Abandon Ordinary

Today's a special day because it's the very last Monday of 2021. Now, I know that might sound crazy since traditional calendars say it's 2022, but hear me out. Energetically, 2022 doesn't actually start until tomorrow. So, if you've been feeling like things are still dragging out and haven't shifted for you yet, that's okay. And, that's exactly why I'm glad you're here with me today. In this episode, I share why I want you to get really clear today about what you want to be feeling in 2022, what I want you to do for the rest of this first energetic week of 2022, why you need to evaluate if you're putting out too much of your energy, an exercise I want you to do to help determine if you're putting out more energy than you're receiving, what you can do to correct things if you are putting out too much energy, what my journey of bringing my energy back inside of me means for this podcast, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Welcome back to the Abandon Ordinary studio! We made it through the holiday season, and I want to be clear the holiday season is just that. It's a season created by us to celebrate whichever holiday it is we celebrate. It's also a time when we are encouraged to unplug ourselves from everything that we busied ourselves with throughout the year. In this episode, I share why the end of the holiday season doesn't actually mark the beginning of a new year, why the Chinese New Year isn't on the same date each year, why it's important to understand the Chinese New Year even if you don't celebrate it, when the energetic new year begins, the exercise I want you to do that will help you become the person you want to be, why you shouldn't expect to become that person by the end of January, the workshop I'm hosting this weekend that can help you get clear on what you desire out of the coming year, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Welcome to the last episode of 2021. As we head into the eve of the holiday season, I want you to think about how you're going to commit yourself to resting over the next several weeks. In this episode, I share why I don't want you to just rest over the next two weeks, what my intuition is telling me about 2022, why I want you to abandon your ordinary routine during this period of rest, the visualization exercise I want you to perform, how I'm choosing to rest over the next several weeks, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.    

If you could have seen me as I recorded this episode, you would have known that I did it with rollers in my hair while wearing my silk robe. I was in the middle of getting ready to attend an event and it inspired me. So, I knew I had to drop everything and talk to you about manifesting. In this episode, I shared more about the event I attended and why it sparked the idea for this episode, what my baseline financial goal is for 2022 and why I don't have a plan to meet it, what I do have instead of a plan, what rapid manifestation looks like, the new manifestation deck and journal I created to help you spend a little time each day focusing on what you truly want, how focusing on what we want can help us to collectively shift ourselves to great heights, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I post a recently from a beautiful Caribbean woman and she said that your business will never be a business if you refer to it as a side hustle. Her post made a lot of sense to me, and it made me think about how that form of thinking shows up in other areas of our life. So, in this episode, I'm diving into the common areas where this type of thinking can happen, how in the Black culture we refer to things as “little” and why that's disrespectful to others, how this way of looking at things and minimizing their importance is preventing us from getting the things we really want, why it's so easy for us to diminish our desires and efforts, the thought exercise I want you to do after listening to this episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I hope we all took some time over the first holiday break of the season to take care of ourselves and spend time with people we care about. I also hope we took time to acknowledge what it is that we're thankful for about ourselves. It's that idea that I want to dive deeper into today. In this episode, I share how this topic was inspired by the most recent episode of the Ladies First Chit-Chat Crew and a recent conversation with a potential client, the questions I want you to ask yourself around this topic, examples of things you could thank yourself for, why it's vital to actually show yourself you're thankful for yourself, what it means when you can't thank yourself for most of the things you do each day, the homework I want you to start doing after you listen to this episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

There's plenty for us to talk about today, but there's one thing in particular I think we should be paying attention to; especially as we roll into the holiday season. That thing is our need for other people to understand us. In this episode, I share what recent event sparked this topic idea, why it's not your mission to make sure the people around you “get it”, how it's okay for the people around to be comfortable with the person you've evolved into, why you can't try to force them to become comfortable with it, the exercises I want you to perform after listening to this episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

This week, I want to talk about what place we are in our lives and whether we're prepared to receive what we want. In this episode, I share how a recent conversation inspired this episode, how our intimate relationships can teach us what we need and what we won't tolerate in future relationships, the importance of being honest about if you're truly the person you need to be to receive the things you want in your relationships, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

The last two weeks we talked about changing the soil you're rooted in. This week, we're talking about how gratitude is fuel, what inspired me to share this idea with you, how gratitude and help you find new soil to plant yourself in, the two ways you need to be in gratitude, the phrase I want to start saying instead of saying “I can't”, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

If you joined me in last week's episode, you know that I talked about moving my roots into new soil. Now, I'm so excited to be sharing with you my first revelations as I'm settling into my new soil. In this episode, I share a recap of my recent move into new soil, how I was previously moving at a pace I wasn't aware of, how my new environment is helping me to set a new pace of exploration, why we should be traveling at home, the importance of rooting yourself in soil that will nourish you, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

At the time that I recorded this episode, I was less than 24 hours away from moving to a new state and I wanted to talk to you about what kind of significance this holds for me. In this episode, I share how making one change can a ripple effect in your life, how the building in New York City that I've lived in since I was five years old became my foundation, the importance of understanding what/where your foundation is, what you need to ask yourself if your foundation is rooted in a person, what you need to ask yourself about the routines and spaces in your life, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Now that we're more than halfway into October, it's time to start thinking about the upcoming winter and holiday seasons because there's a lot to be said about our moods, emotions, and expectations during that time of the year. In this episode, I share why it's important to think about these things now rather than waiting until we're already in the winter and holiday seasons, why these seasons are so challenging for us emotionally, and some things we can do to make this time more enjoyable and less stressful.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

We need to talk about us giving our energy to things that don't feel good to use either at all or anymore. That's why, in this episode, I share how this issue presents itself time and again with my clients, how these “things” are frequently people, how we struggle to let our friendship end even when they need to, the five questions I want you to ask yourself to determine if a person or circumstance is something you should be giving your energy to, guidance on how to stop giving your energy to a person or circumstance that is no longer serving you, the importance of understanding that your feelings are no less important than the feelings of others, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

A lot of times we have feelings for certain things that we fight, like our feelings towards certain people or foods. But we also sometimes fight against what it is we truly desire and that's what we need to talk about. In this episode, I share an example of a time when my soul dialed in what called to me, how you shouldn't doubt any message you get from your soul, how external sources aid our mind in fighting soul messages, the statements that will help you figure out what's your brain's telling that you need to ignore or highly scrutinize, the statements that will help you understand what your soul is telling you, what I want to do start doing after listening to this episode, guidance on what to do if your soul is telling your something you're afraid or hesitant to act on, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I'm back for another week of talking about what holds us back and this week I want to focus on obsession. In this episode, I share how being “obsessed” with something isn't just a cute way to say you really like something, the meaning of obsession, why obsession is another way to say you're stuck, the three questions I want you to ask yourself about your obsession to know if you have some work to do, tips for releasing your obsession, the exercise I want you to perform as you go into this coming week, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Welcome back! It's been about six weeks since we were last together, and there are some things I want to do to help us get back on track with figuring out all the ways we can abandon what is ordinary in our lives. In this episode, I share details about the mini-sabbatical I took while we were apart and what I discovered during that time, how changing your environment can help you learn about your energy, how forgetting to change our environments as we change over time leads to us being stuck in ordinary situations, the importance of taking all your relationships outside of “home base” to see if they're still supporting you, why you need to let go of trying to control everything about your environment, and more!   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

We've reached the final episode before I take a six-week hiatus. I've decided to take this hiatus in order to allow the universe to support me in focusing my time and energy on some other projects during the hiatus. And that, of course, brings to the topic of this week's episode … allowing what you've asked for to materialize in your life. In this episode, I share why I hope you take my lead in how I'm avoiding burnout, a quick recap of episodes 33 and 34, a perfect example of how we get in our way when it's time to allow something in our lives, the question I want you to ponder after listening to this episode, some new details about the Manifest Me program I'm using my hiatus to develop, why you need to occasional revitalize your vision of what you want, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

In last week's episode, we talked about making room for everything you want in your life. And, now that you've made the space for what you want, it's time to talk about attracting it. In this episode, I share how we spend more time searching for the things we want rather than attracting it to us, how all the searching actually prevents us from attracting our desires, and the things you need to do instead in order to attract the things you want in the future. I also provide an update on my upcoming program that I will be developing while the podcast goes on hiatus after episode 35 is released.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I've decided that after releasing episode 35 of the Abandon Ordinary podcast, I'll be taking a 6-week hiatus from the show in order to focus on creator my new 9-week membership program called Master Manifestors Club. In this episode, I share what a master manifester is, three things a master manifestor does that allows them to manifest what they desire at all times, the things that typically prevent people from doing these things, and more. Don't forget to come back next week where I'm going to talk about how master manifestors actually attract what it is they desire.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

A recent conversation with a friend helped me realize we, especially women, waste too much time explaining ourselves and I knew I had to bring this topic to the podcast. In this episode, I share what it was about that conversation that sparked this realization, the difference between men and women when it comes to explaining ourselves, why explaining ourselves is a waste of time, an exercise I want you to do while listening to this episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Happy Belated Independence Day! How are you feeling about your independence? Are you feeling as independent as you'd like to feel? Are you feeling too independent? These are the questions we're talking about today. In this episode, I share why we do need to be independent when it comes to certain things, how society might be pushing some women to be too independent, why it's important to acknowledge the times we don't want to do something independently, how some women wear independence like a shield or badge of honor, why we need to stop reflexively saying no when others offer to help us, the two things I want you to do this coming week, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

It's summertime here in the U.S. and that means flowers are blooming, animals are scurrying about, and Mother Nature is buzzing with life and energy. But, what about you? What makes you buzz with that kind of energy and are you doing enough of that thing? In this episode, I dive more into the idea of doing things that make you buzz, why we need to take advantage when the world is buzzing with energy, what makes me buzz, the question I want you to ask yourself after you figure out what makes you buzz, how your buzz list can be a powerful tool in handling bad news or negative experiences, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

In my most recent Vision Board Masterclass, we talked about shame and guilt. It was a theme amongst the attendees that they're in a place of transition where they're thinking about themselves first and how that's causing them to feel guilty and shameful. That cannot be my friends and I thought it best to bring this topic over to the Abandon Ordinary podcast in case you're experiencing these feelings as well. In this episode, I share why we need to put ourselves first in order to serve others best, where this shame and guilt comes from, an example of how this is playing out for one of my clients who's become the go-to person in her family for practically everything, why you can't put things on your vision board that include how other people act and feel, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I was looking at my vision board recently and I realized that I have a lot of photos of people and family in groups and at gatherings. This realization is the inspiration for today's chat. In this episode, I share how we sometimes easily let our family be broken up, what I mean when I refer to our “families”, why our capacity for checking in on our family have diminished, why we need to show grace to people who might not be showing up for us in the way we expect, the steps I want you to take after listening to this episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

If I were to tell you that I want you to start looking at yourself with intense beauty, would think that was strange or confusing? If so, don't worry because that's exactly what I'm breaking down for you today. In this episode, I share how it can be challenging to authentically and holistically show up as ourselves if there are things about ourselves we don't like, the lessons I learned after looking at my thighs with intense beauty, what I mean when I say to look at yourself with intense beauty, how looking at ourselves with intense beauty will help improve how we treat others as human beings, why it's important to start with focusing on just looking at one part of your body with intense beauty, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I recorded this episode early in the morning because I had lots of things to harvest that day. Luckily, that's the exact topic I want to discuss with you today. In this episode, I share how we tend to overlook the importance of focusing on our best planting seasons and instead plant all the time, what it means when we're always planting seeds, examples of the types of seeds we're planting every single day, an exercise I want you to do to help you better understand the seeds you're planting, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I hope you're open to the topic of this episode because I want to talk about … space travel. Don't worry. I don't mean actual space travel. I'm talking about traveling to find your space. In this episode, I share how I've found that often-times people inaccurately believe travel isn't accessible to them, the truth behind the limiting belief that you don't have the time or money to travel, why it's so important that you shift your environment every so often, the power of traveling to a space that isn't anxiety-inducing, how you can start space-traveling without physically leaving your home, the challenge I have for all of us, what I want you to do in the next ten days, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Where do you feel like your thoughts, ideas, and feelings are being heard? Is it here in the Abandon Ordinary space? I hope so, because the more of us who can be heard and figure out what we want, the happier and healthier we'll all be. In this episode, I share what I mean when I saw where can you be heard and how it's not necessarily in the physical sense, how we're putting pressure on ourselves to show up in the world in a certain way, what we need to do before we show up in the world, the spaces where I'm able to hear myself, how practically having never lived alone gave me plenty of experience with how to a quiet space to hear myself, what happens if we hear everyone else before we hear ourselves, how asking yourself what you're doing too much of can help you find the time to hear yourself, what I what you to spend the next week doing, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Recently I had a conversation with one of my sisters about how we make decisions and it stemmed from a reading I had done with a profit named Tasha where she confirmed that my life has worked out in all the wonderful ways it has because I'm an intuitive person who uses my instincts as a guide. It's with that in mind that I share today's message with you. In this episode, I share how your gut is the vacation home of your soul, why you can never be sure you're making the right decision if you don't act from your gut first, the process I use to make all my successful decisions, how you can practice paying attention to your gut, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I was raised by an incredible man, Sam Wooten, and a few weeks ago was the anniversary of his passing. What's interesting about this is that, while it's been 30 years since he passed, it feels like he's still here with me and I know that he is still helping me and sending me messages. In fact, he sent me a message on this most recent anniversary and that's what I want to share with you today. In this episode, I share how my father's message to me is connected to comedian George Carlin, how George's idea of a “next lifetime” is like living your life in reverse, why you don't have to wait until your next lifetime to take advantage of the benefits of this concept, how the gift of waking up each day is really the gift of getting to do something with that day, how gratitude is the key to having that next lifetime experience right now, how the peanut gallery can throw us off our square if we let them, and the commitment I want us to make to each other.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Take my plate love … because I already ate love. I don't remember where I first heard that line, but I do remember that my skin just lit up with energy when I did. I felt the line deep in my soul and I want to share more about that with you today. In this episode, I break down the different ways to interpret both parts of the statement, what the statement means for me personally, what I hope this statement can mean for you, how the meaning behind this statement could literally change life as we know if we collectively embraced it, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

As we come around the bend of this first month of spring, there are many things to think about, reflect on, and make decisions about. It's that decision-making piece we need to discuss. In this episode, I share why looking through the rear-view mirror when making decisions will most certainly make you crash, whether it's okay to take an occasional glimpse into the past, where and you should be looking instead as you make decisions.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I've been noticing that a lot of people are cleansing their social media pages. Some people are taking their social media postings down, or are going through who they follow and assessing things. This is a very healthy thing to do. Everything that we sign up for and every relationship we commit to isn't necessarily going to remain the greatest experience for us over time. In this episode, I explain why I highly recommend that we all take some time to flush out our social media pages, work on making sure what we see on our timeline brings us joy, and that what comes through our screen are messages we want to hear.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

The world is starting to open back up again, and I'm noticing in my coaching practice that it's causing some anxiety. People are feeling vulnerable because we were in our little pea pods and had a lot of time with ourselves. We discovered things about ourselves over the last 12-15 months that others didn't know about us. In this episode, I go over how to make sure that we aren't returning to the world at large holding onto what the world knew about us then, showing up as who we are now in a vulnerable way, and serving your authentic self to others in order to receive everything you want.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I want to talk to you this week about who we are in our relationships. Our energy tends to be focused on what we don't want people to perceive about us. We keep inventory of what's allowed to be displayed and what's not, steering our relationships based on what we want people to see us as. In this episode, I challenge you to think about the traits and qualities that you don't want other people to see, identify what they are, and then work on what walls you are going to take down so that people can really see and accept you for you are.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Here in the United States, spring is in the air. I'm starting to see a bit of rebirth in nature, and it got me thinking about what each of our individual strengths are. This then reminded that I took a strengths assessment about a year ago and now I want to share the benefits of understanding and springing into your own strengths. In this episode, I share what a strengths assessment can tell you about yourself, why springtime is perfect for reassessing our strengths, my top five strengths, my least dominant traits and why I found value in knowing what they are, how know your strengths is the first step towards personal internal acceptance, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Something came to me in a dream recently, and I knew I had to talk about what I learned from it on this podcast. What traits do you have that you are working to hide? It's important to accept all the pieces of who you are, even if your traits have been identified by society as unwanted. In this episode, I dive deep into why it's important to pay attention to those traits, bring them out to yourself, get to know them, fix the ones you're uncomfortable with, and then use them in a way that serves you well.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I want to talk to you today about a conversation that took place a few weeks ago during a Facebook Live with my girls from The Ladies First Chit Chat Crew. We had a guest on who shared a lot about her health and fitness journey. When this led to a discussion about cheating yourself to treat yourself, I knew I needed to also address this here on the podcast. In this episode, I share the powerful details of that conversation, how my niece recently sought my support to help her not cheat herself with a man treat, the everyday challenges and achievements that lead you to treat yourself, what I want you to do in the coming week, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I was giving some thought recently to how I focus and pay attention to things and that made me think about our life stories.   Is your story about what you're asking for? Or is your story about what you expect to happen? In this episode, I share a conversation I had with a former graduate student of mine that helped me shift my own perceptions about the stories I tell myself and I challenge you to ask yourself who is writing your story, if the story you're writing for yourself is productive and supportive of what you want to be doing with your time, what your expectations are, and if writing your story based on your environment and what you've seen happen before, or if you're writing your story based on what you truly want and desire.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Steffanie R. Lopes is a long-time dance educator, performer, dancer, singer, actor, and writer who is moving toward a full-time professional performing career. She and I met because she taught my children in middle school back in New York City. When I spoke to Steffanie, I immediately saw a very powerful woman who was like a mother to my kids when they were at school. Steffanie came to one of my vision board workshops and figured out that she needed to start amping up her vision board after everything was manifesting for her and then just stopped. I can't wait to for you to hear her story because she's living proof of the power of vision boards! In this episode, Steffanie shares how the building she was working in was practically telling her that it was time to move on, the importance of stepping out on faith, making mental health a priority, paying attention to the signs that the universe is sending you, and the difference between putting pictures of the things that you want vs. the things that you've already achieved on your vision board.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I recently saw a video on Instagram that inspired me to bring this topic to you today. He was talking about the sunk cost fallacy and, while it's something I live my entire life by, I've actually seen it be given a name. So, in this episode, I explain what the sunk cost fallacy is, how sunk costs relate to quitting, why I hope you're a quitter, how we've been conditioned to do work we don't love, my tips for how to incorporate more of what you love into your life while you're in the process of quitting the thing you don't love, an example of a friend of mine who had her needs met by universe during a COVID-19 quarantine that turned out to a blessing, and more!   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Samantha Smith is an HR professional who has always been the listener and go-to person in her circle for all things career. She has the ability to listen to a situation and create an action plan that will evoke a positive change to the narrative. She uses her skills, education, and experience to empower people to visualize, and actualize the career of their dreams. She also holds a master's degree in Human Resources, with over 15 years of experience in the field. Sam and I met a few years and I knew I needed to bring her on the show because she is the living manifestation of the power of vision boards. In this episode, Sam shares how attending one of my vision board presentations literally changed her life, the things she realized she was doing incorrectly for years on her previous vision boards, the importance of centering your vision board around feelings instead of words, the story of how she manifested her dream job and in a dream location during a pandemic after making some changes to her vision board, and more!   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

It's the first of the month and there's some things we need to discuss. Surprise, surprise … it's related to your vision. A recent conversation with a client where I discovered a major flaw in her vision board inspired the topic of this episode because she isn't the first person I've known to make this mistake. In this episode, I share the contents of that conversation and the flaw with her vision board, how our vibration factors into getting what we desire, why joy should factor into your vision board, the exercise I want you to practice after you create your vision board to see if you need to make any tweaks, the question you need to ask yourself if you're feeling resistant to the idea of vision boards, the details of the powerful resource I'm offering in just two weeks that will you avoid vision board flaws like the one I'm discussing today, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

We've got a lot to discuss, but today we're only focusing on one thing … looking for what you want and deserve from other people and in other places. In this episode, I share why we can't accept love and appreciation from others before we love and appreciate ourselves, how we teach others how to treat us and show up for us, why it's crucial you don't diminish what's truly important to you, how focusing on yourself doesn't make you a terrible person, an exercise that will help you figure out how to focus more on yourself, how a vision board can help you keep your priorities top of mind, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I saw something this week that made me want to immediately record this episode for you. So, in this inspired episode, I share what it was that I saw, how saying yes is a choice, how making the choice to say yes can raise our energy and restricting ourselves can do the opposite, how everything in life is abundant, examples of scarcity messages we're receiving and telling ourselves, why scarcity is foolish and an illusion, why feeling your desires is so much more powerful than planning how to achieve them, what I want you to do in the coming week to bring abundance towards you, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

I recently received a message from a lovely young lady who's taken my vision board classes about a ritual she does at the end of every year to let go of things for the new year. She wondered whether or not she should do anything differently during this ritual because she noticed it doesn't always work. In this episode, I share what that ritual is, why rituals like this will actually give us the opposite of what we want, what “love lists” are and why I want you to start writing them, how we've been conditioned to focus on the negatives, the difference between attention and intention, how we should handle negative experiences so we don't continue attracting more negative experiences to us,  the exercise I want you to complete in the coming week, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

We just turned the clock on a new calendar year and that means there's a lot of expectations floating around out there about what's to come in 2021. It's those expectations we're talking about today. In this episode, I share what 2020 taught us about expectations, how the disappointment of failed expectations prevents us from taking appropriate action in the moment, the micro-traumas that result from the disappointment we feel when others fail to meet our expectations and the anxiety we feel when we fail to meet the expectations of others, how holding expectations exhausts your energy, how to shift your energy away from expectations in 2021, two exercises I want you to do during and after this episode to help you with your expectations for this year, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

It's the final Monday of the year! Actually, it's the final Monday THE year. The most confusing, unsteady, creative, unprecedented, mind-blowing year of our lifetime. In this final episode of 2020, I share how there's strength in numbers when it comes to raising our collective vibration, why I believe our experiences this year go beyond just the pandemic, the collective positives that happened as a result of the events this, why I'm personally grateful for the experiences of 2020, the one thing I want you to think about during this last week of the year, what I discovered about myself this year, what I what you to do to prepare for the next era of your life, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

We've got to talk … and what we've got to talk about is talking. Thanks to some recent conversations and even some stuff that I've been dealing with, I'm realizing that we're not really talking about our wants and our desires. We're all trying to Abandon Ordinary and get to that extraordinary life, but we can't do that if we don't understand our desires and then effectively communicate them to others. In this episode, I share why it's so difficult for us to declare our desires, why it's important to publicly declare our desires and not keep them hidden from others, an example of how I wasn't getting what I needed from a relationship simply because I didn't communicate my needs, my advice for how to respond when an interaction with someone hurts your feelings or makes you feel a way you don't want to feel, the action I want you to take after listening to this episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

This week, I'm digging into something I've been talking a lot about lately and that's how we censor our desires. We give up our energy and time to meet the needs of others before we ever give ourselves the energy and focus to meet our own needs and this is a major problem. We can't live our best lives if we're constantly living for others. In this episode, I share how putting the needs of others before your own can destroy you, why it's crucial to spend time figuring out what you want, why you need to give others from the overflow of your own cup rather than the cup itself, an example of how a client is putting the needs of her mother before the needs of herself and why we're working on helping her say no more often, how a vision board helps you keep your focus on your priorities, how a vision board and Pinterest are different, an exercise to help you begin tapping into your desires that involves asking yourself a few simple questions, the action I want you to take in preparation for next week's episode, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.

Some recent deep conversations inspired me to talk about the topic of letting go in this first official episode of the Abandon Ordinary podcast. Now, this won't be your typical letting go discussion. I don't want to talk about how you let go of things, get rid of things out of your life, blah, blah, blah. Instead, let's talk about how we fill the space that we create by letting things go. In this episode, I share what happens when you don't fill up the space created but letting something go, why it's important to focus on what we do want rather than what we don't want (especially in relationships), how to let go of a friendship that is no longer serving you, how I stopped a friend in mid-conversation to help him shift his thinking about letting go of a business partnership, why you should write down the things you want, and more.   To get more information on things mentioned in today's episode, visit La Shell's show notes. Want to build your tribe filled with good vibes, genuine encouragement and tools for manifesting an outlandishly, amazing life? Join the Abandon Ordinary Facebook family. Bring your life questions to the show and let La Shell help you get moving now. Email La Shell here.