DADDY AF

In this episode "Daddy" explores a comical notion around relationships. In past episodes you've heard me dance and weave around the notion of normative relationships. You know…ones that climb the relationship ladder. Meet, become exclusive, move in, get engaged, etc… Relationships that look like the ones modeled around us as the gold standard. Standards that make it hard to love someone fully and completely and also retain your “you-ness” that made you interesting and attractive in the first place.  Step inside the bunny hole with Daddy as we dig deep into the notion that deeply intimate, loving relationships can take place over time, just not ALL the time. We will also hear from a listener who's question helps illustrate that individuality, when preserved, can possibly help us preserve dynamic from eroding into the every day. Add your voice to the conversation - email Daddy at Daddyafpodcast@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/daddyaf/support

What do you do when your dynamic has become “every day”. The pull of the normative is strong. For those of us who have lived in non-normative relationships for years, and have spent years developing our relationship(s) it can be easy for our brains to fall into a normative mindset. AKA…the new normal. That's when a lot of “shoulds” and “should nots” creep into our psyche. Take a trip down the bunny hole as Daddy returns to talk about maturing dynamics.   What does it mean that a dynamic has matured? If you have questions, comments or suggestions Daddy's email has changed. You can write Daddy at Daddyafpodcast@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/daddyaf/support

It's happened. We've all had moments where we "just don't feel like it" whether we grin and bear it or admit it and suffer the judgement. But there is a MUCH better way that can lead you down a wonderful path of discovery. Join Daddy as we shed some light on how losing touch with our dynamic, a form of play or even our Dominant, little or submissive side can be a HUGE opportunity! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

A lot of our struggle in relationships, and especially non-normative dynamics, has to do with the key aspects at play in how we perceive and govern our relationships and dynamics.  Take a stroll down the bunny hole with Daddy as we talk about the Right and Wrong way to Evolve our relationships.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Some perspective into both the human capacity for desire and the human limitations of processing and managing our emotions around the interplay of relationship dynamics and the relationships themselves.  Join me as I hop down the bunny hole of how sometimes our relationship dynamics can take up more space than the relationships themselves. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy tackles a listener's question about coming out and where to begin.  With plenty of experience in tackling that exact aspect of living and loving non normatively, Daddy shares his perspective and experience on what it is to live open and what it takes to get there.  The pitfalls, challenges and benefits along the way. Send your questions, comments and suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

A listener left Daddy a message regarding a DDlg relationship that recently ended.  He had questions around the notion of rebuilding eroded trust and what to do if there is a failure to communicate.  What to do when there are issues with trust?  Well...as you can imagine Daddy has a lot of thoughts around the topic.  So hop on in to the journey down the bunny hole...trust me, it's a good one!   If you would like to hear Daddy talk about a particular concern of your, if you have questions or comments...join the conversation and help build community by contacting Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net.  I also appreciate written reviews, voice messages on anchor and likes on whatever platform you listen.  Thanks! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy shares some truths he has learned from his relationships over the past 29 years.  Marriages, play partners, poly partners, power exchange, swinging and dating.  Daddy hasn't seen it all by any stretch...but he certainly has seen enough to reveal some very real truths.  At least truths for his life.  And as we all know..we're all human.  Which means our experiences are certainly relative to this journey together.  The names may change but the stories are all very much the same.  Listen and and see what resonates for you.  Never know what little hidden gem you could uncover for your journey. Please send your comments, suggestions and questions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net.  So many episodes come from the community of shared thoughts from listeners writing it.  Won't you join our collective conversation? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Taking the cue from listener emails Daddy shares his advice on young listeners in the DDlg, Kink and non-normative space. You can add your voice to the conversations that expand non-normative ways of life into the mainstream by emailing Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy explores the concept of love. How we are pre-programmed to interpret our neurological responses to love through examples we've learned from for decades before we have our first experiences of love... And how that can flavor our experiences of love. The complex relationship between our sense of selves and what the world around us tells us love should be. In the world of non-normative relationships where our relationship structures already challenge the most resolved human...we also have to battle against our internal programming. Join Daddy on a trip down the bunny hole of non-normative love in a normative world. You can email Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net to share your voice, your journey, with questions, ideas or comments --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Have you ever been frustrated or at odds with how you THINK relationships should be going VS how they have actually played out? Have you expected things of your relationships only to be surprised that they go a completely different direction? Have you ever felt limited in your relationships but also like you needed them to be more? Do you use your past relationship experiences to govern your current or future relationship goals? Then you may be pigeonholing yourself.  Take a walk through the aviary with Daddy as he discusses his own insights and views on what pigeonholing your relationships can get you VS the alternative.   Send your questions, comments and episode suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net.  Help create community by sharing your voice, your experience, your questions and comments.  Thanks for your support! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

What do you do when you find yourself in a long-term relationship and/or marriage when you discover (or re-discover) your kink identity? You talk about it with your partner, Daddy hopes! But what happens when your partner wants nothing to do with the kink lifestyle and cannot identify with that orientation? What's more, if they are not interested in kink than what makes them inclined to be interested in a non-normative, non-monogamous or polyamorous arrangement that affords you a chance to explore and have your needs met? At least without you having to end your relationship to find it? Join Daddy and babygirl as they tackle this sticky topic posed by a Daddy AF listener, Baby bear. Questions, comments or suggestions? Want to share your journey and contribute to our community? Email Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy has a no holds barred conversation with adult, erotic DDlg romance author Honey Meyer. Listen as Daddy and Honey stack up DDlg fantasy fiction VS reality, breaking down the components of what makes good fiction and what makes a good DDlg relationship. How readers of fiction take respite from life in a fantasy novel about a lifestyle that some of us live 24/7. A fascinating look into the overlap of two, unique perspectives on DDlg. You can find Honey Meyer on her website: https://www.honeymeyerromance.com/ Here is a link to her Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/Honey-Meyer/e/B08FQMWW42?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1631716010&sr=8-1 Have any questions from your journey? Something you want to hear Daddy talk about? Email Daddy_AF@comcast.net and add your voice to our ever expanding community. You can also catch Daddy on Insta! @daddyaf_podcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

This special episode comes from three, separate conversations I had in one day a listener, a DDlg erotic adult fiction author and my special little girl.  All three of them echoed sentiments that represents, what I feel, is a very significant and introspective look into the mind of a submissive little girl.  Not only is this topic poignant in and of itself but also relevant to the lifestyle and many of the conversations I've been sharing lately on Daddy AF.  Doms?  Daddies?  Pay attention!!!! Remember...these conversations are creating and building our community.  By sharing and talking openly we are taking up more and more space in the community which creates more room for non normative relationships to thrive in the open.  Share your voice and become a part of this great conversation here on Daddy AF by emailing Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net.  I guaranty what you share will add to this amazing community. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

What happens when you discover your little side and are just bursting to explore in ways that delight your Daddy?  But...what happens if you're also very inexperienced in relationships in general, much less Ds and power exchange?  Daddy and babygirl team up to deliver a heartfelt answer to the seemingly simple yet deceptively complex question of, "how do I be a good girl for my Daddy?" Daddy AF is about community.  Sharing our journey so others can grow.  Pushing our lifestyle out of the shadows so others can be confident knowing that they are not alone if they are curious about or life the DDlg way of life.  Help us grow by adding YOUR voice to the conversation and sharing this community with others.  Like, share and rate Daddy AF on your preferred platform.  If you can, subscribe!  You can email YOUR questions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Can your new partner's caregiver inclinations be enough to support a full blown DDlg / CGl power exchange relationship? Join Daddy on a conversation of discovery, observations and advice. We will deconstruct how to recognize the potential and opportunities for exploring dynamic when a partner is new the sacred space of DDlg that you have come to know so well. This episode is inspired by a message from a listener in Australia. Thanks to her questions and conversation this topic is being presented for the benefit of everyone in our little community. Want to make our community stronger and help it grow into the mainstream? Then be heard! Email Daddy_AF@comcast.net and the next episode might just be from the pages of your journey. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy responds to emails from littles that live across the world from one another but are struggling with a common experience...finding ways to peacefully accept who they and developing a sense of self inside their dynamic.  We hear about struggles with shame and guilt as well as opportunities that can be found inside these struggles that can nurture your dynamic (and little girl self).  This isn't just for you little's out there.  Daddy's, Dom's, kinksters and anyone pioneering a non-normative way of life can benefit from knowing that we are not alone on this collective journey through the uncharted. If you enjoy these episodes, you can email Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net Please also, like, rate and share Daddy_AF so others can join us on our journey of discovery and shaping the world to be a more accepting and loving place.  Help me dissolve the "non" in our non normative lifestyle by growing our community and creating awareness around the many ways to create loving relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy answers a listener's email about his experience with Pet Play, Age Play and Regression.  The differences between Pet Play and identifying as a particular persona, as well as thoughts on Age Play and Age Regression.  Let's dive in together and open our minds to some other avenues often explored by those of us boldly living a non-normative life. Email Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy tackles a listener question common to us all.  What happens when our dynamic grows so strong it starts to show in public because, well...it just feels natural?  What are the implications of interacting through our dynamics in a public setting?  Despite the simple answer of, "do what feels right for you." it is a WHOLE LOT more complicated than that.  Join Daddy on a journey through the weeds that make this feel SO MUCH harder than it is and find your own answer to this sticky question. Email your questions to Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy and babygirl return to discuss how they used Fetlife to connect with community and what they learned along the way.  From finding events to vetting potential play partners.  Let Daddy and his little share the tips and tricks, and stories, from their successes and mishaps.  It's not a perfect world and sometimes the journey is messy, but if you're new and want to explore with relative safety you won't want to miss this episode. If there are any questions you want answered, or you have comments and suggestions...send them to Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy is joined by his cherished babygirl to talk about their journey and experiences of the world of kink through the popular online community of Fetlife. Discussing what Fetlife is, means of communication, the ins and outs of profiles as well as nuances of messaging. In Part 2 they dive deeper into how to use Fetlife to access community and find your people! We haven't seen it all by any means but we've seen enough to share a healthy perspective on best practice ideas. As an added bonus at the beginning of this episode, babygirl also shares her point of view on reasons why littles and submissives might not be so good at 'knowing whats best for themselves and also doing it'. Some insights and revelations from PART 2: BEING A DADDY. We realize there is a lot about Fetlife and community worth discussing. In fact, what we planned for one episode quickly became two! So if you want our perspective on any facets of navigating your way into (or through) the kink community please write DADDY_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy steps out of his wheelhouse and takes on a listener message about bottom dysphoria. Taking a journey through masculine sexuality and it's role across gender identities. Bringing all the colors of the rainbow together at the pot of gold perspective that being a Daddy transcends social norms, gender roles, body types and identities. Being a Daddy is far more than what we were taught and are shown masculine and feminine are "supposed to be" in this slowly evolving, but still binary, world. Being a Daddy is an identity far deeper and more distinct. Join Daddy as he unpacks gender identity, roles and the highlights the dangers of leaning too far into normative, binary comparisons at the expense of what matters most....your DDlg dynamic. Question, comments, suggestions for future episodes? Email Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy explores aspect of Aftercare in a BDSM and Ds context. What is it? What does it look like? Are you doing it right? Aftercare is a term often coined in the BDSM community, particularly around the areas of play. But how does it actually plug in to a dynamic and how can you make it work magic for you? Join Daddy as he explores the many facets of aftercare, and what it has been in his experience. If you have any questions, comments or suggestions please write Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Continue exploring as Daddy shares even more of the critical components to creating and maintaining a thriving DDlg dynamic. Just what does it take to make your DDlg sing? Daddy covers what he feels are some of the best practices when it comes to making the most of what you have with your little girl. Thank you for all the recent feedback and emails! If you have any questions, comments, want to talk to Daddy, suggest a topic or even join Daddy on an episode of Daddy AF...email Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Join Daddy as he shares some of the critical components to creating and maintaining a thriving DDlg dynamic.  Just what does it take to make your DDlg sing?  Daddy covers what he feels are some of the best practices when it comes to making the most of what you have with your babygirl.   If you have any questions, comments, suggestions or a desire to join Daddy on an episode of Daddy AF to share your experience email Daddy at Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Wondering how you get from being curious about DDlg to actually identifying as a Daddy? Daddy had a strong identification with being a Daddy very early in his relationship but had yet to truly experience what being a Daddy meant to him. Join Daddy on a journey of discovery through what it was that took him from just curious and starting out...knowing that he had a strong desire to be a Daddy...to living every single day as a Daddy to a wonderful and amazing little girl. Send your questions, comments or ideas to Daddy_AF@comcast.net. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Daddy talks about the benefits of deconstructing the thoughts, feeling and emotions that surround the shared experiences we have in our relationships.  How valuable an asset that deconstruction can be as well as exploring the many aspects of how, when, where and why we do this thing called...deconstruction. Questions, comments or ideas?  Emails Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Let's take a journey through BDSM dynamic. From kink activities like rope, impact, and pain to power exchange between Masters, slaves, Dominants, submissives, Daddys, littles and everything in between…with a focus on kink and power exchange, and an introspective eye, let's dare ask the question “Why? Why do we do it?” What puts the BD in your SM? Send your questions, comments and suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net. Is there a topic you want to hear me talk about? Do you have questions about the scene? Is there something you're trying to work through or are stuck on that Daddy can help move forward by sharing his experience? Reach out and ask Daddy and he will share his thoughts. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Hear from Daddy and babygirl in babygirl's debut appearance on Daddy AF. Together we explore how relationship landscapes can alter dramatically from how we perceive the way we are in relationships to opening up new worlds and ways of being never imagined. Listen about how the life-affirming aversions to things like romance, true love and soulmates that we had when we first met were challenged. Changing our minds, hearts and perspective about what's possible for our life together. Also…never say never because I could be six months away! Questions / Comments / Suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Regular communication and sharing can help you get the most out of your relationships even as they evolve when we're not looking!  Discover how I went from a complete freak out about the emotional shift I was experiencing, to realizing just how deep the dynamic with babygirl had evolved.  As an added surprise...babygirl unwittingly (but so clearly) uncovers how the 'desire to please' can become so strong that it overpowers needs of self and becomes primary. Questions / Comments / Suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

After a 10 year crusade slamming my head against the wall of jealousy and having it hit back harder, I finally deconstructed what jealousy was to me. My gut tells me that what I found jealousy to be for me is something that most people would, in one way or another, identify with. Hear the stories, challenges, successes, setbacks and ultimate victory as I charted my course through the thorny patches of taming and even befriending the Green Monster known as jealousy. Learn how jealousy can be one of the best tools in your relationship toolbox. Let Daddy show you a trick or two about how to use it in making your relationships and dynamics strong and rewarding. Questions, Comments and Suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Have you noticed the stark difference between dating in the kink vs vanilla lifestyles?  Have you ever been afraid to disclose your kinky side to a partner or potential partner?  Are you trying to date mainstream but fear listing your interest in kink or BDsM dynamics will limit your responses? Listen as Daddy gives an account of his experience and observations dating in the kink and vanilla scenes simultaneously and before he realized that he was a Daddy. Send your questions, comments and suggestions to Daddy_AF@comcast.net.  Remember...there's no better way to make sure I stick around then subscribing, sending an email, donation or rating this podcast.  You may even make it on the show! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Whether you're monogamous, open, poly, non-monogamous or spectacularly ambiamorous you can't escape the labels we're all taught to use when defining relationships. Also, voices in submission. Am I a bad submissive if I don't just shut up and take what's given to me? But…what about my wants, needs and desires. Examining the roles and benefits of having a voice in submission. Questions / Comments / Suggestions to daddy_af@comcast.net.  Remember, there's no better way to make sure I stick around than by showing support with donation, subscription, message or rating! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

In this episode of Daddy AF we're going to look at what it means to be a Daddy. I'll talk about my experiences discovering when I first realized I was a Daddy and its context in my Dominance.  I'll ask questions that might help you connect with your inner Daddy / Dominant and babygirl, littlegirl or submissive.  I'll also explore my kink as it connects to my childhood. How you could take a look back at your own origins and create a deeper and more meaningful connection to your kink identity and partner(s). Questions / Comments / Suggestions to daddy_af@comcast.net  Also...there's no better way to make sure I stick around than by showing support with a donation or subscription. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

Learn about Daddy, the host of DADDY AF, as he explains his background, history and interests relevant to his journey and future episodes. Questions / Comments / Suggestions to daddy_af@comcast.net There's no better way to make sure I stick around than by showing support with a donation or subscription. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support

A short description of what you can expect listening to DADDY AF. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/daddyaf/support