Podcasts about abandonment

A hardened heart isn't where the story starts. It's what's left after a child trusted, got hurt, and concluded: I'll never be in that position again. This week, Dr. Greg turns the antisocial series toward hope: looking at how that hardness forms, and how the Sacred Heart of Jesus, betrayed and pierced yet still open, breaks the pattern. Key Topics: Why a hardened heart is never cold by nature—it's protection learned the first time trusting backfired Why the urge to control everyone around you is really an old strategy for never being at anyone's mercy again How "making up for it" can quietly become a way to avoid facing the wound underneath Why Jesus didn't heal the hardened heart from a safe distance—He walked straight into betrayal and stayed open What it means that control isn't the enemy; where you aim it is what changes everything Why healing means loving even the parts of you that sin, not just the parts that behave Why you can't will yourself into trust overnight—and why that slowness reflects your dignity, not your failure Learn More: Earlier in this series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Antisocial Part 1 — Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Antisocial Part 2 — Ep. #282: You're (Probably) Not a Serial Killer—But You May Share Some of Their Antisocial Traits The Litany for Mental Health Dr. Greg references: A Litany for Mental Health The original Sacred Heart revelations: The Autobiography of Saint Margaret Mary Alacoque Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

We analyze the story of Medea and her embodiment of perhaps the most disturbing archetype – the Death Mother. *Content warning: Infanticide* This episode we will be reading from Medea, by Euripides (Translated by Rex Warner). The following is also referenced in this episode: The Death Mother as Nature’s Shadow: Infanticide, Abandonment and The Collective Unconscious – by Daniela Sieff Our intro/outro music a sample of Seikilos Epitaph with the Lyre of Apollo, by Lina Palera, under an Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 3.0 International License. You can find the full version at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FreeMusicArchive.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Banner Image: Madame Janauschek as Medea Email: jungianeverafter@gmail.com Twitter: @JEA_Podcast Discord: https://discord.gg/GEdn4TPgHR Ko-fi: https://ko-fi.com/jungianeverafter

Send us Fan MailFear of abandonment isn't always obvious. It often shows up in the small, everyday choices we make—staying quiet instead of speaking up, people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or hiding parts of ourselves to keep others close. In this episode of Drive Thru Therapy, we explore how the fear of being left can quietly influence our behavior and relationships, and why healing begins when we stop abandoning ourselves in the process.

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Guest Courtney Miller Panelist Richard Littauer Show Notes In this episode of Sustain, Richard welcomes back Courtney Miller to unpack her PhD research on one of open source's most overlooked problems: what happens when widely used software is abandoned. Courtney explains why abandonment is not always simple, or even always bad, but can create real risks for the developers and projects that depend on it. From npm package research and downstream impact to Abandabot, AI-assisted tooling, maintainer burnout, and responsible sunsetting, this conversation explores how the open source ecosystem can better understand, detect, and respond when the software we rely on stops being maintained. Press download now! [00:01:28] Courtney explains the focus of her dissertation. [00:02:34] Courtney defines abandonment. [00:03:44] Her ecosystem-wide analysis focused on the npm JavaScript ecosystem, looking specifically at widely used packages. [00:05:23] The first part of the dissertation involved interviews with maintainers who rely on abandoned packages and often lack tools or clear processes for responding. [00:06:31] Courtney describes two types of abandonment: Explicit Notice Abandonment and Activity Based Abandonment. [00:09:27] Courtney explains the third and final chapter called, Designing Abandabot. [00:11:10] Richard raises the point that some software can be “done” and still function fine. Courtney agrees, noting that not all abandonment matters and beyond alerts remediation matters. [00:13:22] The conversation expands into under-resourced and under-maintained projects, which can also become supply chain risks before they are fully abandoned. [00:14:53] Richard brings up the “Whale Fall” idea and Courtney agrees and points to responsible sunsetting as an important research area. [00:17:39] We learn about Courtney's experience bringing AI into the dissertation, especially for building Abandabot's prediction system. [00:20:54] Richard asks whether AI is already making abandonment more common. [00:24:52] Courtney talks about staying grounded in real practitioner problems as the open source and AI landscape changes quickly. [00:26:30] Final Takeaways: Courtney argues that abandonment needs to be addressed now, especially through software composition analysis tools that can help developers understand and respond to real dependency risk. Quotes [00:01:35] “The title of my dissertation is: “Supporting the Sustainable Use of Open Source Software.” [00:07:10] “There is no right answer how to define abandonment.” [00:07:26] “Explicit Notice Abandonment”- where the maintainers of a package publicly express their intent to no longer do so.” [00:07:42] “The other type of abandonment was called “Activity Based Abandonment” -commonly used as a way of identifying abandonment in open source sustainability literature.” [00:08:26] “Out of the widely used packages, around 15% had abandonment issues.” [00:11:38] “Not all abandonment matters. If left pad is abandoned, who cares?” [00:21:35] “Maybe projects never have to die. You can create a fork and maintain it on your own.” Spotlight [00:27:20] Richard's spotlight is the translation feature on iPhone in Books. [00:28:20] Courtney's potlight is her dog, Chanel, and SAFE-MCP. Links SustainOSS podcast@sustainoss.org richard@sustainoss.org SustainOSS Discourse SustainOSS Mastodon SustainOSS Bluesky SustainOSS LinkedIn Open Collective-SustainOSS (Contribute) Richard Littauer Socials Courtney Miller Website Courtney Miller LinkedIn Sustain Podcast-Episode 140: Courtney Miller and Hongbo Fang on Toxicity and Information Flow in Open Source Communities Supporting the Sustainable Use of Open Source Software by Courtney Elta Miller Whale Fall (Andrew Nesbitt blog) Michael Winser LinkedIn SAFE-MCP SustainOSS - AI, FLOSS, and Sustainability Virtual Forum Registration Sponsor CURIOSS Credits Produced by Richard Littauer Edited by Paul M. Bahr at Peachtree Sound Show notes by DeAnn Bahr Peachtree Sound Special Guest: Courtney Miller.

As climate disasters intensify and authoritarian threats escalate, most of us are underprepared for moments when systems fail or are weaponized against us. In this episode, Kelly talks with Chris Begley and Amy Edelman, authors of The Emergency Playbook: A Bunker-Free Guide to Disaster Preparation, about how preparedness can move us away from fear, isolation and bunker fantasies, and toward community, care and collective survival. They discuss how practical planning, community relationships and collective care can help us face climate disasters, political unrest and everyday crises with more courage and less panic. Music: Son Monarcas and Mizlo You can find a transcript and show notes (including links to resources) here: truthout.org/series/movement-memos/ If you would like to support the show, you can donate here: bit.ly/TODonate If you would like to receive Truthout's newsletter, please sign up: bit.ly/TOnewsletter

You're probably not a serial killer. But the patterns that shape one run through all of us, at lower volume. In this episode, Dr. Greg traces antisocial patterns back to their source in everyday life — how we manage people, pray, and protect ourselves from being hurt again. Key Topics: Why the patterns that define serial killers aren't limited to serial killers — and how to see yourself honestly in that mirror How omnipotent control can look like loyalty, competence, or even holiness — and what it's protecting underneath What "magical penance" looks like when atonement becomes a form of control instead of real repair Why prayer can become negotiation with God — and why that's a subtle form of magical thinking How the "hardened heart" of Scripture isn't just Pharaoh — it's any wall quietly built against trust How to meet the controlling parts of yourself with compassion instead of condemnation Learn More: Previous episode in the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope St. John Paul II) Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary: Why Real Change Happens through Love not Willpower Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment   Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Do you actually trust God with your life? In this first conversation, Brother Lawrence invites us to begin the spiritual life by trusting in God's providence rather than relying on techniques or various devotions. Through a simple reflection on a winter tree, he shows us how God is already at work, patiently bringing about growth in our lives. Today, we are reading Part 1: First Conversation. To get your copy of the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/catholicclassics

EphMark 10:1-12 Big Idea: Since God is a covenant-maker who created marriage as a covenant union, our marriages must be marked by covenant faithfulness. Main Points: 3 Creational Truths:1) Gender is Intrinsic to God's Design – v.62) The Goal of Marriage is Oneness – v.7-83) Marriage is a Divine Work of God – v.9 Categories of Covenant Breaking:1) Adulterous Immorality – Matthew 19:92) Abandonment of an Unbelieving Spouse – 1 Corinthians 7:152.5) Abuses that Abandon Covenant Responsibilities – Exodus 21:10-11;

In this episode of The Vital Goddess Podcast, we explore the invisible agreements we unconsciously make around beauty, worth, desire, pleasure, and love — and how those agreements begin shaping not only the nervous system and body… but the way we perceive ourselves and experience life itself.These agreements often form early.Through heartbreak.Shame.Comparison.Criticism.Objectification.Performance.Abandonment.Or simply living in a culture that teaches women to disconnect from the wisdom of their bodies.Over time, the body begins organizing around protection.The shoulders round.The breath becomes compromised.The nervous system becomes vigilant.The fascia begins holding the shape of the agreement.And without realizing it, many women spend years gathering evidence for painful narratives such as:Beauty isn't safeMy desires are too muchLove always leavesPleasure must be earnedMy worth depends on performanceIn this episode, Dianne shares a deeply compassionate and Venusian perspective on feminine conditioning, nervous system patterning, embodiment, and reclamation.Together, we explore the three pillars of the Venusian path:

Send us Fan MailWhen Your Husband Is Paying for a Wound He Didn't Cause#marriageadvice #emotionalconnectionWhat if your husband is paying for a wound he didn't cause?For many wives, this is tender territory.Because sometimes the issue in marriage is not only what your husband said, did, or failed to do.Sometimes he bumps into an old wound that was already there.A wound from rejection. Abandonment. Disappointment. Or a story from the past that still feels true today.And when that happens, his love may have to pass through fear before it can be received.In this episode, we talk about what happens when a wife carries an old wound into her marriage—and how her husband can begin to feel like he is constantly being asked to prove he is not like the man who hurt her.This is not about blaming a wife for her pain.And it is not about excusing a husband.It is about learning to see the difference between what your husband caused… and what he may be bumping into.Because if the wound keeps interpreting his actions, he may end up paying for pain he never created.

It has long been assumed that there was no Holocaust memory in the Soviet Union. Official Soviet ideology lumped the 1.5 million Soviet Jews exterminated by the Nazis into the 26 million Soviet war deaths. So, the little Holocaust memory that existed was hidden away in families and communities. Recent scholarship, however, has painted a more complicated picture. Yes, official Holocaust memory was circumscribed. And, true, many privately commemorated its memory. But, as a new collection of Soviet Holocaust fiction, translated by Sasha Senderovich and Harriet Murav, shows that there was published Holocaust literature in the Soviet Union. Especially in the Yiddish language journal, Sovetish Heymland. How did Soviet authors treat the Holocaust? How did it differ from work elsewhere? And what are some of the challenges translating these works into English? To find out more, the Eurasian Knot spoke to Sasha and Harriet about their recent collection, In the Shadow of the Holocaust: Short Fiction by Jewish Writers from the Soviet Union, published by Stanford University Press.Guests:Sasha Senderovich is Associate Professor of Slavic Languages & Literatures and of International Studies at the University of Washington. He is the author of How the Soviet Jew Was Made. Harriet Murav is Center for Advanced Study Professor Emerita at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign. Her most recent book is As the Dust of the Earth: The Literature of Abandonment in Revolutionary Russia and Ukraine.They are the translators of In the Shadow of the Holocaust: Short Fiction by Jewish Writers from the Soviet Union, published by Stanford University Press. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not every rule-breaker is choosing rebellion. Most are choosing safety — and they've been doing it since childhood. In this first episode of a new series, Dr. Greg takes apart what "antisocial" actually means and traces the pattern back to its source: not evil or criminal, but a deep wound that learned to survive by refusing to trust. Key Topics: Why "antisocial" has nothing to do with introversion — and what it actually describes How charm and omnipotent control can be defenses, not personality traits Why growing up with an unpredictable parent makes rules feel like threats instead of like love What the interpersonal wish "help me trust you" reveals beneath even the most closed-off exterior Why the parts of us that push back against rules deserve curiosity, not condemnation How empathy, education, and direction together create the conditions where rules feel like love Why the gap between antisocial patterns and ordinary daily life is narrower than we'd like to admit Learn More: Summit of Integration 2026 — Join us in Dallas, October 20–23, celebrating the Feast of St. John Paul II. Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing: A Deep Dive into the Dependent Defense Pattern Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary: Why Real Change Happens through Love not Willpower Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

In this powerful episode of This Changes Everything, Sarah sits down with attorney-turned-betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author Lora Cheadle to explore a provocative idea: what if what we call burnout is actually betrayal?Building on recent conversations about nervous systems, survival responses, and authenticity, this episode dives into how chronic exhaustion is often a signal of deeper misalignment, not just overwork. Lora Cheadle, author of It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, breaks down how self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and high-functioning survival patterns disconnect us from our needs, identity, and emotional truth.Together, Sarah and Lora explore why high achievers often miss the signs of self-betrayal, how the body signals misalignment before the mind catches up, and why authenticity can feel threatening after years of survival mode. They also unpack what real healing looks like: rebuilding self-trust, setting boundaries, and learning to stop abandoning yourself in relationships, work, and identity.This is a conversation about burnout, yes, but more importantly, it's about coming home to yourself.Download HILY Dating App from the App Store or Google Play, or visit https://hily.go.link/d31uDGet 20% off today with promo code SHTCE at https://aquatru.comDISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.Billing Code: EP151-05/27/26/TCE-BILL-ACCEPTEDSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the reason customers are abandoning their carts isn't price...it's guilt? New research across 14 million e-commerce sessions reveals that the more pleasure-based items are in a cart, the higher the abandonment rate. (The solution for this is simpler than you'd think.) In this episode, we break down the psychology behind practical vs. hedonic upsells, why cold traffic wants logic before emotion, and how messaging sequence is the most underrated lever in DTC marketing. Nate also just bought an RV and accidentally became the perfect case study for why practical add-ons are a conversion cheat code for e-commerce brands and direct response marketers. Source: https://app.sciencesays.com/p/suggest-practical-items-to-reduce-cart-abandonment

Fear of abandonment is not a personality, it is a childhood blueprint that is still picking your partners for you. Your nervous system is not scanning the room for who will be good to you, it is scanning for someone who matches the unfinished business of your childhood.If you keep falling for unavailable people, anxious-attached pursuers, or avoidant partners who run when you get close, this video maps the exact mechanism underneath, why butterflies are a red flag, why healthy partners feel boring, and why no amount of self-soothing has stopped the cycle.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist. He teaches the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He goes where the attachment-style world stops: the operating system underneath the symptoms. Anxiously attached is not a diagnosis to manage, it is a blueprint to rewrite.The nervous system searches for someone who replicates childhood so it can finally win the love it could not get the first time. This is the engine underneath every repeat relationship. The butterfly feeling everyone tells you to chase is not chemistry, it is the exact emotional chemical cocktail your body releases when it meets someone whose emotional signature matches the parent who could not show up for you. Your brain says, this person feels like home, and you mistake recognition for love.Trauma bonding is not a sign of deep connection, it is intermittent reinforcement training the nervous system to associate unpredictability with intimacy. The love addict and the love avoidant are not opposites attracting, they are two halves of the same broken blueprint clicking together like puzzle pieces. The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is the six-step process that traces the abandonment panic back to its earliest origin and rewires the blueprint underneath, ending with Feelization, where the body builds a new emotional addiction to safe, consistent connection that replaces the chase.Kenny Weiss has helped thousands of adults stop picking the same person with a different face and rebuild attraction from the Authentic Self instead of the survival persona. His work is a blueprint rewrite, not symptom management.TOPICS COVEREDfear of abandonment, trauma bonding, love addict, love avoidant, why I keep picking the wrong person, anxious attachment, why butterflies are a red flag, trauma chemistry, pursue withdraw cycle, why healthy feels boring, intermittent reinforcement, codependent dance, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny WeissTIMESTAMPS0:00 — The Five-Minute Stomach Knew1:30 — Why You Didn't Fall In Love, Your Wound Did3:00 — Butterflies Are A Red Flag5:00 — My Mother's Seven-Day Walking Coma7:00 — Trauma Blueprint Selection9:30 — Why Trauma Bonding Feels Like Love11:30 — The Worst Day Cycle Of Abandonment14:00 — Where The Attachment-Style World Stops15:30 — The Authentic Self Cycle Rewrite17:30 — The Emotional Authenticity Method20:00 — Why Healthy Partners Feel Boring21:30 — The Sixty-Second Experiment

In this episode, we sit down with Christopher August — breathwork facilitator, author, and co-founder of Beats and Breath — for a conversation that runs from a literal billboard to a near-death drowning on the Zambezi that seeded the mission he's lived ever since. We trace his path from corporate tech and quiet despair into Peace Corps Tanzania, the medicine work that reopened his capacity to feel, and the slow alchemy of moving from victim to creator. We talk about soul sickness as a cultural diagnosis, the inner child as the keys to freedom, and the Gene Keys as a map from shadow into gift. Christopher names what he's stepping into next: a healing community in the Pacific Northwest he's been envisioning for fifteen years, and the abandonment wound that surfaces when you say yes to the call again.(00:00) Peace Corps Intro(00:34) Opening Conversation(06:47) Show Start(08:04) Corporate Life To Calling(11:29) Near Death Experience(17:14) Peace Corps Mission Work(19:35) Returning Home Culture Shock(21:31) Breathwork Awakening(26:38) Sonic Breathwork Modality(29:44) Plant Medicine Insights(33:34) Family Healing And Compassion(37:51) Constellations And Sovereignty(43:38) Gene Keys(49:48) Breath Meets DNA(01:03:06) Abandonment and Big Move(01:08:01) Vision for Community(01:17:37) Relationships as DojoGuest LinksWebsite: https://christopheraugust.coBook: Master Your Breath, Transform Your LifeApp: Beats in BreathConnect with UsStart the Free 7-Day Self-Esteem ResetWatch Our EpisodesJoin our free Telegram communityJoin our membership Friends of the Truth

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The meltdown. The defiance. The constant "look at me." It's easy to wonder if something is wrong. But most of the time, these aren't signs of a disorder — they're signs of development still in progress. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores what's really underneath "behavior problems," why children can't be diagnosed with personality disorders, and why the question that changes everything isn't "what's wrong with my child?" — but "what does my child need from me right now?" Key Topics: Why children cannot be diagnosed with personality disorders — and what's actually happening when their behavior looks like one How emotional regulation is learned, not innate — and what co-regulation actually looks like Why a child's dramatic, self-centered, or defiant behavior is often developmentally appropriate What it means when a child borrows a parent's nervous system — and why that steadiness is the foundation Why the patterns we see in our kids so often point back to something in us How a parent's own unhealed wounds shape the environment a child grows up inside Why admitting our own imperfection is one of the most formative things we can give our children Learn More: CatholicPsych Newsletter - Sign up to stay connected and hear the latest developments! Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns:   Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Pilgrimage to Poland - Learn more about this journey with St. John Paul II Summit of Integration 2026 - Sign up to learn more about this year's event! Healing Retreat in Wyoming - Learn more about our upcoming retreat experience. The Stages of Spiritual Development - Previous Being Human episode on how the stages of human development are interrelated to the stages of spiritual development. Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Before we can forgive anything, we have to be honest about what actually happened without minimizing, over-spiritualizing, or skipping to a resolution. This week we slow down to affirm this first step in the process: naming the hurt with precision. As it turns out, telling the truth about your wound is the first act of healing.   LINKS:  Current Conversations | Connect | YouTube |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT: The Word We've Been Mishandling Forgiveness might be the most talked-about and least practiced idea in all of spiritual life. Not because some people are hypocrites (I mean aren't we all a little bit?) but because if we're honest, we've been given almost no real tools for it. Tension point: most of us are carrying something. And most of us have been told– by religion, culture, entertainment, even well-meaning people– to just... let it go. But letting go of something you haven't fully held yet isn't forgiveness. It's just suppression with fancy vocabulary. Brief series preview: over the next six weeks, we're going to do this differently. We're drawing from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho's book The Book of Forgiving– one of the most honest, rigorous, and compassionate treatments of this subject that I'm aware of. We'll talk about what forgiveness actually is, what it isn't, why it gets weaponized, and what it might mean to actually get free. The Tutus give us a four-step framework for genuine forgiveness. If you're curious about each one of the steps in more detail and want to take the time it takes to really wrestle with that, I'd love to invite you into the Tuesday night book club and Discord server… talk to me after the gathering if you're interested! There's an underlying premise that when hurt happens, there's a cycle of revenge we often get stuck in (marked by the hurt/harm/loss, experiencing pain, choosing to harm, rejecting shared humanity, getting revenge/retaliation/payback, that ultimately leads to some form of violence that creates new or additional harm. What they've provided for us– based on their own experiences of injustice and violence (apartheid, violent deaths, etc.) is what they call The Fourfold Path, that similarly starts with hurt/harm/loss, followed by an intentional choice to heal. And if healing is the choice, then the fourfold path can be traveled:  Telling the Story (today) Naming the Hurt Granting Forgiveness (Recognizing Shared Humanity) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. You don't have to be at every week to get something meaningful from this. But if you can, come back. This is worth doing slowly. The task we're in today– telling the story– is both simple and challenging: before we can forgive anything, we have to give ourselves space to be honest about what actually happened. Because there are a lot of real, identifiable reasons why we rush past pain and jump straight to resolution. Why We Skip the Hard Part Some of our work today, as we launch this series, is to be honest about why we skip the hard part, and end up missing out on actual forgiveness… For many: religious pressure |  "Jesus said forgive, so I should feel forgiving." The command becomes a performance. We say the words because we're supposed to, not because anything has actually shifted. (Note: forgiveness as a practice you choose vs. a feeling you perform — that distinction matters and we'll return to it.) Toxic positivity/"move on" culture |  American culture is deeply allergic to sitting with pain. We pathologize grief. We celebrate resilience in ways that quietly shame people for still hurting. "Good vibes only" is a spiritual bypass wearing a bumper sticker. Protecting ourselves from further abuse / Not wanting to further upset the person or system that hurt us |  This one deserves weight. Often the pressure to "just forgive" comes from the person or institution that caused harm. The church tells the abuse survivor to forgive the abuser. The family tells the wounded child not to make a scene. This is forgiveness weaponized — and we'll name that plainly throughout this series. The cultural myth of "forgive and forget" |  The Tutus address this directly. You cannot actually forget. And you shouldn't have to. Mpho Tutu writes that the idea of forgetting is not only impossible, it's actually counterproductive — memory is part of how we protect ourselves and stay honest. What happens when we skip to the “end”?? We don't actually move past the hurt. We move it underground. Resentment. Shame. Something that sits in us and ferments. The Tutus describe this as the "fourfold path" — and the first step is not resolution. It's telling the story. You cannot skip to the end. Telling the Story: The First Act of Healing The Tutus write: "The first and most important step in the Fourfold Path is to tell your story." Notice: they didn't say to resolve it… but to tell it. Why does this matter psychologically? There's substantial research behind this. Narrative therapy and trauma-informed psychology both support the idea that giving language to an experience is not just cathartic — it's neurologically significant. When we name something, we move it from the body's alarm system into the part of the brain that can actually process it. (Reference: Bessel van der Kolk, "The Body Keeps the Score" — the body holds what the mind won't name.) But there's a crucial distinction the Tutus make — and it's worth sitting with: RUMINATING on a story and TELLING it are not the same thing. Rumination is the loop. It's replaying the scene, re-feeling the wound, rehearsing what you should have said. It keeps us stuck in a cycle that actually reinforces the pain rather than processing it. Ruminating is like the broken record “That's an old tape, time to take it out of the VCR” Telling the story is different. It has a shape. A beginning, middle, and at least a provisional end. It has a witness. It moves outward rather than circling inward. Research on expressive writing (James Pennebaker, University of Texas) shows that people who write about difficult experiences in a structured way— not just venting, but actually narrating— show measurable improvements in psychological and even physical health. The Tutus frame this in deeply human terms: "When we tell our stories, we reclaim our humanity." The act of speaking what was done to us — rather than simply absorbing it — is how we refuse to let the wound become our whole identity. What Kind of Story Are We Telling? As we think perhaps about our own experiences of hurt, harm, or loss, it's worth asking: what kind of story are we telling? There's a spectrum of harm that's worth naming honestly: Some of what we carry is hurt — disappointment, unmet expectations, misunderstanding, relational friction. Real, worth naming, but perhaps not requiring the full weight of the forgiveness process. Some of what we carry is a genuine wrong — a betrayal, an act of violence, a sustained pattern of harm, an abuse of power. This is different. And treating it the same as ordinary hurt can minimize something that deserves to be named for what it is. The Tutus do not minimize harm. Mpho Tutu lost her husband to violent crime. Desmond Tutu spent his life in proximity to atrocity. This framework was forged in the context of apartheid, genocide, and profound injustice. It is not a self-help framework for minor inconveniences. It takes the weight of real wrong seriously. Part of telling your story is being honest about what actually happened — not inflating it, not minimizing it. Precision in our storytelling is an ACT OF DIGNITY. The Role of a Witness Here's something important: the Tutus don't imagine this as a solo process. Telling the story almost always requires someone to tell it to. What makes a good witness? Not someone who fixes it. Not someone who jumps to advice, or silver linings, or "well, have you thought about their perspective?" A witness is someone who receives your story with enough steadiness that you feel safe to tell it fully. In men's group: THREE people. The witness to receive the story, and also somebody with permission to ask questions about what they noticed in body language, follow up with questions about what's happening in the story teller's body, etc.  This is actually one of the most underrated spiritual gifts a person can offer another: the ministry of staying in the room without flinching. There's a reason confession has existed across almost every spiritual tradition in human history— not as a transaction for the pardon of wrongs, but as the practice of being heard by someone who doesn't run from the truth of what you've lived. Community implication: this is part of why we do this together. Not because church is a place to perform having it together, but because church can be— when we let it— a community of witnesses. People who are trained and willing to hold each other's real stories. (CARE IQ) What Forgiveness is NOT Before we wrap for today, let's clear some ground. The Tutus are direct about this: Forgiveness is not condoning what happened. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. (You can forgive someone and never have a relationship with them again. These are separate acts.) Forgiveness is not necessarily something you do for the other person. And forgiveness is not something you have to feel before you can choose it. Forgiveness is a practice you choose. Not an internal feeling you perform outwardly. We'll build on all of this in the weeks ahead. But naming what it isn't is part of how we clear space for what it actually is. Invitation/PAW Guided prompts: I want to invite you into a few minutes of quiet with a series of prompts. Optional: write it, draw it, sit with it. Hold a stone to represent it…  Think of something you're carrying. You don't have to name it out loud. Just let it come to mind. What actually happened? Try to name it with some precision — not to relive it, but to see it clearly. What did it cost you? Not what it "taught you," not what good came from it — what did it actually cost? Is there a word for what was done? Betrayal. Abandonment. Injustice. Violence. Neglect. Name it if you can. When and if you're ready in the coming days or weeks, think about if you're ready to tell it… to invite a witness in. Today I'm not asking you to forgive anything. I'm just asking you to be honest about what you're carrying. That's it. That's enough for today. Wrapping it Up Desmond Tutu said, "There is no future without forgiveness”... and I tend to agree with him. But we're not there yet. That's where we're going. Today we're just naming the yuck of it all, and naming that telling our story is in itself a critical first step in healing. That takes good courage! Next week, we'll be at Venn Coffee and Brewing to spend some slow, social time in conversation as community…   

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In this episode, we explore a powerful connection that quietly shapes every relationship in your life: the way you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you. We examine how core beliefs we carry about our worth, love, and safety don't just live in our minds, they shape our behavior, relationships, and what we tolerate. We break down how these beliefs are formed through childhood dynamics and past relationships, and how they show up in adulthood through patterns. We will also guide you through a simple exercise to help identify your own core beliefs in real time. We also consider boundaries and how they are not about pushing people away, but about defining self-respect in action, are one of the clearest expressions of self-love, communicate what you will and won't accept, and create the structure that allows relationships to feel safe, honest, and sustainable. This episode is a conversation about self-trust, emotional awareness, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.Download HILY Dating App from the App Store or Google Play, or visit https://hily.go.link/d31uDGo to https://aquatru.com now for 20% off your purifier using promo code TCEDISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Here is what you will discover on this week's episode of The GMS Podcast: 1) Connecting With Yourself 2) Connecting Intimately 3) Letting Go Of Rejection and Abandonment 4) Connecting To Collaborate 5) Connecting In Business 6) Connecting To Create Cultures 7) Master Connecting *Visit This Link to Request a Free 20 Minute Coaching Session* https://www.goldenmastermind.com/coaching-call-signup/ *Connect with Jeffery* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeffery.combs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeffery_combs/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jefferycombs Website: https://www.goldenmastermind.com/ *Jeffery's Books*    (2019 Bestseller) The Breakthrough Factor - https://www.goldenmastermind.com/product/the-breakthrough-factor/ The Anger Factor - https://www.goldenmastermind.com/product/the-anger-factor/ The Procrastination Cure - https://www.goldenmastermind.com/product/the-procrastination-cure/ Psychologically Unemployable - https://www.goldenmastermind.com/product/psychologically-unemployable-remastered/ More Heart Than Talent - https://www.goldenmastermind.com/product/more-heart-than-talent-book/ *Other Ways to Listen to The GMS Podcast* Website: https://www.goldenmastermind.com/podcast/ Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3D07Y6f Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3Qd4FvC

$20 billion in research. Suicide rates 32% higher than the year 2000. Something is deeply wrong — and it isn't a lack of effort. In this episode, Dr. Greg makes the case that the mental health crisis isn't a funding problem or an awareness problem. It's a standard problem. Without a vision of what a healthy human person actually looks like, the best we can do is manage symptoms. And he introduces something new: a Mental Health Litany and Novena beginning May 15th — nine days of prayer leading into Pentecost, naming the specific fears and lies beneath our patterns and bringing them before Christ. Key Topics: Why decades of funding and awareness haven't moved mental health in the right direction Why the absence of symptoms is not the same thing as health What Catholic anthropology offers that the mental health industry doesn't have Why the Church has been slow to speak into mental suffering — and what that silence has cost How a litany does something that silence and symptom-management can't What it looks like to bring anxiety, depression, and trauma into Catholic prayer — by name Learn More: Download the Mental Health Litany and join the Novena: catholicpsych.com/litany Bad Therapy by Abigail Shrier: The book Dr. Greg references that argues our current mental health treatments may be making the problems worse  Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

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May 8, 2026- We talk to New York State Association of Cemeteries Legislative Director David Fleming about issues facing non-profit cemeteries across the Empire State, including long-term financing of operations.

In this episode of This Changes Everything, we explore a powerful connection that quietly shapes every relationship in your life: the way you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you.At the center of the conversation are core beliefs, the invisible, often unconscious stories we carry about our worth, love, and safety. Beliefs like “I'm too much,” “I have to earn love,” or “If I set boundaries, I'll be rejected” don't just live in our minds. They shape our behavior, our relationships, and what we tolerate.We break down how these beliefs are formed through childhood dynamics and past relationships, and how they show up in adulthood through patterns like over-explaining, accepting less than we want, and avoiding conflict even when something doesn't feel right. You'll also be guided through a simple exercise to help identify your own core beliefs in real time.From there, we move into the role of boundaries and how they are not about pushing people away, but about defining self-respect in action. Boundaries are one of the clearest expressions of self-love. They communicate what you will and won't accept, and they create the structure that allows relationships to feel safe, honest, and sustainable.At the heart of this episode is a key insight: we don't get treated how we want. We get treated how we believe we deserve. And boundaries are how we begin to rewrite that belief through action.This is a conversation about self-trust, emotional awareness, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.If you'd like to try the HILY Dating App, you can download it from the App Store or Google Play, or by visiting https://hily.comGo to https://aquatru.com now for 20% off your purifier using promo code TCE.DISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the liberal city of Chicago, protests erupted outside a Walgreens in the hood. The leader of the protester is calling for Walgreens to get charged with first degree corporate abandonment. If that sounds like a non-existent charge you are correct, that and also the protesters didn't mention that the Walgreens in question was shutting down because it was constantly getting robbed, oops.

Healing isn't about changing your personality. It's about being freed from the compulsions that drive it. In this final episode of the histrionic series, Dr. Greg explores what the path from performance to presence actually looks like — why hiddenness feels terrifying but works like medicine, and why the deepest fear underneath this pattern can only be answered by God. Key Topics: Why healing doesn't mean losing what makes you magnetic — and what actually does need to change How a room falling silent can feel like ceasing to exist — and why that's the wound, not the cure Why hiddenness feels like punishment but acts like medicine What it means when provoking a reaction feels more real than having a real conversation Why no amount of being seen by other people ever quite reaches the thing underneath Why real connection becomes possible only when you stop needing to be the most interesting person in the room Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #276: Back to Eden: Overcoming the Fear of Being Alone Through Divine Love Ep. #275: Hiding the Real You: The Histrionic Battle for Intimacy Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Previous episode on attachment theory: Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski The Jeweler's Shop by Karol Wojtyla (Pope John Paul II) — the play Dr. Greg references on the theater of the word and the freedom of love God Is Love: St. Teresa Margaret — Her Life — the book Dr. Greg discovered in college about the Carmelite mystic whose life of radical hiddenness is a model for this healing path Saint Elizabeth of the Trinity: The Complete Works, Volume One — the Carmelite mystic Dr. Greg credits with introducing him to St. Teresa Margaret Summit of Integration 2026 — Coming to Dallas this October, celebrating the Year of John Paul II Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

In this episode, Therese Markow and Patrick Wyman discuss Patrick's latest book, Lost Worlds: How Humans Tried, Failed, Succeeded, and Built Our World. Patrick also discusses his journey as a historian from studying the Fall of Rome to popular history. He emphasizes the importance of understanding past climactic changes and their impact on human societies, including the development of agriculture and the rise of social hierarchies. Patrick also highlights the significance of migration and the diverse burial practices that reveal aspects of ancient societies' beliefs and social structures.     Key Takeaways: Human history is not stable, and it always starts with the climate. Climate and environment are the unavoidable parameters within which everyone is living, and, whether people are aware of them or not, they are responding to the pressures and shifts that are happening climatically around them. Abandonment of sites and cities happens over time and often for a variety of reasons that are always specific to the climate systems and problems of that particular area. Modern science, like ancient DNA extraction, now allows us to learn more about dynamics in ancient periods that we never could have seen before. Funerary practices vary across the world in ancient times, as they do in modern times. Often, it is based on one of two poles: when people die, are their spirits potentially dangerous (ghost society) or potentially beneficial (ancestor society)? Every single one of the billions of people who lived was living a life that was full, rich, sophisticated, and complex. As humans, we have been through big, crazy stuff, and yet we are still here and still thriving. Humanity is incredibly durable, and we can make it through some really, really bad times if we work hard and work together.   "Migration is humanity's most basic tool for getting out of bad situations and finding better ones. The simplest possible thing you can do if things get bad wherever you're living is to move somewhere else. And this has been our response at every time and on every geographic scale over the course of human existence." —  Patrick Wyman   Episode References:  Lost Worlds: How Humans Tried, Failed, Succeeded, and Built Our World - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/lost-worlds-patrick-wyman?variant=43084775817250    Connect with Patrick Wyman: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/PastLivesMedia    Threads: https://www.threads.com/@wyman_patrick    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@patrick.wyman    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wyman_patrick/  Substack: https://substack.com/@patrickwyman  Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/patrickwyman.bsky.social    Shows: The Fall of Rome: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-fall-of-rome-podcast/id1141563910  Tides of History: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tides-of-history/id1257202425  Past Lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-soon-past-lives/id1852618120?i=1000736506949    Connect with Therese: Website:  www.criticallyspeaking.net Bluesky: @CriticallySpeaking.bsky.social Instagram: @criticallyspeakingpodcast Email: theresemarkow@criticallyspeaking.net    Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. 

WATCH NOW: https://youtu.be/3f-VsfWFtfAJoin The FLATOUT FAMILY: https://flatoutfamily.com/Family, this conversation right here is for the person who has been carrying pressure in private.Keon Davis pulled up and gave us the real.We talked about losing money, losing identity, father wounds, divorce, grief, rebuilding as a man, and what it looks like to keep going when life hits you from every side.This was not one of those polished conversations where people act like they always had it together.This was honest.This was raw.This was healing.Keon shared what it felt like to lose $375,000, start over in Atlanta, wrestle with abandonment, carry grief, rebuild his business, and still learn how to be present for his daughters.And somewhere in the middle of all that, God was still writing his story.If you are a man trying to rebuild, if you are healing from loss, if you are learning how to lead better, or if you are just tired of pretending you're okay, this episode is for you.Make sure you subscribe, turn on notifications, and drop a comment letting me know what part hit you the hardest.Love yourself Moore, Flatout!Visit our Partner RX Outreach | Rx Outreach is a nonprofit, mail-order pharmacy that supports people in getting access to the medications they need at prices they can afford - with or without insurance.: https://rxoutreach.org/willie/00:00 Welcome to the Love You More Show00:42 RX Outreach partner message02:27 Introducing Keion Davis03:16 How Smooth N Groove started03:33 Making money fast, then losing everything04:14 Starting over in Atlanta05:06 Willie shares Turning Point08:04 Losing $375,000 and rebuilding from zero09:31 Identity shift after the loss10:25 Willie opens up about running from poverty11:23 Doing events for free and building momentum13:00 Tyler Perry Studios calls14:01 What coming home felt like during success16:03 Abandonment, adoption, and performance based identity17:11 Growing up without his father18:48 The childhood turning point22:32 Meeting his father for the first time24:09 Why his father stayed away25:17 Forgiving his father26:29 Why trusting men was hard27:25 Men keeping their word30:30 Marriage, attention, and emotional immaturity32:10 Taught survival by unhealed men34:07 Divorce and leadership36:00 Depression after losing his grandfather38:11 How he responds to grief now40:01 Why he's different now42:20 Willie speaks life over Keion44:29 Rest, surrender, and trusting God47:11 Survival mode vs stewardship51:24 God can do more than your grind57:27 What fatherhood looks like now01:04:41 Willie tells Keion he's proud of him01:06:46 Join the Flat Out Family#LoveYouMoreShow #WillieMooreJr #KeonDavis #Faith #Healing #Fatherhood #Grief #DivorceRecovery #Entrepreneurship #PersonalGrowth✨ Connect with us:Join Our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=32743148

Why does rejection hurt so much? Why can a breakup, someone pulling away, or the fear of being left feel so overwhelming — even when you know you should "move on"? In this episode, we break down the psychology and neuroscience of abandonment and rejection. We explore how social pain affects the brain, why attachment history shapes the intensity of abandonment fear, and how rejection can trigger old wounds that have very little to do with the current moment. We also talk about why the people you fear losing often hold too much power, how ego turns rejection into a verdict on your worth, and why someone breaking up with you is painful but not proof that you are unlovable, broken, or not enough. In this episode, we cover: The neuroscience of social pain and rejection Why abandonment hits so hard for some people How attachment and emotional neglect shape abandonment fear Why breakups can feel like identity collapse The difference between loss and worth Why the people you fear losing often hold too much psychological power How to stop making rejection mean something permanent about you This is a grounded, psychology-based conversation about heartbreak, identity, attachment, and learning to separate pain from self-worth. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience.com Let's Work Together & Resources: www.thepositivityxperience.com  

On today's Bible Answer Man broadcast (04/29/26), Hank answers the following questions:Can you give me advice about my daughter, who is into Wicca? Donna - St. Louis, MO (0:45)Does God have two people or one people? What about Covenant Theology? Can you address blood covenants in Genesis 15 and 17? John - St. Paul, MN (4:47)My husband left me and is looking for someone else. Since our marriage was performed in a mosque, there are no documents verifying our marriage. What should I do? Tammy - Vancouver, BC (16:25)

Being seen is not the same as being known. The life of the party can be the most isolated person in the room — filling every silence, commanding every gaze, and going home to an emptiness no audience has ever touched. In this episode, Dr. Greg goes into the loneliest part of the histrionic pattern: why the most socially active person in the room can also be the most profoundly alone, and why only God can reach what no human mirror ever could. Key Topics: Why being the most social person in the room can also leave you the most alone What it reveals when provoking a reaction starts to feel more real than having a real conversation How early wounds teach you that your existence depends on other people's responses Why heat is not warmth — and reaction is not connection What Henri Nouwen's I-Thou relationship reveals about why an audience never actually fills you Why no parent was ever meant to give you what you most deeply need Why God is not just the answer to this wound — but the only one it makes sense to bring it to Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #275: Hiding the Real You: The Histrionic Battle for Intimacy Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Gaudium et Spes — See paragraph 22 for the full quote of "Christ reveals man to himself and makes his supreme calling clear" Henri Nouwen Society — explore Henri Nouwen's writings on the I-Thou relationship Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing: A Deep Dive into the Dependent Defense Pattern Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary: Why Real Change Happens through Love not Willpower Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Father Tom Wilson joins Patrick to discuss Spiritual Reading (5:51) why is spiritual reading important? What is a good perspective to have while doing spiritual reading? (14:30) Joe – Ministers of Your Joy: Meditations on the Priesthood is a great book (19:11)Lorraine - Did you consider books for the blind? I'm blind and I have limited sources for them. (22:47) Break 1 Importance of reading at the level you are at. (29:17) Ricardo - My younger brother who is reading the Gospels and in reversion. Any recommendations for him? Also, books....3 ages of the Spiritual Life and also The fulfillment of all desire. I recommend those. Reading Academically vs reading Spiritually. (38:49) Break 2 (40:07) How to develop the habit of reading (44:32) Tom - Opinion about Sherry Wadell's works. She's written on Intentional Discipleship. Applies to what we learn from our spiritual reading on how to be a disciple. How to implement. (47:17) Father Gives his top 4 books to recommend to the listeners Resources: In conversation with God https://scepterpublishers.org/collections/in-conversation-with-god?srsltid=AfmBOoo2UcJd0idllbsjDTpr9o1dB4yhqXavQNCstRXUoLhwTeElS8sB A Sign of Contradiction by St John Paul II https://www.amazon.com/Sign-Contradiction-Karol-Wojtyla/dp/1952826772 Time for God by Fr. Jacque Philippe https://www.amazon.com/Time-God-Jacques-Philippe/dp/1594170665 Transcend: A guide to the spiritual quest https://www.amazon.com/Transcend-guide-spiritual-Morton-Kelsey/dp/0824500156 Ministers of Your Joy: Meditations on the Priesthood https://www.amazon.com/Ministers-Your-Joy-Meditations-Priesthood/dp/1685952658 Magnificat https://us.magnificat.net/ What Catholics Really Believe: Answers to Common Misconceptions About the Faith https://www.amazon.com/What-Catholics-Really-Believe-Misconceptions/dp/0898705533 Navarre Bible https://scepterpublishers.org/collections/navarre-bibles?srsltid=AfmBOorZyOcMgJpKeh9lglvdGzQbmmbvAUE_boso07mHGy2NzmAYGMt0 Xavier Society for the Blind https://xaviersocietyfortheblind.org/ The Three Conversions and the Three Ways of the Spiritual Life https://www.amazon.com/Three-Conversions-Ways-Spiritual-Life-ebook/dp/B00U6X7YO6 Confessions of Saint Agustine https://www.amazon.com/Confessions-St-Augustine-Signet-Classics/dp/0451527801 Abandonment to Divine Providence https://tanbooks.com/products/books/abandonment-to-divine-providence/?srsltid=AfmBOooPKFdHpV1BPp_usd6ZZC-W3AMEat2T-5cIhzAkD9cG_QyD2LP4 He Leadeth Me: An Extraordinary Testament of Faith https://www.amazon.com/He-Leadeth-Me-Extraordinary-Testament/dp/0804141525 Temptation and Discernment https://www.icspublications.org/products/temptation-and-discernment?srsltid=AfmBOopSw4TckDzvXjaN_kFB-6mkTxSfxQH8PNS7zv_fxkLC15IDbFu5

What if the person who lights up every room is actually living in fear and darkness? The humor, the charisma, the ease with which they hold attention - beneath the surface, there's often a fragile system always scanning for the next signal that they're still seen. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores how anxious attachment shapes the histrionic pattern - why performance becomes protection, why real closeness can feel threatening even when intimacy is desperately wanted, and how this plays out in relationships and in the spiritual life. Key Topics: Why you can light up every room and still feel completely alone How charm can be a defense, not a personality trait Why real closeness can feel more threatening than rejection How anxiety, not vanity, drives the need to be seen Why any reaction, even a negative one, feels better than being ignored Why boredom feels existentially threatening, not just uncomfortable How intensity gets mistaken for intimacy, and what keeps real closeness out of reach Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Previous episode in this series - Histrionic Part 1: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Home of the Being Human podcast – Easily search 250+ episodes on topics of interest. Amoris Laetitia – Post-Synodal Apostolic Exhortation by Pope Francis on Love and the Family Summit of Integration 2026 – Sign up to learn more about this year's event! The Personalist Cure – Upcoming new book by Dr. Greg Bottaro  Don't Be Afraid of Screwing Up Your Kids - Because You Already Are – Dr. Greg's guest appearance on the Messy Family Podcast Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Previous episodes on parts work:  Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Previous episode on attachment theory:  Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Adam works with a client who has fears and insecurities of being rejected or abandoned, due to a lack of love and affection from their father. Adam helps them to let go of the need for certainty and to increase feelings of curiosity and discernment to ensure healthy boundaries but also to not need the pre-emptive strike.

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How Does the Church Sings Through Suffering and Why Do the Songs Matter?   Grammy Award nominee and Dove Award winner Matt Maher joins the Good Faith podcast for a conversation about the power of songs and church music to tell the truth about suffering. Reflecting on protest, justice, prophetic art, ecumenism, and even Rich Mullins, Maher explores how the church can hold lament and praise together while still pointing people to the hope and holiness of God. Drawing on Psalm 22 and Jesus' cry of abandonment on the cross, he argues that the church, like Jesus, must sing honestly about pain and abandonment without losing sight of the worship and honor God deserves.   *This episode was recorded live at the Illuminate Arts + Faith Conference   00:00:00  - Tease: The Duality of Abandonment and Praise 00:01:00 - Introduction from Curtis Chang 05:31 - Conversion and the Impact of Catholic Liturgy on His Faith 08:13 - Theology in Songwriting and Collaboration 09:57- Can Ecumenism Expand Your Perspective? 13:06 - John 17 and Praying for Church Unity  14:35 - Prophetic Calling Comforts the Afflicted and Challenges the Comfortable 16:38 - Protest Themes and the Burden of Truth 20:30 - Holding Space for Both Praise and Lament 21:55 - Christian Justice Movements and Prophetic Action 24:02 - The After Party Album and Amos's Call to Justice 24:11 - That He Will Overcome (musical insert) 26:29 - The Toppling of Empire Lyrics as Inspired by Dr. Mika Edmonson 29:04 - The Neurological and Physical Impact of Music on Memory and Community 34:03 - Personal Storytelling and Lament To Work Out Hard Things 40:00 - Rich Mullins' Influence and Legacy 41:24 - What Is The Song the Church Needs Now, In These Crazy Times? 43:48 - A Warning From Nazi Germany Against Ignoring Suffering   Take the Listener Survey Sign up for The After Party Sign up for The Good List   Mentioned In This Episode: The Nicene Creed and the History of the Council of Nicaea Matt Maher's Echoes album (Spotify) Matt Maher's Your Grace Is Enough Matt Maher's The Stories I Tell Myself Matt Maher's The Stories I Tell Myself (Acoustic video) Matt Maher, DOE, Dee Wilson, & The Porter's Gate's That We Might Overcome Listen to the album The Kingdom of Jesus: Songs For The After Party Rich Mullins' Canticle of The Plains (full album on Youtube) Rich Mullins' The Joy of Jesus (feat. Matt Maher, Mac Powell, & Ellie Holcomb) More about Francis Chan   Scriptures Referenced: Psalm 22 (ESV) John 17 (ESV) John 14:6 (ESV) Amos 5-6 (ESV)   More from Matt Maher: See Matt on tour Matt Maher's website Subscribe to Matt's email list Listen to Matt Maher on Spotify   Follow Us: Good Faith on Instagram Good Faith on X (formerly Twitter) Good Faith on Facebook   The Good Faith Podcast is a production of a 501(c)(3) nonpartisan organization that does not engage in any political campaign activity to support or oppose any candidate for public office. Any views and opinions expressed by any guests on this program are solely those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of Good Faith.  

I used to look back and wonder why I was put through so many challenges in my life.    Adoption.    Abuse,    Abandonment.    Drugs.    Jail.    Divorce.    Heartbreak after heartbreak.    I used to get tired of being the whipping post in life, but as I grew, built businesses, created a family, I came to realize that I can let my pain hold me down or use it to power me through to the next phase of my life.    About the ReWire Podcast The ReWire Podcast with Ryan Stewman – Dive into powerful insights as Ryan Stewman, the HardCore Closer, breaks down mental barriers and shares actionable steps to rewire your thoughts. Each episode is a fast-paced journey designed to reshape your mindset, align your actions, and guide you toward becoming the best version of yourself. Join in for a daily dose of real talk that empowers you to embrace change and unlock your full potential.    Learn how you can become a member of a powerful community consistently rewiring itself for success at https://www.jointheapex.com/   Rise Above 

"Unless someone notices you, you don't matter." For some people, that's not a passing fear — it's the operating system. In this episode, Dr. Greg opens a new series on histrionic personality patterns, exploring what's really underneath the compulsion for attention and validation: not vanity, not drama, but a terror of non-existence so deep it shapes everything. Key Topics: Why attention-seeking can be less about selfishness and more about survival How identity gets built from the outside in — and what gets lost in the process Why the funniest, most entertaining person in the room may be the loneliest What it means when emotional intensity gets mistaken for intimacy How family systems shape and reward the role of the one who keeps everyone watching Why solitude feels so threatening — and what that reveals about all of us How the spiritual life can become its own kind of performance Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Video reflection from James Van Der Beek (Dawson from Dawson's Creek) on identity, suffering, and faith Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Previous episodes on parts work:  Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Ep. #49: Internal Family Systems & External Family Tensions  Previous episode on attachment theory:  Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

On today's episode of The Be Ruthless Show, II discuss the devastating reality facing Michigan families who are being forced to navigate a broken mental health system. It is a heartbreaking situation where parents are being forced to send their children out of state to receive the care they need.I'm focusing on the human toll of this crisis—the families who are being fractured and the parents left with impossible choices when their children are in a mental health emergency.What I discuss in this episode:• The Agony of Choice: The reality of being a parent in Michigan today, forced to choose between keeping a child at home without adequate support or sending them to a stranger in another state.• The Abandonment of Families: How the lack of local resources, everywhere in this country, leaves families isolated and without a safety net during their most vulnerable moments.• The Breaking Point: I share the story of a recent crisis with a client who desperately needs help but refuses to let their child be sent away, highlighting the deep fear and valid mistrust parents have of an outsourced system.• The "Complex Case" Trap: Why children with the most significant needs are often the ones the system is least prepared to help locally, leaving families in a constant state of crisis.• The Need for Proximity: Why healing happens best when children are close to their support systems and the urgent necessity for local solutions that keep families together.• A Community-Driven Future: What it looks like when we stop waiting for a failing system and start building the local, compassionate resources our neighbors and children deserve!Remember - you can reach out anytime:⁠ sam@griefhab.org⁠Join the Griefhab Family: https://www.facebook.com/groups/griefhab7Join Team Ruthless - for multiple support groups every week and EVERY holiday! https://samantharuth.com/team-ruthlessBecome a Faces of Grief - Surviving Pet Loss Author: https://samantharuth.com/apply-to-be-an-author

Borderline patterns are notoriously hard to treat — but the problem isn't a lack of research. It's that the secular framework approaches healing from a disintegrated view of the person. In this final episode of the series, Dr. Greg explores why lasting healing goes deeper than symptom management, what conditions actually make transformation possible, and how the Catholic understanding of the person changes everything. Key Topics: Why secular treatment can reduce symptoms but can't reach the wound underneath How projective identification, emotional projection, and crisis bonding emerge from a fragmented self — not from bad character Why healing has to happen in relationship, because that's where the wound began What it actually means to rebuild a coherent sense of self from the inside out Why lasting healing requires stable, unidirectional support over time — and why a romantic relationship can't provide it How faith, psychology, and science work together to restore integration and agency Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Love and Responsibility by St. John Paul II  Correcting Aquinas: JP2's Truth Bomb on Gender and Human Dignity (Ep. #197) — why marriage can't be a place of healing when the power dynamics are built on a lie Previous episode in this series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #272: You Are Not Your Feelings: From Borderline Chaos to Inner Coherence Ep. #271: Forgive, Explode, Repeat: Humanizing Borderline Personality with St. John Paul II Ep. #270: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Breathing exercises help. But they have a ceiling. For someone whose interior world is constant emotional chaos, no amount of skill-building will reach the level where real healing happens. In this episode, Dr. Greg unpacks what actually transforms borderline patterns — not DBT techniques or symptom management, but the kind of sustained, stable relationship that reorganizes the subconscious and restores a coherent sense of self. Key Topics: Why skills like DBT can help but can't replace what's actually missing What it feels like to be subject to your emotions rather than the one having them Why healing looks like forming a continuous "I" — not feeling better in the moment How a consistent, stable relationship quietly rewires the interior life over time Why the same patterns that made life chaotic can become a superpower in healing What it means to move from surviving to true encounter — and why that distinction matters Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Previous episode in this series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #271: Forgive, Explode, Repeat: Humanizing Borderline Personality with St. John Paul II Ep. #270: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships affected by borderline personality patterns Want to go deeper into discernment? Explore our Discernment of Spirits course. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Forgive. Explode. Repeat. That's the cycle — and no matter how much effort goes into the repair, it keeps starting over. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores why genuine healing can't happen inside the cycle itself, what "walking on eggshells" misses about the person suffering, and how St. John Paul II's vision of the human person restores dignity to everyone caught in these patterns. Key Topics: Why repair doesn't actually heal — and what's really driving the reset Why calm can feel more threatening than crisis What "walking on eggshells" gets right and what it leaves out How the rupture-repair cycle creates the illusion of intimacy without building it Why both people in the pair end up losing themselves How Catholic anthropology sees the person beneath the pattern Learn More: Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Previous episode in this series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #270: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: The Chaos of the Disorganized Attachment Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Person and Act by Karol Wojtyla (Pope St. John Paul II) Stop Walking on Eggshells – A guide for navigating relationships affected by borderline personality patterns Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn