Podcast appearances and mentions of John Gottman

In this episode, we'll talk about how marriage isn't just destroyed by the big blowups—but more often by the small, everyday moments when we ignore each other's bids for connection, and how learning to “turn toward” instead of “turn away” can change everything.--The PursueGOD Family podcast helps you think biblically about marriage and parenting. Join Bryan and Tracy Dwyer on Wednesday mornings for new topics every week or two. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/family.Help others go "full circle" as a follower of Jesus through our 12-week Pursuit series.Click here to learn more about how to use these resources at home, with a small group, or in a one-on-one discipleship relationship.Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at podcast@pursueGOD.org.Donate Now --Many couples believe that divorce comes from big, explosive issues—infidelity, money problems, or major betrayals. But according to renowned marriage researcher Dr. John Gottman, it's often not the big things that break a marriage. It's the small, everyday moments—missed chances to connect—that slowly build up into bitterness and resentment over time.What Is a “Bid” for Connection?Gottman calls these small moments “bids.” A bid is any attempt from one partner to get attention, affection, affirmation, or support from the other. Bids can be loud or quiet, obvious or subtle.Examples:“How do I look?” (Translation: Can I have your attention?)“Getting the kids to bed is hard.” (Translation: Can I have your help?)A spouse sitting down next to you on the couch. (Translation: Can I be near you?)Whether you notice these bids and how you respond to them will shape the health of your marriage—far more than you might think.The 3 Ways to Respond to a BidEvery time your spouse makes a bid for connection, you have three ways to respond. Over time, your pattern of responses becomes the emotional climate of your relationship.1. Turning TowardThis is the healthy response. When you turn toward a bid, you engage with your partner's attempt to connect. It could be as simple as answering their question, offering a smile, or stopping what you're doing to give them your attention.Example:Spouse: “Look at this funny video.”Turning Toward: “Haha! That's great. Show me another.”What it does: Builds trust, intimacy, and love. Each “turning toward” moment is like a small deposit in the bank account of your marriage.Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”Kind responses create peace and connection.2. Turning AwayThis is the neutral-to-negative response. You ignore the bid, act distracted, or give a half-hearted answer.Example:Spouse: “Can we talk after dinner?”Turning Away: “Uh-huh…” (while scrolling your phone)What it does: Over time, this makes your partner feel invisible or unimportant. They may stop reaching out altogether.Philippians 2:4 – “Don't look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”Marriage thrives when both spouses make each other a priority.3. Turning AgainstThis is the harmful response. You react with sarcasm, criticism, or irritation. It not only ignores the bid, but...

If the harshest voice in your life is your own, you're not alone. In this video I map John Gottman's “Four Horsemen” (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling) onto our inner dialogue to explain how self-abuse forms—and why it's so hard to escape.Then I show you how to rebuild the relationship with yourself using two levers: high commitment (taking “give up on me” off the table) and realistic standards (dropping the inhuman bar). Expect practical reframes, not platitudes—and a path out that's hard, honest, and doable.If you've been withdrawing, sabotaging, or fantasizing about disappearing, this is your sign to try again—with better tools and a fairer contract with yourself.Get my ⁠5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles⁠.Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly⁠⁠⁠.⁠2 Unique ways to work with me⁠⁠Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps⁠⁠ with my Sleep Workbook.⁠⁠⁠My book: For When Everything is Burning⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with me on TikTok⁠⁠Connect on Instagram⁠⁠Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.But I do care.

After a hiatus, Kristen and Mike return to Love and Leadership with a new tiny co-host in tow. They pull back the curtain on what the past few months have really been like—from an unplanned C-section to navigating the gaps in U.S. parental leave policies. They share what they've learned about partnership under pressure, why their pre-baby work on fighting better has paid off, and how they're managing to show up for each other when sleep is scarce and stress is high. If you've ever wondered what leadership actually looks like when the stakes are personal and the challenges are right in front of you, this conversation offers a real-world test case. Plus, they explain what to expect from the podcast going forward and why there will be more "love" in Love and Leadership from here on out.Highlights:Kristen and Mike share their experience becoming new parents, including Kristen's unplanned C-section at 37 weeks and the challenges of the early postpartum periodThey discuss the broken state of parental leave and maternal support in the United States, including limited time off and a healthcare system that often fails new mothersMike explains what he learned about infant brain development and nervous system regulation, including why the "cry it out" method isn't supported by neuroscienceThe couple opens up about how becoming parents has tested their partnership and why their pre-baby work on communication (including reading Fight Right by the Gottmans) has been essentialThey share practical strategies for managing the transition to parenthood as a team, including not competing over who has it harder and actively supporting each other through rest and childcareKristen highlights the value of mom support groups and community during the postpartum periodMike discusses the importance of long-term thinking in business, drawing parallels between supporting families and retaining institutional knowledge in organizationsThey announce the podcast will continue on a biweekly schedule for now, with fewer guest episodes until they establish a more consistent routine with their sonLinks & Resources Mentioned:Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection by John Gottman and Julie GottmanLa Vie En Doula (Kristen & Mike's postpartum night doula)Podcast Website: www.loveandleadershippod.comInstagram: @loveleaderpodFollow us on LinkedIn!Kristen: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristenbsharkey/ Mike: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-s-364970111/Learn more about Kristen's leadership coaching and facilitation services: http://www.emboldify.com

A rotina não é inimiga do amor. Mas quando vivemos no piloto automático, ela pode nos afastar de quem amamos. No novo episódio do Psi, Me Ajuda! Eu mostro, com base na psicologia, na neurociência e nos estudos de John Gottman, como a rotina pode gerar desconexão, e, principalmente, como transformá-la em oportunidade para reacender a paixão.O amor não acaba… ele pode adormecer. E você pode despertá-lo.Escute agora no canal e não esqueça de se inscrever para acompanhar os próximos episódios!

Get instant access to our “Master Your Marriage Communication Guide” filled with proven strategies to strengthen your relationship and build the marriage you've always wanted. Click here: https://masteryourmarriage.us/free-guideEpisode Summary:"Defense is the first act of war." We are re-releasing our most popular episode this year, and for a good reason! Defensiveness is something we all struggle with! In this episode of Master Your Marriage, we delve into the concept of defensiveness in relationships, exploring its corrosive effects on intimacy and personal growth. We discuss the Four Horsemen of relationship dynamics identified by Dr. John Gottman, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and accountability in overcoming defensiveness. The conversation highlights how defensiveness can lead to self-deception and hinder true connection with partners. Learn practical strategies for recognizing and addressing defensiveness, and how to advocate for personal responsibility as a pathway to growth and improved relationships.TakeawaysDefensiveness is a common but corrosive behavior in relationships.Marriage serves as a platform for personal growth and self-awareness.The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse include defensiveness, which predicts relationship instability.Intimacy requires vulnerability and the willingness to confront uncomfortable truths.Self-deception often stems from the ego's need to protect its narrative.Taking responsibility is crucial for overcoming defensiveness.Effective communication involves asking for understanding rather than becoming defensive.Changing oneself can positively impact the dynamics of a relationship.Defensiveness can destroy intimacy and connection with partners.Recognizing and addressing defensiveness is essential for relationship health.Connect with Us:Email: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.

Companion Guide Alert!Enhance your listening experience with our brand-new Assumptions That Destroy Communication Workbook, designed to accompany this episode! This guide will help you transform your communication skills. Grab it now for just $4 at: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/assumptions-that-destroy-communication-workbookEpisode SummaryIn this episode of 'Master Your Marriage,' we explore the science of repair in relationships. We discuss how repair is essential for mending ruptures and maintaining a strong connection. Our conversation delves into research by experts like Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Ed Tronick, highlighting the importance of repair in building resilience and trust. You'll learn practical strategies for effective repair, making your relationships more resilient and harmonious.TakeawaysRepair is essential for mending ruptures in relationships.Effective repair builds resilience and trust.Dr. John Gottman's research highlights repair as a key predictor of relationship success.Dr. Ed Tronick's work shows the cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair.Repair can be any action or statement that prevents negativity from escalating.Successful repair prevents negativity from spiraling out of control.Repair keeps us from getting flooded and stressed.Repair is a necessary ingredient in every successful relationship.Repair strategies can be customized to each unique relationship.The cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair is normal and necessary.Connect with Us:Email: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.

Intro: Broccoli in colder climates, garden updates6:00: Post-religious right, post-Charlie Kirk right.10:10: Boldness and the generational attraction.14:17: Alisa Childers, Derek Webb and those that didn't deconstruct.19:07: Okay, one traumatizing youth group game.21:28: Back to Childers and changing her ministry because of Charlie Kirk.23:50: Picking up off last week's end on 1 Timothy.28:56: A true religion, Dave Rueben, and desires to be more into religion.30:01: Is there a place for LGBT to worship in a church after they come to church before they're convicted but after choosing to follow the Lord?34:59: A real danger in optics and protecting kids for the good, true and beautiful.38:27: A question that needs to be answered. Do you encourage a divorce or legal separation?39:13: Biological bewilderment. And an example from recent African history.43:00: Why the solution of multiple wives would not apply to today's culture.45:09: Going for walks and stockpiling quality time. John Gottman's observations of couples (4 Horseman) and the primary indicator for whether a marriage will last.50:00: Don't just “date your wife.”58:01: Show Close Too Busy to Flush Telegram GroupSend us a PostcardCanavoxPique Tea - Referral Link (it's super-delicious and healthy)Ledger Hardware Wallet - Referral Link (store your crypto securely!)Wealthfront Referral Link

Professional therapists from our community join host Evan Gratz on the Point Loma Church Podcast to further discuss the topics covered in the Hard Feelings Sermon Series. Look for "Point Loma Church" wherever you get your podcasts. The podcast is also available in video form on our YouTube Channel Evan Gratz, Director of Community Life, welcomes our second professional social worker, Deanna Lazaro, to the Hard Feelings Podcast, where they discuss the feeling of anger. "Anger: The Firse Inside" Sermon by Rev. Karla Shaw    Additional resources related to this week's topic: "The Power of Vulnerability" by Bren Brown - TED Talk HERE "Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection" by Julie and John Gottman    

What if true financial freedom isn't about chasing more, but about choosing better? In this episode of Seek Go Create, host Tim Winders sits down with Dr. Nicholas Michels—former pro basketball player, faith-filled leader, and author of "Rich by Choice." From a childhood shaken by sudden loss to building wealth rooted in faith and values, Dr. Michels shares his journey and the power of aligning money with what matters most. Discover how purpose, clarity, and intentional choices can change your life and legacy. If you're ready to rethink money and leadership, this conversation is for you."Align your money with what's most important—true happiness comes from that." - Dr. Nicholas Michels Access all show and episode resources HEREAbout Our Guest:Dr. Nicholas Michels is an elite wealth strategist, author of the book Rich by Choice, and a former professional basketball player. From growing up in a trailer park to turning down an $8 million deal to preserve his core values, Dr. Michels brings a unique, purpose-driven perspective to financial leadership. He is a trusted advisor who helps families build wealth with clarity and peace, not pressure. Driven by his deep faith and commitment to integrity, he's passionate about empowering others to achieve not just financial abundance, but true richness in all areas of life.Reasons to Listen: Uncover the true meaning of financial freedom—Dr. Nicholas Michels shares why aligning your money with your values leads to happiness, drawing from his own dramatic life story and professional experience.Gain actionable strategies to build wealth with peace, not pressure—Learn practical tips and family-tested exercises to achieve “richness” in both finances and life, including how Dr. Michels and his wife overcame money challenges together.Get a behind-the-scenes look at leading with faith and purpose—Hear how faith, resilience, and intentional choices helped Dr. Michels rise from hardship to success, and why financial clarity is a vital form of leadership everyone should embrace.Episode Resources & Action Steps:Resources Mentioned in This EpisodeBook: "Rich by Choice" by Dr. Nicholas Michels: Dr. Michels' book focuses on aligning money with personal values, creating wealth with purpose, and finding true happiness through intentional financial choices. (Free gift and additional resources available)Website: RichByChoiceBook.com: The official website for Dr. Michels' book, offering free chapters, compounding resources, and options for further learning and connecting with Dr. Michels.Marriage and Money Devotionals/Books (John Gottman's resources mentioned): Dr. Michels referenced using marriage devotionals and John Gottman's books to foster better communication and connection around finances with his spouse.Action Steps for ListenersCreate a Family Vision Statement: Sit down with your partner or family and write out detailed visions for your life—including financial goals, experiences, and the values you want to prioritize. Share and discuss to align on a common vision.Intentionally Schedule Financial Check-ins: Set regular times to communicate about money with open-ended, honest questions. Use resources or devotionals (such as those by John Gottman) to guide your conversations and strengthen the partnership.Download and Apply the Compounding Resource: Visit

Tammy drops a truth bomb right from the start: Our emotions, not our thoughts, motivate us. This episode is a quick, hard-hitting guide on how your emotions can either drive you forward or keep you and your team stuck in a pattern of limiting beliefs. Tammy provides a four-point framework to help you master self-awareness, manage your emotional triggers, and turn your emotional intelligence into the "entry ticket" for every successful conversation.   Key Takeaways for Leaders Emotions Win: We move in the direction of the dominant emotion. If you don't own your emotions, they own you and will hijack your team's success. The Power Pause: When emotions start to rise, push the pause button, take a breath, and ask the next best question to slow down the spin. The Real Raw Material: Emotions are not the enemy; they are the raw material of trust, connection, and performance. Words Create Pictures: The language you use creates a visual in your mind, and you attach emotions to that picture, which directly creates your performance. Change the words, change the outcome.   The 4 Points for Emotional Mastery Awareness is Your Entry Ticket: Your self-awareness is the entry ticket to every conversation and problem-solving at every level. If you are dysregulated, you cannot be situationally aware of others. Vacancy is as Dangerous as Volatility: Retreating, sitting silent, and vacating a difficult moment is just as damaging to trust as blowing up. It communicates a "No Vacancy" sign that pushes people away. Self-Efficacy Fuels Collective Efficacy: If key players on your team lose the belief that they can succeed (self-efficacy), it bleeds into the whole team's belief (collective efficacy). Words Create Pictures, Pictures Create Performance: Be intentional about the words you and your team use, as the visualizations attached to them pre-determine your results.   Actionable Tools & Quotes Quote: "Your emotional awareness and ability to handle feelings will actually determine your success and happiness." — John Gottman Quote: "If you don't own your emotions, they own you." The 24/72 Rule: When hijacked by emotions, utilize the 24-hour push-pause option (or 24/24/24) to process, go back to the conversation, and check in again. Your Challenge: Master self-awareness by tuning into your physical and mental triggers (heart rate, gut feeling) before you engage.   Leadership is not a solo sport—it requires self-awareness and emotional awareness. Head on over and subscribe to the Leadership Sandbox channel on YouTube, drop your emoji in the comments, and share this episode with someone who needs an emotional regulator right now.  

Nuestra invitada en el episodio #326 de Máximo Desempeño es Camila Arbeláez, Health Coach holística y fundadora de Tu Mejor Versión, donde ha guiado a cientos de mujeres hacia el bienestar integral. Pero su verdadero legado no está en las certificaciones ni en los programas de nutrición, sino en algo mucho más profundo: su capacidad de transformar el dolor en propósito y convertir la vulnerabilidad en el puente más poderoso hacia la sanación. Camila vive bajo un lema que redefine completamente el bienestar: "Ni todos los jugos verdes del mundo pueden generar el bienestar que genera el amor." Esta no es retórica motivacional, es la verdad que descubrió después de años luchando contra su propio cuerpo con dietas extremas, inflamación crónica, intestino irritable y ovarios poliquísticos. Estudió Gobierno y Relaciones Públicas, pero tuvo el coraje de nunca ejercer. Eligió escucharse. Se certificó en el Institute for Integrative Nutrition y estudió cocina consciente en Gato Dumas, pero su verdadera educación vino de detenerse, mirarse sin juicio y entender que la salud comienza con amor propio. Con la sabiduría de quien transformó su mayor vulnerabilidad en su mayor fortaleza, Camila demuestra que la verdadera sanación no se mide en kilos perdidos, sino en el coraje de mostrarte completo. Además, Pablo profundiza en "Las Puertas que Tememos Abrir: El Coraje de la Vulnerabilidad en las Relaciones", una reflexión transformadora sobre el poder de la conexión auténtica. Descubre por qué todos cargamos puertas cerradas en nuestro interior que guardan heridas, decepciones y miedos que preferimos mantener en la oscuridad, cómo nuestro cerebro está diseñado para la conexión pero las heridas no sanadas activan sistemas sofisticados de protección, y por qué construimos muros de independencia extrema, hipervigilancia emocional o cinismo como armadura para mantener a otros a distancia. Aprende la diferencia crucial entre proteger tus heridas y sanarlas: uno mantiene la ilusión de control, el otro construye intimidad real. Descubre por qué las relaciones sostenibles no son aquellas libres de heridas sino aquellas donde ambas personas se comprometen a sanar juntas, y cómo la investigación del Dr. John Gottman revela que las parejas que prosperan cultivan la "amistad emocional" conociendo los mundos internos del otro, incluyendo las partes rotas y vulnerables. Un episodio que te desafiará a preguntarte: ¿Qué puertas estás evitando abrir en tus relaciones? ¿Qué parte de ti has mantenido oculta porque crees que te hace débil? ¿Qué conexión real estás perdiendo al mantener tus máscaras puestas? Tu vulnerabilidad está esperando convertirse en tu mayor fortaleza.

Conflict after a baby is inevitable, but it doesn't have to break your relationship. In this episode, Chelsea and Mike go deeper than their Babies & Bumps workshop to unpack the real difference between couples who thrive and those who drift apart: Repair.You'll hear:Why conflict itself doesn't predict divorce, but failure to repair does (thanks, John Gottman).How rupture in relationships is like a muscle tear — painful, but with repair, it builds strength.The dangerous stories we tell ourselves about our partners and the antidote of curiosity.Practical tools like code words, repair steps, and “the story I'm telling myself…” to stop resentment from spiraling.Why humility and vulnerability matter more than being right.If you've ever felt like parenting is heavier because you're not on the same team or you want to make sure your teamwork is solid before the baby arrives, this episode is for you.

"Escuela_de_parejas." por José Antonio Marina, publicado en 2012, cuyo objetivo es desarrollar el "talento de las parejas" para la convivencia amorosa. El autor, un estudioso de la inteligencia, no se presenta como consejero matrimonial, sino que aplica la ciencia de la inteligencia y el talento a las relaciones, buscando ir más allá de la autoayuda. El texto explora temas como las motivaciones para casarse, la evolución del amor, la importancia de la comunicación y la conversación —incluyendo los problemas de los malentendidos y el lenguaje interior—, y la identificación de rasgos del "mal carácter" que dificultan la vida en común. A lo largo del libro, el autor integra entrevistas virtuales con expertos como Aaron Beck, John Gottman, y Deborah Tannen, para analizar cómo la comprensión de los esquemas mentales y la conexión emocional son cruciales para el éxito de la pareja, argumentando que la felicidad reside en la satisfacción armoniosa de los deseos de bienestar, vinculación y progreso.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/audio-libros-master/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Amy and Kat continue to unpack Dr. John Gottman’s famous ‘Four Horsemen of the apocalypse’ for relationships which has helped him be able to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. Week 2 is Defensiveness. It is that quick “it’s not me, it’s you” response that shows up when we think we are being criticized. Amy and Kat talk about how defensiveness sneaks in when we are stressed or protecting our ego (especially for Amy!!), and why it makes conflict worse instead of solving it. They share real-life examples, explain how even a hint of criticism can trigger us, and walk through the antidote of taking responsibility for your part. You will hear tips for pausing, owning your piece, and keeping conversations from turning into blame games. This episode will help you stay connected and turn tense moments into opportunities for understanding. Watch us on Youtube HERE! Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077 Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com HOSTS: Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Arguments that spiral out of control often leave behind words no one meant and wounds that take time to heal. Escalation may feel like “getting it all out,” but according to our guest today, it is actually poison to a marriage. Dr. Kevin Downing, founder of Turning Point Counseling in Southern California, has spent decades helping couples, pastors, and families find healthier ways to connect. His insights on escalation, self-control, and parenting bring both biblical grounding and practical tools. Why Escalation Is “Pure Poison” That Often Leads to Divorce Research from Dr. John Gottman revealed that the type of conflict in marriage can predict divorce. The number one predictor? Escalation. When escalation takes over, brain scans show that the logical, rational side of the brain shuts down. That's why conversations in anger lead to slammed doors, reckless words, or ultimatums. With half the brain offline, no real problem-solving can happen. We often think that the “truth” does comes out during these heated moments of escalation, and sometimes spouses even push each other to the brink in an attempt to "get the truth out." But the reality is, this isn't so. The words spoken at the peak of anger are not reliable and usually bring regret. As Dr. Downing explained, escalation is pure poison for marriage. The Fruit of the Spirit in Your Marriage Scripture gives a different path. Galatians 5 teaches that self-control is a fruit of the Spirit. Self-control means more than biting one's tongue; it is the Spirit's power to respond with gentleness when provoked. It is choosing a soft answer when the flesh screams for retaliation. This is what keeps hearts tender and marriages safe. Practical Tools for De-Escalation Dr. Downing offered practical tools couples can use immediately: Use “I” language. Instead of “You're losing it,” say, “I need a few minutes to calm down. I promise to return.” Pause at night. Words like, “I love you. I'm not going anywhere. I'm sure we can work this out” create security before sleep. Reassure often. A 10-second “wedding-vow refresh” can melt deep insecurity: “You're my one and only—for better or worse, for life.” Don't debate history. Replace “I remember it better than you” with “We have different recollections.” Then drop it. Offer a new experience. Arguments rarely change minds, but kindness does. Just as a restaurant replaces a meal instead of defending reviews, a spouse can create change by responding with love instead of debate. How to Be on the Same Page about Parenting Conflict in parenting can be just as destructive if spouses are not aligned. But, Dr. Downing emphasized that parenting plans should not be created in the heat of a crisis. An argument is not the time to create a parenting plan, just like the middle of a storm is not the time to create a rain plan. You want to do these things outside of the state of chaos. Instead, couples should sit down calmly after the crisis is done and start with the big picture. What goals do you have for your children? You may ask yourselves: Do we want our children to be God-loving? Self-supporting? Respectful? Loving toward siblings and connected to church? Agreeing on these goals allows a united front in daily decisions. One of the greatest gifts for children is seeing parents present a unified approach. Correcting a spouse in front of the kids undermines authority and invites manipulation. Behind closed doors, differences can be discussed and resolved without giving children the leverage to divide. The Two-Minute Timeout Dr. Downing also shared a simple, powerful discipline tool for parenting: the two-minute timeout. When a child disobeys, responds disrespectfully, or hits a sibling, the consequence is two minutes with two questions: Why were you in timeout? Will this behavior happen again today or tonight? To establish safety and connection, younger children are also given a hug afterward. This short, consistent approach helps children take ownership while keeping parents calm. It prevents long punishments that discourage, as well as shouting matches that model escalation. In fact, the timeout often benefits the parent just as much—allowing emotions to cool so rational thinking returns. By the time children reach their teens, the drill is so familiar that a simple question—“Do you need a timeout?”—is usually enough to prompt self-correction. Final Thoughts Every couple disagrees sometimes, and every parent has those chaotic moments—but they don't have to end in distance or regret. Escalation will always push hearts apart, but Spirit-led self-control and kindness can draw them close again. The beautiful truth is that transformation doesn't always come through big, complicated steps. Often it's the small, intentional choices—pausing before speaking, offering reassurance instead of accusation, giving a child two minutes to reset—that shift the entire atmosphere of a home. Each moment of choosing gentleness over escalation is an invitation for God's presence to flood your marriage and your family. You can do this. God bless you!   With love, The Delight Your Marriage Team PS - For more information on Dr. Kevin Downing and his work, please visit turningpointcounseling.org PPS - Interested in some free resources? Check out delightyourmarriage.com/downing for a downloadable bundle including resources mentioned in today's podcast. PPPS - Did you get a chance to check out the Midlife Summit? They are doing an encore presentation this weekend and it is not too late to catch it! Come check out Belah and other coaches as they share insight on hormones, intimacy, and all things midlife. Click here for more info. PPPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "When we did talk it would often end with blaming each other and an argument.  I believed that if my wife could just be more affectionate and loving our marriage would be much better.  I quickly realized in the first few weeks of MR, that when I take the lead to make her feel safe, cherished, and heard, she responds by being kinder and more loving towards me."

The key to higher performance isn't perks or programs, but genuine care for employees' well-being.   Mark C. Crowley joins the podcast to share insights from his book The Power of Employee Wellbeing. Drawing on both research and his experience as a manager, Crowley explains why traditional engagement programs often fall short, how to meaningfully measure well-being, and the link between productivity and authentic workplace relationships.  The conversation also explores how to build alignment between managers and employees, gather feedback on your leadership style, and support well-being in both remote and in-person settings. You'll leave this episode with evidence-based practices to elevate performance and strengthen employee satisfaction.  Resources:   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/markccrowley   Website: https://markccrowley.com/ Book: https://markccrowley.com/the_power_of_employee_well-being/ Fast Company Articles: https://www.fastcompany.com/user/mark-c-crowley    John Gottman's Website: https://www.gottman.com/  

This is the start of a 4 part series of Amy and Kat unpacking Dr. John Gottman’s famous ‘Four Horsemen of the apocalypse’ for relationships which has helped him be able to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. Part 1 is Criticism, the one that often shows up first and sets the tone for conflict. Amy has her own issues with getting defensive and even gets her boyfriend on the phone to confirm. Kat explains why criticism is different from a simple complaint, how it sneaks in through exaggeration, “should” statements, jokes, and tone, and why it can actually be a clumsy bid for connection. You’ll learn Gottman’s antidote, the Gentle Start-Up, with clear “I feel / I need” examples to help you express concerns without blame. Whether you’re married, dating, or navigating family and friendships, this episode will help you spot criticism early and swap it for communication that keeps relationships strong. Feeling of the Day: Angry (and Kat has every right to be!) Listen next week for: Defensiveness (Part 2 of How Relationships Begin to End: The Four Horseman) Watch us on Youtube HERE! Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077 Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com HOSTS: Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore practical ways to enhance communication and strengthen relationships among adult siblings. They discuss common challenges such as dealing with aging parents, inheritance conflicts, feeling left out, and more. The hosts emphasize the importance of employing softer startups, repair attempts, and collaborative efforts. They reveal strategies to break old patterns and foster healthier interactions, focusing on curiosity, clear communication, and setting boundaries. Tune in for valuable tips on navigating complex sibling dynamics in your adult life.  Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. Karl Pillemer, Stockner et al., Dr. John Gottman, Jeffrey Kluger Resources :  Journal of Family Psychology Article by Stockner, et al.  https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7012710/ Dr. Karl Pillemer's Book - Fault Lines https://www.karlpillemer.com/ Dr. John Gottman https://www.gottman.com/ Jeffrey Kluger from his TED Talk on the Sibling Bond https://ed.ted.com/lessons/jLvoMSWT

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text!Have you heard of the so-called “1000 Mile Rule”? It's a trend spreading online that suggests if you're more than a thousand miles away from your spouse, you can cheat guilt-free. Sounds shocking, right? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper, explains why this idea is destructive and why you should avoid it at all costs.For over 30 years, Marriage Helper has worked with more than 25,000 couples, helping them restore their marriages and rebuild lasting commitment. In this episode, Kimberly breaks down:✅ What the “1000 Mile Rule” actually is and where it came from ✅ Why ideas like this weaken trust and commitment in marriage ✅ The truth about monogamy and long-lasting love, backed by experts like Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. John Gottman ✅ How to build stronger connection and intimacy with your spouse instead of looking outside your marriageAt Marriage Helper, we know what makes marriages thrive—and it's not free passes, open marriages, or outside flings. True love and fulfillment come from creating safety, commitment, and passion with your spouse.

Episode 370 reviews Dr. John Medina's insights from Brain Rules and explores how neuroscience and social-emotional learning combine to improve teaching, learning, and well-being. Key takeaways: teachers need basic neuroscience to support learning; the emotional stability of the home strongly shapes a child's resilience and confidence; and children build resilience when adults co-regulate and model healthy emotion management during high-emotion moments. This short review highlights practical steps for educators, parents, and leaders to apply brain-based strategies and SEL to boost student outcomes and lifelong skills. EP 370 covers a review of Dr. John Medina's Brain Rules, from EP 42 (February 2020)  We learned: ✔ If education is about the brain, then teachers need to understand how the brain learns best. ✔ A child's resilience and confidence are deeply tied to the emotional climate of the home. ✔  Children build resilience not in calm moments, but in how parents (or caregivers) respond when emotions run high. Welcome back to SEASON 14 of The Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast, where we connect the science-based evidence behind social and emotional learning and emotional intelligence training for improved well-being, achievement, productivity and results—using what I saw as the missing link (since we weren't taught this when we were growing up in school), the application of practical neuroscience. I'm Andrea Samadi, and seven years ago, launched this podcast with a question I had never truly asked myself before: (and that is) If productivity and results matter to us—and they do now more than ever—how exactly are we using our brain to make them happen? Most of us were never taught how to apply neuroscience to improve productivity, results, or well-being. About a decade ago, I became fascinated by the mind-brain-results connection—and how science can be applied to our everyday lives. That's why I've made it my mission to bring you the world's top experts—so together, we can explore the intersection of science and social-emotional learning. We'll break down complex ideas and turn them into practical strategies we can use every day for predictable, science-backed results. Episode 370: Brain Rules and the Future of Learning For today's Episode 370[i], we continue our journey into the mind with our next interview review—Dr. John Medina, author of the well-known book Brain Rules. We first featured Dr. Medina in EP 42, when we explored “Implementing Brain Rules in Schools and Workplaces of the Future.” To remind you where we began with our interview review series: We opened with EP 366[ii], diving into speaker Bob Proctor's timeless principles. Bob was the very first person—over 25 years ago—who challenged me with the question, “What do you really want to do with your life?” At the time, I didn't have a clear answer. It's taken well over 25 years now for this clarity to evolve. Eventually, I realized what mattered most to me: and that was bringing social and emotional learning (SEL) skills into schools. I had already seen how these skills—once called “soft skills”—transformed the lives of 12 teenagers I worked with in the motivational speaking industry in the late 1990s. Later, I watched as SEL spread into schools across states and countries, until the research became undeniable. A 2011 meta-analysis of 213 studies confirmed what I had seen firsthand a decade before this study was released: students who participated in SEL programs showed an 11-percentile-point increase in academic performance[iii] compared to control groups. That's a significant improvement, demonstrating just how powerful SEL can be. Long before this research, I simply knew these skills could shape the future of the next generation. This podcast itself was built around the six core SEL competencies—each explored in its own dedicated episode that you can find in our resource section in the show notes. Then came the next step: adding the lens of neuroscience. I realized that everything we were studying in SEL connected back to how the brain works. My deep dive into what I called “Neuroscience 101” began when an educator handed me a stack of books that opened my eyes to the importance of brain science in education. From those early hand-drawn sketches grew the framework that still guides this podcast today—bridging SEL and neuroscience to make learning both practical and powerful.   Which brings us to today's review: Episode 370, where we revisit Dr. John Medina. At the heart of this conversation is the very question that launched my journey years ago: What happens when we connect social and emotional learning with neuroscience? How can understanding the brain not only improve results and productivity, but also better equip our next generation of students in the classroom? It was John Medina's Brain Rules that first landed on my bookshelf back in 2009. And to be honest—it just sat there for a while. I wasn't ready yet. As Dr. Medina himself has said, this kind of learning can't be forced. You need a strong why to really dive into the mind–brain connection. For me, that why came later, when I realized how deeply understanding the brain could impact learning, teaching, and even life itself. If you're following along with this podcast, I imagine you've had a similar moment—when the connection between the brain and practical neuroscience suddenly made sense and became something worth pursuing. I'm always curious about what that moment looks like for others—what it is that makes this topic click. For me, it became clear during my very first presentation on this subject in November 2017, at a conference for the York Region School District in Toronto. The topic I was in charge of presenting was Stress, Learning, and the Brain, and the room was so full it was standing room only. This was after just three years of studying the topic myself, and when I first opened up David Souza's How the Brain Learns Series, I honestly thought this topic was over my head, and too difficult for me to understand, let alone having me teach it to others. But once there is a strong why, the way will be shown. And that day, when I saw how many people showed up to learn the topic, I knew this was the field I wanted to dedicate the rest of my life to—continuing to learn, and helping others understand and apply to their lives. VIDEO 1 Click Here to Watch Now that you know where this mind-brain connection began for me, I hope you can gain clarity with why it's so important to you. Important enough that you are tuning into this podcast to learn more. Wouldn't you know it—understanding this WHY with the brain-mind connection to thrive at home, work and school and with sport is exactly what Dr. John Medina said to me during our interview back in February 2020. If you click the link in the show notes, you can watch VIDEO 1, where he explains: “I believe that the cognitive neurosciences should be at the table of education training. Before you get a Bachelor Degree in Education, you have to have a fair degree of neuroscience. And it's a very specific slice—it's the kind of neuroscience that says: this is what we know about how the brain learns. Because teachers are in charge of that. It blows me away sometimes—I look at the Colleges of Education: if you're in the Geology Department, you study rocks. If you go to Medical School, you study humans. You could argue that the world of education is all about studying the brain. Where are the courses that say—‘This is how memory works. This is how we get someone to pay attention. This is what visual processing looks like.'” Dr. Medina is 100% right. When I went through teacher training at The University of Toronto, courses like this weren't offered. Fast forward to today, and my daily work now focuses on supporting educators with the Science of Reading—a body of research that, much like SEL, took decades to gain traction but is finally reshaping classrooms and teacher training, impacting how we teach our next generation of students to read. Of course, this knowledge can't just be forced on us. It's not easy material—it requires effort to learn. But if you're listening to this podcast each week, it's because you're curious. You're willing to dig into concepts that, until recently, were reserved for medical students. That's how Dr. Douglas Fisher gained his insights into how the brain learns best. As he told me in EP 161[iv], How Learning Works: Translating the Science of Learning into Strategies for Maximum Learning in Your Classroom, he actually sat in classes with medical students to develop a deeper understanding of brain-based learning—knowledge we were never given in traditional teacher training. Key Point from Video Clip 1 from John Medina

Do you avoid conflict—or use it to grow your influence? In this episode, AJ and Johnny share a science-backed framework for conflict resolution that transforms tense moments into opportunities for trust and leadership. Drawing on John Gottman's research on relationships and Google's Project Aristotle findings on high-performing teams, they reveal why conflict isn't a problem to eliminate—it's a chance to deepen respect and build long-term influence. You'll learn a step-by-step system to handle everyday workplace and relationship conflicts without burning bridges: lead with value, accept responsibility, show empathy, and present solutions that create buy-in. With stories from clients like Marcus, a consultant at BCG, AJ and Johnny show how mastering conflict resolution can make you the person others turn to when stakes are high. If you've ever felt conflict-averse, this episode gives you practical tools to stay calm, confident, and in control. What to Listen For [00:00:00] Why avoiding conflict costs you influence [00:00:56] How conflict avoidance limits your “career chessboard” moves [00:01:27] The science of conflict: shifting from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem” [00:02:43] The High-Value Conflict Framework explained [00:03:28] Step 1: Lead with value to disarm defensiveness [00:03:54] Step 2: Accept responsibility without weakness [00:06:23] Step 3: Use empathy and “we” language to build trust [00:07:26] Step 4: Present options, not ultimatums [00:09:18] Why well-resolved conflicts create stronger bonds [00:11:03] Client story: how Marcus became the go-to conflict solver [00:11:29] Why mastering conflict is the ticket to influence A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at ⁠unlockyourxfactor.com⁠  The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially.  Visit the ⁠artofcharm.com/intel ⁠for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at ⁠makeheadway.com/CHARM ⁠and use my code CHARM for 25% off. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at ⁠SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM⁠ TODAY to get started  Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Ash is joined by Arielle Ford, love alchemist and best-selling author, for a heartfelt conversation about love, intimacy, and what it takes to create thriving relationships. Arielle shares her view of love as an art form, reminding us that each person is the artist of their own experiences. She reads a moving poem that frames love as a choice and daily practice, rooted in forgiveness, commitment, and truth-telling. Together, they explore the challenges of modern relationships, from choosing generous partners to navigating the decline of intimacy in today's culture, and the importance of building emotional and physical safety. The conversation highlights Wabi Sabi Love, the practice of finding beauty in imperfections and embracing quirks with creativity instead of expecting change. With insights from relationship experts like John Gottman and Harville Hendrix, Arielle and Ash discuss early warning signs of unhealthy dynamics, the need for value alignment, and why compromise, not efficiency is the foundation of lasting connection. They also explore how communication, truth-telling, and a willingness to forgive are essential for sustaining long-term love. Listeners are introduced to practices like “feelingizations” and reminded of the Harvard study proving that love and friendship not money or fame are the strongest predictors of happiness and longevity. The episode closes with a spotlight on Arielle's new novel, The Love Thief, a romantic spiritual thriller that brings her wisdom on love to life in a fast-paced, engaging story. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why love is both an art form and a daily practice. The role of forgiveness, truth, and commitment in lasting relationships. How to recognize deal breakers and red flags early on. The beauty of Wabi Sabi Love and embracing imperfections. Why communication and compromise matter more than efficiency. Insights from experts on warning signs of relationship struggles. How love and friendship not money are key to a fulfilling life.   Visit shopify.com/youturn and only pay $1 for your first month's trial. Connect with Arielle Ford Order The Love Thief Book here: https://www.arielleford.com/the-love-thief/ Website: https://www.arielleford.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arielleford_author/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArielleFordFanPage/   Connect with Ash: https://www.instagram.com/ashleystahl/ Want to become a professional speaker and skyrocket your personal brand?  Ashley's team at Wise Whisper Agency offers a done-with-you method to get your signature talk written and booked and it's helped more than 100 clients onto the TEDx stage! Head over to WiseWhisperAgency.com/speak

You can say all the right things and still miss each other. Discover why emotional honesty—not performance—is the gateway to real connection, and how to break the cycle of surface-level intimacy without sacrificing strength.What if the very thing that makes you successful is also what's silently distancing you from your partner?In today's episode of The Recalibration, we explore emotional honesty in marriage — and why it's so hard for high-capacity humans to access it. You might be articulate, self-aware, and transparent… and still be emotionally unavailable. Julie Holly shares her own journey of emotional detachment disguised as leadership, revealing how high performers often substitute control and composure for true vulnerability — not out of malice, but out of protection.This episode blends real-world storywork, neuroscience, and relationship research from Dr. John Gottman to uncover the invisible gap between what we say and how we actually connect. It's not about mastering conflict scripts or fixing communication. It's about recalibrating identity — so your presence matches your power.You'll hear:Why emotional honesty feels risky to high achieversHow “transparency” can still be a maskWhat Gottman's bids for connection reveal about nervous system safetyHow tiny missed moments create emotional shutdownWhy ILR is not mindset work — it's identity work that restores intimacyHow to lead your marriage with presence, not performanceWhether you're in a long-term relationship or simply desiring deeper emotional connection, this episode invites you to stop calculating and start connecting.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where have I been withholding emotional honesty to protect an image?What truth — even a small one — could I share today that would build intimacy, not distance?For Couples (Recalibration Together):What's one moment recently where you felt I turned toward you — or didn't?This is the kind of clarity that recalibrates more than just your marriage — it shifts your whole life.Linked Resources:Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderIf this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Wer die Liebe bewahren will, muss handeln. Paartherapeut Eric Hegmann zeigt, wie wir Probleme frühzeitig erkennen und lernen, damit umzugehen. Und warum Ottervideos der Beziehung helfen können. Wir freuen uns über Kritik, Anregungen und Vorschläge! Per Mail an smarterleben@spiegel.de oder auch per WhatsApp an +49 151 728 29 182. Mehr Infos: Homepage: eric-hegmann.de Die Paartherapie: Dokuserie Podcast Smarter leben: Will ich recht haben oder eine glückliche Beziehung führen? Wie Paare kommunizieren sollten, um sich besser zu verstehen Wie wir lernen zu lieben Wie leben wir unsere Beziehung auf Augenhöhe?+++ Alle Infos zu unseren Werbepartnern finden Sie hier. Die SPIEGEL-Gruppe ist nicht für den Inhalt dieser Seite verantwortlich. +++ Den SPIEGEL-WhatsApp-Kanal finden Sie hier. Alle SPIEGEL Podcasts finden Sie hier. Mehr Hintergründe zum Thema erhalten Sie mit SPIEGEL+. Entdecken Sie die digitale Welt des SPIEGEL, unter spiegel.de/abonnieren finden Sie das passende Angebot. Informationen zu unserer Datenschutzerklärung.

Ever wonder why some relationships thrive through challenges while others crumble? In this spotlight episode, leading relationship researchers share the exact patterns that predict relationship success, revealing why conflict isn't the problem—it's how we navigate it that matters.Learn practical tools from the Gottmans' decades of research, discover how self-awareness shapes stronger connections with Yung Pueblo, and explore science-backed strategies for deepening friendships with expert Danielle Bayard Jackson.Episode TranscriptYou can find Julie & John Gottman at: Website | Instagram | Listen to Our Full-Length Convo with The GottmansYou can find Yung Pueblo at: Website | Instagram | Listen to Our Full-Length Convo with YungYou can find Danielle at: Better Female Friendships | Instagram | Listen to Our Full-Length Convo with DanielleCheck out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount CodesCheck out our offerings & partners: Beam Dream Powder: Visit https://shopbeam.com/GOODLIFE and use code GOODLIFE to get our exclusive discount of up to 40% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive deep into the complexities of adult sibling relationships. This episode responds to previous discussions about relationships with aging parents and transitions into exploring the significance of sibling relationships in adulthood. Topics include the causes of strain, communication patterns, and the importance of these non-voluntary relationships. The hosts also share personal stories and research insights, setting the stage for the next episode, which will provide practical tools for managing and improving sibling dynamics. Tune in for real, honest, and practical advice to better your relationships!  Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. Karl Pillemer, Stockner et al., Dr. John Gottman, Jeffrey Kluger Resources :  Journal of Family Psychology Article by Stockner, et al.  https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7012710/ Dr. Karl Pillemer's Book - Fault Lines https://www.karlpillemer.com/ Dr. John Gottman https://www.gottman.com/ Jeffrey Kluger from his TED Talk on the Sibling Bond “Our parents leave us too early, our spouses and children come along too late. Our siblings are the only ones who are with us for the entire ride". (Kluger)

From sustaining a marriage to making new friends, forming connections requires courage. This hour, TED speakers guide us through being brave during the most difficult moments in relationships. Guests include writer and podcaster Kelly Corrigan, journalist Allison Gilbert and clinical psychologists Julie and John Gottman. Original broadcast date: November 1, 2024TED Radio Hour+ subscribers now get access to bonus episodes, with more ideas from TED speakers and a behind the scenes look with our producers. A Plus subscription also lets you listen to regular episodes (like this one!) without sponsors. Sign-up at: plus.npr.org/tedLearn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

Why do we tend to remember that one snarky comment from our partner—but forget the 10 kind things they did today?-According to Rick Hanson, negative experiences stick like Velcro, while positive ones slide off like Teflon.-The brain is five times more likely to remember a negative interaction than a positive one (John Gottman's research).Listen in for tips on how to start seeing the positives that are actually there. They really are!

Book a FREE 30-minute breakthrough consultation .In this episode, we're exploring how to consciously communicate in conflict. The best of relationships aren't conflict-free. In fact, conflict in partnership is imperative to the overall health of a relationship. One of the keys to healthy, long-lasting, conscious partnership, it turns out, is not if we fight but rather how we fight. In other words, it's not the absence of conflict that makes a relationship healthy. Rather, it's the presence of consciousness and awareness during conflict that allows a relationship to thrive. BooksFight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection* by Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhDThe Mindful Body* by Ellen J. LangerArticlesHow to Avoid Blowing Your Top: Understanding the Window of ToleranceImages + ResourcesWindow of Tolerance (visual)'I' Statements WorksheetDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice. *This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought, “I love you… but right now, I really don't like you”? It doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. It simply means you're human. In this episode, we're getting real about what happens when the warm fuzzies fade and the little things like how they breathe, chew, or leave their glass next to the sink suddenly feel huge. Can you love someone and not like them? Absolutely. But how you handle those moments will decide whether they pull you apart or bring you closer. I'll walk you through how to tell the difference between harmless quirks, patterns that need attention, and true deal breakers. You'll learn why 70% of relationship conflicts are about unchangeable differences, how emotional disconnection can make every annoyance feel bigger, and what it actually takes to shift from criticism to curiosity. We'll talk about building the emotional intelligence skills that help you stay grounded, see each other's perspective, and communicate in a way that leads to connection instead of a fight. Episode Breakdown 00:00 The Myth of Effortless Relationships 03:07 Dr. John Gottman's Research on Conflict & Compatibility 05:47 Turning Friction Points Into Opportunities for Relationship Growth 07:10 Daily Annoyances vs. Deal Breakers: A Clarity Exercise 10:35 How Positive Connection Reduces Relationship Frustration 14:22 The Emotional Intelligence Skills That Lead To Better Relationships 22:03 Understanding Your Partner's Perspective with Empathy 24:45 Effective Communication Strategies That Actually Work 31:00 Discernment Counseling: Is This Relationship Fixable? You can have a great relationship with someone who occasionally drives you up the wall, and this episode shows you how. If you're ready to stop spinning in communication loops and finally feel heard without starting a fight, check out my free Communication that Connects 2-Part Training. It gives you the exact skills and tools to handle these moments differently, plus a workbook to help you put them into practice. You can also take my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear snapshot of what's working, what's not, and where you can start building a more connected partnership today. And if this episode struck a chord, let's stay in touch. I'm always sharing more tips and resources on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to help you turn those little friction points into deeper connection. I also want to hear from you. Your feedback, your questions about past episodes, and the topics you'd love me to cover next are always welcome. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

In this episode, we delve into the challenges of parenting and its impact on relationships. We explore insights from Dr. John Gottman and discuss how major life transitions, like becoming parents, can reshape core values and priorities. Discover practical steps to align your values, resolve conflicts, and deepen your relationship.Key Topics:The impact of parenting on relationship satisfaction: Understanding and aligning core values. Practical exercises for couples to navigate parenting challenges, Success stories, and research-backed strategiesConnect with Us:Email: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.

Hey friends - today we're diving into something that might rattle you a little: Dr. John Gottman's research shows that 69% of the issues in a marriage are never fully resolved. Ever. So what do you do when the same fights keep showing up on repeat? Is it normal? Is it toxic? Is it you? In this podcast mini, I'm breaking down what the 69% actually means, how to spot the difference between annoying quirks and soul-crushing patterns, and what to do when your partner says they'll change… but never does. You'll walk away with gut-check questions, clarity, and maybe a permission slip or two. It's real. It's deep. And it's time to talk to my younger self.   Connect with me, I'd love any suggestions for future episodes. Email: listenupyoungerself@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.solomon.14 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherslmn/

Most people dread small talk. But in this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny explain why it's not about the weather, jobs, or generic questions—it's about emotional connection. Discover the science of “emotional bids,” a concept from Dr. John Gottman that unlocks deeper conversations and lasting influence. AJ shares a real story of using this skill at a high-stakes networking event, while Johnny shows how emotional validation can turn awkward exchanges into moments that matter. Whether you're meeting new people, trying to stand out in a crowd, or just want to feel more socially confident, this three-step framework will change the way you communicate forever. What to Listen For: [00:00:00] Why most people hate small talk—and why they're wrong [00:02:20] The hidden purpose of small talk: emotional diagnostics [00:03:37] How memory and conversation are tied to heightened states [00:05:25] AJ's breakthrough moment at a high-profile DC event [00:07:16] Emotional bids explained with real-world examples [00:09:35] The 3 types of responses to emotional bids [00:10:39] Why validation increases trust and influence [00:11:35] Johnny's "tin can" metaphor for relationship-building [00:13:36] Client story: From frozen out to followed up [00:14:39] The 3-step formula to transform small talk into deep talk A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don't miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Episode resources: ⁠HowardFalco.com⁠ Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we explore the foundations for conscious communication. The way we communicate is an essential part of the small stuff we do in our relationships that adds up to enormous proportions over time. Overlook it and we're bound to face cracks in what was once a solid foundation. Attend to it consciously, mindfully, thoughtfully, and we set ourselves up to thrive in our ability to create healthy, enjoyable relationships. Book a free 30-minute breakthrough consultationSoulrevealed.comEpisodesEp. 115: Attunement + Containment: Building Safety, Connection, and Trust in Conscious RelationshipsBooksIt Begins With You* by Jillian TureckiThe Love Prescription: 7 Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy* by John Gottman, PhD and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhDHow to Love Better* by Yung PuebloArticlesThe Ultimate Guide to Conscious Relationships in 2025 by Practical IntimacyDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice. *This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

In this episode, we delve into the universal challenges of parenting conflicts, exploring how core values and meta-emotion mismatches can escalate disagreements. We discuss research findings from Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Nancy Eisenberg, offering insights into managing these conflicts and aligning parenting styles for the well-being of children.Key Points:Top three conflicts among couples with young children: chores, money, and parenting. The Impact of Divorce on Parenting Disagreements and Ongoing Conflicts. Understanding meta-emotion mismatches and their role in predicting divorce. Dr. Eisenberg's research on emotional socialization and parenting styles. The importance of aligning parenting styles to foster emotional intelligence in children.Join us next week for part two, where we'll dive into practical solutions using Gottman's Dreams Within Conflict method to align your parenting approach. Connect with UsEmail: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.Feedback Corner: Thought of a topic we haven't covered? Hit reply—your ideas shape future shows.

Ever felt stuck in that awkward post-fight silence with your spouse, unsure of how to make things right? Or maybe you're the one who always apologizes first… or the one who never saw healthy repair modeled and genuinely doesn't know what to do.In this powerful episode of Married and Connected, certified marriage coach Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi takes you deep into the science, the soul, and the skill of apologizing. From Dr. John Gottman's research on repair to Biblical truths about forgiveness, this episode offers a complete roadmap for what to say, how to say it, and how to reconnect after conflict.You'll learn:Why most people never truly apologize (and what to do about it)What a real apology looks like using the 5-Finger Apology frameworkHow unforgiveness creates emotional walls—and how to dismantle themWhat to say when your spouse never apologizes or expects you to always go firstWhy “rising above it” isn't the same as forgiveness (and could actually lead to contempt)Whether you're newly married or 20 years in, this episode is packed with practical strategies, real-life examples, and step-by-step language to help you repair with confidence and compassion.

In this episode, we explore the concept of emotional maturity and its critical role in maintaining healthy relationships. We discuss how maturity isn't tied to age but is reflected in behavior, especially during disagreements. We share the importance of handling conflicts with empathy and understanding, drawing insights from Dr. John Gottman's research on relationship predictability.Key Points:Emotional maturity is about recognizing and managing emotions productively. Dr. John Gottman's research highlights the importance of how couples handle disagreements. The impact of social media and technology on emotional maturity. Practical strategies to build emotional maturity and manage conflicts.Takeaways:Emotional maturity involves self-control, empathy, and prioritizing the relationship over ego. Conflicting opinions are normal and can be healthy if managed maturely. Building emotional maturity requires practice and intentional effort.Connect with UsEmail: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.Feedback Corner: Thought of a topic we haven't covered? Hit reply—your ideas shape future shows.

Fr Alex Goussetis speaks with Dr Sofie Azmy regarding John Gottman's well-known metaphor describing four communication styles that often predict difficulties in a marriage relationship - and how to change course toward a healthier bond.

Imagine organizations where relationships aren't just an afterthought but the foundation of everything. Where performance, innovation, and well-being flow naturally from meaningful human connections. That's the transformative vision Bryan shares in this profound conversation.Drawing from 30 years of talent management experience across five continents, Bryan reveals why focusing on relationships is the key to thriving workplaces.He makes a compelling case backed by science: "If anything you can die from, you die earlier if you're lonely." This biological imperative for connection extends directly to our work lives, where relationship quality determines everything from stress levels to problem-solving capacity.Bryan introduces his framework of four crucial organizational relationships: employee-employee, leader-employee, leader-leader, and company-employee.Each requires specific attention and nurturing to create environments where self-serving behaviors diminish and collaborative success flourishes. He explains why culture isn't something we directly fix but rather an outcome of our actions and relationships – similar to how winning emerges from proper execution, not from talking about winning.The conversation explores practical ways leaders can strengthen workplace relationships, from structured communication approaches that confirm understanding beyond simple head nods, to implementing the "relationships matter most" mindset inspired by John Gottman's research. Bryan offers immediately actionable advice: maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, and always focus on commonality before differences.Perhaps most powerfully, Bryan emphasizes service as the cornerstone of thriving organizations. When we approach work with a mindset of serving our teams, our functions, and our organizations before ourselves, we create cultures where people find meaning, purpose, and fulfillment – and where business results naturally follow.Ready to transform your workplace culture through the power of relationships? isit Brian's website at bshtalentsolutions.com to learn more about his approach or purchase his book "Relationship Driven Cultures: Foster Unity, Enrich Self-Worth, and Build Resilience."___________________Bryan Miller BIO:Bryan brings nearly 30 years of talent management experience, serving as both head of talent management and a trusted consultant to small businesses, nonprofits, and Fortune 200 companies across five continents.  Known for his innovative, relationship-focused approach, he helps organizations strengthen cultures, align strategies, and drive performance from the front line to the C-suite.He has built talent functions from the ground up, led major change and project management initiatives, and consistently empowered teams through collaboration, development, and shared purpose.Bryan holds a BS in Business Administration from Penn State and an MS in Positive Organization Development and Change from Case Western Reserve. He has completed executive programs at Harvard and MIT and is certified in numerous assessments that guide his work in improving individual and team effectiveness.Bryan lives in Westerville, Ohio, with his wife, Sherri, and daughter, Hannah.Text Me Your Thoughts and IdeasSupport the showBrought to you by Angela Shurina Behavior-First Change Leadership & Culture Transformation ConsultantEXECUTIVE & OPTIMAL PERFORMANCE COACH

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships. He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship. By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and respectful connection.Key Takeaways: Arguments can often lead to silence, creating distance in relationships. Small patterns in communication can gradually erode trust and love over time. The importance of addressing negative behaviors before they cause serious damage. Four key behaviors that can predict divorce and how to counteract each one. Criticism can create resentment, and gentle communication is a better approach. By recognising harmful patterns, you can change the direction of your relationship. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is here to take the intimidation out of intimacy. With 20 years of experience as a licensed psychotherapist and millions of views online, Vanessa and her husband, Xander, have become a go-to couple for real, shame-free conversations about sex. In this episode, Vic opens up about her own sexy journey as they dive into how to communicate with your partner, reduce shame, and strengthen emotional and physical connection. From why a six-second kiss matters to what intentional initiation actually looks like, this episode is full of game-changing tools to make you feel more comfortable and confident in the bedroom.Instagram: @vanessaandxanderWebsite: vmtherapy.comRead: Eight Dates by John Gottman, MD// SPONSORS //Quince: Go to quince.com/realpod for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. LMNT: LMNT is offering a free sample pack with any purchase, that's 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors or share LMNT with a friend. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/realpod.Paired: Head to paired.com/realpod to get a 7-day free trail and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Your Partner Won't Engage (Part 1): Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection In Part 1 of this two-part series on The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into one of the most common yet painful relationship challenges: emotional disengagement. Whether it's a partner who won't talk, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations, this episode unpacks the underlying reasons—like past criticism, emotional wounding, and lack of safety—and offers a compassionate and practical path forward. Drawing from Dr. Sue Johnson's work on attachment patterns, John Gottman's research on emotional flooding, and the Zeigarnik effect, this episode helps listeners recognize the “dance” of disconnection and how to begin stepping out of it. You'll learn why defensiveness and shame can derail conversations, why some questions get asked again and again, and how slowing down and checking in with yourself can begin to change the entire communication dynamic. This foundational conversation sets the stage for Part 2, where Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn will explore what to do after a timeout—how to mentally and emotionally prepare to re-enter a difficult conversation with clarity, empathy, and effectiveness. Key Topics Discussed: Emotional disengagement and communication breakdown Why safety is essential for vulnerability Attachment cycles and the “emotional dance” (Sue Johnson) The Zeigarnik effect and why unresolved issues stay active Defensiveness, shame spirals, and emotional flooding (John Gottman) The role of belief systems (“You don't listen to me,” “I don't matter”) The importance of timing, tone, and non-reactivity Suggested Resources Mentioned: Free Mini-Course: Seven Essential Skills for Healthy Communication – humanintimacy.com – Tools for reflective listening, validating emotions, and clear expression. Mini-Course: How to Communicate When You Don't Know What to Say – Practical guidance for emotionally charged conversations. YouTube Channel: – Dr. Kevin Skinner on YouTube – Watch, comment, and engage with this and future episodes. Email Questions: – Reach out with thoughts or questions: questions@humanintimacy.com Researchers & Models Referenced: Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Dr. John Gottman (Emotional flooding and timeouts) Zeigarnik Effect (Unfinished emotional business) Next Episode (Part 2) Preview: Title: When Your Partner Won't Engage (Part 2): How to Reconnect After Taking a Timeout In the follow-up episode, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn continue the conversation by exploring how to effectively return to a difficult discussion after stepping away. You'll learn what to do during a timeout, how to calm your nervous system, and how to re-enter with empathy, clarity, and emotional regulation. Would you like a short version for show notes or a version formatted specifically for YouTube?

In this episode of SuperPsyched, Dr. Adam Dorsay interviews Dr. James Cordova, a distinguished professor of psychology and author of 'The Mindful Path to Intimacy'. They discuss the true meaning and importance of intimacy beyond just eroticism, exploring how intimacy is rooted in vulnerability met with warmth. They delve into how couples can navigate this delicate aspect of relationships through mindful practices, communication, and emotional vulnerability. Dr. Cordova also touches on the 'porcupine's dilemma' and how intimacy can be built and maintained through mutual understanding and compassion. Listen in for insightful tips on fostering deeper connections and keeping the fire alive in long-term relationships.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:28 Understanding Intimacy00:51 Introducing Dr. James Cordova00:45 Defining Intimacy04:47 Intimacy vs. Eroticism06:59 The Role of Vulnerability16:16 The Porcupine's Dilemma20:29 Relationship Health Checkups23:40 Questions for Couples24:49 John Gottman's Contributions25:09 The Golden Ratio in Relationships25:47 The Golden and Gray Balls Metaphor28:20 The Porcupine's Dilemma31:43 The Importance of Gratitude34:12 Navigating Intimacy and Vulnerability38:51 Improving Your Sex Life44:31 The Practice of Savoring46:42 Final Thoughts and ResourcesHelpful Links:"The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner” BookDr. James Cordova Facebook

 Let's stop the cycle of contempt and learn to disagree better! In this video, we discuss how to fix our broken conversations and bridge the divide in our nation.Are we really more divided than ever—or just worse at disagreeing?In this episode of An Ounce, we explore how contempt has crept into every corner of modern life—from relationships and work meetings to dinner tables and online comment sections—and why it's killing our ability to communicate. You'll hear insights from Stoic philosophers, historical figures like Lincoln and Mandela, and even modern research on what actually ends relationships (hint: it's not yelling).________________________________________⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Intro01:16 – Conversation That Broke Down02:41 – The Real Enemy03:49 – In the Living Room – Relationships04:40 – The Family Table – Political Polarization at Home05:31 – At Work06:27 – Online: Public Contempt Preformed for Audience07:33 – The Temptation of Contempt08:33 – Why Civility Isn't Enough09:16 – The Better Way10:43 – How Grace Stops Contempt11:25 – Challenge12:32 – An Ounce________________________________________

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive into the topic of tit-for-tat arguing and its detrimental impact on relationships. They explore the concept of critical startup moments, blame shifting, and the risks of competitive retaliation. The hosts offer practical strategies for breaking these negative patterns, such as active listening, taking responsibility, and practicing empathy. Drawing on research from John Gottman, they discuss how mindful communication can prevent conflicts from escalating and help build trust and emotional connection. Whether you're facing relationship challenges or seeking to improve your communication skills, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable advice. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Resources :  Dr. John Gottman - Gottman Institute https://www.gottman.com/ Dr. Marc Brackett's Book - Permission to Feel https://marcbrackett.com/permission-to-feel/ Link: AFAF Episode #031 - Leading Questions - How to Ask Neutral Questions https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/b861b25d7ba33bf133fdc9cad3de2a9a

Ready for a no-holds-barred chat on anger management, male irritability and their impact on relationships? We've got Dr. John Schinnerer—yes, his last name is a mouthful—dropping some serious self-awareness bombs. Trina Glines interviews Dr. John to help you discover your authentic self and stop life's challenges from becoming roadblocks. Dr. John breaks down how anger actually works (hint: it's not just a secondary emotion) and gives four killer components: emotional, cognitive, physiological, and attentional. He even dishes on living with an angry ex-spouse and references John Gottman's 'four horsemen' that predict relationship doom. But hey, it's not all bad news! Dr. John's got the top tools to begin your transformation into Phil Jackson, aka the zen master. You'll learn how to keep your cool, stop fights, and maybe even enjoy life a bit more. Don't worry about long therapy sessions—his coaching style makes this stuff accessible. Whether you're an executive with an irritability issue, in a relationship with an testy twat, or just someone who's aware of their own anger issues, you're in the right place. So breathe, grab your journal, and get ready to take some notes. You're about to transform your anger into strength.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Find Us):

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."~ 1 Corinthians 13:7Why do I get so hurt by others' actions?Why is it so hard for me to let things slide?How can I give people close to me the benefit of the doubt?In episode 72 of This Whole Life, Kenna and Pat dive into the concept of Positive Sentiment Override, a game-changing mindset for building stronger, more joyful relationships. Kicking things off with some spirited candy rankings for the Easter season, the duo opens with laughter before turning to the more serious - but deeply practical - work of cultivating a positive lens in daily interactions with loved ones. Together, they break down Dr. John Gottman's research on how seeing the best in others impacts not only our relationships but our own mental health. Together, they share real-life scenarios of how our internal narratives can shape the atmosphere in our homes, grounded in both faith and psychology. Whether you're looking for ways to make your domestic church into a greater sanctuary or wanting to shake off negativity in your marriage, family, or friendships, this episode is packed with relatable stories, actionable takeaways, and faith-filled encouragement.Episode 72 Show NotesChapters:0:00: Introduction, Candy Rankings, and Highs & Hards18:09: What is Positive Sentiment Override?27:40: What if they're truly doing something wrong?32:28: How do I know I'm in Negative Sentiment Override?43:39: Practical situations50:56: Challenge By ChoiceReflection Questions:What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation?When have you enjoyed positive sentiment override with others? When have you been stuck in negative sentiment override?How do you know when you're in a negative space with a loved one? What are the signs?How do you break out of negative sentiment override and think more positively of your loved ones?Why is it so hard to give the people closest to us the benefit of the doubt? What can you do to extend that grace to them?Send us a text. We're excited to hear what's on your mind!Support the showThank you for listening, and a very special thank you to our community of supporters! Visit us online at thiswholelifepodcast.com, and send us an email with your thoughts, questions, or ideas.Follow us on Instagram & FacebookInterested in more faith-filled mental health resources? Check out the Martin Center for IntegrationMusic: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.