Suicide Loss to Light's Podcast

Why is it so hard for us to ask for help when we need it?  In this episode I talk about an experience I had when I was so glad I decided to ask. New website link: www.cindyallredcoaching.com

In this episode I talk about how hard it is when we have no control over certain things in our lives.  I offer 4 suggestions that help during these times when we feel so powerless. If you would like the Zoom link for the free weekly suicide group please send a request to: cindyallred@suicidelosstolight.com.  

Do you feel like you're a pretty honest person?  In this episode I talk about how we sometimes lie to ourselves without even knowing it.  I give examples from my own life and tell you what we can do to stop our own suffering. Freej journal prompts and affirmations: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/q6f3h0 Free healing kit: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

Do you feel like experiences in your past are holding you back? In my most recent Suicide Loss to Light podcast, we talk about the impact our past has on our lives.  Often we believe we will never get over what has happened to us and become victims to our past. In episode #35 we discuss ways to alleviate some of our suffering and see the benefit that comes from living in the present and thinking about what we want our future to look like. Link to schedule a free grief session: https://calendly.com/losstolight/30min

Do you feel like it's impossible to set and reach goals since your loved one died by suicide? In my most recent Suicide Loss to Light podcast, I talk about what I've found is the best way to be successful.   Link to 4 master classes on feeling better now: https://suicidelosstolight.com/four-master-classes-on-how-to-feel-better-now/ Link to speech by Michael A. Dunn "One percent better": https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/10/54dunn?lang=eng  

In this episode I share three experiences when I've had those I'm close to tell me they are contemplating suicide.  I tell you what they share they felt was helpful and what wasn't during that difficult time.  There are 10 common denominators I've found that often bring despair.  By pondering on these major challenges maybe we can help find better solutions to these problems.   I have to believe there is always hope.  Link to talk by Patrick Kearon, “He is risen with healing in his wings; we can be more than conquerors”: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/04/24kearon?lang=eng Link to 4 master classes: :  https://suicidelosstolight.com/four-master-classes-on-how-to-feel-better-now/ Link to my website: www.suicidelosstolight.com

What do you do when mindfulness isn't enough?  In this most recent Suicide Loss to Light podcast, I talk about other places I find peace as I continue to search for more light in my life.  Where do you find light? Podcast "Choosing Glory" by Lili Anderson "Are we Losing?" Joseph Grenny https://latterdaysaintmag.com/are-we-losing-a-gospel-perspective-on-imperfect-families/ Healing Kit Link: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

Do you have a depressed child?  In this episode I talk about the stages I've gone through as a parent of a depressed son and something I've learned that has helped get me through some of the hardest times. Link to Healing Kit: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

Do you feel like people are not there for you and don't understand how hard this is for you? In this podcast episode I talk about how expectations can hurt relationships and what we can do to find connection instead.

We are all mourning for those killed at Robb Elementary in Texas.  How do we get through such heartbreak?  We can and we will.  Many days will be hard especially holidays and special events but I hope as I share personal experiences you find hope. Link to 4 master classes on how to feel better now: https://suicidelosstolight.com/four-master-classes-on-how-to-feel-better-now/

Do you ever have a day or week when a lot seems to just pile up and you wonder how you're going to keep it all together?  Well, this was my week.  I want to share with you what one thing helped me the most.  Suicide Healing Kit Link: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1 Website: www.suicidelosstolight.com  

In my most recent Suicide Loss to Light podcast, I talk about how we can find help in unexpected places.  My teachers this week were the examples of little children. Come listen as I share the five main things I learned.

Often we have preconceived notions about death and suicide.  In this episode I talk about 25 things I wish someone had told me.  No one can know what it's like to have someone close to them take their own life unless they've experienced it.  "Healing Kit" link: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

After your loved one's suicide, do you ever find yourself catastrophizing, or feel like you're living your life just waiting for the “next shoe to drop?” In this  episode I give you five things to try if you're ready to get rid of some of your fear.

We often feel an enormous amount of anxiety about all the decisions we have to make after a loved one's suicide. In this episode I talk about worry and stress and when and if it is ever helpful. 

Easter has taken on much greater meaning to me since the suicide of my husband.  In the podcast I share with you the scriptures and quotes that have brought the most comfort to me. 

Even after all these years it still feels like I have moments of "widow brain." I tell you what this week like was for me and hope you'll check out my Suicide Loss to Light YouTube channel for an Easter special. 

After a loved one's suicide, it can feel like you're going crazy. Just because you feel crazy does not mean you're going crazy. In this episode I share what the first few weeks and months were like for me. Link for "Coping with a Loved One's Suicide" https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

In the episode I read you paragraphs from the book, "No Time to Say Goodbye."  I hope this book will help you feel validated, courageous, and hopeful as it did for me. Free Coping With a Loved One's Suicide-Healing Kit link:  https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

In this episode I talk about how we can sometimes feel like we don't know who we are anymore after a loved one takes their life.  I give you suggestions on what can be helpful and is actually true. Free Coping With a Loved One's Suicide-Healing Kit link:  https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

This is not something anyone wants to think about let alone talk about. In this episode I give you the amazing tool that has changed my life in helping me react from a place of love instead of fear.  Link for free healing kit: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/u9x9h1

Guilt is sharp and an unwanted companion. In this episode I tell you the three things that I do that have helped me greatly reduce my feelings of guilt.  

It is common to feel extreme guilt after a loved one's suicide.  In this episode I talk about 3 main categories that guilt falls into and how we are not sentenced to a life of guilt.     

The way we tell any story about our life influences how we feel about ourselves, what we learn, and how we act.  In this episode we talk about different ways we can choose to tell our story.

We sometimes compare grief to the waves in an ocean.  In this episode I talk about what I learned more deeply when a real, 13 ft. wave hit me and could have easily taken my life. 

Have you ever wondered why God didn't save your loved one? In this episode I talk about what a lot of us have thought about and what helps me the most. Here is the link for my free Grief Journal Prompts and Grief Affirmations! https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/q6f3h0

Do you have people wonder why you aren't "over it already?" If we're not crying all the time we wonder what's wrong with us, and if we're crying all the time we think something's wrong with us. The truth is, we're probably grieving perfectly. In this episode I give you eight truths to remember when you feel the stigma of suicide.  Free resource link: https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/q6f3h0

In this episode I talk about how we can feel two contrasting emotions at the same time.  I give you helpful questions to ask yourself when life is difficult and give you examples in my own life. 

In the episode we talk about how easy it is for our brains to focus on the negative especially after a loved one's suicide and then give you a challenge for the new year.

After a loved one's suicide, it's easy to go to any behavior that will take us out of pain.  In this episode you will learn about the motivational triad and how we need to be on to ourselves.

In this episode I share what I believe and why.  I talk about what I believe about the afterlife and how it provides comfort to me. 

In this episode I give you a gift called, "The Model."  It was created by Brooke Castillo and is one of the greatest gifts I've ever received to create a better life and know it can help you in your life too.

In this episode we talk about how emotions can be excruciating after a loved ones death by suicide. I talk about how we can often make emotions worse and what we can do right now to find relief.

In this podcast I talk about something we think about sometimes that can often frighten us after a loved one takes their life.  I relate a train ride to our grief experience and give you some tips my son recommends. 

What do studies show is one of the best things you can do after a loved one takes their life?  This episode talks about why it's so hard to tell our story and gives you suggestions on how to make it a little easier. 

In this episode I talk about a grief misconception many people have. I also discuss three phases that give you a new perspective on grief and the best way to help yourself while you're in each phase.  To learn more go to http://suicidelosstolight.com

The holidays can be so hard! In the episode we talk about why grief is magnified during the holidays.  I give you one piece of advice I wish someone had shared with me the first Christmas after my husband's suicide.  I also give you ten suggestions to help you through this challenging time. 

Welcome to the first episode of The Suicide Loss to Light Podcast. I'm pleased to be here with you and glad you're joining me. This episode was recorded on the 14th anniversary of my husband's suicide.  I talk about how different life is for me now than right after his death, about my early belief that I would never feel true joy again, and about where our feelings really come from and why we have more control over them than we think. I ask you to give yourself permission to feel sorrow as long as you feel is necessary, but ask you to consider that death does not have to mean that you will never feel peace or joy again.