasoning, fear of abandonment, codependency, walking on eggshells, gaslighting, boundaries, attachment styles, DBT, accountability, and what genuine recovery actually looks like.Throughout this discussion, we share personal experiences with BPD, healing, therapy, and the work it takes to build emotionally healthy relationships. Whether you're living with Borderline Personality Disorder, dating someone with BPD, recovering from an abusive relationship, or simply trying to better understand trauma and emotional regulation, this episode offers practical insights without shame or stigma. Our goal isn't to label people as good or bad. It's to separate explanation from excuse, compassion from enabling, and help people recognize that healing begins when we take responsibility for what our pain produces.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

In this episode Rose Skeeters breaks down the intersection of gaslighting and borderline personality disorder with clear definitions, research-backed explanations, and practical tools. She covers how to tell the difference between true gaslighting and BPD-related dissociation or emotional reasoning, whether people with BPD gaslight others, the problem of self-gaslighting, and concrete steps for protection, boundaries, and repair.From Borderline to Beautiful — Real hope, real tools, real recovery.00:00 Introduction to Gaslighting and Its Relevance in BPD02:55 Understanding Gaslighting: Patterns and Signs04:34 Why Gaslighting Hits Harder in BPD05:53 Recognizing Patterns of Gaslighting09:55 Gaslighting vs Dissociation: Key Differences13:00 Unintentional Gaslighting in BPD16:30 Self-Gaslighting and Internal Invalidations18:29 Practical Strategies to Respond to Gaslighting22:10 Therapeutic Approaches for Reality Testing and Emotional Regulation23:48 Resources and Support for Gaslighting RecoveryBook a session with Rose or Jay: ⁠thriveonlinecounseling.com⁠Call/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Summer group wrapping up soon — Mid-Fall group forming (email today to save your spot)Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose .See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.

Have you ever been so afraid of losing someone that you monitored every change in their behavior, panicked when they spent time with someone else, or pushed them away before they could replace you?In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Carys, Katja, André, and Justin to talk about separation insecurity and fear of abandonment in BPD. They share what it was like when another person felt necessary for emotional survival, including obsessive reassurance seeking, leaving relationships first, trying to control a partner's behavior, and losing their sense of identity outside the relationship.The group also confronts some of the harder truths about these experiences: when desperate attempts to keep someone close become manipulative or frightening, why love can become tangled with primal fear, and how old losses can make every new relationship feel like another abandonment waiting to happen.Topics include:* BPD and fear of abandonment* Separation anxiety in relationships* Fear of being replaced* Relationship obsession and emotional dependence* Favorite person attachment* Pushing people away before they leave* Manipulative behavior and abandonment panic* Losing your identity in a relationshipIf you've ever panicked when someone took too long to reply, assumed another person would replace you, or left first because waiting to be abandoned felt unbearable, this episode is for you.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

In this episode, Dr. David Puder speaks with Robert Drozek, clinical director of the Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT) Clinic at McLean Hospital and teaching associate at Harvard Medical School, about practical Mentalization-Based Therapy techniques to improve clinical outcomes in borderline personality disorder (BPD), OCD, and narcissism. Drozek explains the "What, Why, and How" model of mentalizing, how to address psychic equivalence (rigid certainty), pretend mode, and teleological thinking, and offers concrete strategies clinicians can use in session and assign as between-session work to help patients reconnect with difficult emotions, reduce intellectualization, and develop more flexible, reflective ways of understanding themselves and others. Link to blog Link to YouTube video

In this episode, Dr. K sits down with Dr. Kirk Honda from Psychology in Seattle for a clinical deep dive into the complex world of personality disorders. Moving beyond surface-level symptoms, they break down the developmental trauma behind Avoidant and Schizoid Personality Disorders, share personal stories of childhood bullying, and explain what a true "corrective experience" in therapy actually looks like. What to expect in this episode: Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD): How childhood neglect combined with terrifying social experiences creates a deeply rooted "perceptual distortion" where an individual believes they are fundamentally defective and inherently rejectable. Social Anxiety vs. AvPD: Why the dividing line often comes down to insight—social anxiety sufferers usually know their fear is irrational when calm, while those with AvPD are completely convinced everyone can genuinely see their hidden "defect" or ridiculousness. The Schizoid Experience: Understanding why Schizoid Personality Disorder develops as a defense against severe neglect and intermittent, intense parental invasiveness (enmeshment), leading individuals to completely turn off their emotions to avoid being "invaded". Proto-Emotions: Why adults with Schizoid PD often feel emotionally numb, like "robots," or incorrectly assume they are sociopaths, and how their feelings are actually unevolved "proto-emotions" that were never safely mirrored during childhood. Staring into the Abyss: A look at the terrifying moment in depth therapy where a patient must confront their deepest fears of brokenness, and why taking a "leap of faith" with an attuned therapist is the key to creating neuroplastic change. The Healing Power of Attunement: A profoundly personal moment where Dr. Honda has a visceral, protective reaction to Dr. K's history of childhood bullying, perfectly demonstrating the exact real-time empathy and validation that trauma survivors need to heal. The "Reenactment" Trap: Why treating personality disorders requires intense "5D chess," as patients will unconsciously try to induce the therapist to recreate their childhood trauma, such as a Schizoid patient baiting the therapist to be invasive or a BPD patient inducing abandonment. Dr. K's NEW Guide to Love, Sex, & Relationships is here! Order now: https://bit.ly/4dO3x0VHG Coaching : https://bit.ly/46bIkdo Dr. K's Guide to Mental Health: https://bit.ly/44z3SztHG Memberships : https://bit.ly/3TNoMVf Products & Services : https://bit.ly/44kz7x0 HealthyGamer.GG: https://bit.ly/3ZOopgQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is part two of a BONUS series on couples work AKA the things couples can do to be successful in the relationships. Talon and I are working through various workbooks (all free and not copyrighted) and activities to help explore our own relationship skills and teach about relationship skills. Today we continue the focus on communication skills. Today's free worksheet we reference can be found HERE Workbooks you might like to purchase to work through: Love More Fight Less 8 Week Couple's Therapy Workbook 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work Hold Me Tight The Gottman Method HERESend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

In this powerful solo episode, Rose Skeeters opens up about one of the biggest hidden obstacles in her own BPD recovery: chronic judgmentalism. What felt like harmless criticism was actually a self-protective shield that blocked vulnerability, deepened fragmentation, and sabotaged the very connection and healing she craved.Rose breaks down how judgment functions as projection and shadow material, its damaging effects on mental health, self-image, relationships, and empathy, and most importantly — how to turn every judgmental thought into a golden doorway for shadow work and integration.If you've ever caught yourself being harshly critical of others (or yourself) and wondered why real healing felt out of reach, this episode will give you both insight and practical tools to break the cycle.From Borderline to Beautiful — Real hope, real tools, real recovery.Judgment is often a defense mechanism rooted in projection and unintegrated shadow partsHow being judgmental harms your nervous system, self-worth, relationships, and capacity for empathyWhy judgment blocks shadow integration and keeps the borderline brain fragmentedEvery strong judgment is a mirror — a powerful opportunity for healingPractical steps: Pause, own the projection, feel it in your body, journal, dialogue with the part, and integrateJudgment reinforces splitting; shadow work restores wholeness and values-based living00:00 – Welcome & personal story02:26 – Defining judgment and why it matters in recovery04:55 – How judgment harms your mental health07:22 – Impact on self-image and shadow integration09:26 – How it damages relationships and empathy13:09 – Shadow work explained (Jungian psychology & projection)17:32 – Turning judgment into shadow work: practical tools21:32 – Closing & resourcesBook a session with Rose or Jay: thriveonlinecounseling.comCall/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Summer group wrapping up soon — Mid-Fall group forming (email today to save your spot)Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.comFollow the show for more on BPD recovery, betrayal trauma, shadow work, values-based healing, and building authentic relationships.If this episode resonated, take one small action today: Notice your next judgmental thought and ask, “What part of me feels activated here?” Write it down. That single pause can begin to shift everything.You are loved. You are worthy. You are created with purpose.See you next week on From Borderline to Beautiful.

Lukas Gage (I Wrote This For Attention, Voicemails for Isabelle, and The White Lotus) is an actor and author. Lukas joins Armchair Expert to discuss growing up in a chaotic family in San Diego, surviving a brutal hate crime as a teenager, and being sent to a troubled teen wilderness program. Lukas and Dax talk about navigating Hollywood as a closeted actor, the surreal experience of getting married on The Kardashians, and Conor McGregor fracturing a disc in his back while filming Road House. Lukas explains how a BPD diagnosis changed the way he understood himself, how shame and secrecy can distort identity, and what it means to stop performing for other people's approval.Check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds: https://www.allstate.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.