Podcast appearances and mentions of marsha means

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: Lyschel and Pam had other obligations, so I, Bonny will be speaking with a special guest today –  Dr. Barb Steffens! Barb is the retired founder of the association of partners of sex addicts trauma specialists, or APSATS. APSATS was a response to her empirically supported work that betrayed partners are traumatized by the discovery of their spouses problematic sexual behavior and should be supported through the lens of trauma, not co-dependence. Barb now focuses on helping better equip religious leaders to care for marriages that are struggling through the discovery of problematic sexual behavior. Today, our topic is “How Religious Leaders Can Serve Betrayed Couples Well.” We Will be Discussing: What is institutional trauma or institutional betrayal? What are some things that religious leaders could do to minimize spiritual trauma when they are working with a marriage that has deceptive sexuality? What are some obstacles that keep religious leaders from following up with a couple where the wife has newly discovered sexually problematic behavior? What are some resources that religious leaders could tap into to learn more? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: “Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal,” by Dr. Barb Steffens and Marsha Means. Why did God let this Happen? Assessing the Spiritual Impacts of Sexual Addiction on Intimate Female Partners: A Qualitative Investigation Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training Information (July, 2024, dates) “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It,” By Sam Black. “Suffering and the Heart of God: How Trauma Destroys and Christ Restores,” by Dr. Diane Langberg. Coming November, 2024 – “When the Church Harms God's People: Becoming Faith Communities That Resist Abuse, Pursue Truth, and Care for the Wounded,” by Dr. Diane Langberg.

Tune in to our latest episode of Therapists Growing Therapists, where we explore the nuanced field of betrayal trauma with expert Marsha Means. As the founder of A Circle of Joy Ministries and a seasoned specialist in sex addiction and betrayal, Marsha offers deep insights and effective healing strategies. Join us for an enlightening discussion on overcoming the challenges posed by betrayal and fostering recovery and empowerment. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and heal from the impacts of betrayal trauma.

Mike talks with Marsha Means, author of "Living With Your Husband's Secret Wars," originally published in 1999. Marsha was one of the first to address recovery for wives from their husband's porn or sex addiction issues in the late 90's when the porn epidemic in the church was first blowing up.

In this week's episode, we are thrilled to have a special guest with us - our new puppy, Pluto!  He was a great assistant throughout our recording.  We are happy to update you on our dryer as well as Shelley's continued choices to wear clothing from two decades ago.  Moving onto more important things - we talk this week about dealing with intrusive thoughts during the recovery process, in particular for her. Here are some of the things we cover: - Know that this is "normal" and apart of the impact of the trauma.  It's not where we want women to stay long-term but it does serve a purpose short term in helping us move through the grief.   - There are also plenty of times when we need to contain the thoughts in order to be present and revisit the thoughts later.  We give three strategies to help with this containment:  brain stop, prayer and vaulting it.   - Suggesting she just STOP thinking about the past, looking at evidence of the past, etc. - is harmful.  Let this be HER process, not yours.   - It can be important to ask the question - is there a gap in safety somewhere causing her to ruminate / obsess during certain situations (when he is at work, goes to the grocery store, etc.)?  And instead of asking her to stop ruminating - figure out what she needs to feel safer.   We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!    There are several books we mention during this episode - Your Sexually Addicted Spouse by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means, The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and the Brain STOP can be found on page 22 of the Rescued workbook. Jason announced the Worthy of Her Trust workshop happening this March in TX.  Applications are live and you can get all the details for that here. There is also a women's retreat happening the beginning of April - details are here. We have several new groups starting in February.  Click here for all the details. Info on the Empowered Boundaries MasterClass for women is here.  Would love for you to consider taking this with me, please add your name to the wait list so that you are the first to know when registration for the next round opens.  (The wait list just serves as a place for those with interest to get the first email.) Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.  We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!  Click here to subscribe to Shelley's {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason's list.  Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.

Questions for Reflection:Melody discussed being an “elder brother” as part of her own sin. What are areas of sin that the Lord has revealed to you as you have walked through your own trauma?How did you explain the divorce to your children? Has it been difficult for you to refrain from slandering your ex?How can you use your painful experience to further the kingdom of God?Resources:Undoneredone.com – Melody and Traylor Lovvorn’s website and organization. The Lovvorns have an excellent podcast that you will find here, as well as on iTunes. Their podcast guests have included Elyse Fitzpatrick, Jackie Hill Perry, Dan Allender, and David Zahl, among many others.The Smart Step-Family: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family by Ron L. Deal.Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown. An excellent resource for parents of young children, this picture book works to answer the many questions children will have when they find out their parents are divorcing.Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars by Marsha Means. For women whose husbands are caught in a web of sexual sin.This podcast is made available to you by the Rooted Ministry for educational purposes only, not to provide specific therapeutic advice. The views expressed are the personal perspectives of the author and do not represent the views of all counselors or the profession. This podcast does not create a counselor-client relationship and should not be used as a substitute for competent therapeutic counsel from a licensed professional in your state.

Marsha Means and Dr. Magness are co-authoring a new book that is designed to be a resource for therapist, addicts, spouses and family. Their new book “Real Hope/True Freedom: Understanding and Coping with Sex Addiction” is designed in a “FAQ” format to be a resource. In this podcast they discuss the book as well as […] The post Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 41: Interview with Dr. Milton Magness and Marsha Means Part 2 appeared first on CASTIMONIA.

Marsha Means and Dr. Magness are co-authoring a new book that is designed to be a resource for therapist, addicts, spouses and family. Their new book “Real Hope/True Freedom: Understanding and Coping with Sex Addiction” is designed in a “FAQ” format to be a resource. In this podcast they discuss the book as well as […] The post Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 40: Interview with Dr. Milton Magness and Marsha Means Part 1 appeared first on CASTIMONIA.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Milton Magness and Marsha Means who will talking about their new book, Real Hope, True Freedom: Understanding and Coping With Sex Addiction. This book is filled with a conslidation of over 4,000 questions submitted to people who needed to understand the truth on multiple topics related to sexual addicion. This book helps readers understand the reality of sex addiction and to know that recovery is posssible!

Peggy* wrote in to ask about sexual addiction and its effects on marriage. She writes, "Verlynda, First, I think your plans for traveling for a year sounds awesome!  What an exciting adventure to undertake.  Your family will be in my prayers that you will only experience slight bumps in the road and have a wonderful family bonding time! I love the podcasts and feel so lucky to have found you.  I think the first one I listened to was something on infidelity.   I'm wondering if you might consider doing a podcast on sexual addiction. While the effects on a marriage are similar to infidelity there's a deeper undercurrent with it.  I knew there was something off in our relationship and questioned if my husband was having an affair,  he always answered "no,"  so I just thought he was a workaholic along with the impact of binge drinking.  Finally, in the depths of his addiction he began receiving texts messages and phone calls that tipped me off.   Sexual addiction has a broad range of activities from porn and beyond.  My husband's issue started with pornographic magazines back in the 70's and escalated to going to bars for lap dances.  It basically followed the invasive changes that sexual addictions has taken in our society and how accepted it has become.  The attitude of" boys will be boys" doesn't help but speaks to the maturity level of some men in the American culture.  He was taken with being desired by other women and became infatuated with several but insists he never loved them only me.  I still deal with the hurt and pain that he could break our marriage vows and the years of deceit and lying.  I really don't feel I was acting co-dependently in this because I was asking if something was wrong and we consulted several marriage counselors over the years.  He admits he wasn't honest with them also.   I have listened to many podcasts and YouTube's on this topic.  I feel that Marsha Means and Barbara Steffens approach to looking at the PTSD or PISD (post infidelity stress disorder) it causes for the spouse has truly helped me.  Plus I accept that this addiction is rooted in an intimacy disorder.  Many "experts" support divorce but I chose not to take that path because of my religious beliefs.  So I was wondering if you might look at the issues of sexual addictions from a perspective of staying in the marriage.  Thanks so much, Peggy* PS  I have to admit I love both of your laughs!  Keep up the great work! Listen to the podcast episode for Caleb's answer! *name changed for confidentiality reasons

In this final episode of the Body Image podcast, for wives of sex addicts, Marsha Means asks her interviewees (Donna, Dawn and Grace) how they went about healing their damaged body image. Finally she asks each woman what role her husbands' recovery (or his refusal to engage recovery)has played in her healing. To sign up to receive notification of Marsha Means podcasts: mautic.journeytohealingandjoy.com/podcast-sign-up

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