Single Black Female

The Farewell Episode

Are you ready for more?    Listen in to get the rest of our conversation from our Live--”What Men Think” Recording!    

In February, Single Black Female Podcast celebrated our ‘One Year Anniversary’. We invited several men to our couch---LIVE!    They answered our questions, dished on what they look for in a Wife, and even dispelled myths.    Here’s Part I-- ENJOY!

Ken and Ke wrap-up the ‘Girlfriend Series’...   Meet Ciara! C opens up about the break-up with her Soul Mate and provides tips for navigating a relationship with a partner who has a chronic or terminal illness. 

Dating is hard— what happens when you add another layer? Listen in as Taraza Tyler, single parent and Founder/CEO of POWER, Inc. Community,  joins Ken and Ke on the couch. She answers questions like “How long before you introduce your child to your potential mate?”, talks about her fears, and dishes on how her non-profit is providing resources for single parents!

To most people marriage is a man and a woman joined together in a religious ceremony who are living together monogamously in one house and raising children together. But what if that doesn’t work for you?   Ty shares why she chose marriage after 40, the benefits of her unconventional marriage, and why women should revel in the single life!   Spoiler: Ken drops a BOMB around 29:00

Meet our Girlfriend Kea--- The Mom and Wife! She shares her feelings on being married amongst all the singles, gives advice on dating, and answers the question, “Does sex get boring after marriage?”.                                                           ******************* We want to invite you to Single Black Female’s One Year Anniversary! We can’t believe we’ve been laughing, kiking, and providing unsolicited advice for A WHOLE YEAR!   Grab your ticket (and a few for your homegirls) at  https://sbfp_whatmenthink.eventbrite.com we will see you Saturday, February 15 in Charlotte!

We've heard you, we've listened, and now we are here to deliver. Join Ken and Ke live as we finally will get to the bottom of "What men think!" Our first event is coming February 15! You do not want to miss this! Get your tickets now by clicking on the link below. We can not wait to "KiKi" with you!     https://www.eventbrite.com/e/single-black-female-podcast-what-men-think-tickets-87915249879    

The saga continues! Sit back and relax as our big sister continues to drop more gems on dating, marriage and love.  Adonna Drops Tons of Gems: -Commit to yourself time to do the things you enjoy most -Don’t be afraid to step into a man’s comfort zone even if you may be out of yours -It’s ok to keep an ex’s at “arm’s length” -Being single is not a reflection on anything other you just have not met the right person to share your life with -Take value in the qualities you will offer in a relationship  

Who better to give advice on love and life than your Big Sister?    Ken and Ke’s “Big Sister” Adonna who has been single in her 30s and now married with children drops gems, gives advice, and shares some of her challenges while dating!   It’s so good, there’s’ a Part II:-)

  As Ken and Ke get older, more settled in their careers and even more settled in their ways-- they are beginning to wonder if they want to be married.   With divorce rates in America soaring and cohabitation numbers increasing they are asking “Is marriage even necessary?”.   Attorney Tiffany Powers joins Ken and Ke on the couch to share with the Girlfriends financial and legal benefits to marriage and even what has helped her 21+ year relationship with her husband thrive in hopes of getting SBF a little closer to answering the question.   Resources for Deeper Study: Figuring Out Marriage vs. Cohabitation in Your Life?  https://family.findlaw.com/living-together/marriage-vs-cohabitation.html   Benefits of Marriage  https://www.theknot.com/content/benefits-of-marriage    

Statistics show that the divorce rate in America is around 40-50%. Due to those scary statistics, Ken and Ke sat with a friend of SBF who is a divorced male to get his perspective on marriage and divorce.   Guest X Dropped Tons of Gems: — Dating Tips — Book Recommendation: Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix  — The One Question You Should Ask Yourself Before Getting into a Romantic Relationship — How to Spot a Narcissist 

Homecoming Dos and Don’ts for Our Single Girlfriends 

Meet our Girlfriend TImika--- The Serial Dater! She shares what she’s learned from past relationships, being happy by herself, and gives tips on landing a date--- she’s the Queen of Dates:-)   Bonus: Timi and Ke give the formula to determine the longevity of your next romantic relationship!

Ken and Ke are strong believers in Karma so as they prepare themselves for long term partnerships, they want to make sure they aren’t putting any negative out that can come back to haunt their relationships.   After disagreeing on a situation that involved an engaged man, a 2:30am phone call, and a possible meet-up; Ken and Ke sit on the couch with husband and wife Eugene and Jonisha about what are appropiate and inappropriate social interactions with the opposite sex when one party is dating/engaged/married and the other is single. 

Welcome Back to the Couch with Ken and Ke for Season 2!    Girlfriend Series: Throughout this season each of our four Girlfriends who make-up the “Group-me Group” with Ken and Ke will sit on the couch and share all-- from dating someone with a possible terminal illness to being married with kids while everyone else is single and everything in-between, our girlfriends have agreed to spill all!   The first Girlfriend of the “Girlfriend Series” is Dana! Listen in to hear about her dating journey to her current relationship and why she views herself as  “a lover of people”!

Hey Girlfriends! It is mid-summer and although we are on break prepping for Season 2 we wanted to ‘POP UP’ and let you in on what has been going on with us the last couple of months-- exes, fetishes, and sex!    Listen in on our latest  phone call….

Season 1 included topics from Dating Men with Mental Health Illnesses to Sex and everything in between! As Ken and Ke sit on the couch one last time this season-- they catch the Girlfriends up on the current state of their love lives (Spoiler Alert: Ain’t Nothing Changed), which episodes resonated with them, and what’s next for SBF [there will be a Season 2:-)]!

“Let's talk about sex, baby/Let's talk about you and me/Let's talk about all the good things And the bad things that may be/Let's talk about sex” --- Salt-N-Pepa   Ken and Ke chat and kiki with Ashley of Sex With Ashley to get answers to both their questions and listener questions such as:   What should I (and all the single girls w/ no sex partner) be doing in the “ in between time” so I can really ‘show up’ in the bedroom in my next relationship?   What are different ways we can obtain pleasure without penetration?   Solo Sex-- I can’t bring myself to pleasure myself, how can I get comfortable with doing so? Guest Information: Ashley Cobb is a Sexuality Coach and Sex Educator for women who crave a more intimate, exciting, fulfilling sex life. In college she became a sexual health peer educator and majored in Health Promotions Education.    Throughout her journey, Ashley learned many people hide their thirst for knowledge, thoughts, feelings, desires and curiosity because they felt embarrassed or even worse: shamed.  She created Sex With Ashley to teach women through workshops and counseling how to feel comfortable discussing their desires and how to release all the negative BS that holds them back from experiencing the best sex imaginable.   Website: www.sexwithashley.com Email: ashley@sexwithashley.com Twitter/IG/Facebook/YouTube: @sexwithashley

Remember Episode 2: “I Just Can’t!”-- Deal Breakers  when Ken and Ke discussed if dating someone who had been diagnosed with a mental health illness is a deal breaker? In this episode the girls welcome therapist, Darrell Coleman, to the couch to talk about mental health illness in Black men, red flags for which women can look, self-care when dating someone diagnosed with a mental health illness and much more.   Guest Information: Darrell Coleman is the Executive Director and lead therapist at Elevation & Enrichment Services a mental health practice in College Park, MD. He earned a Bachelors of Arts in Psychology from North Carolina Central University and a Masters of Social Work from the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill. He is also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the states of Maryland and North Carolina. Darrell who has been married for 5 years and the father of two,  is from Fayetteville, NC and passionate about helping African-American youth and adults who suffer from mental illness.   Website: elevationes.com Key Points Darrell Shares:   - There can be a healthy relationship where there is mental illness as long as both parties are willing and want to do the work.   - Females should always know what their “Deal Breakers” are and stick to them.   - Just as the flight attendant instructs passengers to put on their oxygen mask before helping the person next to them, one must always take care of themselves first when in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness.   Resources: www.psychologytoday.com www.therapyforblackgirls.com  

Quickly approaching their 35th Birthdays, Ken and Ke look at their options to begin a family as their biological clocks begin ticking louder with no man in sight! One option being considered is In vitro fertilization (IVF). Joining the girls on the couch to recount her decision to pursue the process of IVF and sharing beneficial information for Single, Black Females who may be considering IVF as means to start a family is Syreeta Norwood.   Guest Information: Syreeta Norwood is native of Charlotte, NC. She is a Senior Brand Manager in the consumer packaged goods industry and is based in Charlotte, NC. She made the tough decision to pursue motherhood as a (very) single woman. Today, she’s 38 years old and the proud mother of a two year old son.   Email: syreeta.norwood@gmail.com   Information/FAQ Mentioned Having a Baby After Age 35: How Aging Affects Fertility and Pregnancy https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Having-a-Baby-After-Age-35-How-Aging-Affects-Fertility-and-Pregnancy?IsMobileSet=false Key Points Syreeta Shares: - Utilize therapy when going through the process of preserving your fertility   - Choosing her sperm donor was the hardest part for Syreeta. She had numerous options, but      wanted to ensure she made the best choice   - Expect people to neither understand the process nor your reasons for becoming a “Choice Mom”   - Start a baby savings fund and look into your company benefits to help with expenses-- the process can get expensive   - Follow your heart when making the decision to become a “Choice Mom” as there may never be a perfect time

As elder, never-married millennials find out who [Ken or Ke] swears by online dating and who is looking at it with a strong side-eye! Ken and Ke discuss varying perspectives on online dating, share their experiences (or lack of) and give a few tips about how to do so safely!   2018 Online Dating Stats Mentioned “21 Amazing Online Dating Statistics — The Good, Bad & Weird” https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/online-dating-statistics   Documentary Mentioned Love At First Swipe   Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age https://www.hbo.com/video/documentaries/swiped-hooking-up-in-the-digital-age/videos/trailer

As many Black women struggle to find suitable Black men for life partners-- some are intentionally broadening their idea of suitable partners to include white men. Ken falls in the “some”, although there is apprehensiveness. Dalia Davies Flanagan joins Ken and Ke on the couch to discuss her dating, marrying, and raising children with a white man in hopes of easing Ken’s worries as she “steps outside her box”!   Intermarried Stats Mentioned “Key facts about race and marriage, 50 years after Loving v. Virginia” http://pewrsr.ch/2tcaRtz Guest Information: Dalia Davies Flanagan is a 15+ year veteran of the entertainment industry (producer and writer) based in New York City. Most recently she founded WELM, a digital media platform for black and brown youth fueled by the desire to disrupt the narrative in television, commercials and film. Dalia has been married for 7 years, and is the mother of two Afro-Caribbean Irish-German daughters.   Guest Social Media Info: WELM-- @welm.co nFluence-- @nfluences

Many write a list of what qualities and traits they need and desire in a mate-- but, what about what they don’t? Ken and Ke share their deal breakers and sort through which are reasonable and which are keeping them from the love they are seeking.   Article Mentioned “The Top 10 Relationship Deal Breakers” https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201510/the-top-10-relationship-deal-breakers  

Meet Ken and Ke!  Find out how they became single at 30+ and what lessons in ‘love lost’ are aiding them on the road to ‘Happily Ever After’.   Article Mentioned “Black Women: Successful and Still Unmarried” http://www.wbur.org/npr/112550626/story.php