WIDOW DOING LIFE

Just few hints for Fathers Day

What if it's possible that you can try new things and have fun doing it. What if the fear of failure, the fear of the unknown, the fear of being good at it, the fear of "anything" doesn't matter? What if it's just fun to try? In today's episode we talk about giving yourself permission to just have fun trying, and maybe you'll accidentally find part of you in the process. Come on in, I got you.

The Mother in law. How life coaching helped me survive having her with me for 3 months and The Big Move.

In this episode you get to decide IF you want to do them, if so how you want them to be. I give you hints to make them be more of what you want.

Just like you need to wear proper clothing for the weather or event you also need to wear the right thoughts about today to win today, to be prepared to offset grief bombs or negative thoughts that normally detail you.

Today I want to talk about why we as widows don't give ourselves the self love or worth we show a common stranger? Come in, let's chat.

Today we are going to talk about your grief story. Has yours ended? Is it a good story? What makes a good story? Today I'll show you how to make your grief story a “good” story! Come in, let's chat.

Grief isn't linear, or a contest. Sometimes we compare where we are going to where we are and then we get discouraged. If that's you, or you're wondering if you're “far enough” along or not where you think you should be. Come on in and let me help you, you're probably using the wrong measuring stick.

Identifying as a widow, seeing the world through your grief is keeping you stuck.  You have grief yes, your a widow, yes, but that is not all you are.   In this episode I show you how you identify and see world as a widow.  How we add to our isolation and lonliness and keep ourselves stuck, but blame others.   hmmm  Widows, take off your grief glasses, put them down and stomp on them.    Become your amazing beautiful self who happens to be a widow. 

What is holding you back, time, money? Or is it FEAR? I bet it's fear of something. Might even just be Fear others will see, or others do it better or You might fail. So What? Come on in and listen what do you have to lose? Face the fear come on in.

How are you living your life - just going through the motions? Dull? Empty? Are you tired of that yet? You know it's ok to LOVE life even with your grief - right? NO, well it is, let me show you how. Join Women Choosing Life and Loving It and let's do this. Want to know more or Sign up go to www.pamstoddard.com

July is a rough month for me. Randy's birthday is 1st. Our anniversary is the 11th. My sisters husband passed in the 3rd. But I love the 4th of July. So I choose to celebrate it. Listen in for how I do that.

Why is it as widow we are in decision drama? Today I give you 6 steps to help you not only make a decision but make a decision you can have your own back around.

People tell me all the time I'm strong and I don't feel like it. How do I know when I'm strong, why does it bother me when they tell me "you're so strong" In todays episode we look at: What does being strong mean to you, why do you judge it or them? When do you get to be strong? In what ways am I strong? Then you get to make a choice that just might change your life.

Father's Day can be rough, it was Randy's favorite holiday. He loved being a dad and for my beautiful daughters I'm sorry he is not here with you. From a widowed mothers perspective it's very hard, I see the hurt of my girls and it was a special day for me - being the momma of his babies, giving birth to them and watching him love them so big. As a daughter I miss my dad (daddio) so much as well. I felt lost and kinda abandoned when he passed away. I knew I still had a dad, but my thoughts were "I don't have a dad to give a card". That thought hurt. In todays episode we discuss how it's ok to do what you choose, to feel all the feels and make decisions that honor them and you. As moms we want to make sure our kids are ok and we can do that and still protect and love us. Happy Fathers Day Daddy I miss you. Honey, thank you for our beautiful girls they miss you, I see so much of you in them and thank you for loving them Big.

What are you waiting for or are you still planning to do this yourself. What if this is your lifeline to your life. What is Widows Doing Life is exactly where you should be today. Take a listen

In this episode we discuss what facts/truths are vs your story as a Widow.    I show you where you do it and how it keeps you stuck.  Finding the facts and knowing how to separate them from your story in all areas of your life, is always the prescription to more happiness.  I also tell you about my new program - Enrollment is going on now.  

Today on the Podcast I talk about how you are like a pilgrim How you can feel all the feelings this Thanksgiving and still "get on that boat" And I introduce you to my best friend "the power of AND". It's all your choice - Come on in!

In todays episode we I show you how to process your pain so you can decide to keep it or not. We look at how to decide what pain (feelings) are good for you and why and how we can keep some that normally would be negative. Most important we connect the dots between what happens in life and what we think about it. What we think creates our emotions and how we act from those emotions. This connection and work can be life changing. Come on in!

Where did my self Confidence go with my loss? Why did it seem to go? Does it make sense? How Confidence and Self Confidence are different. You were self confident once - what is stopping you now? How to learn to live your life and stop just existing with Self Confidence.

In today's episode we talk about limiting beliefs What they are and how they hold you back and limit you from the life of your dreams Come on in!

Welcome – today we are going to talk about Emotions – specifically: · What are emotions and what causes them and what they cause. · DIFFERENCE BETWEEN Useful/good CLEAN EMOTIONS emotions vs dirty negative emotions · I'LL GIVE YOU Examples of how WE CAN GROW FORWARD WITH CLEAN PAIN AND STAY STUCK AND STAGNATE WITH DIRTY PAIN. · How we create dirty pain for ourselves AND HOW IT IS ACTUALLY UNPROCESSED CLEAN PAIN · How dirty pain disempowers us.

In todays episode we talk about loneliness in grief. I haven't met a widow yet that doesn't list loneliness as one of their top 3 emotions. In this episode we'll discuss · What Loneliness is and it is not who you are. · How you create loneliness · What loneliness "means" and how that is different than "what it is" · How to respond vs react to loneliness

Tune in today to the next episode of Choosing Joy where I encourage your and give you 6 steps to "just do it", "just say yes" and create your life. We talk not only about the doing and being brave and processing your feelings, but we also talk about what to let go of that is holding you back. In today's episode I also give you details on my next program so don't miss out.

Almost Every Widow feels Guilt! Is it warranted? In this episode we discuss what guilt is, we discuss how it feels and I offer you an alternative to it. Come on in and let's see if you should be feeling guilt or not.

Fathers Day is one of those days that brings mixed emotions :( In this podcast we'll talk about the most common reasons we want to avoid it... you don't want to feel a feeling. I'll show you how to navigate that, how to allow any feeling, and how to process it and welcome it. We'll talk about how to plan ahead for the feelings that you expect and even how to respond when one shows up you didn't expect (grief grenades). What you do and don't do on Fathers day is up to you 100% - have your back. I'm going to show you how you limit your belief that you can do this day. I'll show you how to come up with ideas and what is blocking those ideas. You can do Fathers Day - come on in and take a listen and I'll help show you how. You got this... I got you.

Today we are talking about Valentines Day as a Widow. What does that mean to you? What do you plan to do on that day? Steps to do now to make it easier. How to help yourself through the day and take care of you. Happy Valentines to you in case no one else says it I wanted you to know I care.

Today is unplanned and unplugged. Christmas without your spouse sucks! Am I right? It does. But does that mean you go into despair and negative actions or does it mean you can still reach your goals and not change that at all. It's not about rainbows and daisies folks, nope it is what it is and you can still think it sucks and miss them and want them and still reach your goals. Join me today unedited, unscripted and raw. You got this.

You have a choice to respond vs react to holiday drama from family and friends. What if you choose to let them be them and act however they want and love them through it. That is an option available to you.

Grief leaves us unsure of ourselves so much of the time. We look to others and the world for what is right? Why? Is there a right or wrong in what we should do for the Holidays? There isn't, it only matters what you want. WE get so confused about our feelings and think we are sad because we see decorations and it makes us miss them. Truth is - the decorations had nothing to do with it. It was your thoughts about the decorations. Join me to today to discuss how we make the holidays harder than they need to be with drama around decorating.