Singled Out

In this episode we have a deep conversation with Rebbetzin Dina Schoonmacher, surrounding some of the harder emotions that come up in singlehood when we feel like we're just waitng around hopelessly. Notes The Tools - https://www.amazon.com/Tools-Courage-Creativity-Willpower-Inspire/dp/0812983041 Rebbetzin Schoonmacher's Vaadim (amazing lectures on a wide range of topics) - https://www.womensvaad.com/

This episode aims to openly address a sensitive topic that dating couples think about a lot but can have a hard time discussing with others. In this open conversation, Shayna Goldberg and I directly address the relevant halachot while also not shying away from real life challenges that couples can face. Notes 0:00-1:18 Intro 1:19-3:35 Shayna's intro on the importance of addresssing this topic 3:36-13:15 Halachic background and sources for shmirat negiah, premarital sex, and the niddah status of single women today 13:16 Sensitive and practial Q & A on shmirat negiah Getting in touch: With me - (instagram) @singledout613, (email) singledout613@gmail.com With Shayna - shayna.goldberg@gmail.com

Most singles in the Jewish circuit have some experience with matchmakers. The resumes, the meetings - and in somecases - dealing with them as the moderator between the dates as well. Ever wonder what it's like from their perspective? What actually goes into setting up a couple? Or even just being the person receiving all those resumes? Well in this episode, you can find out as we interview renowned matchmaker, Merissa Gross. To find out more about Merissa, check out her website, where she offers trainings for matchmakers, resources for singles and even date ideas! https://www.merissagross.com/

The workplace is just one of many areas singles (and anyone new to the workforce!) appreciate guidance on. Knowledge about naviagting our work environment and negotiations with our employers (both pre and post job acceptance) is key to our long term success. Tune in as Michelle Greenberg-Kobrin, Dean of Students at Columbia Law School, gives us extremely practical and insightful tips on all things job related.

If you are a more anxious person by nature, you'll appreciate this one. In this 'sode guest Shayna Goldberg and I discuss the role our fears and thoughts play in dating. How they can help protect us - but if left unchecked can also sabotage us and the relationship we are in as well. Follow Shayna Goldberg 1. Link to her book: "What Do You Really Want?" - https://www.amazon.com/What-Do-You-Really-Want/dp/1592645712/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1OZ2MGGNMCRMP&keywords=what+do+you+really+want+shayna&qid=1661251289&sprefix=what+do+you+really+want+shayn%2Caps%2C326&sr=8-1 2. Her articles in Times of Israel - https://blogs.timesofisrael.com/author/shayna-goldberg/ 3. Link to her episode with YU Candidate - https://yuconnects.com/podcast/trust-fear/

In this episode Rachel Tuchman (LMHC) and I discuss the weighty topic (see what I did there?) on body image. Throughout our discussions, Rachel and I tackle navigating the intense food culture that accompanies Jewish holidays, setting boundaries with friends and matchmakers on what we should/shouldn't change about ourselves, and how to heal our attitudes towards body image. A really important episode on self love and acceptance, and what it means to truly be "healthy".  Resources: Follow Rachel on instagram: @Rachel_tuchman_lmhc Books Rachel recommends (and re-reads herself!) on the topics discussed in this episode: 1. Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole 2. Anti Diet by Christy Harrison 3. Body Respect by Linda Bacon

How do you ever know you've met "the one"? Does Judaism even believe in "the one"? In this episode, well known Torah educator Esther Wein explains how we've been misunderstanding the very famous Gemara (Sota, 2a) on soul mates in Judaism. Get ready for a whole new outlook on pre-determined love, marriage and ourselves.  Shiur Notes: Here is a google doc with the Hebrew source Esther Wein quoted if you'd like to learn/ review them on your own: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1gxWA1pcenX-ZbdluZG4XWOd4P8yxlXZBWoaqootQyaw/edit?usp=sharing  Follow Esther Wein on YUtorah (https://www.yutorah.org/mrs-esther-wein/) and Torah Anytime (https://www.torahanytime.com/#/speaker?l=131).

This is part 2 of our episode with Noah Marlowe on Dating Stigmas. In this episode Noah shares practical and meaningful Do's and Don'ts to show support for those we know who have had a broken engagement. Notes: 1. Noah's Article on Being Single in Smicha: https://www.refuathanefesh.org/singlehood-in-the-life-of-a-rabbinical-student/ 2. Follow Noah on Twitter: @tzvei_dinim 3. Brene Brown talks referenced: Joy: It's Terrifying https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKV0BWSPfOw

In this episode we discuss another dating stigma from 'behind the Bima'. In part 1, guest Noah Marlowe shares his experience being single in his Smicha (Rabbinical ordination) program. This episode provides an inside look glimpse into how we approach educating our future leaders before they are married, and what meaningful lessons Noah took from his program, even while being a minority single. Notes: 1. Noah's article referenced: https://www.refuathanefesh.org/singlehood-in-the-life-of-a-rabbinical-student/ 2. Follow Noah on Twitter: @tzvei_dinim

As we age, we evolve (hopefully for the better). But evolving in our religious observance and identity is something almost every Jewish single contends with. How we navigate that change, judgement from others (and even ourselves) is something which David Bashevkin and I discuss in this episode. Follow David Bashevkin: @dbashideas and make sure to check out his awesome podcast, the 18forty podcast.

In a world where we have access to so many voices (both wanted and unwanted), it can become hard to get in touch with ourselves. Tune in as Ariella Azaraf LCSW, helps us become more in tune with what we truly want and teaches us how to quiet those outside voices in order to hear our own. Follow Ariella - @Ariellaazaraflcsw

We're back with Part 2 of dating stigmas highlighting age differences, interviewing our second couple on this topic. Enjoy!

The unfortunate reality is that there are stigmas with everything, dating included. The first one I'd like to explore is age differences. Why is there a stigma when it comes to dating someone older/younger? How much of it actually bothers us, vs. the pressure we feel from outside influences that it should bother us? In Part 1 of this episode, we hear from a married couple who's age difference between them was an initial struggle, and how they navigated that.

We don't all struggle to with the same things, but we all struggle. In this weeks episode Ruchi Koval, co founder of the kiruv organization The Jewish Family Experience, mother of seven and motivational speaker, opens up about the challenging paths she's encountered much later on in life. We also discuss how her emunah was affected during those times, and how she's learned to navigate that difficult terrain. How To Follow Ruchi: Insta - @Ruchi.koval Blog - https://outoftheorthobox.com/?v=7516fd43adaa Podcast - https://momentumunlimited.org/blog/2021/02/22/a-knock-on-the-door/ Get her book! - Conversations With God https://www.amazon.com/Conversations-God-Prayers-Jewish-Women/dp/1937887561

Holidays can be a time of family bonding and celebration, but it can also be a time of wanting to pull your hair out. It's hard enough struggling with not getting on nerves when we're all packed into one house, now add in a two/three day Yom Tov as the cherry on top. In this episode, I go through 5 helpful tips to survive and enjoy the holidays with family and relatives. Chag Sameach and enjoy! Show Notes: For #4: Grab A Book- you can checkout the reccomended reads on my latest post @singledout613 For #5 Pick Me Ups: 1.Kosher for Peach Alcoholic Mixes: https://www.bustle.com/p/11-kosher-drink-ideas-for-passover-2018-that-are-delicious-creative-8604058 2.Awesome Kosher For Peach Deserts and Recipes: https://www.amazon.com/Perfect-Pesach-Passover-recipes-youll/dp/1422618676 (and checkout @NaomiNachman)

In singlehood we can sometimes feel a race against a biological clock. But we're not always sure what our options are, or even what options we should be considering. In this episode, Dr. Bat-Sheva Maslow and I discuss fertility preservation. The why's, how's, how much and everything in between. *Please make sure to take a look at the amazing resources mentioned in this episode below! Organizations That Specialize and Help with Fertility 1. Extend Fertility: https://extendfertility.com/?source=paidsearch&creative=449740583678&keyword=extend%20fertility&matchtype=e&network=g&device=c&gclsrc=aw.ds 2. Atime: https://www.atime.org/ (Go to Servies→ Fertility Preservation) 3. Machon Puah: Provides financial help and professional guidance https://www.puahfertility.org/ 4. Serono: https://www.emdserono.com/us-en/expertise/fertility.html https://www.fertilitysavings.com/ Their Compassionate Care Program provides eligible patients savings based on income. Eligible patients may save 25%, 50%, or 75% off the self-pay price for the following meds prescribed for fertility treatments To Learn More: Read: The Fertility Experts Guide to Egg Freezing: Everything You Need to Know About Putting Your Fertility on Ice Listen/Follow: @blmaslowmd and @nataliecrawfordmd Speak to others who have done it: @yeshisrael (Rivi Frankel) and @gila_bubbles (Gila Bublik)

This weeks episode gives us what we all really want - a glimpse into the inner workings (or lack thereof) of the male and female minds. This episode covers the Top 5 things guys & girls do wrong on dates, and how we can fix them. Listen now! (Link in bio). If you enjoyed this weeks topic, checkout what Matthew Hussey, one of the world's leading dating advice expert for women, says is the biggest mistake we're making in dating today: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_ZwBg1VK8E

This episode addresses: how to deal when younger siblings get married first. A topic which even if you haven't experienced personally, is known to be a sensitive and difficult one. To cover the main issues and hardships surrounding this topic, we highlighted Miriam Borenstein White. Miriam shares what her own personal experiences of having two younger siblings get married before her was like, while imparting important life lessons she took from the experience. Follow this podcast on instagram: @SingledOut613 Checkout Miriam's Standup! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDE1jSwGBgQ 

There are certain birthday's that even if you literally feel no difference on, you know are milestones (18, 21, 25). For a lot of us, the 30 mark feels different. Somehow the idea of turning another year where we are more settled, more experienced, more in touch with who we are becomes quickly overshadowed by the notion that we've "turned old".  For Goldy Adler that couldn't be farther from the truth. Goldy's thirties represent an era of confidence in self and in stating her boundaries, overcoming struggles in dating and finding meaningful ways to give to others.  Contact Goldy: Goldyadler130@gmail.com  Pm me on instagram (@singleout613) if you're interested in hearing Chevi Garfinkel's shiur she gave at Goldy's "Thirtieth & Thankful"!

A benefit to being single is that there are more areas of our life we can afford to spend/splurge on ourselves in the moment. The downside, however, is we might not be thinking about ways which our financial habits will impact us in the future. Figuring out the best way to spend, save and invest our money can be overwhelming. In this week's episode, Ronn Yaish, a financial advisor and founder of the personal finance blog BalancedFinancialLife.com, discusses areas it's important to get financial guidance on. He also provides amazing resources as to where and how we can access those tools. Ronn also breaks down financial concepts and gives over helpful tips on how to be mindful with our money. *All resources mentioned are linked in the show notes below! Get in touch with Ronn: https://yaishfinancial.com/ Resources for: Making a simple financial plan- https://balancedfinanciallife.teachable.com/p/one-page-financial-plan/ Budgeting - https://mint.intuit.com/, https://www.everydollar.com/app/sign-in For managing startup/small businesses- https://www.waveapps.com Online financial advisors- https://www.xyplanningnetwork.com/

"You just never know"...."Maybe this will be the one"..."I'm one step closer"...any of these lines ringing an annoying bell? Dating can be really exhausting and tiring. And more than that, it's hard to stay positive after many having multiple experiences that didn't work out. But - what if we could focus not on the outcome (or lack of outcome :-p) with those people, and more about what they taught you while you were with them? In this episode, we play a little game called Shoutout To My Ex. Listen in for details on how the game works, and some really meaningful submissions our listeners sent in!

Warning: this episode contains awesome and deep content! In this episode, Ariella Aharon LCSW, gives a firsthand look at the challenges and important life lessons working in oncology has taught her. How its attributed to her unique perspectives on self care, single hood, the importance of letting out sadness, and learning to appreciate our biggest gift of all, our time.

Welcome to my podcast! Take a listen to hear what Singled Out is all about.