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This week we discuss activism burn out and how many social media warriors deter people rather than pulling them into their causes. As much as we love passionate people, we need to discuss bullying in the name of a worthy cause because it's exhausting and has got to go. Lovely Artist Who Inspired This Week's Episode: Lainey Molnar Insta: @lainey.molnar Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

In our crunchiest episode yet to date we Steph Notes: Human Design. We barely break the surface but as two ladies with zero grasp of anything related to astrology we try to give you a run down on the basics. So pull up your chart, have a glass of wine and become as uncomfortable as we did with how accurate some of this sh*it actually is. https://www.myhumandesign.com/ - To make your chart. Just do it. You know you believe in more outlandish crap, like that male gender in general. https://genekeys.com/ Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

As we enter our final year in our 20s we have accumulated a lot of thoughts and feelings on the end of our supposed youth. Some it sucks, shockingly most of it doesn't, but we do have some choice words for the people who make it more difficult. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

What happens when you have a birthday so memorable, so traumatic, that it ruins every other birthday you've had since? How do you move forward with celebrating the day you were born (more of a testament to whoever birthed you than anything)? And why do we wait to express how important people are to us until we are in front of all our family and friends giving a eulogy? Let's discuss and try to adjust our thinking on turning a year older. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com (open for your living eulogies) Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

Now most of you know our feelings about the state of the world this past year, however we are trying to reframe how we are looking into this unknown new world. What habits or ideas are we bringing with? What are we thankful that a global pandemic brought an end to? We actually have some good things to say about our personal growth this year and we think you'll feel pretty similar. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

We’re feeling a little jaded when it comes to wedding events these days. Just listen and we’ll tell you why. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

We’ve been wanting to word vomit about our heroes for MONTHS now. So excited for you to tune into our gush session on RBG and Oprah. Some information you may have heard before, and some stuff may be new like it was for us! Who they were/are, what they did/do, how they got there, and why we love them. Enjoy! Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

Early on in our podcast, we discussed how we both have higher-than-average sex drives. We’ve done a little soul searching and now we’re not so sure. This week we talk about how fickle sex lives can be, why they are so all over the place, and what we do to try and gain some control over the situation. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

Please grab a glass of wine and join us; we laugh so hard we cry while rant about MLMs and the damaged it has caused. You know we love to talk shit every once in a while, and we don't have much nice stay about these modern day Pyramid schemes. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

This episode we discuss being proud of ourselves, not to be confused with both of our struggles with Pride. But rather, why is it so hard to be proud of your accomplishments openly? Why is it that we want to celebrate our friend's outfits or dating lives but are more hesitant to celebrate financial milestones? Then throwing social media into the equation how do you toe the line between celebration and bragging with a swipe up included? We struggle through this topic and can't wait to hear back from you guys. Suggestions this week: Do No Harm Podcast Series & The movie The Mauritanian Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

We look around and ask ourselves, “...what?” Times feel insane right now, but is that even new? Has the world always been this chaotic or are things really as bad and prolific as they seem? This episode is just two besties that needed to check in and make sure they were both seeing this shit. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Facebook: Facebook.com/MakeItWorkPodcast

From parents to romantic partners. What makes a good roommate? Why do we like our homes the way we do? We have college roommate horror stories, and examples from our current living situations that allows us to finally laugh at our traumatizing roomie pasts. We may want completely different things out of our personal spaces, so how do we Make It Work? Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

We’ve been thinking about empowerment. The times we feel our strongest, how we get to that point, and when it feels easiest to pass the reins to our straight white male counterparts. What is it about being a woman that makes us afraid to take up space, and how do we make it part of our unconscious way of moving through life to be more confident in our place in the world? Let’s discuss. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Facebook: www.facebook.com/makeitworkpodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Did you know that there are researchers who can predict if you and your life partner will end up together 4ever, or divorced/broken up? Did you know those researchers are married to each other?! Did you know they published all of their work and that Stephanie stumbled upon and nerded out on it like only she can? We are going to start calling these types of episodes “Steff Notes” where she does a deep dive and comes back to us with a Cliff Notes-style review. Have no fear, if you hear yourself in some of these communication blunders (we sure did), it’s not really the apocalypse. *tries not to roll eyes* Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Resources: Brene Brown podcast with the Gottmans, The Gottman Institute, Experts on Expert with Dax Shepard and John Gottman, Tik Tok @HowCommunicationWorks, Mark Groves Podcast interviewing Dr. Julie

Bonus Episode... Kinda! Today is our 1 year anniversary so we wanted to post the episode that started it all. Can't wait to talk to you guys again Monday! Cheers

Spoiler Alert: We have no idea. Seriously? How did anyone ever think that they did? Here's to another episode of us letting you in on our existential crisis between two best friends, hopefully it help's you feel a little less alone. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

A lot of feedback we get from listeners is that we discuss things that make you all feel less weird or crazy. So we are now banking on YOU to make US feel less weird. Here is an episode dedicated to the definitely weird stuff we obsess over. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

This week we lighten things up a lot - for you, and for us. Stephanie worked in Aesthetics for a little while and is here to school us on skin care. Need a buddy with this specific expertise in your life? You got it. She’s done all the research and been through all the shady stuff for you. Botox, dry skin, oily skin, medical grade skincare, drug store products, where to spend that money and where you can go for a less expensive option. Just PLEASE wear spf. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

What's going on everybody? We're back at it again, a little older in this new year but obviously not showing it or acting like it. We had a quick catch up chat, realized that one of us is struggling quite a bit and had to reach out for help, then shameless begged you to throw out your suggestions of what we can Make Work. Join us if, you too aren't doing the new year new me, gym at 5 am, dry January, shit. If you are one of those people, well hopefully we'll make you laugh since we clearly have nothing in common. Please tell a friend, rate, review and subscribe

What is the result of working in medicine during a pandemic that people aren’t taking seriously around the holidays that seem to only add stress to life? Being ANNOYED. But since we already told you about our own pet peeves, we reached out to you guys to find out yours. And you did not disappoint. In conclusion: ditto. You all rock. Thanks for making us feel less crazy about getting pissed off all the time. ‘Tis the season!! Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Some may call us grinches, but let us make our case here... we are already overwhelmed by Christmas. We're trying to get on board and see where so many of you all muster up so much joy, but until then we'll be having an attitude over here. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Morgan was interviewed for Good Morning Liberty's Re-Humanizing Project. She discusses her political beliefs and the life experiences she has had to create them. We miss you already and will be back to our normal bullshit next week! Insta: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Good Morning Liberty Podcast Instagram: @goodmorningliberty Twitter: @GoodAMLiberty

We’ve talked about sex and money. Now it’s finally time to talk about politics. With election day less than a week away, we decided to cover some of the issues of this election, where the main candidates stand on them, and how we lean. We agree on some and disagree on others. And we are still best friends post-conversation. Don't forget to vote!!! Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Candidate Comparison https://2020election.procon.org/view.source-summary-chart.php

Is it just a little too late? Probably. We realized that we aren’t just talking to ourselves anymore, and after introducing the most intimate parts of ourselves, we decided we should do a little “get to know us” activity. As always we go off on ridiculous tangents and stories, because it wouldn’t be getting to know us if we didn’t. Welcome to our own little fucked up slice of the world, we’re happy to have you. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Not that we are ever appropriate, but this week we grabbed some Margaritas and pushed the boundaries of our comfort zone. We want to open the conversation about sex toys because spoiler alert: we're HUGE fans. From our experience bringing toys into the bedroom, the types we have hidden in our bedside drawers, to what we want to try next; we laid it all out there because we are very passionate about women's pleasure being a priority. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Just two basic white girls raising our white flags, asking for help in the sea of fall enjoyment inadequacy full of Starbucks PSL, fall decor, and complete lack of appreciate for other other fall fruits such as Apples. All we are asking is for some moderation, some attainability. The level of intensity some people can put into this season leaves us feeling defeated before we even start. So if you also love a ~SPOOKY SEASON~ but you also have prior commitments that prevent you from reaching the fall aesthetic we see every day, man do we have an episode for you. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Isn’t it great when that thing you’ve been looking for just happens to show up on your Instagram? Yes, of course. It’s very convenient. But what about every other piece of information that is presented to you? From what we are told at new job orientations, and our families using our weaknesses against us, to big pharma and the diamond industry. Manipulation is everywhere. Stay woke. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Oh what we would give to turn back the clock and warn our past selves about the oncoming emotional rollercoaster that would be our sex lives. If we can't make our teenage selves sit back and listen, we might as well share it with you guys. So grab a glass of wine, let's swap stories, and decide how we would best utilize a time machine for only the most critical information: sexxxxx. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

What do you do when your crappy days at work come home with you? When work is now at home? When your job takes all of your energy? How can we balance work and life so that we feel accomplished while still keeping our cups full? This turned out to be part one of what we have to say about work-life balance and how to treat your job as what it is….just a job. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

It’s all fun and games in college. And then the frat boy drinking doesn’t stop. What do you do? What was it like for us when we realized we were dating men with a drinking problem? Maybe you can relate, maybe you can just sympathize. But we’ve seen a lot and learned a lot. Come along for our ride so you don’t have to. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Al-Anon Meetings: https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/ AA: Meetings: https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/meeting-guide

Apologizing is a skill that takes time, maturity, and (unfortunately) practice. This week we are discussing the art of saying “sorry”. Giving one, receiving one, and the uncomfortable moments after one. We have some stories to share… Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod E-mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

We were having a rough week so we decided rather than faking it (not our style), or skipping a week (very much our style), that we would just acknowledge the fact that we aren't doing great. So grab a snack, you'll hear Stephanie's favorite sad snack, and come hang out with us. We figured we could all use some girl time. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Morgan just turned 28. And what are birthdays for, if not throwing ourselves into existential crises and comparing where we are in life to our peers and to where are parents were at our age? Oh? Cake? Not our thing. We’d rather talk out our insecurities and do a feelings deep-dive. Come get your self-reflection done now so you can enjoy your own birthday without ending up in a corner, already hungover after ONE dirty martini in the fetal position questioning why you’re not where you thought you would be at this age when you were like 10. PS: 10-year-old you didn’t know shit. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twittter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

This week we’re breaking down attachment styles, basically it’s the mommy/daddy issues episode you’ve all been waiting for. Do you tend toward stage 5 clinger or retreat into yourself like a little hermit crab? Our goal is to help you understand yourself and the ones you love in order to keep you from making the same dating mistakes we have. As always, you are welcome. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod E-mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Sources http://labs.psychology.illinois.edu/~rcfraley/attachment.htm https://www.google.com/amp/s/markmanson.net/attachment-theory/amp Incredible educational podcast (much more mature and professional take) The Place We Find Ourselves - How our attachment style affects the way we relate to other people Quiz We Used but does require an e-mail address: www.yourpersonality.net

We are all about girl power here at Make It Work, but we are like this because of a lifetime of experiences with bullying, exclusion, judgement and competition. Why are ladies so mean to each other? What can we do to band together and build each other up? Let’s talk it out. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

This summer both our state and federal government have made some choices that will very likely affect you. It's kind of a big deal. As best friends with different political beliefs, we have come together in aggressive agreement that this topic needs discussing. So this week we talk women's reproductive rights and we want to hear YOUR voices as well. We want to talk mad shit about these decisions and figured... who better with than you guys? Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

We promised more stories about our mistakes and, as always, we delivered. Growing up as millennials led to many technology related crises and this week we shared a few including disasters with nudes and texting while angry. If you were lucky enough to avoid any of this faux paus then we can’t express how jealous we are, and if not grab a glass of wine and let's trade social media horror stories. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

This week we are beginning a discussion on what social media has meant for us: the good, the bad, and the ugly. We go down memory lane to talk about AIM, Xanga, and MySpace before touching on Facebook and Instagram. Let us know how social media has affected your life! And if you’re our age, thank the lord that Snapchat didn’t exist when you were a teenager. Social Media has impacted all of us but especially the millennial and gen z generations. Also we aren’t on board with this bullshit fight between millennials and gen z were too close to the border and think that is a crock of shit Also - there are disgusting predators every step of the way that try to take advantage of young people by contacting them through social media Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Have you ever looked at someone and thought, “how the hell does your brain work?” Then they probably have a different personality type than you. This week Stephanie finally schools us on enneagrams. This topic comes up a lot in passing on MIW, so we are breaking things down. It’s a long one but we barely scratch the surface. Snacks recommended. What personality type are you!? Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Skipper’s Cheat Sheet Type 1 - 14:45 Type 2 - 22:46 Type 3 - 36:43 Type 4 - 46:57 Type 5 - 53:45 Type 6 - 1:03:12 Type 7 - 1:08:22 Type 8 - 1:17:08 Type 9 - 1:29:34 Resources Recommended Test (classical) https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test Enneagram Institiute https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ Referenced to The Enneagram of Belonging by Christopher Heuertz

This week we are talking about new relationships and everything they tend to bring up: excitement, baggage, guilt, and sharing the good and bad about ourselves. We discuss lessons learned when it comes to blossoming romances, and (as promised) BLM is woven into our conversation in the same way it has become a part of our everyday lives. Morgan’s got a new man so sit back, relax, and soak in the new relationship glow with us. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

This week, we have our first ever guest on Make It Work. The wonderful Raya (@rayablackwell) took the time to discuss race with us, and we couldn’t be more thankful. We learned a lot, and had an open discussion with her in the midst of this enormous and immensely important Black Lives Matter movement. It is always important to seek out different perspectives, and Raya offers a life experience that we simply do not have. We thank her times a million for sharing her time, experiences, thoughts, and dreams with our audience. Our Guest: @rayablackwell Our Spotlight Charity’s Instagram: @thelovelandfoundation Our e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Our Instagram: @makeitworkpodcast Our Twitter: @makeitworkpod Your Turn To Help! Register to Vote: https://vote.gov/ Donate to The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/ SHARE THIS PODCAST AND RAYA’S STORY

We’re big hands on learners here and typically that involves screwing something up on our own just to learn, that was indeed not the correct way to do it. So we started to start a series and share with you guys some of the things we have continued to choose to learn the hard way. We’ll keep sharing and you can learn from us or choose to struggle like we do, we don’t care and we’ll laugh with you regardless. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Grief: it’s not for the faint of heart. This week’s episode covers different things that trigger grief (spoiler alert-it’s not just death), strategies for getting through the grieving process, and ways to help a loved one through their rough time. We are all grieving something right now, whether it’s a person, a job, or a routine. So let’s talk it out and get through it together. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

This week we’re talking about romantic relationship non-starters. Some serious, some just an extension of our pet-peeves episode. We pull from past relationships and current events to discuss things that would lead to an immediate left swipe, or stop a burgeoning relationship in its tracks. Have we learned valuable lessons? Or are we just picky? We’ll let you be the judge of that. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

We were going to discuss a legitimate topic this week but we physically / mentally / emotionally couldn’t do it. Quarantine sucks and we just needed some normal (as possible) girl time. So, this is what we’ve been up to since the pandemic began. If you’re missing time with your friends too, hopefully this will make you feel better. LYLAS.  Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast  Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod  e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Have you ever felt unappreciated by someone when you’ve done all you know how to do to express your love for them? Have you ever felt as though someone in your life doesn’t show you the love you need from them? You’re probably just not speaking the same language. This week Stephanie schools us in the five Love Languages. Listen to hear about what they are, how to express different types of love, and find out how the love languages have affected us in our own lives. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast *Give Our Insta a Follow for Upcoming Give-Away* Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Resources: Dr. Gary Chapman's "The Five Love Languages and accompanying site www.5lovelanguages.com. Blinkist.com had many articles pulled from. Oprah's Super Soul podcast episode interviewing Dr. Chapman.

We’re changing tune this week and diving into a topic where we literally have nothing in common: religion. We discuss a few aspects of Judaism that may be unfamiliar to some of our audience, and the hardships that come with being a member of the Jewish community. Later we talk about how intense an evolving relationship with religion can be. Come for the education, stay for some seriously confusing signs from the universe - and please let us know how you’d interpret them because we. are. lost. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com Now we also have a facebook page that we are trying to figure out! facebook.com/makeitworkpodcast

Sex. It’s on all our minds, all the time. We’re back with a more serious topic this week as we navigate consent, safe sex, birth control, virginity (trigger warning), and sexual stigmas. It’s fun to do, it’s fun to talk about. If you’re looking for two gals to let you in on the conversations they’re having all the time anyway, you’ve come (cum?) to the right pod. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

We needed a break from the seriousness of the world so we decided to do what any rational, mentally stable healthcare professional would do when looking to find the positives in life right now: talk about everything that annoys the shit out of them. Come along for the roller coaster of emotions that is a discussion about our pet peeves. Stick around until the very end for a couple of listener stories. And stay inside. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod e-Mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

If there’s one thing that we would both say we are the most proud of in our lives, it would be our friendship. It’s been almost 15 years of trouble-making, laughing, and most importantly being there when shit hits the fan. We want to brag about each other to you, talk about what it takes to make girl friendships work, discuss making new friends as adults, and reminisce on a few relationship-defining stories. Grab a drink, grab your bestie, and hang out with us during our favorite episode yet. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod E-mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com

Dating apps. We love them. We hate them. Some of us have had luck, most of us haven’t. Listen to us complain about the people we have swiped right on, explain why we’ve swept left, and give tips on how not to get murdered on a first date. Instagram: @MakeItWorkPodcast Twitter: @MakeItWorkPod E-mail: MakeItWorkPodcast@gmail.com