Choose You | Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:I’ll give you some coping strategies to help survive COVID 19 lock down while living with a narcissist or other toxic peopleTools & Resources from This Episode:Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/No Contact guide https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/National Domestic Violence HotlineWebsite https://www.thehotline.org/help/Phone: 1-800-799-7233Chat: https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/My Plan App: https://www.myplanapp.org/homeIf you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We Are Talking About: I'll give you some Coping strategies to help survive COVID 19 lockdown while living with a narcissist or other toxic people   Downloads, Episode Resources & Discussion: Episode #17 Page Do you have questions? Need to vent to someone who's been there? Text me directly & privately. https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:Strategies to help survive the COVID 19 self isolation, while taking care of your mental and emotional health. Tools & Resources from This Episode:Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/No Contact guide: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/Text chat: carmensakurai.com/textcoachIf you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We Are Talking About: Strategies to help survive the COVID 19 self isolation, while taking care of your mental and emotional health. Download All Episode Resources & Discussion: Episode #16 Page Do you have questions? Need to vent to someone who's been there? Text me directly & privately. https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:I'm frequently asked by survivors if instead of going no contact, they should try and understand the hows and whys the narcissist in their life became that way... and if they should stick around to give the narcissist the love, compassion, and patience they seem to lack in their lives.Tools & Resources from This Episode:Private Facebook Group and/or Weekly Zoom Meeting Interest Survey - Cast your vote! (https://carmensakurai.com/cy-survey)Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List (https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup)If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About: I'm frequently asked by survivors if instead of going no contact, they should try and understand the hows and whys the narcissist in their life became that way… and if they should stick around to give the narcissist the love, compassion, and patience they seem to lack in their lives.   Episode Resources & Discussion: Episode #15 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:I will be addressing some important issues regarding victim shaming and victim blaming, and how those who are not familiar with NPD abuse inadvertently re-traumatize survivors.4 Victim Shaming False BeliefsAnd more…Tools & Resources from This Episode:Private Facebook Group and/or Weekly Zoom Meeting Interest Survey - Cast your vote! (https://carmensakurai.com/cy-survey)Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List (https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup)Permission To Thrive (My blog on Psych Central): https://blogs.psychcentral.com/permission-to-thrive/If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About: I will be addressing some important issues regarding victim shaming and victim blaming, and how those who are not familiar with NPD abuse inadvertently re-traumatize survivors. 4 False Victim Shaming Beliefs And more…   Episode Resources & Discussion: Episode #14 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:I'll be going into depth about the narcissistic mother - the scariest and most harmful of all personalities.A mother's role in shaping us as individuals and how we fit into the world.9 ways narcissistic mothers abuse their children - with explanations and stories from survivors.NOTE: The assistance of a professional and knowledgeable therapist, counselor, or coach to help you effectively progress through your healing and recovery... especially if you are working through childhood trauma, is strongly advised.If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims... and moreTools & Resources from This Episode:Grab Your WorksheetTHIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES…Damages Caused by NarcissistsCommon Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic AbuseA Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc.Carmen’s 20-Month Long Distance Relationship with a NarcissistIf you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About: Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is 8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists 12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims … and more Share Your Thoughts: Episode #13 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:I'll be covering some strategies to help working with a narcissist more productive and tolerableWhat a narcissistic boss or coworker looks like10 tips to help make working with a narcissist more productive and tolerableWhen you should call it "quits"... and moreIf you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About: I'll be covering some strategies to help working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable What a narcissistic boss or coworker looks like 10 tips to help make working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable When you should call it “quits” … and more Share Your Thoughts: Episode #12 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

We're Talking About: I'll be going into depth about the narcissistic mother – the scariest and most harmful of all personalities. A mother's role in shaping us as individuals and how we fit into the world. 9 ways narcissistic mothers abuse their children – with explanations and stories from survivors. NOTE: The assistance of a professional and knowledgeable therapist, counselor, or coach to help you effectively progress through your healing and recovery… especially if you are working through childhood trauma, is strongly advised. Share Your Thoughts: Episode #11 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

We're Talking About: Can things ever go back to the way they used to be? Can You Fix a Narcissist? Can they change for the better? With therapy? Or more love? Does the narcissist miss me after breakup? Share Your Thoughts: Episode #10 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:Why NPD Education and No Contact is NOT Enough to heal9 Action Steps I used to help move from survival mode - to REAL recoveryHow to Correctly do No Contact (FREE Downloadable Guide)And more…Tools & Resources from This Episode:Episode 9 WorksheetFREE No Contact GuideThis guide includes...Why No Contact Is REQUIREDHow To Properly Do NO ContactHow To Properly Do MODIFIED ContactBegin The Healing ProcessWhy We Break No Contact And How To Successfully Defend It... and more.If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About: Why NPD Education and No Contact is NOT Enough to heal 9 Action Steps I used to help move from survival mode – to REAL recovery How to Correctly do No Contact (FREE Downloadable Guide) And more… Share Your Thoughts: Episode #09 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup  

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:What boundaries are and how they protect usTypes of boundariesWhy some people naturally have strong boundaries while others have none set4-Steps to begin establishing and enforcing powerful boundariesAnd more…Tools & Resources from This Episode:Grab Your WorksheetTHIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES...Comprehensive 10-step boundary creationYour custom boundaries chartStrategies to turn defending your boundaries into habitIf you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're Talking About: What boundaries are and how they protect us Types of boundaries Why some people naturally have strong boundaries while others have none set 4-Steps to begin establishing and enforcing powerful boundaries And more… Share Your Thoughts: Episode #08 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup  

I opened up the "Q&A submission form" recently and one of the most asked question is: I think I'm a narc magnet! How do I stop it? So I wanted to dedicate an episode to answer this question. We're Talking About: What types of people do narcissists target? The lesser known, scientific phenomena that draws the narc and victims towards each other What you can do now to protect yourself – regardless of where you are in your healing journey And more… Share Your Thoughts: Episode #07 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup  

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're discussing:Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very real illness. In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, NPD is categorized as a cluster B personality disorder - along with psychopathy and sociopathy.Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder (refresher)The cause of this disorderHow this disorder affects the narc's logic and behaviorAnd more...If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

We're discussing: Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very real illness. In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, NPD is categorized as a cluster B personality disorder – along with psychopathy and sociopathy. Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder (refresher) The cause of this disorder How this disorder affects the narc's logic and behavior And more… Share Your Thoughts: Episode #06 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup

I added another segment titled, “Q&A Tuesday” where I dedicate the entire episode answering listener questions. We're Talking About: Can narcissists love? Can they love their children? Should I warn the new victim? The narcissistic ex was active in their church and charitable causes. Does this mean s/he has the ability to care about others? Share Your Thoughts: Episode #05 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup      

We're Talking About: The holidays are here! I'm sharing ideas I personally used to survive the holidays post breakup. Share Your Thoughts: Episode #04 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup      

I decided to add a new a segment titled, "Myth Busting" because there's an overwhelming amount of false information about narcissistic abuse... causing unnecessary grief to survivors who need solid information to help support their healing. The myth we will be busting today is: Narcissists Do Not Have Empathy Share Your Thoughts: Episode #03 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup      

We're discussing: How narcissists are able to move on so quickly after the breakup of even a serious, long term relationship What it means to be loved by a narcissist What it means when the narcissist flaunts your “replacement.” And more… Share Your Thoughts: Episode #02 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup    

We're Discussing: Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics Narcissistic Traits vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder Why Narcissists Do What They Do Emotional Empathy vs. Cognitive Empathy Post NPD Breakup: Disbelief and Denial Types of Narcissistic Abusers And more… Share Your Thoughts: Episode #01 Page Articles, Courses, Free Guides & Checklists: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup      

Welcome to the Choose You Podcast A weekly audio coaching program to provide survivors of narcissistic abuse with validation, solid answers, and real-life solutions to help heal and break free from this dangerous cycle. Hosted by Certified Life Strategist and advocate for victims of narcissistic abuse, Carmen Sakurai NPD Abuse Recovery Site: https://npd.carmensakurai.com  Text Me Your Questions: https://carmensakurai.com/textcoach Join My Support Group: https://carmensakurai.com/emailgroup  

We're Talking About:Can things ever go back to the way they used to be?Can You Fix a Narcissist? Can they change for the better? With therapy? Or more love?Does the narcissist miss me after breakup?If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:What types of people do narcissists target?The lesser known, scientific phenomena that draws the narc and victims towards each otherWhat you can do now to protect yourself - regardless of where you are in your healing journeyAnd more...If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:Can narcissists love? Can they love their children?Should I warn the new victim?The narcissistic ex was active in their church and charitable causes. Does this mean s/he has the ability to care about others?If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWe're Talking About:The holidays are here! I'm sharing ideas I personally used to survive the holidays post breakup.If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyWhat We're Talking AboutI decided to add a new a segment titled, “Myth Busting" because there's an overwhelming amount of false information about narcissistic abuse... causing unnecessary grief to survivors who need solid information to help support their healing.The myth we will be busting today is: Narcissists Do Not Have EmpathyIf you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyIt’s mind-boggling, to say the least. I was so sure the narc was “with me” 100%, but he clearly wasn’t. Breakups between two healthy people usually have a “recovery” period regardless of how the split took place. However, narcs are not capable of emotionally bonding like we do… so there was nothing for them to recover from.We’re Discussing:How narcissists are able to move on so quickly after the breakup of even a serious, long term relationshipWhat it means to be loved by a narcissistWhat it means when the narcissist flaunts your “replacement.”And more…If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

Download on iTunes or listen on SpotifyMy goal for this episode is to give you the validation you need during this frightening and confusing time... as well as the basic understanding of what narcissistic personality disorder is, and the damages they cause.We’re Discussing:Narcissistic Manipulation TacticsNarcissistic Traits vs. Narcissistic Personality DisorderWhy Narcissists Do What They DoEmotional Empathy vs. Cognitive EmpathyPost NPD Breakup: Disbelief and DenialTypes of Narcissistic AbusersAnd more…If you feel like you’re reaching the end of your rope with nowhere to turn, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. In an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.Tools & Resources from This Episode:Grab Your WorksheetTHIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES…Damages Caused by NarcissistsCommon Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic AbuseA Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc.Carmen’s 20-Month Long Distance Relationship with a Narcissist☕ Dig This Episode? You can now “buy me a coffee” and help me stay alert as I organize and release content for Choose YOU!Thank You for contributing to the healing of this community & supporting me in spreading awareness of NPD Abuse! ❤️‍🩹https://carmensakurai.com/buymeacoffee📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-CoachingDoes your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP!https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free ResourcesAfter my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://npd.carmensakurai.com/💌 Was this Show Helpful?Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you!Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Survivors' Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe