Podcast appearances and mentions of John Gottman

Imagine organizations where relationships aren't just an afterthought but the foundation of everything. Where performance, innovation, and well-being flow naturally from meaningful human connections. That's the transformative vision Bryan shares in this profound conversation.Drawing from 30 years of talent management experience across five continents, Bryan reveals why focusing on relationships is the key to thriving workplaces.He makes a compelling case backed by science: "If anything you can die from, you die earlier if you're lonely." This biological imperative for connection extends directly to our work lives, where relationship quality determines everything from stress levels to problem-solving capacity.Bryan introduces his framework of four crucial organizational relationships: employee-employee, leader-employee, leader-leader, and company-employee.Each requires specific attention and nurturing to create environments where self-serving behaviors diminish and collaborative success flourishes. He explains why culture isn't something we directly fix but rather an outcome of our actions and relationships – similar to how winning emerges from proper execution, not from talking about winning.The conversation explores practical ways leaders can strengthen workplace relationships, from structured communication approaches that confirm understanding beyond simple head nods, to implementing the "relationships matter most" mindset inspired by John Gottman's research. Bryan offers immediately actionable advice: maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, and always focus on commonality before differences.Perhaps most powerfully, Bryan emphasizes service as the cornerstone of thriving organizations. When we approach work with a mindset of serving our teams, our functions, and our organizations before ourselves, we create cultures where people find meaning, purpose, and fulfillment – and where business results naturally follow.Ready to transform your workplace culture through the power of relationships? isit Brian's website at bshtalentsolutions.com to learn more about his approach or purchase his book "Relationship Driven Cultures: Foster Unity, Enrich Self-Worth, and Build Resilience."___________________Bryan Miller BIO:Bryan brings nearly 30 years of talent management experience, serving as both head of talent management and a trusted consultant to small businesses, nonprofits, and Fortune 200 companies across five continents.  Known for his innovative, relationship-focused approach, he helps organizations strengthen cultures, align strategies, and drive performance from the front line to the C-suite.He has built talent functions from the ground up, led major change and project management initiatives, and consistently empowered teams through collaboration, development, and shared purpose.Bryan holds a BS in Business Administration from Penn State and an MS in Positive Organization Development and Change from Case Western Reserve. He has completed executive programs at Harvard and MIT and is certified in numerous assessments that guide his work in improving individual and team effectiveness.Bryan lives in Westerville, Ohio, with his wife, Sherri, and daughter, Hannah.Text Me Your Thoughts and IdeasSupport the showBrought to you by Angela Shurina Behavior-First Change Leadership & Culture Transformation ConsultantEXECUTIVE & OPTIMAL PERFORMANCE COACH

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships. He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship. By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and respectful connection.Key Takeaways: Arguments can often lead to silence, creating distance in relationships. Small patterns in communication can gradually erode trust and love over time. The importance of addressing negative behaviors before they cause serious damage. Four key behaviors that can predict divorce and how to counteract each one. Criticism can create resentment, and gentle communication is a better approach. By recognising harmful patterns, you can change the direction of your relationship. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is here to take the intimidation out of intimacy. With 20 years of experience as a licensed psychotherapist and millions of views online, Vanessa and her husband, Xander, have become a go-to couple for real, shame-free conversations about sex. In this episode, Vic opens up about her own sexy journey as they dive into how to communicate with your partner, reduce shame, and strengthen emotional and physical connection. From why a six-second kiss matters to what intentional initiation actually looks like, this episode is full of game-changing tools to make you feel more comfortable and confident in the bedroom.Instagram: @vanessaandxanderWebsite: vmtherapy.comRead: Eight Dates by John Gottman, MD// SPONSORS //Quince: Go to quince.com/realpod for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. LMNT: LMNT is offering a free sample pack with any purchase, that's 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors or share LMNT with a friend. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/realpod.Paired: Head to paired.com/realpod to get a 7-day free trail and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Your Partner Won't Engage (Part 1): Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection In Part 1 of this two-part series on The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into one of the most common yet painful relationship challenges: emotional disengagement. Whether it's a partner who won't talk, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations, this episode unpacks the underlying reasons—like past criticism, emotional wounding, and lack of safety—and offers a compassionate and practical path forward. Drawing from Dr. Sue Johnson's work on attachment patterns, John Gottman's research on emotional flooding, and the Zeigarnik effect, this episode helps listeners recognize the “dance” of disconnection and how to begin stepping out of it. You'll learn why defensiveness and shame can derail conversations, why some questions get asked again and again, and how slowing down and checking in with yourself can begin to change the entire communication dynamic. This foundational conversation sets the stage for Part 2, where Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn will explore what to do after a timeout—how to mentally and emotionally prepare to re-enter a difficult conversation with clarity, empathy, and effectiveness. Key Topics Discussed: Emotional disengagement and communication breakdown Why safety is essential for vulnerability Attachment cycles and the “emotional dance” (Sue Johnson) The Zeigarnik effect and why unresolved issues stay active Defensiveness, shame spirals, and emotional flooding (John Gottman) The role of belief systems (“You don't listen to me,” “I don't matter”) The importance of timing, tone, and non-reactivity Suggested Resources Mentioned: Free Mini-Course: Seven Essential Skills for Healthy Communication – humanintimacy.com – Tools for reflective listening, validating emotions, and clear expression. Mini-Course: How to Communicate When You Don't Know What to Say – Practical guidance for emotionally charged conversations. YouTube Channel: – Dr. Kevin Skinner on YouTube – Watch, comment, and engage with this and future episodes. Email Questions: – Reach out with thoughts or questions: questions@humanintimacy.com Researchers & Models Referenced: Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy) Dr. John Gottman (Emotional flooding and timeouts) Zeigarnik Effect (Unfinished emotional business) Next Episode (Part 2) Preview: Title: When Your Partner Won't Engage (Part 2): How to Reconnect After Taking a Timeout In the follow-up episode, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn continue the conversation by exploring how to effectively return to a difficult discussion after stepping away. You'll learn what to do during a timeout, how to calm your nervous system, and how to re-enter with empathy, clarity, and emotional regulation. Would you like a short version for show notes or a version formatted specifically for YouTube?

In this episode of SuperPsyched, Dr. Adam Dorsay interviews Dr. James Cordova, a distinguished professor of psychology and author of 'The Mindful Path to Intimacy'. They discuss the true meaning and importance of intimacy beyond just eroticism, exploring how intimacy is rooted in vulnerability met with warmth. They delve into how couples can navigate this delicate aspect of relationships through mindful practices, communication, and emotional vulnerability. Dr. Cordova also touches on the 'porcupine's dilemma' and how intimacy can be built and maintained through mutual understanding and compassion. Listen in for insightful tips on fostering deeper connections and keeping the fire alive in long-term relationships.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:28 Understanding Intimacy00:51 Introducing Dr. James Cordova00:45 Defining Intimacy04:47 Intimacy vs. Eroticism06:59 The Role of Vulnerability16:16 The Porcupine's Dilemma20:29 Relationship Health Checkups23:40 Questions for Couples24:49 John Gottman's Contributions25:09 The Golden Ratio in Relationships25:47 The Golden and Gray Balls Metaphor28:20 The Porcupine's Dilemma31:43 The Importance of Gratitude34:12 Navigating Intimacy and Vulnerability38:51 Improving Your Sex Life44:31 The Practice of Savoring46:42 Final Thoughts and ResourcesHelpful Links:"The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner” BookDr. James Cordova Facebook

 Let's stop the cycle of contempt and learn to disagree better! In this video, we discuss how to fix our broken conversations and bridge the divide in our nation.Are we really more divided than ever—or just worse at disagreeing?In this episode of An Ounce, we explore how contempt has crept into every corner of modern life—from relationships and work meetings to dinner tables and online comment sections—and why it's killing our ability to communicate. You'll hear insights from Stoic philosophers, historical figures like Lincoln and Mandela, and even modern research on what actually ends relationships (hint: it's not yelling).________________________________________⏱️ Chapters00:00 – Intro01:16 – Conversation That Broke Down02:41 – The Real Enemy03:49 – In the Living Room – Relationships04:40 – The Family Table – Political Polarization at Home05:31 – At Work06:27 – Online: Public Contempt Preformed for Audience07:33 – The Temptation of Contempt08:33 – Why Civility Isn't Enough09:16 – The Better Way10:43 – How Grace Stops Contempt11:25 – Challenge12:32 – An Ounce________________________________________

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive into the topic of tit-for-tat arguing and its detrimental impact on relationships. They explore the concept of critical startup moments, blame shifting, and the risks of competitive retaliation. The hosts offer practical strategies for breaking these negative patterns, such as active listening, taking responsibility, and practicing empathy. Drawing on research from John Gottman, they discuss how mindful communication can prevent conflicts from escalating and help build trust and emotional connection. Whether you're facing relationship challenges or seeking to improve your communication skills, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable advice. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Resources :  Dr. John Gottman - Gottman Institute https://www.gottman.com/ Dr. Marc Brackett's Book - Permission to Feel https://marcbrackett.com/permission-to-feel/ Link: AFAF Episode #031 - Leading Questions - How to Ask Neutral Questions https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/b861b25d7ba33bf133fdc9cad3de2a9a

Communication patterns can make or break relationships, and understanding the destructive "Four Horsemen" identified by relationship expert John Gottman can help you build healthier connections after divorce. Being able to recognize these patterns in yourself gives you the power to change your communication style for all future relationships. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—these patterns create a cascade of disconnection that, once established, become increasingly difficult to break. In this episode I walk you through each destructive pattern and how to recognize when you're falling into these traps. Rather than approaching this knowledge with self-judgment, I invite you to view your communication habits through the lens of curiosity, opening the door to genuine transformation. Whether you're co-parenting with your ex, building new friendships, navigating workplace dynamics, or considering future romantic relationships, these communication insights will serve you well. By supporting yourself first and creating space for intentional communication, you can break free from destructive patterns and build the authentic connections you deserve. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep216

In manchen Beziehungen kommt einer der Partner kaum zu Wort, während der andere ohne Punkt und Komma redet. Woran liegt das? Und was, wenn das zwar normalerweise nicht passiert, aber immer dann, wenn Konflikte auftauchen?In dieser Episode geht es darum, inwiefern die Persönlichkeit beider Partner, ihre verschiedenen Stile in der Kommunikation und die spezielle Situation eine Rolle dabei spielen, wenn sich solch eine Dynamik entwickelt.Mehr über John Gottman könnt ihr hier nachlesen. Und zu den vier Todsünden der Liebe, zu denen das Mauern gehört, haben wir auch schon mal eine Folge aufgenommen – ihr findet sie hier.Anzeige. Diese Folge enthält Werbung für Glow25. Glow25 unterstützt euch mit innovativen Kollagenprodukten bei einer bewussten Selfcare-Routine. Bestellt jetzt im Wert von mindestens 29 Euro und sichert euch 20 Prozent Rabatt auf euren Einkauf mit dem Code „nevermind“ unter: https://www.glow25.de.__Never Mind – Psychologie in 15 Minuten ist ein Podcast von Business Insider. Wir freuen uns über eure Ideen und Fragen an podcast@businessinsider.de sowie https://www.instagram.com/fannyjimenezofficial/. Oder ihr schickt uns eine Sprachnachricht an die Nummer 0170-3753084.Redaktion/Moderation: Fanny Jimenez/Derman Deniz, Recherche: Fanny Jimenez/Produktion: Peer Semrau/Derman DenizImpressum: https://www.businessinsider.de/informationen/impressum/Datenschutz: https://www.businessinsider.de/informationen/datenschutz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Vytáhla jsem svůj abecední seznam přečtených knih z let2014 – 2022 a mám pro vás tip od každého písmena. Pokud mi chcete sdělit vašetipy na čtení nebo cokoliv jiného, najdete mě na instagramu jako @les.slov :)Zmíněné knihy: Dokud vás nenajdeme – Deepa Anappara; Vytěženejkraj – Veronika Bendová; Země příběhů – Chris Colfer; Dopisy na konec světa –Ava Dellaira; Kruh – Dave Eggers; Zbláznění – Ellen Forney; Sedm principůspokojeného manželství – John Gottman; Zahradní slavnost – Václav Havel; S pokoroua nadějí – Becky Chambers; Klára a Slunce – Kazuo Ishiguro; Kouzelníkův únik z reality– Lars Vasa Johansson; Sedmihlas – Rebecca Kauffman; Prokletý rok – Kim Liggett

The Lens of Betrayal: Relearning How to See the Ones We Love In this thought-provoking episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how betrayal changes the way we see the people closest to us. When trust is broken, our brain naturally shifts into self-protection, filtering our perception through trauma, pain, and fear. Dr. Skinner shares personal stories and clinical insights to illuminate how resentment, grief, and disconnection can cloud our ability to see others clearly. Together, they discuss how healing requires slowing down, grounding the nervous system, and re-engaging the prefrontal cortex to ask deeper questions: Who is this person now? Am I ready to see them anew? The episode encourages listeners to examine their own emotional filters, make space for grief, and learn to see others—and themselves—with compassion, clarity, and maturity. This conversation offers hope, not through rushed reconnection, but through the power of perception and presence. Resources Mentioned & Referenced Reflective Questions to Shift Perspective “Who is my enemy?” “What am I fighting for?” “Am I ready to see this person in a new way?” Neuroscience and Trauma Concepts The amygdala's role in trauma responses (fight, flight, freeze) The prefrontal cortex as the seat of reflective, relational thinking Trauma-informed perception: seeing through past filters Therapeutic Tools and Concepts Reflective Listening – Taught in the free course: Seven Essential Communication Skills (Available at humanintimacy.com) Bids for Connection – From Dr. John Gottman's research Back Pocket Technique – Practicing presence by temporarily setting aside your own perspective Literary Inspiration C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory: “There are no ordinary people. You have never talked to a mere mortal…” Related Upcoming Topics Self-Leadership -Self-Mastery When Your Partner Won't Open Up The Fear of Being Seen  

At the Family Enrichment Conference in San Antonio this past March, we spoke with Leticia Rodriguez, Director of the International Federation for Family Development (IFFD), about the beauty and significance of marriage in building strong families and a flourishing society. Drawing from years of experience in family enrichment and global advocacy, Leticia shares why she believes marriage is the masterpiece of our lives. The conversation explores how couples can strengthen their relationship through intentional communication, emotional connection, and shared purpose. Leticia references insights from John Gottman's research on marital stability and the practical wisdom of the Love Languages to help couples understand and serve one another more deeply.To learn more about IFFD and their work, visit there website at https://iffd.org/

In today's episode, Janice talks about the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and their antidotes and how these conversation styles can erode a relationship and how you can repair them.

Ready for a no-holds-barred chat on anger management, male irritability and their impact on relationships? We've got Dr. John Schinnerer—yes, his last name is a mouthful—dropping some serious self-awareness bombs. Trina Glines interviews Dr. John to help you discover your authentic self and stop life's challenges from becoming roadblocks. Dr. John breaks down how anger actually works (hint: it's not just a secondary emotion) and gives four killer components: emotional, cognitive, physiological, and attentional. He even dishes on living with an angry ex-spouse and references John Gottman's 'four horsemen' that predict relationship doom. But hey, it's not all bad news! Dr. John's got the top tools to begin your transformation into Phil Jackson, aka the zen master. You'll learn how to keep your cool, stop fights, and maybe even enjoy life a bit more. Don't worry about long therapy sessions—his coaching style makes this stuff accessible. Whether you're an executive with an irritability issue, in a relationship with an testy twat, or just someone who's aware of their own anger issues, you're in the right place. So breathe, grab your journal, and get ready to take some notes. You're about to transform your anger into strength.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here's Where to Find Us):

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3130: Corey Allan explores practical ways couples can navigate disagreements without damaging their connection, especially when core values or lifestyle changes like minimalism are at stake. Drawing on insights from marital research, he outlines respectful communication strategies that allow each partner to stay true to themselves while nurturing the relationship. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/communicating-with-your-partner/ Quotes to ponder: "Problems in marriage are inevitable. The question is, can you remain satisfied in your marriage in spite of differences?" "Respect is defined as not trying directly or indirectly to change anyone." "If you're over-functioning for someone, you are under-functioning for yourself." Episode references: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We would love to hear from you! Text us any feedback. The invisible weight of mental load is crushing marriages silently - creating resentment where there once was partnership. Continuing with a candid exploration of household management,I delve deeper into why the mental burden of maintaining a home can fall unevenly and how couples can recalibrate their approach through genuine connection.Drawing from Dr. Morgan Cutlip's groundbreaking book "A Better Share," I shares six practical strategies couples can implement to better distribute the mental workload, including the powerful practice of "overdosing on appreciation". TThe episode introduces John Gottman's ATTUNE framework as an essential tool for productive conversations around mental load: Attend with undivided attention, Turn Toward each other physically, Understand through questions rather than fixing, practice Non-defensive listening, and Empathize genuinely. This structured approach creates space for vulnerable discussions without defensiveness.We will explore how mental load distribution shapes children's future relationship templates. By establishing zone responsibilities, encouraging initiative-taking, and modeling healthy partnership, parents set their children up for balanced relationships. With the profound questions - "Would I want my children to marry someone who behaves as I do?" and "What skills do we want to instill in our children for healthy relationships?" - we can be challenged to examine how our current patterns influence generational outcomes.Ready to transform your home from a one-person show to a true partnership? Listen now to discover practical strategies that honor both partners' needs while creating a family culture where everyone contributes meaningfully to your shared life.JOIN ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA:Follow Along @ - https://www.instagram.com/nikkicronksmith/

"Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."~ 1 Corinthians 13:7Why do I get so hurt by others' actions?Why is it so hard for me to let things slide?How can I give people close to me the benefit of the doubt?In episode 72 of This Whole Life, Kenna and Pat dive into the concept of Positive Sentiment Override, a game-changing mindset for building stronger, more joyful relationships. Kicking things off with some spirited candy rankings for the Easter season, the duo opens with laughter before turning to the more serious - but deeply practical - work of cultivating a positive lens in daily interactions with loved ones. Together, they break down Dr. John Gottman's research on how seeing the best in others impacts not only our relationships but our own mental health. Together, they share real-life scenarios of how our internal narratives can shape the atmosphere in our homes, grounded in both faith and psychology. Whether you're looking for ways to make your domestic church into a greater sanctuary or wanting to shake off negativity in your marriage, family, or friendships, this episode is packed with relatable stories, actionable takeaways, and faith-filled encouragement.Episode 72 Show NotesChapters:0:00: Introduction, Candy Rankings, and Highs & Hards18:09: What is Positive Sentiment Override?27:40: What if they're truly doing something wrong?32:28: How do I know I'm in Negative Sentiment Override?43:39: Practical situations50:56: Challenge By ChoiceReflection Questions:What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation?When have you enjoyed positive sentiment override with others? When have you been stuck in negative sentiment override?How do you know when you're in a negative space with a loved one? What are the signs?How do you break out of negative sentiment override and think more positively of your loved ones?Why is it so hard to give the people closest to us the benefit of the doubt? What can you do to extend that grace to them?Send us a text. We're excited to hear what's on your mind!Support the showThank you for listening, and a very special thank you to our community of supporters! Visit us online at thiswholelifepodcast.com, and send us an email with your thoughts, questions, or ideas.Follow us on Instagram & FacebookInterested in more faith-filled mental health resources? Check out the Martin Center for IntegrationMusic: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.

Send us a textYou say one thing. They hear another. And somehow, the more you try to explain, the worse it gets.Sound familiar?This is what defensiveness does. It scrambles your message, distorts your intentions, and quietly chips away at emotional safety, until even love starts to feel like a battleground.According to renowned relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman, defensiveness is one of the top predictors of divorce. And not because you're broken, but because it's the armor we all reach for when emotions get big and uncomfortable.In this episode of Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, we're breaking down the truth about defensiveness: why we all do it, what it looks like (even when it's subtle), and how to take off the armor without losing yourself.You'll hear:Real-life examples of common defensive moves (yes, we all have a favorite!)How defensiveness kills emotional safety, and how to rebuild itA simple tool you can use to recognize when you're getting defensive in real timeAnd we'll ask the question that could shift everything:What if the thing you're doing to protect your heart… is actually keeping real love out?Whether you're navigating space, dating again, or trying to save something that still matters, this one's for you. It's time to slow things down, get honest about “that thing you do,” and start building connection from the inside out.Timestamps: 03:39 Flavors of Defensiveness06:44 The Impact of Defensiveness17:14 Personal Stories and Examples25:49 Building Emotional Safety27:26 Understanding Defensiveness28:34 Common Defensive Mechanisms31:26 Personal Stories of Defensiveness34:01 Managing Emotional Capacity35:41 Practical Tips for Handling Defensiveness44:07 Defensiveness in Relationships47:31 Conclusion and Resources

In this episode of Master Your Marriage, hosts Sharla and Robert dive into the dynamics of power struggles in relationships and explore how accepting your partner's influence can transform your connection from "I" to "We." Discover why this skill is crucial for a happy, lasting relationship and learn practical steps to navigate disagreements with emotional intelligence.Episode HighlightsThe Importance of Accepting Influence: Learn why accepting your partner's influence is a cornerstone of a secure relationship, backed by Dr. John Gottman's research showing that 81% of couples who don't accept influence may split up.Why Power Struggles Happen: Understand how societal pressures and the brain's “amygdala hijack” turn disagreements into perceived threats, making it hard to stay open to your partner's perspective.Real-Life Examples: Sharla and Robert share candid stories, including Sharla's past struggles with needing to “win” arguments and how shifting to a “we” mindset changed their relationship.Practical Steps to Accept Influence:Get curious and seek your partner's perspective.Define your goal for the conversation (e.g., preserving the relationship or finding a win-win).Ask, “What are we really disagreeing about?” to uncover core values and needs.Language of Influence: Discover emotionally intelligent phrases like “Help me understand your position” or “Let's find our common ground” to foster collaboration during conflicts.Gender Dynamics: Explore why accepting influence can be harder for some, particularly heterosexual men, and how both partners benefit from mutual influence.Key TakeawaysAccepting influence doesn't mean giving up power—it's about building mutual respect and influence in your relationship.Conflict is a gift that, when handled well, deepens love and understanding.Practicing these skills leads to greater happiness, emotional intelligence, and a more secure attachment.Resources & ReferencesDr. John Gottman's Research: Learn more about the 8 predictors of divorce and the science behind relationship success.Emotional Intelligence: Explore Daniel Goleman's concept of “amygdala hijack” and how it affects conflict.What's Next?Subscribe: Don't miss a single episode! Hit the subscribe button to get new episodes every Wednesday.Rate & Review: Help us reach more people by leaving a 5-star review and sharing your thoughts.Share: Know someone who could benefit from this episode? Share it with them to help strengthen their relationships.Connect: Follow us on IG @masteryourmarriage for more relationship tips and updates.Quote of the Episode“Accepting your partner's influence communicates that you care and respect them. It means you're a team, and you're in this together. You are a ‘WE,' rather than an ‘I.'” – Robert Snow

That's Camellia - Episode Title: Lipstick on a Pig: More Than Just a Saying Today's show is about a familiar saying, "You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig," and exploring its deeper meanings in our lives and relationships. What Does "Lipstick on a Pig" Really Mean? It's about the contrast between appearance and reality. Surface-level changes trying to mask a fundamental issue. Examples in everyday life (fixing up old things, marketing, personal presentation). The Ripple Effect: Surface Changes and Deeper Consequences Thinking about small actions creating ripples, both positive and negative. Pros of "Lipstick": Immediate joy or appeal. A first step towards improvement. Showing care or intention. Cons of "Lipstick": Distraction from underlying problems. Potential for feeling misled. Dishonesty or manipulation. Lipstick on a Pig in Relationships: Examples: Grand gestures vs. consistent effort, flattery vs. genuine support. Positive Ripples: Small acts of reconciliation, initial smoothing over of issues. Negative Ripples: Ignoring core problems leading to eroded trust and dissatisfaction. The importance of looking beyond surface gestures to address fundamental needs. Diving into the Data (with Resource Mentions): Misleading Advertising: Around 68% of consumers report feeling misled by advertising (Resources: Federal Trade Commission (FTC), Better Business Bureau (BBB), marketing research). Superficiality & Relationship Satisfaction: Couples focused on superficiality report ~35% lower long-term satisfaction (Resource: Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, Journal of Family Psychology). Poor Communication & Relationship Failure: Poor communication is a major factor in over 50% of failed long-term relationships (Resource: Research by John Gottman, relationship counseling literature). Open Communication & Satisfaction: Couples with open communication report ~70-80% higher satisfaction (Resource: Journal of Marriage and Family). Impact of Small Gestures: Consistent small gestures are often more impactful (65%) than grand, infrequent displays (35%) (Resource: Affection Exchange Theory, research by Laura Stafford). Don't forget to: Call to Action: Subscribe to That's Camellia Podcast for more empowering and insightful conversations. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message. Leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Visit Camellia's website at thatscamellia.com to learn more about her life coaching services. Check out Camellia's new E-book available now on Kobo.com! Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review if you enjoyed this episode! Share the love! Know someone who might benefit from this reflection? Share this episode with them and spark a meaningful conversation. Stay tuned!

Agradece a este podcast tantas horas de entretenimiento y disfruta de episodios exclusivos como éste. ¡Apóyale en iVoox! En este episodio especial para fans del podcast Cómo resolver tus problemas de pareja, exploramos los 7 principios fundamentales del Dr. John Gottman, uno de los mayores expertos en relaciones de pareja a nivel mundial, junto a su esposa Julie Schwartz Gottman. Descubre cómo mejorar la conexión emocional, resolver conflictos de manera saludable y construir una relación con propósito. Acompáñame en este recorrido práctico, profundo y cercano por las claves que pueden cambiar la forma en que vives tus relaciones. Con ejemplos, reflexiones y herramientas concretas para aplicar desde hoy mismo. Inspirado en el libro Los 7 principios para hacer que el matrimonio funcione, este episodio es una guía clara para amar con más conciencia, respeto y comprensión. 📝Reserva tu CONSULTA gratuita en 👇 mi web: https://emocioteca.com/contacto/ mi WhatsApp: https://linktr.ee/emocioteca Soy Mercedes Cobo, Psicóloga colegiada M-23793 😘 #PodcastDePareja #RelacionesConscientes #AmorConPropósito #VínculosSanos #PsicologíaDePareja #ParejasFelices #ComunicaciónEnPareja #TerapiaDePareja #RelacionesQueSuman #AmorConsciente #JohnGottman #7PrincipiosDeGottman #MapaDelAmor #AdmiraciónYRespeto #AceptarInfluencia #SentidoCompartido #ResolverConflictos #CrearIntimidad #GottmanEnEspañol #InteligenciaEmocional #DesarrolloPersonal #CrecimientoEnPareja #RelacionesConEmpatía #AmorYConciencia #PsicologíaHumanista #BienestarEmocional #AmaMejor #AprenderAAmar #AmorReal #SanarEnPareja #CuidarElVínculo #EscúchateYConecta Escucha el episodio completo en la app de iVoox, o descubre todo el catálogo de iVoox Originals

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   In this episode of "Mr. and Mrs. Therapy," hosted by licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson, listeners are taken on an insightful journey into John Gottman's seventh principle for building healthy relationships: Creating Shared Meaning. As experienced trauma experts, the Olsons provide practical strategies and exercises to help couples develop a deeper, more meaningful connection with each other. The episode delves into several key strategies, including identifying shared and individual values, creating and nurturing rituals, and understanding dreams within conflicts. The Olsons emphasize the importance of adapting and evolving rituals over time to match the couple's evolving relationship and life circumstances. They also highlight the significance of shared symbols and narratives, such as inside jokes and household decor, that can serve as tangible reminders of the couple's bond. Listeners will discover how taking collaborative action towards shared goals can foster a sense of closeness and purpose. By setting and revisiting yearly or quarterly goals, couples can ensure a aligned path, adapting plans as needed to accommodate individual aspirations and life changes. Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth encourage listeners to not only build a functional partnership but also find deep purpose and value in their relationships. They conclude with a recap of all seven principles of Gottman's relationship-building framework, urging couples to embrace one principle at a time for a lasting, loving connection. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Conflict in relationships is inevitable—but sometimes we make it even worse than it needs to be. In this episode, Dr. Whitney explores why couples argue, how to approach disagreements in a healthier way, and what to do when communication breaks down. Drawing from relationship research and her own experiences as a working mom, she breaks down the Four Horsemen of relationship conflict (from Julie Schwartz Gottman & John Gottman), explains the difference between solvable vs. perpetual problems, and shares practical strategies for handling disagreements without resentment or blame. Plus, she highlights why the way we navigate conflict matters—not just for our relationships, but for the example we set for our kids.See the full show notes here.

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast, hosted by Tim and Ruth Olson, esteemed marriage and family therapists with a passion for healing and transformation. In this episode, they delve into the intriguing topic of creating shared meaning in relationships, inspired by John Gottman's seventh principle for lasting love. Join Tim and Ruth as they explore how building a shared meaning can create a stronger emotional bond between partners. They explain the importance of weaving a tapestry of rituals, values, and life goals that unify couples, going beyond everyday tasks to shape a relationship's deeper identity. From special rituals like celebrating holidays to shared life missions, they discuss how these traditions foster resilience and connection over time. Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth candidly share how shared meaning can evolve with life events and challenges, enhancing relationship satisfaction. They delve into common barriers, such as lack of time, fear of losing individuality, mismatched values, and past traumas, providing valuable strategies to overcome these obstacles. Listeners will gain insights into the profound impact of shared meaning on emotional investment and relationship cohesion. Tim and Ruth provide compelling examples from their personal lives and clinical experiences, highlighting the transformative power of recognizing and honoring each other's individuality within the context of a partnership. Tune in to part one of this two-part exploration and discover the keys to fostering a meaningful and resilient connection. This episode promises engaging conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies to help you and your partner align on shared visions and enrich your unique relationship journey. Stay tuned for part two, where Tim and Ruth will guide you through actionable steps for creating shared traditions and aligning on broader life goals. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}    

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo explore the concept of stonewalling in relationships. They discuss common misconceptions, Gottman's Four Horsemen, and the damaging effects stonewalling can have on relationships. The conversation includes personal anecdotes, practical advice on how to manage and recognize stonewalling, and effective strategies like planning discussions to avoid emotional flooding. Tune in for insightful tips and real-life experiences to improve your communication and relational dynamics. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. John Gottman, Gottman Institute https://www.gottman.com/ Listen Here: Shut Down Mode Episode #005: https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/100334e9de176a1fa5f53be4503458cf Watch and Listen Here: AFAF REWIND "How to Manage Stonewalling" Episode #094: https://youtu.be/lTGfidapgAo

In this episode of Great Practice, Great Life, Steve welcomes Colleen Goldenfarb back to explore how lawyer work-life balance can unlock professional success, especially for attorneys. Colleen dives deep into the powerful connection between a thriving marriage and a flourishing legal career, drawing from her personal experiences and the Our Great Life Couples Workshop. Colleen challenges the myth that financial success alone brings fulfillment, showing how integrating a strong, harmonious home life with your legal practice leads to true happiness. She shares actionable insights on balancing the demands of a legal career with a healthy relationship, proving that lawyer work-life balance is key to thriving in both realms. Discover practical strategies to achieve the balance you desire, including regular rituals like scheduled intimacy and strategic vacation planning to keep your relationship vibrant. Colleen also highlights the value of weekly meetings with your partner to manage family logistics and strengthen your bond, something that is essential for any attorney seeking harmony. She recommends tools like John Gottman's Eight Dates and personality assessments like Myers-Briggs to deepen connections and navigate differences effectively. Learn how investing in your relationship boosts productivity and satisfaction at work, creating a fulfilling life rooted in authenticity. Whether you're a seasoned attorney or just starting out, this episode offers a fresh take on lawyer work-life balance—showing how success in law and love go hand in hand. In this episode, you will hear: Exploring the link between a strong home life and professional success in the legal field Colleen Goldenfarb's insights from her journey with her husband, Craig, to balance marriage and a thriving legal practice Importance of regular rituals and scheduled intimacy to maintain passion in relationships How tools like “Eight Dates” and personality assessments can enhance personal connections Instituting weekly meetings for consolidating issues and improving home efficiency Strategies for crafting fulfilling vacations by aligning personal and relationship dynamics The holistic integration of life and career for a more fulfilling existence Follow and Review: We'd love for you to follow us if you haven't yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We'd love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. If there's a topic you would like us to cover on an upcoming episode, please email us at steve.riley@atticusadvantage.com. Supporting Resources: Episode 115: The Cost of Work Addiction and How to Reconnect at Home with Colleen Goldenfarb: atticusadvantage.com/podcast/the-cost-of-work-addiction-and-how-to-reconnect-at-home Craig M. Goldenfarb, Esq.: goldlaw.com/our-team/craig-m-goldenfarb Episode 061: The Secrets to Becoming an 8-Figure Attorney with Craig Goldenfarb: atticusadvantage.com/podcast/the-secrets-to-becoming-an-8-figure-attorney-with-craig-goldenfarb The Summit: nsslfc.com Our Great Life Couples Workshop: atticusadvantage.com/workshops/our-great-life-couples-workshop My Great Life® Planner: atticusadvantage.com/books/my-great-life-planner Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman: www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463 50 Things to Do When You Turn 50 by Ronnie Sellers: www.amazon.com/Things-When-Turn-Third-Milestone/dp/1416246371 Design Your Life: Weekly Meeting Agenda1. Wins 2. Where we're stuck 3. Review 90-day goals 4. Review/update pending projects 5. Calendar call 6. Request something of each other for the following week 7. Hug Episode Credits If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

Send us a textFIGHTING: The Enemies of Intimacy Marriage Tune-Up | Part 3Senior Pastor Keith StewartMarch 9, 2025#Realspringcreekchurch #springcreekchurch #marriagetuneup #marriage #healthyrelationships #goodfight #badfight ______Conflict is the price you pay for intimacy. There is simply no other way of achieving it. In the same way that the absence of conflict is not a healthy relational sign, neither is conflict that rages out of control. The key to a lasting, loving relationship is to learn to resolve conflict appropriately. Join us Sunday as we learn God's way of building greater intimacy in marriage.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS1. Conflict is to be expected in marriage. Yet so many act as if the opposite were true. What has been your attitude toward conflict whether in your marriage, family, friendship circle, or even at work? Poorly handled conflict will always result in hurt and further alienation. Conflict handled well will lead toward deeper intimacy.  Can you think of examples of both?2. Without a doubt, John Gottman's explanation of the Four Horseman of the Apocalypse as it relates to marriage is very revealing. The four horsemen are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Did you see any of these characteristics in your parent's marriage? What was that like? How about your own marriage? Where has your greatest struggle been? What things can be done to interrupt this downward spiral of broken communication?3. Take some time as an individual or group to discuss the chart “Good Fight vs Bad Fight” (posted online with today's message notes). Where are you strongest?Where are you weakest? What's your biggest takeaway from the chart? What steps can you make toward improvement?4. Pastor Keith reminded us to “Complain. Don't blame.” No matter how“ at fault” your partner is, approaching them with criticism and accusation is not going to be productive. It's all about the approach. One of the biggest ways to take the edge off of communicating concerns is by beginning with “I” statements instead of “You ” statements. When you begin with “I”, you are less likely to seem critical. Recall some of your more common complaints in marriage. How can you rephrase your complaints making “I” statements instead of “you" statements?5. The magic ratio of 5 to 1 positive to negative interactions is an absolute essential to making improvements in communication AND having a happy, healthy love life. We need to be making far more deposits into our partners “love bank” than we are making withdrawals. How would you rate yourself in this area? How would your partner rate you? What can you do this week to begin to make improvements? For those of you who make a practice of doing this regularly, what difference has it made in your marriage?

When your Year 12 child can't do maths or your teen rings crying from camp after being bullied, your instinct is to fix everything. But research shows that simply being heard is often more powerful than any solution. This episode reveals how validation, not problem-solving, helps children develop resilience in challenging situations. Learn the simple two-minute technique that transformed a tearful camp crisis and discover why becoming a "people builder" creates confidence in our children that lasts far beyond any temporary fix. Quote of the Episode: "You don't have to solve; you just have to support. And when the kids can feel it and then you give them an opportunity to find a way forward, they will find it. The answers are deep inside themselves." Key Points: Children need validation and understanding before they can move forward from emotional distress Being a "people builder" creates confidence and resilience in children Emotion coaching involves recognizing feelings, naming them, and allowing them to be expressed Support without immediately trying to solve problems helps children develop self-regulation Hearing supportive voices can be enough to help children find their own solutions With consistent emotional coaching, children develop faster regulation responses Finding the right supportive environments (like tutoring) can transform a child's confidence Children often have the answers within themselves when given space to find them Overcoming challenges builds resilience and confidence Small interactions with supportive people can have profound effects on children's wellbeing Resources Mentioned: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman [affiliate link] Edgar Guest's poem "A Builder or a Wrecker" Emotion coaching methodology Action Steps for Parents: Practice emotion coaching by naming your child's feelings when they're upset Allow emotions to "breathe" before trying to find solutions Ask open questions like "What do you think would be best?" after validating feelings Look for "people builders" in your child's life (teachers, tutors, friends) Consciously choose to be a "builder" rather than a "wrecker" in your interactions When your child calls in distress, focus first on connection before correction Give children space to find their own solutions after feeling supported Recognise that overcoming challenges builds resilience, even when painful at the time See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part 1 from the new series "When Love Gets Tough."Do you and your spouse struggle with conflict? Do your arguments leave you feeling more distant instead of closer? In today's episode, we're diving into one of the most important marriage skills—fighting fair. Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it determines whether it strengthens or weakens your relationship.We'll cover:- The 4 toxic fight patterns that destroy marriages (from Dr. John Gottman's research)- 5 biblical principles for handling conflict with love, wisdom, and patience- Practical steps to resolve arguments without resentment- How to repair damage after a disagreement and grow closer as a couple- Scripture-based wisdom on communication, forgiveness, and conflictKey Scriptures:James 1:19 | Ephesians 4:26 | Proverbs 15:1 | Colossians 3:13Takeaway: Fighting isn't the problem—it's how you fight that makes or breaks your marriage. Let's learn how to argue in a way that builds trust, connection, and love.00:00 Introduction: Fighting in Marriage00:16 The Inevitability of Conflict00:22 Internal Dialogues and Their Impact00:45 Predictors of Divorce01:34 Series Introduction: When Love Gets Tough01:55 Communication Struggles in Marriage02:24 How to Fight Fair03:09 Weekend Recap and Personal Stories04:57 Healthy Conflict Resolution10:00 Four Destructive Fight Patterns18:41 Five Rules for Healthy Conflict23:57 Final Thoughts and Encouragement30:48 Upcoming Episodes and New PodcastSupport this ministry by donating at www.empoweredcultureministries.orgFollow us on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moremostforever/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/moremostforever/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moremostforever

Read any good books lately? On this episode of “613 Books” podcast, producer and host Heather Dean welcomes back several authors to the podcast, this time to get their answers to the question, “What's on your reading table?” On this episode, Heather checks in with Aleeza Ben Shalom, the author of her newly-released “Matchmaker Matchmaker, Find Me a Love that Lasts” and star of “Jewish Matchmaking,” the series on Netflix. Find out whether Aleeza chooses to talk about a book that inspires her work as a soulmate clarity coach! Heather also checks in with Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld, the author of “Body and Soul: The Torah path to health, fitness, and a Holy Life” for his reading table selection, and later on with catering company owner and workshop leader Menucha Armel, who authored the beautiful cookbook, “Straight to the Plate.” Subscribe to “613 Books Podcast” and discover new books every week! = = = Show notes: Featured Guest, 1st Segment: Aleeza Ben Shalom Aleeza's Reading Table Selection: “Eight Dates” by John Gottman, PhD and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, et al. To Purchase “Eight Dates” on Amazon https://www.gottman.com/eight-dates/ Aleeza Ben Shalom's recent Book: Matchmaker, Matchmaker Find Me a Love that Lasts Link to Purchase Aleeza's book: https://www.amazon.com/Matchmaker-Find-Love-That-Lasts/dp/1454956143 To Invite Aleeza to speak at your event: https://marriagemindedmentor.com/aleezalive/ Aleeza Ben Shalom's website: https://marriagemindedmentor.com/ The Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast: https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/ Aleeza's Online Courses: Dating, Coaching, and Matchmaking: https://marriagemindedmentor.com/online-courses/ Aleeza's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom = = = = = = = Featured Guest, 2nd Segment: Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld, PhD Rabbi Seinfeld's Reading Table Selection: “The Queen You Thought You Knew” by Rabbi David Fohrman To Purchase on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Queen-You-Thought-Knew/dp/0983269017 Contact Rabbi Seinfeld through his website: info@jsli.org The book “Body & Soul” by Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld is co-authored by Dr. Daniel Grove MD, and includes and Afterward by Rabbi Benzion Shafier To Purchase your copy of “Body & Soul” on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Soul-Torah-health-fitness/dp/1680259156 For excerpts from Rabbi Seinfeld's book, related FREE resources, contacting Rabbi Seinfeld about hosting Torah Health programs in your community: www.torahhealth.org Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld's page on Torah Anytime: https://www.torahanytime.com/#/speaker?l=1397 Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld's blog: https://rabbiseinfeld.blogspot.com/ = = = = = = = Featured Guest, 3rd Segment: Menuchah Armel Menuchah's Reading Table Selection: “A Tap on the Shoulder” by Yonoson Rosenblum To Purchase from Artscroll Publications: https://www.artscroll.com/Books/9781422628423.html To contact Menuchah Armel: https://straighttotheplate.net/contact/ To purchase your copy of Menuchah's book, “Straight to the Plate”: https://straighttotheplate.net/ = = = Show Announcer for 613 Books Podcast: Michael Doniger Michael's contact info, voice-over samples, and demo: https://michaeldoniger.com/

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   Welcome back to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy with your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. In this episode, we dive deep into the art of solving solvable problems within relationships by exploring John Gottman's principles. Picking up from our previous discussion on distinguishing solvable issues from perpetual ones, we guide you through a comprehensive roadmap designed to effectively address and resolve conflict. The episode begins by emphasizing the importance of a gentle startup when entering difficult conversations, to reduce defensiveness and promote an atmosphere conducive to cooperation. We walk you through seven structured steps, starting from articulating the issue clearly, practicing active listening, to brainstorming and proposing collaborative solutions. Additionally, crucial topics such as finding common ground, compromising, and agreeing on a plan are tackled to help both partners feel respected and understood. Drawing from real-life scenarios and professional insights, we also discuss overcoming common pitfalls like reverting to old communication patterns, addressing emotional triggers, and dealing with external stressors. This empowers listeners to manage conflicts with empathy and teamwork. Whether dealing with challenging daily disputes or navigating deeper emotional wounds, this episode provides practical strategies for strengthening your relationship's bond. Tune in for valuable tips and a step-by-step guide to transforming conflict into a catalyst for personal and relational growth. We encourage you to practice these techniques on a small conflict this week, and share your success stories in our dedicated Facebook group. Join us as we continue to transform life's challenges into opportunities for deeper connections and healing. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo take a deep dive into defensiveness in relationships. They explore how defensiveness affects communication, relationships, and even children, drawing from personal experiences and research by Dr. John Gottman. The hosts break down Gottman's 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' and discuss practical strategies to reduce defensiveness, including taking responsibility, seeking clarity, and reframing interactions. Tune in for expert insights and actionable tools to strengthen your communication and relationships. Music by epidemic sound.

Be sure to watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/tEm34gytP4A Today  In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. DaveSchramm sit down with Laura Heck and Zach Brittle, co-hosts of Marriage Therapy Radio. Together, they break down why couples argue and how to navigate disagreements in a healthy way. Drawing from Dr. John Gottman’s research, they explore practical strategies to express needs, take responsibility, regulate emotions, and increase appreciation. Whether you're looking to stop recurring fights or strengthen your connection, this episode is packed with actionable insights to improve communication and create lasting harmony in your relationship. About: Laura Heck is a licensed marriage and family therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist. She isa relationship specialist, meaning she doesn't work with teenagers, doesn't treat eatingdisorders, and doesn't heal past life trauma. Nope...Laura is solely focused on helping couples.That's it.  Better yet, if you are a busy professional couple with children at home that struggle with conflict and intimacy, you are exactly who Laura loves to help.Laura is co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio, hosts The Seven Principles for Making MarriageWork workshop for couples, coaches women through the Epic Wives Experiment, speaks andtrains for The Gottman Institute and is a regular media expert on the topic of intimaterelationships. Laura can often be found running through the wilderness with her pup, cooking up somethingfierce and golfing poorly. Laura has been with her beloved and patient husband for 16 yearsand they have a seven -year-old son together. Zach Brittle has been teaching, coaching, mentoring and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington and a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) specializing in evidence-based couples therapy based on over 40 years of marital research. He is the founder and co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio, creator of Your Marriage Masterclass, and the author of the best-selling relationship guide The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal. My writings and insights have also been featured on the Gottman Relationship Blog, Vanity Fair, Men’s Health Magazine, Real Simple Magazine, The New York Times and the Washington Post. He is happily married to Rebecca for 21 of 23 years – years #8 and 18 were bothpretty rough. We live in Seattle with our two daughters (14 & 18). We own a mini-van and most of the silverware we got as wedding presents. Links: Laura's Links: Marriage Therapy Radio PodcastWorkshop For CouplesEpic Wives ExperimentLaura's Gottman Profile Zach's Links: Your Marriage MasterclassThe Relationship AlphabetMarriage Therapy Journal   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode provides a compassionate and practical guide for anyone seeking to build healthier perspectives around sexuality, reduce shame, and improve intimacy in their relationships. Don't miss this deeply insightful discussion!

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosted by Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists. This week, we continue our exploration of John Gottman's landmark book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," with a deep dive into the fourth principle: letting your partner influence you. In this episode, Tim and Ruth tackle some common obstacles couples face when sharing mutual influence, such as the fear of losing autonomy and the impact of ego and past traumas. They provide constructive strategies to overcome these barriers, emphasizing that influence should be reciprocal and beneficial for both partners. The discussion offers practical steps for embracing influence, including learning how to listen actively, valuing your partner's expertise, and practicing small tests of openness. With their trademark blend of personal anecdotes and professional insights, Tim and Ruth guide listeners on how maintaining humility and mutual respect can transform challenges into opportunities for deeper connection. Join the Olsons as they empower you with the skills needed to foster healthier communication and enduring love in your relationship. Tune in for expert advice, engaging dialogue, and strategies that can help turn adversity into triumph in your marriage. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Humility is one of the most underrated but essential qualities in a thriving relationship. Without it, growth stalls, conflict escalates, and connection weakens. In today's episode, we're diving deep into why humility is the key to a strong and lasting marriage.We'll explore:✔️ What humility really is (Hint: It's not about being a doormat!)✔️ How to recognize whether you have humility in your relationship✔️ What happens when humility is lacking—and how it leads to disconnect✔️ How to develop and demonstrate humility, even during difficult conversations✔️ Where the lack of humility comes from and how to address it✔️ The connection between humility, hurt, and healingWe'll be pulling insights from Dr. John Gottman, psychologists, and relationship experts, giving you practical steps to build a marriage filled with grace, understanding, and emotional safety.If you've ever struggled with pride, defensiveness, or feeling unheard in your relationship, this episode is for you.

How can couples maintain a strong marriage through both simple daily interactions and handling bigger challenges? In this Valentine's month, host Rebecca Greene and her husband Seth discuss Dr. John Gottman's seven principles for making marriage work, sharing their experiences and insights from their 21-year relationship and a recent marriage workshop they attended. They explore how these principles play out in real-life situations, from handling communication challenges to building shared meaning as a couple. Key Takeaways:  ➞ Love maps are dynamic and require continuous updating as partners grow and change - couples need to stay curious about their partner's evolving interests, preferences, and dreams ➞ "Turning towards" your partner in daily moments of attempted connection is crucial - even small acknowledgments of your partner's comments or concerns build emotional bank accounts ➞ Taking a 20-minute "adult timeout" when emotionally flooded helps partners regulate and return to discussions more productively ➞ Having a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions helps maintain relationship health and emotional connection ➞ Creating shared meaning through rituals, goals, and activities (like reading the same books) strengthens the relationship's foundation Memorable Quotes: Rebecca Greene: "I think I have a secret decoder ring for marriage...and I think that the code is to really like your partner. We love them, we fell in love with them, we need to stay in love with them. But I like who Seth is." Seth Greene: "I learned that all those times of us mentioning stuff during the day is us attempting to connect with each other, and if we respond, then we're putting deposits into our emotions." How to Connect: Website: https://www.whinypaluza.com/ Facebook Group: Whinypaluza Mom Newsletter: https://whinypaluza.beehiiv.com/ Follow https://linktr.ee/whinypaluzamom The episode provides practical relationship wisdom by combining research-based principles with real-life examples from Rebecca and Seth's marriage, giving listeners actionable insights for strengthening their own relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Next Level Healing Podcast, Dr. Tara Perry interviews Dr. Gary Lewandowski, a nationally recognized professor of psychology, author, and relationship expert. In this episode, we challenge the age-old myths about soulmates and explore the transformative power of a growth mindset in love. Dr. Lewandowski shares groundbreaking scientific insights that reveal how love is not just a mystical force but a dynamic journey that thrives on openness and effort.Key Highlights:

Is your mindset holding you back in dating and relationships? In this episode, Charles and Dan kick off a new series exploring Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. They dive deep into the impact of core beliefs on dating success, discussing:✅ The definition and characteristics of “bad daters”✅ Common self-limiting beliefs that sabotage relationships✅ How shame influences dating struggles✅ The role of social confidence in romantic success✅ Why challenging your beliefs is essential for personal growthIf you've ever felt frustrated with your dating life or relationships, this episode will help you identify and break free from limiting mindsets holding you back.Key Takeaways

Everything I know is laid out in my book and this 12-module Masterclass, available for you to watch on-demand. To get free access go here.Differing symbolic meanings of money in relationships, influenced by Gary Chapman and Dr. John Gottman. The episode also strongly advises new investors against high-risk 'sexy' investments like crypto, citing the value of stable and reliable investments such as rental real estate. Featured topics include the importance of cash flow, the drawbacks of following advice from figures like Elon Musk and Warren Buffett, and tips for leveraging partnerships and scaling in the real estate market. Don't miss the free remote investor e-course for additional insights.00:00 Introduction and Relationship Insights00:35 The Symbolism of Money in Relationships02:23 Valentine's Day Tips and Masterclass Promo02:54 Avoiding Sexy Investments: Focus on Real Estate03:34 The Pitfalls of Following Celebrity Investment Advice04:50 The Value of Real Estate Over Crypto05:15 Strategies of Sophisticated Investors07:15 Real Estate as a Stable Investment07:33 Personal Investment Advice and Conclusion Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ep. 168 (Part 1 of 2) | Integral psychologist Keith Witt can't get enough of the magic and beauty that happens in relationships as people begin to develop what he calls “a post-issue consciousness.” He explains that when our executive self, our wise self or witness, kicks in and forges a caring connection with the places where we hold our hurt and our traumas, then integration and healing start to happen, eventually with almost no conscious energy expenditure. “My job is to help people develop the witness,” Keith says, so they can observe their defensive or destructive states and reach for compassionate understanding, for themselves, for their partner, and for others.Keith tells us the three foundations of the modern marriage are friendship, a love affair, and an ability to resolve issues that come up, and says the shift to a post-issue relationship happens when all three facets become intentional. “Post-issue couples don't let things get in the way of their love,” he says. Throughout the conversation, Keith shares a goldmine of therapeutic wisdom on the subject of relationships, including the client/therapist relationship, and in true Integral fashion, he includes perspectives from all sorts of interesting angles, such as our evolutionary development, neural development, and moral and spiritual development. This discussion is warm, friendly, cheerful, lively, and chock full of useful information and insights. Keith's excitement about the evolutionary directionality of human relationships is contagious and inspiring. Recorded August 16, 2024.“Evolution in humans is characterized by deeper consciousness and more compassion . . . evolution has a directionality—and it's toward unity.”Topics & Time Stamps – Part 1Introducing Integral psychologist and prolific author Dr. Keith Witt (01:00)What is a post-issue relationship? (03:11)What happens when couples develop emotional intelligence and are able to love each other more? (05:48)Example of an argument in a post-issue relationship (07:35)How complexity and therapeutic parts work figures into it (08:47)How do people grow internally? How do we integrate? (10:01)A healing cosmology came to Keith after he learned about Integral Theory and all the systems came together (11:59)It helps if couples have a sense of evolutionary development (14:24)Egalitarian relationships that came online in the last 50-70 years brought along new potentials for love and problem solving (18:33) What happens when we go into defensive states? (19:21)Evolution has a directionality toward deeper consciousness, compassion, unity (22:56)Liberating ourselves by not cooperating with the argument (24:20)How does the long time it takes to raise a human child affect our social learning? (25:38)Humans are ultra social: 90% chimpanzee/10% bee (28:01)Resilience and trauma programming are actually memory systems (30:57)How do people move towards a post-issue relationship? (32:44)The key is making it an intentional relationship (35:38)Self awareness: we're often crippled based on a history of trauma (38:42)Leading couples therapist John Gottman teaches what works for happy couples to unhappy couples (39:58)Physiological arousal—once people are escalated to a certain point, they can't think (41:58)What...

Send us a textThis episode explores the concept of emotional entropy in relationships, emphasizing that love requires consistent effort and attention to thrive. Through relatable analogies and expert insights, we are encouraging you to actively nurture your marriage to prevent stagnation and promote growth.• Overview of emotional entropy and its relevance to relationships • Common misconceptions about marriage leading to complacency • Importance of Dr. John Gottman's insights on emotional health • Strategies for turning towards each other's bids for attention • The value of recognizing daily contributions within the partnership • Practical tips for investing in a thriving relationship • Encouragement to prioritize kindness and active engagement with partners • Call to action for listeners to implement changes in their relationships

Scroll down for a transcription of this episodeFrom daily check-ins to meaningful compliments and planned dates nights, we explore a 7-day love challenge to help couples strengthen their relationships. Summary: Developed by renowned psychologists Julie and John Gottman. Based on decades of research, this week-long practice offers simple, actionable steps to deepen connection and nurture relationships. From meaningful check-ins and heartfelt compliments to the importance of touch, we uncover how small, intentional actions can create lasting bonds. Whether you're looking to reignite romance or strengthen your partnership, the 7-day love challenge provides practical tools to bring more love and connection into your life.Sign up for The Science of Happiness podcast's 7-Day Love Challenge to receive these science-backed practices delivered directly to your inbox at greatergood.berkeley.edu/7daylovechallengeThis is part of our series The Science of Love.More about the 7-day love challenge:Drs. John and Julie Gottman are psychologist and the co-founders of The Gottman Institute. They created this practiced based on decades of research studying over 3,000 couples.Check out their book, The Love Prescription, Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy:  https://tinyurl.com/34nt5vv9This episode is supported by The John Templeton Foundation.Related The Science of Happiness episodes:  Who's Always There For You?: https://tinyurl.com/yt3ejj6wWhen It's Hard to Connect, Try Being Curious: https://tinyurl.com/bde6wyu7Are Your Remembering The Good Times: https://tinyurl.com/483bkk2hRelated Happiness Breaks:Loving Kindness Meditation: https://tinyurl.com/2kr4fjz5A Meditation on How to Be Your Best Self: https://tinyurl.com/3b38pw2fFollow us on Instagram: @ScienceOfHappinessPod We'd love to hear about your experience with this practice! Share your thoughts at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod.Find us on Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapHelp us share The Science of Happiness! Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts and share this link with someone who might like the show: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapTranscription: https://tinyurl.com/bdh2ezhr

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   Join hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, as they take you on a journey to deepen your connection through the art of love mapping. Based on the research of Dr. John Gottman, this episode explores the importance of understanding your partner's inner world, from their likes and dislikes to their dreams and fears. You will discover practical tips for strengthening your love map, such as creating rituals, practicing active listening, and checking in after conflicts. The Olsons also delve into common pitfalls to avoid, like assuming you know everything, turning love mapping into an interrogation, and forgetting to reciprocate. If you're seeking to enhance your relationship, improve communication, and build lasting love, listen in as Tim and Ruth share their expert insights and strategies. Don't miss the next episode, where they will dive into nurturing fondness and admiration, another critical aspect of Gottman's relationship success principles. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

We want to work with YOU! 15 Minute Free Consultation  Start healing now! Set up a Coaching Session   Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson delve into the transformative concept of love maps. Discover how understanding your partner's inner world can strengthen your relationship, foster healthy communication, and build enduring love. This week, we explore the foundational ideas of love maps, inspired by the work of Dr. John Gottman, and how they serve as an emotional blueprint for your partner's emotions, dreams, fears, and experiences. Learn practical strategies to update and maintain these maps, ensuring you stay connected and navigate life's challenges together. Join us as we unravel the layers of establishing more profound intimacy with your partner, and gain insights into avoiding emotional landmines, practicing vulnerability, and building deeper levels of trust. Tune in and transform adversity into triumph, all by taking a keen interest in each other's evolving worlds. Let's embark on this journey of discovery and connection together. [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.] {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Send us a text! (include your email addy if you want us to respond)What happens when you have sex with someone you like, get along with, and trust, but don't want to call it a "serious relationship"? In this episode, we explore the types of casual relationships such as friends with benefits and situationships, where the lines between friendship, passion, and intimacy blur. We unravel personal journeys from casual friendships to full-blown romances, tackling controversial ideas like the "Ladder Theory" and how they stack up against real-life experiences. Different perspectives from relationship experts such as Esther Perel and John Gottman offer diverse insights into passion and intimacy within relationships. Whether it's the allure of seduction, the role of alcohol, or the evolutionary aspects of these connections, we dive into all the nuances that make these relationships both appealing and challenging.We also give evidence-based strategies and practical tools to navigate these complex emotional terrains. With the help of KulaMind, our platform offering step-by-step guidance through relationship skills, we emphasize the importance of communication, self-awareness, and clear definitions in fostering healthier relationships. Reflect on your motivations and needs, and learn how to support those around you in their relational journeys. Resources:Support the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. KulaMind teaches you how to cope with difficult relationships through one-on-one expert coaching, exclusive group support, and personalized digital resources. *We only take a select few clients at a time, so apply here if you're interested. Listeners of the podcast get a special discount! Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed tips and resources for mental health and relationships. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

How serious are you about creating enjoyment and fun in your relationship (and in your home)?You probably started off your relationship experiencing lots of enjoyment as you were getting to know each other and falling in love.  But as the busyness and stress of blended family life set in, maybe your enjoyment started to wane a bit. The truth is, if you want to increase enjoyment and safeguard your relationship, then you've got to take FUN seriously!Our friends Rich and Christa blended their family 13 years ago.  Although they've had their share of ups and downs, they've managed to make fun a top priority……and they've reaped the benefits of deep connection, laughter, and genuine enjoyment in their relationship (and in their home).Rich and Christa are on a mission to strengthen marriages and families in a culture that's losing hope.  They want to help couples avoid the tragedy of divorce and enjoy a thriving marriage full of joy, friendship, and fun.Join us for a raucous conversation as Rich and Christa share practical — and serious — ways they've discovered to increase fun and how you can do the same.What You'll LearnWhy fun is a safeguard for your marriage and how it deepens connection.How to create a family culture of fun, even in challenging stepfamily dynamics.The importance of “micro-moves of fun” and small intentional gestures.Practical ways to align your schedule and priorities to boost enjoyable couple time.How to balance personal expectations with the realities of blended family life.Resources MentionedEpisode 200.  A Heart-to-Heart Conversation Exploring the Secrets to Lasting Love Click here to connect with Rich and ChristaBook by John Gottman:  7 Principles for Making Marriage WorkBook by Sam Jolman:  The Sex Talk You Never GotClick here to learn more about Weekend to Remember marriage eventsTo learn more about our Relate Strong program, CLICK HERE to schedule your FREE coaching callEpisode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational TensionEpisode 146. Friendship and Connection or Friction and Distance - what's the state of your relationship?Actionable TakeawaysDefine Your Fun: Identify activities you and your spouse enjoy and prioritize them in your schedule.Celebrate Small Wins: Whether it's playful traditions like funny birthday cake messages or silly rituals, embrace the small moments.Move at Your Child's Pace: Honor your stepchild's readiness for connection without pushing. Small cracks in the door can lead to big breakthroughs over time.Model Connection: Let your kids see you laughing and enjoying each other—it's a powerful way to teach them about healthy relationships.Invest in Growth: Attend retreats, read books together, or explore coaching prAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

From sustaining a marriage to making new friends, forming connections requires courage. This hour, TED speakers guide us through being brave during the most difficult moments in relationships. Guests include writer and podcaster Kelly Corrigan, journalist Allison Gilbert and clinical psychologists Julie and John Gottman. TED Radio Hour+ subscribers now get access to bonus episodes, with more ideas from TED speakers and a behind the scenes look with our producers. A Plus subscription also lets you listen to regular episodes (like this one!) without sponsors. Sign-up at: plus.npr.org/ted Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy