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No guests this week folks! Scheduling conflicts prevented having anyone on this week but I figured this might be a good time to address some stuff that's come up over the recent weeks. I've gotten a number of messages from people really enjoying the Jacquire podcast and wanting to know more about that relationship. While Im fine talking about that when it's natural I don't want it to be the thing that defines me or this podcast. So I thought this would be a great opportunity to share the things I learned as a byproduct of the opportunities I was presented getting to work with the great team that I did. I also wrote a blog post about this a couple months ago for Puremix that I will include the link to. Hope you enjoy!https://www.puremix.net/blog/5-important-elements-of-being-an-assistant.htmlhttps://www.dropbox.com/sh/ypgv7fa6ohzlj78/AADmq_LpI0D51WYjnUlnDqUCa?dl=0

Today's episode I was joined by Michelle Mar to discuss 'On the Record.' A documentary on HBOmax that goes into the allegations surrounding Russell Simmons. Just a quick disclaimer that we will be talking about rape and sexual assault. If those topics are triggering for you, please proceed cautiously. Sexual abuse and survivors came to a lot quite a bit during the #MeToo movement. However, when it comes to the black entertainment industry, there was a lot of silence. So, when I heard there was going to be something created around the black music industry and the women who were involved in it -- I knew it was something I had to watch.While I'm not in the music business, I have had men try to approach and feel like they can coerce me into things that I didn't want to do in order to "gain" something. For me, it was usually career-related. In this documentary, we will discuss:Our feelings about the documentary, what resonated with us and whySexual assault in the black community. Why do we have to feel like we should keep silentBlack women and "protecting" black men How assault can amplify or cause addictive behaviorThe path to freedom from addiction and trauma I highly recommend watching the doc. I think you get a free week trial, which I know I enjoyed FULLY. If you or someone you know is battling sexual assault or trauma, I urge you to seek help here.Stay safe out there, friends! Here is the link to some online AA meetings. And as always, thank you for listening to my lovely show. If possible, I would love for you to review me on iTunes, Google, Stitcher -- anywhere, really. If you have comments or suggestions feel free to hit me up via the ways below! And sign up for my mailing list. I do like to do giveaways from time to time. IG: gettingyourishtogetherEmail: gettingyourishtogether@gmail.com

While I'm taking a break with the family this week I thought I'd share this episode of Top 5, my Patreon only podcast where each week I, along with a guest, count down our top 5 choices from a listener topic. This episode Adam Richard and I count down our top 5 TV theme songs.To hear more Top 5 episodes become a Patreon member at patreon.com/DYKWIA where for $4.50 (+GST) you can hear a new Top 5 episode every weekAlso get a ticket to this weekends live stream with guests Nick Cody, Celia Pacquola, Tom Ballard and Aaron Chen. Tickets are only $10 (or $50 for all 6) and you can watch the show live, or anytime until August 8. Tickets at joshearl.com.au See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

No matter the time of the year, there's one topic that always remains in high demand. Whether you're on the homestead or in the city, every single one of us has to eat. While I'm definitely not a meal planner by any stretch of the imagination, over the years I've learned several great tricks to save countless hours in the kitchen. In today's episode, I fill you in on what we're eating this summer. Listen to find out some of my favorite ground beef recipes, why I love sheet pan dinners and some incredible options for crockpot dinner.A BIG thank you to Remond’s Real Salt for being our podcast sponsor for the month of June! http://theprairiehomestead.com/salt Redmonds is my #1 go-to salt for cooking and food preservation. I love that it’s mined in the USA and contains 60+ trace minerals which makes it an easy choice for stocking your homestead pantry. During the month of June, use code HOMESTEAD to save 15% on your order. >> Head over to www.theprairiehomestead.com for from-scratch recipes, homestead inspiration, and old-fashioned tutorials. >> Get your Old-Fashioned on Purpose Swag at www.homesteadswag.com>> Follow Jill on YouTube: http://youtube.com/theprairiehomestead>> Follow Jill on Instagram: http://instagram.com/theprairiehomestead E138. What We're Eating for Supper this SummerE138. What We're Eating for Supper this Summer

When Model-Driven Power Apps first appeared on the scene, it brought with it a $40 per user license called Power Apps P2. Earlier this year Microsoft launched a $10 per App "Pass". Clearly $10 is going to get some eyeballs, along with a lot of skepticism about it having a place in an organization that may be paying $100 per user plus. So let's talk about it. "Your going to like it" I believe it was at last year's MVP Summit; there was an off-site dinner for the bizapps crew. I saw Charles Lamanna, Corporate VP of the Low Code Application Platform, sitting at a table with an open seat next to him, so I snagged it. Charles is well aware of our RapidStart efforts, and has been a supporter since I first met him when he came on board the bizaaps team. At some point in our conversation, he leaned in a quietly and said they were working on something: "You are going to like it". He was vague on details at the time, but he clearly understands our RapidStart business model, so I got pretty excited. Announcing the $10 Per App Pass! I had a few "pick my brain" calls with the Microsoft team about the upcoming "per app pass" before it became public. I specifically recall asking, more than once, if they were prepared for "unintended consequences". The problem with "unintended consequences" is that they are not always easy to spot in advance, particularly if you have a filtered view. Microsoft is a technology company, and the Business Applications Group is made up of a lot of technology-minded people. A recurring theme seems to be their inability to view things through a business eye. This is how the Team Member licenses ended up being abused. To a technical thinker the Team Member seemed like a perfect solution to a particular challenge. To the business person on the ether end, it seemed like an excellent opportunity for exploitation. The Scorpion and the Frog There is a classic fable that this reminds me of: "A scorpion, which cannot swim, asks a frog to carry it across a river on the frog's back. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung by the scorpion, but the scorpion argues that if it did that, they would both drown. The frog considers this argument sensible and agrees to transport the scorpion. Midway across the river, the scorpion stings the frog anyway, dooming them both. The dying frog asks the scorpion why it stung the frog despite knowing the consequence, to which the scorpion replied: "I couldn't help it. It's in my nature." Microsoft often finds itself a Frog, dealing with customer Scorpions. What will a Scorpion do with a $10 Pass? They will seek ways to exploit it. In our case we have taken full advantage, rebuilding all of our apps the be able to run on any license, but in particular, the $10 App Pass. I don't feel like we are exploiting, after all Charles did say I was going to like it. This kind of felt like tacit permission, even encouragement to head down this path. It's a two-way street, Charles also needed some ISVs to showcase this approach for other ISVs to consider this path as a great way to join the ecosystem. Wait a Minute! The risk of cannibalization of the first-party applications was obvious, and not lost on the team. In one of my chats with Charles, I asked about this probability, he said: "I would say we are quite confident on the Microsoft side that the value and the intellectual property and the ongoing services and support and SLAs and integrations that come with the proper Dynamics applications can and will continue to command those prices." But just to be safe, they decided to toss a blanket over a few key entities and restrict them to the first-party apps. At the time there was, and still is, a lot of discussion about API limits across the stack, and the Per App Pass was given a pretty low limit of 1,000 per day. I had not liked the "Restricted Entities" idea from the jump. In that same chat Charles alluded to more Restricted Entities coming, but in a later chat with Charles, he conceded: "restricted entities as a concept are largely antithetical to our common data service, common data model and vision. And they were just like the least bad option to go make sure that we appropriately can license Dynamics apps." I had suggested a different approach in another post: "The real value of the first party apps is in the logic layer, not the data model.". While I'm sure my comment was not the trigger, it is the direction they are now heading. Devilish Details So the "replacement" scheme for restricted entities is still being formed, but basically the vertical fences between certain entities, will pivot to a horizontal line between the first-party tables, and their proprietary logic. Where restricted entities was a quick and easy solution, this one will take a lot more work for Microsoft to execute. It seems proprietary logic is all over and pretty deeply wired. Will this be better? It's hard to say at this point. Where before we had some entities that could not be used, the other ones, that were not restricted, were being used... along with their OOB logic in many cases. So it seems like instead of pointlessly replicating entities, we will now instead have to create all of our own logic, and possibly our own forms, dashboards etc.. But, it seems completely fair to me. No one is entitled to get a Prime Steak for the price of a burger. Burgers So what will this mean for your $10 app plans? Well, Microsoft giveth and Microsoft taketh away. Eventually, you can have a "no cliffs" scenario. The cliff I am referring to is starting with vanilla CDS and building some apps, and then realizing that the first-party apps have a lot of features that would like. Today, you cannot get from here to there without a migration. Not a "cliff" exactly, but definitely a hassle. This path will be cleared "in the fullness of time", where a simple license swap will be all that is required. Today, you can install the first-party schema on your vanilla CDS, it is available here on Github. As of now, even with this schema installed, you do not have a direct upgrade path, but the migration should be easier going from an OOB entity to an OOB entity, than mapping your custom one over. When the path is "cleared" will using this approach today just start working for upgrade later? Good question. So, does the $10 Plan make any sense? Depending on your use case, it is completely viable. We have developed many very sophisticated solutions on CDS with the $10 Per App Passes, even without utilizing all that is available to that pass. Mostly starting with one of our RapidStart accelerators, we have built Project Management applications, Field Service applications, Referral Management solutions, each of which has become an accelerator on their own. What will you miss out on? For many customers, they won't miss out on anything, again depending on your needs. Like Charles said, there is a lot of value in the first-party applications for those that need it. Top Down We started with the premise that many customers just want something simple to use at the lowest possible cost. So we built our accelerators with the $10 pass in mind. You can start with a vanilla CDS, and many do. But many customers already have Dynamics 365, and a significant number of their users are making use of those high-value proprietary features. But not necessarily all of their users, particularly in larger organizations. A significant part of the work we are seeing today is taking certain use cases, building a specific app for those users, and dropping them down to $10 passes, sharing the same data as the first-party users. This tends to be an addictive motion. Is this cannibalization of high cost licenses? Yes, but I would argue that if a user can do their job with a $10 license instead of a $95 license, that makes the customer happier and less likely to consider a change in platforms. Unintended consequences are not always a bad thing.    

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Why stick to any one genre? Our guest this week is Catherine Newman: memoirist, middle grade novelist, etiquette columnist and now the author of How to Be a Person: 65 Highly Useful, Super-Important Things to Learn Before You’re Grown-Up. While she’s at it, she writes a cooking blog, co-authored a book on crafts for kids and edits ChopChop, a kids cooking magazine. And she pens frequent funny essays for everything from O to the New York Times to the Cup of Jo website. In other words, she’s putting a pastiche of writing together and making it work with an insouciant disregard for any and all advice about self-branding or owning an niche or sticking to one topic or identity.In fact, I’d argue that “insouciant disregard” might just BE her brand. This episode also includes the immortal words “I’ve never had to kill anything during the podcast before,” uttered by Jess—so that’s a reason to listen right there. But there are plenty of others—this is a real nitty gritty episode on building a career and getting things done.#AmReadingKJ: Henna Artist by Alka JoshiRecipes for a Beautiful Life by Rebecca BarryJess: Sure Shot by Sarina BowenAnimal, Vegetable, Miracle by Barbara KingsolverMissing You by Harlan CobenCatherine: Know My Name by Chanel MillerSea Wife by Amity GaigeThe Chicken Sisters by KJ Dell’AntoniaThanks to everyone who supports the podcast financially. To join that team, click the button below:But it’s all good. The pod is free as it always has and always will be. This shownotes email is free, too, so please—forward it to a friend, and if you haven’t already, join our email list and be on top of it every time there’s a new episode.Find more about Jess here, Sarina here and about KJ here.KJ Dell'Antonia 0:00 Hey writers KJ here. Usually I write down what I'm going to tell you in our pre episode, promotional blurb, whatever you want to call this, and I will say right away that of course we are, as always sponsored by our friends at Author Accelerator, who we love. This week, instead of writing down some great reasons why we love them I just wanted to take a minute to read to you from the email that I got from Jenny Nash this week. This is her weekly email that goes out to anyone who's on the Author Accelerator list, or read every single one of those and I cannot say that about almost any other weekly email I get, there a couple. Anyway, Jenny writes, "I was speaking with a writer this week who could see the light at the end of the tunnel on her novel. She was almost done and she was terrified. She could feel herself panicking and turning to other shiny new ideas. Anything that wasn't this almost done idea. Being done would mean that her work could be rejected. Being done would mean that her work could be judged. Being done would mean that her limitations and weaknesses as a writer would be on display for everyone to see. Being done would mean that whatever she had on the page was as good as she was able to do. Even if it wasn't anywhere close to the perfect story in her mind. Being done would mean that she would be exposed." I could really, really relate to that. And I think I'm not the only one. A lot of us start to let things go the minute we get anywhere close to the finish line, because the finish line is scary. And if that's the place where you are maybe now is the moment when you want to reach out and see about working with a writing coach. You might not need much a few weeks, a little bit of a push, a little bit of help, just to take that thing that you're working on, and get it through to not the almost best you can do (which you know allows a lot of room for imagining other things) but the actual best you could do and then make a real decision about what it is you'd like to do with it. If you're game for that, you should head over to authoraccelerator.com and click your way through to all the great places because we love them and there's also a lot of other good stuff there. While I'm here I also want to say that this episode includes a couple of small swear words here and there and also some weird commentary on vaginas. Because this is one of our dearest friends we're interviewing this week and we got a little bit weird. So letting you know that so if you have tiny ears around that you are concerned about? Honestly, it's no big on this one. I don't think that it will bother you, but I wanted to give you a heads up. Alright. Enjoy it. This is a great episode. Is it recording?Jess Lahey 2:51 Now it's recording. KJ Dell'Antonia 2:53 This is the part where I stare blankly at the microphone trying to remember what I'm supposed to be doing.Jess Lahey 2:57 Alright, let's start over.KJ Dell'Antonia 2:58 Awkward pause. I'm gonna rustle some papers. Okay, now one, two, three.Hey, I'm KJ Dell'Antonia. And this is #AmWriting. The podcast about writing all things, from fiction, to nonfiction, pitches, proposals, emails, essays. This is the podcast about sitting down and getting your writing work done. Jess Lahey 3:27 I'm Jess Lahey, I'm the author of The Gift of Failure and the forthcoming book The Addiction Inoculation, Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, who the subtitles are always so tricky, and you can find my work on the old interwebs at The Atlantic and the New York Times and The Washington Post and lots of other places.KJ Dell'Antonia 3:58 I am KJ Dell'Antonia, the author of the novel The Chicken Sisters coming out on July 1 of this year, which is 2020. For those of you listening in the future, when I hope things are not what they are now, but that is not what we are going to talk about today. We have a guest, our guest is Catherine Newman, who we've actually been trying to record with Catherine since like since like our 10th episode. But wait, I want to tell you about Catherine, she is a memoirist, a middle grade novelist, and etiquette columnist and now the author of How to Be a Person: 66 Highly Useful, Super Important Things to Learn Before You're Grown Up.Jess Lahey 4:57 It's actually 65, but I think that we should invent a 66 while we're here.KJ Dell'Antonia 5:22 Okay, no, I wasn't done. I wasn't done - because while she's at it, Catherine writes a cooking blog, she co-authored a book on crafts for kids, and she edits Chop Chop, a kid's cooking magazine, which I didn't even know till I just recently read her bio because I never read the bios of my friends because I'm supposed to know all this stuff, but I didn't. And she pens frequent funny essays for everything from O to The New York Times to The Cup of Joe website. In other words, she's putting a pastiche of writing together and making it work with an insouciance disregard for any and all advice about self branding, or owning a niche, or sticking to one topic or an identity, and in fact, I would argue that insouciance disregard might just be Catherine Newman's brand.Catherine Newman 6:10 Oh, my God, that's it. I just feel like that's the mic drop. I'm so happy. I also feel like you just fully explained all the problems I have. It's my insouciance disregard.Well, I loved your intro. My intro really would have been you know, this is Catherine Newman for me is the writer that, not only a person I adore and know personally, but as a writer she's the one who always figures out the new way to say the thing I have been feeling and yet felt so cliched that I never wrote it down. She always has some new amazing way to state it and then I'm like, 'Oh my gosh, how has no one ever said it that way before?' and it's so true and perfect and beautiful. And you know, for a lot of writers that write about parenting and this whole racket that we call life, often if they have a favorite piece, I often will say let me guess was it by Catherine Newman because her pieces just rank as people's favorites.Jess Lahey 8:00 We love your stuff. But you guys, you and KJ have a much longer relationship than you and I do, Catherine. So KJ, tell them where you guys met.KJ Dell'Antonia 8:09 I don't know where we met. I know that Catherine wrote for me at Motherlode but it must have been Wonder Time. The late great that says that it's not the greatest like the more I say the name now that it's gone, the dumber it sounds, but it really was. Yeah, okay. Soft sigh of regret. And while we're having soft sighs of regret for demises of magazines, I hear Family Circle just tanked. I mean, I know that was like in the fall, but... Catherine Newman 8:49 I know I always feel like I'm there on that tiny little island of sinking magazines.Jess Lahey 8:57 I'm just about to send out an email today saying Hi, want me to write anything? Anything you got - I'll write that thing.KJ Dell'Antonia 9:40 Great. Okay, so here we are, finally, at last.So okay. 65 (not 66) Highly Useful, Super Important Things to Learn Before You're Grown Up. Why that after a resume that includes two parenting memoirs, one crafting book, and one middle grade novel that was my middle grader at the time absolute total favorite, he even reviewed it for Parenting magazine. Yeah, he still looks back on that with fondness because he has a hard time finding books that he likes. Anyway. And so from there you thought I know, the best thing and the easiest thing for me to market next would clearly be a book of useful things to learn before you're grown up. I don't think that's really how you did it.Catherine Newman 10:37 Yeah, no, no, I know. Isn't that crazy? Really, the dirty truth is that I pitched it as a much worse book. I wanted a book, I went to the library to look for a book, I don't know if you ever end up writing this way where it's like, oh, this thing doesn't exist that I assumed existed. But I went to the library to get a book for Bertie, because I wanted her to do more helpful stuff in the house, but she didn't know how to do it. And she didn't want to be taught how to do it by anybody. So this is, second child has been wanting to do it by herself since she was two. And it's really hard with a person like that, who doesn't want to be shown how to do something and then you ask them like, 'Hey, can you clean the bathroom?' And she's like, 'I don't know how to do that.' But then if you try to show her she's pissed. So for Bertie it worked, so I went to the library to get I assumed like DK had made one of those like photo illustrated guides to chores, you know...KJ Dell'Antonia 11:52 I might need that, there are things I don't really know how to do. Truth. Catherine Newman 11:57 So I went to get that book from the library, like I walked in confidently, talked to the librarian and they were like, 'Yeah, we don't have a book like that.' So I was working with Story at the time (the publisher)and who I love and my editor there is an old person from Family Fun who I used to write all this fun stuff with. KJ Dell'Antonia 12:22 That was also a fun place to write.Catherine Newman 12:25 Oh my God, so fun. So she and I had worked on a piece that I think killed me called Chores Fun. So I pitched her the book Chores Fun and I wanted it to be photo illustrated, step by step, DK style. And she was interested, but needless to say that got higher up over there and they were like, 'No...'KJ Dell'Antonia 12:50 And me, I want that book. I would buy 500 copies of that book. Catherine Newman 12:58 So they then said, you know, can you expand it so it's not just that? And so the other thing I really had wanted to write was, I want to say etiquette, but I don't mean in the like uptight, sort of like how to talk to the Queen of England sons, just the like how to communicate sense of etiquette, like how to be a person who needs to communicate with other people. I had wanted to write a book about that, too. And so we sort of merged those. And the book for me is primarily that but then we broke it down a little so it seems like it's many more topics than communicating and like cleaning a bathroom. So there's some stuff about cooking, and some stuff about money, and some stuff about just general skills like you know, changing batteries and that's how it came to be. And so I have found both of my kids with galleys of the book open to learn whatever it is they need to do. Bernie has used the book to tie a necktie and swears it works. And when I had asked them to clean all the bathrooms at Thanksgiving, I went in and the book was like, propped up on the counter in the bathroom.Jess Lahey 14:16 Oh my gosh, that's so brilliant. KJ Dell'Antonia 14:17 I had not thought of that. We've been cleaning bathrooms like crazy around here and yeah, I discovered that one child claimed to have been taught to wipe the toilet with a Clorox wipe and then flush it. And when I tell you that we're on septic I can also tell you that that ended extremely badly with men in the basement and saws. Oh, God, yeah, that's not how to clean a toilet. And I really didn't tell her that either.Catherine Newman 14:47 No, I can imagine.KJ Dell'Antonia 14:49 Anyway, I have now taught this skill, but I feel that it needs refreshing so I'm gonna prop that up. Jess Lahey 14:57 I'm gonna do the same thing. There's that forgetting of things that technically they should know. And as we've talked about a bajillion times for me - that one was laundry and we solved that with the dry erase markers on the washer and dryer with all of the instructions and the bathroom one seems to be the next frontier that we have to handle around here.KJ Dell'Antonia 15:22 Well, the truth is that in this moment, any of us who did have someone who sometimes cleaned for us whether that was frequent or infrequent, don't have that. Anyway, most of us are, even if there's stuff that maybe we didn't have to do before, or we were teaching our kids to do it but they didn't necessarily have to do it I could kind of poke at it and that was fine because the person who really could do it was gonna be there in two weeks. So now it's like yeah, this is how you clean the toilet. Jess Lahey 16:17 Here's the nice thing about this book also is that there are so many times when you show a kid how to do it and you're being a little overly controlling or they're like no one else does that, no one cleans behind the toilet seat, Mom, you can show them a book and say, 'Look, this is how an arbiter of how these things should be done is actually doing things. KJ Dell'Antonia 16:55 So what has it been, like getting out there to share this book that is, in many ways, so different than from what you've done before?Catherine Newman 17:18 I could ask you the same. You know, it's funny. The funny thing for me is that my first two books were so intimate that actually, it was really like trial by fire in terms of publishing. So when people would blur together sort of criticizing the book with criticizing me as a parent or even just me as a person, because the memoir genre kind of invites that and it was really little nerve racking, honestly. And so then after that there was fiction, which is so delightful because it's fiction. And there was a book I did with my friend Nicole, that craft book, which is so delightful, because a) it's a craft book, so no one's gonna, like take my character apart over it and b) it was with a friend. So you know, it's like how I used to love co-teaching when I was teaching, like it's so dreamy to have a partner in something because you're not stranded. So this is none of those. This is not a memoir. It's not fiction. I don't have a partner in it, but it doesn't feel dangerous to me. It just feels like oh, kids need to know how to do stuff. And I feel pretty good about it being useful. So I don't have like weird shame, you know the memoirs for me, I promoted them with shame. I mean, I had blathered on and on about all my deepest fears about parenting and my kids and then I had to go sell it and it was so humiliating and I just am feeling a delightful absence of shame around this book. So I don't know if that's what you asked or how I ended up there. So I'm feeling pretty happy. I feel like it's coming out. I actually weirdly feel like the timing for my book is good because lots of kids are home. Jess Lahey 19:46 I'm in total agreement with you on that one. Catherine Newman 19:50 And I feel like lots of parents genuinely need help. So it doesn't even feel artificial. You know, sometimes you have to teach your kids stuff even though it'd be much easier just to do it. I know you both know that because You both have talked to me about that, but I feel like this moment where I can say hey, I am well to welcome someone make dinner you know it doesn't feel like a learning avenue it's just real life and the kids are in it with us and they're old enough to see it, it doesn't feel contentious and so I guess I feel like this is actually not a bad moment for a book like that. You know, I'm so glad I don't have some book coming out about I don't even know. I think we're lucky like KJ I weirdly feel like this about your book too, that your book even though it's fiction, and it's like this total romance, it's so perfect because it offers something that people need in this moment, like I needed to read about these feuding fried chicken places. And it was like this ace in the hole for me that I knew I could just relax and read it and it was so that it was like the most incredibly pleasurable comforting diversion. So anyway, I feel like it would just be terrible to be coming out with a book that was like entering the workforce or you know, something that was like so not the moment for it...KJ Dell'Antonia 22:06 Thank you for saying lovely things about The Chicken Sisters, I'm super excited to share it. And I am kind of with you, I had a lot of angst around How To Be a Happier Parent because I kept going, it's happier, and not better, either. I felt like, you know, who was I to talk and to say those things and so I felt a lot of stress around that, that I don't feel. You know, it's a fun novel. That's what it's supposed to be. And it is that and it's got pretty yellow cover, and I am looking forward to everyone being able to buy it.Catherine Newman 22:54 No one's hoping to solve a problem with it, except maybe just wanting to be diverted. You won't fail, you know...KJ Dell'Antonia 23:17 Did you find people pushing you to do something else that was more in line with what you've done before? You know does your agent say like 'Well, could you just write another memoir? Or a collection of essays perhaps.'Catherine Newman 23:51 The funny thing is I'm a terrible pitcher. Like I really like for people to come to me and be like, 'You know what we need?' And I'm like, 'Sure, you know, because I am, as I have said for 20 years, I'm just a writing tramp. I will write whatever, as long as it doesn't like conflict with my politics, you know, but I've written you know, whatever copy to say that the tampons not gonna fall out of your body without ever using the word tampon or body. I mean, give me whatever and I will write it. Like I even like being assigned weird stuff because then it's like doing a crossword puzzle. You know, it doesn't ask that much of you emotionally. But, all of that is to say that I am not dying to publish another book of essays or another memoir and maybe at some point, I will. I mean, I have a lot of interest in all of us doing an anthology about like menopause. That would be really, really funny. But, I feel like something collaborative that was like more a collaborative essay project. And I feel the same way about writing about older kids. I would love to do it collaboratively. But I definitely don't want to write a whole book about it. My guess is if I do another book after this, it'll be an adult novel. Adult novel always sounds like it's porn... I have an adult novel I want to write that I've been sort of writing and it's that thing where now I don't know how to write it because I'm starting to lose track of the world before the pandemic, even though I lived in it for 50 years. So I don't know, that's always lingering around as a thing I want to write and then, you know, I want to write another book in this genre for Story for sure. And I wouldn't be surprised if that something happened, I don't know if it would be a follow up, or we would have to see, I guess.Jess Lahey 27:25 So for writers that are wishing they can cobble together this Higgledy Piggledy, a little writing here, a little writing there a little of this genre. How I mean, I know it's impossible to say, I'm assuming you're not going to say, Oh, yes, I had this all written out. 10 years ago. This is exactly the path I have designed for myself.Catherine Newman 27:44 You mean when I was getting a PhD for 10 years, but I then went on to not use? Yeah, that really wasn't the plan. Jess Lahey 27:52 Yeah, that was while I was at law school, learning how to be a juvenile attorney. So you know, for those writers who look to us to have some sort of takeaway about how to create a life around writing for themselves? I mean, do you have anything you could share for us in terms of how you've managed to cobble together this really interesting career?Catherine Newman 28:15 Well, thank you for calling it both Higgledy Piggledy and interesting because I think of it really as both of those. Yeah, I guess so. I mean, nothing that you haven't heard on this podcast before. I feel like the old improv yes and advice I do think about, I say no to nothing. Again, only if it conflicts with my politics. So I've never been proud and I continue not to be, I will write most things and I will work on most projects and I will give it away if it's a worthy cause. I'm more than happy to write something for someone doing something that's important. So I ended up with tons of relationships and I know you're both the same that for both of you that sort of one of the treasures of your writing and publishing life is these ongoing really well nurtured relationships and I don't I do it as well as you guys, truly. But that said, I do maintain relationships with everyone I've ever written for and they end up who knows where like, you write the shitty Kotex copy and then that person goes to O Magazine, I just feel all the time like people move around so much. And as long as I make myself easy to work with, and available, then I feel like I get a lot of assignments just because those two things turn out to be, I think marketable skills weirdly.Jess Lahey 30:10 I find it shocking that you say you're not as good at it because we had never met, I admired your writing so much, and you agreed to have coffee with me never having met me before when I happened to be in your town. So I disagree that you are not very good at cultivating these relationships and you know, whenever I talk about your writing, people talk about the fact that they really admire you as a writer, so I think that you do a really good job of that.Catherine Newman 30:42 Well, thank you. I loved the idea too, that you like called me out of the blue. I totally was already stalking you. KJ Dell'Antonia 30:58 Catherine, I think you have a gig right now that a lot of writers would both kill for and also feel like well hey I could do that, I could weigh in on etiquette issue real simple and getting a column is kind of the gold standard of what people want that's hard to achieve and I get a lot of questions about it and I'm not at all helpful. So I would like to give you the opportunity to be not at all helpful - like how did it happen?Catherine Newman 31:36 Oh my god, it was so like a one thing and another and it was exactly the thing of an editor I'd worked with somewhere unglamorous ended up at Real Simple. And then I wrote something for her there and their etiquette columnist was leaving, they asked me to audition which was so nerve racking. so I The question was something like my cousin without talking to us named her twins after my twins like what would you do?So I it was just luck but a lot of my luckiest things (seemingly luckiest things) come from having said yes to really outrageous things either low paying things or things that I wrote for a good cause. I would just say for me, I think almost everything good in my career has come from a certain openness and willingness. You know, it's like when my kids were little and they were writing thank you notes for shitty presents, you know that they didn't like and weren't happy to get and I would say there's always something true you can say that's gonna be real, like someone gave you a gift that in and of itself is something to be thankful for and you can express that. That sounds so corny, but whatever. That's how I am. And I think like almost any opportunity I'm given to write I do feel like there's an opportunity to make some kind of meaning out of it, if that makes sense. Either to take pleasure in the writing or to say something funny or to get a little philosophy into it or a little politics into it. And so I guess I think of even the weirdest stuff as an opportunity, which I think is a head game I play with myself because I'm never going to be successful enough to not need to keep writing all this stuff all the time. You know, I am just constantly writing and that feeling I have of everything being a little bit of an opportunity, you know, we're all writers, because we're curious about the world, I feel like at bottom, that's probably the main thing we all have in common. And you can always express that, you know what I mean? Even if it's something that feels sort of random. So that's a long way to say that I think every writing gig is an opportunity. I mean, unless somewhere wealthy is grossly under paying you then don't do that. Like they can't do that. That's wrong. But I just mean, you know, some of the stuff that isn't like a perfect fit or isn't high profiler isn't very glamorous, those things have always led to other things for me, almost, almost inevitably, in a way that I feel like is karmic in the true sense of what you put out into the world comes back to you.KJ Dell'Antonia 34:51 We talk about things in that category a lot because we make a practice of getting annoyed with each other whenever we say I got lucky because yes, we have been lucky but yeah, fortune favors the well prepared. You know, Dax Shepard can't ask you on his podcast and Kristen Bell can't share your book unless you have written it and perhaps presented it to her. Yes, some things land and some things don't. But if you don't throw any paper airplanes up ain't nothing gonna hit.Catherine Newman 36:05 I feel like it's partly luck and partly this other gendered thing, which is I am a pleaser and I have really mixed feelings about that because on the one hand like I have raised Bertie to not be a pleaser...KJ Dell'Antonia 36:25 You wrote about that for me at Motherlode and it's such a hysterical piece and it made people so delighted and so angry at the same time.Catherine Newman 36:32 Yeah, but I am such a pleaser and that has served me really well in my career. And I never as a feminist, I always have really mixed feelings about it because some of it feels really gendered to me that I'm friendly. Let me say as a side note to my own comment that I was just making. I think one of the beauties of freelancing is that you can't take any of your relationships for granted and you shouldn't anyway, I mean, I really feel that right. If you're in a workplace, you should always be nurturing your relationships and taking care of everybody in that way. But freelancing, no one ever has to hire you again. It reminds me a little bit, if you will, of waiting tables, which I was excellent at. Where you're always gonna do best if you were your sort of best self if what you put out is the best version of yourself it's gonna bring you the best work and connect you to the best people. And the truth is, it actually makes my life good because I mostly have positive interactions and that's so much better for me than getting into bed at night and be like Oh God, I had the worst interaction with somebody. So if something's kind of weird I'll like die about it. And I just feel like freelancing I mostly have to be somebody that people would want to hire. You know, I know I keep sounding like such a w***e. But there it is.KJ Dell'Antonia 38:21 That's kind of how it works some of the time. So Catherine, what have you been reading?Catherine Newman 39:59 So truly The Chicken Sisters was my segue back into reading but I wanted to mention a book that actually I was reading right before that, which was (I don't know if you've talked about it on the podcast), but the Chanel Miller book, Know My Name. I admired it so much. I just love her and I love her as an illustrator and I just love everything about her. And as a memoir, I thought the gift of being able to write about something so terrible, with so much love and optimism just blew me away. Like, it's everything I ever sort of wanted to be as a writer. And that book just killed me. I thought it was so incredibly good. I almost wanted to read it again to study it.Jess Lahey 41:32 I didn't know she was a writer, so I was a little nervous. And then I was so blown away, especially towards the second half. I found there were a few moments in the first half where I wasn't totally with her, but then it just picked up steam in terms of it felt to me almost that she got to be a better writer during the process of writing it and at the end of it I went off for a walk in the woods by myself because I had to sort of just process that book. It was exquisite. It was so well doneCatherine Newman 41:59 I had honestly just the exact same. I read it because I felt like this kind of moral obligation as a feminist not to turn away from the story, was so I felt like I should read this book. I picked it up with a dread of obligation. And then it's just sang, it was so beautiful. So that book and Bertie read it after and was crazy about it. And so that book, I have other books, but I want to hear what you're reading, too. Jess Lahey 42:47 KJ, you want to go next?KJ Dell'Antonia 42:57 I've started some books. Okay. I'm going to tell you that I'm rereading a book, because I can tell you with confidence that I love this book and I have enjoyed it. I think this is a multiple read. I've read this many times because it's just soothing and kind of wonderful. And I think I've talked about it on the podcast. Catherine Newman 43:15 Can I guess? Is it I Capture the Castle?KJ Dell'Antonia 43:19 No, but I do like that. No, not at all. It's a memoir, and it's called Recipes for a Beautiful Life by Rebecca Berry. She wrote it in like 2008 or it takes place in like 2008 so it's got a lot of the the economy crash in there as she and her family are moving. We all know I'll read anything in which a family moves to a small town in a rural place and makes a new life for themselves. Anyway, I have really enjoyed that. So that is what I can guarantee for you. I have started The Henna Artist and I really like it so far. I'm gonna mangle her name so I'm going to look it up for the show notes. At chapter three I'm really liking it, but we all know how that could go, but I don't think it will.Jess Lahey 44:22 Well I have to start with I listened to the audio of Sarina Bowen's newest book Sure Shot and I got to talk about it with her because she did some really interesting things in there and we were talking a little bit. We were talking about authors who are gardeners and they plant seeds for new things and Sarina just did an exquisite job in this book. I love her books from just a listening to the story perspective but I also love watching her go and sort of planting the seeds for the books that will follow in the series because she writes books in a series and this is one of the Brooklyn Bruisers hockey books and I just from a technical perspective adored listening to Sure Shot her new hockey romance. But it's funny KJ that you said the thing about small town and comfort and making a life in a small town thing because my comfort listen this past couple of weeks on and off has been Animal Vegetable Miracle by Barbara Kingsolver because I've been prepping my gardens, I've spent so much time not writing as much but doing a ton of gardening and so listening to Barbara Kingsolver while I do that has been has been just wonderful. And the last thing I just finished last night was another Harlan Coben, this one was called Missing You and it was really clever. And we have to try to get Harlan Coben on the show because he does this thing that Sarina had told me about that he's known for, which is the the climax at the end of the book, except it's got two peaks, not one. Like you think you've hit the climax and you have the answers and then he hits you again, with a second sort of twist climax. And it's so it's his thing. He does it over and over and over again. And he's so good at it. The guy plots a book like nobody's business, so I'm dying to talk to him. So if anyone out there knows Harlan Coben, I would love to talk to him about how he plots his books. But anyway, so that's been what I've been listening to and it's been all listening. A little bit of reading books in hand but mostly listening because I've been out in the garden. Catherine Newman 47:25 Can I mention one other book? I just so what I just read is my friend Amity Gage's book, Sea Wife. And it's not at all comforting at all takes place on a sailboat. And it's a young family, a married couple and kids on this sailboat and it's a kind of a thriller and kind of a mystery. And I feel like it's one of the best books I've ever read about parenting even though it's a novel, and I tore through it but it's very breathless and like terrifying so...KJ Dell'Antonia 48:10 Well that has its place at the moment, too. Because then you forget where you are. Catherine Newman 48:15 I was really caught up in it and it's also just incredibly lyrical. Like some of the sentences I would read twice just because it was so gorgeous. So I'm recommending that as a total escape-like thriller.Jess Lahey 48:54 I went yesterday, I have to say I went yesterday to pick up a book from the Vermont Bookshop in Middlebury, Vermont, and there was no one at the shop but they had this beautiful cart outside the door with everyone's orders labeled and covered with some plastic and it was just the most delightful way to get out and and go 'shopping' even though I couldn't shop it worked really nicely. Booksellers are working so hard to make that work. Catherine, thank you for being so patient with us while we worked out the details of how we were going to have you on the show. It shouldn't have taken us this long, but we're very happy that you were patient with us.Catherine Newman 49:48 Oh my gosh, my pleasure. Talking to you is a highlight of my week and life.Jess Lahey 49:55 Well, and I'm going to recommend that people go ahead and preorder How to Be a Person...KJ Dell'Antonia 50:03 They won't have to preorder it will be out by the time this is out.Jess Lahey 50:07 It's just such a delightful book. It's such a fun read, I'm going to be giving it as like part of a baby gift. I'm going to have copies around to give to people constantly. I have a neighbor I'm giving it to as a gift. So I'm so excited to have just multiple copies around the house.Catherine Newman 50:26 You guys are so supportive I could cry. Jess Lahey 50:33 Oh Catherine, where can people find you if they want to find out more about your higgledy piggledy career?Catherine Newman 51:06 CatherineNewman writer.com I think.Jess Lahey 51:44 Until next week, everyone, keep your butt in the chair and your head in the game. This episode of #AmWriting with Jess and KJ was produced by Andrew Parilla. Our music, aptly titled unemployed Monday was written and performed by Max Cohen. Andrew and Max were paid for their services because everyone, even creatives should be paid. This is a public episode. Get access to private episodes at amwriting.substack.com/subscribe

NOTES:Have you been to a wedding and thought, wait, who are those people? They don't look like they're in the right place. While I'm not saying you need to hire secret service to make sure unwanted guests crash your wedding a la Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn, you still want to be cognizant if other guests at the property will be able to gain access to your wedding. Maybe your venue has a popular bar and restaurant right next to your reception, or they have public spaces next to the outdoor patio next to your cocktail hour. You'll want to ask your venue how they ensure your guests are able to find your wedding while other guests are directed away from it and there's little opportunity for overlap. To learn what other questions you might be forgetting to ask your wedding venue, visit my blog post >>> verveeventco.com/weddingvenuequestions.

Coming to NBC this fall, The New Normal, from the creators of the legendary Life. In this futuristic sitcom, we follow John Everyman in a post-apocalyptic New York City. After a virus wipes out a large percentage of humanity, John must go from eating from cans and virtual conference calls to having to put pants on again! And if that wasn't enough, his ex, Sarah, is back in town having recovered from the terrible flesh-eating virus! When they get back together it seems John has some issues with her new look! Catch it this fall with these other great shows:* Stickers* Voter ID* The Elder Scrolls VI* ZoomStickers are good for one thing: making clean things dirty. I know, I know I'm in the minority, but that means you have to listen to me. I see stickers slathered on laptops and music gear all the time, and you know what, it makes me think less of that person. A single sticker meticulously placed at the center, or to hide a blemish? Perfectly A-OK. So many that you can't see the original color? BOO. It reminds me of the hallway of dingy venues that lead to the bathrooms, but without the scent of beer and piss and the packed-like-sardines groping going on.Requiring any of a plethora of acceptable forms of identification when you vote seems reasonable. You can't buy liquor or Mortal Kombat without it, so why should voting be held to a lesser standard? Well if you're a white liberal, then voter ID is unlawful and racist, but when it comes to literally anything else, TAG ME DADDY GOVERNMENT. MAKE ME HOLD UP A SIGN SAYING I'M A FILTHY VAXXER, DADDY. WRITE IT ON ME, DADDY. LET'S TELL THE WHOLE WORLD I'M YOUR LITTLE CORONA SLAVE.Skyrim? That shit's old. It came out like more than twenty years ago. I'm pre-ordering that hot new game TES6. It comes out on the PS6 next year, even my dad is excited, he said he was "hype AF". What a coronahead. While I'm here, let me get Street Fighter 7, Call of Duty Black Ops 9, and the new Destiny 2 expansion. Anyways, I heard that the NPCs in TES6 are *so* advanced that they've got like 50 different arrow in the knee stories.Google Hangouts, Microsoft Teams, Zoom, whatever you use, it's creeped up into so many more people's lives. It's taking over everything, from live TV, to education. I honestly think we'll see Zoom Movies by next year. And you know what? It'll look LIKE GARBAGE. Jesus christ, send these people some decent hardware! YOU'RE BEING OUTDONE BY TWITCH STREAMERS. IT'S A NECESSITY FOR THEM. SIMPS NEED THEIR MOMMY JOI ROLEPLAY ASMR IN 4K 60FPS.All this and more on this week’s episode! Don't forget to join us on DISCORD, and support us on PATREON, NEWPROJECT2 or by BUYING A SHIRT!

Hi friends! Happy Thursday! Here's something I've been thinking about lately (and I know we're probably all doing A LOT of thinking in quarantine): redo's.   If you think we need a redo in 2020, I should tell you about my 2019. So...with a little hesitation...here goes.   In this week's episode of VO Stories- I get real and share how my own personal pandemic (a breast cancer diagnosis) prepared me for our new reality - a global pandemic. While I'm still learning, growing and adjusting to this new normal - well, both of my new normals I guess -  I do believe that I discovered some gifts from that first upside down world that are serving me well now and may be of value to you too.     How are you finding loving ways to be with yourself in these unusual times? Let me know in the comments below. New episodes of VO Stories, every Thursday.

Aloha guys, In this episode I wanted to try something a little different. In my first 3 episodes the layout was really structured and planned, which there is nothing wrong with having them like that. I just was getting a little held up with feeling like I just wanted to talk stories with you folks. So in this episode I decided to just have a time where I could come and talk with you folks. A time to share some intimate details about my life and help you folks get to know me in a different light. weather you know me outside of this podcast or you only met me because of the podcast I wanted to share with you folks some details in my life that could help you folks get to know me a bit better as we continue on our journey together as friends. While Im doing this I am also doing my makeup. Makeup is for me is fun and enjoyable. Since we are stuck in doors I figure it is a good time to practice my makeup skills and get more comfortable wearing my makeup so that when we are able to go out and able to see others I'll be ready to slay the day. So come and sit with me, grab a drink and a snack and lets' take a peek into Ui a little better where I talk about friends, family and love of makeup!! lets' have some fun!

Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal, and necessary. Doreen Virtue As we enter wrap up week six of working from home during COVID-19, many of us are looking forward to a weekend free from yet another Zoom meeting. While I'm grateful for what technology has offered us during this time, it isn't without its challenges. Today, we're going to talk about why setting digital boundaries are vital to preserving your well-being and capacity as a leader - especially now. Enjoy the episode and stay safe. Recommended Resources:  Join LEAD.Well – a new leadership subscription for women who want to be better, braver leaders. Sign up to receive my weekly Leadership Letters Join me on Instagram here or on Twitter

This is an episode of my other podcast, Unresolved, which is dealing with Hoax-like material this week. While I'm not quite ready to start the new season of Hoax, I can confirm that it is coming soon, and hopefully this will help tide you over until then. Learn more about this podcast at http://unresolved.me

When you do anything new and challenging (even new if it’s only new and challenging to you) you have to work against the protests of your own brain.  Your brain wants you to take the easy way.  Your brain wants you to stay exactly where you are and who you are—because it thinks this is the best way to keep you alive. But our lives can be about so much more than mere survival.  Life offers each of us a chance to grow and develop and innovate and evolve and create.  But in order to do any of these things we have to be willing to step outside our comfort zone and confront the natural  objections of our own brains.   In this episode, I am sharing the lessons I have learned in creating and publishing 50 podcast episodes, in the hopes that these thoughts will help you as you go to do hard or new things in your own life—even things outside your current capacity. While I'm sure your goals are different than mine, these principles will help you get out of your own way so that you can go after your own goals and dreams and plans in a big way.   For a transcript and show notes, please visit: https://www.aprilpricecoaching.com/50

There is a lot of talk about the recent stimulus package that was rolled out.  While I'm not an expert on this topic, I've spent a lot of time listening to the details from people who are.  I wanted to hopefully give you some clarity on this topic.  Keep in mind that this package is still subject to many changes. I talk about: -Stimulus checks -Paycheck protection loan -EIDLEA loan/grant Still not in my 4-Week challenge and free 30-day trial?  Ends Aril 8th, enroll here: https://www.etsyentrepreneur.com/4-week-challenge-sales-page

Each week the NZ Herald and Newstalk ZB's Cooking the Books podcast tackles a different money problem. Today, it's a bonus episode on what financial help is available so far, and what might be coming in the future. Hosted by Frances Cook.Nothing like a pandemic to make a few weeks feel like a year. When I recorded the last podcasts you heard, I was about to take a bucket list holiday – I've since escaped from that while borders were closing around me, had a scare that we'd caught Covid-19, tested negative, and I'm finally back to work to help you figure out what on earth is going on here. And if you're struggling to keep up with what's happening, you're not alone. The Government makes new announcements every day of what type of support is available to help us get through this crisis together. While I'm glad they have so many programmes, it does make it a little difficult to keep up. So from wage subsidies to what happens if you lose your job to the rumours of what's next, I've roped in one of my political colleagues to help us figure it out. For the latest episode, I talked to Herald political reporter Jason Walls. If you have a question about this podcast, or question you'd like answered in the next one, come and talk to me about it. I'm on Facebook here https://www.facebook.com/FrancesCookJournalist/ Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/francescooknz/ and Twitter here https://twitter.com/FrancesCook

This weeks guest is Nathan Simmonds. Nathan’s sole purpose is to challenge people’s thinking so they can become more incredible than yesterday. He helps leaders and entrepreneurs cut through the noise of modern life, harness their overwhelm and create clarity in the chaos. Nathan’s does this by focusing his energy to help others articulate their purpose, create deeply compelling goals and help them define an incredible legacy through continuous improvement of mind, action and outcome. With over 20-years of Leadership experience combining a wealth of life experience from world travels, martial arts, environmental studies, bullying in school and the work place, health and well-being from literally the bloody end of the blade he shares these in his work as a Leadership coach, consultant and trainer and also soon to-be author. All of this dedication and determination shows how absolutely relentless he is in helping others deliver the impact they’re designed to in the pursuit of their highest potential.Links: https://www.nathansimmondscoaching.com/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/HowToFindFulfilment https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathan-simmonds-leadership-coach-and-trainer/Welcome back to the fuel your legacy podcast. Each week, we expose the faulty foundational mindsets of the past and rebuild the newer, stronger foundation essential in creating your meaningful legacy. We've got a lot of work to do. So let's get started.As much as you like this podcast, I'm certain that you're going to love the book that I just released on Amazon if you will, your legacy, the nine pillars to build a meaningful legacy. I wrote this to share with you the experiences that I had while I was identifying my identity, how I began to create my meaningful legacy and how you can create yours. You're going to find this book on kindle amazon and as always on my website, Sam knickerbocker.com.Welcome back to the fuel your legacy podcast and bringing the best in the industry's and I have got on this kick lately, of bringing people to you who are from either Australia, South Africa, or the UK. So it's up to you to kind of determine who and where they're from. Unless they tell you it's kind of a game, or you look at their hands and look at their bio, right? Because if you don't know the intricacies of their accents, then you'll just never know. But yeah, so today we're going to have Nate theremins on and he is a leadership coach, trainer consultant soon to be an author. And just absolutely incredible an individual dedicated to others, really connecting to their purpose. And that's why one of the reasons why I wanted to have them on here is to focus on how are you as an individual connecting to your purpose, your legacy, and then what are you doing to design your life around your legacy rather than making your life fit around your day job or your work? So and that's what we're going to talk about here and I'm just super excited to be able to have this conversation And if you don't mind, go ahead and give us a little bit of backstory as far as where you came from how you grew up, and why you're so passionate about what you're right now,Samuel, thank you, John, I was so excited having the conversation with you, because I feel your legacy just resonated so strongly with me. And I'm happy to be here to share some of this content. The story for me is, I would say, pretty much an average life. You know, the big getting part was my parents. My parents lived in austere times. I grew up through the 80s went to school in the 90s. My parents are both kinds of working middle-class people. My father was a police officer. And I was a very active child and my dad showed us how to do lots of different things kind of, you know, building things, how to put shelves up how to paint and all these sorts of things. And he taught us you know, how to get hands-on with life. But what I found was, as I started to grow up. I went to secondary school high school for you guys. And that's where things started to fall for me because that active child that learned through seeing and doing fell short and it broke me the system broke me through a system of repeat or, you know, sit and repeat to get your qualifications. And that's where everything started to shift for me. So, I felt as I was in high school, secondary school, that I had a purpose, but I didn't know what it was. I didn't know how to express it clearly. So all those that pent up frustration of being a young teenager being in an environment that didn't fit me or being asked to live up to someone else's expectation, all those frustrations erupted into no toxic behaviors. When I was around 1314 I started to be bullied by a group of boys older boys from another school. Not knowing what to do that with those emotions what to do with that pain. I then learned that you have to hurt other people to compensate. Later on, more recently I heard a quote from I think is Dr. Sandra Wilson. hurt people hurt people. And that's what I was doing. But I never dealt with the problem. As I then progressed out of school went into work. My father was always asking me what you're going to do what you're going to be. He wasn't a coach. He wasn't he was a police officer. That and that was the extent of his questioning what you're going to do what you're going to be trying to push me to think further, but not giving me any more depth of thought around that. And then that frustration, you know, I don't know what I want to be. He was asking this question for about 14 1516 I didn't know what I wanted to be. I didn't know what I wanted to do. I just knew I had a purpose. I just didn't know how to tap into it, what it would what I would amount so I went through the motions and I Listen to some of your previous guests about leadership and the leaders in their environment. And that's what I started doing. I started getting into management roles at 19 years old, I'd look for pay rises, I've moved to another company, I try and develop myself. I'm always looking for that certainty and security that my parents both wanted so desperately for me to have my brother to have, that they didn't have. And when they were growing up, when I bought their first house, at one point, their mortgages jumped in at 20% an incredible, incredibly hard times. And they wanted us to have the best because no parent in their right mind wants to feel good to be equal to or less than them. And I went to see you succeed, and I wanted to see us have that security, work hard, retire and be comfortable. But that never felt right to me. And there was always this internal friction. But I didn't have director so the bullying I never dealt with going into work. And two jobs that just didn't feel quite right. I didn't kind of A-line to my ethics. These emotions were bottled up and trapped inside. And then eventually what happened was the age of 24. I can only describe and tell you it had you seen me you would have done to one or two things, you would have either pulled him away in absolute disgust of what you were seeing because of the mess or was or you would have called me an ambulance because you knew that I'd overdosed on recreational drugs. All these pent up frustrations over the years from going to school, being made to fit in or you know, is feeling like I was forced to fit in doing jobs that never felt quite right and never knowing who I was never feeling comfortable in my skin because there was more for me to give. came to that cataclysmic moment of me lying on a sofa in that state, standing on the edge of a metaphorical precipice, precipice looking over the edge and having to make a decision what I was gonna do with my life.And again, that sense of purpose came up. I can either continue down this road, I'll either be dead or in prison. Or I can step back and I can go and do something about this. And that was the choice of my life gives you repeated lessons, and some other parts their story and I step back from this a few weeks later, deciding to stop doing those sorts of things then. Six weeks later, I bumped into the lady that is now my wife. I made some serious decisions and moved to Amsterdam, where she was she's English, but she had moved there already or was planning to move there. So I wind up living with her for four years in Amsterdam. And I took all those leadership skills that I developed and taken on board and actually and it sounds pretty salubrious it was a great job at the time ended up managing the customer services for time and Fortune magazine and National Geographic for the European country. the base here in here in Europe and Asia before I think the international database, not the American clients so did that for a few months while it's here cutting my teeth as a leader in a larger businessthen returned homewasn't completely sure that what I was doing again with my Anna and myself returned not yet married, making a decision we wanted to start a family we wanted to be near our family so that we could have the build the relationships between grandparents and grandchildren today. They're going to get lost incorporate. I got lost in kind of the expectations. And I went it was getting doing jobs for that security for Okay, the structure that again, it didn't feel right. I was working in the finance sector, frontline banks, became a bank manager and then moving into car insurance. And there are very few financial businesses out there without actually about the people. It remains to be about the numbers. Again, these ethics and these principles just didn't fit me. And his frustration started to bring to the surface and I was getting into arguments with my leaders because I didn't agree with what they were saying with me saying to me, I then encountered bullying, workplace bullying, because of the bullying that I never dealt with as a child at school. Just came back to rear its head again, in a work environment.And I was looking around the officelamenting call him vocally at times about the situation about the lack of leadership about the lack of skills about the lack of support that people were supposed to be getting. Now they were saying great things, but the action you know, the audio and the video didn't, didn't sync up. And eventually got to a point where I can either sit here pointing my finger at everybody else or I can start pointing my finger where I want to go and where I want to take people phrase I heard a couple of years ago. Complaining is the glue that keeps you stuck to your circumstances. retire you're doing it all the time that you're complaining you cannot activate solution or thinking you cannot come up with new ideas while you're busy pointing your finger at other people and saying that they're the problem. Rather than saying, you know what, I've got something I can do this. The next lesson that came up was is the thing that you lack is the thing that you're meant to give. And at that point, there was a level of friction a level of tension came up. The level of intention came up in my daughter was about to arrive around 3536 years old, I stumbled across Sana cynic and the Golden Circle, how great leaders inspire action. all at the same time dojo about to arrive within 24 hours Simon sitting on what is my purpose? Here is a model framework like a building soon from the It's been focused drive to understand my purpose, which I now have absolute clarity on, help other people understand and articulate their purpose as well. Inside that, I've gone and got my qualifications in leadership coaching, started to deliver leadership content to individuals and help them upgrade their skills. And then get deep on what I bring and how I bring it. So the party and your title around fuel your legacy, and came up with these three pillars of the purpose, the goals, and the legacy. So the purpose is you at your genetic best is what you're born with. There is something about you that you are born with. It is hardwired into your genetics at the moment of conception, and you bring that in every single activity, whether you realize it or not. So your purpose is never unknown. is either unclear.I'm focused or unstructured.When we Get into that when you go back and do the analytics and say, Okay, well, what did I do in this situation or this situation, you will always find a core behavior and action that you always take. And what's the phrase, you know, you never rise to the expectation, you always fall back to the level of training.Regardless of what happens, whether it's good or bad,you'll fall back to that, that core principle of who you are, and you will bring that every single time. So when you go back and do the analytics, and you get really clear on it, and you get really focused with it, and you get really structured with it, you can then implement that in every single conversation going forward, every single relationship, every single project, who am I, when I'm at my best and my genetic best, who am I bring into this conversation? Okay, what am I going to put into this conversation? To start to create, you know, you start to create the future. So that's the purpose I and then what we do is we start to build go that are designed from purpose because your goals are a physical manifestation of you at your fundamental best. Big, incredible, staggering, or, you know, or inspiring goals. The biggest possible manifestation of you your best, having a huge impact on civilization as a whole. And then the legacy part is the daily activity, the ripple effect, the seven generations before you that you're going to impact through the work that you're doing, and living at your fullest potential and extracting the gold and the wisdom and the pose of lessons and value in the people that you meet on a daily basis on the failures that you have and how you rejoice in them. And how you bring that back full circle, that living in that purpose, creating the goals, and then working on that daily to feel your legacy.And that's concepts have come up withWhy did thisfor me, the part that really kind of started to lock this into basically is understanding these four stages of work. The four stages of work when you bring this to life is the work that you're taught to do the work that you're told to do, meaningful work and purposeful work. So when I reflected on my life, I saw these four stages. Why stage one is the word that you're taught to do. This is what school is doing for us. It's teaching us to go to work is an outdated factory model to create factory workers post-Industrial Revolution. Except for the concept though the workspace we live in now is more intellectual, more creative. Not so much work-oriented, as AI comes in. These roles and responsibilities are going to know massively doing this. The parents on it won't be the US doing it. So what you're teaching us to do is turn up on time Do is retold and live up to someone else's expectation. Then when someone starts asking your question like my wonderful father did, we're going to do what you're gonna be that frustration starts to kick in. Okay, maybe there's more than this, maybe there's something outside of this box. That concept of I has a purpose. There's something bigger than me there's something bigger I need to be given was already there. He was feeling it with these core questions. So around about 15. For me, my mindset shifted to the work that you're told to do. My question in any of my leadership development code, or events, what I'm talking about feedback or coaching, who likes being told what to do?No one.When we have the word that we're told to do, what happens is we have you know, symptoms that come up frustrations, agitation, conversations, boy, like, why because people can't see what you can see. You can't see what they can see. And the connections just start to break down. Why because you're always right. straightened and always angry. Then when you learn the fresh questions as in leadership development coaching skill, someone gets a mentor comes to you and starts asking you questions, you can then shift from the work that you're told to do to meaningful work. And for me, there was a difference between meaningful and purposeful. meaningful is full of meaning to you as an individual. You can spend time doing it all day you will find excuses to do it. But there's a level of selfishness that sits inside it is not about someone else. Yes, you're good at what you do. Yes, you enjoy it. And yes, you can lose yourself in it for hours on end, and it makes you happy and you can go home happy that is still only about you. We then have to take it up a level and this is where it comes back to that purpose base. purposeful work is where we need to be aiming ourselves. the purpose of work is full of meaning to me, that is full of purpose to the other person. I'm doing it as a servant. Leader. Now I want to talk to people about leadership and they go there a team leader or operational leader, whatever, what comes first, the team, the operation, you know, your team does not work for you, you work for your team, you are an enabler for them to be the best possible versions of themselves to clear any obstacle so they can go and deliver exceptional work and deliver exceptional results for themselves. So that in return, you get something out of the back of it as a side effect, you are successful because they are successful, not the other way around. And if you don't get this concept, right, as a leader, you want to have a team very long. And if you haven't got a team, you've got no one to lead. This is where it comes in with a legacy that has what am I given to these people, my work family who I work for these people so that they can go and do their version of incredible so when we move into purpose will work it's about the other person is about contribution, it's about givingIt's about elevating others.For me, this is the stuff that I now share from these experiences of being bullied of reckless, toxic behaviors. I didn't know what to do with because of my frustrations and lead those attempting to keep on things, the way that I thought about things before. Before I took that kind of twist on the viewpoint, and looked at it from a different angle and got that new concept of this is what I can be doing. This is what I can be giving. This is how I can help other people. And now from there, I've gone from the corporate environment, I've moved out of a full-time job. And I've now moved into a part-time job, which pays me more than my full-time job. doing what I love doing which is delivering leadership content to people going into other organizations and teaching their leaders how to be more credible yesterday so they can get better results for their people. So when you talk about helping other individuals move out of their roles that are out of their expectations and obligations, that contractual confinement that we often feel in the corporate life, there is a way through it. And part of that is about tapping into your purpose, understanding who you are the fundamental best. Working out the things that you enjoy doing the things that excite you. And then ratchet ratcheting them up to talk about gap analysis, you know, the mark itself between one and 10 one being rubbish 10 being great on the certain things will find the things that you're a 10 out of 10 out on your skillset. And then write them on a level of excitement of Are you a 10 out of 10 on excitement and if you can make those things that are 10 out of 10 make them a 12 out of 10 make yourself a specialist make yourself an expert make yourself sought after because you are so awesome that you cannot be ignored. And people will pay you incredibly large amounts of money for fewer hours so that you can spend more time building high-quality relationships with the individuals that are important to you. So there are ways through when you tap into that purposeful work and start giving it to people you will become more valuable and you will raise your status in the arena. And more people will also be will look to lift you so that you can go and do great to work in that space.Yeah, I love that. So, I mean, there's so much there I'm not going to be able to go back and cover all of it but I do want to tear into some of these things. And when I say tear, it's an exciting thing, not a bad thing butgood there'sthere's so many different angles that we could take this show with your history and where you've been because what's funny is you can research people you can look at them on their social media, their stuff like that, and there are certain stories you just don't ever hear until you talk one on one. And, and so I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful for being able to share some of these things and pull them out. We actually are maybe surprisingly similar in the area of and I would, I would not just say, you and I, but a lot of the people that I have interviewed, and we have a level of where we felt like or we experienced a situation in our younger years of bullying, of where we were kind of bullied or cornered or forced into a certain perspective that we didn't agree with, or feel in alignment to, and that happens for various reasons. It's always an interesting thing. There's a story of Thomas Edison.Hegot sent home from school with a note for his mom. And in the note, it said Your son is too dumb to be in our class and to be taken to a specialty school or something or to taught at home. And when his mom read that, rather than telling him that that's what the note said, she said, I look, you are just too smart for the teachers and everybody at school. So we're going to teach you at home. Right and so it's all about framing and perspective. And when it comes to that, but it does happen often where we feel forced into something where we don't feel we don't feel fulfilled. And then, as a result, we have this almost dimming of our purpose or our true light. And for Nathan, he mentioned that it went into drugs went into different areas to kind of numb the pain, or lack of fulfillment. And that's so it's just such a fascinating thing that I think of everybody listening to this took a hard look at themselves and said, what, what am I using to numb the pain of lack of fulfillment? That could be Netflix, it could be food, it could be trapped I mean it could be so many different things it could be a relationship to numb the pain of not fulfilling your dreams or not fulfilling your full extent of your being through creation. And there's there are so many different areas that you might be using right now to numb the pain of your life or numb the pain of your lack of fulfillment. And it's so crucial to really identify what that is and not only identify with how you're numbing it, but then go and identify what aligns with me. Do you remember at the beginning of his when he was saying everything was core values, right like it didn't align with who I was didn't feel right? My stomach is always in knots. I wasn't quite right doesn't mean it wasn't being successful. You can have lots of money you can be very financially successful and not fulfilled. Hmm. How many of the people that you're coaching right now, Nathan do you think are in that position where it's not that they're not successful by working standards, but they just flat out aren't fulfilled in what they're doing.I think there's a lot of things that come out of the schooling situation and it's not school bashing, it's reporting is a situation. It breeds a level of uniformity and conformity. When we go into the corporate space, you're looking around and probably 98% of the people are doing the same thing. And I'd say probably 100% of the people of that 98 % sitting there in their heads at some point thinking, is it just me am I just the problem is this there must be more than this. There must be more to this to this life. It can't just be this but some of them to different varying levels and different levels are holding that down or not responding or not answering that call. Because as I said, you know your purpose is always in this you know whether it's a whisper, it's a screaming Banshee, demanding You to take action on it demanding that you do that. So when people come to me for coaching is because they are frustrated because they have hit that kind of glass ceiling in their head. Because someone that they feel frustrated that other people aren't seeing that in them. I haven't got a leader above them that can support them in a way to help them develop up. So when they come to speak to me is because they want clear-talking, they want clear words that are going to help them get to get to where they need to be in their headspace so they can then take the action and go to the job interview or rewrite the resume or redesign the goal according to them. Rather than living up to someone else's expectation rather than staying quiet, because maybe they think the other kids in the classroom might make fun of them for having big goals. Maybe and it can be no we Many people are wandering around and it's still actually just a trap child. They are still the child they were when they were 1314 years old being picked on in the playground somewhere, or behaving in that way. But actually, they're in the body of a 45-year-old.Yeah, absolutely. I think that's what's interesting about what you had mentioned about the bullying if you don't take care of those, those issues that you experienced when you're younger, especially the highly emotional experiences, they have a way of resurfacing in the future. And some people think, man, this is so terrible. Why is this happening again? For me, I tend to look at life as an opportunity to learn and grow. And I'm grateful that if I didn't learn a lesson, the first time that it's going to resurface in my life and another area so that I can learn that lesson. Right? It would be a shame if the every time you fail something that you only get to try that once you only get to try one area of personal development once at once and if you fail to develop yourself that one time, then you don't ever get the opportunity to change that in your life again, that would be really unfortunate. So I'm so grateful in my life, that these issues, these things that do offend us they do resurface in our lives so that we can have an opportunity to understand how to move past them.So the way that I look at it is I look at life as a computer game. Now if you bought a computer game and the first level was so ridiculously hard that you could not get past that. And then the gun got easier as the game progressed, how many copies of that game would get sold? Not many. So your life challenges the things that you know your traumatic experiences those certain events occur with those that gratitude that helps you to learn from it is not about making life easier, is about making sure you do learn the lesson so that you can move forward with it faster because like the computer game When you're looking at certain, certain strategic strategy games or whatever, when you're playing them, when that character dies, it goes back. It responds to the game. And in different ways you have, you still have the same challenge, but you have it from a different angle. And this is this analogy is in the sense of, okay, well, actually, I didn't learn this lesson in this relationship with his partner. But I'm going to go and have the same relationship with a different partner. And that's just life-giving you back this situation, you haven't learned the lesson that you haven't learned yet. So you actually can learn from it, and then move it forward. Then that came back into the thinking that if people are just sitting at work, just going through the motions, what do they complain about on a daily basis, when you're looking in those corporate spaces, they go and complain about the same thing over and over and over and over again, they never go and look for the solution. Then talk about the numbing element that you talked about because energy doesn't disappear. It just gets redirected. How do we redirect it? smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol working for the weekend. Now socially and there are socially acceptable and unacceptable ways of doing this drinking too much coffee socially acceptable. Now in the modern age sitting on the toilet, checking social media is socially acceptable. Why? Because you're being social. So when you these are the clear indicators that there is a problem now had two incidents that happened in the last kind of six months. I went to push the cubicle door in a men's toilets open. The guy hadn't locked the toilet door. Thankfully, for me, he was sitting on top of the toilet lid still with his trousers up checking social media. He forgot to lock the door. So he wasn't even using the toilet. He was hiding in the toilet checking in social media. That tells me there's a problem. Yeah, that's a flag. got to a point though, where I'll be sitting in my cubicle using a toilet and the person next to me doesn't even turn the volume down on their phones. When the video comes up on Facebook now, they're not even hiding it. So there are all these little flags going up, but it's socially acceptable to do this. Why? Because everybody else is doing it yet that lower conformity kicks in. But actually, no one's picking up. Okay? What's the reason this person wants to go and hide from his work and sit on the toilet and check his Instagram? One because he hasn't got a purpose because he's not engaged with what he's doing because not aligned to his value in what he's designed to bring from the inside out. Yeah,I completely agree with that. In fact, one of the speeches that I would give to a corporate and a more corporate setting to managers or business owners, maybe at a rope, rotary club or something, is about redefining the SMART goals and, and turning them into something exciting and so I actually, when I give that speech, I started by talking about having alike a sexual affair.If you're married and you're having sexual affair, right, how terrible is that? How? Why is this happening? What are the symptoms of this? And then I relate that to any company, individual manager, business owner, who has not made their vision purpose. I mean, I love what you said their purpose, their goals, and their legacy. If they haven't put that in a way that's so sexy that it's holding somebody else's attention, then their employees are cheating on them. If they haven't made their that goal so massive that it demands attention. It demands focus, it demands these things, then they're not getting there. And then is it remarkable like well, first is audacious that isn't creating separation. Are you with what you're doing? I Tesla, I don't know if you saw over the last few months, but Tesla's new truck that's coming out.I'm assuming youlove Google it right if you haven't seen it, but it's a funny looking truck, right, but it's going to create a separate Same thing, right? Putting a Tesla car circle orbiting the planet for no other reason it's creating. It's an audacious move. That's creating separation from the people who like Tesla and the people who don't like Tesla. And he's doing something remarkable so that other people are going to talk about it. And then lastly, is transparency. Are you willing to tell everybody what your goals are to hold you accountable, tell the world about them shouting from the rooftops? And if you're not doing that, and then your people are cheating on you. And they could, I've never really thought of it this way. But now this, this is, I'm going to have to add this into my speech, but they aren't just cheating on you with their dreams. There's probably a small percentage of people cheating on you with their dreams. Probably most people are cheating on you with sedation, which with social media, drugs, alcohol, sex, whatever porn, whatever it is. They're sedating themselves rather than getting excited and doing and being part of a contribution or Being part of a movement. So that's fascinating to think about it that way. And I am grateful forthat. That comment, you sent me about Brian and a couple of different directions that he said SMART goals you said about this. So the important thing for me when you get to those goals is understanding that your goals have to be magnetic. They have to have a polar bear as a charge to them. So when you look at lightning coming down from the sky, they're not random strikes. That is the planet it sends up an electrical charge itself that pulls the lightning to that point. And your goals have to be the same they have to energize you they have to move but when you say them, now when I sit in my goal and I visualize that thing, there are times that I break down and cry because it just fills me with so much joy. And not many people have that experience. What they have is here's someone else's agenda. Here's someone else's go Can you help me climb the mountain. And then when you get to the top of that mountain, you're like, well, what was that all about? It's not my mountain. So, you want to as a leader and an as an employee, okay, the organization's gonna have it's got great, fantastic. Does my goal align with the goal of the business? by helping the business? Does it help me achieve my goal? Therefore, I'm not giving up on my goal, we're working in conjunction and parallel to each other. And at the right time when I need to leave because I achieve, I know it goes separate. It's an amicable agreement and we go into different directions rather than the mental health challenges that go with that all the toxic behaviors or the frustrations that then turn into kind of people getting fired. Gotta have that clarity as an individual. The words you use SMART goals. I learned this a few years ago, and I shared it with people now. And I teach people to have SMART objectives, not smart goals. And the difference is when you the moment you make you are smart in the way that I understand it is? Because it was it is specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound. That's your normal SMART goal. But the moment you're saying is real, it already exists. There is no tension there is no challenge to go and make that thing happen because it's already in your realm of possibility. Exactly. Because it's not about achieving the goal is about the person that you have to become to make the goal a reality. If it doesn't challenge you, it doesn't change you. And I'm going to you know, there are several cliches in there that we see on multiple means, but it's so true. So the moment that you made you go smart, and what you do is you make them small, mediocre, average, repetitive and time-wasting.Hmm, that's a new one.So then when we take that back, and we go, Okay, how big Cisco and people are going to give you a hard time people they're going to point at you people are going to say, Who the hell do you think you are for doing what they're going to laugh at you. And as that other Main says, you know, you keep doing it, and then you get so good at it, that they want to come and work for you to make it happen. So my goal right now and I came up with this goal three years ago, when I started to get this real clarity is to positively and successfully influence the growth and development of over 100 million people through my one to one coaching, which includes training so that they are connected to a deeper sense of purpose of creating compelling goals, connecting to the people around them and creating a positive legacy time and time again. that excites up. I believe that this part is, you know, what they say to people is, don't tell everybody you'll go, well don't tell anybody who goes and I say to people, tell the right people who go because I've been people that I've told and I've looked them and I've literally said Who the f do you think you are? So if you think you can impact 100 million people. You know what I'm an average middle-aged man. As decided to go and do extraordinary things to help 100 million people so they can become more incredible than yesterday. And if a couple more people on this planet make decisions like that, and even if I fall short of 100 million people only get to 50 million. will the world be a better place? If I died tomorrow and only got to one person? would the world be a better place? Yes. Because I was striving for a goal. There's no part of that legacy. I'm chasing my potential, not just chasing my passion.Yeah, absolutely. Sowe're along the lines of that, how do you or tell me the story of the biggest naysayer in your life, and how you learn to silence them in your mind and just go for what you want it to do? Wow.And you know what it's been a lot of them and but that becomes comes from the education of when I was a child and not for my parents but for the school from the people that I spent. my so-called friends when I was going through these toxic behaviors in my late teens. I remember once, this is one of the best stories. He said. I said I'm gonna write a book on my life. I was 19. I was like, yeah, follow my provider. And he says to me, it's not interesting. Your life is pretty boring. No one's going to read it.So I never wrote the book.Won't not a lot of people know yet about me. And they will do in future books that I've written to the publisher is I was diagnosed with Crohn's disease when I was nine years old. And I was hospitalized for nearly a year. I had multiple operations. We didn't have Google then. So you couldn't do your Google search to find out keywords for it. I had my mom we had a local health food shop with the information that my mom got from that health food shop and the treatments that we went through our keyword Chrome's now there are still 99% of the doctors on this world on this planet. Still saying that crimes are not cured. Now had written that story at the age of 2021 20 years ago, how many people would high have potentially held to overcome that debilitating disease that they believe they're stuck with? Because the doctor tells me all right. But it wasn't until Crikey three years ago that I made the decision. There's some stuff in there that I'm learning. There's some stuff that I'm learning about leadership, about approaches to life, about the ways that I set my goals about the stuff that I've taught other people to see them succeed. You know what I need to put this in a paper now I need to type this stuff down. I need to get lyrical. type this out, find a format to share it and just share this stuff with people. Because even it like I said, even if we got to one person and it fundamentally changes that person's life, that one person has my life is worth living, yes, but to not do it and to keep it inside me. You know, and now I'm seeing more of that transition in my thinking over the last 3458 years, I'm now bringing more of this content out and getting more out of my way, was that voice of the critic in my head isn't my voice. It's all the people that told me not to publish the book. But I'm saying the sort of people that told me Oh, you'll never amount to anything. It's all the people that thought, you know, the teachers that I perceive thought that I wouldn't Excel when I left school. But as we know, from the Roosevelt speech, I think it is now is the voice of the critic. But we also know that the voice of the critic is standing up or sitting out in the benches. He's not in the arena. I am in the arena, you people that are listening to this area in the arena, the people that are coming, you come they're telling you what they can't do based on their map of the world.Yeah, that's exactly. And I think that's probably for me, one of the biggest lessons that I've had to learn over my life is just keeping in perspective why somebody would Choose to squash somebody else's dream and the same. And on the same token, why would I, as an individual choose to squash somebody else's dream not just just flippantly or not thinking about it, why is that something that I feel I should be doing or even giving input on all I should do ever is potentially give some guidance of how they could better do it. But if I don't have a solution that could potentially help them succeed better, faster, quicker on a bigger scale than I should probably just keep my mouth shut. And I've had to learn that gradually over time, and it's been difficult because we all think we know what we're talking about. And even though it hasn't always happened to be that way. So I'm curious for you, what do you like is one of your if you were to focus on like one specific habit, mindset or behavior that you've used to create your meaningful legacy, what would that be and then how could we adopted into our liveswell,but I've got a few that dropped into my head. But the one I want to go back to is the goal-setting piece. And this a mentor of mine taught me this two years ago, three years ago. And even so, and this was in a free webinar, his name is Peter sage. And one of the things he taught me was if you know how to achieve your goal when you set it is too small. And in doing so, you're setting it from a place of fear, you're setting it from inside your comfort zone. So every time that you look at your goal, or you're reading your goal out, ask the question. If this conversation were to stop right now with me with you with whoever would I know how to achieve my goal? And if you come up with two or three actions, I forget an interview or do a bit of that you're not asked which if your goal is too small, double it, triple it, make it bigger, whatever it is you need to do to create that level of tension that's going to push you outside of the outside of your comfort, and we don't go to the gym of life to lift lighter weights, we go out there to pump heavier weights, you know, you start at five, you can go to 10. And then you go to your 20 plates to build the right muscles to do what you need to do. And it's the same with our goals. So one of the habits that helps build the thinking, do you want to achieve this goal? Yes, no, the answer is yes. Make it bigger. How many people do is in Do I need to impact to create that and start looking at those numbers start to get to that point where does feel uncomfortable? And then when you reach your goal out for the first time and you stutter when you say it? Or you start to question yourself, will tell you don't start to question yourself. The voice of the critic that you've learned to listen to in your head starts to question you. That's when you know you're in the right ballpark of the goal that you need to be playing into. Because you have that discomfort. You have that irritation. That you can then use as the energy to propel you forward to create the impact that you're designed to create a visceral level.I like that like just asking yourself when like, it's not big enough and tell the voices in my head start to question it. And then at that point, that's on the right track. Not that I think that's a huge, a fantastic question to ask yourself because I've, I've dealt with the question of like, if I know how to do it, then it's not big enough. And I've kind of stopped there, but I don't think I've gone personally with my goals to the point where it's like, Okay, everybody in my life is questioning whether that's just possible. I don't think I've set any goals that are that big. All the goals are. I have no idea how to accomplish them. But I know they're conceivable because I know other people have accomplished them by sub zero idea how I'm going to accomplish them. But that's different. then something that's such a big goal that everybody would be like, but that's not possible. Right? Put putting a man on the moon. It's not possible, right? Or something like that carving Mount Rushmore, it's I get these goals are so big that anybody who hears it not just a few people, but 99% of the population when they hear it, they're like, yeah, that's not gonna happen. There's no way. That's not possible yet, you know, and we're getting into with AI you mentioned earlier with AI, that's what's possible. Is itexpensive, exploding at an exponential rate for sure?growing fast, so I'm curious, Nathan, if we wanted to get more of your content and where are your books where you're, I mean, do you have your podcast, social media, where's the best place to get active with you? I imagine you serve and serve people all over the world. where's the best place to connect with you and get more of your insight on This season how to silence the fear or naysayers in our own lives.So, first things coming out on January 20th, 2020, book number one of my self-help trilogy, the art of fulfillment is coming out. That's called start working, start living. That's going to happen on the 20th of January will behave a little announcement on having a bit of a refurb of my current stuff. At the moment, I have just been to a two-day seminar and I got to speak or got to hear Tom bill, you speak. And I've seen some stuff around my work and how I can impact more people. So the best place to get ahold of me right now is on LinkedIn. While I'm doing a complete restructure of my thinking and how I can get to more people and create more impact and change more people's thinking so they can become more incredible than yesterday. Find me on LinkedIn, Nathan Simmons, leadership coach or find me there. Handsome chap. Nice beard. Send me a direct message. I would love to connect with you. Yeah, it's all about helping leaders out there. Double their income will half their workweek so they can build quality time and spend it with quality people. That's what I'm all about now.Yeah, that needs me to say I mean this whole thing is exactly. Again every guest I have on our have had on for the last few months. I feel like I've been able to handpick them a lot more the first year of my podcast loved all my guests there. But it was a lot more focused on what I was doing because I was doing using my podcast as a way to build content for books that I'm writing. And so it was more me focused. And over the last five, four or five months, I've shifted and said how can I get more people on here? They're going to further the conversation, fuel your legacy and challenge me as an Individual and challenge me and help me grow. And I'm learning from rather than people that I think I'm on the same level with how am I getting more people that are challenging the way I view the world and think, and that has come to pass. So for this next section here, and legacy on rapid-fire, and I'm sure you've heard this in some of the previous episodes. And so just five questions, we're going to go through them as fast as possible. Are you ready? Bring up? Awesome, what do you believe is holding you back from reaching the next level of your legacy?Me.So now that I've got clarity on Maria, and what I'm bringing to the world, all I need now to do is implement and take the information and put it in place.Okay, awesome. What do you think the hardest thing they've ever accomplished,has beensaying to myself that I'm going to start my own business and following through on that.Fantastic and what's your greatest success to this point in your life?To this point in my life,Crikey, I've got numerous clients that are doing phenomenal things. One of them has just doubled his salary and got promoted, and it's going to have a huge impact on the American educational system.That's awesome. Now, I love that. Yeah.What's another secret that you believe contributes to your success?Enjoying failure and questioning the living daylights out of it, until I find a valuable lesson that I can then grow fromthat skill in the world. According to my, I'm creating a whole journal that that is completely focused on that you should be able to buy it on Amazon. But yeah, it's focused on that. You can also get it on my website, but it's focused on reframing experiences that we have good and bad, and pulling lessons out of them. That's the whole purpose and focus of the is how do we reframe and experience and Paul lesson out of it? So I love that that's a secret of yours. And what are one or two or maybe three books that you think would be fantastic for the fuel your legacy audience to read?start with why Simon cynics straight upthinking grow rich. I'm looking furiously around my office right now thinking Grow Rich is a good one. And it's going to be either how to get rich by Felix Dennis, which is phenomenal or stealing fire because that's fundamentally shifted my thinking about how I approach life.Yes, they are all good books.I was on a kick for about a year and a half, two years. I read a book a week. Well, it was a lot of reading, listening, I listened to them on Audible, but some weeks it for shorter books. I would do two or three a week and it was a lot of content in so now it's like I don't remember where I picked this up from but it's in a book somewhere. That's really good information.I've got a disclaimer at the end of my book that says if I'm quoted anything here that is not mine, please let me know. So I can go back and reference the author and the owner accordingly.That's a good idea. I should throw that in mind.Because it's, it's a legit thing, like where you just, especially if you're consuming that much content over and over and over and over. And you don't even remember where you started living your life with certain things. You just started living your life that way. And it just seems as though your voices told it to yourself so often that you believe it's you saying it to even though it's from somebody else. Exactly. So and I would say that's where you want to get to because there's those good voices in your head and the bad voice in your head. That and I think they're both I say good and bad. They're both there to serve a purpose. And, and then you want to be programming what voices in your head that you listen to the most.Exactly, and if you spend time in the company of the Even fictitious characters like I've got Gandalf on my bookshelf, I've got Bruce Lee on my bookshelf. And if you spend time having conversations with those people even made up imaginary conversations, like in the mastermind principle of thinking Grow Rich, you will start to kind of have more thoughts like that individual, and potentially what you're writing will come out in a certain kind of esque way of that individual. So it's more likely you're going to repeat stuff that they do show or bring up new ideas in that sort of vein and it will sound similar toYeah, absolutely. And I feel like he should have said that. He didn't say I said itis Gator speaking? Now. Okay, so here's the here's my favorite part of the whole episode. Right? So it's the last question. And if you listen to the end of this podcast on other podcasts, and you know what I'm going to ask Nathan, and but get ready because if you haven't yet answered this for yourself, please do that. Write it down, share it with your family, share it with people around you and broadcast this to the world. So we're going to pretend that you've died, Nathan, you're dead gone. six generations from now. So this is six. This is your great great great great great grandchildren sitting around a table, you get the opportunity to come back and listen in to what they're saying and what they're saying about your life, your legacy, your contribution to the world. What do you want them to be saying about you and 200 years from now?This part may depend on how old those generations are when they're reading it. So there's part of me that doesn't almost want them to disbelieve what I'm saying. There's a part of me that wants them to read that book, and say, What is this guy going on? And then there's the other part of me that then wants them to go and live their lives and have those experiences and realize and then go back and go. Now I get it. Now I know what my purpose is. Now I know what the impact is I can have on the world because of going away and got these experiences. I've had some self-doubt I've had some disbelief have gone away and tested it, I've developed and now I'm going to deliver something even more incredible than he did six generations ago. And I'm going to expand his idea and create an even bigger impact on a galactic level, let alone a global levelthat has in six generations from now, we could be in a galactic universewill be starting to be a thing.Yeah, you never know. It's moving fast. That's awesome. I love that because I think that that's exactly in alignment with who you are. Your goal is to help other people identify their legacy and, and forward that and their purpose and get in touch with that. And that's that is very much mine as well. My input into one sentence is to empower people with financial confidence to create a meaningful legacy for them. Right. So very similar. Mine is maybe just focused slightly more on the financial side of how to fuel the legacy that they want to build. And but I love Love that answer for you. And I'm just so grateful for you taking the time to hop on this, this podcast and share your knowledge, share your skillset and share you with us because we're going to be able to go and go connect with you on LinkedIn, and hopefully other social media platforms as well anywhere that's possible by his book. I'm excited to read his book and see what it is that I can be doing better for myself athome. Excellent. Thank you, Samuel, so very much for space. I appreciate it.No problem.We'll catch you guys next time on fuel your ladies.Thanks for joining us. 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Through all the feelings of being unsure and anxious as the Coronavirus news unfolds in our nation, we have to control our mind set to sift through the facts and social media exaggeration. Or even yet, filter and sanitize what we choose to consume.We act in accordance with what we are consuming and how we are feeling. As a leader in an organization and in our personal lives, we have to control our mindset to seek positivity, optimism, spread kindness and express empathy.While I'm not asking you to be naive to the reality we are facing - cautiously review and validate information you are review and make the best decision for your household.In this episode, I'll provide you with actionable tips and strategies that you can implement as a leader in your organization to stay calm and turn the contagious chaos into opportunity and clarity for your teams. And how in your personal lives you can control your mindset to reduce stress and overwhelm.Let's dive in!_ _ _ _ _ Interested in a resume re-vamp or LinkedIn Audit. Nows the time, while you have some downtime. Let's connect! Click HERE for resources. Have you joined our email list yet? Subscribe Now and grab a Free Workbook to GO ALL IN, set intentional goals aligned to your vision of success!Topic or speaker suggestions? Shoot us an email: kimvirtuoso@allinleadershipcg.comThanks for listening and subscribing to our channel! If you love what you are hearing, be sure to leave a 5 star rating with some comments.  We appreciate you! We’d love to connect with you! Contact Info:Kim Virtuoso, CEO | All In Leadership | Coaching & Consulting Groupwww.allinleadershipcg.comkimvirtuoso@allinleadershipcg.comIf we aren't connected yet be sure to connect with us on social media:YouTube:  All In LeadershipPinterest:  https://www.pinterest.com/allinleadership/pins/Instagram: @allinleadership LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/all-in-leadership-coaching-consulting-group/Facebook:  http://www.facebook.com/allinleadershipTwitter: https://twitter.com/AllInLeadershi1 

While I'm in between seasons but we are in the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic which is all kinds of anxiety inducing, I wanted to create this short 8 minute long coping skills episode that also plays like a meditation that will soothe your anxiety and give you practical advice to implement once you've finished listening. This is a tough time and the anxiety that goes with it is enormous. Understanding the anxiety and how much sense it makes, not trying not to feel it and not berating ourselves for the fact that we feel anxious about this is key to coping. Work with it and then set boundaries in place. All advice within this 8 minute episode. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Desperate Times - Exodus 17:8-16: Come this weekend and find out! And discover the life-changing answer to the longings of our hearts to be at peace, happy and whole. I have never been much of a "gamer", especially if those games involve violence. I just don't see the joy in killing other people, even if it's just a game! But apparently millions of people disagree with me, as over 250 million copies of "Call of Duty" have been sold over the past 20 years. While I'm convinced that the call of God upon our lives is not to shoot each other, I'm quite convinced it does involve learning to pray for each other. I can't think of five more meaningful words anyone could say to me than, "I am praying for you." Many parts of life are profoundly mysterious, but perhaps none as much as the call to prayer. We will visit this "call of duty" that I believe God has extended to each of us — specifically the call to pray for each other — this weekend. We will seek to unravel the mystery and discover the gift of intercessory prayer. This might be one of the most important weekends this year for our church. Together, we'll deepen our commitment and resolve to the ultimate call of duty God has entrusted to us — the call to pray for one another. I'm looking forward to being together! Thank you for your prayers, I'm beyond grateful! Pastor Ian Trigg w/ Pastor Tim Gibbons

I'm not an expert fly tyer. ...so why listen to 20 minutes of what I have to say on the subject? While I'm not an expert, I am proficient enough to tie what I need. But I've taken the circuitous route to get to this point. I've started and stopped. I've used the wrong materials and tried to do things the hard way. I've made frustrating mistakes. And with all that, I can look back on some of the things that I wish I would have known about fly tying back when I started. In this episode I share three things that I think are beneficial new new or struggling fly tyers.

While I'm sad to see Kevin Donahue leave the Syracuse program after having been a soldier for our cause for countless years, I'm also excited about this new Tommy Costanza hire. The guy is dripping in Upstate NY swagger juice, he's connected all over to high school coaches, college coaches and parents thanks to his ties to the Sweetlax program as one of the directors and coaches. Even though he can't formally recruit as a volunteer assistant, I bet March and company name dropping Costanza can't hurt with some of these upstate kids Cuse is trying to keep home (and away from Cornell & Albany). So today I'm going to ramble for 13 minutes about Tommy Costanza, the newest addition to a changing Syracuse coaching staff. Visit LaxFactor.com to listen through our website... https://www.laxfactor.com/2020/01/laxfactor-lacrosse-daily-005-1-24-20-syracuse-hires-tommy-costanza-as-volunteer-assistant-to-replace-donahue/ Support the channel, buy some swag... https://www.laxfactor.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/laxfactor/support

This is an episode of Don Wettrick's StartEd Up podcast. The title of the episode is, Why I Hate TikTok Pt2 w/ Jamal Crook. This was a follow-up to an episode titled, While I'm really uncomfortable with #TicTok as a parent and teacher. I want you to hear all the perspectives on things you're learning about. Episode 149 of the House of #EdTech is pro-TikTok. At this time, Don and I have opposing views and have had dramatically different experiences with TikTok. After listening to both episodes I would love to know what you think about TikTok in Education and the value to teachers and students. For more StartEd Up click here.

Hey guys! Tiago and I are in Brazil visiting family for a few weeks. While I'm gone I thought I'd rebroadcast the very first episodes of Love Beyond Borders. (I'll be back with new episodes in January) Episodes one, two and three are all about our immigration story. Today you'll hear the dramatic conclusion of our three part immigration story. Find out what happens with our I-601 Waiver for Grounds of Inadmissibility and whether or not we are able to move home to the US.  *Connect with me on Instagram @kelli.fm *Join the Love Beyond Borders Podcast Community on Facebook *Be a guest on the show! Send an email to lovebeyondborderspodcast@gmail.com *Subscribe to be notified of all future episodes. *Leave a review to help Love Beyond Borders reach a broader community!

Hey guys! Tiago and I are in Brazil visiting family for a few weeks. While I'm gone I thought I'd rebroadcast the very first episodes of Love Beyond Borders. (I'll be back with new episodes in January) Episodes one, two and three are all about our immigration story. Today you'll hear part two of our three part immigration story. By now you know the tragic outcome of our K1 Fiancé Visa process. Stay tuned hear about my move to Brazil and the next steps in our immigration journey, including an I130 Petition for Alien Relative Visa and an I601 Waiver for Grounds of Inadmissibility. It has only just begun... *Connect with me on Instagram @kelli.fm *Join the Love Beyond Borders Podcast Community on Facebook *Be a guest on the show! Send an email to lovebeyondborderspodcast@gmail.com *Subscribe to be notified of all future episodes. *Leave a review to help Love Beyond Borders reach a broader community!

It's that time of year again...the beginning of a new chapter...or does it need to be? While I'm totally on board with personal growth and challenging yourself in new and rewarding ways, I'm not a fan of resolutions. So often people approach them from a black or white mindset-- you're either on the wagon or you're off. So what do I support/promote? Sustainable habits that require no resolutions list. Establishing realistic, healthy and sustainable action steps that can evolve into habits is not only more fulfilling, but has a much higher likelihood of sticking. Health isn't a one-stop destination. It's a daily choice-- to show up for yourself, and continue to show up for yourself. Let's squash resolutions and instead, resolve for more self-kindness, compassion, and true self-care, so that we can better love and care for the people around us. Let's fill our hearts with more acceptance and fewer expectations for change. Let's focus on what we can control and let the rest go. Let's be more present. More thoughtful. More grateful. We've got this 2020!

Watching multiple news outlets, it can be interesting to hear how public documents are characterized in different ways. One of the reasons I'm doing this show is so people can hear the words for themselves and make their own decisions, rather than relying on others to characterize a document for them. After seeing this exchange on the Daily Show with Trevor Noah it made me realize how this podcast can be an important service. If only the gentleman in the video would have tuned into episode four, he could have avoided an embarrassing exchange. While I'm continuing to work on some longer episodes, hopefully shorter episodes like this one help provide some value in hearing full documents that are sometimes only mentioned as part of a larger story. This week's episode is the entire letter from President Trump to House Speaker Nancy Pelosi that was written prior to his impeachment.

So, it’s that time again. You know — THE time — where some of us meet with our extended families, celebrate the holidays and reflect on the parts of 2019 that stand out to us most! Just as we navigate change and reintegrate when returning home from big travels, meeting with relatives and reuniting with folks that we haven’t seen in ages can be intimidating and challenging at times. Let's face it: just being an active participant in society is challenging at times. While I'm excited to see my family, I often experience social anxiety. So, how do we fit into the picture when we’ve changed so much? What the heck is the picture even supposed to look like? Do we even have to be in the picture?! Let’s discuss all of this, and then some. You’ve been an epic whirlwind, 2019. One of Yoga Girl's most recent podcasts inspired me to create this episode & I totally shared her original ideas on healing & reflection around the holiday season and how I hope to apply them in my own life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/yoga-girl-conversations-from-the-heart/id1219728105?i=1000460280256 Follow Daniel Turbert's work (The Sentient Project): https://www.facebook.com/thesentientproject/ Follow Lisa McDonald's work: https://www.kindnessempire.com 2017's year in review podcast episode: https://soundcloud.com/wanderwomanonline/relationships-2017 Africa Healing Exchange in Rwanda: https://www.facebook.com/AfricaHealingExchange/ Podrska Foundation in Uganda: https://www.facebook.com/Podrska-Foundation-346437262858694/ TRAVEL GUIDE: wanderwoman.online/index.php/downl…ff-travelguide/ Intro Music: @divelymusic LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE ON iTUNES HERE: itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/will-…ood/id1245424783 LET'S CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unruly_traveller/ THANKS FOR LISTENING! Share me with a friend!

Hey guys! Tiago and I are in Brazil visiting family for a few weeks. While I'm gone I thought I'd rebroadcast the very first episodes of Love Beyond Borders. (I'll be back with new episodes in January) Episodes one, two and three are all about our immigration story. My Brazilian husband and I navigated the complex and unforgiving US immigration system for over five years. Stay tuned to find out how we met, fell in love and the path we took to be together forever. It included the K1 fiancé visa - yes, the one from that show 90 Day Fiancé! We had no idea what we were getting into...  *Connect with me on Instagram @kelli.fm *Join the Love Beyond Borders Podcast Community on Facebook *Be a guest on the show! Send an email to lovebeyondborderspodcast@gmail.com *Subscribe to be notified of all future episodes. *Leave a review to help Love Beyond Borders reach a broader community!

Transcript Kathy: Welcome to Kathy Santo’s Dog Sense. I'm your host Kathy Santo, and I'm here to teach you everything I've learned in my over three decades of training dogs, their families, competing in dog sports, writing about dogs and being a guest on radio and TV shows. And I'm here with one of my trainers staff in Colorado. And wait, did you guys get snow?  Sarah: Oh my God, we got like two feet of snow right now. It's awesome. Kathy: Oh my gosh, I'm glad you said “Aw”, I was thinking “ful”, she said awesome. I'm like, that's why she should be in Colorado and I should be here in Jersey where it was like 52 today. Sarah: I know you guys have some nice weather. I got some of the pictures from the teams today. It looked really nice there. Kathy: Yeah, it's, it's really great. And the dogs are loving it because if it feels like spring and, you know how we have a few dogs who definitely don't like the cold weather, so we're planning some extra indoor activities at daycare for them. Fun, warm activity. What else did we do today? Oh, we did our last day of Thanksgiving photo shoots. Sarah: Yeah, those have been coming out amazing. Kathy: Aren’t they great? Wait ‘til see the holiday winter one. Oh my gosh. I'll send you pictures. Sarah: I can't wait for that.  Kathy: It's a big surprise. All right. So anyway, today we are tasked with talking about potty training. Sarah: Not only is potty training but realistic expectations for potty training. So of course, like, we go over what the kind of general process is, but real life training your puppy potty training is a little bit different. Kathy: It is. And I think I really feel like people have unrealistic expectations. My personal feeling is that it takes until the puppy is six months old to be, like, done with it. Now that said, I've had puppies much younger, be perfect. As I a matter of fact, I've never had a puppy take that long. But I'm a trainer, you know, and that's our, it's my jam. Like, I'm watching the, I know what to do. So, but I think a realistic expectation for someone who's not a trainer would be by six months you are done, and there's a lot of things that you could do to make that work easier and there is a lot of things that you could do to make it take much, much longer.. Sarah: Exactly. Kathy: All right, so let's start back at the breeder. All right. So my breeder, one of my breeders, she has a litter of golden puppies and, I think, they are now seven, eight days old and she's, maybe there are two weeks old...Anyway, I think they're two weeks old, and she's introducing the concept of potty-ing in a certain area right now. So they had wee pads down and they're learning to look for that to go. And then from there there'll be moved to, in a couple of weeks, they’ll be moved to a different surface and then learn to go there. And that's one thing she really values is sending a puppy home from the litter box who already has the idea started.  Sarah: That is incredible. I didn't realize that they were doing it that young.  Kathy: Yeah, it's amazing. And that's where I got Indy from and he, I didn't have to do any housebreaking he gave into my life an 8 week old puppy, he's like, “Hey, I go outside, this is the door?” I'm like, “Oh yeah, sure dude, like, let's go outside.” When I also did was I took the same materials she used to housebreak them and I got a bag of it. So I had an area in my yard and that's where he went. So that’s, you know, your best shot is you're having a breeder who is working on that for you. Now the worst case scenario is you have a dog who's already learned, whether it's a puppy or a shelter dog, rescue dog, learn to go anywhere.  Sarah: Yup.  Kathy: Pet store dogs. It's terrible because they're in a cage, they have to go and that's where they go. And then we want you to housebreak your dog and use crate training, and the dog is like, “Oh cool. The indoor potty”. So that tends to be a challenge too. So those are the best case and the worst case scenario, but we can get it done no matter what's going on. Let me tell you an interesting story before we get into what you would do for it, a more typical dog. So I had a client come to me and the dog was peeing and pooping in the crate, it was complete reverse housebreaking they take it out, they'd monitor it, it wouldn't go. The minute that dog went into crate, and they did all the things correctly. They tried a plastic crate, they tried a wire crate, they tried a smaller crate, like, they did everything right, and this dog, this dog could be against a wall in a crate and go to the bathroom. So we use the hay trick. Now I learned about the hay trick back in the eighties, I didn't invent it. I can't remember who did. We'll give credit when I remember. Do you remember who it was I told you about the other day? No? Anyway, so basically I got some straw, it was around Halloween so it was great. Broke down a hay bale, put it in the crate up to like hip level of this dog and I put him in there. And because the hay was around him, sort of like hugging him like a nest, he stopped going to the bathroom in the crate. And I made it a bigger space so I get more hay in it and the dog didn't go. So it's hard to get people to get on board with that because, obviously, when you take the puppy out, hay is going to come out the front. But I prepped it. I put down like a big trash bag and a sheet and then I put the crate over that, and then after four or five, six days of perfect, no potty-ing in the crate, then I started taking the hay out by the handfuls. Morning I take some out, at night I take some out, until we were just down to a crate with a few pieces of hay in the bottom and it was done. That was it.  Sarah: That's incredible.  Kathy: You can also use it for anxiety, for dogs who freak out in the crate.  Sarah: Yeah. Kathy: Alright! So now you have a good example and a bad example and what to do in an extreme example. Let's start more with your typical puppy.  Sarah: Yep.  Kathy: So I believe in crate training and I know you do too. So when I'm not home, when I'm sleeping, when I can have my eye on my puppy, it is in a crate.  Sarah: Yep.  Kathy: It's appropriately sized. I am monitoring to make sure that I have met all my puppy's needs. Like he is potty before I put him in, and  know how long I can keep them in. Sarah: Do you want to touch on the size of the crate really quick? Kathy: Yes. So I would like something that the dog can stand up and turn it around in comfortably, but I don't want them to be able to use one end as the bathroom and the other end as the TV room.  Sarah: Got it. Kathy: That'd be just one area. And again, I'm counting on the fact that your dog is uncomfortable being next to his waste. Some puppies come from what we call a dirty litter. And the mom wasn't cleaning them because you know, the mom has to clean them for the first two weeks. She licks them to stimulate them to go to the bathroom. They don't have the reflexes to do it on their own. And so some moms weren't great at that and when the puppies actually went, she wasn't cleaning up after them either and they would just got used to laying in it. So if you have a puppy like that, it's a little more challenging. And then I would try the hay trick. Of course, making sure your dog doesn't want to eat the hay.  Sarah: Yeah, exactly. Kathy: So it's a nice small area. And I also feed my dogs in their crates. So if they're going to have a meal in a crate, it's going to be there and traditionally dogs won’t defecate or urinate where they eat. So you kind of have that on your side as well. So yeah, it's a nice tight space.  Sarah: And then I think a really important thing too is when you are going into potty training your puppy is just think proactively. So think about how much food he’s getting. Think about what time of day he's getting it, how much water and then you want to take the puppy out before they need to go as well. So that's why the schedule is really important. So what do you do for a puppy potty training schedule? Kathy: So I, you know, my life is the way it is. It's semi erratic.  Sarah: A little busy. Kathy: A little busy. Yeah. And so I'm going all the time and I really value a puppy who's not locked into a routine, like, not having to eat at this time a day and not at me to potty at this time of day, but yet I will tell my students to give some sort of loose routine to their dogs or their puppies for housebreaking. So I kind of look at the day that's ahead of me and I say, “Alright, well I'm up at five and I'm going to let the puppy to potty right away. I'm going to carry it, I’m not going to walk it, and carry it to the potty area, which we’ll talk about later, and then I'll bring the puppy in, a little playing, a little training with food, probably another visit outside and then back in the crate. Now my rule of thumb is, one hour for every month of age plus one as the amount of time my puppy can spend in a crate. I don't take that through month six so that's silly, right? Your six month old puppy probably shouldn't be in there for seven hours. Could be, but it shouldn't be, and that's during the day. At night your dog goes into nocturnal mode so they can sleep a little bit longer without having to go out. But I'm guaranteeing you with a puppy that is really young, like eight to 12 weeks, you're probably still getting up at least once a night. I put my puppies to bed at like 11 that's their last walk. I don't want to stay up till 11 but I do, cause I don't want to really be up at two and if I get up at 11 I'm probably stretching that to like four, but I'm also not tanking my puppy very frequently. I will take their dinner meal, take a little bit of it and put it into lunch and breakfast because those are times where I'm awake and then I'm putting less in the belly at night. I do cut off food and water for young puppies at five. That's pretty much my only, schedule that I always hold to that 5, 5:30 mark, because I feel that's enough time for the dog to get it out of their system and give him and me a very nice night's sleep. Sarah: Yeah, exactly. So, stopping the food and water at about five o'clock and then, so, and then you have about the hours in between. And you said by about six months, they should be pretty well potty trained. Kathy: Yeah, absolutely. One of the things, too, I talked to people about is measure your food. Have you ever asked one of your clients how much they feed their dog and they can't give you an accurate answer. They're like, “You know, like this much.” Sarah: Yeah, like a handful. Kathy: They show you their hand! You’re like, “What is that?” They’re like, “Like, a cup.” And then you say the magic question, “What kind of a cup?” They rarely say measuring cup. They're like, “Oh you know, the cup you get, someone gave me.” Sarah: The scoop. Kathy: Oh the scoop. The scoop is deadly. Cause that's like, yeah. So you have to measure your food. You have to know what you're putting into that dog so you know what to expect to come out of the dog. And if you're training, hopefully you're using the food. If you have people in your house giving the dog treats or you have company over and it changes how much is going in, you've got to adjust your schedule for all of those possibilities. Sarah: And another thing for realistic expectations is also to understand that your puppy, like as they're growing and changing, they're going, it's not going to be like a linear path to potty training. They may have some accidents here or there. So what, what would you say is the best way? Like, let's say you just missed it and the puppy peed on the couch or something like that. What would be your steps to kind of helping make sure that that doesn't derail the rest of their potty training? Kathy: Well, the first thing you do is you pick up the puppy and you walk to the bathroom and you look in the mirror and you say, “Why did I let my puppy dog out? I suck because I didn't listen to anything Kathy and Sarah said.” I would pick the puppy up. I would snap a leash on it, take it outside of the potty area, put it down and say, “Hurry up.” I firmly believe that if a puppy is mid pee and you scoop it up, it will stop peeing, probably not pooping, but peeing. I know that if people were on the potty and somebody lifted them up midstream, they would probably stop. I want to try and have the puppy finish outside. And so I can accomplish that, awesome. Then I put the puppy in the crate and I cleaned it up. And some people say, “Oh, don't let the dog see you clean up their accident ‘cause they'll think that they're in charge.” I'm like, “Hello?”  Sarah: The most important part of cleaning up an accident is making sure that you actually cleaned it all up and got the smell out.  Kathy: It's not about letting the puppy see you. The puppy doesn't think, “Oh, you’re my housekeeper.” Like, that’s just ridiculous. Sarah: Well again, that's adding human emotions to training another species. Like, this is a dog, this is not a child.  Kathy: We should do a podcast on weird things that people have told you. Like I heard somebody said, “Oh, you know how you teach your dog that you're in charge, you spit in their food before you give it to them again.” What?! Sarah: Again, that's like a weird human thing. No. Kathy: Yeah, no. There's others we can’t talk about them now. I’m thinking of all of them now. Okay, anyway...So yeah, and you clean it up completely. Now this doesn't mean with water. Please don’t use ammonia, because a component in urine is ammonia. So all your Pine Saul, pine scented ammonia things are just going to draw the dog back. I would use something that gets rid of the odor and breaks it down completely. And we use Fizzion. And I always tell people, “If the dog school uses a product, you better get on it.” Sarah:  Yeah, we use it for a reason. Kathy: Yeah! We see all these dogs, we know what works. Fizzion works. There's others that really don't work. We don't want to say a name, but they're not really the miracles that they say they are. Sarah: That they claim to be.  Kathy: There you go.  Sarah: No, tried and true. We use Fizzion. Kathy: And then some of them are like, “Oh my dog keeps going back to this rug to pee on.” Okay, supervise better and keep him away from the rug, or get rid of the rug.  Sarah: Yeah. Yeah. The biggest thing is don't let them go back to there and potty again.  Kathy: Right, right. And again, it comes down to supervision. Like, I think the biggest thing to tell people is, “You've got to supervise your puppy.” Supervise it like it's a nine month old baby walking around pulling crap down off the counter on their head with the chords, and sticking their fingers in sockets. Like, you understand that. That you have to supervise that. And yet people after like a day or two of no accents they're like, “Oh, my puppy is trained.” And the hardest puppies to train are the small grade ones, because the big breeds in real time, like, your shepherd takes a crap behind the couch. Like, you know it. You walk around, you’re like, “What is that?” Your Pomeranian does it, you don't find it in real time. You find it like when you go to put up the tree, six months later, you pull the couch out, you're like, “Oh my God, what's that?” And see that's why the dog isn't housebroken because he's pottied in so many places that you don't even know it. And that's rewarding, because relief is really rewarding. And you can't come back and show them the fossilized poop and fuss at them. As a matter of fact, you can never fuss at them for accidents cause it's all your fault.  Sarah: Exactly. Kathy: I had a student, and I know I've told you this story, who I went to her house and she had a 10 week old puppy and I walked in and the housekeeper was there and I had to wait for the owner to come. And while I'm there, the housekeeper’s bragging that the 10 week old puppies perfectly housebroken and I totally don't believe it. And then the owner comes. I'm like, “So tell me about the housebreaking.” She's like, “Oh, we don't need to worry about it. He's perfectly housebroken. He just doesn't come when I call him.” I'm like, “Oh, really?”  Sarah: 10 weeks old? Kathy: 10 weeks old. It was a little multi-poo.  Sarah: Yeah. Kathy: So the housekeeper opens the gate to leave the kitchen. And what the owner said was, “The only thing he doesn't do is he doesn't come when he's called. And if he runs out of this room, he'll never come back.” I'm like, “Okay.” So, of course, the housekeeper opens the gate to leave. And what happens? Dog runs out and they're like, “Oh, my God! He’s loose!” And they're running through this, you know like 32 room house and I'm just by the front door and thinking, “This is going awesomely.” So while I'm there, I turned to the right and I see the dining room, which is right off the kitchen and what I'm struck by is the fact that the dining room has snow white carpet. And I look a little harder and I'm like, ‘Wait a minute.” And I squat down and I see like 500 silver dollar size pee stains. The dog had been peeing in the dining room, and I'm sure he pushed out that gate, got out, and got back in without anybody knowing. And I'm like, “I am going to have to tell this woman and she's...her head is going to blow off her body.” I'm like,  Sarah: How’d the housekeeper not find it though? Kathy: Apparently she wasn't doing her job either! It was the formal dining room. So they come back down, they had them, they're like, “Oh my gosh! He didn't do anything.” And I'm like, “You know what? I kind of have bad news about the house. Frankly, he’s peeing in your dining room.” And she was really, like, “He key is not!” And I'm like, “No, he is.” And she's like, “Oh, I don't believe it.” I'm like, “Well..” I had to help her to the ground to crawl into the dining room. Now we're both on our hands and knees and she's so mad. She smacking the ground, “I can't believe it.” Yeah, the housekeeper magically disappeared. And so then we had to talk about better gates and better management and yeah, it was...but then it took twice as long, right? Because the dog said, “Why can't I get to my indoor potty area?” Everything had to change. Supervision had to go through the roof.  Sarah: Yeah! Inadvertently you had house-trained your puppy, just on your white rug in the formal dining room.  Kathy: Had she had a Great Dane puppy. He would've had one accident and they would have seen it. There's a river coming from the dining room. Because he weighed three pounds, he got away with it. Oh my gosh. It was awful. It was terrible. Sarah: Yeah. Supervision is, and management is a huge piece of the potty training. Kathy: It is. It is. And, and realistic expectations. Like you should know and if you don't, now you do, that a 10 week old puppy is probably not really housebroken.  Sarah: Nope.  Kathy: Something is amiss. Sarah: Any other, like from working with clients with potty training and like that, that time period before six months, like any other things that have happened that where you fixed it or where it was like as like a kind of specific issue? Kathy: Yeah, I, when I have people who we lovingly call “noncompliance,” and they're non-compliant for a lot of reasons, their life is crazy. I mean they shouldn't go, the dog may didn't want a dog. Maybe they've decided the kids are going to be in charge and it goes badly. So if they're non-compliant or non able to be compliant, we find that we give them these guidelines. If your eyeballs can't be on the puppy, they're crated. If you can 100% supervise, they're gated in a small room with a leash on and if you can supervise pretty much but not 100% they can be X-penned or tethered in a room with you. In addition, if you want really high level security you can tether them. I told a student today at the home. So it was a perfect example at the lesson I was at today. The puppy moved away from us and peed and it was right about the time he should have, and he had just drank water. But if he had been tethered to her body she would have felt him pulling away like a fish on a line trying to get away. Sarah: Yeah. That's a really, that brings up a good one. So what are some of your like tried and true cues that a puppy will give you that they have to potty? Cause a lot of times new owners, they don't know what to look for. They don't know that if the puppy tries to, like, leave you and create distance from you, they probably need to go to the bathroom. So what are some other kind of physical cues that a puppy will give you that they have to go potty? Kathy: They're sniffing and circling is the big one. Definitely becoming disinterested in your play or training or snack or belly rub session. You feel like you're playing and you’re playing and dog's into it and then suddenly they walk away. Like, “What do I smell?” And then they go, right?  Sarah: Yep, yep.  Kathy: If they're really engaged in something and suddenly disconnect that, that's your cue. And they all have different ways of telling you. Right? So, my Border Collie, both of them actually, would run to me, run to the door, run to me, run to the door. And I'm like, “I guess you have to go.” My golden barks, you've heard, “Oh, gotta go.” My doberman would just stare at me. Like, I'd be on the computer and I feel this. I'd be like, “What is going on?” Sarah: Yeah. They’re tethered to you, you'll learn it that much more quickly because like you'll, you'll be a pattern. You'll notice after maybe one or two times you'll see one of those indicators and take them out and then you'll know their cue. If they weren't tethered to you and they were just loose in the house, you missed it. Kathy: Exactly. And you know, it's interesting when they hit a certain age, they don't give you cues anymore because they're housebroken, and you're taking them out a sufficient amount of time. I can't remember the last time one of my dogs asked me to go out because I think I just take them out. Sarah: Yeah. You get into a routine with your dogs and once they get older, they know when they're going to be able to go. Kathy: Yeah. And you just manage what goes in, what comes out.  Sarah: Yeah. Kathy: I think we should talk about the DPA: Designated Potty Area, and this is a huge thing and this is, we did a Facebook live on it, on chicken rock. Sarah: We have the video for chicken rock. Kathy: Chicken rock is...it was very popular. So, basically I want my dogs to be able to go out the back sliding door, obviously if you're an apartment, this is not valid, and run to the back of the property and pee and poop in the area that I want them to so they're not on the grass. And the way I accomplices is I put out an X pen and I leave it unattached, so there's an opening in it. That X pen, I choose to put wood stove pellets because I want the difference in the texture between grass, mulch, and where I want them to go. Although, side-note, I teach my dogs once the potty training is going well, I make the multi-surface pottiers. They go on pavement, they go on grass, they go on stone, they go everywhere because I don't want them to say, “Wait, where's my wood pellets?” What do wood pellets do for you? They're stove pellets. They’re made out of wood. You could use anything you want. If I went somewhere with a potty that was different than my yard, like a friend's house, I could take a baggie of those, maybe even a baggie of used ones and then dump them in a place in her yard. So anyway, in addition to the wood stove pellets, I put a bowl in the back of the crate, so in the pen. So you would have to walk all the way into it and continue going to that to the side of it and that bowl  is upside down ,and on that bowl I put a piece of chicken, you can use anything you want that the dog never gets. Hence the name chicken rock and when I was doing it with values to rock. So it looks like this. I know that puppy has to potty. I get up in the morning, I go into the refrigerator, get a piece of chicken, put it on that rock. Yes, I have to make two trips, go back in the house, get the puppy out of the crate, clip on a leash, walk outside all the way to the potty area. I put the puppy down in the potty area. They go to the back, they eat the chicken and they say, “While I'm here, might as well go.” Sarah: Big key to that is you carry that  is, in the beginning you carry the puppy out to the rock so that they're not able to go on the way out. That's a big part of it. Kathy: Huge. Huge. Because they’re puppies, their bladder is the size of a moment, so they're going to go at some point on the way to that. Then as they get older and the months go by, and I hopefully can still carry them for a little bit, I put them down farther and farther away, and I'm adding from day one, “Hurry up,” and down they get the chicken and then I say, “Hurry up, hurry up,” and then what happens next depends on the puppy. A lot of owners make the mistake of bringing the dog right back in the house. Now it's important to note that when I'm holding that, when I'm in that X pen, I'm holding the leash. My puppy is not loose, because the first nine months that I have a puppy, they are potty-ing on a leash. People that are lazy, and let the dog out, and then when they have to take the puppy somewhere and they can't let them loose and they're on the lease, the puppy looks at them like, “Can you give me some privacy and space?” Because you taught them to go 50 feet away from you. Now, people who live in the city don't have that issue, but it's a suburban. Once my puppy has gone, I can either take them in the house or I can put on a long leash and then we can play in the yard because I'm so boring in that X pen. I don't give them any fun. And a lot of times people make the mistake of taking the dogs on a walk and then when the dog goes, take them inside. And what the dog knows is that, “If I poop or pee, I'm going back in the house and I love being outside so I'm going to hold it.” But some puppies are outside they’re like, “I gotta go in the house,” and then those are the puppies that you do take in right away. But the puppies are more outward bound, adventurous, energetic, pop on a light line and let them run in the yard for awhile. Give them that as a reward.  Sarah: Yup.  Kathy: Speaking of the reward, I do reward at night for emptying themselves, Like, they get chicken from being there, but I will start adding the food reward. Not every time, but when they are squatting and pooping, I will give them food in that moment. I don't give it to them when they run out of the pen because they’re, like, “Oh I should run out of the pen to get them food.” And we have great housebreaking sheets. I think we have a couple. We have one with the challenging housebreaking. Sarah: Yeah, we have those. So those are all in the lesson sheet library for you guys. If you need them, just drop a comment when we post this. We can direct you right to them.  Kathy: Let's talk about the puppy who suddenly is peeing all the time. I'm thinking about the girl puppies.  Sarah: Yeah.  Kathy: Normally it's a UTI and they just show up. They don't catch them. They just get them. No. And so then what your vet wants is a urine sample. So let's talk about how to get a urine sample. YAY! You get a short, not high sided, Rubbermaid... I want to say Rubbermaid, it's like saying Jello. You don't say “gelatin,” you say Jello, right? A container, a plastic container. Boiling water goes in, up and out or dry all day. Then I go outside and I hide it. Not going to be flashing it in front of my dog's face and think it's food or get interested in it. So it's behind my back. As soon as the dog squads, I sled that sucker in, get a sample and then take it out. Go in the house, pour it in my sterilized pill bottle or vitamin jar as my sample. Masking tape. Pre-do this right? Put masking tape around the bottle with your last name on it and the dog's first name, then you don’t have to do it when you are full. Now my daughter, who's pre-vet, and has worked at a vet for years, confirms what I always knew when they want a urine sample, they don't want a cup of urine. Okay? When they ask for a stool sample, they don't want a bag, a poop. They just need a little, little bit. So don't go crazy with that. And then you either refrigerate it until you get it to the vet that day or you take it right over to the vet. And I would call ahead and say, “Hey, I'm bringing a urine sample. Can you test it?” Some vets will test it and then give you Clavamox, or whatever they're going to give you for that, or some bets that, you know, “Bring the dog in. I need to see.“ So it just depends on the relationship and the type of vet that you have. But that's how you get a urine sample with very little dramatics. I mean, and people are like, “Should I use gloves?” Yeah. You know what? Knock yourself out, wear gloves. I don't, but you can. Yeah. Sarah: Yeah. Then the indications for that, so usually it is the female dog, like you said. If they're peeing, like, excessively. You know, like,  way more than what's normal, then that would be when you could take them to the vet to get that checked out. Kathy: Although sometimes there are other factors. Aww! Hey, Jack and Nev! Sarah: That was Jake. Kathy: There are other factor-that was Jakey? ​Sarah: Yeah. He was just saying, “Hello.” Kathy: Hey, Jakey! One of Sarah's dogs. So I had a student and it was, like, July and she's like, “My puppy is not a puppy, she's 10 months old. She was housebroken and now she's peeing throughout the house”. And of course the first thing you think is a UTI.  Sarah: Right. Kathy: And like, all right, it sounds like UTI. However, let me ask you, are there any new sources of water that she's getting into? Is she drinking out of the toilet? Like is there a water cooler that's liking? She's like, “No, no, there's nothing. There's nothing”. I'm like, “Are you sure?” She's like, “Yeah, no.” She said, “I, you know, we opened our pool last week.” I was like, “ Wonderful! Hello! Big dog water bowl right out in your yard.” And she's like, “Oh, you're right.” The dog is drinking from the pool when she’s swimming!” I'm like, “Yeah, I know I’m right” Sarah: Jesus. Kathy: Yup. And some people have decorative fountains. Like that's what I mean by other sources of water outside the box. Sarah: Yeah. I always ask too, like, you know, “Is the husband or the kids sneaking the dog water when you're not looking?” Something like that. Or, “Are they giving the dog water when you don't know about it? So you don't know that they need to go again?” Looking for those saboteurs. Kathy: I had a student, Oh my gosh, she had this refrigerator brand new and it was gigantic ones and it was leaking and so she called the repair people and they came out and they said it was leaking. And, like, three or four times! And she finally called the company, got the head of the company’s phone number wrote this nasty email, like, RIP customer service. She wanted the company to take it back. She was going ham on them and she was so mad, and this is actually why she wound up calling me. She said one morning she went downstairs, it was off, her schedule was early, and she's in a robe and she hears (whirring noise)  Sarah: Oh, God. Kathy: And she’s like, “Now I'm going to see what's wrong with this thing?” Oh no. It was her lab, who learn to jump up and push the button, and drink from the stinking refrigerator.  Sarah: Oh, my God Kathy: She said, “Should I call and apologize to the people I ripped?”  I’m like, “You just do what you need to do.”  Sarah: Send a holiday gift basket. Kathy: God, yeah. And that's what we had to work on and you know, we did unplugged the water. Unrewarded behavior extinguishes itself.  Sarah: Yep.  Kathy: We plugged it back in, and start on the ice cubes.  Sarah: The refrigerator's going batty. Kathy: Yeah, that's great. When again, dogs are invested they discover themselves and people get all twisted that the dog isn't learning Down or Place. I'm like, “If you did it the right way, they'd learn it really fast because they are problem solvers and they are brilliant.”  Sarah: Yep. All right. Kathy: Let's see. We covered crate. Oh, I know puppies who pee in their crate! Sometimes, you know this, clients want to leave a blanket or a towel in there and the puppy just bunches it up and pees on it and pushes it back. So I like them, if you have that issue, I like them to have a naked crate. That way. If they pee in it, there's a consequence in a lot of times I had to do that and they also will pee on stuff. Toys, don’t do that. Sarah: Yeah, anything that can absorb the urine, they'll use it. Kathy: I had a student whose dog, see, this is like story time with Kathy and Sarah, but we never, we never say names. So we like the idea that you cover a crate because we feel like it takes the visual interest away from the dog or the puppy, and they settle down better. And I had a student who has, she's struggling with housebreaking. As soon as we took the towels out, the dog was perfect. Until one night, it pulled the blanket through the crate bars that was covering the crate and then peed on them. So like, yup.  Sarah: Yeah. We always try to get the caveat like make sure that the sheet or the blanket is thick enough that they can't pull it into the crate.    Kathy: And my doberman, when they used to pull it in, it didn't matter. It could be like a mattress and they’d pull that sucker in. The thing was, I put boxes on top of his crate, and then I put the sheet on it and I pulled it out like a tent, and I secured it. Ask Eric, he remembers this. I had books and an end table, and he's like, “Catherine, what is happening?” I'm like, “NO!” Sarah: He can't pull the sheet in! Kathy: Oh man, poor Eric. That should be our hashtag, “poor Eric”. Yup. Sarah: Well it worked didn’t it? He wasn't able to pull the sheet in. Kathy: Damn right it worked. It was great. I felt victorious. I may have even snuck out at two in the morning to see if it worked. I'm not going to lose another blanket. So let's see. Got diet, got the time of the night out, we have the schedule, you have the signals, crate size, potty area outside has to be on leash, when you go somewhere new, you can take, if they’re using that method of having a different surface, you can take it with you, and at some point, you want to teach the dog to be variable. Become a variable surface peer. Sarah: Yeah, it's not linear, right? It's going to be a roller coaster when potty training your puppy. He has an accident, deal with it. Like you said, go in the bathroom, ask yourself what you did wrong and then go back out there and just next day start over Kathy: And realistically say, “At six months it'll be perfect if I do everything right. And so I'm not going to delude myself into thinking of typical puppy with an acorn bladder is able to hold that at all.” Sarah: Yeah, exactly.  Kathy: Oh! Can we talk about one thing. When you say, “I told my wife when I was going out to watch the puppy,” “I told my husband to watch the puppy,” “I told my kids to watch the puppy,” nobody's going to watch the puppy like you are going to watch the puppy. So if you can't trust the people that you need, you’re better off crating the dog so you don't set yourself back. Cause that's the worst part. And holidays, cause we're recording this the day before Thanksgiving, holidays are the worst because you get distracted and you get busy and you have company over and somebody's like, “Oh my God, there's poo in the living room!”  Sarah: Or someone steps on it on your carpet. Kathy: And they don’t know it and then they track it.  Sarah: Or barefoot! In the middle of the night, you get up on Christmas morning and you step in dog poop on your barefoot. That's happened to me way too many times. Kathy: Yes. Yes. So that's why you should have people over for the holidays. No, just kidding.  Sarah: Puppy goes in the crate. Kathy: We have really good examples of managing and monitoring your dog on the holidays and that would be in the Thanksgiving podcast as well. Sarah: Yeah. Alright, so we think that we've covered pretty much everything. Any other questions let us know and we'll be happy to answer them. Kathy: Yeah, we'll put our answers to your questions in the comments. Is there a comments? There should be. If not, we’ll just record another one Sarah: Yeah. I'll post the link of this in all the groups and then they can comment underneath any questions they have. Kathy: All right, awesome. Great. Thanks for hanging out with me.  Sarah: Absolutely.  Kathy: Always fun. All right, I'll talk to you later. 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Swell Spark is a company with concepts such as escape rooms and axe throwing They are known for Blade and Timber and breakout escape rooms, have 11 storefronts nationwide and believe in the importance of having fun to bring people together for shared experiences. Matt was a high school guidance counselor and owned a soda shop when he started an escape room as a side hustle and expanded to six locations within two years They started the axe throwing trend and expanded to six locations around the country. Hoping to launch a new concept in April 2020.   www.swellspark.com TRANSCRIPTION: Joel Goldberg: Matt, there are a million things that you're involved in, which means there are a million things that I want to talk to you about. How would you describe yourself?   Matt Baysinger: I love having fun. I know that sounds really cheesy, maybe even sounds cutesie or something along those lines, even cheap. Right? But I just really believe that having fun is important. I think it brings people together. That's always kind of been my MO, not even in a professional sense, just in a life sense. Then from a company standpoint, we really made it the company MO as well. We want to gather people for shared experiences. We want to have a heck of a lot of fun together.   Joel Goldberg: You do that, I'm sure, and then we'll talk about the culture of your company but also anyone that is going to something that you own or run, that's the goal across the board. It's not just, hey, we're this company, come and do this. You're offering people a lot of ways to have fun.   Matt Baysinger: Yeah. The two major brands that we have that folks recognize us for the most are Blade & Timber and then Breakout KC here in Kansas City. We have 11 storefronts around the country from Kansas City to Honolulu. We've been doing this for five years. In that, we've also done things like Choir Bar and Epic Aloha and other kind of popup ideas. I think we are seekers of fun, and so there's a couple check boxes of, "Does it do this? Does it do that?" And I think at the end of the day if it's going to get people together, if it's going to give them a more compelling thing to do than stare at their phone, then it's something that we're interested in pursuing.   Joel Goldberg: Let's start with... You want to start with Breakout KC or Blade & Timber?   Matt Baysinger: Let's do it.   Joel Goldberg: Let's start with Breakout KC. Of course, everybody knows about these escape rooms now. If you've never done one before... I hadn't done one and then suddenly I think my family and everybody... My kids had done them and even my wife had done one at some point. Then suddenly we've got my parents and my kids and this and that. We're all in this room together, and it's exactly what you said. We're having a lot of fun together. This is really cool. Tell me about the origins of that.   Matt Baysinger: My wife, Emily and I, we were traveling to Chattanooga, Tennessee, in 2014. We had this eight hour stopover in Nashville before we really got going into Chattanooga to visit some friends. We were looking for something to do in Nashville. Never had been to the city. Seemed like a good place. We pull up Trip Advisor. We're thinking what music tour can we do or what sort of entertainment. We pull up, and the number one thing on Trip Advisor is this thing called The Escape Game, and it's a picture of a house. We're like, "What is this?"   Matt Baysinger: We didn't end up going on that trip, not knowing what it was. We were going to visit Emily's friend in Chattanooga, which meant I had a whole week to research escape rooms. Over the course of a week, one, I was like, "This looks fun." But, two, it was this brand new experience, this brand new industry in the United States. I came back really kind of rejuvenated from that trip. I pulled in one of my best friends, Ryan, who was in kind of more design fabrication construction. I said, "Ryan, we got to look into this thing. We have to. I think we can do this, and I think we can do it better than anybody."   Matt Baysinger: The basic idea for those who have not played an escape room is there's this dramatic experience. It's as though you're Jason Bourne or you're James Bond. It not like you're locked in a room. That was the old version of escape rooms. But you have to solve something. You have to be the hero of a great story. For us, we have 11 different experiences just in the Kansas City area alone, so 11 different movies that you get to play the part in essence. As you mentioned, they are a phenomenal opportunity to hang out with friends or family or coworkers. It's stinking fun.   Joel Goldberg: Yeah. How do you go from this looks cool to this is going to be our business?   Matt Baysinger: Sure. This was 2014. As a matter of fact, the first time that Ryan and I got together to really talk about this was the Wild Card Game in 2014. That was when the spark ignited. Honestly, when we first started, it was going to be a side hustle. We thought, "Hey, we can do this on the weekends. It might be some passive income. We can build these things. If we end up making a couple of bucks, awesome." And we thought that we would.   Matt Baysinger: I was working two jobs at that time. I was a high school guidance counselor at St. James Academy in Lenexa, and I had just started this soda shop, Mass Street Soda, within the last year. We didn't anticipate it doing what it has done. It's been an amazing ride. But we opened. We were able to get some friends in who shared it. I think there was just an appetite for something new among our customers, among the folks who came and supported us. Within two years, we had expanded out to six locations, largely because we thought that we could, and we thought that we should.   Joel Goldberg: Were you doing it differently than everybody else? Were you guys able to take it to a different place?   Matt Baysinger: Yeah, I think we did a really good job with telling great stories and letting people be heroes of great stories. I think even more so, Kansas City... I think it's the most underrated city in America. When people take a stab at something new in this city, if it is of high quality, what we found is more often than not, the city and the community at whole kind of wraps their arms around you. They're like, "Hey, we take care of our own."   Matt Baysinger: So we went from opening to being the top rated escape room in the country within about nine months. We had more reviews on Trip Advisor than anybody else. We had people waiting sometimes three or four weeks to get a spot to come in. I think honestly that's largely due to we told great compelling stories, but I think more importantly we've always had a super high focus on customer service. Whether you have a good time in the room or not, I can't really control that. But we can control how we treat you before the room, during the room, after the room, to make sure that you have just incredible interactions with real people the entire time.   Joel Goldberg: Was there a tipping point with that one where you said... Obviously, you believed this to be successful.   Matt Baysinger: Right.   Joel Goldberg: But like you said, a nice side hustle. What or when was the tipping point where you said, "Wait a minute. This side hustle is actually going to become the main hustle"?   Matt Baysinger: Sure. Ryan was a firefighter at the time. Again, I had these other jobs as well. We had this single phone number that would ring to both of our phones. The general rule, because it was the two of us, was, hey, if you can answer the phone go ahead and answer, and if you can't after five rings the other person might answer it. Normally, we'd get one or two calls a day in the first couple weeks. We'd have maybe one or two bookings a day. We only had one room.   Matt Baysinger: I vividly remember this experience. Ryan and I, we were building out the second room, and he's up on a ladder. The first call comes in of that day, and I call, hey, Matt... This is Matt with Blade & Timber. How can I help you? We want to book. Great. While I'm on the phone, Ryan's phone rings. Hey, this is Ryan with Blade & Timber. While we're on the phone, I get a beep in. Hey, can I put you on hold for a second? What had happened is two days before that... I went to high school with Matt Besler. We've been friends for quite some time. I said, "Hey, Matt, we started this new thing. Would you come? Bring some friends if you want to."   Matt Baysinger: Well, Matt brought almost the entire Sporting Kansas City team. They posted on their Instagram and Facebook-   Joel Goldberg: That was it.   Matt Baysinger: ... and honestly, that was it. People started hearing about what we were doing. I think it was that day or the next day is when we started booking out not just days in advance but weeks in advance. Within a couple short weeks, we were quitting our other jobs, saying, okay, let's go all in on this and trying to grow that thing as well as we could.   Joel Goldberg: This might be a dumb question or certainly... And I don't mean for it to be offensive because I know you believed in your product. If the soccer star with the whole soccer team does not do that, do you still get to where you are in just a matter of... Would it have taken longer?   Matt Baysinger: I think so. We still had a great product. That was, I think, the kickstart that we needed. But you know as well as anybody that you can have amazing marketing, but if your product sucks, people are going to say, "Wow, that was amazing marketing. They tricked me into doing this thing." The mountain of momentum came when very quickly we were the top rated experience in Kansas City more than the museums, more than the K, more than all these things.   Matt Baysinger: When you looked on Trip Advisor at things to do, we were the thing to do. Might that have taken a little bit longer? Yeah, absolutely. But I think when a lot of folks ask me why we've had success or what that goes back to, I talk about people. I talk about the relationships that I've had and the relationships that I've cultivated over time. Matt was generous enough to come along and help kickstart us, and that was awesome. I'm grateful for him. He probably wants commission right now that he's here in this podcast. I think if you put a great product out there as long as folks find a way to know about it, good things will come.   Joel Goldberg: Well, and we could also add in good people in terms of those connections. Okay, you had a long history with Matt Besler. Matt Besler also happens to be a very good person.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely.   Joel Goldberg: So it's one thing to be a soccer star and sporting has such a loyal and unbelievable following, but part of that following is the culture that they have too.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely.   Joel Goldberg: I'm guessing that that kind of all aligned with who you all are.   Matt Baysinger: It was I would say accidental strategic in the early days and that what we've come to find is that we actually overlap pretty well with the type of fans that Sporting Kansas City has. There's not as many folks at MLS Games as there are at Chiefs' games or at Royals' games, but they're oftentimes far more rabid fans. They're far more invested in their team. Coming from that area right by Cerner and some folks that are techy and geeky, escape rooms, they're a little bit nerdy.   Matt Baysinger: It is a more active form of entertainment than just going out and grabbing a few beers or something like that. You have to think.   Joel Goldberg: You have to think.   Matt Baysinger: But that's the fun of it. That's not to say... I think the fear for a lot of people is that they're going to be not smart enough for an escape room. Escape rooms are built for everybody. We definitely had some happy accidents in the early days as far as who we catered to, who we advertised to, who we marketed through and with. I will happily take advantage of those happy accidents that we've had.   Joel Goldberg: I always say never apologize for those. They don't really happen by accident either I don't think. You can stumble into something. I guess what I would say is that you can have that happen by accident, but ultimately it's up to you to capitalize on it.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely.   Joel Goldberg: And a lot of people don't.   Matt Baysinger: Sure.   Joel Goldberg: And so then maybe it's not meant to be. You obviously did. How about... I know you've got a passion for film or film background. How much did that help in terms of the stories you guys were telling?   Matt Baysinger: Sure. I think quite a bit. My former company was just Baysinger Films, and we did work for Nike and Google and McDonald's and things like this. We also did weddings and just telling people's stories. Again, in the early days Ryan comes from this fabrication background, a wicked smart guy as well. We went to high school together. And I came really from more of a marketing, so I was like, man, I can market this stuff if you can help build it. I'm far more conceptual than Ryan is. I'm for better or worse. We tried to use every skill or talent that we had to push the envelope forward just a little bit more in the early days. I think fortunately we had a pretty good mix between the two of us, and then we had some really amazing folks come on board to help us with that as well.   Joel Goldberg: All right. You have the escape rooms, and everybody's throwing axes nowadays.   Matt Baysinger: Yep.   Joel Goldberg: That has become-   Matt Baysinger: Because of us, right?   Joel Goldberg: Yes. Well, it's become a thing.   Matt Baysinger: Yeah.   Joel Goldberg: No one in their wildest dreams would've ever imagined that that's something you could do outside of some kind of 2:00 in the morning programming on ESPN10 or whatever it was.   Matt Baysinger: The Ocho.   Joel Goldberg: Yeah, The Ocho. Oh man, how long ago that was. So how did this come about?   Matt Baysinger: Little context, right? In the early days of the escape room, I vividly... And I've told this story before. But I remember this moment of we lived on coffee at the time and Quay Coffee is down the street, amazing coffee shop in the River Market. We were there twice a day because we were working the stereotypical long hours that you do in startup. This group of gals probably, I don't know, 16, 17, 18 years old had just broken out from one of our escape rooms with 10 seconds to go, so they were hyped.   Matt Baysinger: Their immediate conversation is, hey, let's go grab something to eat. They're walking down, and they end up walking to Quay. I'm 10 paces behind them, which is a little awkward, but whatever. They get out of our escape room; we take the group photo of them; they celebrate; high fives; I think, get some T-shirts; start walking. They walk two blocks to Key Coffee. I'm right behind them the whole time. Seventeen-year-old gals. Not a single one of them pulls their phone out. They are just talking to each other trying to figure out what just happened. "Hey, I was doing this thing, and I pulled down on the antlers, and then... oh, that was when the door opened. Oh, my gosh, I was doing this other... " They're piecing together how they actually broke out of this room because it's just been pure something to that point.   Matt Baysinger: That was the moment that we kind of realized, "Oh, my gosh we've built something more exciting than your cellphone." I know that sounds maybe a little silly, but you know it's-   Joel Goldberg: No, I think everyone gets it actually.   Matt Baysinger: And so the question immediately became how else can we do this. We never anticipated being an escape room company. We really found ourselves in this what we call small box entertainment. From almost day one we said, "Escape rooms, and... " We looked at all these other concepts, all these other things. And then as we were just researching online at some point we saw this pub in London that had an axe throwing range in it. We were like, "Huh? Axe throwing and alcohol. That sounds kind of fun. That sounds kind of different."   Matt Baysinger: The building that we're in right now we actually built an axe throwing lane on the top floor. We have ping-pong tables and arcade games and all of the stuff that you would expect a bunch of 20 and 30 year olds to have in their offices.   Matt Baysinger: The moment that we made an axe throwing lane on our top floor people stopped playing ping-pong, and they stopped playing the arcades, and they stopped... All you would hear is people talking over lunch hour of, "Oh, man, I can't believe you got me. I'm going to get you next game." Our staff started getting really into it.   Joel Goldberg: So the same way that those girls were talking about that escape room, putting the phones away and actually having... What is this? Oh, a conversation.   Matt Baysinger: Right.   Joel Goldberg: You saw a similar type of energy.   Matt Baysinger: Yeah. Again, as silly as it sounds, people like doing stuff. People like learning new skills. I think one of the reasons golf is declining is because it's really hard, and it's really expensive, and there's kind of a high barrier for entry to get into it. With axe throwing, we got to a point where we felt like we could teach anybody how to throw an axe in five minutes or less. When it became that simple, it's like, "If my mom can do this, then anybody can do this." I love you, mom.   Matt Baysinger: She doesn't have an athletic bone in her body, and she's able to hit bulls eyes underhand with an axe. Once we got to that point we were like, "There's something here." The next question was, "What kind of landlord would in their wildest imagination allow us to throw axes in their building?" Truth be told, we got denied by probably five or six landlords in Kansas City who were like, "This isn't going to work," or "It doesn't sounds safe," or whatever.   Matt Baysinger: But we were able to open in the West Bottoms, and I think once we had the proof of concept, same story. We've been able to expand to six locations, seventh coming. Actually, we only have five now that I think about it.   Joel Goldberg: We'll get into that one.   Matt Baysinger: What's been fun about axe throwing... I guess, quick little tangent. Our second location of our escape room was Honolulu, Hawaii, so Kansas City to Honolulu. What's been really fun, we took axe throwing-   Joel Goldberg: Let me stop you real quick. How'd did you go from... I mean, it seems like why wouldn't you, right?   Matt Baysinger: Right.   Joel Goldberg: It's not that easy. It can't be that easy.   Matt Baysinger: So mom graduated high school in Hawaii. Dad was [inaudible 00:17:12]. Our grandfather was military. So we did have kind of a familial connection out there, but also it's a large metro. It's a large metro, and quite frankly, there's not a lot to do once the sun goes down, especially if you're not into drinking or clubbing. What's been really neat with axe throwing with Blade & Timber, we have locations here. We're down in Wichita. We're in Seattle. We're in Honolulu. Those are very different people groups in all of those cities.   Matt Baysinger: They have different voting histories. They have different make ups of skin tones and skin colors and all sorts of stuff. But what's really fun is that people love axe throwing in all of those markets. People love having fun in all of those markets. It's been just from a human standpoint to see that this is something that's kind of universally needed is this table for community. It's been a really cool byproduct of what we do.   Joel Goldberg: When you put that axe throwing lane upstairs, it was just something else fun or cool to do because you guys have that cool type of office? How did you end up with that axe throwing lane upstairs?   Matt Baysinger: Even when you go back to escape rooms we test it first. I think a lot of people think that it was just striking gold, but we built our first escape room in the spare bedroom of my house. When it came to axe throwing, we can make some educated guesses, but we want to at least test it out for logistics. Upstairs the initial goal was simply, hey, let's figure out what axe we need to use. Let's figure out how far or close you should stand. Let's figure out if you should spin it once or twice. It was really to test the concept.   Matt Baysinger: When we put it up there, we knew that it was something that we were interested in doing as long as we could figure it out. People just figured it out a lot sooner than we would've anticipated.   Joel Goldberg: How did that compare in terms of interest, growth, to the escape rooms? Was it the same type of pattern? Were you stumbling upon the same thing or was it a different animal?   Matt Baysinger: Yeah, there were obviously some differences. There were obviously some similarities. But I think when you take a step back, people ask, "All right, Matt, you're with Swell Spark, what does Swell Spark do?" Nothing. The answer is nothing. Swell Spark is an operating group. It's a group of about 20 people here at headquarters who serve all of our concepts. In that capacity, when you look at the long-term growth plans for Swell Spark to be a long-term sustainable company, we need to launch new concepts. That's in our DNA. We have committed to be a perpetual startup of concepts.   Matt Baysinger: With that, we talk about velocity, and we talk about velocity of different metropolitan areas. We were able to open our escape rooms in two major metros, being Kansas City and Honolulu. We've been able so far to open our axe throwing in four major metros.   Joel Goldberg: Which is Kansas City-   Matt Baysinger: Kansas City, Honolulu, Seattle, and we're about to open Portland as well. When you look at the big picture, what do we do and what it is that we're about, we get velocity in metros. Once we open one concept in a metro, we start to accumulate data on who's coming. We start to accumulate data on who we should market to, what parts of town we should be in, what parts of town we should avoid. Realistically, once we opened Blade & Timber, we were able to do a cross promotion with Breakout KC and invite 70,000 people to come out. You can imagine what day one looked like when they're 70,000 invitations to be the first to do something in Kansas City.   Matt Baysinger: And so, it exploded. Our first kind of soft opening VIP night, which was literally just me and Ryan posting on Facebook, I think had 300 people show up.   Joel Goldberg: Wow.   Matt Baysinger: We always set up our experiences to be easy on the eyes. So we set up a photo booth in Blade & Timber and put some places in where it would make it real easy to take a photo so people share on our behalf, which we love. I have three kids, six, four and two. My wife, she probably wishes she didn't start this, but she started making a book a year per kid. It's just a scrapbook, a well-designed scrapbook. We just had all three of their birthdays in the last couple months. And so we're going through and making the new pages or the new years. The pages in those scrapbooks are never about the things we bought for them.   Matt Baysinger: There's never a picture of, "Oh, here's your toy that you enjoyed." It's like, "No, here's the stuff we did." Honestly, I think people are, not to say waking up to that idea, but bowling is the great example. Bowling was America's sport for a long time. There's countless research that's been done about this. Bowling died. There's a lot of reasons it died. What the problem is is a lot of people said, "Oh, well, it was because bowling wasn't fun," when really it was a lack of community.   Matt Baysinger: For us to have the opportunity to give people that again is just so special. I think people crave it. It's easy to stay in your house. It's easy to watch Netflix and order food. There's nothing wrong with either of those things as long as they're balanced with spending time with your friends and being around other people. We love to provide those opportunities.   Joel Goldberg: That's one of the things of why we like vacations. You actually get a chance to go and do things.   Matt Baysinger: Right.   Joel Goldberg: Not everything needs to be Disney World and waiting in the lines and all that and people may like certain things. We actually took our kids last year to Disney and Universal and all that for the first time ever. They're now 16 and 14, so they were 15 and 13 at that point. And they'll remember that forever.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely.   Joel Goldberg: It might not be a specific ride. It might be just walking around and the Harry Potter stuff. Who knows? It is something that they will and we will remember forever those moments.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely. I'm a KU grade. I'm a big Jayhawks fan. Even to go to 2014 and 2015 with the Royals, I've been to a whole lot of baseball games over the years. Those are fun, but you're generally watching other people do things. One of the reasons I think Allen Fieldhouse is such a special environment is because as a fan you feel like you're part of it. You're shredding newspaper. You're tossing it in the air. There's these little things you do with your hands. You are a part of your own entertainment experience.   Matt Baysinger: In 2014, that Wild Card Game I think I gave 700 high fives. Everyone who was there that's going to be a special memory because we got to be part of it to a degree.   Joel Goldberg: There is a reason why people have these crazy superstitions, and they ramp up, and it's not just in Kansas City. It's in every single city.   Matt Baysinger: Sure.   Joel Goldberg: How many people do you know that say, "We had to sit in this spot for this game," and if you came in and you weren't there before, you were kicked out. There were actually families that weren't watching the game together because that became their involvement and their experience. Right?   Matt Baysinger: Yeah, absolutely.   Joel Goldberg: As crazy and silly as those things are, they're fun because you're involved.   Matt Baysinger: They make it more memorable.   Joel Goldberg: You feel like you're a part of it even if you're wearing the same underwear for... Yeah.   Matt Baysinger: Make sure you wear your same shirt, your flannel shirt, every time you come to Breakout or Blade & Timber. It'll be your lucky shirt to get bulls eyes.   Joel Goldberg: Whatever it takes. I do want to ask you in a little bit about what's next. Before we get into the baseball theme questions, I'm curious now where you're at. You and I are in a group together, so I've had the chance to watch you operate a little bit. I haven't probably shown up as much as others or I should. Maybe you have. I don't know. What I've been though is I've just been really impressed with just your thirst for knowledge, your thirst to become better I think as a leader. I don't know if that's something you ever thought about getting into. I don't know that you could've envisioned any of the way this all went other than the fact that you seem to be to me a guy that's always thinking and driven and wanting to come up with new ideas.   Joel Goldberg: But now you're running companies all around the country. And I know you have to have a culture in the way you want things done, and that could be a little bit unnerving to say, "Wait a minute. How are things going in Hawaii? I'm sitting here in Kansas City."   Matt Baysinger: Right.   Joel Goldberg: What have you learned?   Matt Baysinger: We were talking before the podcast started is all we can do is tell our story. I look back at, my undergrad was sociology. Then I worked in athletics for a while, and I got a master's in education administration. I worked as a high school guidance counselor. I worked as a barista. I started a soda shop. I have a film company. None of it makes sense. But I think when you take a step back a little bit more, all of it makes sense.   Matt Baysinger: One, as you iterated, the people, the relationships that you build along the way matter. I think more than that we went through recently, and we talked about what it is that we actually look for in employees. It was kind of tucked in the back of my head, but we finally spit it out and said, "We want people who are eager to learn. We want people who are coachable." I had the opportunity to run track at the University of Kansas, and I got there because I was fast. Without being overly pretentious, I was a fast runner. I got a lot faster because I had a great coach.   Matt Baysinger: I think sometimes when you get to the metaphorical big leagues of running your own company it's easy to think that you know it all. I think the more that I have realized that our business while it is strange, it's not unlike other businesses. There are things that apply to just about every business on earth, and the more that we've realized that... At first, I was kind of upset about it like, "Oh, I thought we were doing something special. I thought we were venturing out into the world," but I've realized no. A lot of the problems that we face are the same problems that other people have faced, and what that means is there's wisdom in finding the answers they found so that we can skip those painful steps and get to better solutions without having to reinvent the wheel ourselves.   Matt Baysinger: The startup community, the small business community in Kansas City, is unlike anything I've encountered. We've been able to travel a lot. There are a special group of folks here who are invested in making the cream rise to the top. If I can be a part of that, man, I'll take that opportunity any day.   Joel Goldberg: Yeah, that's pretty powerful. Before we get to the baseball theme questions, so how many stores or properties total around the country right now? We talked about the different cities.   Matt Baysinger: Yeah, we had 11. One of our stores just burned down two weeks ago, which was a huge bummer. So technically we're at 10. We'll be at 12 by quarter two of 2020.   Joel Goldberg: This is Blade & Timber and escape rooms?   Matt Baysinger: Yes, that's correct. We hope to launch our next concept in April-ish of 2020. That'll depend on our construction contracts and whatnot. But we have something new coming to Kansas City.   Joel Goldberg: Which I'm sure you can't tell me.   Matt Baysinger: Nope.   Joel Goldberg: But it'll be I'm guessing something as ground breaking or original as an escape room was in 2014 and as original as axe throwing was a few years back.   Matt Baysinger: We have found that fun maybe looks different in other countries or other regions.   Joel Goldberg: There's a hint.   Matt Baysinger: But that doesn't make it any less fun. I think oftentimes it's simply that we don't realize the opportunity that there is to do this really fun thing.   Joel Goldberg: Put it this way. I'm not trying to get it... I live in this world where with baseball and athletes where you just know you're not going to get the answer, so that's fine. But when this thing comes out, will it initially be something saying, "Wait? Really? Never thought about that before"?   Matt Baysinger: I think you're going to chuckle at its simplicity.   Joel Goldberg: Okay.   Matt Baysinger: Yep.   Joel Goldberg: All right, fair enough. Baseball themed questions. What would you say professionally is the biggest home run you've hit?   Matt Baysinger: That first risk of Breakout KC. That was the launching pad for sure. Honestly, as I say it though, I think the biggest home run that we hit was Breakout Waikiki, our second location. The reason I say that is we had to open a location 3,800 miles from here, 15 hours of travel at best. We had to set it up in a way that it could run without me being there, which is a hard transition for an entrepreneur to build process and to build functions that can exist without you being the one to do it.   Matt Baysinger: It was successful. That's why I'm calling it a home run, but I think more so it forced us to take a step back and think about how to grow well. Since that point, every other location we've done since then has been closer, but we've been able to grow 10 locations in four years. We've been able to increase our sales by 55% a year for four years now, and that's because we had to work out a lot of those kinks early on with Breakout Waikiki.   Joel Goldberg: What's the swing and miss? You've talked a lot about learning.   Matt Baysinger: Sure.   Joel Goldberg: What's a big swing and miss, and what did you learn from it?   Matt Baysinger: We did this project called Epic Aloha in Hawaii as well. This was a 6,000 square foot walkable Instagramable museum. Again, it checked the boxes. Shared experiences? Absolutely. Bring people together. Amazing concepts. All of those things. Honestly, from an installation standpoint it might've been the best thing we've every built. It went out of business in 10 months. Granted, it was a 12 month lease. We went to the wrong space. Not to oversimplify it, but what was bizarre about that concept, we became the seventh highest rated attraction in all of Hawaii. You're talking Pearl Harbor and then Waikiki Beach and then a handful of others, and then Epic Aloha.   Matt Baysinger: We had this insane problem that everyone loved us but nobody knew about us. We just couldn't overcome that. Unfortunately, we closed that one a little bit early. We took a bath on it in many ways, but also we realized what we were capable of. I'm the eternal optimist, so we're always going to find the positives, but from a numbers standpoint, golly, that was bad. From a learning standpoint, we know what a fast ball looks like now. We know what a curve ball looks like, and I think we know how to handle those a little bit better moving forward.   Joel Goldberg: That's good. Small ball. How would you define small ball to Swell Spark or to any of your entities in terms of the little things?   Matt Baysinger: You know, I wouldn't call myself a futurist, but I think our world is changing a lot. I think one of the things that differentiates us from just about anybody else is our emphasis on customer service. I believe it's all about the relationships, I really do. The thing can be cool, but if you do a cool thing with terrible people, you're not going to enjoy it. We focus on our people first, and I think when our people are feeling loved, when they're feeling supported as employees, it allows them to do that with customers as well.   Matt Baysinger: Our blocking and tackling or our small ball is we got to make sure that the people are even better than the experience that we offer.   Joel Goldberg: Four final questions that I ask every guest. These will vary by guest. Four final questions as we round the bases. Do you have a favorite story or scene that you've done over the years?   Matt Baysinger: Halloween is a big deal for my wife and I. This isn't going to be the answer that you asked for.   Joel Goldberg: That's okay.   Matt Baysinger: Forrest Gump is my favorite movie. It's an amazing movie. When you talk about how I got into all this, my junior year of college I grew my hair out just so I could shave it down to look like Forrest Gump. I sat on a bench on KU's campus and I passed out chocolates for four hours and told stories. I think that probably as much as anything iterates who I am and what we stand for, which is, man, we like to have fun. We love to do that through Halloween as well. I think from a company standpoint I told you about the gals walking, and that's been a pivotal moment for us.   Matt Baysinger: I just love when I get to see reviews... I love on a regular basis is people will say, "This is the best thing I've done this year," or "This is the best birthday party I've ever had." As cheesy as it may sound, that is all of the motivation or story that I need to know that we're doing something positive.   Joel Goldberg: All right. The second question, which has to do with storytelling or perhaps in this case, fake storytelling. You know where I'm going. I didn't know you that well, and I'm still getting to know you. But when this whole thing popped up, and it was written about... It was one of those just epic... Back in the day we used to call it a burn, I guess. You know?   Matt Baysinger: Sure. Yeah, sick burn.   Joel Goldberg: Sick burn. Yeah. This was back in July. I just remember reading this, and I had goosebumps because basically you dealt with what I'm sure a lot of very proud, hardworking business owners deal with. And we live in a world... We're all guilty of it. I try to remind myself all the time that just because it's on Yelp doesn't mean it's true.   Matt Baysinger: Sure.   Joel Goldberg: In the case, somebody basically accused one of your employees of Blade & Timber of some racist stuff. Your reply was beautiful. I'll just read a little bit of it because you responded to him, and you said, "The best part of this is that you tried to paint a picture of my man, Jordan, as rude and racist. This is the exact same Jordan whose own mother immigrated to the US from Mexico. You have the audacity to call out a staff member by name, yet you have to make up a story and hide behind a fake Yelp alias to try to stir the pot. If one of our staff members was actually being racist, I can assure you that we would take action, but in this scenario you're just using a fake name to tell a fake story to try and paint a fake picture about a real and honest person that's just trying to do his job. I can't let that fly here. If I could give you a Yelp rating, you would earn zero stars."   Joel Goldberg: It got a lot of attention as it should have.   Matt Baysinger: It did. Yeah.   Joel Goldberg: That's just some of it. But I can only imagine the fire that burned in you when this happened, and then being the storyteller, the chance for you to tell that story.   Matt Baysinger: The first revision of my response was a little bit punchier.   Joel Goldberg: This was pretty punchy.   Matt Baysinger: Yeah. Jessie, our Director of Communications, asked me to tone it down a little bit. But, you know, this was... It's a weird world online. Right?   Joel Goldberg: Yeah, it is.   Matt Baysinger: People can say things unchecked. And we had this situation where we threw some kids out for underage drinking. This was the way that they decided to retaliate against us. We're smart enough to... I mean, we have audio and video of everything that happens in our store. Honestly, I read the review, and I was first fired up that one of our staff members had done something stupid. I was like, "Oh, my gosh, I can't believe that Jordan was racist." These are the things flying through my head.   Matt Baysinger: I dive in, and I get the real story. Then my level of anger went through the roof. We ask a lot of our employees. It's not easy to have great customer service and to love and serve people well especially when they suck. In this situation, we reviewed the tapes. It was pretty clear that Jordan had done exactly what we had asked him to do in the situation. There wasn't a racist bone in his body in this situation. It just felt like the right opportunity and the right thing to do to stand up for him.   Matt Baysinger: Whenever you talk about things like racism online, you set yourself up for potential windfall. So we were nervous about that quite frankly, but the response was amazing in that I think anyone who understood the character of our company and understood what we really stand for, they then had the opportunity to choose which story to believe. I think pretty much universally folks realize that ours was the right one. And I think people were... I think they were glad to see a small business like us stand up to the review machine that has taken down so many other businesses and so many other people.   Joel Goldberg: Just a follow up before we move on, I'm curious if, one, you ever heard from that kid or anyone associated with him? And, two, what did you hear from people like Jordan and your employees?   Matt Baysinger: Our employees were extravagant. Extravagant? No, they were excited that we did something. I think in some ways it would've been really easy for us to ignore it or maybe try to get the review taken down or something like that. The gentleman who posted did it under a fake name.   Joel Goldberg: Of course.   Matt Baysinger: We know his real name. We know his real address. We know where he goes to school. We know his friends' names. We didn't call him out publicly. We didn't put his real name out there for obvious reasons. He's a kid, right? We don't want one stupid decision to define somebody. If he ever wants to come throw axes, we'd love to have him back. He's just got to use his real name.   Joel Goldberg: Right, and not be drinking underage.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely, absolutely. He's got to do it the way that we ask him to do it. But we're quick to forgive as well. We'd be honored to have him back.   Joel Goldberg: You guys handled it the right way.   Matt Baysinger: I appreciate it.   Joel Goldberg: You all did. I've grown up too to realize that people will take shots at me on Twitter. You know what? Most of it is just not worth replying to. If it gets personal and there's some kind of danger to my family, then we can block them.   Matt Baysinger: Sure.   Joel Goldberg: Otherwise, mute them. It doesn't matter. I realized one night somebody was walking by our set, and they yell out. It's a group of six or seven people after the game. They were walking through the outfield. The guy yells, "Hey, Goldberg, you suck." Fine. Yeah, maybe. Not everybody's going to like my broadcast style. I totally get that. I just kind of looked at them, and I waved. As he saw me turn, I said, "Hey, what's going on? Thanks for watching." He just kind of turned and hid, and he wouldn't look back.   Matt Baysinger: Yep.   Joel Goldberg: I said, "Come on, I'd love to shake your hand." He just kept on moving.   Matt Baysinger: Sure.   Joel Goldberg: And that right there was Twitter in person.   Matt Baysinger: Absolutely.   Joel Goldberg: That was Yelp in person.   Matt Baysinger: Yep.   Joel Goldberg: Which by the way, there's plenty of positive on there too. It's just so easy, we know this, to hide behind something.   Matt Baysinger: It is.   Joel Goldberg: Okay, third question. What then would be the scouting report of Matt Baysinger, the track athlete, back in the day?   Matt Baysinger: I was a giant 800 meter runner. I probably outweighed both my competitors by 200 pounds, which made it real fun for some of the relay races in particular. I had a pretty decent career. I was seven time all big 12. Got to run on our four by four all four years. For being a walk on at KU, I feel really good. I got to hang out with my old Coach Redwine this weekend. They did this amazing event at KU where they brought in elementary age kids, and so my kindergartner was able to come and learn how to do hurdles and stuff like that. But, KU Redwine's he's one of the best people I ever met in my life, and he gave me an incredible opportunity and taught me well.   Joel Goldberg: All right, final question. The walk off question because we already talked about in general terms at least what is next. So we'll walk off with this. What kind of axe thrower are you?   Matt Baysinger: I'm good enough to beat you.   Joel Goldberg: Okay. You haven't seen me throw yet, but you're probably right.   Matt Baysinger: And I'm willing to find out. There's a lot of folks in this building who would handle me pretty well with an axe, but I can hold my own. I can stick it to the board just about every time. I'm known to lots of fours, just not a lot of bulls eyes. I'd be a good fit for the Royals. I'm not going to hit your home runs, but I'm going to get on the bases.   Joel Goldberg: Lay down a bunt every now and then. Good singles hitter. Opposite field.   Matt Baysinger: Blocking and tackling, you know, do the small things.   Joel Goldberg: Well, the small things are working. They certainly are turning into big things with many more big things to come. Can't wait to find out what this new venture is. I'm pretty sure we'll all hear about it.   Matt Baysinger: We'll invite you out.   Joel Goldberg: Yes, please. So that is when?   Matt Baysinger: We're hoping for quarter one, quarter two of 2020.   Joel Goldberg: Okay. So not too far off.   Matt Baysinger: Nope.   Joel Goldberg: Matt, congratulations on all the success to all of you and I know a lot more good things to come. I appreciate you doing this.   Matt Baysinger: I sure appreciate it.   Joel Goldberg: All right. That is Matt Baysinger. Hope to catch you next time on Rounding the Bases. You can reach me on my website at joelgoldbergmedia.com. Thanks, everyone, for listening.  

It's the holiday season, the days are shorter, and the nights are colder. All this leads many to one destination... the Hallmark channel. While I'm a huge fan of this channel and their original Christmas movies, Hubby is not so fond of them. We both give our point of view of these types of movies, at least from the ones we have watched so far. Things might get a little bit heated!

Hey there solar warriors, I know many of you have been waiting for us to release the episodes recorded LIVE at the Podcast Lounge SPI 2019. We're kicking things off with this dynamic duo, by no means strangers to the renewables industry: Julia Hamm and Abigail Hopper. Together, they run two of the most prominent organizations providing advocacy for the solar and smart-power industries. Julia is the President and CEO of the Smart Electric Power Alliance (SEPA). And, Abby is the President and CEO of the Solar Energy Industries Association (SEIA). While I'm sure many of you, as I, still refer to this tradeshow as SPI, one of the first things we discussed is the rebrand to being North America Smart Energy Week (NASEW). Our conversation was framed by many other questions that perhaps some of you have asked yourselves recently, such as why Salt Lake City for this year's SPI, or how much time they plan in advance to decide venues? Julia and Abby also gave their insights into the expectations for SPI as the largest clean energy show in North America. SPI has definitely evolved over the last decade+, so Julia and Abby took the time to explain why that matters to all of us who have been focused predominantly on solar during that time (Hint: They are taking more market share!) Thanks to SETS, SEIA, and SEPA for hosting the Podcast Lounge Live at SPI, ESI & North America Smart Energy Week (NASEW) 2019. Remember you can always find me on Twitter, LinkedIn or email and you can get the resources and learn more about today’s guest & recommendations on the SunCast Blog. Thanks to our podcast sponsors for continuing to help make this content free to You! IF you have stuck Commercial Solar projects, you really should consider how they can help: Energetic Insurance and Extensible Energy Learn more by clicking on their respective company links.

I'll bet some of my previous podcast guests know a thing or two about past life experiences, but something tells me Dr. Lindsay Weisner was a standup comic in a previous life...or maybe will be in a future one? She had me laughing so much during our interview with her quick wit and impeccable comic timing. You get the full effect when you listen to her and her buddy Sharone in their podcast, "Neurotic Nourishment." (This was her dialing it down on my show!) But, swearing or not, she's got a lot of interesting things to say, so I'm sure when her book comes out, it will be a "must-read". Her perspective on life is simply fascinating. You would think that someone who counsels depressed and suicidal patients would see such a dark side of the world; instead, she shows you that there's always hope and light. There are no illusions here, though-she calls it as she sees it. She told me she likes podcasting because it gives her the chance to meet new people....but this time, the pleasure was all mine. Here's hoping we get to work together again. While I'm still older than her.... Lindsay's info: Podcast-Neurotic Nourishment; Twitter-@PsychShrinkMom; Instagram-@pyschshrinkmom, @neuroticnourishment, #tenstepstofindinghappy Lindsay's faves-Jillian's Podcast, Five Guys, Cultivated Conversations; Cheesecake & Crying, Coffee Meets Vodka Sherpa Suggestions: The Overwhelmed Brain; Happiness Spells; The Science of Happiness' Happiness at Work; Earn Your Happy; Happiness Abound That's it for The Sherpa Sheet this week. I've got interesting shows coming your way. Catch my interview with Brandon, co-host of "10ish" next week. Maybe I'll do a Top 10 for that week...hmmm, how about "Top 10 numbers under 11?" See you then! #VivaLaSherpalution! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jim-the-podcast-sherpa/message

Take a screenshot of your favorite farming song and share it with us.  @farm4profitllc or farm4profitllc@gmail.comhttps://theboot.com/top-country-songs-about-farming/10"She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy"Kenny ChesneyLand-lovin' lyrics: "She thinks my tractor's sexy / It really turns her on / She's always starin' at me / While I'm chuggin' along."Chesney has clearly found the woman who's right for him: She's into farmer's tans, loves John Deere tractors and appreciates well-tilled soil. Hold on tight to that one, sir!9"Farm to Fame"Joey + RoryLand-lovin' lyrics: "He went from rags to riches / Farm to fame / From diggin' ditches / To carving out a name."Technically, this song is about getting away from farm life -- specifically, about a country singer who spent every weekend away from the farm playing gigs until a big shot from Nashville discovered him. Still, the song's lyrics admit that it's often "rags to riches to rags again," so our hero may be trading those gigs for rigs soon.8"Who's Gonna Feed Them Hogs?"Tom T. HallLand-lovin' lyrics: "Four hundred hogs, they just standin' out there / My wife can't feed 'em, and the neighbors don't care / They can't get out and roam like my old huntin' dogs / Here I am in this dang bed, and who's gonna feed them hogs?"Who, indeed. The narrator of this song tells the story of a man who woke up in a hospital bed in a "medicated fog" and is only concerned about who will feed his hogs -- who's going to keep his livelihood alive, really. In the end, the man is miraculously healed and gets back to his farm -- and thank goodness. Four hundred hogs is a lot of potential bacon (figuratively and literally)!7"A Man on a Tractor"Rodney AtkinsLand-lovin' lyrics: "His work was laid out there before him / In rows of green, his whole life was revealed / Oh, what I wouldn't give if I could just live / Like a man on a tractor with a dog in a field."Atkins is singing a classic "the grass is always greener" scenario: He's feeling jealous of a "man on a tractor with a dog in a field," until his wife wisely points out, "There's more than one way" to be that man -- by finding contentment wherever you are.6"Where Corn Don't Grow"Waylon JenningsLand-lovin' lyrics: "But hard times are real / There's dusty fields no matter where you go / You may change your mind / 'Cause the weeds are high where corn don't grow."This song features a conversation between a teen boy and his farmer father. While looking out over the father's fields, the boy asks him if he's ever dreamed of a life "where corn don't grow." At the risk of giving too much away, the teenager soon finds out that there's a lot about life that he doesn't understand.5"Amarillo Sky"Jason AldeanLand-lovin' lyrics: "On his knees every night / He prays, 'Please let my crops and children grow' / 'Cause that's all he's ever known."Farmers are so often at the mercy of the elements: Will there be enough rain? Will a hail storm destroy the crops? This song is about a farmer living through that tension, working hard every day while praying that his "dreams [don't] run dry / Underneath this Amarillo sky."4"Rain Is a Good Thing"Luke BryanLand-lovin' lyrics: "My daddy spent his life lookin' up at the sky / He'd cuss, kick the dust, sayin', 'Son, it's way too dry' / It clouds up in the city, the weatherman complains / But where I come from, rain is a good thing."Bryan is one of country's preeminent farm boys: He grew up on a peanut farm, and he's well-known for his annual Farm Tour. So when he sings that "rain is a good thing," we should probably believe him.3"Last of a Dying Breed"Neal McCoyLand-lovin' lyrics: "With a house on a hill and a pond in the fields / Surrounded by a mess of corn rows / Makes a livin' from his labor / With credit to the Maker / He's somebody everybody knows."This song is the ultimate ode to the farmer, from the "overall wearers, farmer-tan tearers" to the "cake pan lickers, ripe tomato pickers, hay balers loadin' trailers in the fall." However, the tune has a somber undertone, as McCoy worries that these men and women may be the "last of a dying breed" ... but until that time, he's here to celebrate them.2"Farmer's Blues"Merle Haggard and Marty StuartLand-lovin' lyrics: "Who'll buy my wheat? / Who'll buy my corn / To feed my babies when they're born? / Seeds and dirt / A prayer for rain / That, I can use."This classic by Haggard and Stuart doesn't sugarcoat farming life; instead, it focuses on the hard realities of being a farmer, from bad weather to the difficulty of getting a loan to the fear that no one will buy their crops. The song offers no easy answers; it's simply an accurate depiction of the difficulty of farm life.1"Where the Green Grass Grows"Tim McGrawLand-lovin' lyrics: "I'm gonna live where the green grass grows / Watch my corn pop up in rows / Every night be tucked in close to you."This song is a celebration of farm life and love: loving the land, loving your occupation, loving a woman and loving the work of raising corn and babies. Farm life is tough, but a song like this makes it seem worth it.https://www.fastline.com/frontpage/2010/03/31/top-10-songs-about-farming/Milk Cow Blues, Bob Willis and the Texas Playboys version– This one has been done by several artists including The King- Elvis, Willie Nelson, and The King of Country- George Strait.Big Green Tractor, Jason Aldean (Video)- Whether you are a fan of green tractors or not, this is a recent hit that has quickly become a favorite.Down on the Farm, Tim McGraw (Video)- This song has very little to do with actual farming, but the tune is catchy and you kind of can’t help but sing along.Cloud of Dust, Brad Paisley- Farmers probably know better than anyone how important rain is. When there is a lack of rain, times get tough. Hopefully you won’t need it this year, but maybe this song can help you through those times.International Harvester, Craig Morgan (Video)– For all of you that aren’t fans of the big green tractors, maybe this one is more your style?Also reminds us to be friendly to those slow moving farm vehicles.Rain on a Scarecrow, John Mellencamp (Video)- This song details the life of a farmer struggling to just get by and how much things have changed over several generations. , If you haven’t heard it, it’s a must listen.Shadows of a Heartland, Bobby Pinson- A simple song about life in the country and on the farm.Thank God I’m a Country Boy, John Denver (Audio)- We think this one is pretty self explanatory.Daddy Won’t Sell The Farm, Montgomery Gentry- No Matter what, despite the struggles…. Daddy won’t sell the farm.And of course we couldn’t have a farming song list without this one… She Thinks My Tractor’s Sexy, Kenny Chesney

Today on the 5: I picked up the new Hideo Kojima game Death Stranding on release, and I've got a good chunk of time into it now. While I'm far from done with the game, I already can say for certain that I love it and I can understand why many other people will hate it.

I once had a veteran colleague lament about the state of teaching. He meditated, WIth all the that they're making us do, if I was in college today, there's no way I'd major in Education. Apparently, he's not alone in this sentiment. If one searches "Decline in Education Majors", one will find plenty of evidence that many undergrads feel exactly as my colleague expressed. Here's a link to 2019 Forbes article which relies heavily on data from the National Center for Education Statistics. Over the past decade, Education has suffered the largest exodus compared with other majors–a decline of 19%. While I'm sad that declining numbers of young Americans consider teaching a wonderful career path, this phenomenon does create wonderful opportunities for potential teachers. In the future, jobs may be easier to secure. Teacher pay may have to increase because of supply. This episode will feature one of these aspiring teachers–Joce McBurney-Buell.Last summer, I traveled to Muskingum University to meet with the my dear friend the outgoing Department Chair Rae White. In the midst of our day, she invited me to lunch in the gymnasium which was hosting freshmen students who were also being oriented to campus. Rae and I plopped down at a table full of young people to break bread. Seated beside me was a young woman who seemed to know a lot more about Muskingum than an incoming freshman. As you probably guessed, Joce was my table neighbor and was about to embark on her junior year. She was on campus that day to help ease freshmen with their significant transition from home and high school. As we interacted, I was thrilled to learn that Joce is an Education major. As I observed her and interacted with her, it became quickly apparent that this young women had it going on. I just knew–and it's been confirmed by future interactions, that she was destined to present to my Intro to Education students, which she did last week, and appear on my podcast, which is this episode.We'll discuss her goals and motivations, but what really excites me is what Joce represents. Students such as her point to a bright future in American education. The young people that I interact with in the Education major are excited, driven, and passionate about the calling. Don't get too discouraged about the Forbes article. There are some magnificent young teachers on the horizon.

Get started with the Hims complete hair kit for just $5 today right now while supplies last by going to http://forhims.com/gamesdaily. Get 20% off and free shipping with the code GAMES at http://manscaped.com. Tim and Greg run through the top PS4 downloads, and the list might SHOCK you. Seriously. This isn't clickbait. Time Stamps - Housekeeping Thank you to our Patreon Producers: Mathew, Carolina, Black Jack, Zack Parsley, Mohammed Mohammed The Roper Report - 00:03:45 - Top 20 PS4 Downloads of October 00:05:22 - Why did Ubisoft consider the game to be a commercially underperforming in their Q2 earnings call? What do you think were the projections for this game? - Best Friends Qs 00:19:40 - Hold your horses on Halo: TMCC PC, Eddie @ GameSpot 00:26:06 - Playtonic isn’t making another Banjo! 00:29:18 - US Gamers Spend about $30 Billion SO FAR, James Batchelor @ GIB 00:32:40 - Speaking of Sales, GameStop Announces it’s Black Friday hours… 00:34:00 - Orioto makes a game! 00:38:30 - Out today 00:43:20 - Nintendo's 45 minute press conference on super smash Bros new inclusion, Terry Bogard, has come and gone. Overall it was a lot of information and a lot of good additions except for the pointed out exclusion of an SNK heroine, Mai Shiranui. If you do a quick Google search on her she is a scantily dressed heroine who is popular in the SNK/Kingdom of Fighters franchise. While I'm someone who personally isn't close to the SNK franchise do you think this takes away the enjoyment for those who are - Frankfurtter - Best Friends Qs 00:49:47 - HIMS 00:51:22 - MANSCAPED Reader mail - 00:53:20 - Playstation Now seems like a great service and competitor to Game Pass. But, why do they have such quick turnaround for players to play newer games, compared to Xbox? - The Nano Biologist 00:57:20 - Squad Up: Anton from Atlanta(Fortnite and Modern Warfare) - AntonSixxx on everything but PlayStation. PlayStation Anton6xx 00:58:18 - You‘re Wrong Tomorrow’s Hosts:Greg and Imran

While I'm out in Dallas - enjoy my 5 part miniseries built just for y'all while I've got my boots and spurs on at ascp.com/annual! The 5 Types of Mentors You Need Now: 5 Part Miniseries - Part 1 The first type of mentor you need is here! Listen in to find out who. Each day this week I'll roll out another avatar/type of mentor YOU need to have on your Jedi High Council, Board of Advisors, Sage Posse - whatever you call your cadre of mentors!

While I'm away, here's an adventure at Disneyland with Lost Boy Jesse!

This episode goes a little longer than normal as it approaches a full hour in duration, so apologies out of the gate, but we get to hear from one of my very favorite trios at Tridiuum. While I'm typically reticent to boast, these three people routinely amaze me in how they ideate, design, architect, and build world class digital behavioral health products used by patients, providers, caregivers, and health system executives every single day. Some quick stats on the scale and impact of the products created by this Product and Engineering trinity: 780,000 daily page views of the Tridiuum1 Platform; 7,000 unique patients supported in active treatment daily; 3,000 unique clinical providers delivering care to those patients; improvement among patients at twice the rate of those receiving traditional behavioral health interventions; and finally, when compared to the gold standard in U.S. health care today, a reduction of 70% of the time it takes patients to see a provider for their first appointment. And the accomplishments really can go on and on, as well as the stats. We thought that today's episode could help anyone investing in, working on, or implementing digital health products. While it is sometimes true that lightning strikes and a special team forms around a unique mission, these three continue to work at the relationship a lot and that in turn has helped to bring some extraordinary products to market.

Can't Get Anything Done? How to Get Rid of Brain Fog with Your Smartphone! (Narcissistic Relationship Recovery Tips) - Get your free copy of CodyCross Here: https://go.onelink.me/JHRu/CodyCrossAngieAtkinsonyoutube 7 Ways Your Smartphone Can Help You Get Rid of Brain Fog (How to Get Rid of Brain Fog) My Pillow: https://amzn.to/2VfhISm My Weighted Blanket: https://amzn.to/2oPAq6Z My Fitbit: https://amzn.to/2AHZuj4 My sparkly Fitbit band: https://amzn.to/35ciqnQ If you have CPTSD, chronic fatigue syndrome or any number of other physical and mental complications from a toxic relationship, you might be asking yourself, "How do I get rid of brain fog?" or wondering how to get rid of brain fog instantly? Have you wished you could get rid of brain fog quickly? While I'm not here to offer brain fog treatment, I do have some really helpful brain fog remedies in the form of smartphone apps! Have you ever felt kind of cloudy and sort of like your brain just wasn’t functioning as well as usual? Or like you’re not really “here,” maybe like you’re sort of in a bubble or watching your life happen like a movie? Like you’re a spectator rather than a participant? If so, you might be dealing with brain fog. And, if you’ve survived toxic relationships, the chances that you’ve dealt with it are pretty high. In fact, one complaint I hear from many of my clients is that they struggle with "brain fog." Many people develop C-PTSD as a result of toxic relationships with narcissists – and brain fog is one of several common symptoms. Brain fog or mental fog is a common issue for people who have survived toxic relationships with narcissists. Brain fog is officially defined as a clouding of your consciousness – or in layman’s terms, we could define it as not being able to think clearly or not being able to do simple tasks. It can also affect memory or the ability to work. The term is even used among physicians and psychiatrists to indicate that there's an abnormality in the regulation of someone’s overall level of consciousness that is mild and less severe than a delirium. Many survivors describe a subjective sensation of mental clouding described as feeling sort of foggy, or like they're watching their lives happen from a distance. Today at QueenBeeing.com, we’re talking about why you have brain fog and some surprising tools and techniques you can use to clear it up quickly and painlessly – all with the use of your smartphone. Discover. Understand. Overcome. It's how smart people change their lives! Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AuthorAngelaAtkinson?sub_confirmation=1 **NEW!! Become a member of my channel! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBnyC5I55W__RBj1PMybF5g/join *****Closed captioning provided by Athena Moberg and CPTSDFoundation.org, providing Daily Recovery Support™ to survivors and practitioners through trauma-informed education, resources, and daily calls, led with compassion that can only come from those who have experienced first hand how trauma can poison every aspect of your life and health. ******* On this channel, I help you discover, understand and overcome narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships. I like to call it toxic relationship rehab. If that sounds good to you, hit that subscribe button. **LIVE EVERY TUESDAY! Never miss a live session! Just text "AngieLive" (no spaces) to 33222 and I'll send you a text each time I get ready to go live! Schedule a coaching appointment with me at http://narcissisticabuserecovery.online Learn more at http://queenbeeing.com. Get my books at http://booksangiewrote.com, schedule a coaching appointment and/or pick up your free 7-day fear-busting email course (specially designed for narcissistic abuse survivors) at http://narcissismsupportcoach.com. Join SPAN (Support for People Affected by Narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships) - AKA "The SPANily" - at http://queenbeeing.com/group-support. Let's Also Connect On: Facebook at https://facebook.com/coachangieatkinson. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachangieatkinson/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/angyatkinson/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/angieatkinson #toxicrelationshiprehab #sponsored #healing Full disclosure: Angie Atkinson follows all FTC guidelines with regard to sponsored videos, sponsored posts, paid product placement and affiliate sales. Any and all links on this channel may be monetized. All links to Amazon.com may be affiliate links and Angie may earn a small commission on these links. This helps us keep up with site costs and to continue to create free content for our fellow survivors of narcissistic abuse. Thank you for your support. Please note: We may also accept paid sponsorships from individual companies and paid posts. When this happens, we will clearly mark the posts, videos or product placements as sponsored.Subscribe to Narcissistic Abuse Recovery with Angie Atkinson on Soundwise

While I'm busy preparing to move, here's some audio from Lost Boy Eric!

If you ever find yourself feeling too busy, too overwhelmed, or too burdened with to dos and it's standing in the way of you packaging your genius and making the impact you're meant to make on this world, you need to generate a surplus. And while it seems counterintuitive, much of that surplus can be connected to making more time (I know, I know -  you're already stretched thin) for yourself. But this is a personal experiment I've been conducting in my life, and the results have been priceless. Since implementing a more intentional and daily self balancing routine I have experienced: more clarity on my business challenges clarity on what is standing in my way personally motivation to push through on hard things patience and grace with myself perspective - understanding when I'm assigning too much or too little significance to something a higher tolerance for stress resilience If you're too busy to package your genius, putting yourself back on the calendar is a practice I encourage you to try. Get yourself back on the agenda so you can generate the surplus from which you can serve. Because you can only give from your overflow. *** If you've been thinking about joining us for the fall cohort of Package Your Genius Academy, this is the last week to apply. Sessions start Tuesday, October 8. While I'm clear on how I want to serve (as one who helps others find and get back on their true path) I thought about a few of the people who have benefited most from going through the program and my teachings. Do any of these people sound like you? Are you at a crossroads professionally and personally - perhaps you've hit a milestone birthday and you're pondering the bigger questions of your life like "Is this what I want to be doing with my gifts and talents? Is there another professional path for me? Am I showing up the way I truly want to, or am I showing up as others have always expected me to?" Do you know in your gut that the current stage of your professional journey is over, but you haven't figured out how to activate your next chapter? Do you feel like something is just...off? You're a success on paper, but you've yet to knock it out of the park doing what you really want to do? You feel like something is missing - the right message, the right market, the right formula to serve - but you're just too close to see the missing piece... Did you recently leave your job or find yourself on leave wondering what's next? You're a little nervous about making a financial commitment because the future of money is uncertain, but there's something telling you it's time to take a leap? Are you at a plateau having done all you know to do to make yourself stand out? You know you've got the goods but the world doesn't see you or your accomplishments clearly? (You know this because your compensation and industry acknowledgement don't match the time and work you've put in up to this point...) Do you live with the daily regret of not betting on yourself sooner? Are you secretly worried that perhaps you missed your moment and it's too late for you to leap? If any of those scenarios resonated with you, I'm here. Here to help you cut through the overgrowth and get back on the path again. And trust me, the path may look overgrown and indistinguishable right now, but I promise you, it's there. And I can help you find it.   It's the LAST WEEK to apply for Package Your Genius Academy. We are enrolling students for the fall cohort that begins Tuesday, October 8. Doors won't open again until sometime in 2020. If you're interested in joining us, learn more and apply now.

Have you ever gotten anxiety about everyday situations? While I'm normally pretty laid-back, we look at three situations in my life that cause me to get nervous and anxious.You can contact the show at uselessthoughtspodcast@gmail.com

While I'm gone... House guest complaints. Avocado Toast ice cream. A visit with Area Man about paint jobs, Marconi Awards, and Downton Abbey. Emmy's recap. Adult trick-or-treating. Swipe Night. Things that are 20 years-old. Fight the flu.

While I'm a huge fan of doing mindset work and learning new things, the real magick happens through doing and taking action! JOIN The Witch Revolution: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewitchrevolution This Friday, over in the Witch Revolution group, I'm hosting a live stream party and giving away 3 FREE private intuitive readings.  The theme of the party is How to Manifest Your Witchy Biz and I'll be sharing the exact steps I'd take if I were to start over from scratch and grow my business from $0-Full Time $$!  To enter the draw for your chance to win a reading, just share the Witch Revolution group on your Facebook page and tag me in the post. DATE + TIME: Friday, September 20th at 2:00pm (ET)    

For rewards and podcast extras, become a patron! Hamilton, Colin and I recorded this mind meld at Blue Morpho's retreat in the Peruvian rainforest five days into our Ayahuasca adventure. Needless to say, our minds were a bit blown. Honestly, I'm still reassembling the pieces of mine. While I'm figuring out how to English it, I hope you enjoy this especially sparkly mind meld.  Master shaman Hamilton Souther spent over a decade living in the rainforests of Peru studying the way of the shaman. He’s the founder of Blue Morpho Tours, an Ayahuasca-based Peruvian retreat. Colin Frangicetto is an artist and musician best known for playing in the band Circa Survive.  For a full write-up and more pop over to THIRDEYEDROPS.com   Give us a holographic hug by leaving us a 5 star review on iTunes!

If you think you're suffering with anxiety or depression, speak to your GP, and if you need support visit Beyond Blue Thou Shalt Remember, that it's okay not to be okay You guys know that I'm not one to shy away from conversation. I could literally talk until the cows came home... and I could keep talking until they'd eaten dinner, had a shower and tucked themseleves into their little cow beds. While I'm more than happy to lead the banter brigade with stories about boys, break-ups and bad decisions, I have been known to shy away from tough conversations. I can't help it, I'm a Libra, I was astrologically wired that way. But today, I'm going to be brave enough to start a conversation that truly matters... Follow Phoebe on Instagram @phoebeacp or join the Train Wreck Podcast Community Facebook group. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

New and even experienced investors often seek out a physical or mental checklist of things they must do. Learn this, research that, execute this. While I'm a firm believer in checklists, it's often what is not on those checklists that is so crucial to your business. In fact, there is one generalization I think we can all agree on when it comes to what will hurt you. We discuss that in today's episode and hopefully you'll understand the importance of always keeping it in mind! ⬇️ Helpful Resources ⬇️ Join The Tax Sale Academy here: http://TaxSaleAcademy.com/join State Guide: http://TaxSaleAcademy.com/state-guide Get your FREE copy of Tax Sale Playbook by going to: http://TaxSaleAcademy.com Listen to podcasts? Take us on the go at http://TaxSalePodcast.com ------------------------------ Let's Connect! http://CaseyDenman.com Connect on LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/caseydenman/ Follow us on Facebook: http://Facebook.com/TheTaxSaleAcademy Follow Me on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/caseydenman