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Learn about the Space for Art Foundation; how screen time helped kids in lockdown; and mold vs. cleaning product safety. More from NASA astronaut Nicole Stott: Pick up "Back to Earth: What Life in Space Taught Me About Our Home Planet — and Our Mission to Protect It" https://www.sealpress.com/titles/nicole-stott/back-to-earth/9781541675049/ Website: https://www.npsdiscovery.com/ Follow @Astro_Nicole on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Astro_Nicole Space for Art Foundation: https://www.spaceforartfoundation.org/ "Screen time" can be a social lifesaver for teens in lockdown — as long as it's the right kind by Cameron Duke Anwar, Y. (2021, September 2). Teenagers aren't as lonely in lockdown if interacting positively online. Berkeley News. https://news.berkeley.edu/2021/09/02/teenagers-arent-as-lonely-in-lockdown-if-interacting-positively-online/ Magis‐Weinberg, L., Gys, C. L., Berger, E. L., Domoff, S. E., & Dahl, R. E. (2021). Positive and Negative Online Experiences and Loneliness in Peruvian Adolescents During the COVID‐19 Lockdown. Journal of Research on Adolescence, 31(3), 717–733. https://doi.org/10.1111/jora.12666 Which is worse, mold or cleaning products? by Ashley Hamer (Listener question from Molly) Basic Facts about Mold and Dampness. (2021). https://www.cdc.gov/mold/faqs.htm Weinhold, B. (2007). A Spreading Concern: Inhalational Health Effects of Mold. Environmental Health Perspectives, 115(6). https://doi.org/10.1289/ehp.115-a300 Cleaning Supplies and Household Chemicals. (2015). Lung.org; https://www.lung.org/clean-air/at-home/indoor-air-pollutants/cleaning-supplies-household-chem Alexander, R. (2018, February 22). How Your Housecleaning Products Can Be Bad for Your Lungs. Healthline; Healthline Media. https://www.healthline.com/health-news/how-your-housecleaning-products-can-be-bad-for-your-lungs Dumas, O., Boggs, K. M., Quinot, C., Varraso, R., Zock, J., Henneberger, P. K., Speizer, F. E., Le Moual, N., & Camargo, C. A. (2019). Occupational exposure to disinfectants and asthma incidence in U.S. nurses: A prospective cohort study. American Journal of Industrial Medicine, 63(1), 44–50. https://doi.org/10.1002/ajim.23067 Svanes, Ø., Bertelsen, R. J., Lygre, S. H. L., Carsin, A. E., Antó, J. M., Forsberg, B., García-García, J. M., Gullón, J. A., Heinrich, J., Holm, M., Kogevinas, M., Urrutia, I., Leynaert, B., Moratalla, J. M., Le Moual, N., Lytras, T., Norbäck, D., Nowak, D., Olivieri, M., & Pin, I. (2018). Cleaning at Home and at Work in Relation to Lung Function Decline and Airway Obstruction. American Journal of Respiratory and Critical Care Medicine, 197(9), 1157–1163. https://doi.org/10.1164/rccm.201706-1311oc Follow Curiosity Daily on your favorite podcast app to learn something new every day withCody Gough andAshley Hamer. Still curious? Get exclusive science shows, nature documentaries, and more real-life entertainment on discovery+! Go to https://discoveryplus.com/curiosity to start your 7-day free trial. discovery+ is currently only available for US subscribers. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do you handle stressful situations? Everyone's built a little different — some people can take their hits on the chin and come out smiling. But not everyone can take those hits. The pandemic has taken its mental toll on so many people. Others might still be struggling with past traumas and dealing with anxiety. Their situation keeps them in a state of constant worry and hypervigilance. That state of mind doesn't only harm their mental and emotional health — it can make them sick and more prone to physical diseases. More than ever, it's time to begin mental healing from past traumas, so we can better cope with our daily stresses. Dr Don Wood joins us again in this episode to talk about the TIPP program and how it facilitates mental healing. He explains how our minds are affected by traumas and how these can affect our health and performance. If we want to become more relaxed, we need to learn how to go into the alpha brainwave state. Since mental healing is not an immediate process, Dr Don also shares some coping strategies we can use in our daily lives. If you want to know more about how neuroscience can help you achieve mental healing, then this episode is for you. Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Learn how trauma can put you in a constant state of survival and affect your performance and daily life. Understand that it's not your fault. Achieving mental healing will require you to learn how to go into an alpha brainwave state. Discover healthy habits that will keep you from entering survival mode. Resources Gain exclusive access and bonuses to Pushing the Limits Podcast by becoming a patron! A new program, BOOSTCAMP, is coming this September at Peak Wellness! 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Episode Highlights [06:05] The Pandemic-Induced Mental Health Crisis The pandemic forced many people into a state of freeze mode, not the typical fight or flight response. As people get out of freeze mode, there will be a rise in mental health issues. Teenagers are robbed of the opportunity to develop social and communication skills during this time. [08:24] How Dr Don Wood Started Studying Traumas Dr Don's wife grew up in a household with an angry father who instilled fear. He used to think that she would be less anxious when they started to live together, but she struggled with mental healing. She had an inherent belief that misfortune always follows good things. Her traumas and fears also led to a lot of health issues. She also was hyper-vigilant, which she used as a protective mechanism. However, this prevented her from being relaxed and happy. A person's environment can dictate whether they go into this hyper-vigilant state, but genetics can also play a factor. [15:42] How Trauma Affects the Brain Trauma is caused by a dysregulation of the subconscious. If your brain is in survival mode, it will access data from the past and create physiological responses to them. These emotions demand action, even when it is no longer possible or necessary. This dysregulation prevents you from living in the present and initiating mental healing. In this state, people can be triggered constantly, which interferes with their day-to-day life. [21:07] The Role of the Subconscious Your conscious mind only takes up around 5%, while the subconscious takes up 95%. Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between real and imagined. In survival mode, people will keep replaying the past and think about different scenarios and decisions. You're left stuck because the subconscious mind only lives in the now. It does not have a concept of time. This process is the brain trying to protect you. [25:04] What Happens When You're Always in Survival Mode Being in survival mode will take a physical toll since it's constantly activating the nervous system, increasing cortisol and adrenaline. When you're in this state, your body and mind cannot work on maintenance and recovery. It is more focused on escaping or fixing perceived threats. Over time, this will affect your immune system and make you sick. To truly achieve mental healing, you need to get to the root cause of your problems. However, you also have to develop coping strategies to manage your day-to-day activities. [30:18] Changing Your Brainwave State Traumatic events are usually stored in a beta brainwave state. Changing your response to traumatic events starts with going into an alpha brainwave state. The beta state is usually from 15 - 30 hertz, while the alpha is lower at 7 - 14 hertz. Anything below that is the delta state, usually when you're in deep meditation or sleep. People who have trouble sleeping are usually in that beta state, which keeps processing information. It's only in the delta state that your mind and body start the maintenance phase. This phase helps not only with mental healing but also physical recovery. Learn more about Lisa and Dr Don's personal experiences with these brainwave states in the full episode! [34:30] Mental Healing and Physical Recovery Starts with the Brain Recovery is about genetics and the environment. In sleep, your mind will always want to deal with the threats first. It can only get to the delta state once it finishes processing these dangers. Your risk for developing sickness and depression rises if your brain can't do maintenance. Living in the beta state will make it difficult to focus. [41:40] It's Not Your Fault If you have a lot of trauma, you are predisposed to respond in a certain way. It's not your fault. There's nothing wrong with your mind; you just experienced different things from others. Dr Don likened this situation to two phones having a different number of applications running. Predictably, the device that runs more applications will have its battery drained faster. [44:05] Change How You Respond Working on traumas requires changing the associative and repetitive memory, which repeats responses to threats. You cannot change a pattern and get mental healing immediately—it will take time. That's the reason why Dr Don's program has a 30-day recovery phase dedicated to changing your response pattern. Patterns form because the subconscious mind sees them as a beneficial way of coping with traumas. This function of your subconscious is how addictions form. [47:04] Why We Can Be Irrational The subconscious lives only in the present. It does not see the future nor the past. It will want to take actions that will stop the pain, even if the actions are not rational. At its core, addiction is all about trying to stop the pain or other traumatic experiences. Survival mode always overrides reason and logic because its priority is to protect you. [50:57] What to Do When You're in Survival State In this survival state, we're prone to movement or shutting down completely. The brain can stop calling for emotions to protect you, and this is how depression develops. When in a depressed state, start moving to initiate mental healing. Exercise helps burn through cortisol and adrenaline. Once your mind realises there's no action required for the perceived threats, the depression will lift. [53:24] Simple Actions Can Help There's nothing wrong with you. Don't just treat the symptom; go straight to the issue. Don't blame genetics or hormonal imbalances for finding it hard to get mental healing. Find out why. Also, seek things that will balance out your hormones. These can be as simple as walking in nature, taking a break, and self-care. [56:04] How to Find a Calming Symbol Find a symbol that will help you go back into the alpha brainwave state. Lisa shares that her symbol is the sunset or sunrise, and this helps her calm down. Meanwhile, Dr Don's are his home and the hawk. Having a symbol communicates to all parts of your brain that you're safe. [59:58] The Power of Breathing Stress may lead to irregular breathing patterns and increase your cortisol levels and blood sugar. Breathing exercises, like box breathing, can also help you calm down because the brain will take higher oxygen levels as a state of safety. If you're running out of oxygen, your brain will think you're still in danger. Make sure that you're breathing well. It's also better to do nasal breathing. 7 Powerful Quotes ‘The purpose of an emotion is a call for an action. So the purpose of fear is to run.' ‘People who have a lot of trauma have trouble sleeping. Because not only is their mind processing what it experienced during the day, it's also taking some of those old files saying “Well, okay, let's fix that now. Right. Let's get that.”' ‘I was getting maximum restorative sleep. So an injury that I would have that could heal in two or three days, my teammates would two or three weeks. Because they were living in these, which I didn't know, a lot of my friends were dealing with trauma: physical, emotional, sexual abuse.' ‘There's nothing wrong with anybody's mind. Everybody's mind is fine except you are experiencing something different than I experienced so your mind kept responding to it, and mine didn't have that.' ‘That dysregulation of the nervous system. That's what we want to stop because that is what is going to affect health, enjoyment of life, and everything else.' ‘I talked about addiction as a code. I don't believe it's a disease. Your mind has found a resource to stop pains and your subconscious mind is literal. It doesn't see things as good or bad, or right or wrong.' ‘If there's a survival threat, survival will always override reason and logic because it's designed to protect you.' About Dr Don Dr Don Wood, PhD, is the CEO of The Inspired Performance Institute. Fueled by his family's experiences, he developed the cutting-edge neuroscience approach, TIPP. The program has produced impressive results and benefited individuals all over the world. Dr Wood has helped trauma survivors achieve mental healing from the Boston Marathon bombing attack and the Las Vegas shooting. He has also helped highly successful executives and world-class athletes. Marko Cheseto, a double amputee marathon runner, broke the world record after completing TIPP. Meanwhile, Chris Nikic worked with Dr Wood and made world news by becoming the first person with Down Syndrome to finish an Ironman competition. Interested in Dr Don's work? Check out The Inspired Performance Institute. You can also reach him on Facebook and LinkedIn. Enjoyed This Podcast? If you did, be sure to subscribe and share it with your friends! Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning in, then leave us a review. You can also share this with your family and friends so they can learn steps to mental healing. Have any questions? You can contact me through email (firstname.lastname@example.org) or find me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and YouTube. For more episode updates, visit my website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts. To pushing the limits, Lisa Transcript Of Podcast Welcome to Pushing the Limits, the show that helps you reach your full potential with your host Lisa Tamati, brought to you by lisatamati.com. Lisa Tamati: Hi, everyone and welcome back to Pushing the Limits. Today, I have Dr Don Wood who, you may recognise that name if you listen to the podcast regularly. He was on the show maybe a couple of months ago, and he is the CEO and founder of The Inspired Performance Institute. He's a neuroscience guy, and he knows everything there is to know about dealing with trauma and how to get the mind back on track when you've been through big, horrible life events or some such thing. Now, when we talked last time, he shared with me his methodology, the work that he's done, how he can help people with things like addictions as well and depression, and just dealing with the stresses of life, whether they be small stressors or big stressors. We got to talking about my situation and the stuff that I've been through in the last few years, which many of you listeners know, has been pretty traumatic. From losing babies, to losing my dad, to mom's journey. So I was very privileged and lucky to have Dr Don Wood actually invite me to do his program with him. We share today my stories, how I went with that, and he explains a little bit more in-depth the neuroscience behind it all and how it all works. So if you're someone who's dealing with stress, anxiety, PTSD, depression, if you want to understand how the brain works and how you can help yourself to deal with these sorts of things, then you must listen to the show. He's an absolutely lovely, wonderful person. 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We've joined forces with Dr Elena Seranova and have NMN which is nicotinamide mononucleotide, and this is really some of that cooler stuff in the anti-aging, and longevity space. If you want to check out the science behind that, we have a couple of podcasts with her. Check those out and also head on over to nmnbio.nz. Right. Over to the show with Dr Don Wood. Hi, everyone and welcome back to Pushing the Limits. Today, I have a dear, dear friend again who's back on the show as a repeat offender, Dr Don Wood. Dr Don Wood: I didn't know I was a repeat offender. Oh, I'm in trouble. That's great. Lisa: Repeat offender on the show. Dr Don, for those who don't know, was on the show. Dr Don is a trauma expert and a neuroscientist, and someone who understands how the brain works, and why we struggle with anxiety, and depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. We did a deep dive last time, didn't we, into the program that you've developed. Since then, everyone, I have been through Dr Don's pro program. He kindly took me through it. Today, I want to unpack a little bit of my experiences on the other side, s the client, so to speak. Talk about what I went through. Dr Don, so firstly, welcome to the show again. How's it all over in your neck of the woods? Dr Don: Well, it's awesome over here in Florida. COVID is basically non-existent. Oh, yeah. Well, in terms of the way people are treating it, that's for sure. Very few people you see in masks now, everything is pretty much wide open. You can't even get reservations at restaurants. It's unbelievable. The economy is exploding here. There's so much going on. Yeah, I know the rest of the country, a lot of different places are still struggling with whether they're going to put mask mandates back on and all this kind of stuff but Florida seems to be doing very well. Lisa: Well, I'm very glad to hear that because any bit of good news in this scenario is good because this keeps coming and biting everybody in the bum. Dr Don: I know. Especially down there. You guys are really experiencing quite severe lockdowns and things, right? Lisa: Yeah and Australia, more so. Australia has gone back into lockdown. I've got cousins in Sydney who are experiencing really hard times in Melbourne and we've stopped the trans-Tasman bubble at the moment. Trans-Tasman was open for business, so to speak, with Australians being able to come to New Zealand without quarantine, but it's been shut down again. So yeah, we're still struggling with it, and the economy is still struggling with it but actually, in our country, we've been very lucky that we've managed to keep it out because they've had such tight controls on the borders. But yes, it's a rocky road for everybody, and it's not over yet, I think. Dr Don: Looks like it's going to continue, and that's creating a lot of stress. Lisa: Oh, yeah, perfect. Dr Don: This is what I've said. I think we're coming up to a tsunami of mental health issues because a lot of people have gone into freeze mode as opposed to fight or flight. Some people are in fight or flight. You're hearing about that on airlines: people just losing it, and getting mad, and fighting with flight attendants and passengers, and you see a lot of that. But I think that's obviously not the majority. I think most people are in that mode of just get through this, do what they ask, don't cause any waves, and just get this over with. So that's a freeze mode, and I think when people come out of freeze, you're going to start to see some of these mental health issues. Lisa: Yes, I totally agree and I'm very concerned about the young people. I think that being hit very hard especially in the places that have the hardest lockdowns. If you're going through puberty, or you're going through teenagehood, or even the younger kids, I think, they're going to be affected massively by this because it's going to be a big before and after sort of situation for them. Dr Don: And just the social. When we were teenagers, social was everything, I suppose. Learning how to communicate, and talk, and get along with other people, and good and bad. There were always struggles in school with learning how to get along with everybody but that is just sort of squashed. It's going to be fascinating to see when they do a study on the real true results of this pandemic. It's going to be a lot different than many people think. Lisa: Yes, and I think the longer you ignore stuff, is we're going to see it's not just the people are unfortunately dying and being very sick from the actual COVID, but the actual effects on society are going to be big. That's why talking about the topic that we're talking about today, dealing with anxiety, and dealing with stress, and being able to actually fix the problem instead of just managing the problem, which I know you're big on. So let's dive in there, and let's recap a little bit. Just briefly go back over your story, how you got to here, and what your method sort of entails in a helicopter perspective. Dr Don: Yeah, basically how I developed this was really because of the life that my wife led first and my daughter. My wife grew up in a very traumatic household with a very angry father that created tremendous fear. So everybody was... Just constant tension in that household. When I met her, I just realised how this was so different than my life. My life was in the complete opposite: very nurturing, loving. So I didn't experience that. I thought when she started moving in and we got married at 19, we were very young, that this would all stop for her. Because now, she's living in my world, my environment, and it didn't. She just kept continuing to feel this fear that something was going to go wrong and nothing is going to go right. She struggled with enjoying things that were going well. I would say to her, 'We've got three beautiful children. We've got a beautiful home. Everything's going pretty good; nothing's perfect. You have your ups and downs, but it's generally a pretty good life.' She couldn't enjoy that because as a child, whenever things were going okay, it would quickly end and it would end, sometimes violently. So the way she was protecting herself is don't get too excited when things are going well because you'll get this huge drop. So that was what she was doing to protect herself. I just had a lady come in here a couple months ago, who very famous athlete is her husband: millionaires, got fame, fortune, everything you want, but she had a lot of health issues because of trauma from her childhood. When I explained that to her, she said, 'That's me. Your wife is me. I should be enjoying this, and I can't get there. I want to. My husband can't understand it.' But that's really what was going on for her too. Lisa: So it's a protective mechanism, isn't it? To basically not get too relaxed and happy because you've got to be hyper-vigilant, and this is something that I've definitely struggled with my entire life. Not because I had a horrible childhood. I had a wonderful childhood but I was super sensitive. So from a genetic perspective, I'm super sensitive. I have a lot of adrenaline that makes me code for, for want of a better description, I'm very emotionally empathetic but it also makes me swung by emotional stimuli very much. So someone in my environment is unhappy, I am unhappy. I'm often anxious and upset. My mum telling me she took me to Bambi. You know the movie Bambi? From Disneyland? She had to take me out of theatre. I was in distraught. That's basically me. Because Bambi's mother got killed, right? I couldn't handle that as a four-year-old, and I still can't handle things. Things like the news and stuff, I protect myself from that because I take everything on. It's even a problem and in our business service situations because I want to save the world. I very much take on my clients' issues. I'm still learning to shut gates afterwards, so to speak, when you're done working with someone so that you're not constantly... So there's a genetic component to this as well. Dr Don: Absolutely. So yours was coming from a genetic side but that's very, very common amongst people who have had a traumatic childhood. They're super sensitive. Lisa: Yes. Hyper-vigilant. Dr Don: Hyper-vigilant. That was my wife. She was constantly looking for danger. We'd come out of the storage and go: 'Can you believe how rude that clerk was?' 'What do you mean she was rude? How was she rude?' ‘You see the way she answered that question when I asked that, and then the way she stuffed the clothes in the bag?' And I'm like, 'Wow.' I never saw her like that. She was looking for it because that's how she protected herself because she had to recognise when danger was coming. So it was protection, and I hadn't experienced that so that made no sense to me; it made perfect sense to her. Lisa: Yeah, and if someone was rude to you, you would be just like, 'Well, that's their problem, not my problem, and I'm not taking it on.' Whereas for someone your wife and for me... I did have a dad who was a real hard, tough man, like old-school tough. We were very much on tenterhooks so when they came home, whether he was in a good mood today or not in a good mood. He was a wonderful, loving father but there was that tension of wanting to please dad. Mum was very calm and stable, but Dad was sort of more volatile and just up and down. It was wonderful and fun and other times, you'd be gauging all of that before he even walked in the door. That just makes you very much hyper-vigilant to everything as well. Then, you put on, on top of that, the genetic component. You've got things like your serotonin and your adrenaline. So I've got the problem with the adrenaline and a lack of dopamine. So I don't have dopamine receptors that stops me feeling satisfaction and... Well, not stops me but it limits my feeling of, 'Oh, I've done a good job today. I can relax.' Or of reward. And other people have problems, I don't have this one, but with a serotonin gene, which is they have dysregulation of their serotonin and that calm, and that sense of well-being and mood regulation is also up and down. While it's not a predisposition that you'll definitely going to have troubles because you can learn the tools to manage those neurotransmitters and things like nutrition and gut health and all that aspect. Because it's all a piece of that puzzle, but it's really just interesting, and it makes you much more understanding of people's differences. Why does one person get completely overwhelmed in a very trivial situation versus someone else who could go into war and come back and they're fine? What is it that makes one person? Then you got the whole actual neuroscience circuitry stuff, which I find fascinating, what you do. Can you explain a little bit what goes on? Say let's just pick a traumatic experience: Someone's gone through some big major trauma. What is actually going on in the brain again? Can we explain this a little bit? Dr Don: Yeah, this is one of the things that... When I did my research, I realised this is what's causing the dysregulation: is your subconscious your survival brain is fully present in the moment all the time. So everything in that part of our brain is operating in the present. which is what is supposed to be, right? They say that that's the key, that success and happiness is live in the present. Well, your survival brain does that. The problem comes in is that only humans store explicit details about events and experiences. So everything you've seen, heard, smelled, and touched in your lifetime has been recorded and stored in this tremendous memory system. Explicit memory. Animals have procedural memory or associative memory. We have that memory system too. So we have both. They only have procedural, associative. So they learn through repetition, and they learn to associate you with safety and love, but they don't store the details about it. But we store all the details about these events and experiences. So this is where this glitch is coming in. If you've got the survival brain, which is 95% of everything that's going on, operating in the present, accessing data from something that happened 10 years ago because something looks like, sounds like, smells like it again, it's creating a response to something that's not happening. It's looking at old data and creating a physiological response to it, and the purpose of an emotion is a call for an action. So the purpose of fear is to run, to escape a threat. But there's no threat. It's just information about the threat. That disrupts your nervous system and then that creates a cascade of chemical reactions in your body because your mind thinks there's an action required. Lisa: This is at the crux of the whole system really, isn't it? This is this call for action to fix a problem that is in the past that cannot be fixed in the now. So if we can dive a little bit into my story, and I'm quite open on the show. I'm sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly. When I was working with Dr Don, I've been through a very, very traumatic few years really. Lost my dad, first and foremost, last July, which was the biggest trauma of my life. And it was a very difficult process that we went through before he died as well. And there's a lift, as you can imagine, my brain in a state of every night nightmares, fighting for his life, he's dying over, and over, and over, and over again. Those memories are intruding into my daily life, whereas in anything and at any time, I could be triggered and be in a bawling state in the middle of the car park or the supermarket. Because something's triggered me that Dad liked to to buy or Dad, whatever the case was, and this was becoming... It's now a year after the event but everything was triggering me constantly. Of course, this is draining the life out of you and interfering with your ability to give focus to your business, to your family, to your friends, every other part of your life. I'd also been through the trauma of bringing Mum back from that mess of aneurysm that everyone knows about. The constant vigilance that is associated with bringing someone back and who is that far gone to where she is now, and the constant fear of her slipping backwards, and me missing something, especially in light of what I'd been through with my father. So I'd missed some things, obviously. That's why he ended up in that position and through his own choices as well. But this load, and then losing a baby as well in the middle, baby Joseph. There was just a hell of a lot to deal with in the last five years. Then, put on top of it, this genetic combination of a hot mess you got sitting before you and you've got a whole lot of trauma to get through. So when we did the process, and I was very, super excited to do this process because it was so intrusive into my life, and I realised that I was slowly killing myself because I wasn't able to stop that process from taking over my life. I could function. I was highly functional. No one would know in a daily setting, but only because I've got enough tools to keep my shit together. so to speak. But behind closed doors, there's a lot of trauma going on. So can you sort of, just in a high level, we don't want to go into the details. This is a four-hour program that I went through with Dr Don. What was going on there. and what did you actually help me with? Dr Don: So when you're describing those things that were happening to you, what was actually happening to your mind is it was not okay with any of that. It wanted it to be different, right? So it was trying to get you into a state of action to stop your father from dying: Do it differently. Because it kept reviewing the data. It was almost looking at game tape from a game and saying 'Oh, had we maybe run the play that way, we would have avoided the tackle here.' So what your mind was saying 'Okay, run that way.' Well, you can't run that way. This is game tape. Right? But your mind doesn't see it as game tape. It sees it as real now, so it's run that way. So it keeps calling you into an action. And especially with your dad because you were thinking about, 'Why didn't I do this?' Or 'Had I just done this, maybe this would have happened.' What your mind was saying is, 'Okay, let's do it. Let's do that.' What you just thought about. But you can't do that. It doesn't exist. It's information about something that happened but your mind sees it as real. That's why Hollywood have made trillions of dollars because they can convince you something on the screen is actually happening. That's why we cry in a movie or that's why we get scared in a movie. Because your mind, your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between real or imagined. So that's actually happening. You were just talking about the movie with Bambi, right? When you were little. 'Why is nobody stopping this from happening?' So your mind was not okay with a lot of these things that were happening, and it kept calling you to make a difference. That's what I never understood my wife doing. That before I really researched this, my wife would always be saying, 'Don't you wish this hadn't have happened?' Or 'Don't you wish we hadn't done this?' What I didn't understand at the time, because I used to just get like, 'Okay, whatever.' She'd go, 'Yeah, but wouldn't it have been better?' She wanted to get me into this play with her, this exercise. Lisa: This is going on in her head. Dr Don: Because it's going on in her head, and she's trying to feel better. So she's creating these scenarios that would make her feel like, 'Well, if I had just done that, gosh that would have been nice, thinking about that life.' And her mind seeing that going, 'Oh, that would be nice. Well, let's do that. Yes.' So she was what if-ing her life. And it was something that she did very early as a child because that's how she just experienced something traumatic with her father. In her mind, she'd be going, 'Well, what if I had to just left 10 minutes earlier, and I had have escaped that?' Or 'What if I hadn't done this?' So that's what she was doing. It made no sense to me because I hadn't experienced her life, but that's what she was doing. Her mind was trying to fix something. It's never tried to hurt you. It was never, at any point, trying to make you feel bad. It was trying to protect you. Lisa: Its job is to protect you from danger and it sees everything as you sit in the now so it's happening now. I love that analogy of these... What was it? Two-thirds of the car or something and... Dr Don: So goat and snowflake? Lisa: Goat and snowflake. And they're going off to a meeting and they're late. And what does the goat says to snowflake or the other way around? Dr Don: So snowflake, which is your conscious mind, your logical reasonable part of your mind, there's only 5, says the goat 95%, which is your subconscious mind. Who runs into a traffic jam says, 'Oh, we're going to be late. We should have left 15 minutes earlier.' To which goat replies 'Okay, let's do it. Let's leave 15 minutes earlier because that would solve the problem.' Lisa: That analogy is stuck in my head because you just cannot... It doesn't know that it's too late and you can't hop into the past because it only lives in the now. This is 95% of how our brain operates. That's why we can do things like, I was walking, I was at a strategy meeting in Auckland with my business partner two days ago. We were walking along the road and he suddenly tripped and fell onto the road, right? My subconscious reacted so fast, I grabbed him right, and punched him in the guts. I didn't mean to do that but my subconscious recognised in a millimeter of a second, millionth of a second, that he was falling and I had to stop him. So this is a good side of the survival network: stopping and falling into the traffic or onto the ground. But the downside of it is that brain is operating only in the now and it can't... Like with my father, it was going 'Save him. Save him. Save him. Why are you not saving him?' Then that's calling for an action, and then my body is agitated. The cortisol level's up. The adrenaline is up, and I'm trying to do something that's impossible to fix. That can drive you to absolute insanity when that's happening every hour, every day. Dr Don: Then that's taking a physical toll on your body because it's activating your nervous system, which is now, the cortisol levels are going up, adrenaline, right? So when your mind is in that constant state, it does very little on maintenance. It is not worried about fixing anything; it's worried about escaping or fixing the threat, because that's the number one priority. Lisa: It doesn't know that it's not happening. I ended up with shingles for two months. I've only just gotten over it a few weeks ago. That's a definite sign of my body's, my immune system is down. Why is it down? Why can that virus that's been sitting dormant in my body for 40-something years suddenly decide now to come out? Because it's just becoming too much. I've spent too long in the fight or flight state and then your immune system is down. This is how we end up really ill. Dr Don: We get sick. I was just actually having lunch today with a young lady and she's got some immune system issues. And I said, 'Think about it like the US Army, US military is the biggest, strongest military in the world. But if you took that military and you spread it out amongst 50 countries around the world fighting battles, and then somebody attacks the United States, I don't care how big and strong that system was, that military system was. It's going to be weakened when it gets an attack at the homefront.' So that's what was happening. So all of a sudden, now that virus that it could fight and keep dormant, it lets it pass by because it's like, 'Well, we can let that go. We'll catch that later. Right now, we got to go on the offensive and attack something else.' Lisa: Yeah, and this is where autoimmune, like your daughter experienced... Dr Don: About the Crohn's? Yep. Lisa: Yep. She experienced that at 13 or something ridiculous? Dr Don: 14, she got it. Then she also got idiopathic pulmonary hemosiderosis which is another lung autoimmune disorder where the iron in the blood would just cause the lungs to release the blood. So her lungs just starts filling up with blood. They had no idea what caused it, that's the idiopathic part of it, and they just basically said, ‘There's no cure. She just needs to live close to a hospital because she'll bleed out if she has another attack.' Only 1 in 1.2 million people ever get that. So it's very rare so there's no research being done for it. They just basically say, ‘If you get it, live close to a hospital.' That's the strategy. Lisa: That's the way of fixing it. Dr Don: And so both of those are autoimmune, and ever since we've gone to the program, she's hasn't had a flare-up of either one of those. Because I think our system is directly now able to address those things. Lisa: Yeah, and can calm down. I think even people who haven't got post-traumatic stress like I've had or whatever, they've still got the day to day grind of life, and the struggle with finances, and the mortgage to be paid, and the kids to feed, and whatever dramas we're all going through. Like we talked about with COVID and this constant change that society is undergoing, and that's going to get faster and more. So this is something that we all need to be wary of: That we're not in this. I've taught and learned a lot about the coping and managing strategies, the breathing techniques, and meditation, the things, and that's what's kept me, probably, going. Dr Don: Those are great because they're... Again, that's managing it but it's good to have that because you've got to get to the root of it, which is what we were working on. But at the same time, if you don't have any coping, managing skills, life gets very difficult. Lisa: Yeah, and this is in-the-moment, everyday things that I can do to help manage the stress levels, and this is definitely something you want to talk about as well. So with me, we went through this process, and we did... For starters, you had to get my brain into a relaxed state, and it took quite a long time to get my brainwaves into a different place. So what were we doing there? How does that work with the brainwave stuff? Dr Don: Well, when we have a traumatic event or memory, that has been stored in a very high-resolution state. So in a beta brainwave state because all your senses are heightened: sight, smell, hearing. So it's recording that and storing it in memory in a very intense state. So if I sat down with you and said, 'Okay, let's get this fixed.' And I just started trying to work directly on that memory, you're still going to be in a very high agitated state because we're going to be starting to talk about this memory. So you're going to be in a beta brainwave state trying to recalibrate a beta stored memory. That's going to be very difficult to do. So what we do is, and that's why I use the four hours because within that first an hour and a half to two hours, we're basically communicating with the subconscious part of the brain by telling stories, symbols with metaphors, goat and snowflake, all the stories, all the metaphors that are built-in because then your brain moves into an alpha state. When it's in alpha, that's where it does restoration. So it's very prepared to start restoring. And then, if you remember, by the time we got to a couple of the traumatic memories, we only work on them for two or three minutes. Because you're in alpha, and so you've got this higher state of beta, and it recalibrates it into the same state that it's in. So if it's in alpha, it can take a beta memory, reprocess it in alpha, takes all the intensity out of it. Lisa: So these brain waves, these beta states, just to briefly let people know, so this is speed, and correct me if I'm wrong, but it's the speed at which the brain waves are coming out. So in beta, like you'd see on ECG or something, it's sort of really fast. I think there's a 40 day... Dr Don: It's 15 to 30 hertz. Lisa: 15 to 30 hertz and then if you're in alpha, it's a lot lower than that? Dr Don: 7 to 14. Lisa: 7 to 14, and then below that is sort of when you're going into the sleep phase, either deep meditative or asleep. Dr Don: You're dreaming. Because what it's doing in dreaming is processing. So you're between 4 and 7 hertz. That's why people who have a lot of trauma have trouble sleeping. Because not only is their mind processing what it experienced during the day, it's also taking some of those old files saying, 'Well, okay, let's fix that now. Right. Let's get that.' That's where your nightmares are coming from. It was trying to get you into a processing to fix that. but it couldn't fix it. So it continues, and then when you go below 4 hertz, you go into delta. Delta is dreamless sleep and that's where the maintenance is getting done. Lisa: That's the physical maintenance side more than the... Dr Don: Physical maintenance. Yeah, because that's not processing what it experienced anymore. What it's really now doing is saying, 'Okay, what are the issues that need to be dealt with?' So if you're very relaxed and you've had a very... Like me, right? I played hockey, so I had six concussions, 60 stitches, and never missed a hockey game. The only reason now that I understand I could do that is because I'm getting two or three times more Delta sleep than my teammates were. Lisa: Physical recuperative sleep. Dr Don: Yeah, I was getting maximum restorative sleep. So an injury that I would have that could heal in two or three days, my teammates would two or three weeks. Because they were living in these, which I didn't know, a lot of my friends were dealing with trauma: physical, emotional, sexual abuse. I didn't know that was going on with my friends. Nobody talked about it. I didn't see it in their homes, but they were all dealing with that. Lisa: So they are not able to get... So look, I've noticed since I've been through the program. My sleep is much better, and sometimes I still occasionally dream about Dad. But the positive dreams, if that makes sense. They're more Dad as he as he was in life and I actually think Dad's come to visit me and say, ‘Hi, give me a hug' rather than the traumatic last days and hours of his life, which was the ones that were coming in before and calling for that action and stopping me from having that restorative sleep. I just did a podcast with Dr Kirk Parsley who's a sleep expert, ex-Navy SEAL and a sleep expert that's coming out shortly. Or I think by this time, it will be out, and understanding the importance, the super importance of both the delta and... What is the other one? The theta wave of sleep patterns, and what they do, and why you need both, and what parts of night do what, and just realising...Crikey, anybody who is going through trauma isn't experiencing sleep is actually this vicious cycle downwards. Because then, you've got more of the beta brainwave state, and you've got more of the stresses, and you're much less resilient when you can't sleep. You're going to... have health issues, and brain issues, and memory, and everything's going to go down south, basically. Dr Don: That's why I didn't understand at the time. They just said 'Well, you're just super healthy. You heal really fast.' They had no other explanation for it. Now, I know exactly why. But it had nothing to do with my genetics. It had to do with my environment. Lisa: Just interrupting the program briefly to let you know that we have a new patron program for the podcast. 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Once it gets the threats processed, then it can then start working on the things that are going to be the more long-term maintenance. So then it'll do that. But if it never gets out of that threat mode, it gets out for very little time. Then, if you're getting 30 minutes of delta sleep at night and I'm getting two hours, it's a no-brainer to figure out why I would heal faster. Lisa: Absolutely, and this is independent of age and things because you've got all that that comes into it as well. Your whole chemistry changes as you get older and all this. There's other compounding issues as it gets more and more important that you get these pieces of the puzzle right. Do you think that this is what leads to a lot of disease, cancers, and things like that as well? There's probably not one reason. There's a multitude of reasons, but it's definitely one that we can influence. So it's worth looking at it if you've got trauma in your life. People were saying to me 'Oh my God, you don't look good.' When you start hearing that from your friends, your people coming up to you and going, 'I can feel that you're not right.' People that are sensitive to you and know you very well, and you start hearing that over and over, and you start to think, 'Shit, something's got real. Maybe I need to start looking at this.' Because it's just taking all your energy your way, isn't it, on so many levels. The restorative side and the ability to function in your life, and your work, and all of that, and that, of course, leads into depressive thoughts and that hyper-vigilant state constantly. That's really tiresome rather than being just chill, relax, enjoying life, and being able to... Like one of the things I love in my life is this podcast because I just get into such a flow state when I'm learning from such brilliant... Dr Don: You're in alpha. Lisa: I am. I am on it because this is, 'Oh. That's how that works.' And I just get into this lovely learning in an alpha state with people because I'm just so excited and curious. This is what I need to be doing more of. And less of the, if you'd see me half an hour ago trying to work out the technology. That's definitely not an alpha state for me. Dr Don: That's where they said Albert Einstein lived. Albert Einstein lived in alpha brainwave state. That's why information just float for him because there was no stress. He could then pull information very easily to float into. But if you're in a high beta brainwave state, there's too much activity. It has trouble focusing on anything because it's multiple threats on multiple fronts. So when we have a traumatic event, that's how it's being recorded. If you remember, what we talked about was there's a 400 of a millionth of a second gap in between your subconscious mind seeing the information and it going to your consciousness. So in 400 millionths of a second, your subconscious mind has already started a response into an action even though your conscious mind is not even aware of it yet. Lisa: Yeah. Exactly what I did with rescuing my partner with the glass falling off the thing. I hadn't reached that logically. Dr Don: It's funny because that's one of the things that I talked about ,which is sort of, give us all a little bit of grace. Because if you've had a lot of trauma, you're going to respond a certain way. How could you not? If your mind's filtering into all of that, of course you're going to respond with that kind of a response because your mind is prone to go into that action very, very quickly. So we can give ourselves a little bit of grace in understanding that of course, you're going to do that, right? And not beat ourselves up. Because you know what I talked about with everybody, there's nothing wrong with anybody. There's nothing wrong with anybody's mind. Everybody's mind is fine except you are experiencing something different than I experienced so your mind kept responding to it, and mine didn't have that. So you had multiple... Think about we have a hundred percent of our energy on our phone when we wake up in the morning, right? Fully powered up. You fire the phone up and eight programs open up, right? And mine has one. Lisa: Yeah. You're just focusing on what you need to. Dr Don: Then noon comes, and you're having to plug your phone back in because you're out of energy. Lisa: That's a perfect analogy. You're just burning the battery. My all is a hundred windows open in the back of my brain that is just processing all these things and so now, I can start to heal. So having gone through this process with you, like you said, we worked on a number of traumatic experiences, and I went through them in my mind. And then you did certain things, made me follow with my eyes and track here, and my eyes did this, and then, we pulled my attention out in the middle of the story and things. That helped me stay in that alpha state, brainwave state as I probably now understand while I'm still reliving the experience. That's sort of taking the colour out of it so that it's now sort of in a black and white folder. Now, it can still be shared, and it hasn't taken away the sadness of... Dr Don: Because it is sad that these things happen but that's not the response for an action which is that fear or anger, right? That dysregulation of the nervous system. That's what we want to stop, because that is what is going to affect health, enjoyment of life and everything else. Lisa: Wow, this is so powerful. Yeah, and it's been very, very beneficial for me and helped me deal. For me, it also unfolded. Because after the four hour period with you, I had audiotapes and things that are meditations to do every day for the next 30 days. What were we doing in that phase of the recovery? What were you targeting in those sort of sessions? Dr Don: So if you remember what we talked about, we have two memory systems. The explicit memory is what we worked on on that four hours. That's detail, events, and experiences. Once we get the mind processing through that, then we have to work on the same memory animals have, which is that associative repetitive memory. So you've built a series of codes on how to respond to threats, and that has come in over repetition and associations. So the audios are designed to start getting you now to build some new neural pathways, some new ways to respond because your mind won't switch a pattern instantly. It can switch a memory instantly, but a pattern is something that got built over a period of time. So it's like a computer. If I'm coding on my computer, I can't take one key to stop that code. I have to write a new code. Yeah, so what we're doing over the 30 days is writing new code. Lisa: Helping me make new routines and new habits around new neural pathways, basically. Dr Don: You don't have that explicit memory interfering with the pathways. Because now, it's not constantly pulling you out, going back into an action call. It's basically now able to look at this information and these codes that got built and say, 'Okay, what's a better way? So do we have a better way of doing it?' Or 'Show me that code. Write that code.' If that code looks safer, then your mind will adopt that new code. Lisa: This is why, I think for me, there was an initial, there was definitely... Like the nightmares stopped, the intrusive every minute, hour triggering stopped, but the process over the time and the next... And I'm still doing a lot of the things and the meditations. It's reinforcing new habit building. This is where... Like for people dealing with addictions, this is the path for them as well, isn't it? Dr Don: Yeah. Because I talked about addiction as a code. I don't believe it's a disease. Your mind has found a resource to stop pains, and your subconscious mind is literal. It doesn't see things as good or bad, or right or wrong. It's literal. 'Did that stop the pain? Let's do that.' Because it's trying to protect you. So if you've now repeated it over and over, not only have you stopped the pain, but you've built an association with a substance that is seen as beneficial. Lisa: Because your brain sees it as medicine when you're taking, I don't know, cocaine or something. It sees it as essential to your life even though you, on a logical level, know that, ‘This is destroying me and it's a bad thing for me.' Your subconscious goes, 'No, this is a good thing and I need it right now.' Dr Don: Because it's in the present, when does it want the pain to stop? Now. So it has no ability to see a future or a past. Your subconscious is in the moment. So if you take cocaine, the logical part of your brain goes, 'Oh, this is going to create problems for me. I'm going to become addicted.' Right? Your subconscious goes, ‘Well, the pain stopped. We don't see that as a bad thing.' I always use the analogy: Why did people jump out of the buildings at 911? They weren't jumping to die. They were jumping to live because when would they die? Now, if they jump, would they die? No. They stopped the death. So even jumping, which logically makes no sense, right? But to the subconscious mind, it was going to stop the pain now. Lisa: Yeah, and even if it was two seconds in the future that they would die, your brain is going... Dr Don: It doesn't even know what two seconds are. Lisa: No. It has no time. Isn't it fascinating that we don't have a time memory or understanding in that part of the brain that runs 95% of the ship? Dr Don: It's like what Albert Einstein said, ‘There's no such thing as time.' So it's like an animal. If an animal could communicate and you say, 'What time is it?' That would make no sense to an animal. 'What do you mean? It's now.' 'What time is it now?' 'Now. Exactly.' Lisa: It's a construct that we've made to... Dr Don: Just to explain a lot of stuff, right? When something happens. Lisa: Yeah, and this is quite freeing when you think of it. But it does make a heck of a lot of sense. So people are not being destructive when they become drug addicts or addicted to nicotine, or coffee, or chocolate. They're actually trying to stop the pain that they're experiencing in some other place and fix things now. Even though the logical brain... Because the logical brain is such a tiny... Like this is the last part of our evolution, and it's not as fully... We can do incredible things with it at 5%. We've made the world that we live in, and we're sitting here on Zoom, and we've got incredible powers. But it's all about the imagination, being able to think into the future, into the past, and to make correlations, and to recognise patterns. That's where all our creativity and everything, or not just creativity, but our ability to analyse and put forth stuff into the world is happening. But in actual, we're still like the animals and the rest of it. We're still running at 95%, and that's where we can run into the problems with these two. Dr Don: Because you got two systems. You got a very advanced system operating within a very primitive system, and it hasn't integrated. It's still integrating, right? So if there's a survival threat, survival will always override reason and logic, because it's designed to protect you. So there's no reason and logic that will come in if there's a survival threat. It's just going to respond the way it knows, does this Google search, 'What do we know about this threat? How do we know to protect ourselves, and we'll go instantly into survival mode.' Again, there's the reason and logic. Why would you jump out of a building, right? If you applied reason and logic, you wouldn't have jumped, right? People will say, 'Well, but they still jumped.' Yes, because reason and logic didn't even come into the process. It was all about survival. Lisa: Yeah. When the fire is coming in it was either... Dr Don: 'Am I going to die out now or I'm going to move and not die now?' Lisa: Yeah, and we're also prone to movement when we're in agitation and in an agitated state, aren't we? Basically, all of the blood and the muscles saying, 'Run, fight, do something. Take action.' Dr Don: That's why when people get into depression, it's the absence of those emotions. Lisa: Yeah, and people feel exhaustion. Dr Don: Yeah. The mind kept calling for an action using anger, for example, but you can't do the action because it's not happening, so it shuts down to protect you and stops calling for any emotion, and that's depression. So the key to get out of depression is actions. It's to get something happening. So in a lot of people who are depressed, what do I tell them to do? 'Start moving. Start exercising. Get out. Start doing things.' Right? Lisa: So I run ultras. Dr Don: Exactly. Perfect example, right? Lisa: Yeah, because I was. I was dealing with a lot of shit in my life at the time when I started doing ultra-marathons. To run was to quiet the pain and to run was to be able to cope and to have that meditative space in order to work through the stuff that was going on in my life. And I know even in my husband's life, when he went through a difficult time, that's when he started running. So running can be a very powerful therapeutic, because there is a movement, and you're actually burning through the cortisol and the adrenaline that's pouring around in your body. Therefore, sitting still and that sort of things was just not an option for me. I had to move. And it explains what, really. It's calling the movement. Like it was a movement because I couldn't fix the other thing. Dr Don: That's what they'll tell you to do. To get out of depression is to move. What I say is the way to get out of depression is to get your mind to resolve what it's been asking for. Lisa: It's going a little deeper. Dr Don: Yeah. So it's going down and saying, 'Okay, why has it been getting you angry and now, it shut down from the anger?' Because it's been trying to get you in your situation. 'Don't let Dad die. Don't let this happen.' Right? So because you couldn't do it, it just shuts down. Makes perfect sense but when we get to the resolution that there is no action required, there's no need for the depression anymore. The depression will lift because there's no more call for an action. Lisa: I can feel that in me, that call. Anytime that anything does still pop up, I sort of acknowledge the feeling and say, 'There is no call for action here. This is in the past. This is a memory.' So I do remind myself that when things do still pop up from time to time now, as opposed to hourly. I go, 'Hey, come back into the now. This is the now. That was the then that's calling for an action. This is why you're doing thing.' Even that understanding
What was your room like when you were a teenager? What was on the walls? Rod and Jason discuss their rooms and then it turns into a discussion of hiding dirty magazines. Actor, Director and Writer Jon Favreau turns 55 so we run down our Top 5 Favorite movies of his. The documentary Heavy Metal Parking Lot turns 35. https://www.heavymetalparkinglot.com We discuss what it was like going to concerts in the late 80's and early 90's. Thanks to our sponsors www.LuckysPub.com and www.Piratesofthequarter.com
Nadine Sestich shares about a time of heightened spiritual warfare in her family. Nadine explores how it is essential to be aware of how darkness can sneak into the lives of parents and their children to lure them away from God. Mothers must stay vigilant about what they and their children consume and rebuke the devil whenever necessary.
How do we have the hard conversations with our teens? How do we talk with them about mental health, pornography, sex, politics, social media, suicide prevention? How do we have these conversations and not get into arguments? Why are we triggered when our kids disagree with our viewpoints? Kristen Goodman, parent and teen coach and I have a great conversation about how to approach challenging talks with our kids. It doesn't have to go to arguing and contention. We can disagree without being disagreeable. Conflict is part of relationships, it's normal. It's okay to disagree, we don't have to bicker and get heated. Kristen Goodman website Parenting in the Middle podcast
The Dodgers aren't choosing an easy path to repeating as world champs: the boys in blue have their backs against the wall ... and while today's game isn't necessarily a must-win ... we're getting closer. So we'll go In Depth. If you're eligible to get a COVID booster shot, feel free to mix and match! That's the messaging from the FDA. And there is more evidence that the best protection you can have is natural immunity *plus* a dose of vaccine. And no, that's not a suggestion to go out and get infected. Tik Tok has proven to be pretty positive in exposing teenagers to mental health issues -- and in other ways, it's been a negative. Some teens watching mental health videos have developed physical tics. Cryptocurrency is going more and more mainstream, as you can now invest in a Bitcoin-linked fund. And with Netflix workers scheduled to walk out in protest tomorrow, we revisit the Dave Chappelle controversy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Today on the show, we opened up the phone lines and asked our listeners if they would let their teenage kids drink and party at home rather than somewhere else—is it good or bad parenting? Next, in the "Jealousy Trip," we prank Tony's wife because she thinks he's flirting with the neighbor—who cooked him a nice meal after mowing her lawn! Moreover, Shoboy brings up a new feature added on Tinder that will have your date show up straight to your door! Also, Eddie “The Virgin” is challenged with another spanish word in "En Pochas Palabras". Follow us @ShoboyShow Listen Live 6-10AM PST M-Fri on ShoboyShow.com Shoboy: @edgarisotelo Becca: @BeccaMGuzman Eddie The Virgin: @EddieSotelo Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
In this episode, you will learn: Andrew helps teens to coach them through tough times in their teenage years, as athletes or not. Building confidence and crushing limiting beliefs.
Money knowledge and how to manage it is one of the top issues many teens struggle with. According to Business News Daily: 17% of teens between the ages of 12 and 17 who said they knew how to manage their money, and the 24% of teen respondents said they did not know the difference between debit and credit cards. Charla McKinley's passion is helping parents and teens prepare for the world of adulting. McKinley has over 25 years working in both the corporate and private sectors. She is the founder of Beyond Personal Finance. A 20-lesson hands-on course guaranteed to awaken their financial maturity. Beyond Personal Finance is a radically different, fun approach to teaching the fundamentals of financial literacy. She joined me this week to discuss the course, and how she's helped hundreds of teens make smarter decisions to better manage their money. For more information: https://bpfclass.com/ Facebook: @bpfclass Email: email@example.com
In this episode Chris and Cortney go from hosts to parents and talk about raising their teenagers. They work through what it means to have teenagers, how the teens think, and what they are going through. As the adult there are things that you need to do to be understanding by using your x-ray goggles and help them navigate this difficult time of change. Tune in to see Parenting the Teenager Through a Therapist's Eyes.
Homeschooling boys can be a challenge—especially once they hit those teenage years. But it can also be a ton of fun! Join HSLDA High School Consultant LaNissir James as she chats with author, blogger, and speaker Monica Swanson about homeschooling teenage boys. They'll cover topics like boundaries and freedom, following your teen's interests, and how to keep a close relationship as your boys grow up. “Sometimes, especially around middle-school, when kids are tweens or teenagers, parents have this tendency to pull back and be like, “OK, I guess they need freedom now. They're changing. They've got their friends now and they don't need mom and dad.” And I'm like, “No, no, no, no!” This isn't the time to pull back. They actually need you now, maybe more than ever. I believe with all my heart that they are grateful when you give them a boundary. And I think when parents are kind of like, “Well, you decide,” they're kind of like, “I don't know! Who knows! How do I know?” They need somebody that says, ‘I actually know what's right and wrong.'” — Monica Swanson
Tessa Forshaw changed the way I teach high school students. After earning her BS degree in Australia, she came to the US and attended Stanford, where she earned her masters degree, and Harvard, where she teaches on the side as she pursues her Doctorate degree. In this podcast, we discuss her experiences at Harvard & Stanford, how she recommends people think about these schools when they need to choose one to attend (she had to choose between Stanford, Harvard, and Oxford), some of the brilliant ideas I learned while taking her Design Thinking class at Harvard, and her advice for ambitious teens.Tessa also leads the charge towards better business practices through her work at the Harvard Next Level Lab, and professionally as a top executive at People Rocket.
Join Rick for the second episode in a new ongoing series—“JESUS IN THE REAL WORLD.” We'll be pursuing the heart of Jesus through the lens of what's going on in the world right now… In our culture today, we are the most connected/disconnected generation in history. Never have we had more tools of connection, and habits of connection, but the research shows that this is the loneliest generation in American history. We'll explore what people were looking for when they met and decided to follow Jesus, and how He established deep, I'll-die-for-you relationships. Rick's new book, The Suicide Solution, is now available! You can check out its Amazon page here: https://www.amazon.com/Suicide-Solution-Finding-Your-Darkness/dp/1684511593/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1631675941&sr=8-1 And if you can watch Rick's webinar on the book, with co-author Dr. Daniel Emina, right here: https://youtu.be/M5KOBvGA2rs And don't forget to check out his new daily devotional Jesus-Centered Daily—go to jesuscentereddaily.com to download a 10-day sampler of the devotion, or to order it for yourself or as a gift. Or head straight to Amazon to order it: https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-Centered-Daily-Touch-Smell-Taste/dp/1470759608/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Jesus-Centered+Daily&qid=1599794429&sr=8-1 Sign Up for the FREE 7-Day Devotional Series, Drawn from the Jesus-Centered Daily https://www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-daily-download/?fbclid=IwAR2H19A3iHl53Rl7OUrJLWkq3NkFjSFlxTUnngBOAeZDvo2GHHUnnHWJQo0 Have you joined the Pigs? We're a group of friends ready to go all-in with Jesus—to live a life that's “free indeed” because we're wholly dependent on Him. Join us for exclusive behind-the-scenes insights, sneak peeks of new resources, opportunities to make your voice matter, prayer support, and connections to other Pigs inside our private Facebook group. Join Here- www.mylifetree.com/pratj-member-sign-up/ Join Rick's Email List ricklawrence.com/stay-connected/ Rick's Email Addresses firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com Vibrant Faith https://vibrantfaith.org Free Resources: As we continue to navigate COVID-19 and the changes it brings to our daily lives, we'd like to come alongside you with downloadable freebies to help provide you with new activities, devotions, and more for your kids, family, teenagers, and you on a weekly basis. Check out our free resource hub NOW! www.mylifetree.com/free Related Resources: The Suicide Solution (NEW!) https://www.amazon.com/Suicide-Solution-Finding-Your-Darkness/dp/1684511593/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=the+Suicide+Solution&qid=1628897750&sr=8-2 Jesus-Centered Daily (NEW!) www.amazon.com/Jesus-Centered-Da…1593117629&sr=8-1 Spiritual Grit: A Journey Into Endurance. Character. Confidence. Hope. www.mylifetree.com/shop/spiritual-grit/ Growing Spiritual Grit for Teenagers: 40 Devotions www.mylifetree.com/shop/growing-sp…s-40-devotions/ Growing Spiritual Grit: 52 Personal Devotions www.mylifetree.com/shop/growing-sp…onal-devotions/ Eyewitness: The Visual Bible Experience https://www.amazon.com/Eyewitness-Visual-Experience-Jeff-White/dp/1470759578/ref=pd_sbs_14_1/132-7622904-7185632?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1470759578&pd_rd_r=27647dc9-aab2-4e56-9809-0537a99b9d44&pd_rd_w=jf8u1&pd_rd_wg=AgTuz&pf_rd_p=b65ee94e-1282-43fc-a8b1-8bf931f6dfab&pf_rd_r=J68GBQY7VDQSB2JT651D&psc=1&refRID=J68GBQY7VDQSB2JT651D www.experienceeyewitness.com The Jesus-Centered Life: The Life You Didn't Think Was Possible, With the Jesus You Never Knew by Rick Lawrence www.mylifetree.com/shop/the-jesus-centered-life/ The Jesus-Centered Bible www.mylifetree.com/jesus-centered-bible-shop-page/ The God Who Fights for You: How He Shows Up in Your Suffering by Rick Lawrence www.amazon.com/God-Who-Fights-Yo…ing/dp/073697704X The Jesus-Centered Planner 2020 amzn.to/2T0F0fx The Jesus-Centered Journal www.mylifetree.com/?s=jesus-center…imit=20&ixwps=1
Click for full show notes, exercises, and parenting scripts from this episodeParenting is never predictable. Even when we think we know our kid, some new interest or personality trait suddenly comes out of left field. Maybe your kid has always been a total carnivore, but this week, all their friends are vegan...so they want to be vegan too! Yesterday, your kid wanted to be a pro basketball player, but today they want to be a painter...tomorrow they'll tell you they're destined to be a scientist. It can be dizzying to keep up with your teens as they grow and evolve everyday!But what about when a kid who's always happy and smiling suddenly seems tired and disinterested in things? Or when your teen who swore they'd never smoke accidentally leaves a vape in the kitchen? When these kinds of unexpected parenting troubles pop up, it's hard to adjust and react effectively. It can be incredibly challenging to avoid the urge to panic, and nearly impossible to remain cool and parent through peril.According to this week's guest, the secret to handling the ups and downs is to define our values–and stick to them. His name is Frank Figliuzzi and he' the former assistant director of the FBI, served as FBI chief inspector for sensitive internal inquiries, and is now a national security analyst for NBC news! His new book, The FBI Way: Inside the Bureau's Code of Excellence, highlights the principles that make the FBI so successful at handling crises and explains how you can apply those same principles when things go awry with your teen.In the episode, we're touching on what Frank calls “the seven Cs”, or seven fundamentals that parents can practice to create a harmonious house and handle conflict when it arises. We're covering the importance of sticking to a code of values, practicing clarity, and enforcing consistent consequences–but not without compassion, credibility and conservancy. Click for full show notes, exercises, and parenting scripts from this episode
A bonus exclusive interview with THE Jamie Lee Curtis, Laurie Strode herself, about the new film Halloween Kills, out in UK cinemas now. We talk about her not knowing what a 'final girl' was, a show she developed called 'The Final Girls' and why people have loved Laurie Strode since 1978. Produced and presented by Anna Bogutskaya***Music: "Slasher" by Karl Casey @ White Bat Audio***The Final Girls are a UK-based film collective exploring the intersections of horror film and feminism, founded by Anna Bogutskaya and Olivia Howe.→ Find out more about our projects here: thefinalgirls.co.uk→ Follow us on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.→ Support us on Patreon.→ Subscribe to our weekly newsletter for curated horror treats and original writing on horror.
When you think of slumber parties, you think of murder... right? Joining us this week is podcaster Mary Wild to go deep on the feminist intentions of The Slumberparty Massacre, the similarities of the driller killer to BOB from Twin Peaks and its dark, dark humour. With a much less deep discussion on the musical psycho horror show that is The Slumberparty Massacre II and its leather daddy killer. Produced and presented by Anna Bogutskaya***Music: "Slasher" by Karl Casey @ White Bat Audio***The Final Girls are a UK-based film collective exploring the intersections of horror film and feminism, founded by Anna Bogutskaya and Olivia Howe.→ Find out more about our projects here: thefinalgirls.co.uk→ Follow us on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.→ Support us on Patreon.→ Subscribe to our weekly newsletter for curated horror treats and original writing on horror.
This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation with Helena. She is a 23-year-old detransitioned woman, well-known on Twitter and YouTube for her insights into the FtM trans kid mindset. The self-described “gender apostate” shares her thoughts on ROGD's relationship with critical social justice, fandom culture, “shipping,” and the extraordinary fascination many teenage girls have with young gay men. Links: Helena on Twitter: https://twitter.com/lacroicsz (Twitter.com/lacroicsz) Extended Notes: Helena is a detransitioned woman. She identified as a transgender man at 15, but by 19, she wanted to become a woman again. A little bit about Helena and her detransition journey. Before Helena started testosterone, she had this fantasy that not being female would be amazing. Helena was very isolated in her journey. Her ex, also a trans person, was against her detransitioning. As she was on this journey as a man, she was so tired of pretending to be masculine and wearing clothes that didn't fit her body. What was it like psychologically to suppress Helena's feminine side for so long? Has social justice affected or played a role in trans identity? Helena remembers reading things like, if you feel different than everybody else, it probably means you're trans. Teenagers are biologically more sensitive to social rejection from their peers, and they'll do anything to fit in and belong. Whenever Helena was questioned about her new identity, she just thought they were just stuck in old beliefs and just wouldn't listen. Helena explains what a trans medicalist is and shares her thoughts on the difference between non-binary people and trans people. What makes someone a cis girl or a cis boy or what really makes someone trans? The reasons are very superficial. Cis allies are finding it difficult to be allies to the transgender community because they're being told their opinions don't count. What is trans fandom all about? And what is “shipping” all about within this fandom culture? A lot of these “shipping” content has sexual undertones of gay pairings of common fictional characters. Growing up, it can get confusing. Men, that you're basing your identity off of, are being written by teenage girls. Let's talk about Tumblr and how these trans mood boards all originated. Helena remembers this internet time very fondly. She loved being on the “gay” side of the internet where it was all acceptable. Helena wishes there was a way people can indulge in their sexuality in a non-threatening way, but she also understands that too much of it can lead down the wrong path where it creates dysphoria. This podcast is partially sponsored by ReIME, Rethink Identity Medicine Ethics: https://rethinkime.org/ (Rethinkime.org) Learn more about our show: https://linktr.ee/WiderLensPod (Linktr.ee/WiderLensPod) Support this podcast
Lynette and Stefanie open this week's second episode of For Crying Out Loud talking about their daughters homecoming dances. Then, Stefanie gives an update on Elby's driving. After that, the ladies discuss Netflix's Squid Game, and other shows they've been watching or want to start. Before they wrap, Lynette and Stef talk about Halloween. And thanks for supporting today's sponsors: BollAndBranch.com/FCOL, Try.Scribd.com/FCOL, MyChinet.com, and Geico.com
Who Killed 17-year-old Beth Bramlett in August, 1982, in Axtell, Texas? Her case occurred just weeks after the Lake Waco Murders, Leaving the the community on edge. SOURCES:https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/this-psychologist-explains-why-people-confess-to-crimes-they-didnt-commit.htmlhttps://www.kwtx.com/content/news/KWTX-COLD-CASE-FILES-442141273.htmlhttps://www.kxxv.com/story/37397190/murder-of-teenager-in-1982-solved-suspect-died-in-2014https://www.texasmonthly.com/articles/the-murders-at-the-lake/https://www.newspapers.com/clip/87017993/https://www.newspapers.com/clip/87016679/https://www.newspapers.com/clip/87016538/https://wacotrib.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/investigators-pin-teens-1982-slaying-on-suspect-in-initial-investigation/article_d5b45551-36f4-5bd0-91df-8ae0770653a1.amp.htmlhttps://www.kwtx.com/content/news/Investigators-unravel-mystery-of-1982-murder-of-Central-Texas-teen-472007393.html
Today I have a special Q&A podcast just for YOU! I'm answering questions I received from a recent Instagram post (click here to view it) about how many calories you need in a day. As I read over those questions, I will answer them to clarify and offer other points that might be helpful, especially to those who are currently struggling with food. I will answer questions about topics such as; Understanding calories How many calories you need in a day Sustaining a healthy functioning body Non Exercise Activity Thermogenesis (NEAT) impact on overall calories Set point theory and body weight regulation Definition of maintenance calories Teenagers. Why they SHOULD NOT be trying to lose weight Calorie calculators - which one to use?? AND so much more! If you are struggling to stop binge eating, get your period back without the pill and want to reach health and fitness goals without obsession… I want you to know you don't have to do this alone. My 3 month Group Coaching Program IS BACK!!!The goal of this program is to show you that you're not alone and give you a proven framework to overcome the issues so you can reach both your fitness goals and maintain your sanity. Click here to learn all the deets and fill out an application Early bird pricing is available until 10/17. Limited spots remain!Send me a DM and we can talk more about what's a good fit for you!
Ted Lasso, the critically acclaimed show starring Jason Sudeikis on Apple TV, serves as a springboard in this podcast episode to discuss the emotional lives of fathers and sons. We encourage parents to watch Ted Lasso with their tweens and teens and the many lessons the show teaches on mental health, connection, and injury. Note: Spoilers are in this episode for those who have not viewed Seasons 1 and 2 of Ted Lasso.The episode we encourage you to listen to is Dads, Depression, and Anxiety. NEW Course for Parents!Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for ParentsThis self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice.This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux.What you'll get:Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own.Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids.For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.Follow UsJoin the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids.Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram.Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
In this episode of Raising Fearless Girls: How to use a discerning eye Sexualization at school The culture that's raising our daughters Links from This Episode Colin Kartchner Ted Talk Childhood 2.0 Documentary Book, We Will Not Be Silenced by Erwin Lutzer Episode #69, Cut Out Weekday Screen Time Follow our Podcast IG @RaisingFearlessGirls Facebook.com/RaisingFearlessGirls http://raisingfearlessgirls.com/ Follow our Host IG @saravanessamcg
Hosts: Joe and Erin Wells | Released Thursday, October 14, 2021 When you think of health, what comes to your mind? If you're typical, you think of eating healthy, drinking plenty of water, and exercising at least 3-5 times a week. However, have you ever stopped to consider the health benefits of taking some downtime? In this episode, […]
Bullies rarely ever see themselves, or their actions as being a bully. They often don't even realize what they are doing is negatively impacting someone. What if the bully actually needs help? Sometimes all it takes is for the bully to realize they are, in fact, a bully. Bullies don't want to think of themselves as a bully, and sometimes that is all it takes to change a bully's ways. Joey Mascio - Firmly Founded Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | tiktok
Couple used a tiger in their gender reveal party in Dubai. Teenager in China pretended to be a boy to join boyband. Teachers in UK are banned from using words "good" or "bad". // Weird AF News is the only daily weird news podcast hosted by a comedian because I believe your daily dose of weird af stories deserves a comedic spin. Show your SUPPORT by joining the Weird AF News Patreon where you'll get bonus episodes and other weird af news stuff http://patreon.com/weirdafnews - WATCH Weird AF News on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/weirdafnews - check out the official website https://WeirdAFnews.com and FOLLOW host Jonesy at http://instagram.com/funnyjones or http://twitter.com/funnyjones or http://facebook.com/comedianjonesy or http://Jonesy.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Sam Parr (@theSamParr) and Shaan Puri (@ShaanVP) discuss Brumate, the company that scaled to $20M without a single employee, how F*** You Pay Me is helping influencers discover what they're truly worth, how to do an energy audit, and much more. --------- * Do you love MFM and want to see Sam and Shaan's smiling faces? Subscribe to our Youtube channel * Want more insights like MFM? Check out Shaan's newsletter --------- Show Notes: 0:00 - Recapping Rob Dyrdek and when to work to be most productive 10:35 - How to do an “energy audit” 12:50 - Brumate - the company making $20M with 0 employees 17:40 - Companies making businesses selling water bottles 19:45 - How MVMT sold for $100M+ 21:50 - Shaan will start a coconut water brand with you 26:47 - Carpet cleaner businesses - the perfect teenager side hustle 29:35 - The life-changing power of making your first side-hustle dollar 31:40 - Billy of the Week: Shahid Khan 40:55 - F*** You Pay Me - how influencers are getting paid 44:00 - How to make better investor updates 48:00 - Sam's update on becoming a fitness influencer 54:25 - Why Shaan gets free merch and Sam doesn't --------- Links: * vcguide.co * F*** You Pay Me * MVMT * Brumate * Cabal
Schools, parents & educationists say sleeping & eating patterns as well as the amount students interact with each other has changed. Kids from low-income families have it worse.----more---- https://theprint.in/india/education/back-in-school-after-lockdowns-kids-struggling-to-adjust-teenagers-dont-want-to-open-up/748679/
Meet Zach Gottlieb, the "TEEN Instagrammer" who is getting guys and other teens to talk about their mental health, in particular those issues related to male feelings and toxic masculinity. In this episode, the Two Jess(es) are blown away by this teen's articulate way of expressing his experiences and observations around his own mental health, as he shares WHY he started his Instagram page (@talkwithzach) and how teens all over the world and looking to him for advice to source answers to their questions that most teens are not talking about openly, but should.To find out more about Zach, you can read about him here: https://katiecouric.com/health/teen-wants-to-get-guys-to-talk-about-their-feelings-end-toxic-masculinity/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)
Learn about why high school starts too early; why daydreaming might be a good sign; and finding life on Hycean planets. High school starts too early in all but 3 US states — but things are changing by Steffie Drucker Roy, S. (2014, August 26). AAP Recommends Delaying School Start Times to Combat Teen Sleep... Sleep Review. https://www.sleepreviewmag.com/sleep-health/demographics/age/aap-recommends-delaying-school-start-times-combat-teen-sleep-deprivation/ CDC. (2020, May 29). Schools Start Too Early. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. https://www.cdc.gov/sleep/features/schools-start-too-early.html National Teacher and Principal Survey (NTPS). (2017). Ed.gov; National Center for Education Statistics. https://nces.ed.gov/surveys/ntps/tables/ntps1718_table_05_s1s.asp Jacobs, F. (2021, August 27). Here's how early school begins – and why it is bad for students. Big Think; Big Think. https://bigthink.com/strange-maps/heres-how-early-school-begins-and-why-it-is-bad-for-students Sleep for Teenagers | Sleep Foundation. (2009, April 17). Sleep Foundation. https://www.sleepfoundation.org/teens-and-sleep Daydreaming Might Be a Sign of an Efficient Brain by Reuben Westmaas Daydreaming is Good. It Means You're Smart | News Center. (2017). Gatech.edu. https://www.news.gatech.edu/news/2017/10/24/daydreaming-good-it-means-youre-smart Godwin, C. A., Hunter, M. A., Bezdek, M. A., Lieberman, G., Elkin-Frankston, S., Romero, V. L., Witkiewitz, K., Clark, V. P., & Schumacher, E. H. (2017). Functional connectivity within and between intrinsic brain networks correlates with trait mind wandering. Neuropsychologia, 103, 140–153. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.neuropsychologia.2017.07.006 A wandering mind reveals mental processes and priorities. (2012). Wisc.edu. https://news.wisc.edu/a-wandering-mind-reveals-mental-processes-and-priorities/ Levinson, D. B., Smallwood, J., & Davidson, R. J. (2012). The Persistence of Thought. Psychological Science, 23(4), 375–380. https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797611431465 Forget Earth-like planets — it's time to look for alien life on Hycean planets by Briana Brownell New class of habitable exoplanets are “a big step forward” in the search for life. (2021, August 26). University of Cambridge. https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/new-class-of-habitable-exoplanets-are-a-big-step-forward-in-the-search-for-life Madhusudhan, N., Piette, A. A. A., & Constantinou, S. (2021). Habitability and Biosignatures of Hycean Worlds. The Astrophysical Journal, 918(1), 1. https://doi.org/10.3847/1538-4357/abfd9c Follow Curiosity Daily on your favorite podcast app to learn something new every day withCody Gough andAshley Hamer. Still curious? Get exclusive science shows, nature documentaries, and more real-life entertainment on discovery+! Go to https://discoveryplus.com/curiosity to start your 7-day free trial. discovery+ is currently only available for US subscribers. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This weeks question is from Meg, “I am needing advice for how to handle nutrition and eating with my 13-year-old daughter. She's got anxiety and attention issues, and we've known for a long time that food impacts her symptoms. When she was younger, it was easier to control what she ate. Now that she's older, it's become more of a power struggle. She's eating and drinking all kinds of things that are causing problems for her, and I worry about her weight as well. We just seem to be arguing about it all the time at home, and I'm not sure how to get her to listen. Any advice?" In this episode, I will address how parents can help kids make healthier food choices. It all starts with how you are communicating with your child or teen. If the trust and good communication aspects aren't there, it's likely nothing will change. When you listen to one another and build trust, they usually respond by being more open to change. Modeling what you hope to see in your kids and teens is very effective. Kids notice what we do. And finally, in this episode, I will provide specific strategies on how to raise healthy eaters at any age. You can submit a question by emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject line "Podcast Question." Connect with Dr. Nicole Beurkens on... Instagram Facebook Drbeurkens.com The Controllable Aspects of Kids' Diets Focus on what we can control as caregivers such as the food we purchase and bring home Try to stay factual, neutral, and not let our emotions or future-oriented thinking, fears, anxieties take over Kids, even in their teen years, can struggle with regulating their emotions, especially for intense/or sensitive topics such as food When caregivers are neutral rather than in an agitated state, the information is more likely to get in, even if the child doesn't acknowledge it in the moment Modeling Healthy Food Habits is the Most Impactful Be aware of what your child is hearing and internalizing from adults, peers, and on social media/TV about food, eating, fitting in, body image, etc. Be mindful of how you act and speak about your own body, weight, food choices, etc. Focus on what you can control by modeling Not having a conversation with them about it when we're doing this Not trying to force them to eat what we're eating -We're simply being a model of how to make those decisions and how we're thinking about those things (ex. when I eat X, I notice I feel Y) Staying away from black and white thinking around “good vs bad” foods It can create anxiety, stress, and power struggles Weight Concerns and Kids It is critical that we avoid talking about food and eating as related to weight for any child, especially teens This can set them up for dysfunctional thoughts and feelings around food and around their bodies (ex. diet culture and restriction) Instead, focus on food as providing information, fuel, and building blocks for our brains and bodies, and the physical and mental health components/effects Are you Really Listening to Your Kids? Important to acknowledge and empathize with how they feel, even when we don't agree with them ex. "Yeah, I get it, it feels frustrating. You know what? I remember feeling frustrated when I was your age, too. It's okay to feel that way, I get it." When an opportunity arises that they initiate, spotlight (in a productive way) the food-body connection involving any symptom struggles they might be experiencing (ex. they are complaining about acne but they have been eating a lot of sugar and fast food) Use that as an opportunity to listen, hear their frustrations, and what they're experiencing, and also help them make some connections with things, both in their eating and their lifestyle Casually make the observations and open up those conversations by raising possibilities Not doing the thing that's going to shut it down right away, which is, "Well, of course, you're breaking out because XYZ” Instead, ask them what they think might be going on What We Can Control with Their Food Parents need to focus on what is being brought into the home, groceries, availability/timing, where you choose to eat out, etc., and not micromanaging what goes on outside the home (exceptions for children with dietary requirements or special needs). Do not become the “food police” as they can make it much more likely that they are going to sneak food, not be open, not tell you what's going on, or develop anxiety and distrust around these things This can lead to massive power struggles and breakdowns in our relationship with our kids Remember parent roles are to provide the food and when the child's role is to decide if they will eat and how much Development and Appetite Shifts Infancy and adolescence are significant periods of growth and require more food Suggest that all families have foods readily available that kids can access at any time if they're hungry such as fruits and vegetables and nuts. Cultivate Open Communication with Kids Be a safe place for them to bring questions, observations, concerns Keep putting things out there and let them know that you always want to answer any questions that they have, hear how they're feeling about things related to food, meals, etc. Remember being open to hearing and discussing doesn't mean you necessarily agree It's about acknowledgment They really appreciate feeling respected in that way and feeling acknowledged Better Brain and Behavior Diet Workshop for More Support I cover food, nutrition, eating approaches, tools, and strategies to implement as the parent, but also for the entire family There is an emphasis on eating to best support our kid's brains, which then helps to support their behavior, learning, mood, anxiety Feedback from current parents that having their older kids watch some of the videos is extremely helpful for them to hear it from somebody who is not their parent Visit drnicoleworkshops.com
The Stanford Design school is world-famous and is universally considered the top design program in the world. Rich Braden is the CEO & founder of People Rocket, a design thinking consulting company. He has also lectured at Stanford & Harvard for years. He currently teaches creativity and innovation at Stanford, the d.school, and Harvard, where I took his class and was blown away by how down to earth and practical his thinking can be. In this interview he was absolutely brilliant, and among other things, I asked him how we could use design thinking in our impact projects. enjoy!
Anxiety is a pretty common feeling–you likely know how it feels to have your heart suddenly race in your chest, your palms go sweaty and your words turn to gibberish before a big presentation or confrontation. Having these anxious feelings is bad enough when it's an isolated incident, but many of us–and our kids–might be feeling anxiety every day! This could be caused by anything, from eating to driving to social situations! For kids handling school, sports, clubs, college apps and friendship drama, anxiety may be a frequent presence keeping them from living their best life.It seems like this anxiety is simply an unavoidable, biological force, but our guest this week is encouraging us to think about anxious behaviors a little differently. Instead of viewing them as something we have little control over, he's telling us how anxiety may actually just be a force of habit, and therefore something we can change! Anxious responses follow the same patterns as habits, are often caused by similar triggers, and, as we're discussing this week, can be treated in similar ways.If you're looking to heal you or your teen's anxious patterns, this is the episode for you! Our guest is Judson Brewer, author of Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind. Judson is not only an internationally renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist, but also the director of research and innovation at Brown's mindfulness center. His 2016 Ted Talk, tilted “A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit, has over 16 million views on YouTube!In our interview, we're diving into how anxious tendencies act just like habits–with triggers, behavior and rewards. Plus, we're getting into how you can understand and reflect on your own behaviors, if you just have the courage to be curious.
For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor walk through their own 'Sex-Ed' experiences, and discuss how they plan to talk to their own children about sex and sexual health one day. We hope this episode can be a great jumping off point for important parent/teenager conversations that may happen throughout these teen years, to help you equip your children in making wise decisions as they go through high school.Be sure to check out the blog post that goes along with this podcast at http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com !