It's Her Turn

What do you do for work? Ah, the question we likely get asked wherever we go, especially in the networking world. Whether we like it or not, work is such a big part of our lives. Whatever or however you define it, work is something in which we end up spending a ton of our time and energy. But my question for you is, do you like your work? Does it light you up? Is it aligned with your values? Do you feel like you are on purpose? In this episode, I am talking to my real life accountability buddy, corporate maven and career coach Lynn Mull. Lynn has an extensive career in the corporate finance world where she has been a badass paving a path for authenticity, connection and mindfulness to coexist in those spaces. When you listen to her talk, you can hear immediately her unwavering passion for career coaching and mentoring. Lynn and I talk all about the connection point in our careers and my personally least favorite thing: networking. She shares really tangible tools you can start using right away to start redefining networking so it works for you. Lynn also shares a ton of actionable takeaways to help you start thinking about your work in a whole new way. Whether you are looking to pivot, uplevel, lead or change completely-Lynn is your go to for all things career focused and has created the true connection between you and your purpose.

Never have a I ever thought I would be so comfortable and confident speaking in front of others. The truth is, I wasn’t always comfortable on a stage with a mic...let alone speaking in front of people in general Actually, I would avoid it at all costs. I would get so nervous that my hands and voice would visibly shake. The insecurity, uncertainty and disconnection within flowed out of me in situations like this {it was messy} But the more connection work I did -aka: knowing myself, trusting myself and giving myself permission to be imperfectly me- all that fear began to slip away I started showing up more. I spoke through the nerves. I let my voice shake. I survived the vulnerability hangovers. Sometimes we avoid or don’t honor our gifts because they are encased in fear. But that doesn’t mean we can’t crack it open and revive it. Now, nothing gives me more JOY than speaking, leading and facilitating. I feel most ME and most FREE doing this work. Funny how the one thing I feared was actually my gift. I just didn’t know it or harness it-but now I do. I honor it and share it because it’s not meant to be kept to myself. Knowing our gifts and sharing them is a key way for us to connect. If I ask you what your gifts are-would you be able to tell me right away or would you struggle? If you struggle to answer this question-tune into today's episode, I am digging into this topic more and giving you some tools to discover and OWN your gifts.  

Are you a creative person? Did you just automatically say no? Well, friend, believe it or not, you are. In this episode, I have a connector conversation with artist and creativity coach, Jane Buresh where we are talking about the art of connection and how EVERYONE is creator. Creativity is one of the ultimate connectors. The art of connection is not only how we express ourselves externally but how we go within ourselves in order to extract our own inner guidance and create from that knowing. And it’s no lie, we love the woo to help us connect! Woo = tools that help you get out of your head and into your heart to better connect to yourself. Crystals, oracle cards, astrology-beautiful things that spark joy and connection. One of our (myself and the Her Turn Community) favorite woo tools are oracle card decks-especially Jane’s Life Sparks Cards! Jane talks in depth about the beautiful tools she has created (like for real hand painted) that weaves together creativity, art and intuition work that offer tangible practices to help you connect more deeply to yourself. Whether you walk into this episode feeling creative or not, you will leave feeling more curious about creating connection in your life in new ways and begin identifying new ways in which you actually are already creating in your life. Meet Jane Buresh Jane is a creativity and intuition coach. Combining her research and knowledge of healing and intuitive art practices, with soulful and practical coaching methods, Jane is able to guide clients from feeling lost, stuck or overwhelmed to a place of clarity, confidence and trust in themselves and their path. Her coaching process guides clients toward their creative dreams and their own inner guidance using creative and tangible tools to help them through the emotional and mental blocks that can stand in the way. Jane works with creative women stuck on the edge of great change, searching for answers and guidance. Women seeking something bigger in their lives, a clear path forward or a direct line to the place within themselves that already has the answers, and clients willing to explore beyond what they already consciously know. Jane helps clients to reprogram negative thoughts, manage overwhelming emotions and live guided by their own voice and intuition so they can take make those leaps forward trusting they have the tools to guide them. Connect with Jane at creating-sparks.com

Alright friends, I am about to call some BS on a common phrase and word of advice-Fake it till you make. In this episode, I am calling out this sentiment that spins illusions and bypasses your lived experience and calling in a new one that fosters connection, trust and your personal power to design a life on your own terms. Fake it till you make it… Creates an illusion and a false sense of connection It’s inauthentic and creates distrust Removes self responsibility and accountability Ignores the natural feelings that may arise Dismisses your strength and personal power While we are at it, let’s call out another saying that needs to go: Faith it till you make. Faith it till you make it… Inserts blind trust Disconnects from the work Desensitizes your feelings Pivots you away from the opportunity to take action Here’s what I propose: Face it till you make it. Face it till you make it… Is a radical act of self love because you are showing up regardless and forging ahead Encourages you to show up for yourself DESPITE the doubt Acknowledges that you may not have all the answers, confidence or outcomes but you are showing up with an openness and willingness to get there. Builds trust, acceptance and courage through your relentless and consistent pursuit Requires imperfect action What are you currently faking it till you make it in your life? What can you start facing till you make it?

Friends, I gotta tell ya-this connector conversation brought me to my knees. Not just because of the deep wisdom my guest shares, but because of the divine connection I have with her and the truth bombs she drops. I have already re-listened several times just to jot down all the goodness that this mystic maven delivers so I am so excited to share it with you! In this episode, I am talking world record smasher, author and dear friend, Steph Jagger. We are covering all things connection when it comes to our intuition and instincts as well as rocking vulnerability and adventuring into the depths of grief.  I share why Steph and I have such a special bond and how grief is the bridge that strengthen it.  This is one fo the most powerful episodes yet so be sure to bring a journal or you might be like me an hit replay over and over again!  About Steph Jagger Steph Jagger is an author, speaker, coach, and world record smasher who happens to dabble in alchemy and energy. Her first book, Unbound: A Story of Snow and Self Discovery, was released by Harper Collins in 2017 and details her awe-inspiring journey around the world on skis. Since that journey, Steph’s work has focused on our ability to unlock and access truths – physical and mental truths, deep wordless truths, ancestral truth, as well as archetypal and mythological truth. She is the Chief Intuitive Officer behind coaching and development programs like The Great Big Journey, Read Like a Mother, and Sacred Rebellion, as well as a sought after speaker and facilitator. At her core, Steph is an expert in finding doorways to liminal space, and helping those who dare to enter make their way through to the other side and beyond.  “Living life on the frontier of one’s self is about surrender, allowance, magical thinking, and a dash or five of holy laughter.” Her second memoir – a story of mothers and daughters – is set to be released by Flatiron Books in 2021.   You can connect with Steph at: Website: https://www.stephjagger.com Instagram: @stephjagger Facebook: @Stephanie.jagger.92 Read her book Unbound yourself or bring it to your book club!

If you’re going to hang here with me there’s something you should know... Personal growth can have two paths: the comfortable smooth surface or the rugged transformational terrain.  If you want to skim the surface and stay in that warm, cozy space of a comfort zone then by all means, do you. But just so you know, that’s not this space. In today's episode, I am getting real about showing up AND showing out. I'm going to challenge you to get real with yourself about looking within about how you are showing up for yourself and how you are not showing up for yourself.  Can you take radical responsibility, stop bybassing your feels and starting choosing courage over comfort?  Hell yes it’s messy and hard but it’s also beautiful and real. It’s living fully alive. It’s being human. I know it feels good to slide on a sleek surface of good vibes only and living your best life. I wish I could hang out there all day too.  But I know if I really want to be the best and most authentic version of me, I have to show up and do the work.  And the work isn’t always what people want to do or doesn’t always look the way we hope. But if we deny the realness of personal growth then we deny our humanness. When you take the rugged terrain of transformation it may be below the surface but the views are way better and some pretty cool shit happens.  Because the more you show up for yourself, the more you are able to show up for others.

Have you ever wondered what the real deal is behind the screens of the people you follow? I know I always do.  So I decided to do a podcast episode on it.  And I invited my biz bestie, Abra Said to join me.  This episode is an unfiltered, behind the scenes of our friendship. We talk about how we met, why we collaborated, how we started a business partnership AND ended it while making our friendship stronger than ever.  We dish about how we lost our way, disconnected from our values and found our way back while supporting each other every step of the way. This is the kind of story that doesn't always get told. Because it comes with a lot vulnerability in sharing your failures, mistakes and shame based stories.  But we decided to walk our talk and create space for it to be told.     About Abra Said Abra Said is a sister, designer, educator, writer, and amateur chef. With an ever growing passion for helping womxn take over the world, she uses her talents to transform creative ideas into fully curated experiences. Abra holds a Master’s degree in Nonprofit Management & Leadership and a Bachelor’s degree in Family and Child Development and Parent Education, from the University of Akron, and is an internationally certified life coach. She loves, dreams, writes, and cooks from her light filled loft with her boyfriend and 2 cats.   You can connect with Abra at: www.thespacecreativeco.com or @thespacecreativeco on IG and FB  

In this episode, I take you back to the year of 2015 and share with you how it was not only the worst year of my life, but the most awakening.   I share with you how I found myself at the lowest point of frustration and exhaustion and one lightbulb moment that completely changed my life and set me off on a course that led me to.. Become an Internationally Certified Coach and a finalist for 2 international coaching awards Start my own business (with no experience BTW) Leave a job that was draining my energy. Make peace with my body. Be two years sober. And yes, I even met the love of my life. ​ This episode I share it all and take away the veil that this is some super secret, manifesting ritual. I break down the practice that I began using everyday since that night in 2015 and have used every day since.  And I show you how you can do it too. Join the online workshop where I will guide you in building your own permission slip practice >> February 11th 8PM EST  https://herturnco.com/shop/workshop

I know, I know, 2019 is over.  But for some of us, incuding me, I'm still processing 2019.  I am still reflecting on the last decade and easing into the new year.  In today's episode, I am sharing 19 things that 2019 revealed to me. The good, the bad and everything in between.  A new year is symbolic but also doesn’t mean we can’t go at our own pace and still think about what happened in the previous year well into the new one.  Honor yourself by redefining this day on your own terms.  If you are still reviewing and reflecting, I have created a FREE journal guide for you to help you extract what 2019 has revealed to you.

In today’s episode, I am going to drop some major truth in the name of boundaries, self care and personal responsibility.   Around this time of year we gather with family and see many people from different chapters of our lives. Whether it's a random run in with your old high school chemistry lab partner at Target or reaching for the same cookie as your aunt at the family party, you may get asked the following questions:   How’s work? Who are you dating? Where’s the ring? When are you having kids? Have you bought a house yet? How’s that “project” going?   If these or any other questions causes you to feel like the other person feels owed an answer, they expect an explanation or they are ready to project their pity, guilt or own insecurity bullshit onto you-you're left with a choice: you can choose to engage and likely fall down an Alice in Wonderland kinda rabbit hole of fear (hi, been there, done that) OR you can choose not to explain yourself. BONUS: I have created a FREE cheat sheet for you to help you remember the 4 D's that I describe in this episode Join our Facebook group! Follow #itsherturnpodcast Instagram!   

I want to talk about feelings.  Yep, everyone’s favorite topic.   The topic that feels okay as long as we are in the safe zone of good vibes only but there’s something you should know about me if we are going to hang together: I don’t do good vibes only. I believe in #allvibesalways.  In today’s episode, I am going to share why I don’t subscribe to the good vibes only mentality, why I am such a strong feelings advocate and how you can lean into feeling more in your life. 

My relationship status with social media, is...complicated. In this episode, we are about to get real about all things social media. The good, the bad and everything in between.  I am getting real with you about my own relationship with social media. I share the apps I use most and how I went from healthy to unhealthy relationship with social media. What’s tricky is the grey area of being an entrepreneur because you want to connect but also use this powerful tool to market and bring awareness to your brand and offerings.   What appears on the screens is not always what it seems.  

In this episode, I talk a lot about how in order for us to begin, we need to define it on our own terms. It being, well, everything. So I am redefining the term expert.  But when it comes down to it, the only thing we are truly experts at is being ourselves. For some of us, it is harder work than others. I believe in order to truly know ourselves, we need to connect with who we are, in every season of life we are in.   In this episode, I am going to talk about how YOU can become an expert in your own life. Plus, I have a super sweet freebie for you to help you ignite your ability to extract the truth of who you are and smash the rest!  

Welcome to the It's Her Turn Podcast! I believe that before we begin, we have to get real and go within to determine what connection and community means for us if we want to create it in our own lives. If we use other peoples definitions than we are living other people’s lives. We can borrow but at least take the consideration for ourselves. It's your turn to define connection and community on your own terms.  >>Join the private Facebook group of other like hearted connectors https://www.facebook.com/groups/itsherturnpodcast/ >> Follow & share your me too moments with the hashtag #itsherturnpodcast over on instagram.com/_herturnco >> Take the FREE Connection Course HERE

I see you friend... You love connecting. You want to be a part of a community or build one of your own. But you are looking for the right methods, tools and support to help you get there. Connection is why we are here. Like, all 7 billion of us humans need connection to not only survive but thrive.  And now more than ever-womxn need other womxn. And not just fairweather friends-like real genuine life affirming connection. Let’s break it down: connection and community are two really big concepts, right?   They mean a lot of different things AND a lot of the same things too. In this podcast, I am going to lead courageous conversations and give you tangible tools to help you feel more connected. I am inviting you into this brave space for us to get real and for you to walk away each week feeling connected and embracing who you are as a connector.  JOIN THE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY!  FOLLOW ALONG ON INSTAGRAM!