Love and Jesus Juice

Are you hungry?  Do you balance a need for growth with a satisfaction with your life? Most of us tend to either be driven or settled into a groove of contentment.  In this episode we talk about how to get into the butter zone of just hungry enough to pursue your passion and yet stay connected to the things that are already great.

Why is the great mystery of our time.  Why do we do something? Why would we want to do something?  Does our "why" impact our motivation?  Have you ever wondered "why" you just can't get motivated to work on something you really think you want?  In this episode Paula and Kirby discuss the importance of having more than one "why" to keep you working towards your goals.  Our wine comes from Summer Crush Winery in Fort Pierce, Florida

Paula and I are often asked what we are reading or what great books are out there.  In response to listeners request we take this episode to share a few of our favorites and why!  Whether you are a reader or not you will enjoy listening to us talk about our take aways from these go to reads off our shelf.  You can find a complete list of all of our books on our Episode Page by Clicking Here.

Are you moving forward or backward?  Whether in your business or in your relationships we all have seasons of forward progress versus standing still.  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about what it is like to intentionally enter into a period of growth, no matter how uncomfortable it might be, in order to achieve our dreams. Our wine is from Sugar Creek Winery in Carmel, Indiana

Do you put a barrier on yourself and growth?  Too many people dig their heals in and take an absolute "I won't do that!" on behaviors that can only enhance their personal and professional growth.  In this episode Paula and Kirby discuss some of the common "I won't"'s they have heard.  Our wine is a supermarket wine called Gold Rush. Quite the interesting experience.

Sometimes, just sometimes, our kids make choices that we would not make for them.  Sometimes these are life altering decisions that make us struggle emotionally and sometimes they are just different decisions.  Regardless, part of parenting is dealing with these changes in expectations.  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about how to deal with these situations.  Our wine is from Tennessee Mountain View Winery in Sevierville, TN. 

Are you a workaholic? Do you rest easy?  What systems do you have in place to make sure you take the necessary time to recoup your energies?  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the concept of a regularly scheduled Sabbath.  Whether from a biblical standpoint or just as a way to survive today's stresses practicing a sabbath can make sure you keep your emotional strength up.  Our wine is a gift from a listener and quite the surprise.

Is it possible to have a list of problems "every" couple faces?  In this episode Paula and Kirby discuss a Huffington Post Article that makes that claim.  If it is that easy why can't we just solve the problems before they happen?  Our wine is a very unique Apple wine from Apple Barn Winery in Pigeon Forge, TN

Whether you have kids or are planning on having kids this is a great episode to start the discussion of age appropriate responsibilities.  Paula and Kirby talk about all of the reasons and ways to incorporate your kids into the process of learning responsibility though household participation.  Our episode is sponsored by First Miracle Winery in Fredericksburg Indiana.

Thanks to Easley Winery in Indianapolis Indiana we are proud to bring you Part 2 of our conversation on Race.  This powerful conversation highlights the similarities, difference, and shared desire to create civil discourse on the issues that are dividing us.  Join Paula and Kirby for this powerful conversation.

It is impossible to ignore the conversation about Race in the United States, nor should we.  In part one of this powerful conversation Paula and Kirby sit down with a black man to talk about living life in America.  This no limits conversation asks the hard questions between people with very different opinions and is a model for how to have a healthy conversation.  We are so thankful that EASLEY WINERY in Indianapolis has sponsored this special episode.  Check them out at www.EasleyWinery.com

Are you in a rut?  Do you not feel challenged?  Has your relationship become stagnant?  Then get out of your comfort zone!!! In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the importance of couples taking on challenges together.  Our wine comes from Talon Winery in Lexington, Kentucky.

It's not my fault!!!  That is always a comforting feeling when you can transfer blame for a bad outcome to some external situation or person.  However, it is very counterproductive to growing a successful business or building strong relationships.  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about principles from the best selling book Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin.  Our wine is from Villa Antonio Winery in Hillsboro, MO

Do you struggle with having consistent positive habits and breaking negative patterns?  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the BTF360 Foundational Principle of Discipline and how it works in concert with consistency to increase your success.  This episode is sponsored by First Miracle Winery in Fredericksburg, Indiana.

Some people are beach people and some people are mountain people.  Which are you and why?  In this episode Paula and Kirby find themselves on the road in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee.  They share with you lessons they have learned about how to enjoy where they are, even if it isn't their preferred vacation destination.  Our wine is from Hillside Winery in Sevierville, TN.

Consistency is monotonous! Consistency is Boring!!  But Consistency is also a powerful component of success.  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the BTF360 Core Concept of Consistency and how becoming a master of consistent positive behavior can build they framework for your success.  Our wine is a great Vino Rosso from Mallow Run Winery in Whiteland, Indiana

As we get older we often forget the importance of having adult friends as we focus on jobs, marriage, and family.  In this episode Paula and Kirby discuss times they were successful in building adult friendships and seasons they neglected this important social aspect.  Our sponsor is First Miracle Winery in Fredericksburg, Indiana.

Direction, orientation, destination.  All words for where you are going.  In this episode Paula and Kirby go back to the BTF360 system and talk about the core principle of FOCUS!!  You cannot truly grow as a person, as a partner, as a parent if you don't have a reason and a direction to grow!  Our wine is from Simmons Winery in Columbus, Indiana!

Do we have the right to judge?  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the damage we do when we rush to judgement and share our opinion of people's behavior or actions without all of the facts.  Specifically, do you hurt your ability to witness when you condemn people's mistakes in a public forum?  Our sponsor this week is First Miracle Winery in Fredericksburg, Indiana!  You have to check them out!

Do you struggle with your diets, exercise plans, budgets, etc?  Have you tried over and over to set a resolution or commit to change? You are just like the rest of us. In this episode Paula and Kirby introduce you to Born To Fly 360.  A development concept that fuels the ability to make lasting change.  This first in a series provides valuable insight into why we fail to gain traction.  Our wine is from Owen Valley in Spencer, Indiana!

What could you accomplish if you chose to dream again? To dream the big dream. To start pursuing a passion instead of a paycheck. In this episode, Paula and Kirby talk about how you start dreaming again. Our wine is from Cedar Creek Winery in Martinsville, Indiana!

Marriage and relationships are hard.  And they only get harder when you don't express your feelings.  On this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the importance of and ways they learned to have the hard conversations. 

Summer time is prime time to make family memories.  Either with your kids, or together as a couple, there are countless ways to create lasting memories with limited resources.  Kirby and Paula share some of their best ideas from their own childhoods, raising their kids, and now as empty nesters.  Our wine is Phantom Chardonnay from Bogle Vineyards.

The only constant in life is change.  And pandemic or not, life and work is changing at light speed.  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the effect technology is having on our daily life and the effects of this disruption on our work, social, and emotional states.  Things are changing and it will be necessary for us to develop a way to adapt with it.

Some people are naturally competitive.  Others just aren't.  On this episode Paula and Kirby talk about their own versions of being raised competitive, how that has effected their relationship, and address the positives and negatives of raising competitive children.  Our wine for this episode comes from Lakeridge Winery in Clermont, Florida.

Do you know someone is driven? How do you view the concept of being driven? Are you stuck because you are afraid of the consequences of being driven? Kirby and Paula talk about what makes a person driven to achieve and how do they maintain a harmony yet still pursue their passion.Our wine for this Episode is Duck Decoy.

Sometimes you learn an awful lot by taking a trip down Memory Lane. Paula and Kirby explore what they and some listeners learned from their favorite TV Shows. What was your can't miss TV show growing up and what lessons did it teach you?  Our wine for this Episode is from Watertower Estates in Terre Haute, Indiana. 

Is canned wine a thing?  Find out on this episode when Paula and Kirby discuss the concepts behind creating a budget.  Don't worry, it isn't another dry lecture on how to create a spreadsheet.  Instead they discuss how to change your mindset about budgeting and make it work for you!

It's another pandemic special.  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the how the concepts of traditional gender roles (or expectations) affected their relationship and how couples can and coworkers can move beyond these expectations to create a balanced result. 

Life has been disrupted and so have your routines.  Are you developing negative or positive behaviors during social isolation?  The challenge is real and Paula and Kirby talk about how we are responding and what you can do to achieve a positive outcome during this crisis.

On this episode Paula and Kirby talk about Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages.  Or like they call them, the Five Care Languages.  Knowing how you receive and prefer to show love is half the battle in your relationships.  Being cognizant of others preferred languages is even more important.  Our wine is from Hooker Corner Winery in Pine Village, Indiana

It really isn't that hard.  Just a minute or two of your time to slow down and be nice.  Just a chance to politely decline or say no thank you instead of slamming the phone or cutting someone off or not replying.  On this episode Paula & Kirby talk about learning to change their attitude towards taking the time to be nice even when they do not want to.  It really does only take a minute to keep from burning a bridge.  You never know when that person may be a potential future customer, friend, or ally.  This week's wine is a mystery and you will have to listen to find out!!

For many people the human side of the church has hurt people in ways that have impacted their faith.  Kirby and Paula address the challenges people face when they have been disappointed by religion and it has impacted their faith. They discuss ways to protect your faith when confronted by the natural challenges that arrive from religious institutions.  Our wine is from Blackhawk Winery in Sheridan, Indiana.

Does Coronavirus have you frozen in place? Not if you have master the concept of being a Plan B thinking. Whether you are an entrepreneur or not being able to pivot and adjust on the fly is vitally important during this crisis. Our wine comes from Tuscan Hills Winery in Effingham, Illinois.Our Sponsor: B Fancy Boutique

Bucket List! Opportunity List!  By whatever name you want to call it, they can make a great way to keep your dreams in front of you.  And by spending time thinking about them now you can start crossing things off early!  Paula and Kirby share their take on what role a bucket list should play and share some of their unique ideas! Our wine is a very dry Pino Grigio from Oak & Brazen Wine Company near Columbus, Ohio

Have you ever tried to be silent?  Do you even realize how much noise goes on around you?  In this episode Paula shares a recent experience of getting away from life's daily distractions for a full weekend of silence.  Do you think you could do it?  Find out if it was a good idea, great idea, and what she learned.  Our wine was a special edition vintage with a great story behind it.  Listen now to find out why!

Everyone loves a good Love Story!  This episode kicks off a recurring series where Paula and Kirby will interview couples and help tell some spectacular love stories.  Of course, they have to start with their very own.  Listen to how some pushing from the universe and a "Big Hug Mug" conspired to get these to together in spite of their own efforts to the contrary.  Thank you to Hickory Creek Winery in Michigan for providing our wine for this episode.  www.hickorycreekwinery.com

The single most important piece to keeping a relationship healthy is investing time.  On this episode Paula and Kirby talk about some of the unique dating ideas they have had over the years.  Some of these were creative because they had no money!! Some were when they had a little bit of money but were bored with the normal everyday date.  Are you looking for some creative ways to squeeze time with that special someone?  Then this episode is for you!  Our wine is a great little Cabernet Sauvignon from Buck Creek Winery in Indianapolis.  www.buckcreekwinery.com

Like so much of parenting, preparation for the next stage of your child's life is a long game.  In this episode Kirby and Paula talk about how to prepare to be successful empty nesters from the very beginning of your relationship.  Understanding that great marriages are successful before, during and after children they talk about ways they prepared their children for adult hood, ways they failed to prepare them, and when they started "thinking" about what life would be like after the children moved out.  Our wine is from the The People's Winery in Logansport, Indiana. 

Most money problems boil down to a lack of communication.  Do you have different priorities?  Do you know what your money situation really looks like?  On this episode Paula and Kirby get real about the one issue that they have struggled with.  How to talk about money.  Learn from them before it becomes a problem in your relationship.  Our wine this week is from Texas Hills Vineyard in Johnson City, Tx.  www.texashillsvineyard.com

When you enter a relationship, maintaining friendships can be difficult.  What role do your friends play in your new romantic relationship?  Do they have a positive impact or a negative impact?  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about the concept of having a best friend outside of marriage can ultimately help or hurt your relationship.  Our wine is a wonderful little Zin from the Whyte Horse Winery in Monticello, Indiana.  www.whytehorsewinery.com.

Ok, maybe not just your first date.  Paula and Kirby explore a variety of "get to know you" questions that can help you decide to move forward in your relationship or identify areas you need to discuss further.  This is a VERY fun episode as they share questions they wished they would have asked.  Of course if they wished they had asked them, you can count on the fact that they didn't agree about the answers!  Our wine is from Quantum Leap Winery in Orlando, Florida.  If you are an animal lover you will love their story!  Check them out at www.quantumleapwinery.com.

Businesses have been creating mission statements for years.  But did you know the power of having your own mission statement?  For example, Paula and Kirby's statement is as follows:  "We are Missionaries fighting Mediocrity and Converting the complacent to a Life of Excellence."  In this episode Paula and Kirby talk about what a mission statement is and why you should take time to process and create your own.  Our wine is a Red Blend from the Drunk Tank Winery at the Old Jail Inn in Rockville, Indiana.  www.OldJailInn.com

Money is the #1 cause of stress in most relationships.  Paula and Kirby have experienced this first hand.  From learning the effects of poor communication to being on the edge of bankruptcy they have first hand, practical knowledge of ways to improve your money conversations.  Our wine this week is from the Barons Creek Vineyards in Fredericksburg, TX.  www.baronscreekvineyards.com.

Relationships between 2 people are just about guaranteed to end up with disagreements.  A healthy relationship engages in these conflicts with patience, wisdom and compassion but doesn't ignore differing opinions.  On this episode Paula and Kirby breakdown how they learned to agree to disagree so their two differing personalities could become one without either losing themselves in the process.  Our wine comes from The Winery at Wolf Creek in Norton, OH.  www.wineryatwolfcreek.com

It's the 1st day of the New Year and New Decade!!  Have you made a Resolution?  Have you given up on resolutions because you always fail?  Paula and Kirby discuss the pitfalls of setting resolutions and offer practical suggestions for starting your year off in a way that sets you up for success.   Join the Conversation on Facebook!  @loveandjesusjuice​. Our wine is from ​Pedernales Winery in ​Texas Hill Country.  www.​PedernalesCellars.com

Kirby and Paula bring you this week's celebration of Christmas Traditions from the beautiful Island of St. Martin.  What specific Christmas memories do you have from growing up?  Have you tried to keep them in place with your family or did you have to let them go?  How has Christmas changed for you.  Be part of the conversation on Facebook @loveandJesusJuice.  Our wine is a Bordeaux from the local market on the island.

Typing others and ourselves can be a dangerous thing.  In this episode Paula and Kirby break down the concept of Introversion vs. Extroversion and address the myths associated with them.  Is it possible to change?  Does one have more success then others?  Does everyone fall into one of the two camps?   Our wine comes from Red Barn Winery in Michigan.  www.roundbarn.com

Do you believe in Soulmates?  It is a romantic concept that can create quite the conversation.  On this episode Kirby and Paula discuss their opinions on the concept of a singular person designed just for you.  Join the conversation on Facebook @loveandjesusjuice.  This week's wine comes from White Shutter Winery in Ohio.  www.whiteshutterwinery.com

We had so much FUN recording this episode!  I think it is our favorite so far.  We talk about ​our favorite Fictional Couples!  Sometimes we can learn great lessons in the most unique places.  And oftentimes we learn both what to do and what not to do from our fictional role models.  From the Cosby's to Ross and Rachel, to Rocky and Adrian our fictional heroes make us laugh, take us down memory lane, and show us how to love.  Join the Conversation on Facebook!  @loveandjesusjuice​. Our wine is from Two EE's Winery in Huntington Indiana.  www.twoees.com

Are holiday traditions tough?  Anytime you combine two people you combine two families and all the expectations and traditions that go along with it.  On this episode Kirby and Paula explore how they navigated the blending of their families both when they were first married but also adding in a third generation of crazy schedules and expectations.  You would be amazed by what a little prioritizing and a lot of communicating can do to head off holiday frustrations.  Our wine is from Sycamore Winery just down the road from us in Terre Haute, Indiana.