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Yo, so you’re here now. We’re Mel and Halima, two best friends from West London navigating the world together. From relationships, healing our inner children, being raised by first generation immigrant parents, and to figuring out our identities. We’re about to explore it all. Learn from our mistakes… but also, get therapy! Insta: @butaslogettherapy Ask us stuff: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy

But also, get therapy


    • Jun 2, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    But also, to be loved is to be considered

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2025 91:01


    Our season finale!!! Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    loved
    But also, I'm funding my therapist's soft life

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 70:35


    Halima's mum learns the lesson of her life, returning to therapy after our therapists have toured the world and why Halima doesn't give people their flowers. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    therapists funding soft life halima
    But also, transport for lusting

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 83:15


    Halima saw a dead mole, which tube line has the buffest people and discussing trans masc identities in football. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    transport halima lusting
    But also, bank holiday blues

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2025 70:01


    Halima started boxing, the UK Supreme Court's decision is disgusting and harassment on the Victoria line. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    holiday blues bank holiday uk supreme court halima
    But also, move to my girl then

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2025 72:25


    Mel's use of the word voluptuous, what it's like being 'well into your 30s' and relationship to family. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    girl
    But also, a cheeky bit of transphobia

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2025 88:21


    Would we 'let' our parents date again, are we living our dream lives and why Halima will not drop me home. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    cheeky transphobia halima
    But also, too busy crying outside the club

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2025 87:40


    Mel's has indigestion, Halima's back from South Africa and feeling vulnerable to ask for help. Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    club south africa busy crying halima
    But also, what's the return policy on kids?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2025 86:35


    Our book and music recommendations, Mel returns to therapy and how to know if you want to have kids! Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    kids return policy
    But also, do you wanna be mates?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2025 65:43


    Making up songs for your voice memos, guessing each other's daily meals and the continuation of Halima's friend making journey!Follow us!Insta: @butalsogettherapyMel: @kingtofu__Halima: @iknoeaguyMusic by @antonioroldao_Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    mates halima
    But also, foes to friends

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2025 95:02


    All the excuses we have for not uploading for an entire year! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    friends foes
    But also, the Ghost-ing of Christmas Past

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2024 63:03


    Happy festive season! Hope everyone has had a great year! We are so sorry for our absence this year but we are back and better! Here's a little Christmas gift from us to you. Another episode of hypotheticals!

    christmas ghosts christmas past
    But also, breast milk butter

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2023 68:10


    Breast milk vs breast butter, the return of Kimchi the dog and lots of cheating hypotheticals! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    butter breast breast milk kimchi
    But also, thank you for your review

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2023 77:12


    Our season finale! Halima's dog nibling, family therapy and a special friend challenge. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    halima
    But also, what's the 'crack'

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2023 58:50


    Halima's office gremlin, Mel's trip to Portugal and more friendship anxiety! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    portugal halima
    But also, jeggings were never in

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2023 67:47


    Halima's dry microwaveable dinner, Lipstick Alley and our experiences going out out! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    halima jeggings
    But also, needs? I don't know her

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2023 64:12


    Mel's anxious attachment resurfaces, we went to watch Mahalia and people pleasing to our detriment! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    But also, get racist

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2023 65:45


    Accidentally calling your friend 'baby', friends with different political views and gentrifiers can go to hell. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    racist accidentally
    But also, do you even lift, bro?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2023 74:36


    Halima is back from Brazil, navigating the gym as a femme person and feeling unsafe as a trans person.  Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    brazil lift halima
    But also, gripse thy neighbour

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 82:30


    Our love child (Plant Club), how do you go about finding community and feeling lonely in a big city. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    neighbours
    But also, 'your inner child' joined the chat

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2023 74:01


    Do you man want a patreon, doing up baby voices in front of your friends and what parts of your inner child are you still trying to heal? Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    inner child
    But also, June in September

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2023 83:00


    Our first guest ever! We have @Junebellebabe with us this episode discussing running away from London, dating men as a non-binary trans femme person and what our types really are! We want to apologise for the sound quality this episode, it's our first time recording with 3 people in the same tiny room! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy June: @junebellebabe Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    But also, a friend of a friend of a friend

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2023 71:22


    We are back with SEASON 4!!! This week we're talking all things friends of friends! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    friend
    But also, we'd prefer if you didn't

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2023 66:17


    Boundaries, boundaries, and more boundaries! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    boundaries prefer
    But also, should I unblock you?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2023 69:53


    Mel's love for brick phones, M&S has boooookey white staff and and how to have love for exes and ex-friends. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    unblock
    But also, hbd lol

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2023 64:16


    Thanking people at zebra crossings, Father's Day was shit and how we want to be celebrated! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    father thanking
    But also, content with resent

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2023 65:23


    Our weekend in Cornwall, Halima surfing and our feelings of resent in life! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    cornwall resent halima
    But also, old buddy old pal

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2023 72:36


    Would we ever date, what can garlic NOT save and what we bring to friendships! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    buddy old pal
    But also, divorce is always on the table

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 67:53


    Wearing the same outfit three days in the row, how being alone makes us feel and asking for space from your partner! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    table divorce wearing
    But also, is your mum home?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2023 68:22


    Showing up at your friend's house unannounced, meeting your friend's parents and navigating relationships with your partner's parents. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Han's Tattoo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/han.gunji/ (@han.gunji) Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    But also, come as you are

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2023 67:06


    Dating someone who can't sing, feeling ugly and unlearning our fatphobia! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    dating
    But also, working 9 to Fine

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2023 79:09


    Halima's work crush, our first jobs and imposter syndrome! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    halima
    But also, call me when it gets better

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 79:09


    What we've been up to over the last 6 months, grief, loss and how expensive funerals are! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D Follow @han.gunji on instagram if you want a tattoo!

    But also, enjoy your Christmas bonus

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 25, 2022 55:52


    Merry Christmas from us to you! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    christmas merry christmas
    But also, I did nothing wrong this year

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2022 79:31


    Happy season finale! Today we talk about shit sunday roasts, reflecting on our year in 2022 and our hopes for the coming new year! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    nothing wrong
    But also, you're on smoke

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2022 73:00


    LinkedIn wankers, dealing with anger and how to self-regulate! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    smoke
    But also, wtf is bubble and squeak?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2022 72:31


    Halima never getting the ick, how we assimilated in this england and a disclaimer to white people! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    bubbles squeak halima
    But also, two break-ups away from peace

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2022 75:05


    Toilet etiquette, how to know when to break up and checking in on our friendship! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    peace toilet breakups
    But also, forgive yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022 69:53


    Stalking your friends, things we still can't forgive ourselves for and tips on how to forgive yourself! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    forgive stalking
    But also, I'm sorry about last night

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022 73:29


    Which colour would Halima move to, our relationship to alcohol growing up and surface level friendships! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    halima sorry about last night
    But also, it's okay if they leave you

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2022 89:28


    What we brought to therapy this week, cleaning your airpods and attachment styles part 2! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    But also, transfer me 12p

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2022 78:18


    Our relationship to money individually, in a relationship and with friends! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    But also, do your parents lipse?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2022 78:42


    Mel gets recognised, parents showing affection and our first break up message! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    parents
    But also, 23kg of emotional baggage

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2022 76:13


    Holidaying with friends, chicken kievs and Halima's evil ring! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    emotional baggage halima
    But also, anyone can get it

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2022 71:35


    OUR SEASON FINALE! Body image and gender dysphoria during sex, sexuality and masturbation! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    body
    But also, they're evil eyeing you

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2022 77:57


    Lipsing your dog, comparing yourself to your friends and judging your partner on their job. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    evil eyeing
    But also, gender is fake

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2022 77:05


    What our first learned ideas of gender were, being misgendered and accepting you're transphobic! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    fake gender
    But also, when will you love me?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2022 85:30


    Our anxious attachment styles, white people at christmas and is liking someone only because they're buff a bad thing? Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    But also, your parents should get therapy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2022 72:24


    Our relationship to our parents and their mental health, Halima's Geordie accent and another listener letter! TRIGGER WARNING TIME STAMPS: 41:30 - Suicide Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    parents therapy geordie halima
    But also, eat it, it's good for you

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2022 87:53


    Our family dynamic around food, fat-phobia and being a French rat. Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    french
    But also, it's probably a fetish

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2022 75:27


    Interracial dating, loving missionary and "I don't find my partner attractive". Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Music by @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

    fetish interracial
    But also, it's not you, it's us

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2022 60:28


    Friendship break-ups, keeping your ex's number and our first ever listener letter! Follow us! Insta: @butalsogettherapy Mel: @kingtofu__ Halima: @iknoeaguy Antonio: @antonioroldao_ Get in touch with us at: butalsogettherapy@gmail.com :D

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