Podcasts about sex addiction

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Our topic of discussion, today, is how a woman can heal when fantasy was a part of his acting out behaviors? This type of fantasy is more than just an innocent daydream anticipating your upcoming vacation, Patrick Carnes, in his book Out of the Shadows, defines fantasy as, “…the altered [mental] state where anticipation and planning override conscience and consequence.” In other words, this type of fantasy goes against values and ignores the relational consequences that can come if this fantasy is acted out. We Will be Discussing: Definitions of fantasy What about fantasy impacts a partner so greatly? How does comparison play into this scenario for her?

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreShaped by circumstances from birth Picture the new born baby which starts life with innocence and a brain with few impressions. It starts to experience life and living and soon the brain has some impressions and templates being carved out. Good and not so good experiences and impressions. A distorted image develops. The individual distorted image of a male coming with his own unique impressions and experiences of life and the individual distorted image of a female also coming with her own unique impressions and experiences of life, get together (perhaps marry) and become an item. The two distorted images are suppose to live a lifetime together in harmony. Their differing impressions and experiences of life, including the adaptations they have had to make to survive life, may no longer serve them well in the new twosome. Adapt and survive or live with conflict is now the choice. The two individuals look sound from external appearances, but inside they have many unresolved issues. Diagram: Pinch & Crunch (You really need to see the Pinch & Crunch diagram to make sense of this episode. Send me a message to get it, as I cannot add images to the Podcast).We enter relationships at the courting stage, bringing with us all our stuff (good and not so good). We are actually negotiating with each other as we adapt and seek to ascertain whether there are enough common attractions that can hold and carry the relationship. There is a collusive fit which brought us together, but that is not enough to keep us in courtship. If time proves to be a glue, then time may also see the relationship develop to permanency or marriage. A pinch will disrupt harmony and we must decide which option to take to deal with the pinch which has the potential to de-stabilise. Options include fight, flight, separate, divorce, counselling or going back to an earlier stage in the relationship and starting again to renegotiate needs and expectations. Crunches are an even more painful and de- stabilising assaults on the relationship and like pinches, we must choose an option, including doing nothing. Doing nothing is to coast in the relationship. We are then at the mercy of an event in the future which will occur and take the choice out of our hands, so that outcomes are no longer determinable by the parties. Get some help from The Kairos Centre.Give a little to my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreBritish Podcast Awards 2025: Would you consider voting for this Podcast?https://www.britishpodcastawards.com/votingGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | NeurosciSupport the show

Send us a textIs sex addiction even real?In this bold and much-needed episode, I'm joined by Dr. Sue Milstein and her co-host Charlie for a raw conversation that takes on the myths and misinformation around hypersexuality and so-called “sex addiction.”We talk about: – Why “sex addiction” isn't actually a clinical diagnosis – How pathologizing pleasure fuels shame and repression – The difference between compulsive behavior and healthy desire – What queer folks, women, and survivors need to know about how this label has been weaponized – And how we can stop framing desire as a diseaseWhether you've been told you're “too much,” “out of control,” or “addicted” to sex—or just want to understand how shame shapes our sexual culture—this one's for you.Pleasure isn't the problem. The story we've been told about it is.You can listen to Unzipping Taboos here: Check out Unzipping Tabboos: https://open.spotify.com/show/0W4qb8B7nZW8O3GMoQUZ5E?si=3cd730666f3d499aYou can find my spicy site here. https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/My spicy OF handle is @talksexwithannetteMy free spicy handle is @annettetalkssexSubscribe to my e-newsletter: https://she-explores-life.ck.page/e9760c390cAsk a question, Leave a Comment: https://www.speakpipe.com/LockerRoomTalkPodcastMy substack: https://talksexwithannette.substack.com/Use code EXPLORES15 for 15% off all Womanizer Products at Womanizer.com. Get 30% Off Sex Toys & Lube with code EXPLORES30 at thethruster.com: https://bit.ly/3Xsj5wY Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get 15% Off The Life Saving, Erection Enhancing Tech Cockring By Firmtech with my code ANNETTE15 at: https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Get your intimacy questions answered, enjoy erotic audio readings and more.https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-me/Support the show Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials: TikTok: @ LockerRoomTalkPodcast LRT's Insta: @Lockerroomtalkandshots Annette's Insta: @BeingBenedetti SEL Inst: @SheExplores_Life LRT's FB: @LockerRoomTalkandShots SEL FB: @ SheExploresLife Annette's YouTube: Annette Benedetti Check Out More Sexy Content:She Explores Life Website: sheexploreslife.comCheers!

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreHighs and lows of the Couples relationship is a given. What impacts you, may not impact a partner and vice versa. Childhood development personality and characteristic sharping experiences, play a significant part in that process.Sex Addicts need to take their shoes off and step into the shoes of a partner in order to see the relationship from the partner's vantage point and perspective. All clients with Sex and/or Porn Addiction have traits which come from Narcissism. (That does not mean they are necessarily to be diagnosed with NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder).Seeing life and the relationship from the vantage point of the impacted partner is going to be very scary for the Addict. It means that they have to set aside Narcissistic tendencies and embrace Empathy for a short while.That really is scary indeed for the Sex/Porn Addict with Narcissistic traits. Most of them believe that they are Empathic and 'do' for others. (I suggest that they are Empathic in a conditional way; only so long as something comes back to reward them for good deeds; but they cannot see it and would strongly object to this statement).I suggest that the antidote to Narcissism is Empathy. They both CANNOT co-exist at a high level of expression in the same person. Just like the same poles of a magnet repel each other, so it is with Narcissism and Empathy. Only one can rule and be (being) used at a higher degree than the other.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Give a little to my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreBritish Podcast Awards 2025: Would you consider voting for this Podcast?https://www.britishpodcastawards.com/votingNow launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing Journeys | Personal Growth | Intimacy Building | Healthy RelationshiSupport the show

PBSE Podcast Episode 287 explores the recurring emotional turmoil experienced by a betrayed partner whose addict spouse continues to cycle through emotional relapses, despite seemingly engaging in recovery activities. Every six months, he emotionally regresses—questioning their relationship, doubting compatibility, and withdrawing connection—which destabilizes her sense of safety and triggers deep trauma. In her desperation for reassurance, she finds herself compulsively seeking emotional details, only to be retraumatized further. The article highlights that this dynamic, often driven by fear and confusion, creates a lopsided relationship where she becomes the emotional pursuer while he remains distant and inconsistent.The authors emphasize that this cycle cannot be broken by surface-level recovery or simply “doing the right things.” True healing requires the addict to engage in deeper emotional work, initiate vulnerability, express consistent gratitude, and offer proactive transparency. Simultaneously, the betrayed partner must establish clear boundaries, articulate her emotional needs, and begin shifting her support system to include emotionally safe, non-romantic relationships outside the marriage. These actions help her move from desperation to empowerment, offering both self-preservation and clarity around what kind of relationship she's willing to invest in.Ultimately, the article calls for both partners to be fully engaged—not just during crises, but consistently. Emotional safety, mutual respect, and honest communication are the pillars of sustainable recovery and intimacy. While the current cycle may feel hopeless, with intentional effort and deep personal work on both sides, it is possible to rebuild a relationship that is emotionally grounded, safe, and truly connected.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: My Addict Partner Keeps Going Through Cycles of Taking Me for Granted. What do I do?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Justin B is the host of Reco12 and a son of an all-powerful and perfectly loving God and a multi-disciplinary addict living in the miracle of one-day-at-a-time recovery.  He has been in the rooms of recovery for about 12 years and is highly devoted to practicing the principles of recovery in all aspects of his life (imperfectly).  Today he speaks to us on a topic he entitled, "On the Same Team" in which he shares the power that comes into a coupleship when both partners are working their own recovery and speaking the same language.  Reco12 is an open-to-all addictions and afflictions organization, dedicated to exploring the common threads of the differing manifestations of alcoholism; sharing tools, and offering hope from those walking a similar path. We gather from diverse backgrounds, faiths, and locations to learn and support one another. Our speakers come from various fellowships and experiences, demonstrating the universal principles of recovery.  Reco12 is not allied or affiliated with any specific 12 Step fellowship.Support Reco12's 12th Step Mission! Help provide powerful audio resources for addicts and their loved ones. Your contributions cover Zoom, podcasts, web hosting, and admin costs.Monthly Donations: Reco12 SupportOne-Time Donations: PayPal | Venmo: @Reco-Twelve | PatreonYour support makes a difference—thank you!Outro music is "The Screen Between Us” Copyright Just Joey 10th Leper (Joseph Nehls).  To learn more or if you have questions, please visit joe@soffender.com  http://www.soffender.com or find the YouTube Channel for other recovery songs at https://www.youtube.com/@tenthleper Use by Reco12 of this song and any other from the tenthleper YouTube page is done with full permission of the artist.  Information on Noodle It Out with Nikki M Big Book Roundtable InformationalSupport the showPrivate Facebook GroupInstagram PageBecome a Reco12 Spearhead (Monthly Supporter)PatreonPayPalVenmo: @Reco-TwelveYouTube ChannelReco12 WebsiteEmail: reco12pod@gmail.com to join WhatsApp GroupReco12 Shares PodcastReco12 Shares Record a Share LinkReco12 Noodle It Out with Nikki M PodcastReco12 Big Book Roundtable Podcast

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreWe fall in love with 'Differenceness' and 'Sameness'. Over the years, we can become dissatisfied with the unconscious differences of a partner, that is now in the conscious. So we set about trying to change them to be more like us, since those visible and conscious differences are no longer seemingly acceptable or wanted. We consciously now only want the sameness bits. So the fight over the toilet seat (up or down), and the top off the toothpaste, is in full flow. Yet, it has nothing to do with the toilet seat or the toothpaste (which 'breaks the camel's back') - causing us to retreat from the relationship.Here is a little of what Authors Jacobs, Dicks & Scarff have to say: "Unconscious attraction: Choice or chemistry: we are not aware of it. At an unconscious level we often pick and are picked out by a partner who has had similar earlier life experiences. They may have dealt with these experiences in an opposite way. Unconscious choice of a partner is based on similarity. It may feel that you "complete each other" or have found your "other half........When couples unconsciously choose each other it may be as a second chance to play out old conflicts (from childhood) which were not successfully managed the first time around".We choose partners & are chosen by partners at both conscious & conscious levels.Counselling may explore the idea of "chemistry" between two people: how two people "fit" together to form a "whole".Hendrix & LaKelly add their worth by suggesting:"The Search For "One and Only": So how does this information add to our understanding of romantic attraction? We seem to be highly selective in our choice of mates. In fact, we appear to be searching for a "one and only" with a very specific set of positive and negative traits....... we are each looking for someone who has the predominant character traits of the people who raised us....it is a compelling need to heal old childhood wounds". Aren't we strange and fickle people - us human beings? Might AI do it better for us - partner choice I mean?British Podcast Awards 2025: Would you consider voting for this Podcast?https://www.britishpodcastawards.com/votingGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | RelaSupport the show

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreEarly relationships (often with our parents) has a very powerful impact on the blueprint of partner choice. They are unconsciously looked at as being able to repair those childhood wounds. We often seek a blueprint that “fits” ours.When we meet a potential partner, we have an opportunity to re-Attach to a loved person, just like (or better than) the Attachment bonding we had with our parents when we were young. A 'someone' we feel safe with and gives us other familiar feelings which usually make us feel comfortable and have a sense of belonging.We tend to idealise our partners initially. In time, we get very disappointed when they do not live up to our expectations. We feel very let down.Both, may have had Attachment issues from childhood and have separation anxiety, but they may have different coping styles. At some point, when repeated conflict arises, questions and doubt also surface like:“This is not the person I thought I had married.” After the shock, comes denial. The disappointment is so great that you don't allow yourself to see the truth. You do your best to see your partner's negative traits in a positive light. Eventually, however, the denial can no longer be sustained. You feel betrayed.We fall in love with 'sameness' and 'differenceness'. This is why we find “opposites attract”. We are unconsciously searching for and eventually think that we have found 'the one'; our 'other half/better half!'.It should be remembered that all couple fits, serve an emotional and psychological purpose. They are there to provide comfort, a sense of security and wholeness. We are not always aware of our fit until it is challenged or disrupted. Do any of these seem familiar in your relationship?:Babes in the Wood: Cling together in the face of the odds. Unconscious rejection; repressed anger within the relationship; expressed anger at people outside the relationship. They often look the same and will behave in a likeable, affable manner. A couple such as this see all the bad things in the world as belonging in the outside world and not part of themselves. They keep anything bad out of their relationship. The world literally is a “big bad wolf”.Net and Sword: The ‘net' shows all the love & tries to encompass, control or placate the sword. Conscious rejection; deny need or yearning for other. Relationship works well until one partner owns up to their denied feelings & decides they will not be responsible for the others unexpressed feelings. One partner shows all the love and the other, all the rejection. One person expresses all the denied emotions that the other cannot or will not express. This relationship works well until one partner owns up to their denied feelings and decides they will not be responsible for the others unexpressed feelings, often plunging the other into confusion or profound feelings of loss.  Cat and Dog: Characterised by anger, rejection and other destructive emotions. Both are only conscious of the bad in each other, but often will not part because they fear they cannot or will not be able to find a relationship with anybody better. This relationship is characterised by anger, rejection and a host of other destructive emotions. Both are only conscious of the bad in each other and their lives seem like a war zone. Intimacy is regulated by conflict and they often will not part because they fear they cannot or will not be able to find a relationship with anybody better. (I call this one "Tom & Jerry" - characterised by a never-ending chase and never catching the other)Support the show

This week, Merrit is joined by Kevin White as he shares his story of recovery from sex addiction, the trauma behind it, and how to find your gifts that help you become the person you want to be in sobriety.Purchase a copy of Merrit's book "Lost Innocence" by visiting: amazon.comFor the audiobook version visit Merrit on Instagram @merrithartblay and click the link in his bio.Hosted by: Merrit HartblayExecutive Producer: Jess Branashttp://www.branasenterprises.com

If you or your partner are navigating the aftermath of infidelity and wondering whether the sexual behavior involved was really “sex addiction,” this episode is a must-listen. In Episode 86, I'm unpacking one of the most common and confusing questions couples face after betrayal: Is it sex addiction—or is something else going on? We'll explore: Why “sex addiction” is not a recognized mental health diagnosis in the DSM-5 The risk of mislabeling sexual behavior and missing the deeper emotional drivers What the Out of Control Sexual Behavior (OCSB) model is and why it offers a more compassionate, effective path forward Actionable next steps for couples dealing with out-of-control sexual behavior—including excessive porn use or secretive sexual activity This episode is especially supportive for couples who want to move beyond shame, blame, or one-size-fits-all labels and into real, values-based healing.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreAt the beginning of the couples therapy session, I like to ask a first question - 'How did you guys meet?' Telling the story will reveal the greater truth about where the couple are at in the conflict. Has the loving got snuffed out or is there a glimmer of light that may still be turned up. Is there a split agenda? Are there ulterior motives for one or both turning up for counselling? Has the conflict become entrenched and each dug in for a war of attrition?We can teach our brains to say the right think, that we are expected to say, but often that is not the full truth! Just like the reply to the question - 'How are you doing?'  - evokes a knee jerk automatic answer - 'I am fine thank you'.Body language will give a more truthful answer as to where the couple are at and more accurately represent what is really going on in the heart.Telling the story of 'how did you meet' - will give a helpful calibration of where the couple are at and the nature of the work to follow, because of the toll the conflict has taken, before they sought help. As human beings, we tend to push it too far before reaching out for the help that we knew that we needed long ago.At The Kairos Centre, we use less 'Talk Therapy' and more sculpting with representative visual objects, to get to what the heart is really saying. It really is 'a heart thing'. The heart tends to tell the truth, if you can get to it. We get to it at The Kairos Centre. Then we know how to move forward with the work of counselling - with truth as the focus - not unconscious half-truths!Journey with us to reclaim your life, bring colour to life, without shame.Here is my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpThe world's first Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme. Would you vote for us in the British Podcasts Award? https://www.britishpodcastawards.com/votingGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing Journeys | Personal Growth | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | Support the show

Episode #216. Hey friends, I get real about what has really been going on. There has been so much overlap between the symptoms of bipolar and depression with addiction. I have talked on here before about it but I am here to bring it up again. I talk about meetings and some scripture. If you relate to this struggle let me know. Email me: jared.diehl@gmail.com. https://www.instagram.com/jareddiehl8/  

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreClient, choose your Therapist carefully. It makes a big difference to outcomes.In 2024 the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapy (BACP) released an Ethical framework for working with Addictions and also a set of 'Addictions competence framework' for counsellors working with or intending to work with Compulsions and Addictions. I guess it did so for a reason.Compulsions and Addictions Therapy is a specialised area of work. There is a need to ensure Counsellors and Therapists achieve minimal standards for working with such clients.These are some of the Foundational competences:Knowledge competences - knowledge and understanding of addictionsKnowledge of the range of addictions services and treatment options availableknowledge and understanding of recovery in addictions counsellingKnowledge of engagement issues specific to addictions counsellingKnowledge and understanding of the impact of co-occurring mental and physical health issues and addiction problemsMeta-competences: "Meta-competences encompass aspects of abstract clinical judgment required to decide when to implement different elements of the addictions counselling competence framework, and how and apply them in a coherent and informed manner."Ethical Framework: "....The framework sets out the knowledge, skills and abilities required for counsellors and psychotherapists to work safely and effectively with adults living with addiction.….."Therapists - 'at least do no harm'.The Kairos Centre has all the Competences to come alongside you on your journey to reclaiming your life, bring colour to life, without shame.Here is my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpThe world's first Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme. Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners)Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing Journeys | Personal Growth | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | obsessive Thoughts | Minfulness | S

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter's free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comSupport the showFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Soberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

A Process Addiction.  In this episode, Jackie delves into the complexities of sex addiction as a form of process addiction, exploring its connections to emotional regulation, trauma, and mental health. She discusses the stigma surrounding sex addiction, the cycle of addiction, and the importance of effective therapeutic approaches for recovery.  The approach to treatment is not the same for all sex addicts, and it's essential to know the difference. 

This week, V and Sami are joined by Jennifer Welch and Angie Sullivan, hosts of the I've Had It podcast, to talk about their new book Life Is a Lazy Susan of Sh*t Sandwiches. They dig into dealing with religious trauma, marriage to a sex addict, and what it's really like being progressive in the Bible Belt. Then, they deep dive into the overlap between faith and politics, the Democrats' ongoing messaging struggles, and why Trump still unfortunately has a hold on so many voters.  Watch this and more today youtube.com/@thebetchesnews!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex addiction and Porn are some of the most common things people struggle with today and the impact they cause to overall health is very serious.   In today's conversation we had our friend Russell Beebe go deep on The Real Cost Sex addiction causes overall. Along with Breaking free and reclaiming your mind, body and spirit.   Make sure you have your note pads or apps out and listen to the full episode.    Keep taking action, pursuing personal excellence, and impacting lives!   In This Episode, we discuss: The 3 Cycles of Sex Addiction Russel's story of overcoming Sex Addiction How he's built a successful coaching business helping people with sex addiction   Russell's Bio: Russell Beebe, LCMHC, CSAT Russell is a licensed psychotherapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). Over the past 14 years he worked in the field of addiction and mental health as a clinician, therapist, supervisor, clinical consultant and clinical director. And has extensive experience treating individuals who suffer from addiction and co-occurring issues. He owns and operates the Core Foundations Recovery Program, an online recovery coaching program designed to help men who struggle with compulsive sexual behavior establish sexual sobriety through structure, deep inner healing and accountability.   Connect with Russell: Website https://wellnessseekersunlimited.com/home   YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@russellbeebe   Webinar integrityblueprint.com/register-yt   Follow Us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisandericmartinez/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/Dynamicduotraining Attention: Icon Meals is offering 40% off your first order for Dynamic Lifestyle Podcast Listeners!   See all the delicious Meals and Goodies they have HERE  and use the Code: FITPROS when you checkout.   *Attention: Legion Athletics is offering 20% off your first order for Dynamic Lifestyle Podcast Listeners!   See all their products and Goodies they have HERE and use the Code Dynamic when you checkout.    Attention Health Professionals & Coaches: "FREE Online Health Coaching Biz Scan + a 15 Min Business Consult”  See HERE   Free Online Training:   Discover How Nutrition and Fitness Coaches Install a Proven System That Adds Six Figures to Their Business Without posting endless organic content, sending 100's of cold DM's, and charging low ticket priced programs   Watch Here   See the full Show Notes to this episode here: https://www.liveadynamiclifestyle.com/podcast/breaking-free-from-sex-addiction-and-reclaiming-your-mind-body-spirit-with-russell-beebe/

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreWhen there is conflict in the couples relationship, sex and intimacy becomes the first casualty which fly out the window. It is very difficult (sometimes feels impossible) to physically touch the person with whom you are in conflict.Yet, touch is exactly what you need to do to begin to break down the walls set in place by conflict. Touch is then so very, very impossible to do.The antidote is to learn to do physical (non-sexual) touch with the person with whom you are in conflict, in order to begin to break down the walls of hostility. But it is hard. "Boy is it hard". But a prize awaits you.Try it. Throw caution to the wind and dive in - with physical (non-sexual) touch. Overcome yourself. Overcome pride. Get you and your ego out of the way. Just do it.Don't talk. Just touch. Just embrace - if you dare. The other person may not welcome your endeavours - initially. (Be warned).Expect the bucking horse. "Get off me. What are you doing. Leave me alone". Its going to happen! Hold on in there for dear life and eventually the bucking horse will reduce. Will calm. Don't talk. Expect the intimidation - which goes with our current culture - "You need to respect my space". There is a prize if you can stay in there. It's worth it.Even as I write these words, I am intimidated because the naysayers in our current culture will be getting ready to chastise me with their disagreement. (The insistence that we must respect another's space and not intrude). That is powerful intimidation.Psychosexual Therapy (I just call it Sex Therapy) with The Kairos Centre, is not about sex. The first thing that we do is to ban sexual intercourse. Then teach how to rebuild intimacy, sensuality and romance at a higher level.Done well, it paves the way for the couple to naturally want to consummate the rebuilt relationship, by progressing to a sexual expression. At that point, I am getting ready to come out of their lives and leave them with the next 80 years to practice this thing called sex!Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing Journeys | Personal Growth | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | obsessive T

One of the most persistent myths promoted by LGBT advocates is that sexual orientation is fixed and cannot change. Research and clinical experience suggest otherwise.   In this episode of The Dr. J Show, Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse interviews Dr. Floyd Godfrey, a clinical sexologist and Christian counselor with decades of experience helping individuals overcome pornography addiction, unwanted same-sex attraction, and sexualized attachments. Dr. Godfrey explains how many of these issues stem from emotional wounds and disrupted attachment patterns—conditions that are treatable through compassionate, evidence-based therapy.   The discussion explores the concept of sex addiction as an intimacy attachment disorder, the development of the arousal template, and the role that trauma and early relational dynamics play in shaping sexual behaviors. It also contrasts mainstream therapeutic approaches with those rooted in a biblical worldview, showing that faith and science are not at odds when it comes to human sexuality.   Dr. Floyd Godfrey is a seasoned Mental Health Consultant, Speaker, and Educator with over two decades of clinical experience. He offers consulting services to individuals, families, and professionals, addressing complex issues related to mental health and human sexuality. Dr. Godfrey holds credentials as a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex Addiction Specialist Supervisor, Certified Christian Counselor, and Certified Mental Health Coach. His educational background includes degrees from Arizona State University, Ottawa University, and the International Institute for Clinical Sexology. Early in his career, he worked at Tempe Social Services with children and facilitated after-school programming, which deepened his understanding of family dynamics and child development. Building on this experience, Dr. Godfrey dedicated over 20 years to developing comprehensive sexual addiction programming for various populations, including adults, couples, young adults, and adolescents. His approach integrates a biblical worldview, blending academic rigor with practical expertise to create impactful interventions for mental health and human sexuality concerns.   Subscribe to our newsletter to get this amazing report: Refuting the Top 5 Gay Myths https://ruthinstitute.org/refute-the-top-five-myths/   Have a question or a comment? Leave it in the comments, and we'll get back to you!   Watch the full episode, uncensored, on Rumble: https://rumble.com/user/Theruthinstitute     Subscribe to our newsletter to get this amazing report: Refuting the Top 5 Gay Myths https://ruthinstitute.org/refute-the-top-five-myths/   00:00 - Introduction 00:00 02:00 - Introduction to Dr. Floyd Godfrey 07:03 - Understanding Sexual Addiction 10:45 - The Role of Attactment 16:43 - Contrasting Approaches to Sexual Issues 22:59 - The Arousal Template Explained 28:37 - The Confusion of Identity & Sexual Orientation 35:37 - Mainstream Psychology   Have a question or a comment? Leave it in the comments, and we'll get back to you!   Watch the full episode, uncensored, on Rumble: https://rumble.com/user/Theruthinstitute   Subscribe to our YouTube playlist:  @RuthInstitute  Follow us on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/theruthinstitute https://twitter.com/RuthInstitute https://www.facebook.com/TheRuthInstitute/ https://theruthinstitute.locals.com/newsfeed   Press: NC Register: https://www.ncregister.com/author/jennifer-roback-morse Catholic Answers: https://www.catholic.com/profile/jennifer-roback-morse The Stream: https://stream.org/author/jennifer-roback-morse/ Crisis Magazine: https://crisismagazine.com/author/jennifer-roeback-morse   Father Sullins' Reports on Clergy Sexual Abuse: https://ruthinstitute.org/resource-centers/father-sullins-research/   Buy Dr. Morse's Books: The Sexual State: https://ruthinstitute.org/product/the-sexual-state-2/ Love and Economics: https://ruthinstitute.org/product/love-and-economics-it-takes-a-family-to-raise-a-village/ Smart Sex: https://ruthinstitute.org/product/smart-sex-finding-life-long-love-in-a-hook-up-world/ 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage: https://ruthinstitute.org/product/101-tips-for-a-happier-marriage/ 101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person: https://ruthinstitute.org/product/101-tips-for-marrying-the-right-person/   Listen to our podcast: Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ruth-institute-podcast/id309797947 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1t7mWLRHjrCqNjsbH7zXv1   Subscribe to our newsletter to get this amazing report: Refuting the Top 5 Gay Myths https://ruthinstitute.org/refute-the-top-five-myths/   Get the full interview by joining us for exclusive, uncensored content on Locals: https://theruthinstitute.locals.com/support

No Lames Talks Drug and Sex Addiction and how it effects all aspects of life.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreUnresolved issues; unprocessed childhood issues, loose canons, unpotted snooker balls - are some of the terms that I use, for the process of work that I do multiple times every day with clients - using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing).Another analogy that I use (but please don't tell my EMDR colleagues that I described it to you like this)! It is as if you own an 8 bedroom mansion house; but for some reason, over lots of years, you never go into 3 of the bedrooms. Over time, the things in those 3 bedrooms (just like many attics), gather cobwebs and dust and are hidden.When Eye Movement begins - known as BLS (Bilateral Stimulation) - it is as if the brain goes into those 3 bedrooms and begins to remove the drapes, blow away the cobbwebbs and finds thing that you did not remember about. You may let out a shriek or exclamation (inside of you and unconsciously). It might sound like this:"....oh my goodness. Oh look. I had forgotten about that. But if that was present at the time of [the negative event] that which I have been carrying all these years, about the event, can't be entirely accurate! I now need to integrate the stuff found in those 3 bedrooms - into my view of the past event. That means I can't continue to see it quite the same way any more, because the stuff I can now see and better understand, is giving me a different/ more accurate knowledge about the events; which was not a full picture that I carried all these years. That makes sense, since the Limbic/Emotional part of the brain must have been making all the decisions during the negative impactful event; the logical reasoning/Pre-Cortex part of the brain would have gone off-line and major decisions being taken based on feelings. I feel, so I do...." Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Here is my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreNow launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing

Reclaim Your Heart After Betrayal And Addiction: Begin our 12 month Healing Journey online group program founded by Brannon and Tyler. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book Your Discovery Call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ This is The Courageous Call-in Show for redemptive healing after betrayal and addiction. Learn how to restore broken trust alongside 2 bold and experienced therapists. Brannon Patrick LSCW and Tyler Patrick LMFT have been in the trenches of addiction and betrayal trauma therapy for over 15 years, but before they were therapists, they were die-hard brothers and friends. In this podcast, they have deep discussions to answer the most difficult and uncomfortable questions–head on. This podcast is all about restoring trust in relationships after betrayal and addiction, healing trauma and shame, and experiencing wholeness like never before. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ask your question⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and let's have an honest conversation for a change. Join Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Our Free Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Register For The Free Webinar

“Most therapists and coaches suck.” That's how licensed psychotherapist and mental performance coach Vincent Infante opens this powerful episode of Sex Afflictions & Porn Addictions.In this no-holds-barred conversation with Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit, you'll hear two men who've been through hell, done the work, and now help others navigate out of the darkness—especially men drowning in shame, addiction, and dopamine-fueled distractions.

My new novel "Hourglass" - about biohacking, seduction, and philosophy - bears the subtitle "Not For Sex Addicts." Did I subtitle it so JUST to be provocative and elicit your curiosity, click, and purchase?No.The subtitle is a selective invitation. A challenge to those with some degree of sexual sovereignty - a mirror held up to their own agency: their capacity to bend the trajectory of their lives through sharper, smarter sexual choices. And the subtitle is my subtle shot across the bow of Sexaholics Anonymous and the broader psychological sphere, which, I contend, disempowers many by giving them the label “Sex Addict.”Here, I level 7 trenchant critiques, breaking down what the mainstream gets wrong about "Sex Addiction" — and why I wrote a spicy science fiction thriller to make sexual self-control SEXY.7:25 “Sex Addict”18:15 Porn Addiction ≠ Sex Addiction22:30 Naughty = Irresistible25:40 Surrender?34:05 The Solution: Prevention38:30 Why I Wrote Hourglass47:00 History of HourglassRead: The Myth of Sex Addiction

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreHave you heard the Joke about the bride who learned her script for what she had to remember on the wedding day - as: 1) Aisle   2) Altar   3) HymnWhat has shaped you to be doing life how you are doing life? So often, it is about those childhood development years and what got set up as templates, to create those hamster wheel patters of repeat behaviour; those habits - otherwise called Neural Pathway.They where carved out by the brain (which does not like upset and so, to get us back into homeostasis); but they are not always the best choices of activities; yet seem to 'work' back there in childhood and in the families that we are a part of - to mange our interaction. So, since they 'worked ' and are on repeat, we take the repeat practiced behaviours - now well entrenched - with us into adulthood and are a grown up version of childhood practices. In adulthood and the new couple relationship (different to the growing up family environment), the brain experiences something that looks or feels similar to a past negatively experienced childhood pattern and so is triggered to respond in the same way. "...but brain, this is a different person. This isn't those people back in childhood who destabilised me. The situation is different" - makes no difference to the brain. It goes into autonomic response.You may not see or realise the similar repeat behaviours being done in adulthood - as being similar to how you did them in childhood - because they are unconscious.Couples counselling with The Kairos Centre is not about saving marriages or relationships. It is about helping you to better understand you. To move issues from the unseen, the invisible, the unconscious, into the seen, the visible, the conscious.When you can better see and understand stuff (because you have moved them into focus and put a highlighter pen through them) now you are in a position to effect change. You have stepped onto the change continuum.Know, however, that you cannot effect immediate (end-point) change. After-all, they were hamster wheel repetitive habit behaviours for decades. It is a journey. No quick fixes.Change has, however, began, because you had no hope of changing what you could not see or understand, until you can see and understand them! They were just you, being you, doing life how you do life - 'what's the problem. The other person is the problem'.If you change, then the other person has to change. They cannot keep doing what they have repeatedly done, because you have changed and are no longer in the same place to be the recipient of their behaviours and at some point they have to change in response to your change; but their change may not be the required positive change, without some help. Get it!Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authent

In this re-edited interview, we talk with trauma specialist Diane Strickland and creator of the site yourstoryissafehere.com about sex addiction and partners being labeled "codependent." Why women are shamed for their anger. And much more.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreOver 90% of couples that The Kairos Centre counsel, are in conflict because Core Emotional Needs are not being met. Some of those Core Emotional Needs are such things as lack of Security, Respect, Comfort, Affection, Respect.They are not negotiable human needs. They want to be met and we will fight/flight/freeze to get them met. We do an interesting exercise with Couples and Singles to identify their Core Emotional Needs.Commit to a Couples Recovery Programme like The Kairos Centre Video-On-Demand Relationship Program which you can cover at your leisure from the comfort of your own home, at your pace. You receive a workbook and can book Homework Review sessions as and when you desire, so that you have a sense of someone being alongside you on your journey.Let's move as much of the stuff from the unconscious; from the unseen; from the invisible; from the unknown; into the conscious; the seen; the visible; the known.Now that you can better see and understand the issues, you now get a chance to begin working through the issues - with some help. Get off the hamster wheel of habits, template behaviours, entrenched neutral pathways.Change your trajectory. Change begins because you can now see the problem. It can never be the same again. You are now on the change continuum, even if only at step one = Insight; step two = understanding.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Here is my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpThe world's first Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme. email info@kairos-centre.comNow launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing Journeys | Personal Growth | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | obsessive Thoug

You've stopped the behavior. You're going to the meetings. You're doing everything the books and podcasts say to do. So why doesn't your partner trust you yet?In this honest and challenging conversation, we talk with Roland Cochrun, a recovery advocate and founder of SuccessfulAddict.com, about the biggest blind spots in early recovery—and why checking the right boxes doesn't guarantee real change.Roland shares his personal experience, the research behind what actually works, and why recovery must be more than just avoiding relapse. If you've ever felt stuck, discouraged, or unsure whether your progress is enough, this episode offers a much-needed reset.If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

In this episode, Jackie delves into the phases of healing betrayal in relationships, highlighting the significance of individual therapy before couples therapy. Jackie explains the "full disclosure" process in recovery, stressing the need for honesty and emotional regulation. She describes the work done in phase 3 for the couple, highlighting the transformative journey couples undergo as they learn to communicate effectively and address deeper relationship dynamics. #podcast #betrayaltraumarecovery #sexaddictionrecovery Register for Online Workshop Breaking the Cycle of Relapse: https://buy.stripe.com/dR629h4og6mG3Wo6op  

In this re-edited version of an earlier recording, Sarah and Tracy spoke with Dr. Omar Minwalla, a therapist who is known for his work "The Secret Sexual Basement." He sees infidelity as abusive and a sexual deception problem, which makes him something of an outlier in the therapy community. We talk about his model, infidelity as abuse, and how to change the narrative with mental health professionals.

PBSE Podcast 279 confronts the painful contradiction many addicts face: a deep longing for intimate connection paired with a habitual avoidance of it. Through a heartfelt partner's submission and personal reflections, Mark and Steve illustrate how addiction, as an intimacy disorder, fuels this cycle of wanting but not acting—of making promises without follow-through. The core issue often isn't a lack of sincerity, but a profound disconnection from self, rooted in fear, shame, and survival-based behaviors that sabotage the very closeness being sought.Mark & Steve emphasize that real intimacy demands risk, consistency, and emotional presence—there's no “door number three” that offers closeness without vulnerability. Acting out behaviors like pornography offer a counterfeit form of connection without the discomfort of being seen or rejected. But for true healing and trust to take root, addicts must stop hiding behind avoidance and start showing up authentically, even if the steps are small. It's about shifting from vocalizing good intentions to building consistent habits of connection.Ultimately, the article issues a powerful call to action for those in recovery: don't just say you want intimacy—prove it. Begin where you are, but begin. For partners still offering connection, your continued hope is meaningful, but it must be met with effort. And for addicts, real change starts not with grand declarations, but with the next honest, intentional step toward your partner and yourself.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Do you REALLY want Intimate CONNECTION or Not?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Today Rebecca Maxwell welcomes special guest Tesa Saulmon, a Florida licensed mental health counselor and certified sex addiction therapist. Tesa is part of the Jacksonville Counseling team and joins Rebecca to help unpack the complexities surrounding sex addiction causes and treatment. The conversation extends to the implications of pornography use and addressing the sensitive but crucial topics of betrayal recovery and emotional bonding. With a compassionate approach, Tesa shares valuable insights on establishing healthy relationships and the essential role of community and faith in the recovery process. For more information about Rebecca's upcoming book, go to www.Jesusandyourmentalhealth.com For more information about Tesa and her practice, go to www.roottobloomtherapy.com/

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreTestosterone in males is at its height in their late teens to early 20's. Women's sex drive does not reach its peak until their late 20's to early 30's. Therefore, a mismatch is going on between the sexes.Aged 15 to 25 years old males have a 4 times higher likelihood of death from various events. Their brains are not yet fully mature and therefore they make bad choices and poor decisions.They are 4 times more likely (than females of the same age) to die from such events as suicide, being killed, drug overdose and car accidents. Much of that is due to the high Testosterone in their body, which enhances their decision to 'Act out' in various risk taking ways.In the 1960s, young men were marrying younger - in their 20s. They were in a committed relationship and such events as having children and even holding the child and getting skin contact, lowered the male Testosterone levels. (More stats in the audio).Men are twice as likely to experience substance abuse, than women. Women are twice as likely to experience STI. Men are 6 times more likely to be addicted to porn.Consistent porn use changes the brain at a cellular level. The brain is actually changed. Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Here is my fund raising page. Help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreGet the help you need: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpThe world's first Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme. Discover the real, authentic you. email info@kairos-centre.comNow launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work | Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery | Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction | Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has porn | Recovery Program | 12 Steps Program | EMDR | Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre | Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Authentic Self Discovery | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction | Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity | Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Self-Discovery | Healing Journeys | Personal Growth | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships | Empowerment | obsessive Thoughts | Minfulness | Self compassion | Psychoeducation | Intimacy building

If you've ever promised yourself "never again"—only to fall back into the same compulsive patterns—this episode is for you.In this raw and powerful lesson, Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit System, exposes why the traditional all-or-nothing, abstinence-only model for treating sex and porn addiction keeps men stuck in shame and failure.Drawing on the powerful case study of a client named Don, Craig unpacks the psychological cost of using sex to regulate fear, anxiety, and trauma since childhood—and why the key to lasting freedom lies in setting realistic, attainable goals rooted in science, not shame. You'll learn:Why most men relapse in abstinence-only programsHow to separate porn from masturbation as a first harm-reduction stepWhy frequency, time, and severity must be tracked to build healthy sexualityHow to break the perfection/failure cycle and build a culture of successWhether you're deep in the struggle or supporting a loved one, this episode offers hope, direction, and a radically honest alternative to shame-based recovery.

In this episode, Jackie discussed the complexities of healing from sex addiction and betrayal trauma within relationships.  She emphasized the importance of individual therapy before beginning joint sessions, explaining that fixing the relationship alone does ot address the underlying issues of addiction or the trauma of betrayal.  Jackie illustrates the journey of recovery and the steps needed to rebuild trust and intimacy in relationships affected by sex addiction.  

How does one “easter” nowadays? OMG we have to talk about BAD INFLUENCE  Tell me if you believe this psychic prediction... Which one of my ex's had a sex addiction?!!  Become a Certified Fan! Help support the podcast and get our Thursday show, More Mama's Boy! Listen to my other podcast, “Kramer and Jess Uncensored”! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we continue our conversation with Cat Etherington. Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international Christian charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours.  We Will be Discussing: What support do you offer globally? How can we empower global listeners to advocate for themselves to uneducated support people? Is no support better than damaging support? Resources mentioned in this show: Naked Truth Recovery cat@nakedtruthrecovery.com

World-renowned sex therapist and author Dr. Alexandra Katehakis joins the WiseNuts for a raw, real, and eye-opening conversation about the silent struggles behind sex addiction, the misunderstood nature of intimacy disorders, and the path to true emotional healing.In this powerful episode, Dr. Katehakis breaks down how trauma shapes our sexual behavior, what it really means to connect intimately, and how to heal destructive patterns that sabotage relationships. Whether you've struggled with love, lust, or loneliness—this one's for you.

Send us a textWe know addiction gets in the way of happiness and relationships, but why is recovery so difficult for high-achieving men? Professional coach Roland Cochrun shares his insights and the realization that making real connections (and discovering your purpose in life) are essential. He is the founder of The Successful Addict recovery group, The Sex Addiction podcast, and author of The High Achiever's Guide to Sex-Addiction Recovery.

What is Sex Addiction?: 3 Signs & Symptoms, and Mission Critical Steps to RecoveryIn this video, Craig Perra, founder of the Mindful Habit System, delves into the complexities of sex addiction and its signs and symptoms.He explains what sex addiction is, its controversial diagnosis, and how it differs from frequent sexual behavior. Craig also offers a simple definition and outlines the three primary indicators of sex addiction: an inability to stop, feelings of shame and guilt, and habitual lying and hiding.Drawing on 13 years of coaching high-performing men, he discusses deeper underlying issues like poor coping strategies, lack of purpose, and childhood trauma. Craig emphasizes the importance of creating a healthier relationship with technology, practicing mindfulness, and aggressively pursuing a great life as key steps to recovery.00:00 Introduction to Sex Addiction00:50 Defining Sex Addiction 03:04 The Controversy Around Sex Addiction 04:42 Three Signs of Sex Addiction06:49 Understanding the Root Causes09:15 Steps to Break Free10:40 Conclusion Visit www.mindfulhabithelp.com if you need more help and want to learn more. Text PODCAST to 877-356-5573 if you have any questions about our programs.

Send us a textBuckle up (or should I say wrap it up?). This one is triggering but fascinating…if you can handle it.Roland Cochran, an expert in porn and sex addiction, has lived this battle. He got caught cheating on his wife, but the problem started long before that. By 11, he already felt addicted to porn.This addiction occurs when dopaminergic practices take over, chasing focus and motivation until the world stops. The problem with our culture, according to Roland, is that we are porn and sex-obsessed, especially men. “Male culture says men like sex, we like looking at women, and we get to do it.”1 in 4 Google searches is for adult material. And it's only getting worse. Roland describes an insane update in the world of AI, where people now have unprecedented control over imaginary sex fantasies.So if it's so common, how do you know when you're out of control? Ask these three questions: Is there consent? Are you lying or hiding life-altering information? Is this sustainable?The message is everywhere: success equals sex. Every music video shows a powerful man surrounded by beautiful women. Ads use sexuality to sell everything from cars to cologne.Roland pleads for a fight to humanize people.So what if this is you or someone you know? Roland's advice is to recognize the problem. Get scared, come clean and seek therapeutic disclosure with a certified sex addiction therapist.As for our teenage boys, are they destined for a world of all or nothing? Sex obsession or bust? This affects 18% of men. The reality is we need to talk about it and normalize the conversation.Desire is normal—but this goes way beyond an orgasm.What's Inside:Three questions to know you're out of controlHow to raise boys to have a healthy relationship with porn and sexHow to approach a porn and sex addiction with your partnerThe real danger behind porn useIt could not have been just me but I was cringing left and right. It's hard to feel bad for men who get pleasure from objectifying women, especially successful men. And what about no safe use of porn? I feel like I need a more sex-positive take.  Let me know on Insta!Mentioned In This Episode:Sex Addiction Recovery Group (@thesuccessfuladdict) on InstagramJoin the Masters of Fitness Awesomeness Oonagh Duncan (@oonaghduncan) on Instagram Fit Feels Good Goals, Grit and some Woo Woo Shit with Oonagh Duncan 

In today's episode I chat with Dr. Connie Zollner, licensed therapist, about sex addiction. Dr. Connie starts the episode by discussing her journey into specializing in sex addiction and defines for listeners what sex addiction is. We discuss risk factors for developing a sexual addiction, as well as some warning signs that someone is experiencing a sex addiction. Dr. Connie addresses some of the common misconceptions about sex addiction, as well as discusses sex addiction in neurodivergent clients. We discuss the treatments for sex addiction and Dr. Connie ends the episode by providing some words of advice and encouragement for those experiencing sex addiction and partners of those experiencing sex addiction. Connect with Dr. Connie Zollner:IG: @the.btrcWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠www.thebtrc.comConnect with Me:Follow me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the podcast on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@psych.talk.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on Threads ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Facebook community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grow Through What You Go Through⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to Work With Me:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mind Over Matter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Be a guest on my podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anti-Racism Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary Setting⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Intro/Outro Music⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Life of Riley⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Kevin MacLeod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music License⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This PBSE episode (275), inspired by a listener's vulnerable question, dives deep into the emotional complexity of intimacy in long-term relationships—particularly when one partner has struggled with pornography addiction. The woman asks how her husband can look “past” her aging body and be genuinely aroused by real love. Her question reveals the pain of feeling invisible or undesired and touches on the widespread cultural belief that sexual attraction is rigid and solely tied to youth or physical perfection. The article dismantles this myth, showing that arousal is not a static, uncontrollable instinct, but a moldable response shaped by years of influence, experience, and personal choices.Mark and Steve, speaking from their own journeys of recovery and their work with countless clients, explain how pornography warps the arousal template, training the brain to see only surface-level stimulation while disconnecting from emotional and spiritual depth. But through consistent personal work, emotional vulnerability, and intentional connection, that template can be rewritten. Real-life examples—like a therapist who found arousal in his wife's post-mastectomy scars—illustrate that true desire comes not from ignoring reality, but from embracing it. The physical becomes more meaningful, not less, when it's rooted in shared experience, loyalty, admiration, and love.Ultimately, the article reframes arousal not as something to “look past,” but as something to “look through”—to see the fullness of a partner, body and soul. It calls both partners to re-engage in intimacy with eyes wide open, choosing to cultivate love through emotional connection and shared meaning. The grand takeaway is that authentic, meaningful love is not only enough to spark desire—it's the most powerful and lasting form of arousal there is.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  How Can He "Look Past" My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Emotional dysregulation, compulsive behavior and obsessive thoughts: if you've struggled with love addiction, all of this might sound very familiar...but these are also symptoms of ADHD. Is there a connection? In this episode, Jodi talks with Aly Dearborn, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with specialized training in recognizing female presentations of ADHD and Austism. Aly and Jodi discuss the shared symptoms of love addiction, ADHD and Autism; the estrogen connection and why girls and women are often misdiagnosed; and Aly shares her personal experience with love addiction and being an adult diagnosed ADHD/Autistic. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources More resources and information about Aly Dearborn can be found here Aly mentioned the work of Bo Forbes Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.    

You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.That quote from Atomic Habits by James Clear changed my life—and in this episode, I'm going to show you why it needs to change yours. If you're struggling with sex and porn addiction, or supporting someone who is, you're likely overwhelmed, stuck, and maybe even hopeless.You've tried therapy. Support groups. Willpower. White-knuckling it.But here's the truth… ➡️ Sex and porn addiction isn't a “bad habit.” It's a deeply entrenched coping strategy—wired in childhood, reinforced by shame, supercharged by biology, and sustained by secrecy.➡️ Most recovery plans obsess over the problem—but few focus on the systems that build lasting transformation.➡️ That's why so many men fail. In this episode, I'll break down:Why this quote is mandatory training if you want to build healthy sexuality and a great lifeWhy sex and porn addiction is so hard to breakHow your biology, early exposure, shame, and emotional repression create a perfect stormAnd the 9 essential systems of The Mindful Habit System—developed over 13 years, used by thousands of men, and built to help you take back control of your lifeThese systems are the foundation for sustained success:Purpose & DirectionRisk ManagementSelf-Leadership (including self-control & self-esteem)AccountabilityCommunity & ConnectionMindfulness & FaithGratitudeHealthy SexualityIf you don't have your own system—borrow mine. I'm Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit. I help high-performing professionals—doctors, lawyers, executives, and men around the world—break free from destructive sexual behaviors and create powerful lives rooted in integrity, connection, and purpose.▶️ Watch. Take notes. Reflect. This is the stuff no one taught us—but it's what we all need.

This PBSE Podcast Episode 274, centers on a partner's heartfelt account of feeling objectified and emotionally disconnected during sex with her spouse, who is in recovery from porn addiction. Though he has given up porn and masturbation, their intimacy remains one-sided, leaving her feeling like a replacement for his addiction rather than a true partner in connection. Mark and Steve explore how sobriety alone isn't enough—emotional growth, mindfulness, and a complete rewiring of sexual expectations are essential for healing.Through neuroscience, they unpack how porn addiction distorts the brain's wiring around sex, creating a dopamine-driven pattern that prioritizes climax over connection. Recovery, then, requires more than behavioral change; it calls for a transformation of mindset, unlearning toxic scripts, and rebuilding intimacy through vulnerability and presence. The metaphor of “remodeling” becomes central: couples must tear down broken patterns and collaboratively design a new vision for their sexual relationship.Ultimately, the article calls couples to take back authorship of their story by replacing silence, shame, and autopilot sex with curiosity, honesty, and shared desire. With intention and effort, couples can elevate their sexual connection from a mechanical act to a space of mutual pleasure and deep intimacy—if they are willing to write that new narrative together.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:  Sed Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. Howe do We Elevate the Experience?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

Resentment is silently fueling your addiction and sabotaging your recovery—and most men don't even know it's happening. In this powerful episode of Sex Afflictions & Porn Addictions, Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit System, exposes the hidden force that keeps men stuck in cycles of shame, secrecy, and sabotage: resentment. If you're battling sex addiction or porn addiction, chances are you're also fighting a part of you that feels controlled, dismissed, or unheard. That resentful part becomes the justifier—the one who says, “Why bother?”… “She'll never forgive me”… “I'll never be good enough.” Inside this episode:How resentment becomes the fuel for relapse and acting outThe truth about your power dynamic post-D-Day (Discovery Day)Why traditional therapy often misses this key internal battleThe game-changing impact of parts work (think Pixar's Inside Out for grown men in recovery)How to stop reacting and start leading your resentful part with self-leadershipAnd how journaling, awareness, and mindfulness can transform resentment from a saboteur to an allyYou'll learn why this internal part of you was trained to keep score, how it developed, and how to finally break free by meeting your needs proactively instead of reactively. Whether you're in the early stages of healing or years into recovery, this episode will give you the language, insight, and tools you need to finally stop feeding the wrong wolf—and start taking your power back.Cut & Paste This Link for The Resentment Part PDF - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1L60BA7Hk-VuzQa6G302IfysNp4ut_TiR/view?usp=sharing

Evan leads a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction and human sexuality with clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. David Ley. The conversation dispels myths, addresses misconceptions about sex addiction, and explores the nuances of intimacy, relationships, and pornography. The episode also features the lively 'Overrated or Underrated' segment and a discussion on AI's impact on child exploitation. Additionally, Dr. Ley provides professional insights on maintaining realistic expectations in relationships and discusses the potential benefits and ethical dilemmas associated with artificial intelligence in combating sexual offenses.   Topics 00:38 Diving into Divorce and Relationship Insights 02:00 March Madness and Bracket Strategies 04:46 Red Sox and Yankees Rivalry 06:40 The Docket: Sharing Truth After Divorce 14:07 Overrated or Underrated: Legal and Fun Topics 26:17 Interview with Dr. David Ley on Sex Addiction 30:05 The Harmful Effects of the 'Sex Addiction' Label 30:45 Sex Addiction in the Courtroom 31:31 Misconceptions About Sex Addiction Treatment 33:26 Moral Judgments and Sex Addiction 35:53 Pornography and Its Misunderstood Impact 37:07 The Role of Sex Education 39:06 Pornography in Relationships 45:09 The Myth of Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction 46:40 The Complexity of Human Sexuality 01:01:36 AI and Child Exploitation 01:10:17 Final Thoughts and Reflections

Gene McConnell is an ex-john. At one time in his life, he had a porn addiction, was paying for sex regularly (while married), and even attempted to sexually assault a woman. Gene stopped himself, but the near-attempt and consequent arrest forced him down another path, towards dealing with his past trauma and related sex, anger, and emotional issues, as well as towards a life of talking to other men about his past, how he changed his life, and what was at the root of his exploitative behaviour and dehumanizing view of women.Today, he tours college campuses, speaking to young men about pornography and prostitution, is the founder of Authentic Relationships International, is a youth pastor, and is married with three children.Follow me on all socials!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidetruecrime/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mattcoxtruecrimeDo you want to be a guest? Fill out the form https://forms.gle/5H7FnhvMHKtUnq7k7Send me an email here: insidetruecrime@gmail.comDo you want a custom "con man" painting to shown up at your doorstep every month? Subscribe to my Patreon: https: //www.patreon.com/insidetruecrimeDo you want a custom painting done by me? Check out my Etsy Store: https://www.etsy.com/shop/coxpopartListen to my True Crime Podcasts anywhere: https://anchor.fm/mattcox Check out my true crime books! Shark in the Housing Pool: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0851KBYCFBent: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BV4GC7TMIt's Insanity: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KFYXKK8Devil Exposed: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08TH1WT5GDevil Exposed (The Abridgment): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1070682438The Program: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0858W4G3KBailout: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bailout-matthew-cox/1142275402Dude, Where's My Hand-Grenade?: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BXNFHBDF/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1678623676&sr=1-1Checkout my disturbingly twisted satiric novel!Stranger Danger: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BSWQP3WXIf you would like to support me directly, I accept donations here:Paypal: https://www.paypal.me/MattCox69Cashapp: $coxcon69