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Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you're in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last. In this episode: Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last. The Gottman Institute on bids for connection, and the 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. The toxic buildup of micro-resentments—and how to address them early. How to repair arguments when one person wants space and the other wants closeness. Relationship “hacks” you've never heard of (including love mapping and emotional buttons). Why “perfect” couples still argue—and how to argue better. The Michelangelo Effect: how great couples help each other grow. Links:

Jacqueline Wielick, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of her own private practice, Therapy by Jackie. She has a master of science in marriage and family therapy, and degrees in both psychology and sociology. With a focus on couples, relationships, attachment, trauma, and emotions, Jackie's passion is helping people find deep joy in themselves and in their relationships using her advanced training in research-based theories such as EFT and Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Jackie previously worked at The Gottman Institute for five years, one of the world's leading research institutes for couples and relationships, where she was exposed to their revolutionary research on love and relationships. Learn more at www.jackiewielick.com. Jennine Estes Powell, LMFT, is founder of Estes Therapy, a group practice in San Diego, CA, that concentrates on relationship counseling. As a licensed marriage and family therapist who is certified in emotionally focused therapy (EFT), she has been helping countless couples repair their rifts and reinvigorate their connection for more than twenty years. She also trains other therapists and serves as a mentor for colleagues. Her aim is to strategically apply empirically based techniques to create positive, long-term change. Learn more at www.estestherapy.com. Check Out the Quick Tip Here: https://www.newharbinger.com/blog/quick-tips-therapists/what-to-do-when-couples-therapy-clients-come-into-the-session-escalated-in-their-negative-cycle/  If you have ideas for future episodes, thoughts, or questions, we'd love to hear from you! Send us an email at podcast@newharbinger.com 

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2579: Dr. Diana Kirschner breaks the myth that healthy relationships are free of conflict, revealing that arguments, when handled with care, can actually strengthen connection and trust. She shares six therapist-approved techniques, like the “Take Two” method and Positive Shaping Talk, to help couples fight fairly, deepen intimacy, and turn tension into closeness. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lovein90days.com/healthy-relationships-fighting-what-therapists-want-you-to-know/ Quotes to ponder: "Happy couples are authentic, straight with each other, and air their differences." "Keep in mind that your real foe is not your partner but this physiological stress reaction!" "Ask yourself, which is more important: to be right or to be close?" Episode references: The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2950: Dr. Ashleigh Louis shares simple yet powerful ways to help children develop long-term self-care habits through consistent routines, outdoor activities, and shared moments of joy. Practicing these habits together not only builds your child's emotional resilience but also strengthens the parent-child bond in meaningful, lasting ways. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/teach-kids-self-care-creating-healthy-habits/ Quotes to ponder: "Even if they are not currently stressed or upset, teaching kids to regularly take care of themselves will help ensure that they have the skills to manage future stressors in healthy and effective ways." "The important thing isn't necessarily to get into great shape or to take on big athletic challenges, but to build a regular routine of physical self-care that maintains good health and balance." "Basically, it feels good to do good, and it provides long-term health benefits!" Episode references: The Science of Gratitude - Greater Good Science Center: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_gratitude_is_good The Science of Kindness - Random Acts of Kindness Foundation: https://www.randomactsofkindness.org/the-science-of-kindness The Benefits of Laughter: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6125057/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2950: Dr. Ashleigh Louis shares simple yet powerful ways to help children develop long-term self-care habits through consistent routines, outdoor activities, and shared moments of joy. Practicing these habits together not only builds your child's emotional resilience but also strengthens the parent-child bond in meaningful, lasting ways. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/teach-kids-self-care-creating-healthy-habits/ Quotes to ponder: "Even if they are not currently stressed or upset, teaching kids to regularly take care of themselves will help ensure that they have the skills to manage future stressors in healthy and effective ways." "The important thing isn't necessarily to get into great shape or to take on big athletic challenges, but to build a regular routine of physical self-care that maintains good health and balance." "Basically, it feels good to do good, and it provides long-term health benefits!" Episode references: The Science of Gratitude - Greater Good Science Center: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_gratitude_is_good The Science of Kindness - Random Acts of Kindness Foundation: https://www.randomactsofkindness.org/the-science-of-kindness The Benefits of Laughter: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6125057/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism. Whether you're nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, insecurity, or control—and what to do instead. From revealing instead of blaming, to communicating needs without making your partner defensive, this episode is packed with powerful reframes and tools to shift from criticism to connection.Key Moments:·       2:00 – Why criticism is often an attempt to control, not connect·       6:00 – How to tell the difference between a complaint an emotional need·       12:20 – What your criticism is actually trying to say·       20:40 – How to turn a complaint into a “reveal or request”·       29:00 – The neuroscience behind why we misread our partner's silence·       38:00 – A hilarious hot tub story that'll test your jealousy triggersGolden Episode Nuggets:

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2543: Parent Co. shares a heartfelt tribute to the lasting impact of a mother's words, showing how consistent empathy, trust, and encouragement can shape a child's inner voice. This moving reflection highlights how nurturing emotional strength early on leads to lifelong confidence and self-belief. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/10-things-mom-told-kid-give-confidence-adult/ Quotes to ponder: "My mom never told me what to do. She made my thoughts and feelings important by asking me about them." "I grew up believing that I could be proud of myself. And I am." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode was inspired by our personal experiences and a blog post from The Gottman Institute all about perpetual versus solvable problems in long-relationships. As close friends, we've had a front seat to the common disagreements and issues that we each have in our 10-year long marriages. We often will talk through something and try to see the other partner's side, while also working towards solutions - which is what you'll get to hear in today's episode. The Gottman blog post was so interesting to us because it made us realize that what may be a solvable problem for Abby and Colin, may be a perpetual problem for Amy and Drew and vice versa. According to The Gottman Institute, 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual with the most common topics being household chores, parenting, sex, and in-law relationships. We are digging into a couple of these topics today and breaking down whether this is a perpetual or solvable problem in our own relationship and what we've done to work on it together as a couple. We hope that from listening to our personal experiences in today's episode, you're able to reflect if your marital arguments are perpetual or solvable problems in order to evolve with your partner and be in a really happy marriage.Links & Resources:20% off your order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping 20% off your first order at Vuori ClothingCheck out the Maui Nui Venison products we're loving!The Gottman Institute Blog Post, “Managing Conflict: Solvable vs Perpetual Problems”Let's connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Will your next phase be your time? If you're a people-pleaser, or know someone who is, you'll want to hear from Hailey Magee, author of Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power. It's time to set better boundaries, advocate for your needs and priorities and start living the life you've imagined. Hailey Magee joins us from Seattle. ______________________ Bio Hailey Magee is a certified coach who helps people around the world break the people-pleasing pattern and master the art of self-advocacy. Holding a credential from the International Coaching Federation and certified by Erickson Coaching International, Hailey has worked with over 500 private clients, helping recovering people-pleasers rediscover not only their power and agency, but their pleasure, joy, and sense of wonder. Her debut book, Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power, was released by Simon & Schuster in 2024. Hailey's refreshingly nuanced perspectives on boundary-setting and self-advocacy have captured the attention of millions on social media. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Gottman Institute, Business Insider, and Newsweek, and she has facilitated workshops in partnership with WeWork, Women In Music, and a variety of other companies and organizations. Hailey is dedicated to offering her clients clear, research-supported strategies for change. She resides in Seattle, WA. ______________________ For More on Hailey Magee Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power Website ______________________ Podcast Episodes You May Like The Power of Saying No – Vanessa Patrick, PhD The Joy of Saying No – Natalie Lue Edit Your Life – Elisabeth Sharp McKetta _____________________ About The Retirement Wisdom Podcast There are many podcasts on retirement, often hosted by financial advisors with their own financial motives, that cover the money side of the street. This podcast is different. You'll get smarter about the investment decisions you'll make about the most important asset you'll have in retirement: your time. About Retirement Wisdom I help people who are retiring, but aren't quite done yet, discover what's next and build their custom version of their next life. A meaningful retirement doesn't just happen by accident. Schedule a call today to discuss how The Designing Your Life process created by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans can help you make your life in retirement a great one – on your own terms. About Your Podcast Host  Joe Casey is an executive coach who also helps people design their next life after their primary career and create their version of The Multipurpose Retirement.™ He created his own next chapter after a twenty-six-year career at Merrill Lynch, where he was Senior Vice President and Head of HR for Global Markets & Investment Banking. Today, in addition to his work with clients, Joe hosts The Retirement Wisdom Podcast, which thanks to his guests and loyal listeners, ranks in the top 1 % globally in popularity by Listen Notes, with over 1.6 million downloads. Business Insider has recognized Joe as one of 23 innovative coaches who are making a difference. He's the author of Win the Retirement Game: How to Outsmart the 9 Forces Trying to Steal Your Joy. Connect on LinkedIn _______________________ Wise Quotes On People Pleasing "It's really just the act of putting other people first at our own detriment, chronically. So unlike regular generosity, which can feel really great and benefit our relationships, people pleasing tends to be a chronic pattern of behavior that really negatively affects us over time. And the costs are high. First of all, because we're always centering other people and putting them first, we become really disconnected from ourselves. So we struggle to access our own dreams, our own desires, our own needs, and that can lead to life feeling kind of hollow and one dimensional. On top of that, our emotional health can suffer because we're often over committe...

Couples therapy isn't just about fixing relationship problems—it can also play a huge role in improving mental health. Many people think of therapy as a last resort when things are falling apart, but research shows that relationship support can also help with anxiety, depression, trauma, and emotional regulation.I'm joined by Trish Purnell-Webb, a clinical psychologist, certified Gottman therapist, and trainer for the Gottman Institute, to discuss how couples therapy strengthens connection and supports mental well-being.Key TakeawaysCouples therapy can lead to better mental health outcomes than individual therapy in some cases.A strong, supportive relationship can help regulate emotions and ease stress.Many people with mental health struggles feel isolated—even in relationships.Learning skills like emotional attunement and validation can reduce distress.Therapy teaches couples how to navigate challenges together rather than suffering alone.ResourcesThe Gottman Institute's research on couples therapy effectiveness – www.gottman.comEmotionally Focused Therapy by Sue JohnsonIf this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who might find it helpful. I'd love to hear your thoughts—reach out and let me know what stood out to you.Contact Trish Purnell-Webb:www.trishpurnell-webb.com.au www.relationshipinstitute.com.auConnected Teens https://marievakakis.com.au/connected-teens/ Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6

The Gottman Institute identified "The 4 Horseman of the Apocolypse", which can supposedly predict the end of a relationship. We shed some biblical light on these ideas as well as some helpful antidotes. We pray it blesses you!Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.comTake the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.comPray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.comTo learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.comThis ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner Good news! You can now find FULL video episodes on our YouTube channel, The Fierce Family. Visit https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkyO4yVeRdODrpsyXLhEr7w to subscribe and watch. We hope to see you there!

Dr. Liz and Dr. Dave welcome Joni Parthimer, education director for the Gottman Institute's Bringing Baby Home program, to discuss how couples can maintain a strong relationship while navigating the challenges of new parenthood.• Research shows 67% of couples experience a significant drop in relationship satisfaction after becoming parents• Three key ingredients for relationship success: maintaining friendship, respectful conflict regulation, and creating shared family meaning• The NURSE framework helps new parents prioritize self-care: Nutrition, Understanding support needs, Rest/Resources, Soul-feeding activities, and Exercise• CPR parenting (Consistent, Predictable, Responsive) builds emotional security for infants• Babies communicate through non-verbal cues and states of consciousness from birth• Understanding infant development helps parents respond appropriately to their needs• Grandparents play an evolving role and should ask what support looks like for each family• Creating a postpartum plan before baby arrives helps the transition for everyone involved• The greatest gift parents can give children is a healthy relationship between themselves• The "family fish tank" metaphor reminds us children are only as healthy as their family ecosystemVisit jptrainsandspeaks.com to learn more about Bringing Baby Home workshops and resources for expectant parents and grandparents. Email Joni at joni.parthemer@gmail.com with questions.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com

Be sure to watch this and every episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection Podcast on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FCbpDpXNMpI Today on this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. DaveSchramm talk with Joni Parthemer, an expert in childbirth education and Director of the Bringing Baby Home program at the Gottman Institute. They discuss the challenges new parents face, how relationship dynamics shift after childbirth, and practical tools to maintain a strong partnership. Joni shares the science behind relationship satisfaction, emotional attunement, and co-parenting strategies that help couples navigate early parenthood successfully. This conversation also highlights the importance of postpartum support, grandparent involvement, and how families can create a shared legacy. Packed with expert insights and actionable tips, this episode is a must-listen for expecting and new parents! About Joni: Joni Parthemer holds a Masters in Curriculum and Instruction/Learning Styles degree and is both a Master Trainer and Education Director for the Bringing Baby Home Program. She also holds certification as a Childbirth Educator and International Childbirth Association Approved Trainer. Joni is a faculty member at Simkin Center for Allied Birth Professions at Bastyr University as well as a Specialist in the Birth and Family Education Department at Swedish Medical Center in Seattle. Joni serves as an educator, trainer and consultant for a variety of educational and organizational programs. She serves families and those who support them with engaging authenticity and wit. She is an award-wining, internationally recognized speaker and facilitator who infuses her decades of experience with her charismatic and energetic style. Joni has developed, published, and implemented, a variety of training materials for educators interested in providing support and growth programs for families and communities. She is married and the mother of two children. Insights: Joni: "A child's well-being is deeply influenced by the health of their family environment. The best gift parents can give their children is a strong, healthy relationship—whether married, divorced, or co-parenting. Parents serve as role models for future relationships, shaping how their children connect with others. By maintaining friendship, managing conflict with respect, and creating shared meaning through family rituals, couples can build a supportive and nurturing "family fish tank" that fosters lasting emotional security." Liz: "The CPR approach—Consistency, Predictability, and Responsiveness—is not just valuable for parenting but also strengthens all relationships, including marriage and friendship. By being reliable, steady, and attentive, we create trust and connection in our most important relationships." Dave: "Education is key to growth. With so many resources available today, we have endless opportunities to learn and improve as partners, parents, and individuals." Joni's Links & Resources: https://jptrainsandspeaks.com/   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode is filled with invaluable insights on how to transition smoothly into parenthood while keeping your relationship strong. Tune in and discover practical tools to support your growing family!

Why should your spouse ALWAYS come first in marriage? Discover why prioritizing your partner is the key to building a thriving, love-filled relationship that stands the test of time. On this episode of Married Into Crazy, Snooks and Lovie share personal stories, biblical wisdom, and expert insights from the Gottman Institute. Learn how to strengthen your bond, set a powerful example for your children, and create a safe, supportive space in your marriage. Whether it's handling conflict, making emotional "love bank" deposits, or fostering trust, this conversation is packed with actionable advice to take your marriage from good to phenomenal. Don't miss this heartfelt and practical guide to putting your spouse first! Visit www.MarriedIntoCrazy.com to see how we can help your marriage thrive!  #selfimprovement #maritalhappiness #spousefirst #communicationskills #marriagepriorities  CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Welcome Back 01:06 - Snooks: Self-Proclaimed Victim 02:56 - Married Into Crazy Gear 05:56 - Importance of Marriage Before Kids 12:07 - Benefits of Prioritizing Your Spouse 19:05 - Kids Are Always Watching 23:36 - Practical Steps for Couples 27:35 - Outro

Feeling overwhelmed but hesitant to ask your partner for more help? You're not alone. Many of us fear that asking for support will come across as nagging or ungrateful—but the truth is, appreciation and needing more can (and should) go hand in hand.In this episode, we'll break down the psychology behind why appreciation motivates behavior change, how to communicate your needs without resentment, and the key to creating a more balanced partnership. Research shows that healthy relationships thrive on a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions (Gottman Institute), meaning the way we ask for help directly impacts the response we get.You'll walk away with:A step-by-step conversation framework for asking for more helpThe science behind why appreciation increases follow-throughWord-for-word phrases to keep the conversation productiveTips for navigating defensiveness or pushbackIf you've ever felt like you're carrying too much but don't want to start an argument, this episode is for you. Hit play now and learn how to ask for what you need—while still making your partner feel valued.Let's keep the conversation going! DM me on Instagram [@chelseabrookeskaggs] and let me know your biggest takeaway!Interested in using coaching as a tool to make the growth you want? Email me chelsea@postpartumtogether.com to explore options!

Be sure to watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/tEm34gytP4A Today  In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. DaveSchramm sit down with Laura Heck and Zach Brittle, co-hosts of Marriage Therapy Radio. Together, they break down why couples argue and how to navigate disagreements in a healthy way. Drawing from Dr. John Gottman’s research, they explore practical strategies to express needs, take responsibility, regulate emotions, and increase appreciation. Whether you're looking to stop recurring fights or strengthen your connection, this episode is packed with actionable insights to improve communication and create lasting harmony in your relationship. About: Laura Heck is a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist. She isa relationship specialist, meaning she doesn't work with teenagers, doesn't treat eatingdisorders, and doesn't heal past life trauma. Nope...Laura is solely focused on helping couples.That's it.  Better yet, if you are a busy professional couple with children at home that struggle with conflict and intimacy, you are exactly who Laura loves to help.Laura is co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio, hosts The Seven Principles for Making MarriageWork workshop for couples, coaches women through the Epic Wives Experiment, speaks andtrains for The Gottman Institute and is a regular media expert on the topic of intimaterelationships. Laura can often be found running through the wilderness with her pup, cooking up somethingfierce and golfing poorly. Laura has been with her beloved and patient husband for 16 yearsand they have a seven -year-old son together. Zach Brittle has been teaching, coaching, mentoring and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington and a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) specializing in evidence-based couples therapy based on over 40 years of marital research. He is the founder and co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio, creator of Your Marriage Masterclass, and the author of the best-selling relationship guide The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal. My writings and insights have also been featured on the Gottman Relationship Blog, Vanity Fair, Men’s Health Magazine, Real Simple Magazine, The New York Times and the Washington Post. He is happily married to Rebecca for 21 of 23 years – years #8 and 18 were bothpretty rough. We live in Seattle with our two daughters (14 & 18). We own a mini-van and most of the silverware we got as wedding presents. Links: Laura's Links: Marriage Therapy Radio PodcastWorkshop For CouplesEpic Wives ExperimentLaura's Gottman Profile Zach's Links: Your Marriage MasterclassThe Relationship AlphabetMarriage Therapy Journal   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode provides a compassionate and practical guide for anyone seeking to build healthier perspectives around sexuality, reduce shame, and improve intimacy in their relationships. Don't miss this deeply insightful discussion!

Conflict is an inevitable aspect of any relationship, but how we handle it can make all the difference in the world. Whether you're finding that your disagreements escalate quickly or that issues get swept under the rug and resurface later, understanding your and your partner's conflict style can be a game-changer. How do you transform these clashes into opportunities for growth and deeper connection? The key lies in recognizing the patterns and learning the skills to navigate through them effectively. In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of different conflict styles—volatile, validating, and avoidant—and offer insights into how these patterns play out in relationships. You'll discover the importance of understanding not just your style but also your partner's, and how mismatched styles can be addressed for better harmony. With practical guidance and real-world examples, this discussion aims to equip you with the tools to foster a more resilient and connected relationship, even in the face of disagreements. Tune in to explore how you can create a new positive dynamic in your relationship by embracing and working with your unique conflict styles. Dr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. Along with his wife, Dr. Carrie Cole, he founded The Center for Relationship Wellness. With over 30 years of experience, he has worked with individuals and couples in various areas, including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:55 The three conflict styles: volatile, validating, and avoidant. 14:38 Conflicts arise in mismatched styles: the validator vs. the avoidant. 17:17 Understanding conflict styles: it's not about maturity or emotional intelligence. 19:34 Examining the volatile style: comfort with high energy and emotions. 26:06 The validator style: problem-solving and seeking understanding. 33:56 Managing conflict with avoidant partners: strategies for understanding. 35:37 Using the Gottman Rapoport style for effective communication. 43:46 Tools and resources: books, workshops, and psychoeducational materials. 45:56 Normalizing conflict: learning to accept and grow through differences. Mentioned Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (link) (program) Connect with Dr. Don Cole Websites: centerforrelationshipwellness.com Facebook: facebook.com/TheCenterForRelationshipWellness X: x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2FCtrRelWellness YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCmdTIdlzy6gAz1j7f4ggk_A LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/center-for-relationship-wellness Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Besure to watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Lk5moCDwYWQ Today Don and Carrie Cole return and share with host Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale a unique Relationship Evaluation checklist they created to help couples check up on there relationship connection. Don and Carrie also discuss unique insights and techniques they have learned in practice with couples at the Center for Relationship Wellness and The Gottman Institute to improve relationship connection and intimacy. About Dr. Don & Carrie Cole: Dr. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and manages the Gottman Love Lab. She holds a Ph.D. in psychological research and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She is a licensed professional counselor and an approved LPC supervisor in the State of Texas, a licensed mental health counselor in the State of Washington, and a Certified Gottman Therapist. Carrie is a Master Trainer for The Gottman Institute and trains therapists in Gottman Method Couples Therapy around the world. She is a consultant for the certification program and has led The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples multiple times a year since 2008. Carrie has also published peer-reviewed journal articles independently and with doctors John and Julie Gottman. Her work with couples includes couples therapy, workshops, seminars, and intensive marathon sessions. Carrie and her husband, Dr. Don Cole reside in Seattle, WA. Links: Centerforrelationshipwellness.comcarrie@gottman.comdon@gottman.comgottman.com   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode provides a compassionate and practical guide for anyone seeking to build healthier perspectives around sexuality, reduce shame, and improve intimacy in their relationships. Don't miss this deeply insightful discussion!

A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton says it's actually a good thing - it just depends on how you fight.In this ep Dee Salmin gets all the advice from Lucille on how to deal with conflict with your partner in a healthy way. SHOW NOTES: Lucille's InstagramLucille's book All InGottman Institute research on conflict DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

In this episode of “Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc,” Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the intricacies of communication and relationships, emphasizing the difference between intent and impact. Using Maya Angelou's quote as a backdrop, the hosts explore how words and actions leave lasting impressions.  Join the conversation as they share personal stories and research findings to highlight the importance of empathy, curiosity, and mindful communication in maintaining and repairing close relationships. Practical tips, including perception checks, are provided to help listeners improve their interactions, particularly in long-term relationships and family dynamics.  Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Angelou, Stamp and Knapp, Albright, Brown, Gottman Resources :  Stamp and Knapp Article: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1991-04377-001 Albright, et al. Study: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103103001288 Maya Angelou Quotation: https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3503.Maya_Angelou Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/art/ Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/ Tools : Formula for Perception Checking Identify the Behavior Offer Two Interpretations Request for Clarification Links :  Episode 001: The Message Received is the One That Counts https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/6dce9b4a421e11cc80560cc626684dde Episode 065: REAL TALK! Checking Our Perception Checking https://youtu.be/qFih99VMeOU  

Are you unknowingly sabotaging trust with your team? Discover the magic ratio that transforms your physician leadership into a force for connection, collaboration, and peak performance.In today's chaotic healthcare environment, where leaders and frontline workers alike constantly in overwhelm, trust between you and your team can be hard to build—and even harder to maintain. This episode dives deep into how just one simple habit, based on groundbreaking research from the GOTTMAN Institute, can help you create meaningful connections and strengthen trust despite overwhelming demands.You Will Discover:~~ The 5-to-1 ratio and how it revolutionizes workplace relationships.~~ Practical strategies to carve out time for meaningful interactions, even in the busiest schedules.~~ How consistent positive connections fuel trust, creativity, and collaboration in high-stakes environments.Take charge of your leadership today—press play to unlock the secret to building trust and creating a team that thrives under your physician leadership.~~~~~Book a Discovery Session to Optimize Your Leadership Skill Sethttps://bit.ly/SPB-POD-Discovery~~~~~Explore physician leadership tools and strategies to stop physician burnout, enhance physician wellness and give you the power of personal influence in the C-Suite. All the tools you need to play your role in leading the charge to wellness - at three levels - for you, your teams and your entire organization.

Scroll down for a transcription of this episodeFrom daily check-ins to meaningful compliments and planned dates nights, we explore a 7-day love challenge to help couples strengthen their relationships. Summary: Developed by renowned psychologists Julie and John Gottman. Based on decades of research, this week-long practice offers simple, actionable steps to deepen connection and nurture relationships. From meaningful check-ins and heartfelt compliments to the importance of touch, we uncover how small, intentional actions can create lasting bonds. Whether you're looking to reignite romance or strengthen your partnership, the 7-day love challenge provides practical tools to bring more love and connection into your life.Sign up for The Science of Happiness podcast's 7-Day Love Challenge to receive these science-backed practices delivered directly to your inbox at greatergood.berkeley.edu/7daylovechallengeThis is part of our series The Science of Love.More about the 7-day love challenge:Drs. John and Julie Gottman are psychologist and the co-founders of The Gottman Institute. They created this practiced based on decades of research studying over 3,000 couples.Check out their book, The Love Prescription, Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy:  https://tinyurl.com/34nt5vv9This episode is supported by The John Templeton Foundation.Related The Science of Happiness episodes:  Who's Always There For You?: https://tinyurl.com/yt3ejj6wWhen It's Hard to Connect, Try Being Curious: https://tinyurl.com/bde6wyu7Are Your Remembering The Good Times: https://tinyurl.com/483bkk2hRelated Happiness Breaks:Loving Kindness Meditation: https://tinyurl.com/2kr4fjz5A Meditation on How to Be Your Best Self: https://tinyurl.com/3b38pw2fFollow us on Instagram: @ScienceOfHappinessPod We'd love to hear about your experience with this practice! Share your thoughts at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod.Find us on Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapHelp us share The Science of Happiness! Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and share this link with someone who might like the show: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapTranscription: https://tinyurl.com/bdh2ezhr

In this episode of "Vibe Science," hosts Ryan Alford and Chris Hansen converse with men's relationship coach Jason Schnitzer about the unique challenges men face in relationships and parenting. Jason emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and effective parenting strategies. He discusses how traditional therapy often overlooks men's needs and highlights the critical role of parents in their children's emotional development. The conversation explores balancing toughness and vulnerability, understanding children's perspectives, and fostering resilience. This episode offers valuable insights for men seeking to improve their emotional awareness and relationship dynamics.TAKEAWAYSMen's relationship coaching and its significance.Unique challenges men face in relationships.The importance of emotional intelligence in men.Parenting strategies and emotional development in children.The concept of "connection before correction" in parenting.Balancing toughness and nurturing in parenting styles.Understanding a child's perspective and fostering resilience.The role of parents as coaches in children's lives.Navigating emotional landscapes and communication in relationships.Encouraging vulnerability and emotional expression in men. Follow us on Instagram: @Vibe.Science Subscribe to our YouTube Page: www.youtube.com/@Vibe.Science

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2465: David and Constantino Khalaf share their own experiences as an introverted couple navigating these differences, showing how open communication, trust, and small acts of kindness can help partners meet each other's needs without resentment. By embracing their differences rather than resisting them, they've learned to strengthen their relationship and build a deeper emotional connection. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/dance-intimacy-independence-marriage/ Quotes to ponder: “There are times when you feel drawn to your loved one and times when you feel the need to pull back and replenish your sense of autonomy.” “If David ignores his need for independence, the abundance of intimacy begins to breed resentment.” “Viewing it as a dance rather than a tug of war reminds us to collaborate to meet each other's needs rather than fight to preserve our own.” Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about experiences at the 2024 Italian Samson Retreat with nuns. Our Guest: Zach Brittle, who is the only Gottman and RLT trained couples therapist in the world. He is also a cohost of Marriage Therapy Radio, a husband, father, teacher, and four years sober, recovering alcoholic. Zach discusses getting married at 23 and being happily married for 24 of the 27 years. He works for the Gottman Institute and tells us the origins of the Gottman method and why it's so effective in therapy. Zach encourages us to be curious about the possibilities for our relationship beyond repairing the issue that brought us to therapy. Also, being curious about what's not being said, and the origins of addiction and shame. He shares the science behind successful marriage repair. He leaves us with many hopeful and positive resources as well. Links:   Zach Brittle Books: Marriage Therapy Journal By: Zach Brittle The Relationship Alphabet: A Practical Guide to Better connection for Couples: By Zach Brittle Reconnect: A Marriage Counseling Workbook: Guided Conversations and Exercises for Long-Lasting Relationship By: Zach Brittle and Laura Heck Other Books Mentioned: I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression By: Terrence Real Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship By: Terrence Real How Can I get Through to You: Reconnecting Men and Women By: Terrence Real The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work By: John Gottman and Nan Silver Summit: 2025 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

MICHAEL SWERDLOFF (pronounced: SWERD-lawf) is the author of the new book: Raised By Wolves, Possibly Monsters: From Mobster To Reiki Master an Ordained Minister of Natural Healing from The Seminary Training Program and a Reiki Master for over 25 years. His work is Brief Holistic Counseling/Coaching. Michael has received training from His Holiness the Dalai Lama, The Gottman Institute, and other revered teachers and healers. He has been a counselor, coach, social worker, community organizer, educator, writer, and DJ.    Along with his Private Practice, Michael is the Program Manager at Dance New England, a volunteer-centered non-profit that hosts dance events cultivating a vibrant multi-generational community. Michael facilitates retreats in New England and globally. He lives by the water in Rhode Island, which is not an island.   https://www.michaelswerdloff.com   IG - providencecounselor michael.swerdloff@gmail.com     About The Flare Up Show Find Chrissy Cordingley at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.risethrive.ca⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the Flare Up Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the Rise and Thrive Wholeness Community on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ Welcome to The Flare Up Show with Chrissy Cordingley. We tackle tough health topics with humor, share epic comeback stories, and explore ways to boost your mind and body. Whether you're feeling meh or need a laugh, join us for expert tips, inspiring chats, and a dash of fun to help you flare up to your best self. Ready to rise and thrive? Tune in and let's set your journey on fire! #TheFlareUpShow #RiseAndThrivePodcast #WholenessCoaching #WholeBeing #WellBeing #ReAlign #ReAlive #ElevateYourLife VIDEO MUSIC Credit; Happy Place Courtesy of ClipChamp Audio version Music Credit: Y2K by Lunareh

In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Robert and Sharla demonstrate how to process a regrettable incident—a big fight or emotional injury that still holds an emotional charge. Over the past three episodes, they've explored the ideal steps to repair conflict in the moment - which is ideally the goal. But what happens when repair doesn't happen early or often? How do couples handle the aftermath of a major fight? Using the Gottman Institute's Regrettable Incident Formula, Robert and Sharla work through a recent unresolved conflict live on the podcast. This unscripted conversation offers a real-life example of how to move past defensiveness, build understanding, and create a stronger connection. What You'll Learn in This Episode:- The 6-Step Process for processing a regrettable incident: 1. Agreements: Setting ground rules to create safety and openness. 2. Feelings: Sharing emotions experienced during the conflict without defensiveness. 3. Realities: Taking turns describing perspectives and validating each other's experiences. 4. Triggers: Identifying personal triggers and past experiences that may have intensified the conflict. 5. Responsibility: Acknowledging each partner's role in what happened. 6. Constructive Plans: Collaborating on practical ways to handle future conflicts more effectively. - Why processing past incidents is about achieving understanding, not rehashing or assigning blame. - The importance of waiting until both partners are calm and emotionally ready to process. - How the cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair builds trust, compassion, and deeper love in relationships. Key Takeaways: - Processing a regrettable incident requires emotional distance and a willingness to engage constructively. - The goal is mutual understanding, not reliving the argument or trying to “win.” - Taking responsibility and creating actionable solutions is essential for true repair. - The most important relational skills—trust, empathy, and love—are built during repair, not during harmony. Why This Episode Matters: Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Thriving relationships aren't defined by an absence of conflict but by the ability to repair and grow stronger after moments of disharmony. This episode offers tools to help couples navigate the aftermath of major fights with vulnerability and intentionality. Resources Mentioned:- The Gottman Institute's Regrettable Incident Formula - Episodes 1-3 in this series: - The Rhythm of Relationships - How to Speak for Repair - How to Listen for Repair Next Steps:For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you.

In this episode, we dive into the principles of relationship building through the framework offered by the Gottman Institute in their book "Eight Dates," exploring the foundations necessary for a successful partnership. Over the next three episodes, we will focus on these essential conversations, beginning with the critical themes of trust and conflict. Trust, which is fundamental, is built over time through consistent, small actions that reflect care and reliability, rather than grand gestures. Commitment acts as the glue, reinforcing the trust between partners and emphasizing the decision to choose each other every day, even amidst challenges. I encourage couples to engage in meaningful conversations about what trust and commitment look like in their lives—asking questions about personal histories, triggers related to trust, and how they can nurture each other's sense of security. What you'll learn from this episode: The foundations of relationships Building trust and commitment navigating conflict Featured on the show: Follow me on Instagram to learn more about navigating your wedding with grace and ease: https://www.instagram.com/karaghassabeh/ Check out **The Bridal Prep Academy:** https://karamaureen.com Let's connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KaraMaureenBridalCoaching Get your copy of the book, **Whispers to a Bride:** https://www.amazon.com/Whispers-Bride-handle-stress-drama/dp/B0BCRXBQFN/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1UXWJVJOF3MNI&keywords=whispers+to+a+bride&qid=1662643892&sprefix=whispers+to+a+bride%2Caps%2C141&sr=8-1

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2404: Laura Triggs shares three simple yet transformative daily habits to enrich your marriage without needing lavish getaways. By practicing small acts of kindness, making time for mutual connection, and establishing meaningful rituals, couples can nurture lasting love amidst life's chaos. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/3-daily-habits-that-are-better-for-your-marriage-than-an-exotic-vacation/ Quotes to ponder: “Real-life romance is fueled by far more humdrum scenes. It is kept alive each time you let your spouse know he or she is valued during the grind of everyday life.” “A husband and wife are continually making bids for each other's attention and the most successful couples are the ones who continually ‘turn toward' their partners.” “Rituals are regularly occurring activities or traditions that you share as a couple, which serve to strengthen your bond.” Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back for another episode of the podcast a few people will enjoy. This podcast took a year off of Aarons Life. Planning for the Italy and Germany retreats are discussed, as well as Octoberfest. Our Guest: Dr. Carrie Cole is director of research, training, and runs the “Love Lab” at the Gottman Institute. She performs analysis of relationships. Carrie shares through research that men are more emotional than women and stay that way longer. Discussion includes reasons for jumping into a new relationship too soon (rebound), even if by accident, having sex or being physical too soon, and the desire to be cared for. Aaron discusses his @$$hole theory of dating. Other topics include helping all couples grow and understand the perpetual problems in a relationship. Carrie also offers a tool to help couples repair after an argument. Links:   Gottman Institute Carrie's Contact Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2386: Kyle Benson explores how successful couples manage emotional disconnection by focusing on the power of repair. Even in the healthiest relationships, conflicts are inevitable, but what sets emotionally connected couples apart is their ability to recover from these ruptures. Benson emphasizes the importance of maintaining friendship, emotional understanding, and effective repair attempts to sustain a strong, loving bond. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/ Quotes to ponder: "How couples repair is what separates the relationship Masters from the Disasters." "The real difference between the couples who repaired successfully and those who didn't was the emotional climate between partners." "Your repair attempt is only going to work well if you have really been a good friend to them, especially lately." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 The Science of Trust: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Trust-Emotional-Attunement-Couples-ebook/dp/B005459RHI Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jennine Estes Powell, LMFT, and Jacqueline Wielick, LMFT, coauthors of Help for High Conflict Couples, join us to talk about how to navigate conflict and increase connection in romantic relationships.  Estes Powell is founder of Estes Therapy, a group practice in San Diego, CA, that concentrates on relationship counseling. As a licensed marriage and family therapist who is certified in emotionally focused therapy (EFT), she has been helping countless couples repair their rifts and reinvigorate their connection for more than twenty years. She also trains other therapists and serves as a mentor for colleagues. Her aim is to strategically apply empirically based techniques to create positive, long-term change. Learn more at www.estestherapy.com.    Wielick is a licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of her own private practice, Therapy by Jackie. She has a master of science in marriage and family therapy, and degrees in both psychology and sociology. With a focus on couples, relationships, attachment, trauma, and emotions, Wielick's passion is helping people find deep joy in themselves and in their relationships using her advanced training in research-based theories such as EFT and Gottman Method Couples Therapy. She previously worked at The Gottman Institute for five years, one of the world's leading research institutes for couples and relationships, where she was exposed to their revolutionary research on love and relationships. Learn more at www.jackiewielick.com.     Visit our website at www.newharbinger.com and use coupon code 'Podcast25' to receive 25% off your entire order.  Buy the Book:  New Harbinger - https://bit.ly/47CMoSN  Amazon - https://a.co/d/6W7OQJh  Barnes & Noble - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/1143024416  Bookshop.org - https://bit.ly/4gC2LTH  If you have ideas for future episodes, thoughts, or questions, we'd love to hear from you! Send us an email at podcast@newharbinger.com 

Use these six principles, and you are on your way to a successful marriage! Paul Batura, VP at FOTF, joins us to break down the details from the research of Dr. John Gottman, American psychologist and professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington and founder of the Gottman Institute. Powerful truth; strengthening marriages and families everywhere!

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2367: Emotional development in children evolves with age, and how caregivers respond to their feelings plays a key role in shaping emotional intelligence. Sanya Pelini outlines strategies to help kids identify, understand, and manage their emotions, from infancy to childhood, emphasizing the importance of validation and modeling appropriate emotional responses. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/age-age-guide-helping-kids-manage-emotions/ Quotes to ponder: "How we react to our kids' emotions has an impact on the development of their emotional intelligence." "Naming emotions also helps toddlers learn that emotions are normal." "Kids who feel safe are more likely to develop and use appropriate emotion regulation skills to deal with difficult feelings." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I talk with Michael Fulwiler, Director of Brand at Heard, about the financial challenges therapists face in private practice and how to overcome them. Here are 3 key takeaways: Understanding Insurance's Impact: Insurance companies keep therapists in the dark about reimbursement rates, leading to financial uncertainty and an average of 25% lower earnings compared to out-of-network providers. Strategies for Financial Growth: It's essential for therapists to set fees based on personal financial needs rather than industry benchmarks. Confidence and strategic fee management can alleviate financial strain and improve practice sustainability. Embrace Financial Support: Outsourcing financial management tasks can save precious time and reduce stress. Utilizing services like Heard can streamline bookkeeping, tax estimations, and filing, allowing therapists to focus on their core mission. It's time to break the taboo around money in private practice and empower therapists to build sustainable, thriving businesses. More about Michael: Michael Fulwiler is the Director of Brand at Heard, the financial back office for therapists, and the host of Heard Business School, a new show for therapists building their own businesses. He's also the creator of Therapy Marketer, a popular newsletter for therapists. Previously, he was the Chief Marketing Officer at the Gottman Institute. Heard website: joinheard.com Therapy Marketer: therapymarketer.co Report: joinheard.com/resources/downloads/the-heard-2024-financial-state-of-private-practice-report –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––

Are you ready to live courageously, break free from societal norms, and discover your authentic self?Memorable Quotes:"Stop waiting for one day and make today your day one." Marni Battista"You don't need permission to be great. You don't need permission to do new things, wonderful things, courageous things." Dr. mOe AndersonEpisode Summary:Join Dr. mOe Anderson as she engages in an inspiring conversation with Marni Battista, the visionary behind the Institute for Living Courageously and Dating with Dignity. This episode explores the transformative power of embracing change and authenticity in both life and relationships. Marni shares her journey from a traditional teaching career to becoming a beacon of empowerment for women post-divorce. Together, they discuss living with intention, overcoming societal pressures, and finding confidence amidst life's unpredictability. The episode also delves into the significance of defining non-negotiables in core relationships and shares insights from the Gottman Institute on fostering healthy partnerships. Key Points:(0:00:02) - Living Courageously and Dating With Dignity:Explore the concept of living courageously and questioning societal expectations. Marni Battista shares her transition from teaching to empowering women post-divorce.(0:08:43) - Embracing Change and Love:Discuss the impact of a cancer diagnosis on living life fully and the importance of self-love in dating. Overcome societal pressures and embrace personal uniqueness.(0:22:39) - Defining Core Relationship Non-Negotiables:Learn about identifying core non-negotiables in relationships and the importance of shared values for compatibility.(0:26:17) - Designing a Meaningful Life:Discover the journey of crafting a meaningful life inspired by seven ancient questions from the Talmud. Emphasize the importance of radical honesty and self-awareness.Connect with Marni and take a quiz to discover how your personality type is secretly shaping your future. Visit her website at https://instituteforlivingcourageously.com/Learn more about Dr. mOe on her website www.drmOeAnderson.com Follow her on socials!  @drmOeandersonElevate your public speaking skills with her 1x1 coaching or online Public Speaking Masterclass.Want to feature your business on this podcast or book Dr. mOe for a speaking engagement? Contact us today!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/perpetual-moetion-with-dr-moe-anderson--5831364/support.

Welcome back to the podcast! In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra share their excitement over a glowing five-star review from Dr. Lauren Anderson, MD, and dive into a discussion on repairing relationships with adults, inspired by the Gottman Institute's research. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - The Gottman Method: John and Julie Gottman's robust research on marriage and relationships has provided a wealth of knowledge about what makes relationships work and fail. The hosts discuss the “Four Horsemen” of relationship conflict: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, and the importance of repair attempts to maintain healthy relationships. - Imperfect Relationships: Perfection isn't the goal. Instead, it's about how we manage the inevitable mistakes and miscommunications. The hosts explore the idea that 91% of the time, we're miscommunicating or having hurt feelings, but what matters is how we make repairs. - Repair Attempts: The episode focuses on how to initiate and recognize repair attempts, whether it's through a smile, kind words, or an action like holding hands. The key is creating a safe space to understand where your partner is coming from and to validate each other's feelings. - Using I-Statements: Effective communication during conflict can often begin with “I” statements, like “I feel overwhelmed” or “I need a break,” which can help de-escalate a heated conversation and foster better understanding. - Bids for Connection: Learn how responding to small “bids” from your partner—like a comment about the weather or a request for attention—builds the foundation of a healthy relationship and strengthens emotional connection. - Building Friendship: The hosts emphasize that a solid friendship is the foundation of any healthy relationship. The Gottman Method's “Sound Relationship House” model starts with nurturing fondness, admiration, and responding to your partner's emotional needs. - Practical Applications for Work and Life: Although this episode focuses on intimate relationships, the principles of repair can also be applied to professional relationships, friendships, and family dynamics. Key Takeaways: - Relationships are built on moments of repair, not perfection.- Using gentle startups and I-statements can help diffuse conflict.- Bids for connection are important to strengthen the emotional bond in any relationship.- You can apply these repair techniques in both personal and professional settings. Special Mention: Dr. Lauren Anderson, MD, left us a wonderful five-star review, and it really made our day! Your feedback means the world to us, so please leave a review if you haven't already. It helps other doctors find us and allows us to expand our ripple effect. Resources: Check out our new free video, *How to Crush Physician Burnout for Good Without Cutting Back Hours, Quitting Medicine, or Sucking It Up in Silence*. Scroll down in the show notes to find the link. Until Next Time: You are whole. You are a gift to medicine, and the work you do matters. Resources: https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/ https://www.iecouplescounseling.com/blog/repair-attempts-preserve-relationship-conflict

Does a good relationship take hard work or should it be easy? Well… it's complicated. We chat to sex and relationship therapist Isiah McKimmie to find out how to strike the balance, and how to clock the signs that you should let go.SHOW NOTES:Gottman Institute on "perpetual problems"DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3353: Terry Gaspard explores how couples like Teresa and Brian, struggling with everyday frustrations, can strengthen their marriage by creating shared meaning. Through common goals, open communication, and meaningful rituals, partners can deepen their connection and nurture a lasting, fulfilling relationship beyond just the practicalities of life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/enriching-marriage-creating-shared-meaning/ Quotes to ponder: “It seems like Brian puts all of his energy into his job and has little left over for me, our kids, or our home at the end of the day.” “Just because you fall in love with someone, that doesn't mean that love will stay alive without nurturing your partnership.” “What might be missing is what Dr. John Gottman refers to as a sense of shared meaning.” Episode references: Fighting for Your Marriage: https://www.amazon.com/Fighting-Your-Marriage-Edition-Conflicts/dp/1118672925 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3353: Terry Gaspard explores how couples like Teresa and Brian, struggling with everyday frustrations, can strengthen their marriage by creating shared meaning. Through common goals, open communication, and meaningful rituals, partners can deepen their connection and nurture a lasting, fulfilling relationship beyond just the practicalities of life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/enriching-marriage-creating-shared-meaning/ Quotes to ponder: “It seems like Brian puts all of his energy into his job and has little left over for me, our kids, or our home at the end of the day.” “Just because you fall in love with someone, that doesn't mean that love will stay alive without nurturing your partnership.” “What might be missing is what Dr. John Gottman refers to as a sense of shared meaning.” Episode references: Fighting for Your Marriage: https://www.amazon.com/Fighting-Your-Marriage-Edition-Conflicts/dp/1118672925 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3353: Terry Gaspard explores how couples like Teresa and Brian, struggling with everyday frustrations, can strengthen their marriage by creating shared meaning. Through common goals, open communication, and meaningful rituals, partners can deepen their connection and nurture a lasting, fulfilling relationship beyond just the practicalities of life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/enriching-marriage-creating-shared-meaning/ Quotes to ponder: “It seems like Brian puts all of his energy into his job and has little left over for me, our kids, or our home at the end of the day.” “Just because you fall in love with someone, that doesn't mean that love will stay alive without nurturing your partnership.” “What might be missing is what Dr. John Gottman refers to as a sense of shared meaning.” Episode references: Fighting for Your Marriage: https://www.amazon.com/Fighting-Your-Marriage-Edition-Conflicts/dp/1118672925 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2337: Tamara Patterson from The Gottman Institute highlights the importance of teaching children emotional intelligence to improve their quality of life. By validating their feelings and guiding them on how to express emotions appropriately, parents can nurture their child's confidence and emotional maturity. This article offers practical tips on helping children process emotions while encouraging parents to reflect on their own emotional responses. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/helping-little-ones-big-emotions/ Quotes to ponder: "You're crying because your brother took your toy away. That made you feel sad. That would make me feel sad, too." "Spend some time reflecting on how you deal with tough feelings such as anger, shame, guilt, fear or sadness and decide if there is something you can do differently today." "Emotional intelligence can prevent them from resorting to unhealthy ways of coping." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2333: New parenthood often brings stress, particularly around differing parenting styles, intimacy issues, dividing chores, and financial strains. April Eldemire from Gottman.com offers actionable insights on how couples can strengthen their relationship by fostering empathy, improving communication, and addressing these challenges as a team. This approach helps new parents maintain a healthy relationship while adjusting to life with a baby. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-key-issues-new-parents-partner-solve/ Quotes to ponder: "Communicating effectively is key, so be sure to schedule some time to discuss parenting even just 10 minutes a day of quality face time can drastically increase a couple's friendship and intimacy." "Your partner trusts you enough to be vulnerable and wants a positive sex life, and it is a crucial time to respect that trust and vulnerability." "The two of you are a team, and while raising a child is a big challenge, you have each other's backs." Episode references: USDA Report on the Cost of Raising a Child: https://www.usda.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanks to our Partner, NAPA Autotech Matt Fanslow dives into the intricacies of customer interactions within the automotive repair industry, highlighting the critical role of communication, trust, and validation. He draws insightful comparisons between personal relationships and client engagements, noting how defensive behavior from employees can undermine trust. Matt underscores the importance of fostering an environment where clients and employees feel safe expressing their concerns. He offers practical communication strategies, such as validating emotions and responding with empathy, and recommends resources like the Gottman Institute for deeper understanding. The episode highlights empathy as a cornerstone for cultivating strong, lasting relationships with both clients and employees.Show Notes Dating Isn't Emotional Rehab with Margaret Light [E081]: https://mattfanslow.captivate.fm/episode/081Relationships 101 with Margaret Light [E058]: https://mattfanslow.captivate.fm/episode/058The Importance of Relationships (00:02:50) Insights from John Gottman (00:04:09)Creating a Safe Space for Clients (00:07:02)Understanding Validation (00:08:22)Consequences of Invalidating Feelings (00:09:35)The Role of Safe Spaces for Employees (00:11:50)Open Dialogue and Solutions (00:13:01)Addressing Client Concerns (00:14:15)Escalation of Emotions in Interactions (00:15:38)Reassuring Clients During Tensions (00:18:02)Creating Trust in Relationships (00:19:10)Building Client Loyalty (00:22:51).Proactive Communication Strategies (00:26:20)The Impact of Empathy on Business (00:27:36)Thanks to our Partner, NAPA Autotech NAPA Autotech's team of ASE Master Certified Instructors are conducting over 1,200 classes covering 28 automotive topics. To see a selection, go to napaautotech.com for more details.Contact InformationEmail Matt: mattfanslowpodcast@gmail.comDiagnosing the Aftermarket A - Z YouTube Channel The Aftermarket Radio Network: https://aftermarketradionetwork.com/Remarkable Results Radio Podcast with Carm Capriotto: Advancing the Aftermarket by Facilitating Wisdom Through Story Telling and Open Discussion. https://remarkableresults.biz/Diagnosing the Aftermarket A to Z with Matt Fanslow: From Diagnostics to Metallica and Mental Health, Matt Fanslow is Lifting the Hood on Life. https://mattfanslow.captivate.fm/

Thanks to our Partner, NAPA Autotech Matt Fanslow dives into the intricacies of customer interactions within the automotive repair industry, highlighting the critical role of communication, trust, and validation. He draws insightful comparisons between personal relationships and client engagements, noting how defensive behavior from employees can undermine trust. Matt underscores the importance of fostering an environment where clients and employees feel safe expressing their concerns. He offers practical communication strategies, such as validating emotions and responding with empathy, and recommends resources like the Gottman Institute for deeper understanding. The episode highlights empathy as a cornerstone for cultivating strong, lasting relationships with both clients and employees.Show Notes Dating Isn't Emotional Rehab with Margaret Light [E081]: https://mattfanslow.captivate.fm/episode/081Relationships 101 with Margaret Light [E058]: https://mattfanslow.captivate.fm/episode/058The Importance of Relationships (00:02:50) Insights from John Gottman (00:04:09)Creating a Safe Space for Clients (00:07:02)Understanding Validation (00:08:22)Consequences of Invalidating Feelings (00:09:35)The Role of Safe Spaces for Employees (00:11:50)Open Dialogue and Solutions (00:13:01)Addressing Client Concerns (00:14:15)Escalation of Emotions in Interactions (00:15:38)Reassuring Clients During Tensions (00:18:02)Creating Trust in Relationships (00:19:10)Building Client Loyalty (00:22:51).Proactive Communication Strategies (00:26:20)The Impact of Empathy on Business (00:27:36)Thanks to our Partner, NAPA Autotech NAPA Autotech's team of ASE Master Certified Instructors are conducting over 1,200 classes covering 28 automotive topics. To see a selection, go to napaautotech.com for more details.Contact InformationEmail Matt: mattfanslowpodcast@gmail.comDiagnosing the Aftermarket A - Z YouTube Channel The Aftermarket Radio Network: https://aftermarketradionetwork.com/Remarkable Results Radio Podcast with Carm Capriotto: Advancing the Aftermarket by Facilitating Wisdom Through Story Telling and Open Discussion. https://remarkableresults.biz/Diagnosing the Aftermarket A to Z with Matt Fanslow: From Diagnostics to Metallica and Mental Health, Matt Fanslow is Lifting the Hood on Life. https://mattfanslow.captivate.fm/

After 50 years of research, the Gottmans can predict with 90% accuracy if a relationship is doomed for divorce, these are the answers to love you've been searching for  Drs. John and Julie Gottman are professional relationship researchers that have published over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. In this conversation, the Gottmans and Steven discuss topics such as, how to repair from an affair, why dating apps are broken, the facts behind an awful sex life, and why to stop chasing the idea of 'the one'.  (00:00) Intro (02:28) What Do You Do? (05:08) What We Doing Wrong About Dating (09:55) How Do We Find True Love? (11:39) What Is The Most Attractive Thing In A Person? (13:51) The Role Of Self Esteem In How Attractive You Come Across (16:13) There Isn'T 'The One' (18:30) Are We Attracted To People Different To Us? (21:11) Do We Need To Lower Our Expectations (24:52) It'S A Red Flag When They Want To Rush Things (29:06) Can You Fake Confidence? (31:25) Science Know If People Connect Well Or Not (35:13) How To Build Confidence (38:04) Differences Between Gender In Attraction (39:37) Why People Need Alcohol When Dating (44:29) Is Good Enough, Enough To Be With Soemone? (48:06) The Role Of Sex In Attraction (53:40) How To Spice Things Up (57:46) How Much Sex Should We Be Having? (01:03:21) Men Struggle To Talk About Their Feelings (01:09:36) Expressing Gratitude To Your Partner (01:15:55) How To Know If You Should Break Up (01:19:24) The 4 Horsemen Of The Apocalpse In A Relationship (01:25:02) Insecure People Are More Defensive (01:32:19) Do Homosexuals Relationships Last Longer? (01:33:45) Gaslighting (01:38:32) Why People Stay With Gashlighter Or Abusers (01:41:24) How To Help People Going Through Domestic Violence (01:45:01) Treating Affairs (01:47:45) What Percentage Of People Have Affairs? (02:00:42) Does Cheating Help A Relationship? (02:03:34) The Importance Of Connection Follow the Gottmans:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/66wXYNo5QMb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/5htmCbr5QMb  The Gottman Institute - https://g2ul0.app.link/KlYOelu5QMb  YouTube: You can purchase the Gottmans' book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection', here: https://amzn.to/4emRC7u  Spotify: You can purchase the Gottmans' book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection', here: https://g2ul0.app.link/KosccZE5QMb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Get your hands on the brand new Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v Sponsors: Shopify - http://shopify.com/bartlett

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2309: Angela Pruess, a seasoned family therapist, shares ten powerful insights for parents to nurture healthy child development. From respecting a child's natural learning process to fostering creativity and connection, these strategies emphasize the importance of understanding, patience, and modeling positive behavior. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/10-insights-of-remarkable-parents-from-a-family-therapist/ Quotes to ponder: "Immature behavior is normal for immature human beings with immature brains." "Kids want and need to be heard, and feel understood. Just like the rest of us." "Recognize that connection, fun, and creativity are the best ways to promote positive behaviors and a cooperative attitude." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Center For Relationship WellnessDrs. Don & Carrie ColeThe Center for Relationship Wellness, founded by Drs. Don Cole and Carrie Cole, offers an approach to marital therapy that is based on the 40+ years of scientific research of Dr. John Gottman, recently voted as one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by Psychotherapy Networker. Don Cole and Carrie Cole are both frequent contributors to media articles on relationships.Most couples struggle with some problems in their relationships at some point. Oftentimes they are able to work through them, but sometimes they need outside help to manage their differences.Many of us find it hard to take the first step to seek out guidance for lots of reasons. People want to believe they can solve their own problems. After all, we are intelligent human beings. And many have heard horror stories about marriage counseling gone terribly wrong. No one wants to expose themselves psychologically only to be criticized or told that they are wrong. After struggling with those anxieties, how does one go about choosing a therapist for marriage counseling?Certified by The Gottman Institute, Don and Carrie offer a practical approach that teaches couples how to build marital intimacy, renew respect for one another, and develop problem-solving skills to manage conflict.Don ColeD.Min, LPC, LMFTDr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director for The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. As a Certified Gottman Method Couples' Therapist and a member of the Gottman Relationship Institute and an advanced trainer in Gottman Method Therapy, he teaches all levels of the Gottman Method Certification Program.He received his doctorate in ministry with a specialization in psychotherapy from Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary in 1993. He has more than 30 years of experience working with individuals and couples in various capacities including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders.Carrie ColePh.D., M.Ed., LPCDr. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. As a Certified Gottman Method Couples' Therapist and an advanced trainer in Gottman Method Therapy, she teaches all levels of the Gottman Method Certification Program.She is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Texas and an approved LPC Supervisor. She received her Master's degree in Educational Psychology with a specialization in Counseling Psychology from the University of Texas at Austin in 1994. She received her PhD in psychology from Capella University.She has more than 25 years of experience working with individuals and couples on a wide range of issues including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, sexual abuse, eating disorders, parenting, trauma recovery, divorce recovery, and personality disorders. Carrie has also provided seminars on relationships, parenting and divorce recovery.

Relationship Experts Drs. John & Julie Gottman EXPOSE the SHOCKING REASON Why Relationships Fail. 94% Accurate Divorce Predictions: Discover the biggest predictors that guarantee which marriages will crumble and how to get the LOVE you WANT! The Gottman duo are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. Drs Gottman drop the ULTIMATE Relationship Bombshells, including the 4 Horsemen of Relationship Apocalypse (Spot these 4 predictors of relationship demise before they DESTROY your love life!), PLUS....learn the #1 skill for Connection and BETTER SEX! Your relationship is either HELPING or HARMING you HEALTH, and is a big factor in how you fight disease. The Gottmans also break down:- The #1 Cause of CHEATING & how it can lead to PTSD- Childhood Trauma's Hidden Role in Relationships: How a lack of positive relationship role models can WRECK your marriage- Ways to better support your partner's trauma- Why Addiction can spell disaster for even the strongest of relationships- Phases of recovery from affairs & other forms of betrayal- How to argue with your partner in a healthy way- Why today's culture seems to be afraid of long term commitment- Codependency: Is it really as HORRIBLE as it sounds, or could it be the key to your marriage's survival & your own longevity?- Why Women Are UNHAPPY: The unsettling reason behind women's relationship dissatisfaction and the FEARS they face daily- Men's Emotional Needs: How today's involved dads are CHANGING EVERYTHING- Social Media's Role in Cheating: How it's fueling nonmonogamy and screwing up your communication- Effects of porn addiction on the other partner- Key communication factors in healthy partnerships- The Managerial Marriage: Why losing PLAYTIME is the nail in the coffin for happy marriages- The Power of a 6-SECOND KISS: This simple act could SAVE your relationship! TUNE IN to MBB now & learn how to turn around your relationship before it's too late! The latest version of The New Marriage Clinic: https://wwnorton.com/books/9781324016311BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3185: Dr. John Gottman reveals how emotional intelligence can reshape parenting for the better. His insights delve into why understanding and navigating emotions are crucial for both parents and children, offering a transformative approach to fostering more loving, supportive relationships. Through practical advice and powerful anecdotes, Dr. Gottman illustrates the profound effects of emotional coaching on a child's development and future success. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-intelligence-creates-loving-supportive-parenting/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional intelligence seems to determine success in life more than IQ." "Emotions are our internal ‘GPS' through life." "One of the most powerful gifts you can give your child is an admission that you made a mistake, and apologizing and asking for forgiveness confers respect to the child." Episode references: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Parenting/dp/0684838656 Daniel Goleman's Work on Emotional Intelligence: https://www.danielgoleman.info/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices