Podcast appearances and mentions of Charles L Whitfield

Barbara Harris Whitfield – Near Death ExperienceAired Thursday, March 2, 2023 at 5:00 PM PST / 8:00 PM ESTHow may a near death experience transform someone who was an atheist into both a believer and healer?My guest this week on Vox Novus, Barbara Harris Whitfield, had an NDE at age 32 that opened her to this understanding and dramatically changed her life. Barbara Harris Whitfield was a researcher at the University of Connecticut Medical School with psychiatry professor Bruce Greyson (Research Director for The International Association for Near-Death Studies. She and her late husband, Dr. Charles L. Whitfield, authored several ground-breaking books on healing from childhood trauma and spiritual experiences. She's been a guest on major television shows including the Today Show, Unsolved Mysteries, PM Magazine, Good Morning America, Oprah, and CNN Medical News. She also provides workshops and speaking engagements on topics of recovery, near-death experiences and natural spirituality. Her website is https://www.barbara-whitfield.com/ and she joins me this week to share her path, her wisdom and heart-warming experiences.#BarbaraHarrisWhitfield #NDE #VoxNovus #VictorFuhrmanVisit the Vox Novus Show Page https://omtimes.com/iom/shows/vox-novus/Connect with Victor Fuhrman at http://victorthevoice.com/Subscribe to our Newsletter https://omtimes.com/subscribe-omtimes-magazine/Connect with OMTimes on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Omtimes.Magazine/ and OMTimes Radio https://www.facebook.com/ConsciousRadiowebtv.OMTimes/Twitter: https://twitter.com/OmTimes/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/omtimes/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/2798417/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/omtimes/

Elicia created the Core Emotional Healing® process as the culmination of 10 years of intensive training, personal healing, and empathic intuitive gifts. Based on her personal and professional experience, she developed a guided step-by-step process to address the emotional root cause of symptoms and suffering. Elicia provides insightful, direct, compassionate guidance to inspire and support others to be responsible for how they feel, ask for what they want, and to set healthy boundaries. She helps others feel safe and supported so they are empowered to freely express their true selves. She is the author of the ebook Detox 101 and coauthor of the books, One Crazy Broccoli and What’s Left to Eat. Her new book, Your Symptoms Are A Gift, to be released in 2019, is an inspirational guide to help readers realize the emotional connection to their symptoms. The book details the Core Emotional Healing® process to help anyone heal from physical, emotional, and relationship challenges. ​Along with her husband, Psychologist Doug Miller, PhD, Elicia offers Core Emotional Experiential Therapy Private Healing Immersion for individuals and couples in Costa Rica.  Tell us about the work that you do and how you started on that journey. Elicia grew up with a rageaholic father who controlled all of the emotions in the household. Elicia knew what was happening was wrong but when she would try to stand up to him, she would be shamed by her mother for doing so. Elicia coped by numbing herself through drinking, drugs, and sex. She had a lifetime of repression and shaming of her emotions. When she was 38 she had been healing herself for 8 years using every healing modality she could find. She realized that the pain she had been feeling was connected to her childhood. She knew she needed to take care of her emotional needs from the past and the present. And then everything went away. Her addictions, eating disorders and relationship patterns. She found a deeper connection to herself to take care of herself on an emotional level. There were several years where you were struggling with addiction. It sounds like there was a point where you shifted from drugs and drinking to detoxing and spirituality. When did that shift happen? Elicia left an abusive marriage after 3 months when she was 30. That was when she decided to stop living an unconscious life. She asked herself - ‘what made her choose him?’ An experiential therapy course helped wake her up. She realized she could take care of herself and make decisions for herself. She didn’t need somebody else to do that. She started taking lots of courses and connected with helping people in that way. She left her corporate sales job and became a journaling coordinator. She started creating after telling herself she wasn’t creative all her life. She started to feel real happiness. From this deeper connection within herself, she stopped partying and going out. It didn’t stay that way though, things came up which threw her back into her old coping ways. You mentioned that you had all these symptoms in your life but were then able to get to the root cause. How do people access the root cause in their lives? It’s not just healing and going back and feeling these repressed emotions. It also working from your experience. What did you believe about yourself? What did you do to protect these wounds and feel love? We live from this false sense of self that formed from the core wounds. Addressing the core wounds can help shift everything but we need to be aware of what we really need and what we do to get our needs met. But some of the ways we get these needs met are preventing us from living life fully. Let’s use the example of your story. You had a dominant, controlling father and knew this from a young age. Often we can see that somebody mistreated us but what is the actual wound? There are many wounds. We struggle with the emotional disconnection from our vulnerable self. We don’t process our feelings and take care of them. The disconnect is what causes the problem. We have to reconnect to the vulnerable part of ourselves. Elicia calls this our wounded inner child. If somebody is listening to this and wondering about their wounded child is, what’s a question they could start with? The wounded inner child is a part of ourselves that we all carry. It is the wounds we are trying to compensate for. It is the part of ourselves that doesn’t feel good enough or needs to be right or always feels sad. It gets triggered. Or wants to find a way to feel better instead of feeling what it is feeling. The wounded inner child is the part of you that needs you to go into these feelings and take care of them. It is underneath all of the adaptations we form to cope with the world. Things like people pleasing or perfectionism. Is there a specific question that can help access the hurt or the wound? Triggers can be a way into the wounded inner child. How do I feel? When did I first feel that way? A trigger is when you feel disproportionately angry or sad or you withdraw from what just happened. Ask yourself - ‘When did I feel that way as a child?’ What’s your relationship with your dad like now? Elicia has managed to heal her relationship with her father. It took until she was 38 and she had to stop talking to him completely. After her father divorced her mother he went to therapy and did a lot of healing himself. He has become a more loving and supportive person. Elicia has also worked out what she needs and where she can get it from, so she is no longer looking to her father to give her that. Can you tell me a bit more about experiential therapy? Experiential therapy is more of an active process than talk therapy. It uses other people to act out roles and situations. Someone might act as a parent and this helps draw the true feelings out of you. It can help bypass our defenses. Elicia and her husband developed a process called Core Emotional Experiential Therapy which uses over 100 objects to work someone through this process. They use the objects to lay out relationships which can bypass defenses and bring out the subconscious. Sometimes we can get caught up on this never-ending ‘fix-it’ mentality. Do you think this could be another part of the wounded child? There are a few things that could be going on. Never feeling good enough comes from toxic shame and can drive people to continuously want to improve themselves. Reading self-help books can be a way of bypassing what is really needed which is emotional healing. Books can support the process, but focusing on them can be about bypassing the emotions. There are a lot of layers to this. The process is about reconnecting to your emotions and wounds, and then learning how to take care of yourself. Then when you do that you can handle more things. Then more things come up but you know how to work with them on an ongoing basis. What does it really mean to be self-aware? You are the observer of yourself. You notice when you are in a pattern. You notice when you don’t feel good. You notice that something keeps happening. To be self-aware is to continue to seek help when you are in some kind of pattern or are triggered by something. The more we heal our emotional wounds the more we integrate our true self. From that place, we are really able to be our true selves. It’s funny how we think we can know ourselves. We think ‘I am not a creative person’ and then realize that we are that way. It’s a huge shift in identity. Elicia used to say that she wasn’t a writer. This comes from wounding. Now she writes all the time. But as a child what she had to say was dismissed, especially by her mother. Her true and authentic voice got blocked. And the protection of that was to say - ‘I’m not a good writer.’ Once she healed herself she was able to write and connect to her creative authentic voice. What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given? Just keep writing. Do you feel that because you have done so much work, the depth of beauty, joy, and peace has expanded? Absolutely. When she had really connected and healed with her inner child, Elicia started singing and making up songs. That is a part of her natural expression which came out as a joyful playfulness. Tell me how we can get in touch with you. https://eliciamiller.com/ Links Alice Miller https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice_Miller_(psychologist) Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles L. Whitfield M.D. https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Child-Within-Discovery-Dysfunctional/dp/0932194400/ The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You by Karla McLaren https://www.amazon.com/Language-Emotions-What-Feelings-Trying/dp/1591797691/

Each of us is the hero of our own constantly-unfolding tale – one that nobody else can write.  However, too many of us leave these stories untold.  When we deny ourselves the opportunity of sharing, we actually can CREATE illness.  But the ultimate power that comes with telling and sharing your story is that this act has the amazing potential to heal. Exchange Quotes: “The degree to which you can tell your story is the degree to which you can heal.” – Stasi Eldredge “The most useful and healing thing about telling our own story is that we, the story teller, get to hear our story.  When we tell out story from our hearts, bones and guts, from our Real Self, we discover the truth about ourselves.  Doing so is healing.” – Charles L. Whitfield Exchange Links: Epic Exchanges on Facebook

Ep 39 TRS - “Can Medical Cannabis Help People Heal & Connect in Relationships?" with guest Barbara Harris Whitfield   Can a Relationship with Cannabis Save You Some Drama or Maybe Just Save You?  With the recent implementation of recreational cannabis law in California, Wendy & Jenni met via Skype with Atlanta-based Cannabis-Advocate, Therapist, Author, and Consciousness Researcher Barbara Harris Whitfield, RT, CMT, to discuss how the Cannabis Community is evolving and the various medical uses cannabis might offer.   **Medical and recreational marijuana should be used responsibly and within the legal guidelines (21 y.o. and older).  Using marijuana is not for everyone and may exacerbate preexisting mental and physical health conditions - before imbibing, please consult with your physician, prescribing psychiatrist, and/or recovery case manager about whether or not cannabis might be the right choice for you. **   © Jenni J.V. Wilson 2018   TRS email:  RelationshipShowLA@gmail.com   ***Crisis Text line:  741741 ***National Suicide Hotline:  800/273-8255 ***     web: www.DoctorWendyOConnor.com   e:  DrWendyOConnor@gmail.com   fb: www.facebook.com/askdrwendy   tw: @askDrWendy   intsta: IamDrWendy   ph: 310/712-1230     web: www.JenniJVWilson.com   e:  JenniferJVWilson@gmail.com   fb: www.facebook.com/JenniJVWilson   tw: @JenniJVWilson   insta: ThePreppyRebel   https://www.dea.gov/druginfo/drug_data_sheets/Marijuana.pdf   The Exhaustive Lit of Everyone Who's Died of A Marijuana Overdose https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/marijuana-lethal-dose_us_58f4ec07e4b0b9e9848d6297   TRS GUEST -    Guest:     Barbara Harris Whitfield (with Charles L. Whitfield, MD) Web:  http://www.barbara-whitfield.com/ Blog:  http://barbara-whitfield.blogspot.com/ Books:  "The Secrets of Medicinal Marijuana: A Guide for Patients and Those Who Care for Them"     SHOW MENTIONS  -   - Dr. Charles Whitfield - "Healing The Child Within" - Raphael Mechoulam - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raphael_Mechoulam - Documentary “The Scientist” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQDJi6Jb8d4&feature=youtu.be&list=PL-j8DfzPFwK04Fp980VJW6f6g1aC1nlRL - “Cheech & Chong: Up In Smoke” -  - https://auntzeldas.org/ - http://pineapplemag.com/ - https://www.learngreenflower.com/ - Podcast - Shrink Rap radio ep #506 - http://shrinkrapradio.com/506-exploring-the-medicinal-and-spiritual-potential-of-marijuana-with-barbara-harris/ - http://www.maps.org/ - https://mjbizdaily.com/ -  Chris Walsh - Vice President, Editorial & Strategic Development - Bruce Greyson - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruce_Greyson - Sasha Shulgin- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexander_Shulgin - Elizabeth Kubler Ross - http://www.ekrfoundation.org/ - Bonnie Greenwell - http://www.kundaliniguide.com/ - Ken Ring “Heading Toward Omega” and “Lessons from the Light"   MUSIC CUES -   Sublime - “Smoke Two Joints” Snoop Lion - “Smoke The Weed" (Feat: Collie Buddz”) Willie Nelson - “It's All Going to Pot” Amy Winehouse - “Addicted"

Brian Mayer discusses the different roles the family members take on when dysfunction is present.  When families are not healthy, human nature will tend to conform to the unhealthy situation rather than make attempts to change it.  As a result the children and even the spouse of the individual with the issues will begin to adapt unhealthy patterns to support the continued unhealthy behavior of one family member.  We hope you enjoy today's message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies In blended families, dysfunction is usually more common.  As we have mentioned before the divorce rate continues to get higher with each subsequent marriage.  This obviously means that there are many more unhealthy patterns present which include anger issues, alcohol or drug problems, and pornography addictions.  According to research by Sharon Wegscheider in the early 1980's she proposed 5 different possible roles that children and spouses of the unhealthy parent/spouse will take on to continue the new normal unhealthy patterns.            Caretaker takes responsibility for the bad behavior of a parent.  They can be co-dependent and protect the real caretaking adult by stepping up to take care of meals, cleaning, etc.  The spouse can take this role, but often children will.  Family Hero attempts to bring pride to family by working hard and being successful at school and work.  They do this to avoid problems at home.  They have a façade of of self confidence and success but internally have issues of inferiority.  Often this is the oldest child.  The rest of the family does not see the issue if one is doing well.  They grow up trying to win the approval of others.  Scapegoat diverts attention by acting out in anger.   Since no one is healthy and can model appropriate behaviors the scapegoat will not know how to control anger and behavior.   They often become the one to blame for the issue of the parents rather than being seen as a symptom.  Lost Child withdrawals to escape.  Since they appear content they will begin to be neglected.  They don't learn social skills as a result.  They cannot stand up for themselves and often get bullied.  Bulimia is common in the lost child as they try to satisfy pain through eating.  They will finds pleasure in other activities including drugs.  Family clown diverts attention from the issue to themselves.  They try to lighten to heaviness and drama in the family.  The humor hides the pain inside.  They attempt to relieve stress and tension by distracting everyone. Characteristics of a function family include:  Clear parent child separation of duties, everyone feels valued and encouraged, roles are not rigid but fluid, change is encouraged, boundaries are present, children are comforted and have a safe harbor at home.  What have you noticed in your family?  Are your children playing these roles as an attempt to smooth the family system?  Are you playing one of these roles?  Are you the source of others taking on these roles?  Resources Mentioned Healing the Child Within by Charles L. Whitfield Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. It would be extremely helpful, it you would consider leaving a rating and review on Apple devices at iTunes  or on Android devices at Google Play as it will help the podcast reach others who need help in rebuilding life and relationships The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support.  Please join today!