Tot Talks

In today's episode, Opie decides to take y'all along with her on a drive to just chat about how life has been recently. What she has been up to travel wise, what she has to look forward to and things that she has been dealing with. As well as a special shout out to all of our LGBTQ+ tater tots, we wish you a happy pride month! Please know that if you don't have acceptance at home, you certainly do with us. You are loved, wanted and accepted just as you are! If you'd like to email us your comments, questions, suggestions or to just vent to us (we are not therapists but we will try to be there for you in the best way we can) you can do that at tottalks99@gmail.com. We would love to hear your input! As always, be better, not bitter. We love you and will be back soon!

TW: Political talk, mentions of COVID and abortion, some coarse language. This episode we talk about the current events going on in the US with roe vs wade. No matter what your beliefs may be, it is important that we remain kind - and remember that we are all human. Everyone has a reason for what they choose to do. And while you may not agree with abortion, or even like the idea of it, there are many reasons why someone may choose to or need to have one. We believe that no one should have a say over what someone else does with their body. Bodily autonomy should not be a privilege, it should be a right. If you are in a situation where you are afraid for what could happen to you, or don't know what to do regarding anything mentioned in this episode, please reach out to someone. If you do not have someone to reach out to, please reach out to us at tottalks99@gmail.com. Although we are not professionals, we will find the resources for you. Thank you for your continued support and remember to be kind to yourself and others. Always! We will be back with a new episode next week ♥️

We're back!!! Sorry we've been gone so long. Life has been crazy for all of us. But we are back and committed to posting every Saturday like we used to. We miss it and we know y'all do too! This episode we touch on generational trauma and how it affects us even still to this day. We also talk about our lives and just catch up on things. As always, don't forget to follow our socials as well as Seth on TikTok @themediumsethnrowder and on IG @mediumsethbrowder! Feel free to send us an email at tottalks99@gmail.com with your questions and/or suggestions! We love y'all and we will see you next Saturday!

Hey Tater Tots! This episode is special because Rissa is finally back after her being away for months. This is the first time we have recorded with all three of us since before Christmas so we are extremely excited to be together again. On this episode we talk about our experiences being used by other people to benefit them. Please remember that if someone is using you in a way to benefit themselves, it is more than okay for you to set boundaries with them. It is not a reflection of you, but it is a reflection of who they are. As always, thank you for your continued support and for listening to our podcast! Stay tuned for next weeks episode. Don't forget to subscribe to Opie's YouTube “Ophelia Nichols” and to follow us on TikTok! We are finally catching up with emails and look forward to hearing from you all. Email us at tottalks99@gmail.com

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TW: mentions of abuse.. This weeks episode is just with Opie! In it, she talks about her past with her mother and asks for the listeners input on what they would do if they were in the situation she is currently dealing with. This is an important episode to her, and a subject that weighs on her heart. Unfortunately, some of us are not born with loving parents and sometimes we have to make decisions that will benefit our mental health. Even if they are difficult to make. Please check out Opie's Instagram post (@Ophelianichols) and share your thoughts and feelings, if you don't have Instagram, she has also made the same post on Facebook and looks forward to hearing from you all! Next week we will hopefully all be back on the podcast and look forward to recording together! Be sure to subscribe to Opie's TikTok while you are at it - you can find it in the linktree in her TikTok bio or by simply searching “Ophelia Nichols” on YouTube! If you don't want to publicly comment but have something to say regarding this episode or anything else you may want to discuss with the three of us, you can email us at tottalks99@gmail.com! Thank you for your support! We love and appreciate you all.

This weeks episode was just a random lunch time chat with two of us because Rissa has been stressed out and extremely busy with life. In this episode, we talk about the sister wives, COVID and what's happening with the trucking convoy in Canada. We hope to be back to regular episodes asap - we miss the three of us doing it just as much as y'all! Thank you for being patient with us and continuing to support and listen to our podcast. We love you all.

This is another episode without a specific topic, due to the holidays, missing Rissa and our mental health we have tried to keep things light and just talk about whatever. Next weeks episode will be back to our normal scheduling! But this episode, we talk about Christmas, mental exhaustion, makeup and the new year - things we are looking forward to are on their way! We wanted to thank everyone for listening to and supporting our podcast this year. It means the world to all three of us, and it's something we never expected we would ever be capable of. So thank you for your continuous love and support. We wish you the most wonderful 2022 and we cannot wait to see where it takes us. It'll be a good one!

Hey tater tots! This weeks episode is just two of us due to Rissa being caught up in school and life's craziness. We didn't pick a topic this week so we talked about all sorts of things. The pain that mothers can bring onto their children, loss and grief, as well as Mardi Gras and those king cakes Derick can't wait for Lissa to try. We hope that every one of y'all have a wonderful Christmas and that you get to spend it with those you love. Please never forget how loved you all are, we are so grateful for your continuous support and sweet words. We will be back after Christmas! In the meantime, check out Opie's YouTube - at Ophelia Nichols, and feel free to send us an email to tottalks99@gmail.com

In this episode we have a special guest on our podcast, our friend Kim from New York! We are grateful to have her join us to talk about the experiences we have had with divorce and co-parenting. We also talk about the importance of not staying in a relationship that you are unhappy with just for your children. Kids really do pick up on everything around them and they would rather see their parents happy and separated than miserable but staying together. It's important to know that a healthy co-parent relationship doesn't happen overnight, it takes work and it's not always easy. But it is possible! Whatever you are going through, be it divorce, relationship struggles, or feeling stuck in an unhappy marriage just know that it's okay to put yourself first. It's important to do so! Thank you for listening to this weeks episode and for continuing to support us. We will be back next week with another new episode for y'all! As always, you can email us at tottalks99@gmail.com with questions, comments, suggestions or if you just need someone to talk to… and don't forget to follow us on TikTok @shoelover99 (@Mamatot99 is the backup account) , @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7! We love y'all.

!!! Rated 18+ !!! In this hot mess of an episode, we cover so many random topics such as seasonal depression, our Google searches, shopping, and boundaries. This episode is a a little peek inside of what our every day phone conversations, texts and in person interactions are like - all of the time. We hope you enjoy our random, ADHD filled episode! It was exactly what the three of us needed, we know we have been away for a while but we are working on getting back into our routine and putting out episodes weekly for you again! Thank you for being patient with us and continuing to love and support our crazy selves. ❤️ As always, feel free to send us an email at tottalks99@gmail.com and follow us on TikTok at @shoelover99 @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7

This episode is important to us because unfortunately, Opie has been dealing with someone harassing, stalking and impersonating her online now for a while. At this point it has gone too far, and we just want it to end. On this episode we talk about the dangers of people on the internet and how terrifying it can actually be. If you are being harassed or stalked on the internet - please reach out to your local authorities! This is a crime. Remember to please be safe on the internet and be cautious of who you trust or what information you give out. We finish the episode on a lighter note, talking about the weekend where the three of us finally met! It was a perfect weekend and we can't wait to be back with each other again soon. ❤️ You can follow Opie on TikTok @shoelover99, her only other account is @mamatot99.. ANY other account that may look like her is NOT HER. Please block and report them. You can follow her wonderful and loving husband @dericknichols on TikTok, and us at @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7. If you have any comments, questions or concerns, email us at tottalks99@gmail.com. We are happy to be back and we will see you next weekend!

On this weeks episode we talk about the negative effects that social media can have on people and how it can completely change your life. There are so many good things that social media can bring, it can help you feel empowered, seen, heard and loved. It can bring you the best of friends (that is exactly how the three of us found each other) BUT it can also do so much harm. Don't listen to any of the negative things you may hear on social media, and please, always always remember that you are loved. Don't forget your worth! Stay tuned next weekend for a special LIVE episode of the podcast that we will be doing on Opie's TikTok when the 3 of us are finally together!!! And if you have any questions, comments or suggestions, feel free to email us at tottalks99@gmail.com

In this episode, we talk about the importance of checking on the people in our lives. You never know what someone may be dealing with. Even your closest friends could be dealing with something you don't know about because they are too afraid to ask for help or comfort. Needing support is nothing to be ashamed of. But sometimes, we all feel that way. Which is why it is so important to check on those that you love and make sure that they are okay, REALLY make sure. Sometimes a question as simple as “How are you doing? No, how are you REALLY doing?” goes a long way. It's nice to feel cared about ❤️ We all want that.

In this episode we talk about the different types of traumas we have been through - there are so many things that can be traumatizing, no matter how big or how small it may seem. Just because yours doesn't seem as difficult or as dark as someone else's, doesn't take away from the fact that it affected you. Trauma is trauma. Your experiences are valid. We see you and we support you! No matter what. We hope that this episode helps provide some insight and helps you to feel less alone in your struggles. As always, thank you for your support and for listening to our podcast every Saturday! We will be back to regular scheduling! If you have any questions, comments or suggestions feel free to email us at tottalks99@gmail.com and don't forget to follow us on TikTok: @shoelover99 (@mamatot99 backup account), @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7

TRIGGER WARNING: domestic violence and mention of addictions  In this episode we talk about how to know when it is time to go. When it's time to leave a relationship for your sake, or for the sake of both of you - how do you know? And how do you take those steps? We talk about our own personal experiences with knowing when it was time to leave. If you are in a relationship that you are afraid to leave, or you are questioning if its time to leave - please know that you are not alone. You have the strength to leave, and you are worth so much more than this relationship may make you feel. It is NOT your fault. If you need someone to talk to, we are not professionals but we do care - feel free to email us at tottalks99@gmail.com Thank you for your continued support and listening to our podcast. It means so much to us! We're trying to get back on track with uploading every Saturday but life has been busy - please bare with us! We will see you next Saturday. If you have any suggestions, questions or comments you can email us at the email above.  Don't forget to follow us on TikTok - @shoelover99 (@mamatot99 is her backup), @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7 

We're back! This episode was a submission from one of our tater tots, Dravin, who wanted us to talk about what it was like when we became adults and to give some advice or tips on what being an adult is to us. Remember, just because you haven't figured out everything yet doesn't mean you aren't trying hard enough. Honestly, we don't think anyone really has it all figured out yet! You're trying your best and your best is good enough ❤️ Also, we just wanted to say that we so happy with all of our submissions we have received these past few weeks and we are so excited to get to them all. We love you all and we will be back next Saturday. If you have any questions, comments or suggestions you can email us at tottalks99@gmail.com and we will get back to you ASAP!

We're back!!! This week is a lighter podcast - talking about our dating horror stories. Heads up! Some of this episode is explicit. Also, we had some technical issues in the middle of the episode - so at about 12 mins it switches to a second recording but we did our best to make the recording flow. As always, thank you so much for your love and support! We are so grateful for each and every one of our listeners! We love y'all. We hope that you enjoyed this episode as much as we did making it - we are SO happy to be back! ❤️ Don't forget to follow us on TikTok @shoelover99, @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7 and feel free to email us at tottalks99@gmail.com with questions, suggestions or if you just need someone to talk to. And we will see y'all next Saturday!

In this episode we talk about our fears of abandonment, what it's like dealing with them and how we can help ourselves (or how you can help someone) who struggles with these fears. You are not alone in this fear, nor does it make you a bad person for having these thoughts and fears. As always, thank you for your support on our podcast and for continuing to listen every week. We appreciate it so much! We have a few episode ideas lined up for the next few weeks but feel free to shoot us an email if you have any suggestions, comments or are looking for someone to talk to. Our email is tottalks99@gmail.com and our TikToks are @shoelover99, @themessytherapist and @mellissaprice7. We will see you again next week! Love y'all ❤️

In this episode we talk about the consequences and results of family alienation due to multiple different circumstances. So many people go without seeing or knowing members of their families due to other members of that same family causing alienation and separation. Every situation is different - we talk about ours here. If you are wanting to reach out to a family member or someone you have been alienated from - do it. It could be a wonderful thing! As always, thank you for your continued support. We love and appreciate each and every one of y'all. Stay tuned for next Saturday's episode! If you have any comments, questions or suggestions we would love to hear from you. Email us at tottalks99@gmail.com and don't forget to follow us on TikTok! @shoelover99 @themessytherapist @mellissaprice7

In our very first guest episode, we invited one of our tater tots, Brea, to talk on the show. Brea has struggled a lot throughout her life but has come out better on top. She talks about her struggle with bipolar disorder as well as the adjustments that she had to make to her life, her diagnosis process and a lot of what got her through the hard times. Her grandmother, Dory, also speaks on the podcast about how she knew that Brea was struggling and what she had to do in order to help her granddaughter. Now, Brea is doing much better with the help of her loving grandmother and the team of people she has surrounding her to help lift her up when she needs it the most.  We hope you enjoy this episode. We had a ton of fun making it for you! And as always, if you need anything from us or have a comment or suggestion for the future of our podcast, you can email us at tottalks99@gmail.com Thank you for your continued love and support - we will see you next Saturday!  As always, be better. Not bitter. 

In this episode we talk about toxic workplaces and how we have dealt with being in one. If you are in a workplace that is making you feel like you aren't worthy, please know that you aren't alone. Your work is what you do - it doesn't define you. You are worth so much more than your workplace may make you feel. You are doing your best and your best is good enough! There will always be more opportunities for you... your mental health matters. Thank you to our tater tot for your suggestion - we appreciate it so much! We're so sorry that you are dealing with a toxic workplace, and we hope that this episode can help you in some way. We love all of you! Thank you for your constant support and stay tuned for next weeks episode ❤️

TW: Please be aware that we mention some triggering subjects in this podcast - sexual assault and sexual harassment *** In this episode we talk about our own experiences regarding sexual assault - what happened to us, how we got through it and what could have happened. Please know that if you have gone through any sort of sexual assault or harassment, you are not alone and it was NEVER your fault. We hope that this episode helps you feel less alone in whatever you're going through. This is a safe place. If you have any comments, questions or suggestions you can email us at tottalks99@gmail.com Don't forget to follow us on TikTok: @shoelover99, @themessytherapist, @mellissaprice7 Thank you for your continued support! We appreciate each and every one of y'all so much ❤️ Stay tuned for next weeks episode!

We asked y'all for some questions and in this episode we answer some of them for you. We're so grateful for your support and input to this episode - and to our podcast in general. Thank you so much for all of your questions and we're sorry we couldn't get to all of them. There will be another Q&A episode in the near future so be on the lookout for that! We hope you enjoy listening to the podcast as much as we do making it. If you have questions, suggestions or just need someone to talk to you can email us at tottalks99@gmail.com! We love you and will see you next Saturday!

In this episode we talk about our own experiences in dealing with narcissistic parents and how we managed to get through it all. If you are listening and you are struggling with dealing with a narcissistic or unloving parent or family member - please know that it won't always be this way. You can make the choice for yourself to distance from the toxicity. And if you can't, there are ways to cope. Please remember that the things they may say or do to you do not define who you are or the love that you are worth. You are worth so much more than how one person, no matter who they are, may make you feel. You are loved! Thank you for listening to this episode and continuing to support our podcast! We appreciate it so much. Feel free to email us at tottalks99@gmail.com if you have questions, suggestions or just need someone to talk to. And we will see you again next Saturday! Love y'all!

In this episode we talk about our own personal experiences with anxiety as well as how we try to cope with it all. We also touch on how you can be there for someone who experiences anxiety. Everyone's experiences are unique, so what may work for someone else may not work for you. It's good to reach out and try to find as many healthy coping mechanisms as you can - and if it becomes too much just know that someone out there cares and you aren't alone. There are many resources online with suggestions on how to better understand your own (or someone else's) anxiety and how to healthily deal with the thoughts and physical symptoms. Thank you again for listening to this weeks episode! As always, we are taking comments, questions or suggestions on our TikToks - but you can also directly contact us at tottalks99@gmail.com. We hope you enjoyed this episode and look forward to hearing from you! See you next Saturday. Love y'all ❤️

In this episode we talk about our own personal experiences with bullying, as well as how we got through it. If you are being bullied - please know that it's okay to reach out to someone. Somebody ALWAYS cares. We find that having one core person that you can trust is all you really need - wether that's a friend, family member, therapist or teacher. Whoever it may be, we promise someone cares and you are not alone. The words that these bullies say to you aren't true and your worth isn't determined by them. You are loved, valued and supported. Please never let anyone make you feel like you are less than you really are. If you need to reach out, feel free to email us at tottalks99@gmail.com - although we are not professionals, we do care about you! Please also feel free to email us with questions, suggestions or comments about the podcast and don't forget to leave a review. We love you!

In this episode we talk about the LGBTQ+ community and our love and care for every single member. This episode may be difficult for some to listen to as there is a mention of suicide. If you are a member of the LGBTQ+ community and are feeling hopeless, misunderstood or like you are alone - we promise you that you are not alone. And the pain you may be experiencing isn't always going to be there, we promise. Please know that you are loved, valued and supported - by someone. Definitely by the three of us but by so many others as well. ❤️ We hope that this episode can bring you a sense of comfort or safety. Thank you for supporting us and listening to our podcast. Stay tuned for next weeks episode! Email us at tottalks99@gmail.com with any questions or suggestions regarding the podcast.

In this episode we talk about the friendship losses that we have been through - and how we dealt with them. Everyone makes mistakes - and no one is perfect. If you are going through any sort of conflict or breakup with a friend, it's okay to express how you feel. Talk to your friend - if you've made a mistake it's okay to address that you want to fix it. If they have hurt you, it's okay to bring it up to them so that you can work through things together. Sometimes friendship hurts. You realize some people you love just aren't meant to be in your life - it hurts, but it will be ok. Just remember, you are not alone. No matter what happens, the pain won't last forever. And sometimes, losing some bad friends can help lead you to find friends that will include you, make you feel special and love you for EXACTLY as you are. You are loved! And you deserve friendships that remind you of that.

On this episode, we talk about post partum depression. The signs, symptoms and our own personal experiences with it. We also touch on the different levels of it as well as tips on how to get help that you may need. For our listeners - please know that you aren't alone in what you're going through and that you are stronger than you know. Don't be afraid to reach out to someone if you are struggling.  Feel free to submit questions or suggestions to our podcast via email - tottalks99@gmail.com OR you can comment directly on @shoelover99's TikTok regarding the podcast. Thank you for listening and supporting us and we will see you next Saturday!  TikToks:  @shoelover99 @janicetoks @mellissaprice7

In this episode we talk about cheating from the females perspective, as well as briefly touching on post-partum depression - which will be the topic of next weeks episode. We hope that everyone is enjoying listening to these podcasts as much as we enjoy making them and thank you for listening and supporting us!

In our second episode of "Tot Talks", we talk about our first heartbreaks, cheaters, relationships (both romantic and platonic) and how to cope when your heart is broken. We touch on emotional manipulation as well as our own mistakes that we have made in relationships that helped to shape us into who we are today. Every relationship in your life is there to teach you some kind of lesson - and those lessons can be applied in future relationships. We hope you enjoy this episode and can take something away from it. See you next Saturday!

This is our very first episode of our new podcast "Tot Talks". In this episode we talk about how we became friends with each other, social anxiety and the pandemic. We also touch on relationship issues and divorce and the anxieties around those subjects. Thank you so much for joining and listening to us! We hope that you enjoyed the first episode and will continue listening to us as we get the hang of things are push more episodes out. We hope to post an episode every Saturday but bear with us as we are starting out. Sending you all so much love, and thank you again for listening.