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Parenting is not for the weak. Cooking, cleaning, bath time, work, driving the kids to practice, church, working out, all while keeping your sanity is no small feat. You’re doing your best and you are not alone.   Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Parenting is not for the weak. Cooking, cleaning, bath time, work, driving the kids to practice, church, working out, all while keeping your sanity is no small feat. You’re doing your best and you are not alone.   Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

I had a client reach out to me and wanted to vent concerning a neighboring chiropractor that she had recently spoken to. This man is living in scarcity. Instead of only serving people he truly loves to serve (and thereby doing an awesome job because he loves it) - he is focusing on grabbing all he can. Even people that he doesn't absolutely love serving. And when you have a scarcity mindset, this will happen to you. She had told him that they would like to refer out some of their elderly clients to him since they were focusing on pediatrics and family care. However this doctor told her that while he was happy to accept their referrals, he would not be sending them kids and families to reciprocate and that he would be likely taking every new client that he could and just wanted to be up front. Abundance on the other hand, you realize that there are lots of people to help and that you can do them and yourself a favor by serving only those that truly fit your focus. And it works, think of businesses that are weirdly specialized seem to always be busy even in a recession versus those that are trying to serve EVERYONE. My lesson is this. What is your mindset? Are you on the abundance side or on the scarcity side? And did you learn this or put yourself there? And ultimately, is it working for you. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

It's so humbling and yet exciting to watch a baby grow and ulimately learn to walk. Crawling, sitting, and then standing up while they cruise along furniture. They get stronger and stronger and more and more confident and then almost by accident they take a step. And fall. And Fall And fall and fall and fall. And hit their heads and their butt and get all sorts of marks on their body from crashing over and over. And yet, they don't give up. They keep pushing. They never say, "maybe this isn't for me. Or, this is too hard. Or I give up." They step and fall and then finally, they are free! Where is it in your own life that you need to embrace having to fall a few dozen times before you get what you ultimately want. Go get what you want. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Honestly the (...) isn't supposed to be there, but I'm trying to catch your attention. Because really, it is okay for you just to NEED. Hear me, you have needs and it's okay to have them. I don't know how we have adopted this culture where we like to put ourselves last, perhaps it's a parenting thing. Because we get so adept at anticipating the needs of our kids that end up putting ourselves last to provide for our kids. And then as we do this more and more, we find ourselves become a helicopter parent, or worse, a lawnmower parent. Does this empower our kids? That's all you have to ask yourself, but I don't want to go on this tangent (I may have on the actual podcast btw). So, dear listener, guard yourself and honor your needs. Fight for them and not only will you help yourself, but you will actually have more energy and life to give to others! (the whole fill your cup first thing right?) Homework: ask for one thing. Anything - coffee, time alone, an errand, footrub. ask for one thing. You Got This. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

My wife posted a video yesterday about her struggles with anxiety and panic attacks. It was not easy for her but she had found herself triggered by a video where two men were discussing post-partum depression and how women just needed "to get over it". That ignited her and she blasted her video (which had 1000 views within 6 hours) and by this morning she already had 9 women private messaging her for help. When you can share your fear or share your pain, you help others share theirs. Silence has a way of disempowering us and keeping our secrets actually make us fell out of control and in a prison of sorts. When my wife shared her pain, it not only freed her but freed others and in a way, allowed her to divide her pain and share (and be shared like from others). Who knows what will come from this ultimately, but I can tell you that no matter what you're struggling with. You are not alone and by sharing your pain, you will set yourself free. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

My town has a monthly tornado siren check every first Monday of the month and here I thought - if a town can make sure to run a check each and every month then I need to show people there is value in doing the same for themselves. We already have a 30 day benchmark system in place with milestones really set up at 90 days, checking in to our targets (not goals, but targets) in our health, wealth, spirituality and family. While I'm not going to give away our whole sytem here are a few suggestions.

I recorded this on my front porch instead of in my office.  With my phone, open air.  It made my soul cringe at first and I was hesitant to even try and record. Earlier today, I was trying to plan when I was actually going to record and figured I would have to wait until everyone was in bed.  I want to put it off and who knows what excuse I would have by then.  So, instead of taking a chance - let's roll!   Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

See, dear listener, it's not up to us to fix anyone but ourselves. We can offer people space, love, and attention, but as far as fixing goes. You are not a savior! You are not their only hope! You can't fix your kids even as a parent. You can't fix your spouse even though you're married. You can't fix your employees by yelling or your boss by "making it obvious". Hell, I can't even fix my patients. They have to do that themselves! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Using anger or hate or getting loud will only make it FEEL like things are improving for a short term, but will NEVER make a long term positive change. But we love to hate on ourselves for both present and past (sometimes decades in the past) because it's easy and it seems like such an immediate change, but it won't ever last long. Trying to be perfect will lead to failure, which then leads to you hating on yourself until you can try it all over again. "I will get it this time. This time is different!" Except it's not. Not until you change your approach. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Most people have no idea where the hell they are going.  Even fewer have a clear idea of where they even are currently.  Time to get focused.

Tension and priming for action is a default of the human body.  So ideally you create this, but if you don't....

How come we know exactly what it would take to change our lives for the better, we somehow completely avoid doing it! Working out, sex, leaving a bad/abusive marriage, reconnecting with kids or estranged family, not making sales calls, not asking for referrals or business, EVERYTHING that we know WE SHOULD DO to just make our lives better And yet. (so tune in) Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick  

This is all that apparently anyone cares about when selling something online. This is what I have been taught anyways during my journey to understand the online world and marketing/sales with helping people through the internet. And it says that if you want people to open up your emails and buy, you attach it to Money, Sex, or Health. You see, part of our brains are wired like wild monkeys or lizards and all sorts of neurons "go ape" when talking about this stuff. It almost induces a craving/need to satisfy if we're currently lacking in this area - an urge to fix it. Know this in your day to day as you scan hundreds of emails and ads and I think you will notice just how much these "problems" are pointed out to you for you to ponder and buy. Could I use these ploys? Absolutely but I see these as just "side effects" to working with me. As we work to fix you from the inside out, the outside needs seem to magically be fixed. No need for ploys or gimmicks. I am launching a few projects in the next 14 days. If you're wanting in, sign up for the newsletter. I'm giving away access to launch these projects, but once they go live, I'm going to blow your mind away with content and that will have a price tag attached. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? There will never be an invitation, or someone asking you to take the lead and step up, or even ask you what you want. No one is going to go out of their way to ask you what you need and help you get what you want (unless you're paying them to do that). No one is coming to save you.  No one is going to give you permission. The rest is up to you. To wake yourself up, to write down your goals, and to do the work to get them.   Anyone telling you differently is selling you something. Now imagine a world where people understood this.  A world where people stopped waiting for "the right moment" or when they "felt like it". That's a world of progress and innovation. Because it's YOUR dreams and needs.  Not someone else's, so it's UP TO YOU to go and get it. The only time someone is coming to you is to solve THEIR OWN PROBLEMS.  And that's where the magic happens, because if you have a solution to a problem.  Then people are going to come running. So, time to pony up everyone and get to work.  Stop waiting for me, stop waiting for a rich uncle to die, because it's time that you helped yourself so that you can be the change you want to see in the world. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick  

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

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Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Helping Parents to Parent Themselves

I think these are probably some of the most dangerous words in society. Especially medicine, parenting, education, and certainly in your own life! These have hindered growth and development here in the States when compared to how other countries have grown and adapted.   It's stagnated how we utilize resources for profit instead of impact on environment or health. So, how has these shown up in your own life?   How are you stagnant in your day to day routine - just because that's what you've always done.  And is it actually serving you?   I can tell you firsthand that when working with some clients, their pain has become their identity.  They have been in pain for so long that the possibility of releasing that and not having that issue actually terrifies some.  It sounds crazy because it kind of is! I have coaching clients with these stories concerning marriage, kids, finances, their job, their social life.  And change can sound and feel terrifying!  And so we hide in our "safe routine" and we are miserable! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Last night we went to a workshop for how to actually align the wheels for our soap box derby car. It was overwhelming!  There is a lot to consider from toe in to toe out of the wheel and also camber which is like a tilt of the wheels and then there is weight to consider and it really comes down to THOUSANDTHS OF AN INCH. If not done properly, the car loses speed due to friction and improper alignment of the wheels.  And as a chiropractor, I love that we are talking about alignment and efficiency. We waste energy and talent when we are out of alignment to our core values. What's worse is that the tiniest misalignment will someday lead us to being WAY off course!  Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

What is the lesson with Tiger and his comeback win for the Master's? First of all, everyone LOVES a comeback.   Sure he has haters and trolls that are spreading drama about this or the people that weren't fans before his fall are still bagging on him. But the majority of folks.... love that he fell and came back. And no matter the reason for your "fall" or even what you're actually trying to hide, people are rooting for you too. It's time to let go of the guilt and shame.  The energy you are wasting on your past mistakes is likely baffling. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

I have casually mentioned this before in several other episodes but I have never highlighted it. When you start to set targets (I like saying this versus "goal"), attach a reward to it.   Write them down along with a finish by date and post them up so you can see them every day, heck multiple times a day. And most importantly, when you do it, celebrate with your reward. Because, I know that you haven't been.  Most of the time that is.  In fact, once you have achieved or won, you often downplayed your victory - claiming it to be small or no big deal. At one time you thought it was.  But then as you tackled your daily actions towards your big target, you grew into a new person and that new person now doesn't see it as a "big deal". The person you were at the bottom of the mountain is now dead and gone.  The person that climbed the mountain and is looking from the top has a totally new perspective and is now seeing bigger mountains to climb. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

We're due for yet another blizzard here in Nebraska on the tail end of a massive statewide flood.  Ranchers and farmers alike have had enough of this.  It's calving and planting season here and we're looking for refuge from Mother Nature.  Meanwhile, my wife's cabin fever may be the death of my low back as she wants to landscape and "nest". Does it do any good to complain about the weather?  Or one may argue that it's therapeutic to be able to vent about something.  I can agree with this if it leads to a solution.   But the weather? It proves that one can complain about pretty much anything. So instead, how can we reframe this to improve our lives and our outlook. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

It's Soap Box Derby Season here in the States and in my tiny little town of Ogallala, NE we actually have an official Soap Box Derby Track - so it's a very popular thing here - I applaud the many individuals that give their time and talents to run this show. Starting age?   SEVEN - which means my daredevil son finally gets to try it out.   AND it was a total and utter disaster! He was all gung ho about it, until he actually saw the hill and people driving down it. So, we coaxed him into trying it.   Starting half way down (they do this with all first-timers).  And when you're by yourself and that low to the ground, even 15 mph seems fast.  And he decided he was done for the day and his derby career came to an end.  And with that his sisters of age (8 and 7) were DEFINITELY not going to try it. But, he talked it over all weekend and decided to give it another go. And upon this second chance, he froze and didn't hit the brake at the end and slammed into the safety cones and tires at the bottom of the hill and gave himself a black eye with a nasty cut.   Oh yeah, there were tears. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

I convinced my wife to jump into the podcast game and so she will be providing at least two shows a week! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

To get someone to REALLY change their life.  It all focuses on changing from the inside out.   You can try a new haircut, or winning money in the lotto or having a long lost rich uncle die, or you can have that mid-life crisis and get the new car.  But trying to change from the outside in will not work. And to remind someone just how amazing they are and how to really start winning the game; it all begins with a single win. Big or small.  But a win nonetheless.  In fact, I say there are no small victories, only victories.  But you have to start with a win. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

I didn't post a podcast on Tuesday (AKA yesterday) and for some it was an interruption to your routine.  For others, you didn't even notice.  And I understand because there is just a whole lot of noise out there. But if you didn't notice, why?   I'm not trying to imply that I'm all that important, but if for some reason that I made it to a spot on your routine... did you notice the disruption?  Or do you even have a routine? My point.  Those that noticed, they are the ones that have a specifically built routine designed for one thing - expansion/improvement/success/whatever you want to call it. No routine?  Then you're allowing yourself to be reactive to your day and allow other people's priorities and emergencies dictate your life.   Kids, spouse, bosses, clients, etc. One version is empowering, the other depends on chance.  A morning ritual or free time ritual will either build you up or sedate you.  And you have one no matter what.  Your rituals could be playing on your phone or checking Facebook when you wake up. Or it can be so much more. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

I was approached at the grocery store the other night.  A high schooler told me that he has been seeing me pick up my daughters from the bus and wanted to let me know that there was an older kid talking to one of them and has been talking and teasing her about a lot of different things. Asking her if she liked porn.  She is in elementary school.  And it became clear about where she had been learning about a few things that have been coming up.   Things about "momo" and how to cut your wrists, not so innocent rhymes and songs, and even comebacks like "I just posted on Facebook that you're the meanest sister ever."  And while her sister probably was, I was floored that she had said that. I understand that I can't protect them forever.   In fact, I know they will be exposed to more than I want to admit just out of earshot from their parents and teachers, but I implore everyone to have a talk with their kids.  We talk to our kids about dirty words and how they may hear them but not allowed to use them until they are much older.  We discuss that everyone is different and unique and they are going to see a lot in their lives and they have to decide what to invest time and attention towards.  But this is a situation where it requires me to help her come up with an action plan. Is the school or school bus to blame?  No.  I will let them know but here's what we did (listen for more!) Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

It wasn't until I was SIX years into running my own business before I actually sent someone to collections.  We would call, send letters, have our lawyer send letters, call again, and over and over we would try to stay in communication with someone.  And yet, I would either take the hit, or keep that balance there to stare at me until 2016 when I finally started to stand up for myself. I was too terrified that people wouldn't like me.   Even though, they were basically okay with me doing the work and them not paying for the results. In fact, I would make up stories in my head about why they couldn't pay (and yes, there are many people that have valid reasons, but I'm talking about the folks that just "ghost us" and don't keep up in the loop about a crisis or hardship). These other stories, I would blame myself.  Seriously, it would magically become my fault.  Thinking I had pissed them off, or said the wrong thing, or that they didn't get the results and were just too nice to not tell me. I am a recovering people pleaser.  A "Nice Guy".  And it has nearly cost me my business.   I had to cut corners to make up for this lost income due, I didn't pay payroll taxes thinking I would catch up later.  Yeah right. I was about to "nice guy" myself into bankruptcy.  Just to be liked.  And really, do you really think they liked me more because of it.

This damn quote triggered the hell out of me.  I have clutter in my life and it drives me crazy!   I am overweight (calorie clutter), I am often in a reactionary mindset or not prepared for all the kids and wife's emergencies (relationship clutter), and budgeting and finances are often cluttered and disorganized.   Sure I have physical clutter, but not much.   Instead of I have clutter in my mind (and yes also junk in my back storage room too). Here's the quote again for anyone that missed it.  "Clutter is the physical manifestation of unmade decisions fueled by procrastination."   - Christina Scalise So look around you.  Look at the facts.  Are you surrounded by clutter?   How about your body?   Or finances? You can't even pretend it doesn't exist because it will be right there staring at you... YEP. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Spoke to a local mom here in my hometown and she reached out because she saw an infographic about signs of mental and emotional exhaustion.  And let me tell you, she is far from being the only one out there! We could go a number of ways with this episode, from sleep to stress to lack of connection with friends or even your spouse! But really what it comes down to is a disconnection from self.  Ignoring your needs.  Ignoring the warning signs and pushing them aside until you can't push any more.  And no matter what, once you disconnect from yourself, you start to lose it all. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Positive and negative reinforcement, good and bad consequences, good and bad rewards and punishments. We are all motivated by different things.  Some people run away from bad, and some run towards the good. As a health professional and coach it's important for me to understand what motivates a client's behavior.  And to help them transition from their current state of pain (whether it's physical pain or the pain of their current situation), I need for them to see the risks and benefits and to promote one to help them leap towards (or away) their goal (or from punishment). And for each and everyone of us.  You have to ask yourself, "why am I doing this?  why do I care about XYZ?" And if you can answer that, you can see if you're in the trap of wanting approval from someone else, or avoiding the punishment from another, or really just living the life that YOU want. Unfortunately, with social media, we are encouraged over and over again to seek approval in the form of "likes" or Reddit points, or shares/retweets and the like.   These are really powerful dopamine inducing pleasure responses to know that other people are approving of our posts and thoughts and opinions.  We get addicted to it.  And it's hard to even break free from it in our "real lives" by not trying to seek that same reward. So the next time you're doing chores, helping around the house, dressing your kids, dressing yourself...  why?   Is your hair perfect for you?  Or for some fake ass people to approve you? ------------------------------------------------------------------- Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

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I have mentioned working with Wake Up Warrior with Garrett J White many times on my podcast, but here is an example of how I used their teachings in my life and in creating a legacy with my kids. Each and every day, my kids are expected to invest in the following areas of their life:  Body, Being, Balance, and Business.  That's the adult version, for them, I say: Body, Spirit, Family, and Education. When they accomplish it each day, they earn a reward of their choosing from a short list:  screen/tech time, treats, dates with mom or dad. They are also working towards a long term goal of participating in a Spartan Race this Summer.   So, in this episode I interview my wife and get real feedback about how this has helped them gain confidence and momentum in their own lives.  And that's the point, how can we purposely help our kids create momentum for their days.  So far it's working for us and I hope it can help you too! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

There is no someday.  It doesn't exist.  In fact, it's this terrible lie that we are being sold every day of our lives.  From social media, credit cards, gyms, church, and yes even coaches and doctors like myself. You're being sold that some day, you'll finally be able to... have fun, relax, play with the kids, enjoy golf, have sex, go on vacation, lose weight, and just smile about how great life is. And it's kind of depressing to think that this isn't true.  But that's only because you're so focus on that some day that you're forgetting you have find that today. The purpose of your life is not to lose weight and pay bills.   And it's not to spend your life in misery to work for someone else's dream just to squeak by. It's happening right now.  And you get to choose to wake up and create that fun right now.  Right now.  And it's not easy at first.   In fact, it's really freaking hard to look at the chaos in the moment and see the beauty in it.  But you have to.  You have to save yourself right now. Have fun with your kids right now.   Put the phone down.  Put the laundry down. Have fun at work.  Because you only have one shot at this life.  Love what you do.   Both at home and at work.  Just find that joy there.  And yes, if you're cleaning toilets, that means finding joy in being the best damn toilet cleaner you can be.  Or CEO.  Because we know that there are billionaires that hate their lives, that literally kill themselves because chasing that all mighty dollar didn't do a damn thing for them.   Or the highest religious official or leaders that crumble from some scandal because they were chasing happiness in all the wrong places.  Or worse yet, people that sacrifice their health for their work and die and are replaced within a week.  For what?   Wake the hell up and realize that you need to start acting like a human BEING. So this is me giving you permission.  Have fun in everything you do.  Find the ounce of joy in your work, your kids, your housework, your studies.  Because no one is going to do it for you. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

No one wants to have some perfect role model leading from a mountain top.  They made it and they did the work and have arrived.  Sure it sounds great in theory and it looks damn good on social media, but everyone knows that those guys are so far ahead (however they got there) that it's almost unattainable for us regular folk.  I believe that yes you can get to that point, but it's hard to grasp such a leap. Instead, most people really do well with a leader that is only a few steps ahead.  They are doing the work at the same time; helping you see that you are indeed not alone, but among friends and that you'll conquer this together. One screams "look at me" and the other says "come with me". That's how I coach.  I have figured out a few things and hope you come with me. And furthermore, I hope that you pass it forward and help even more people go with you. It's time to stop thinking that you have to be this perfect image of success before you can help others.  Why on earth would I wait to help someone that needs help.  Why should I wait until I'm at the top when I could have been bringing you along? The same goes for your journey.  So, let's get started climbing that mountain, together. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

After we set goals, we have all sorts of momentum and inspiration until a disaster or bad day hits us.  Most of the time we trash the goal!  We didn't do this in school during a test and so I encourage you to look at life like a test.  Have a tough question?  Finish the test anyways! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

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Isn't it frustrating? Year after year, setting the same goals and intentions . And sometimes we have a small taste of success, but 87% of us fail our resolutions each and every year. Why? Because what we are stressed, we resort to old habits. This is important to own. Because, no matter what, disaster will strike, big or small, and you will want to quit and go back to old comforts. And by knowing this, you take back your power to CHOOSE. What is doubly hard, is that the old habits die hard! You can make those cravings fade, but they never die. You have to constantly reinforce the new. Ask any addict. Now when we do fail, that's when things really get Spivey. The guilt after causes us to go into full meltdown and instead of getting right back up, we feel like failures and beat ourselves up. This continues until we rally and then recommit to this game of perfection. And round and round the cycle goes. How do we fix this? Your coach or trainer will help you see through your stories. Otherwise, two options. 1. Set your goals and then write out what your roadblocks and speed bumps will be. By taking a moment to identify how you will struggle or possibly fail, you again, take power with choice! 2. Honor the game of expansion. Realize that each and every day you are improving and that failing doesn't mean you should stop; but to get right back to work! Hope this helps and brings you health. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

We have values and beliefs that have been handed to us. We can choose to keep these or adopt new ones. What do you think we usually do? Some that I have heard and some that were given to me. Some good and some bad: To be successful, you have to go to college. The more you do for others, the more they will do for you. Rich people got that way through greed. Don't put your eggs all in one basket You will get everything you want if you work hard enough. If you have sex, you will have a baby or get an STD. If you're a good husband, your wife will want to have sex with you. Crying is Weak What about health? Or, how about 'if you can buy it, it must be safe?" What about your ideas about God? Where these given to you or did you choose? Take a look at your values and stories and make sure they actually serve you! Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick

Here's your chance to jump on or GTFO. While a main purpose of this time together is to have some fun and wash off some of the grime of having a family and just life in general. There is a greater purpose here. MEDIOCRITY is killing us. Wake up and be real. No more filters, no "perfect life" on facebook, no competing among the other parents for the best snacks, but we need to be reminded that it's perfectly great to be authentically you. Refilling your cup and therefore passing that power of authenticity to our kids as well. Because right now. Our kids are getting sicker and sicker - life expectancy is actually dropping and childhood cancer is getting more and more prevalent. We are more obese than ever before, more in debt, and more in depressed. Whether you coach with me or someone else, or you listen here and run with it yourself - we are talking about getting REAL results. I want you to look back a year from now and really be amazed with yourself. I want you to feel compelled to share this message by sharing my podcast, my coaching, or better yet, take this message and be empowered to start your own movement. That's how we save this world and save our kids. Yes, I'm going to sell to you later. I'm going to give you chances to level up with me, but for now: JUST OPEN YOURSELF UP TO WHAT LIFE COULD BECOME IF YOU REALLY WENT ALL IN WITH YOURSELF. Related Links: The Home for the SuperParent Syndrome Coaching with Me? The SuperParent Syndrome Facebook Page How can you support our podcast? Apple users, please subscribe and rate the SP podcast.  If you Android, this is found on Stitcher or Google Music. Tell a friend about the SP podcast.  Click on "share podcast" and they will love it and thank you forever! Join the FREE SP Facebook Page.  Great way to stay in touch, get resources, and videos!  Join Here. Sign Up for the 1% club - Free and get this in your inbox with challenges each day!  Thank You! ~Coach Nick