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Last week, in part one, we talked about three common behaviors many of us carry after leaving a narcissistic relationship: hypervigilance and people-pleasing, difficulty trusting our perceptions, and emotional dysregulation or numbness. In this week's episode of The Love Your Life Show, we're talking about how to break free from those patterns so you can move forward with more peace, confidence, and joy. You'll learn practical, compassionate steps for: Calming hypervigilance and reclaiming your energy Rebuilding trust in your own thoughts and feelings Regulating emotions and reconnecting to yourself If you've ever wondered “I'm out… but why do I still feel stuck?” this episode will give you the tools to start shifting your life in small, powerful ways. This is your next step in healing — and you don't have to do it alone. If you liked this show, don't miss part one last week! Also, here's another great one: How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/62-how-to-raise-emotionally-empowered-kids/id1434429161?i=1000452847373 How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Yp3R4Un5XBfMtcPczNp7l?si=d3d8d72f989a422c This is an extra special important one to share with someone you care about in your life. Please click the link and share away. Also, it's my birthday week! ☕️For the price of a coffee, please head to https://patreon.com/susiepettit to support my mission and me, while I sit here week after week, year after year, bringing you tips and support to live a life you love. You matter to me, warrior!
What happens when you've spent a lifetime unseen, unchosen, and defined by someone else's story? In this episode of Mother Mayhem, a daughter asks: Who Am I, really? Together, we explore:Why daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers often feel dissociated or split from themselvesHow dissociation shows up in daily life and gentle ways to come back into the presentWhy listening and gathering resources without acting is a trauma response, not a failureHow to begin bridging head and heart after years of survival modeWhat to do with rage and grief when confronting a mother won't bring healingHow identity is reclaimed, not reinvented and why it's never too late to beginThis episode offers both a clinical lens and a community one. It reminds daughters that healing happens in connection, not isolation.If you've ever wondered who you are beyond the roles you were given, or how to carry rage and grief without being consumed by them, this conversation will meet you right where you are.And if you're looking to be a sponsor of the show or want to know more about connecting with other Mayhem daughters, you can find us at MayhemDaughters.com
On this episode of the Enough is Enough podcast, Dr. David Clarke tackles five excuses that keep you trapped in a toxic relationship with a narcissist. Learn key relationship advice to break free and start your journey of emotional abuse recovery. Together, let's explore the path of self healing and embrace life after narcissistic abuse. .https://www.davideclarkephd.com/
The Truth About Empaths, Childhood Trauma, and Shadow Work Are empaths born—or made? In this eye-opening episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach and bestselling author, explores the origin of empathic sensitivity and its powerful connection to childhood trauma, emotional wounding, and spiritual purpose. Some empaths are created through painful early experiences—rejection, abandonment, emotional neglect, and feeling unseen. These wounds condition the developing brain into hypervigilance, keeping the child's psyche locked in "scanning mode." When a child is forced to tune into the emotions and behavior of others to feel safe, they become disconnected from their true self—and this is the breeding ground for codependency. Other empaths are born, arriving with a spiritual assignment. Their nervous systems and emotional bodies are designed to feel what others suppress. Often, these empathic souls absorb the denied pain of their caregivers—especially unhealed maternal figures. Over time, these empaths become sensitive not just to individual pain, but to the collective suffering that society ignores. But without proper tools, empaths can become emotionally capsized, overwhelmed by the very gift they were meant to use consciously. That's why Lisa teaches empaths how to use symbols, metaphors, and boundaries to reframe their experience, and to reclaim the connection to self that trauma stole. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who: Feels deeply affected by other people's moods and energies Grew up walking on emotional eggshells Struggles with codependency, people-pleasing, or emotional burnout Wants to understand the true purpose behind their empathic gifts You'll also learn why many empaths feel called to “fix” or “rescue” others—and why this often stems from unresolved inner child wounds, not divine purpose. Healing begins when we stop absorbing and start integrating. Lisa shares why true transformation for empaths lies in shadow work, conscious integration, and elevating the nervous system. Those brave enough to face their own shadows don't just heal themselves—they become vessels for generational healing. ✨ Pro tip: You may want to listen to this episode more than once. It's packed with golden nuggets that could change your life. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.
You didn't just wake up one day and decide to slap them.That moment — the one that now fills you with shame and self-blame — didn't come out of nowhere. It's been building for a long time. In this episode, Renee Swanson explores what happens when years of emotional invalidation, manipulation, and gaslighting finally push you past your breaking point. When your calm exterior cracks, and your reaction — whether yelling, slamming a door, or even lashing out — leaves you wondering, “What's wrong with me?” With deep compassion and truth, Renee explains the nervous system's response to chronic emotional stress, how covert narcissists weaponize your reactions, and why a single moment does not define your character. You'll hear a powerful story of one survivor who reached her limit — and how Renee helped her see that vulnerability and accountability can exist alongside self-forgiveness. This episode isn't about condoning reactive behavior. It's about understanding it — and breaking free from the shame that keeps survivors stuck in silence. If you've ever felt deep remorse after snapping, this conversation will help you see your humanity with new eyes. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Adam creates a hypnosis session for a client suffering from narcissistic abuse to help them rebuild self-belief and activate the inner strength they had in the past.
Hey, Survivor! What's with the laughing, joking, smirking, during serious court hearings, like a murder trial? In this episode, I'll explain why people (including the narcissist, witnesses, counsel, judges, even you) sometimes laugh, joke, or smirk during serious hearings — why it can be triggering — and provide holistic tools to protect your body, mind, and spirit. Other people's behavior is their business. But your health and healing is your business. Your health matters! If you, or someone you know, are struggling to understand what's so funny when lives have been ruined or lost, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
Marriage and other long term relationships can be wonderful, but they can also be tough. It's natural to expect--and even believe--that romantic partnerships should last forever. Yet, in real life, many love relationships fall apart due to factors such as ongoing differences, a lack of connection, betrayal, health issues, or abuse. And, in some cases, a terrible combination of these issues can cause the relationship to slowly fray or explode. It can be tempting to stay--to weather the storm and hope it gets better--but sometimes the healthiest option is making that tough choice to exit the situation. And while divorce and other relationship endings can come with many heavy costs ranging from financial struggles to deep emotional drain, sometimes the price you pay to stay is far more devastating. Join me and a brilliant self-care advocate, attorney, and former domestic violence judge, Michele Locke, for a deep dive into unhealthy relationships, narcissism, and divorce. Topics discussed include marriage, long-term relationships, narcissism, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, spiritual abuse, financial abuse, support groups, self-growth, courage, communication, self-care, self-love, anxiety, fear, physical health, children, parenting, finances, domestic violence, survivors, victims, and boundaries. Please note that this episode may contain sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.Emergency Assistance Note: If you or someone you know needs immediate support, please call your emergency services. In the US, 24/7 help is available by calling "911" or "988" (Suicide and Crisis Hotline). Support/informational links are in the show notes. IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: No expert in this (or any episode) is offering medical or psychological direction; the content is purely informational in nature. Please consult your physician or healthcare provider before undertaking any new regimen or procedure.https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:Website: https://www.drcarlamanly.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlamanly/Twitter/X: https://www.twitter.com/drcarlamanly/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcarlamanlyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carla-marie-manly-8682362b/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.carlamariemanly8543TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_carla_manlyBooks by Dr. Carla Manly:Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love FearlesslyAging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and BeyondThe Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached RelationshipsOracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:EtsyAmazonConnect with Michele Locke:Website: https://www.michelelocke.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-locke/Podcast: https://www.michelelocke.com/podcastLove the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://drcarlamanly.com/
What happens when survivors of covert narcissistic abuse come together in one safe space? At our recent CNG retreat, fifteen women gathered with fear, doubt, hope, and courage. Some were terrified to share their stories, afraid of judgment or dismissal. Others were overflowing with relief at finally being heard. In this episode, I reflect on the lessons and transformations from that weekend: the power of connection, the validation that comes from shared stories, and the healing that happens when silence turns into vulnerability. If you've ever wondered whether community can help you heal from covert narcissistic abuse, this conversation is for you. Your story matters, and you deserve to be heard without judgment. If you're ready to take the next step toward healing, check out my coaching services at www.covertnarcissism.com. And don't forget to subscribe for more empowering episodes like this one. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
On the surface, you may look like the model employee, partner, or friend: always dependable, always agreeable. But beneath the surface, you may be carrying a lifetime of survival strategies that keep you invisible in your own life. This is the story Dr. Ingrid Clayton knows both personally and professionally, and it's the story she helps so many of us begin to rewrite. Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with advanced degrees in transpersonal and clinical psychology. She has maintained a thriving private practice for more than fifteen years and writes the popular Psychology Today blog, Emotional Sobriety, which has been read by over a million people. Her latest book, FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find Our Way Back, unpacks the subtle but profound ways we abandon ourselves by prioritizing others' approval. In our conversation, Ingrid reflects on her own experience as a childhood trauma survivor and how it revealed the fawning response: the instinct to please and appease in order to stay safe. Unlike fight, flight, or freeze, fawning resembles caretaking, compliance, and endless yeses, but it often leaves us feeling resentful and disconnected from our own needs. She explains how this adaptation becomes ingrained in the nervous system, how it shapes our relationships and careers, and why breaking the cycle can feel like stepping into the firing line. Yet within that discomfort lies the path to healing. Ingrid offers tangible practices for reclaiming your agency: pausing before you agree, noticing where resentment signals self-abandonment, and daring to let your voice be heard even when it shakes. Listen in to discover how to stop surviving on others' terms and begin living on your own! Key Highlights From This Episode: An introduction to Dr. Ingrid Clayton and her new book on fawning. [02:17] Ingrid's personal story of childhood trauma and survival. [04:40] Defining the fawning response and how it differs from fight, flight, or freeze. [06:19] The spectrum of trauma responses and how conditioning reinforces fawning. [12:16] Signs of an ongoing fawning trauma response and why conflict feels unsafe. [15:02] How fawning embeds in the nervous system and what it takes to heal. [19:59] What happens in the body during the fawning trauma response. [22:22] Fawning behaviors and skills, where they originate, and why they're so common. [26:43] Practical grounding tools to restore safety through your body, senses, and curiosity. [32:05] How to get in touch with a psychologist in your area and find Dr. Clayton online. [37:50] For More Information: Dr. Ingrid Clayton Dr. Ingrid Clayton on Instagram Dr. Ingrid Clayton on Facebook Dr. Ingrid Clayton on YouTube Dr. Ingrid Clayton on TikTok Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Check out Dr. Ingrid Clayton's new book FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find Our Way Back, and her Emotional Sobriety blog. Explore Dr. Clayton's other titles, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, and Recovering Spirituality: Achieving Emotional Sobriety in Your Spiritual Practice. Listen to Kathy's interview with Andre Sólo, Being Highly Sensitive Is a Superpower — Embrace and Leverage it. Read more about trauma and the nervous system in The Body Keeps the Score. Find a psychologist in your area with Psychology Today's nationwide directory ——————— Join Kathy starting October 15, 2025, in her brand new monthly “The Most Powerful You” Group Coaching Program! Over the years, many graduates of my courses and readers of my books and articles, and other professionals have told me: “I wish there were a way to keep my momentum going — with supportive guidance, community, and accountability all year long.” This program is the answer to that wish. Beginning October 15th, 2025, you'll meet monthly online in a small, global group for 12 months of live 60-minute coaching calls where you'll: Celebrate wins and breakthroughs Bring real-life challenges for direct support and guidance Revisit and apply core success and growth principles from my courses, articles, and 500+ interviews with top experts Learn from peers, insights, and encouragement Sort through key decisions in front of you Leave with clear, actionable steps to move you forward fast in your life and career You'll also get: A private Facebook group for ongoing support Call recordings if you miss a session Exclusive perks (with upfront payment), including additional curated resources, free access to Kathy Caprino AI, LinkedIn support, and two private coaching calls with me This is a space for professionals who are ready to grow their confidence, impact, and fulfillment — with consistent and uplifting support all year long.
Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!This week's Fan Mail brings us two powerful questions: • From Syracuse, New York: “The family referee took my custody and handed it over to the father who was absent for years. My children have been separated from their siblings, and I'm only allowed one hour a week of visitation. The court won't let me present my evidence, and I feel silenced and helpless. What can I do?” From Wichita, KansasAnd from Kansas City, Missouri, a listener asks: “How do I get access to the Podcast Extras?” In this episode, Dr. Kerry tackles both concerns. First, she validates the heartbreak of a mother caught in post-separation abuse reinforced by the family court system.Then, in response to the Wichita and Kansas City listeners, Dr. Kerry explains how to access the Podcast Extras—exclusive deep-dive interviews with leading experts on narcissistic abuse recovery. Submit Your QuestionIf you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here.Stay in Touch with Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show
If you've ever been in a narcissistic relationship (with a partner, parent, boss, or friend), you know the effects don't magically disappear when you leave. In fact, sometimes that's when the real work begins. In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I share three common behaviors many of us carry after narcissistic abuse: Hypervigilance and people-pleasing Difficulty trusting your own perceptions Emotional dysregulation or numbness These aren't signs you're broken. Rather, they're survival patterns your brain and body learned in unsafe environments. Coping techniques you learned to protect yourself in complex PTSD. Today is part one of a two-part series, and we're starting with awareness: how these behaviors show up, what they look like in everyday life, and why you might still be doing them even years later. Whether you're early in recovery or decades out, this episode will help you see your patterns with compassion — and prepare you for next week's conversation about how to heal and move forward. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/narcissistic-abuse-recovery/id1434429161?i=1000679967740 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4LZOMV5GGxgk21Tt2oMtYu?si=fe90af4f7cb24793 This is an extra special important one to share with someone you care about in your life. Please click the link and share away. Also, it's my birthday next week! And I'd love to share a cup of coffee with you! For the price of a coffee, please head to https://patreon.com/susiepettit to support my mission and me, while I sit here week after week, year after year, bringing you tips and support to live a life you love. You matter to me, warrior!
On this episode of the Enough is Enough podcast, Dr. David Clarke discusses why you should never go back to a narcissist and how to break free from a toxic relationship for good and not go back. He's Not Changing Work with me:
When you're trauma bonded, wanting them isn't about love—it's about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they're toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn't make you weak—it makes you human.We'll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn't the same as craving love.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Join Dr. Kerry McAvoy on Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse for real talk about toxic relationships and recovery. Mondays feature expert interviews, Thursdays bring our new Fan Mail Q&A. Get clarity, validation, and tools to heal.Stay in Touch with Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Katrina about being raised by a hostile abusive mother. Katrina discusses her mother's childhood instability, abandonment, insecurity issues, as well as the abuse she inflicted on her. Katrina recounts her own traumatic experiences, including physical and emotional abuse, and her struggle with low self-esteem and codependency. Katrina also discusses her healing journey, which involved inner child work, understanding her trauma's impact, and developing self-worth and resilience. It's a story of physical abuse, control, rage, enabling, codependency, the healing process, self worth, emotional abuse, appearances, love addiction, hypervigilance, complex PTSD, survival mechanisms, family dynamics, and Intergenerational trauma. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** To buy Katrina's memoir, click here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Bitch is a Bad Word | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Disclaimer: This interview features perspectives from a male divorce coach navigating toxic dynamics. While some views expressed differ from those of trauma-informed psychology, I found it valuable to explore these tensions in real time. Please listen with care, and note that I challenge certain assumptions as we go. This week, I sit down with Josh Tomeoni, a divorce coach who shares his story of what he describes as abuse within his long-term marriage. Josh opens up about the male experience of toxic relationships, why so many men don't recognize emotional abuse, and how cultural expectations of masculinity shape their response to conflict and vulnerability.Podcast Extra Exclusive InterviewFind it here in the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseMore About the Podcast Extra InterviewWhat happens when a man says he's been emotionally abused?In this exclusive interview, Josh explores how some men frame abuse differently—and what that reveals about cultural conditioning.Get immediate access to this extended conversation—and hear where I draw the line between “toxic” dynamics and true abuse.
This episode is a little different. Instead of diving into a specific topic, I'm sharing updates, announcements, and all the ways you can work with me.If you're new here—or wondering what I offer beyond the podcast—you'll hear about:Upcoming divorce-focused episodes and why I'm expanding the podcast to include them.My Substack and daily writing for survivors.Self-paced courses on emotional abuse, boundaries, documentation for court, and breaking trauma bonds.Coaching options: intro calls, validation calls, and ongoing support.Why personalized, trauma-informed support matters and how to connect directly.Whether you're seeking clarity, ongoing guidance, or just curious about my work, this episode gives you a clear map of what's available.
Subscribe in a reader A Novel About Narcissistic Abuse: In today's interview, I'm talking with my friend Arielle Ford about her powerful new book, The Love Thief—a spiritual novel that explores narcissistic abuse, betrayal, karma, and emotional healing in a way that's both entertaining and deeply validating. When I read the manuscript of The Love […] The post A Spiritual Novel About Narcissistic Abuse & Revenge: The Love Thief with Arielle Ford appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Katrina about being raised by a hostile abusive mother. Katrina discusses her mother's childhood instability, abandonment, insecurity issues, as well as the abuse she inflicted on her. Katrina recounts her own traumatic experiences, including physical and emotional abuse, and her struggle with low self-esteem and codependency. Katrina also discusses her healing journey, which involved inner child work, understanding her trauma's impact, and developing self-worth and resilience. It's a story of physical abuse, control, rage, enabling, codependency, the healing process, self worth, emotional abuse, appearances, love addiction, hypervigilance, complex PTSD, survival mechanisms, family dynamics, and Intergenerational trauma. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Bitch is a Bad Word | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA
Hey, Survivor! How do you triumph over trauma when testifying? In this episode, I'm sharing my experience interviewing with a detective about the murders. I explain why I decided to speak up after all these years, how I prepared, the feelings that came up, and how I dealt with them. Re-telling what has happened to you can bring up a lot of hard feelings. When and if you feel safe to do so, your voice can bring truth to light, empower others; and the emotional release can be healing. Your story matters! If you, or someone you know, are debating over speaking your truth, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Ingrid Clayton to the show! Dr. Clayton is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of the brand-new book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back. If you've ever found yourself people-pleasing, over-accommodating, or twisting into knots to keep the peace in dating and relationships, this episode is for you. Fawning is known as the ‘fourth trauma response'—alongside fight, flight, and freeze—and it's one that often flies under the radar. It can look like kindness or care, but at its core, it's a survival strategy that leads to self-abandonment. In this conversation, we'll unpack what fawning really is, how it shows up in dating and relationships, the cost of constantly prioritizing others and—most importantly—how to begin the healing journey so you can show up in dating without losing yourself. Along the way, we'll also get into how fawning is different from people pleasing and masking, what happens in the body during a trauma, and strategies for reclaiming the self. This one is about understanding the roots of the most overlooked trauma response and carving a path forward for healing. Alright Flirties, let's do this, and meet Dr. Ingrid Clayton! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! Take the FREE Flirt Styles Quiz Get INSTANT ACCESS to my anti-anxiety flirting and dating guide Download my FLIRTING AND TEXTING CONVERSATION GUIDE Grab my FREE Dating App Survival handbook Book your 1:1 Flirting Audit Ask the Flirt Coach About our guest: Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a clinical psychologist with a Master's in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology. She is an author whose groundbreaking work explores complex trauma and the fawn response. With over two decades of clinical experience, Ingrid blends personal narrative, psychological research, and cultural insight to offer a fresh, de- shaming perspective on healing. Her work integrates trauma-informed modalities like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and other nervous system–oriented practices that support real, embodied transformation. She believes healing happens in relationship, and the heart of her practice has always been real connection and collaboration. Ingrid's work has been featured in Psychology Today, Oprah Daily, Women's Health and more. Her memoir, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, has resonated with thousands of readers for its honesty, humor, and heart. Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves -- and How to Find Our Way Back Website, Instagram, YouTube About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
In Part 2 of my conversation with singer-songwriter Caryn Dixon, we go deeper into the journey of leaving—and staying gone—from covert narcissistic abuse. Caryn opens up about the staggering reality that it takes an average of seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship before it finally sticks, and why so many survivors find themselves pulled back into the cycle again and again. She shares the powerful response her video on this topic has received—thousands of comments, shares, and private messages from survivors who see their own story reflected in hers. We talk about the heartbreak of repeated attempts, the invisible battles survivors fight to break free, and the hope that comes when we begin to live on the outside of the cage rather than inside it. This is a conversation about resilience, the importance of community, and the way art and storytelling can give survivors permission to believe that freedom is possible. Learn more about Caryn Dixon and her work at caryndixonmusic.com DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!What happens when a narcissistic therapist uses their professional training against you?This week's Fan Mail question comes from a listener in Seattle who writes: “I dated a narcissist who was also a licensed clinical social worker. Can you talk about the weaponization of therapeutic training by narcissists?”In this episode, Dr. Kerry unpacks how narcissistic mental health professions can use psychology to pathologize your emotions and silence your voice. How the imbalance of power could be weaponized against you.Submit Your QuestionIf you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.fillout.com/fan-mail ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show
Sexual coercion is one of the most misunderstood and silenced forms of abuse. It's not seduction. It's not miscommunication. It's pressure, guilt, manipulation, and punishment used to get sex when you've already said no, shown hesitation, or felt unsafe. It's not about intimacy—it's about power and control.This is a bonus episode from Unhooked—my private podcast series for survivors breaking free from emotional abuse.In this episode, I break down how sexual coercion works, the subtle (and not‑so‑subtle) ways it shows up, and how it maps directly into the cycle of abuse. You'll learn:What sexual coercion actually is—and what it isn'tExamples of how it sounds and why survivors often can't name it in the momentHow coercion weaves through the tension‑building, incident, reconciliation, and calm stages of the abuse cycleThe emotional and body‑based trauma responses it creates, including dissociation and loss of sexual agencyWhy “yes” isn't real consent if it's given out of fear, exhaustion, guilt, or to avoid conflictIf you've experienced this but never had the words for it, this episode will help you see it, name it, and understand that it is abuse.This bonus episode is part of Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse—a private podcast where we break down each phase of the abuse cycle, explore trauma bonding in depth, and help you reclaim your clarity, your nervous system, and your sense of self.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain? In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency. From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people. In this episode, you'll discover:
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon interviews Ella about her struggle to escape a critical financial abuser. The episode centers on how, after an initial period of love bombing, Ella lost her sense of stability as her husband's financial control, accusations, and attacks on her parenting left her constantly on edge. Plus, Ella discusses post-separation abuse and how the children were used as pawns to control her. It's a story of silent treatments, physical abuse, judgements, control, accusations, emotional neglect, manipulation, gaslighting, name calling, conforming, entitlement, being right, talking down, financial control, support, stability, recognizing abuse, the normalization of chaos, acceptance, double standards, losing yourself, guilt, shame, divorce, custody agreements, threats, using kids as pawns, boundaries, parenting plans, and post-separation abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Bitch is a Bad Word | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Description In this episode, “The Art of Being Gentle With Yourself,” we explore what it means to practice self-compassion in a world that constantly pushes perfection. Together, we'll look at the definition of self-compassion, how it connects with gentleness, and why gentleness—as a fruit of the Spirit—is something Christians often overlook when it comes to themselves. We'll talk about how gentleness can play a powerful role in healing trauma, especially since trauma can feel like the opposite of compassion and softness. I'll share some personal examples of how I've learned to slow down, give myself grace, and be gentler in my own healing journey—physically, mentally, and spiritually. Finally, we'll consider how practicing gentleness toward ourselves can help us extend true compassion and kindness to others.For breakdown of episode and sources, GO HERE:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sRCbHRW9kc84cTAxz1BnGttNcbx8TzEhEpU58Mb1B_4/edit?usp=sharingChristian Emotional Recovery Resources Podcast WebsiteAccess Episodes, Get Free Resources, and More Facebook GroupJoin Community, Get Support, and Get Weekly Encouragement YouTube ChannelSubscribe for Exclusive Material Not on Podcast Christian Emotional Recovery StoreGet meditations, infographics, journals, and other resources for your healing journey Trauma SurvivorsCheck out Resources Page for Trauma Survivors Email ListGet updates on episodes, platform, resources, and products Free ResourceFree Visual A.C.O.R.N Resource to Heal Difficult Emotions Donate Monthly Through PatreonHelp More Trauma Survivors Through This Ministry ...
The shot heard around the world, the shock that came from the death of Charlie Kirk. Marvin and Tony are talking with fred on the Marvin Nemitz podcast about the goodness of God. Though it is a tragic thing that has happened, as we pray for his family, we must focus on the what God will do.
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon interviews Ella about her struggle to escape a critical financial abuser. The episode centers on how, after an initial period of love bombing, Ella lost her sense of stability as her husband's financial control, accusations, and attacks on her parenting left her constantly on edge. Plus, Ella discusses post-separation abuse and how the children were used as pawns to control her. It's a story of silent treatments, physical abuse, judgements, control, accusations, emotional neglect, manipulation, gaslighting, name calling, conforming, entitlement, being right, talking down, financial control, support, stability, recognizing abuse, the normalization of chaos, acceptance, double standards, losing yourself, guilt, shame, divorce, custody agreements, threats, using kids as pawns, boundaries, parenting plans, and post-separation abuse. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Bitch is a Bad Word | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA
Hey, Survivor! How do you navigate overwhelming experiences — toxic people, narcissistic family members, work stress, grief, or healing from abuse? In this episode, I'm sharing my emotionally heavy, retraumatizing experience at the murder trial. Every-body experiences trauma differently. It's not a sign of weakness. It's human. So, I'm sharing some grounding tools that will help you to calm your body and brain, and support your health and well-being. Your peace is priceless! If you, or someone you know, are trying to recover and care for yourself while the hardest moments of your life are replayed, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
In this first half of my two-part conversation with singer-songwriter Caryn Dixon, we explore the story behind her new EP Bird in a Cage—a raw and vulnerable collection of songs written out of her experience of covert narcissistic abuse. Caryn shares how life inside the “perfect couple” image felt more like a shrinking cage, one that left her hiding her pain, questioning her reality, and carrying invisible bruises. We talk about the silence, sulking, and subtle manipulations that made her doubt herself, the heartbreaking difficulty of explaining covert abuse to the outside world, and the powerful shift that came when she began to put her truth into music. If you've ever felt trapped behind bars no one else could see, Caryn's story will resonate deeply. This is a conversation about breaking silence, reclaiming creativity, and finding freedom—one voice, one song, and one brave step at a time. A big part of Caryn's mission is to empower people—especially women who've felt stuck or like they've had to choose between family and chasing their dreams. Through her music and platform, she hopes to show that it's possible to build a life that honors both. Known for her blend of traditional country roots and modern storytelling, Caryn brings a genuine energy to every stage and song. Her growing career isn't about chasing fame—it's about building something real, one story, one listener, and one step at a time. Learn more about Caryn Dixon at https://www.caryndixonmusic.com/ DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Submit your question to be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Can you really heal a trauma bond—or is the damage permanent? This week's Fan Mail features two powerful questions. The first comes from a YouTube listener who asks: “Is it really possible to break a trauma bond? Even Dr. Ramani says she still struggles daily—so what's the point of fighting, especially if kids are involved?” The second comes from a listener in New York, New York who wants to know: “Why do narcissists cheat—and how can you tell if it's happening to you?” In this episode, Dr. Kerry unpacks the reality of healing from trauma bonds, offering both hope and hard truth, and explores the eight most common reasons narcissists cheat—plus the warning signs to watch for in your relationship. Submit Your Question If you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.fillout.com/fan-mail ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show
Narcissists use chronic devaluation, criticism, and gaslighting to crush self-esteem and keep their partners feeling powerless. In this video, Ross Rosenberg explains why defending yourself while staying in the relationship rarely works and why rebuilding self-worth starts with choosing self-love. Learn how to break free from narcissistic abuse, overcome core shame, and take the first steps toward healing.If you're ready to move forward, visit selflovereocovery.com to explore resources and support for your recovery.Ross's 3.7 million viewed video, "When You Unmask a Covert Narcissist, RUN, But Quietly! Counterfeit Relationship." https://bit.ly/Covert-NarcissistSupport the showABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure) Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri) Twitter (@RossRosenberg1) and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)
They're kind again… so does that mean they've changed? In this episode, we unpack why the “nice” version is part of the abuse cycle — and how to tell the difference between real change and a calculated reset.One of the most confusing parts of an emotionally abusive relationship is when the cruelty suddenly stops — and the “nice” version of the person shows up. Maybe they're warmer, calmer, even kind for a while. You start to wonder… are they finally changing? Was I wrong about the abuse?In this episode, I break down why that “nice” version isn't separate from the abuse — it's part of the cycle. We'll explore how kindness can be used as a tactic, why it often appears when you're pulling away or setting boundaries, and how intermittent reinforcement keeps you hooked in the trauma bond.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
Why do we cling to people who hurt us? Why does the fear of abandonment feel so unbearable? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, expert in trauma recovery and codependency healing, unpacks the powerful link between attachment theory and codependency. From early childhood dynamics to the subconscious fears that drive our adult relationships, Lisa breaks down how insecure attachment styles—like anxious or avoidant—set the stage for emotional dependency, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. If you've ever felt like you're addicted to love, overly responsible for others, or terrified of being alone, this episode will help you trace those patterns back to their origin—so you can begin to heal them. In this episode, you'll learn: What attachment theory is—and how it relates to codependency How unmet childhood needs create fear-based attachment styles Why codependents often attract emotionally unavailable partners How anxious attachment leads to over-functioning in relationships Steps to begin forming healthier, more secure connections This episode is for you if you: ✔️ Fear abandonment or rejection in relationships ✔️ Struggle to speak your truth or set healthy boundaries ✔️ Feel responsible for other people's emotions ✔️ Tend to give more than you receive in friendships or love Resources Mentioned:
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Hope shares her story of marrying a grandiose, entitled abuser. Hope met her future husband at a church event, initially impressed by his charisma. Their relationship quickly progressed, leading to a whirlwind engagement and marriage. But once they were married, Hope's husband began to control her in every aspect of her life, leaving Hope in survival mode for years. It's a story of grandiosity, manipulation, religion, financial control, rage, put downs, gaslighting, shame, guilt, crazy making, isolation, entitlement, being good enough, blame shifting, family dynamics, love bombing, mental health, post separation abuse, court, and self worth. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Bitch is a Bad Word | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
https://www.davideclarkephd.comIn this episode, Dr. David Clarke discusses the critical distinction between genuine repentance and false repentance, particularly when dealing with a narcissist. He provides guidance on recognizing true change versus manipulation within toxic relationship dynamics. Gain insights on navigating these narcissistic relationships and understanding the patterns of narcissistic abuse. Narcissists are masters of fake repentance—tears, promises, and empty words designed to keep you stuck. But how do you know when it's real repentance versus a manipulative act? You'll learn: ✅ The 7 signs of true repentance (what genuine change actually looks like) ✅ The 7 signs of fake repentance (the classic narcissist performance) ✅ Why a full-blown narcissist will never truly repent or change ✅ How pastors, churches, and counselors often get it wrong—and why that keeps victims trapped ✅ How you can finally see the truth, stop being fooled, and take steps toward freedom
Being with a narcissist is like being in a cult. How do we get back our brains?
Narcissistic Abuse is not like anything else and recovery is unique and challenging in horrific ways. Let's unpack the parts of this phenomena.
In this podcast episode you'll learn: How narcissists use sex for power, validation, and punishment. Get my new video series, He's Not Changing https://dr-david-e-clarke-teaches-counseling.thinkific.com/courses/hes-not-changing The brain-chemistry trap: dopamine + oxytocin and the trauma bond. Why “great chemistry” ≠ love (it's intermittent reinforcement). The aftermath: shame, anxiety, dissociation, isolation, and self-blame. The spiritual impact of sexual sin and violated boundaries. How to start healing: no/low contact, detox from triggers, body-based recovery, prayer, safe community, and trauma-informed counseling. You are not broken—you've been conditioned. With truth, boundaries, and support, you can reclaim your peace, your body, and your future. Don't forget to subscribe to the Enough is Enough podcast for more content on escaping a toxic relationship and starting a new life. Gain valuable relationship advice rooted in Christian counseling. Visit my website for books, coaching, and video courses. https://www.davideclarkephd.com/
Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!This week's fan mail dives into two powerful questions about surviving emotional abuse.First, Dr. Kerry explores what it means when you stop crying—and why emotional shutdown can be a survival mechanism in toxic relationships. Then she tackles whether the sunk cost fallacy is really what keeps us stuck with a narcissist, or if something deeper is at play.Submit Your Question!If you would like your question addressed on air, please respond here! ****************************************Stay in Touch Dr. Kerry!YoutubeInstagramTikTokFacebookMore About Dr. KerryKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media.Support the show
Abuse doesn't always leave physical scars, but it always leaves an impact. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Annette Oltmans — survivor, author, and founder of The M3ND Project — to shine a light on the realities of emotional and covert abuse, and the all-too-common retraumatization that happens when victims seek help but are met with disbelief or dismissal. Annette's groundbreaking work on Double Abuse® gives language to what so many survivors have experienced but struggled to name. Together, we explore what emotional and covert abuse really look like, the risks of misusing terms like “gaslighting” or “narcissism” in legal contexts, and how to safeguard your credibility when telling your story in court or to professionals. We talk about why so many therapists, clergy, and attorneys still miss the signs of abuse and how you can begin finding the ones who truly understand. Most importantly, we discuss how to take those first healing steps with support that validates your experience and helps you move forward. We also highlight valuable resources from The M3ND Project, including free guides, training, and tools designed to help both survivors and professionals respond with clarity and compassion. If you've been struggling to put words to your experience or to find the right help, you are not alone. This conversation will give you insight, hope, and practical direction as you take steps to heal and rebuild your life. Connect with Annette: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themendproject/ Free Monthly Workshop: https://themendproject.com/free-workshops/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/e-book-sign-up
In this powerful episode of The RAW VIBE Podcast host Chuck Tuck sits down with bestselling author and abuse recovery advocate Dana S. Diaz to explore the hidden realities of narcissistic abuse and the path to healing.Dana shares her personal journey of surviving an abusive marriage, where she secretly kept a journal that would later become her bestselling book Grasping for Air. She sheds light on the often-misunderstood characteristics of narcissism, the subtle and escalating nature of narcissistic relationships, and how childhood experiences shape adult relationship dynamics.Listeners will learn about the damaging effects of the silent treatment as emotional abuse, the difference between manipulation in childhood and the development of narcissism, and the ongoing nature versus nurture debate surrounding narcissistic behaviors.This conversation emphasizes the importance of being seen, heard, and respected, while highlighting why education and awareness are essential to breaking the cycle of abuse. Dana's story is both a cautionary tale and a beacon of hope for anyone seeking recovery and empowerment after toxic relationships.Key Topics Covered:Surviving and healing from narcissistic abuseThe truth about narcissism and its misconceptionsChildhood neglect and its impact on adult relationshipsThe silent treatment as a destructive form of emotional abuseWhy awareness and education are critical in preventing abuseTune in to gain valuable insights, find hope in Dana's inspiring journey, and learn how to reclaim your voice and your worth.Visit www.TheRawVibe.com for more inspiring conversations.Visit: www.DanaSDiaz.comRead a sample of: Rising From The Ashes- https://amzn.to/4m9giUn
Description:In this episode, we dive into the deep ways childhood experiences shape how we connect, trust, and relate to others—and how those wounds can follow us into adulthood. If you've ever felt the sting of emotional neglect, the confusion of inconsistent love, or the fear of vulnerability, this episode is for you. Together, we explore what attachment wounds are, how they show up in relationships and faith, and, most importantly, how God can be the ultimate secure attachment figure. I'll guide you through practical steps to experience God's unwavering love, let Him reparent the parts of you that were hurt, and start building healthier, more secure connections with others. By the end, you'll have reflection tools, prayer practices, and a fresh perspective on trust, healing, and belonging in Christ.Breakdown of Episode 1:17 Intro to Topic 7:39 What Are Attachment Wounds? 17:40 God As the Ultimate Secure Attachment Figure 22:53 How to Develop a Secure Attachment With God 35:40 Healing Attachment Wounds in Human Relationships 41:44 Practical Exercises to Build a Secure Connection With GodGO HERE FOR SOURCEShttps://docs.google.com/document/d/1eWy0bAGN9Y0Znyg2jTCSerSFHRwQzAIXhcnBg0Mo8jI/edit?usp=sharing Christian Emotional Recovery Resources Podcast WebsiteAccess Episodes, Get Free Resources, and More Facebook GroupJoin Community, Get Support, and Get Weekly Encouragement YouTube ChannelSubscribe for Exclusive Material Not on Podcast Christian Emotional Recovery StoreGet meditations, infographics, journals, and other resources for your healing journey Trauma SurvivorsCheck out Resources Page for Trauma Survivors Email ListGet updates on episodes, platform, resources, and products Free ResourceFree Visual A.C.O.R.N Resource to Heal Difficult Emotions Donate Monthly Through PatreonHelp More Trauma Survivors Through This Ministry ...
This video discusses the worst things you can say to someone who experienced narcissistic abuse and/or domestic violence. It is important to be mindful when talking to survivors of a narcissist and those who have endured toxic relationships, especially if they are leaving a narcissist.Contact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ Podcast Guest Form - https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-Form
In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks to Jimmy about his marriage to a raging abuser. Jimmy grew up in a restrictive society, and due to his sexual orientation, he became a reliable community member to survive. When he arrived in the United States, Jimmy began a relationship with his future abuser and felt seen like he had never felt seen before. Unfortunately, Jimmy became the victim of rage, financial control, put-downs, sexual coercion, and physical abuse. It's a story of fear, people pleasing, survival, control, trauma, sexuality, lgbtq issues, physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual coercion, financial control, family dynamics, coping mechanisms, gaslighting, post separation abuse, hoovering, excuses, anxiety, and addiction. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse and sexual coercion/abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Bitch is a Bad Word | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Did you see the documentary Bad Vegan? It covers Sarma Melngailis's nightmarish journey from successful New York City restaurant owner to inmate jailed for stealing millions. How did this happen? Sarma was the victim of a narcissistic con man named Anthony Strangis, who manipulated her into believing a number of wild, delusional ideas (like that he might be a non-human being with immense, other-worldly powers). He used this strange hold over her to persuade her to give him large amounts of money (much of which he blew at casinos). I talk to Sarma about her experience. We talk about: what led to her being so emotionally vulnerable that someone like Strangis could manipulate her; the factors that can lead someone to believe things that most people can see as obviously ridiculous lies; why she dislikes the “Bad Vegan” documentary maker for editing choices he made; the very difficult work of trying to survive and rebuild after such horrible and humiliating events. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Send us a text[Insert description here]Breaking free from narcissistic abuse requires recognizing patterns most of us never knew had names. Laura spent 33 years married to someone everyone thought was "such a nice guy" while enduring emotional manipulation, constant boundary violations, and the slow erosion of her self-worth behind closed doors.On this raw and illuminating episode, Laura shares how she finally found the courage to leave after experiencing what she now recognizes as a "reverse discard" – a manipulative tactic where narcissists orchestrate situations to make victims appear responsible for ending relationships. This allows them to control the narrative and play victim while avoiding accountability for their actions.The conversation explores the painful reality of trauma bonding, where victims become psychologically attached to their abusers through cycles of intermittent reinforcement. Laura describes how gaslighting left her questioning her own perceptions for decades, only to have memories surface after divorce when her brain finally felt safe enough to process them. This delayed recognition is common among survivors who often don't realize they were in abusive relationships until they've escaped them.Beyond the trauma, this episode offers profound hope for healing and reinvention. Laura transformed her experience into purpose by becoming a coach, author, and podcast host helping other midlife women recover from narcissistic relationships. She discusses how writing her book "Married to a Nice Guy" became part of her healing journey, allowing her to document her growth while helping others recognize similar patterns in their lives.For anyone who has ever minimized their dreams, walked on eggshells to keep the peace, or felt the confusion of loving someone who treats them poorly, this conversation offers validation, understanding, and a roadmap to reclaiming your life. As Laura powerfully demonstrates, midlife after narcissistic abuse isn't the end of your story – it's potentially the beginning of your most authentic and joyful chapter yet.Ready to heal from betrayal trauma or toxic relationships? Follow @happilyevenaftercoach on Instagram and visit lifecoachjenwithn.com to learn more about recovery coaching and resources.Laura RichardsPodcaster • Speaker • Author • Coach•Author of Married To A "Nice" Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse get the book here•"You're Not Crazy" ebook: get it here•Follow the podcast: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.comPlease follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com
Submit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!Going through a custody battle or divorce with a narcissist? The you know the legal system can feel stacked against you.This week, former family law judge and attorney Michele Locke reveals exactly how narcissists twist the truth, exploit legal loopholes, and weaponize the court process — and what you can do to outsmart them.Whether you're divorcing a narcissist, navigating parental alienation, or preparing for a high-conflict custody hearing, discover the insider tools to safeguard your case and your peace of mind.Podcast Extra Exclusive InterviewFind it here the exclusive interview and weekly newsletter.More About the Podcast Extra Interview