Yo, so you’re here now. We’re Mel and Halima, two best friends from West London navigating the world together. From relationships, healing our inner children, being raised by first generation immigrant parents, and to figuring out our identities. We’re about to explore it all. Learn from our mistakes… but also, get therapy! Insta: @butaslogettherapy Ask us stuff: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy
Our season finale!!! Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima's mum learns the lesson of her life, returning to therapy after our therapists have toured the world and why Halima doesn't give people their flowers. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima saw a dead mole, which tube line has the buffest people and discussing trans masc identities in football. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima started boxing, the UK Supreme Court's decision is disgusting and harassment on the Victoria line. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Mel's use of the word voluptuous, what it's like being 'well into your 30s' and relationship to family. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Would we 'let' our parents date again, are we living our dream lives and why Halima will not drop me home. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Mel's has indigestion, Halima's back from South Africa and feeling vulnerable to ask for help. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our book and music recommendations, Mel returns to therapy and how to know if you want to have kids! Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Making up songs for your voice memos, guessing each other's daily meals and the continuation of Halima's friend making journey!Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
All the excuses we have for not uploading for an entire year! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Happy festive season! Hope everyone has had a great year! We are so sorry for our absence this year but we are back and better! Here's a little Christmas gift from us to you. Another episode of hypotheticals!
Breast milk vs breast butter, the return of Kimchi the dog and lots of cheating hypotheticals! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our season finale! Halima's dog nibling, family therapy and a special friend challenge. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima's office gremlin, Mel's trip to Portugal and more friendship anxiety! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima's dry microwaveable dinner, Lipstick Alley and our experiences going out out! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Mel's anxious attachment resurfaces, we went to watch Mahalia and people pleasing to our detriment! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Accidentally calling your friend 'baby', friends with different political views and gentrifiers can go to hell. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima is back from Brazil, navigating the gym as a femme person and feeling unsafe as a trans person. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our love child (Plant Club), how do you go about finding community and feeling lonely in a big city. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Do you man want a patreon, doing up baby voices in front of your friends and what parts of your inner child are you still trying to heal? Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our first guest ever! We have @Junebellebabe with us this episode discussing running away from London, dating men as a non-binary trans femme person and what our types really are! We want to apologise for the sound quality this episode, it's our first time recording with 3 people in the same tiny room! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy June: @junebellebabe Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
We are back with SEASON 4!!! This week we're talking all things friends of friends! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Boundaries, boundaries, and more boundaries! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Mel's love for brick phones, M&S has boooookey white staff and and how to have love for exes and ex-friends. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Thanking people at zebra crossings, Father's Day was shit and how we want to be celebrated! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our weekend in Cornwall, Halima surfing and our feelings of resent in life! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Would we ever date, what can garlic NOT save and what we bring to friendships! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Wearing the same outfit three days in the row, how being alone makes us feel and asking for space from your partner! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Showing up at your friend's house unannounced, meeting your friend's parents and navigating relationships with your partner's parents. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Han's Tattoo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/han.gunji/ (@han.gunji) Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Dating someone who can't sing, feeling ugly and unlearning our fatphobia! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima's work crush, our first jobs and imposter syndrome! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
What we've been up to over the last 6 months, grief, loss and how expensive funerals are! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D Follow @han.gunji on instagram if you want a tattoo!
Merry Christmas from us to you! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Happy season finale! Today we talk about shit sunday roasts, reflecting on our year in 2022 and our hopes for the coming new year! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
LinkedIn wankers, dealing with anger and how to self-regulate! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Halima never getting the ick, how we assimilated in this england and a disclaimer to white people! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Toilet etiquette, how to know when to break up and checking in on our friendship! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Stalking your friends, things we still can't forgive ourselves for and tips on how to forgive yourself! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Which colour would Halima move to, our relationship to alcohol growing up and surface level friendships! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
What we brought to therapy this week, cleaning your airpods and attachment styles part 2! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our relationship to money individually, in a relationship and with friends! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Mel gets recognised, parents showing affection and our first break up message! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Holidaying with friends, chicken kievs and Halima's evil ring! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
OUR SEASON FINALE! Body image and gender dysphoria during sex, sexuality and masturbation! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Lipsing your dog, comparing yourself to your friends and judging your partner on their job. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
What our first learned ideas of gender were, being misgendered and accepting you're transphobic! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our anxious attachment styles, white people at christmas and is liking someone only because they're buff a bad thing? Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our relationship to our parents and their mental health, Halima's Geordie accent and another listener letter! TRIGGER WARNING TIME STAMPS: 41:30 - Suicide Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Our family dynamic around food, fat-phobia and being a French rat. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Interracial dating, loving missionary and "I don't find my partner attractive". Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D
Friendship break-ups, keeping your ex's number and our first ever listener letter! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Antonio: @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D