Podcasts about abandonment

Trust isn't something you manufacture through effort — it's something you receive through relationship. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro concludes the series on OCPD and perfectionism by exploring why control feels so necessary, how our earliest relationships shape our ability to trust God, and why freedom begins not when we become perfect, but when we allow ourselves to be loved. Because holiness isn't built on mastering the perfect spiritual routine — it's built on learning to rest in the love that has always been pursuing you. Key Topics: Why trust can't be built through more effort, more surrender, or the right devotion How "trying harder" to trust God is actually the pattern itself, not the way out of it How the parts of us that need control aren't bad, but are protecting something deeper Why compassion, not correction, is the first step toward healing a controlling part How self-possession exists for the sake of self-gift — and why you can't give what you don't have Why holiness was never meant to end fear of hell, but to end the need to earn love in the first place How real healing only happens in relationship — not in a program, a podcast, or a novena Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Ep. #292: Holy Anxiety: The Understandable Underbelly of Scrupulosity Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Presence Virtual Retreat: Practice the presence of God and trustful surrender  Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Garza sits down in-person with Lacey Sturm. Vocalist for the alternative rock band FLYLEAF. https://instagram.com/flyleafmusicGet Suicide Silence tickets here: https://suicidesilence.store/pages/tour00:00 - Chris Farley Loves Decaf Coffee02:06 - Coming Back After 11 Years09:23 - Lacey's Vocal Problems10:58 - Coping, Avoidance, Anxiety, Fear & Grief24:00 - Christianity, Faith & Belief25:40 - Moving from Florida to Texas27:56 - Returning to Flyleaf38:22 - Getting Into Bass & Guitarv39:19 - Abandonment, Parents, Trauma & Empowerment48:16 - Flyleaf Early Days56:56 - I'm So Sick1:02:13 - Cassie, Columbine Shooting & Evil1:11:11 - Grace & Forgiveness1:13:50 - Prayer, Sobriety & Change1:16:52 - Reaction to Debut Album1:20:48 - Writing Books & Flyleaf Meaning1:27:30 - Strange Experience w/ Record Label & Charity1:32:22 - Music as an Escape // Fun as a Weapon1:34:06 - Molar Pregnancy1:39:30 - How Pregnancy Affects the Voice1:41:09 - Love for Nirvana & Kurt Cobain1:48:11 - Future of Flyleaf Music1:49:00 - Lacey's 5 Most Influential Albums1:50:35 - Daily Prayer

Scrupulosity often looks like devotion — but when fear takes over, even our spiritual life can become consumed by doubt, checking, and the search for certainty. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro continues the series on OCPD and perfectionism, exploring the difference between a healthy conscience and a scrupulous one, why mercy can be hard to trust, and how our experiences shape the way we see God. Holiness was never meant to be an endless audit — it was meant to lead us into relationship with the One who loves us. Key Topics: How reciting the truth about mercy in your head does nothing to change what your body still believes Why certainty about being forgiven is the one thing this pattern can never actually get Why confession, meant to bring peace, can quietly become just another form of checking How the voice you call your conscience might actually be a punishing voice in disguise Why the face you're afraid God is making at you was never really His How the saints wrestled with scrupulosity — and what finally brought them peace wasn't more proof Why doing this work alone almost always makes the pattern worse How the way out can feel too easy to trust Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Episode referenced on spiritual bypassing: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

I HAVE NO MOORING FOR YOUR WOUNDS TO LATCH ONTO Perhaps one of love's greatest tests arrives when your pain reaches for me and discovers that I will not become who your pain remembers. Human wounds rarely remain private. They enter relationships carrying expectations shaped by earlier experience. Abandonment may anticipate pursuit. Distrust may provoke interrogation. Fear may seek control. Shame may invite rescue. None of this means every wounded person behaves identically, nor that another person causes the wound. The deeper question concerns what happens between two people when an old expectation reaches outward and finds no cooperating response. Here lies the possibility of a different intimacy. I can care about your fear without obeying it. I can hear your accusation without manufacturing a defense merely because you expected one. Your distance can hurt without forcing me to chase you. Your anger can register in my body without becoming the author of my behavior. Compassion does not require psychological conscription.

Why can transitions feel disproportionately difficult for former boarders?In this short episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, Piers Cross reflects on his own nervousness before leaving for a workshop and retreat—and explores how apparently ordinary transitions can activate much older emotional patterns.Drawing on the work of Nick Duffell and Thurstine Basset in Trauma, Abandonment & Privilege, Piers considers how leaving home repeatedly as a child can make later transitions—holidays, travel, moving, ending therapy or beginning something new—feel unexpectedly uncomfortable.He shares a simple somatic practice: pause, notice where the nervousness is held in the body, breathe and allow yourself to feel what is happening rather than letting fear become the hidden engine behind constant activity.Piers also explores another possibility: rather than labelling the sensation as anxiety, experiment with saying:“I'm excited.”For former boarders who learned not to become too emotionally “up” or too “down”, rediscovering excitement may itself be part of the healing process.A short reflection on boarding school syndrome, transitions, anxiety, nervous system regulation, somatic awareness and learning to experience change differently.Find out more about Piers Cross: https://piers-cross.com

Certainty feels like safety. But you can only ever be certain alone — and the life you build on control slowly becomes a lonely one. In week two of the series on OCPD, Dr. Greg explores why we reach for control when trust feels dangerous — and how the certainty we build to feel safe ends up costing us the very relationships it was meant to protect. Key Topics: Why the certainty that makes you feel safe is the same thing that leaves you alone How a rule can feel safer than a person — because a rule never changes its face Why the control you use to protect the people you love can drive them straight into the danger you feared How devotion can quietly turn into a contract with God instead of trust in Him Why trying harder to get it perfect is the pattern itself, not the way out of it Learn More: Previous episode in this series — OCPD Part 1: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Faith of the Fatherless: The Psychology of Atheism by Dr. Paul Vitz — on how wounded trust in a father can shape our capacity for faith Person and Act — St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) philosophical work on the acting person, and the personalist heart of this episode Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason & Randi Kreger — the book on borderline patterns Dr. Greg references Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Today you hear the first part of Matt's story, who joins the pod to talk about his BPD, ADHD, and ASD diagnosis. We talk the impact of abandonment, his own parenting, and more. Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! EMPOWERED Voices: Recovery to ResiliencyA heartfelt podcast series that brings to light the challenges and triumphs of...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is deeply misunderstood, heavily stigmatized, and far more complex than just "being emotional". In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton breaks down the official BPD diagnostic criteria from the DSM, explaining how BPD symptoms actually present in real life, therapy offices, and everyday relationships. She explores the underlying fear of abandonment, idealization and devaluation (splitting), identity disturbances, and why BPD so frequently overlaps with PTSD, trauma, and ADHD. Plus, discover actionable evidence-based BPD treatment options like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Schema Therapy, and Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT) to help manage emotional dysregulation, navigate relationship boundaries, and work toward long-term remission. Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 01:00 - Why "Personality Disorder" is a Misleading Term 01:55 - How BPD is Diagnosed: DSM Criteria Overview 02:55 - BPD Symptom 1: Fear of Abandonment & Attachment Styles 04:45 - BPD Symptom 2: Splitting, Idealization & Devaluation 07:25 - BPD Symptom 3: Identity Disturbance & Chronic Emptiness 08:31 - BPD Symptom 4: Impulsivity in Daily Life 12:05 - BPD Symptom 5: Recurrent Suicidal Behavior & Self-Harm 16:05 - BPD Symptom 6: Affective Instability (BPD vs Bipolar Disorder) 18:18 - BPD Symptom 7: Chronic Feelings of Emptiness 19:22 - BPD Symptom 8: Inappropriate, Intense Anger 21:53 - BPD Symptom 9: Stress-Related Paranoia & Dissociation 25:14 - Is it BPD or Just Being Emotional? 26:46 - What Does Having "BPD Traits" Mean? 28:49 - BPD vs. Anxiety, ADHD, and PTSD Overlaps 33:25 - The Deep Link Between Childhood Trauma and BPD 40:21 - Why People with BPD Push Loved Ones Away 41:35 - What is Quiet BPD? 43:33 - Can You Have a Healthy Relationship with BPD? 47:53 - Setting Healthy Boundaries Without Triggering Abandonment 53:05 - Can BPD be Cured? Understanding BPD Remission 56:23 - BPD Treatment: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Explained 01:04:33 - Alternative Therapies: MBT, Schema Therapy, & TFP 01:08:30 - The Role of Medication in BPD Treatment YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY - Enjoy 10% OFF your first month If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co DISCLAIMER The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. #mentalhealth #therapist #borderline Ask Kati Anything ep.326 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Perfectionism doesn't always come from loving excellence. Sometimes it's the only way you've ever known how to feel safe. In the first episode of a new series on Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder, Dr. Greg unpacks how perfectionism, rigidity, and control take root—and why, underneath them, control quietly fills the space where trust was supposed to be. Key Topics: Why the pursuit of perfection is often less about loving excellence and more about not feeling safe without it How "until I'm perfect, I'm not loved" becomes the sentence an entire personality gets built on Why one small mistake can feel like disconnection instead of just a mistake How conscientiousness and perfectionism can look identical from the outside—and the one thing that tells them apart Why you can get everything right and still never feel free to rest Why the love you keep trying to earn was already given—before you got anything right Learn More: Person and Act and Related Essays by Karol Wojtyła (St. John Paul II) — the anthropology of self-possession and self-gift behind this episode Join a future Black Elk healing retreat at the Hawkeye Ranch in Wyoming Episode referenced on spiritual bypassing and scrupulosity: Ep. #288: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Inner Parts Easy Conversation Guide — an audio guide to get to know your inner parts. Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Apostasy, The Formal Abandonment of Truth

Reddit Stories - I Told My Boyfriend I Was Pregnant… Then He Accused Me Of Cheating And Vanished. OP told her boyfriend she was pregnant, but he accused her of cheating and disappeared. After raising their daughter alone, he returned wanting contact, while his new girlfriend began threatening OP and escalating the conflict.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lost-genre-reddit-stories--5779056/support.

In the therapy aspect you tend to work on learning to sit with each of the parts, hearing and respecting their roles, so you can better understand your own system and how to work alongside it. centered self: Compassionate, curious, calm, clear, courageous, confident, creative, connected. Present, patient, playful, persistent, and keeps perspective Exiles: wounded and carrying pain. Abandonment, fear, loneliness, shame, anxious, Protectors: firefighters and managers. Firefighters deal with immediate threats, Distract, avoid, dissociate, Mangers work to keep you from future problems. Hyper-vigilant, avoidant, The goal is to access the qualities of the Centered self to work with these wounded parts to Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been so afraid of losing someone that you monitored every change in their behavior, panicked when they spent time with someone else, or pushed them away before they could replace you?In this episode, Xannie, Georgette, Carys, Katja, André, and Justin to talk about separation insecurity and fear of abandonment in BPD. They share what it was like when another person felt necessary for emotional survival, including obsessive reassurance seeking, leaving relationships first, trying to control a partner's behavior, and losing their sense of identity outside the relationship.The group also confronts some of the harder truths about these experiences: when desperate attempts to keep someone close become manipulative or frightening, why love can become tangled with primal fear, and how old losses can make every new relationship feel like another abandonment waiting to happen.Topics include:* BPD and fear of abandonment* Separation anxiety in relationships* Fear of being replaced* Relationship obsession and emotional dependence* Favorite person attachment* Pushing people away before they leave* Manipulative behavior and abandonment panic* Losing your identity in a relationshipIf you've ever panicked when someone took too long to reply, assumed another person would replace you, or left first because waiting to be abandoned felt unbearable, this episode is for you.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___

Similarly to the Pixar movie, INSIDE OUT, where her emotions are portrayed as totally different characters that experience different experiences and roles and access different memories. In IFS therapy, they refer to these characters as parts. A majority of your parts will take on protective roles, he uses the example of managers and firefighters, but other parts carry pain or trauma from past experiences, exiles, but crucially, there are NO BAD PARTS. In the therapy aspect you tend to work on learning to sit with each of the parts, hearing and respecting their roles, so you can better understand your own system and how to work alongside it. centered self: Compassionate, curious, calm, clear, courageous, confident, creative, connected. Present, patient, playful, persistent, and keeps perspective Exiles: wounded and carrying pain. Abandonment, fear, loneliness, shame, anxious, Protectors: firefighters and managers. Firefighters deal with immediate threats, Distract, avoid, dissociate, Mangers work to keep you from future problems. Hyper-vigilant, avoidant, The goal is to access the qualities of the Centered self to work with these wounded parts to SOURCE: https://www.ceangail.ie/blog/tips-for-starting-internal-family-systemshttps://ifs-institute.com/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapyRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Avoidance works. That's the problem. Every time you dodge the hard thing, the relief is real—and so is the price you don't see coming. In this final episode of the series on avoidance, Dr. Greg makes the case that the way out isn't escape or a burst of willpower, but presence: staying in the room one second longer than you want to, and letting God meet you in the mess you were trying to hide. Key Topics: Why the relief avoidance gives you is exactly what keeps you stuck Why good therapy and mentorship refuse to hand you advice—and why that's what actually heals How even "staying present" can quietly become one more way to avoid what's surfacing Why healing works like a bruise, not a breakthrough—slow, at its own pace, and impossible to rush What to do the moment the wall goes up: stay in the room one second longer than you want to Why God doesn't wait at the finish line of your healing, but walks through the locked door to meet you in it Learn More: Presence Virtual Retreat: As a gift to listeners of Being Human, we're offering two full months free. Use code BHVRTRIAL at checkout to begin. The Retreat is a monthly subscription that brings together faith and psychology to help you overcome anxiety, quiet negative thought patterns, and live as if you truly believe in a God who loves you. Your first two months are completely free; after that, it continues at $17/month, and you're free to cancel anytime.  Stay connected — join our newsletter Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas Watch Being Human on YouTube – Watch the full video archive of the Being Human podcast Previous episodes in this series on Avoidance: Ep. #286: A Mental Tug of War: Inside the Avoidant Mind and the Burden of Being Known Ep. #287: We Are Not Robots: Why Connection Is Not Optional for Human Flourishing Ep. #288: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

161 | The Hidden Patterns Running Your Life (And How to Finally Break Free) | Salarah Kacey Starre Have you ever wondered why you keep finding yourself in the same situations, having the same arguments, attracting the same experiences or reacting in ways you thought you'd already healed?Beneath many of our emotional reactions are hidden survival patterns that were once designed to protect us. The challenge is that what once kept us safe can eventually become the very thing that keeps us stuck.In this episode, I explore why healing isn't about never being triggered again, but about recognising those patterns more quickly, understanding what they're trying to protect, and learning how to respond from a place of awareness rather than survival.We'll explore:• Why getting triggered doesn't mean you've gone backwards.• The hidden survival patterns that shape your life.• How self-abandonment shows up in ways you may never have recognised.• Why boundaries begin with the relationship you have with yourself.• The difference between compassion and rescuing.• How to teach your nervous system that choosing yourself is finally safe.If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Why do I keep doing this?" or "Why do I keep ending up here?" this episode will help you see your patterns through an entirely new lens.✨ Want to go deeper?My bestselling book, The Only Way Out Is In: Healing the Hidden Patterns Running Your Life, explores the unconscious beliefs and survival strategies that influence every area of our lives and gives you practical tools to begin breaking free from them.

Send us Fan MailThere are some questions people of faith are afraid to ask out loud.Not because they do not feel them, but because they are afraid of being judged, misunderstood, or confronted with what the answer might require.One of those questions is this:Is it okay for me to divorce?In this episode of Just Nona, I am answering a heart question from Shonda, who is wrestling with what faithfulness looks like when a marriage still exists legally, but no longer functions as a covenant in daily life.This is not a conversation about giving up on marriage.It is a conversation about what happens when one spouse is left carrying the full weight of the household, the finances, the children, the grief, and the future alone.We talk about:• What the Bible actually says about divorce• Why God's heart is for covenant• The context of Malachi 2:16• The exception clause in Matthew 19• What 1 Corinthians 7:15 says about abandonment• Whether incarceration can be a form of functional abandonment• The identity distortion that makes people fear God's disappointment• Why peace is not just the absence of conflict, but the presence of wholeness• The practical steps to take before making a decision this significantGod's heart is always for covenant.But God is also a God of compassion.And He would not want covenant to become a prison that keeps you wounded.You are not a failure for asking the question.You are a person of faith bringing one of the hardest questions of your life to God, and that is exactly where it belongs.Order my books at:https://www.nonajones.com/booksListen to Just Nona PodcastNew episodes drop every Monday!https://nonajones.com/applehttps://nonajones.com/spotifyhttps://nonajones.com/amazonPartner with Nona Jones Ministries:If God moves you to support this ministry, you can give here:https://www.nonajones.com/giveFor questions, email lola@nonajones.com.Connect with me:https://www.nonajones.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nonanotnorahttps://www.facebook.com/NonaNotNora

In this Production Expert Podcast Special Edition, Mike Thornton, co-founder of Production Expert invites Orfeas Boteas, founder and CEO of Krotos, and Matthew Collins, head of product, to address significant community concerns following the release of Video to Sound integration for Adobe Premiere Pro and DaVinci Resolve.This candid conversation tackles difficult questions about the company's strategic direction, the role of AI in sound design, misleading social media practices, and Krotos' commitment to the professional audio community. Orfeas and Matthew respond directly to concerns from industry professionals and clarify misconceptions about generative AI, product positioning, and future roadmap.In This Episode:Why Video to Sound Released for Adobe Premiere Before DAWs — Technical constraints preventing DAW video track access, with integrations coming later in 2024Addressing 'Abandonment' Concerns from Audio Professionals — Krotos is expanding markets, not abandoning professionalsThe Core Mission: Making Sound Important Earlier — Bringing sound into creative workflows as an equal partner rather than afterthoughtAI is Not Generative: The Truth About Krotos Technology — All sounds are professionally recorded; AI is assistive, not generativeAI as Automation, Not Replacement — Automating tedious tasks like auditioning thousands of sounds, not replacing human creativityEvolution from Specialised Tools to Krotos Studio Platform — Journey from Dehumanizer, Reformer, Weaponizer to unified Krotos StudioMisconceptions About Social Media Posts and Credits — Addressing posts implying Krotos involvement in Jurassic World, House of the Dragon, and Nolan filmsSound Redesign vs. Official Production Credits — Distinguishing creative sound redesign exercises from official product involvement claimsSocial Media Clarity and Labelling Issues — Acknowledging unclear messaging in fast-scrolling social feeds, committing to better labellingIndustry-Wide Social Media Challenges — Platforms encouraging content reuse without explicit permission creates attribution confusionMarketplace and Collaboration Possibilities — Vision for professionals to contribute assets and create ecosystem marketplaceIndustry Change with New Technology — Technological disruption requires community to work as united front, not adversariallyCommunication Missteps on Product Roadmap — Acknowledgement of moving too quickly without explaining technical constraints and timeline to communityAbout Our Guests:Orfeas Boteas:Founder and CEO of Krotos, leading sound design software company. Founded Krotos with a passion for sound, guiding the company through evolution from specialised tools to the broader Krotos Studio platform. Deeply committed to understanding and supporting the audio production community.Matthew Collins:Head of product at Krotos, responsible for product development and strategy. Works with both the professional audio community and content creators to develop streamlined sound design tools. Actively communicates technical roadmap and product philosophy to industry stakeholders.About Our Host:Mike Thornton has been involved in the broadcast audio industry for all his working life, some 45 years. Mike has worked with Pro Tools since the mid-1990s, recording, editing, and mixing documentaries, comedy, and drama for both radio and TV, as well as doing the occasional music project. He was the co-founder of Pro Tools Expert and has now retired, taking up the role of Chairman of Production Expert Ltd., bridging innovative companies and the professional audio industry.

"Offer it up." "I've forgiven them." "Everything happens for a reason." Every one of them is true—and every one can become a way to avoid the healing God is actually offering. In this episode, Dr. Greg names spiritual bypassing: using prayer, devotion, and even good theology to step around grief, anger, and the wounds still waiting underneath. He explains why grace builds on nature, and why God heals only the humanity we're willing to bring into the light. Key Topics: Why the one escape nobody warns you about is the one everyone applauds: prayer, retreats, "offering it up" How "I've already forgiven them" can be completely true and still leave the same wound bleeding for years Why "I'm still discerning" is sometimes just stalling with a halo on it How taking Mary or Joseph as your parent can heal a wound—or quietly become the reason you never grieve the one you actually had Why the anger you keep spiritualizing away might be the exact thing you most need to listen to Why you can pray for years, go to confession after confession, and still land in the same cycle—and what that finally reveals Learn More: Stay connected — join our newsletter Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas Online presentation on anxiety: Learn the "secret" Dr. Greg holds back in this episode—that the anxiety itself isn't the problem  Presence Virtual Retreat: Practice the presence of God and trustful surrender  Integrated Life app: Bring every part of yourself into the light—JP2's meaning of integration  State of the Institute replay: Hear the massive "Year of JP2" news The Personalist Cure: Dr. Greg's book on John Paul II's philosophy and its role in psychology Person and Act: St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) philosophical work on integration and the acting person, referenced in this episode Our God's Brother: St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) play about Brother Albert  Previous episodes in this series on Avoidance: Ep. #286: A Mental Tug of War: Inside the Avoidant Mind and the Burden of Being Known Ep. #287: We Are Not Robots: Why Connection Is Not Optional for Human Flourishing Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

On this weeks bestie advice segment... she lost the only dad she knew at 12 and raised herself and two sisters while her mum checked out. Years later comes the tearful apology — but it lands like someone clearing their own conscience. Can you ever fully heal a mother wound when the one who caused it may never truly change?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this powerful episode, Tobia James explores the hidden cost of “pick me” culture and the fear of abandonment that leads so many people to shrink themselves, silence their needs, and chase validation. Through a blend of psychology, history, and scripture, the conversation reveals how abandonment wounds shape attachment, relationships, and self-worth and why healing begins when you stop abandoning yourself. This episode offers a clear path forward: name your abandonment story, grieve honestly, reparent yourself, set standards, stop auditioning for love, and root your identity in something deeper than external approval. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, rejection, or feeling chosen by everyone except yourself, this conversation is a reminder that you are not too much, not too broken, and never meant to beg for love. The healing starts with one decision: choose yourself.To connect with Gloria:https://linktr.ee/theunfilteredbygade

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with LaDonna Carey about Surviving Betrayal. LaDonna is a Betrayal Recovery Specialist, Therapist, Trainer, and the Author of Surviving Betrayal: A Path to Healing from Betrayal and Abandonment. Hear why betrayal is so hard to navigate, how to help your clients have these conversations even with anger coming through, how to work with both the betrayer and the betrayed, why intensive sessions are more effective in cases of betrayal, and how to be conscious of your own biases as a couples therapist.   To learn more about LaDonna Carey & Surviving Betrayal, visit: Surviving Betrayal Book Smoky Mountains Symposium on Relational Trauma LaDonnaCarey.com LaDonnaCarey.Substack.com   You can also listen to LaDonna Carey on Episode 179 & Episode 143 of The Couples Therapist Couch  

Elton John, shouting out my ex boyfriend, tax brackets, issues with sobriety in Cabo, and more! Your favorite cousins are back :) Enjoy Sloots Xxpre-order DADDY ISSUES https://sofiafranklyn.com Follow Sofia on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sofiafranklyn TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@sofiafranklyn Twitter - https://twitter.com/sofiafranklyn Threads - https://www.threads.net/@sofiafranklyn Follow Alex on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexfranco_meow/ Twitch: https://twitch.tv/francmeow_To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policyGo to https://www.ro.co/sofia to see if your insurance covers GLP-1s—for free.Episode Highlights:00:00 Intro01:03 Bachelorette trip + Joey02:40 We didn't talk + dress code05:09 To wear or not to wear07:42 Tax bracket08:34 Coined phrase + crash out15:49 Christina19:48 The phone call + content heavy25:14 Abandonment issues27:07 Elton John29:07 Cortisol belly33:28 Running behind34:59 Untidy apartment42:37 MIA boyfie44:27 Thanks, Sofia!—Keywords:Sofia with an F, Sofia Franklyn, Sofia Franklyn podcast, Hollywood drama, celebrity, celebrity lifestyle, love, breakup, breakup stories, self help, self healing, dating, dating tips, Alex Franco

A Lifeline for Babies in Crisis – Featuring Monica KelseyThis episode is a rebroadcast of an earlier release. Be sure to listen to Melanie Luttrell's powerful new update at the beginning.In this powerful episode, Marcus and Melanie sit down with Monica Kelsey, founder and Executive Director of Safe Haven Baby Boxes, a nonprofit organization dedicated to preventing infant abandonment by providing mothers in crisis a safe, legal, and anonymous option to surrender their newborns.Monica's journey is deeply personal. Born after her teenage mother was raped and hidden away during pregnancy, Monica was abandoned at birth. Her life story has fueled her passion to advocate for infants like herself and to create compassionate solutions for birth mothers who face unthinkable challenges. Through Safe Haven Baby Boxes, Monica is on a mission to ensure that no child is abandoned unsafely, and no mother is left without options.We also explore Monica's role as a firefighter and paramedic, where she has firsthand experience with the life-saving impact of Safe Haven laws. Her dedication to working with first responders has been crucial in creating awareness and ensuring these boxes are accessible nationwide.Tune in as Monica shares her inspiring story, the incredible work her organization is doing, and how Safe Haven Baby Boxes are making a difference—one life at a time.In This Episode You Will Hear:• I grew up adopted, but I never knew the back story. (6:43 )• I joined [the U.S. Navy] and got my love for firefighting there. (7:47)• I never longed for love. (8:42)• I just called [my biological mother] and she says “I've been waiting for your call.” (11:37)• I always wanted that connection of “Hey, she does that, and I do that.” (12:38)• The question comes up: “Who's my biological father?” And she just got up and walked out. (12:41)• If abortion was available in 1972, I probably wouldn't be sitting here today. (14:37)• I had to come to grips with the fact that I was whisked into this world by violence, and then thrown away like trash. (16:10)• I had to go back to my faith because I had stumbled away from it.(16:17)• The more I started reading scripture, the more it started pointing to my life. (16:31)• Controversy is horrible around the baby boxes. (20:47)• We launched the very first baby box in April; 30 days later our son was in a deadly accident. (23:54)• [Melanie] The thought of putting a baby in a box is crazy; but the box of putting a baby in a dumpster is crazier. (28:57)• At the end of the day, education is gonna be the key. (37:14)• [Melanie] Q: What's the worst state of baby abandonment? A: Texas.(37:45)• The foster care system is a mess. (41:07)• You pull a dead infant from a dumpster, you're going to start looking for a solution.(46:27)Support Monica:-  IG:  https://www.instagram.com/safehavenbabyboxes/       - https://www.shbb.org/         -https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5PQX9JG5U3gSwcIAciYCPQ       - https://www.tiktok.com/@safehavenbabyboxes?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcSupport TNQ  - IG: team_neverquit , marcusluttrell , melanieluttrell , huntero13  -  https://www.patreon.com/teamneverquitSponsors:  - Navyfederal.org     - Dripdrop.com/TNQ  - mengotomars.com [Team Never Quit]  - bubsnaturals.com [Promo code TNQ]  - davidprotein.com/TNQ  - mizzenandmain.com   [Promo code: TNQ20]   - masterclass.com/TNQ  - ShopMando.com [Promo code: TNQ]  - Tractorsupply.com/hometownheroes  - meetfabiric.com/TNQ  - Prizepicks (TNQ)   - armslist.com/TNQ   -  PXGapparel.com/TNQ  - bruntworkwear.com/TNQ   - shipsticks.com/TNQ   - stopboxusa.com {TNQ}   - Tonal.com [TNQ]  - greenlight.com/TNQ  - drinkAG1.com/TNQ  - Hims.com/TNQ

There's a lot of talk recently about whether AI can be considered a person. But the more serious question might be whether people are becoming too much like AI—learning to live without real connection. To keep our distance. To avoid vulnerability. To convince ourselves that we don't need anyone. In this episode, Dr. Greg continues the series on avoidance by turning to schizoid personality: the pattern where the wish for connection hasn't just been buried by fear, but has gone quiet altogether. Drawing on the personalism of St. John Paul II, he shows why we stay made out of relationship, for relationship—even when the desire seems gone. Key Topics: Why "I don't need anyone" can be a wound dressed up as strength How the desire for connection can go so quiet it reads as no desire at all What that flood of relief when plans fall through is actually telling you How being neglected early teaches you to neglect yourself—and call it your personality Why "self-help" was never going to be enough, and real healing needs another person Why fearing closeness and feeling indifferent to it look identical from the outside but run on opposite engines  Learn More: Previous episode in this series on avoidance: Ep. #286: A Mental Tug of War: Inside the Avoidant Mind and the Burden of Being Known Previous episode on attachment theory: Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Discover the profound spirituality of St. Charles de Foucauld in this episode of Teach Us to Pray, as Fr. Larry Kaufmann, C.Ss.R., explores the saint's journey from a life of privilege and military service to his humble, hidden existence as a hermit in the Sahara Desert. Through his inspiring story and his celebrated 'Prayer of Abandonment,' you will learn how to embrace a life of silent presence, radical humility, and brotherly love toward all, reflecting the hidden years of Jesus in Nazareth.

Send Gemma a messageHave you ever wondered why relationships can feel so emotionally intense?Why you find it difficult to leave someone, even when you know they're not right for you?Or why emotionally unavailable partners seem to become a recurring pattern?In this episode, I explore one of the most important psychological patterns I see in my work with women - the abandonment schema (or abandonment wound).Drawing on nearly 30 years of experience in psychology and schema therapy, I explain how early experiences of inconsistency, loss, emotional absence or disrupted attachment can quietly shape our expectations of love, influence who feels familiar, and make it much harder to walk away from relationships that aren't meeting our needs.You'll learn:• What an abandonment schema actually is• How it develops during childhood• Why it often shows up most strongly in romantic relationships• How it influences attraction and partner selection• Why emotionally unavailable relationships can feel strangely familiar• The link between abandonment and overriding red flags• Why this schema can keep you hoping, waiting and staying far longer than is healthy• How understanding your abandonment pattern can become the first step towards creating healthier, more secure relationshipsIf you've ever found yourself repeatedly attracted to emotionally unavailable, avoidant or narcissistic partners, or you've wondered why leaving unhealthy relationships feels so incredibly difficult, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface.Free MasterclassWhy Smart Women Override Red Flags in DatingDiscover the 5 hidden love traps that keep women stuck in painful relationship patterns.Love Wisely Group CoachingMy flagship coaching program, offered only twice each year, where we work together over three months to intentionally rewrite your Love Template and create healthier relationship patterns.Private CoachingFor women wanting personalised support to understand and change long-standing relationship patterns.ConnectWebsite:www.drgemmagladstone.comInstagram:@drgemmagladstoneIf you enjoyed this episode, I'd really appreciate it if you subscribed, left a review, or shared it with someone who may need to hear it.Support the show

Discover the profound spiritual legacy of St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross in this moving episode of our 'Teach Us to Pray' series. Fr. Larry Kaufmann, C.Ss.R., explores her remarkable journey from a brilliant philosopher to a Carmelite nun, tracing how her lifelong pursuit of truth led her to embrace the cross and ultimate sacrifice. We reflect on her powerful 'Prayer of Abandonment' to find inspiration in surrender and deep trust in God's guidance through life's darkest hours.

Send Us Your Prayer Requests --------Thank you for listening! Your support of Joni and Friends helps make this show possible. Joni and Friends envisions a world where every person with a disability finds hope, dignity, and their place in the body of Christ. Become part of the global movement today at www.joniandfriends.org. Find more encouragement on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube.

Every divorce filed in Texas has to state grounds for the divorce, but should it be a fault ground or the standard no-fault option? In this episode, Holly Draper is joined by her partner at the Draper Law Firm, Carrie Tapia, to break down the grounds for divorce available under the Texas Family Code and the strategy behind choosing which one to plead.Holly and Carrie start with the default: insupportability, the no-fault ground that allows most Texas divorces to proceed without airing out every grievance in the marriage. The conversation then works through each of the fault grounds available in Texas along with the evidentiary bar for each, the practical reasons attorneys rarely plead some of them, and the property division and custody consequences that can follow.Holly and Carrie share candid war stories about how judges really react to adultery, when a disproportionate share of the estate becomes realistic, and the hidden risks (like exposure to lifetime spousal maintenance or the need for a guardian) that come with rarely-used grounds, as well as practical guidance for practitioners: when and how to amend a petition to add fault grounds before trial, why waiting until the last minute can backfire under the Texas Rules of Civil Procedure, and how to counsel clients on the risk versus reward of pursuing a fault-based case.In this episode you'll discover:• Why insupportability is the default• How fault grounds can function as leverage• What it actually takes to prove fault grounds• The truth about adultery in the eyes of the court• The unique circumstances for lesser-used fault grounds• Timing rules for amending a petition

Avoidance looks like not wanting people. It's almost always the opposite: wanting connection so badly that being seen feels like the biggest risk of all. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores avoidant personality patterns through the lens of Catholic anthropology—where the quiet tug-of-war between longing to be known and fearing rejection comes from, and how the difference between what happens in us and what we choose opens a path toward freedom. Key Topics: Why "I just need my space" can be a wall dressed up as a boundary How a childhood full of real love—not neglect—can still teach you that being seen means being blamed Why avoidant personality isn't the same as avoidant attachment, even though they share a name What the text you rewrite four times before sending is actually protecting you from Why even your anger can be an imitation of Christ, not something to hide How the difference between what "happens" in you and what you choose to do can pull you out of hiding Learn More: Previous episode on attachment theory: Ep. #63: Attachment Theory: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How It Affects Your Relationships Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Person and Act: St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) philosophical work on the acting person, referenced in this episode Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Got a Question for Dr. Greg? Have a topic suggestion? Want to share your thoughts? Email us at beinghuman@catholicpsych.com—we'd love to hear from you! Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

You know how ADHD + abandonment wounds mix?  It's rocket fuel for pain. Rejection hits harder. Silence feels like danger. One "read" text and you're spiraling for days.  But what if no one's actually abandoning you?  What if it's just fast thought + old feelings moving through?   In this episode, we look at where that pain _really_ comes from…  And how presence heals what time never could. This changed everything for me. It can for you too.

Abandonment, Lament, and the Salvation Jesus Secures Psalm 22:1-31 7.5.26Rev. Craig Luekensvisit cpcnewhaven.org for more

Every civilization teaches people how to speak. Far fewer teach people how to refuse. Yet a single word may determine the quality of every intimate relationship a person will ever have. No. The absence of that word rarely creates immediate catastrophe. It creates something far more deceptive. It quietly transfers authority from conscious choice to unconscious adaptation. Every time a boundary goes unsaid, something else begins making decisions. Fear. Guilt. Obligation. Loneliness. Abandonment. The desperate need to be chosen. The terror of being misunderstood. What appears to be kindness may actually be survival negotiating another extension on an old contract. This investigation asks an unsettling question. When you say “yes,” who accepted the invitation? Your values? Or the wound that learned long ago that belonging required self-erasure? Perhaps relationships rarely collapse because people refuse each other. Perhaps they collapse because someone spent years refusing themselves. A boundary delayed does not disappear. It accumulates interest. It returns as resentment, emotional exhaustion, contempt, anxiety, emotional withdrawal, or a life quietly organized around avoiding one difficult conversation. Healthy love and wounded attachment may respond to the same word in radically different ways. Genuine love may experience “no” as information. An unhealed wound may experience the identical word as betrayal, abandonment, disrespect, or war. The difference may reveal less about the boundary than about the architecture receiving it. This moves the conversation beyond communication skills. It becomes an investigation into authorship. Who has been speaking through your mouth? Who has been volunteering your time, your body, your peace, your future, and your emotional labor without your informed consent? If every “yes” nourishes something, what has your life been feeding? Tonight, we examine whether the greatest expression of love is not unlimited access but conscious limitation. Whether the strongest relationships require two people who possess the courage to disappoint each other's wounds without abandoning each other's humanity. And whether the most transformative “no” you will ever speak was never meant for your partner at all. Perhaps it has been waiting for the oldest survival strategy still pretending to be your voice.

Every civilization teaches people how to speak. Far fewer teach people how to refuse. Yet a single word may determine the quality of every intimate relationship a person will ever have. No. The absence of that word rarely creates immediate catastrophe. It creates something far more deceptive. It quietly transfers authority from conscious choice to unconscious adaptation. Every time a boundary goes unsaid, something else begins making decisions. Fear. Guilt. Obligation. Loneliness. Abandonment. The desperate need to be chosen. The terror of being misunderstood. What appears to be kindness may actually be survival negotiating another extension on an old contract. This investigation asks an unsettling question. When you say “yes,” who accepted the invitation? Your values? Or the wound that learned long ago that belonging required self-erasure? Perhaps relationships rarely collapse because people refuse each other. Perhaps they collapse because someone spent years refusing themselves. A boundary delayed does not disappear. It accumulates interest. It returns as resentment, emotional exhaustion, contempt, anxiety, emotional withdrawal, or a life quietly organized around avoiding one difficult conversation. Healthy love and wounded attachment may respond to the same word in radically different ways. Genuine love may experience “no” as information. An unhealed wound may experience the identical word as betrayal, abandonment, disrespect, or war. The difference may reveal less about the boundary than about the architecture receiving it. This moves the conversation beyond communication skills. It becomes an investigation into authorship. Who has been speaking through your mouth? Who has been volunteering your time, your body, your peace, your future, and your emotional labor without your informed consent? If every “yes” nourishes something, what has your life been feeding? Tonight, we examine whether the greatest expression of love is not unlimited access but conscious limitation. Whether the strongest relationships require two people who possess the courage to disappoint each other's wounds without abandoning each other's humanity. And whether the most transformative “no” you will ever speak was never meant for your partner at all. Perhaps it has been waiting for the oldest survival strategy still pretending to be your voice.

If there was a time when America needed a pragmatic leader, it's now. Today as we do every day we will discuss how Democrats and other Leftists fight against common sense.I keep imagining a world where Leftists supported the efforts of our president. For just ONE day.Imagine how different the world would be if they actually BACKED Trump?Before we get to the 14th Amendment and other SCOTUS topics, let's look at some of the other Leftist tricks.I heard that Supergirl is expected to lose $120M. The actress in the film guaranteed it would be profitable. I think Supergirl is GAY in this one, right?That vigilante movie is doing well. I haven't seen it, but I like the idea around it…[X] SB – Man spots a sexual predatorLook at how important you are.Jill Biden's book vanished from the NYT best-seller list. Poof.Why? Because the group who propped it up for a week ran out of money.How many books did she actually sell? Better question, how many people actually READ her book?I want America to be a country where it's easier to build wealth than it is to hoard it, and where workers don't have to worry about medical debt and grocery costs when they should be enjoying time with their families. An economy that works for everyone is possible. x.com/el_pais/status…Speaking of hoarding wealth, Khanna's two young children are the proud owners of THREE private golf courses in Ohio, where member initiation fees run upwards of $45kKhanna's children — still in elementary school — earned up to $2 million from their golf courses in 2024.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you feel rejected, you are welcome to Christ's fellowship where you can learn to experience what the Lord endured for you. -------- Thank you for listening! Your support of Joni and Friends helps make this show possible.     Joni and Friends envisions a world where every person with a disability finds hope, dignity, and their place in the body of Christ. Become part of the global movement today at www.joniandfriends.org   Find more encouragement on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and YouTube.

Getting it all off your chest is supposed to be healing. But sometimes the venting that feels like relief is quietly feeding your resentment instead. In this episode, Dr. Greg sits down with Fr. Gregory Pine—author of Training the Tongue—to explore why the deepest purpose of speech is communion, and how to tell the difference between working through your pain and simply settling the score. Key Topics: Why the real purpose of speech isn't expressing yourself — it's communion How to tell whether you're venting toward healing or just venting to settle the score Why the friend who only ever agrees with you might be the one holding you back What separates a listener who helps you grow from one who only feeds your anger Why "getting it off your chest" can leave the wound exactly where it was How custody of the tongue is good news, not one more rule to feel guilty about Learn More: Fr. Gregory Pine's book: Training the Tongue and Growing Beyond Sins of Speech Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Sometimes relationships remain painfully stuck despite our prayers, countless conversations, forgiveness and every effort to make things better. When someone we love continues in unhealthy patterns, we can find ourselves replaying every interaction, questioning our decisions and wondering if we simply haven't tried or prayed hard enough. Or, we might question our perspective, wondering if we're being overly sensitive and simply need to offer more grace. Yet, we still hurt and our anxiety remains. In this episode, Jennifer Slattery and neuropsychologist Dr. Michelle Bengtson explore how to accept difficult realities without losing hope, recognize unhealthy relational patterns, establish wise boundaries and guard our hearts against bitterness while remaining open to God's work. Together, they discuss the difference between reconciliation and responsibility, why forgiveness frees our own souls and how we can experience lasting peace even when someone we love chooses not to change. Scriptures Discussed Romans 12:18, John 13, Matthew 18:21–22, James 1:5, Matthew 5:44, Ephesians 4:31–32 Dr. Michelle Bengtson book: Sacred Scars: Resting in God's Promise That Your Past Is Not Wasted Additional resources mentioned: Dr. Michelle Bengtson's episode on betrayal and rejection: How to Break Free from Shame and Embrace Who God Says You Are How to Overcome Rejection and Abandonment with God's Love Connect with Dr. Michelle Bengtson: On her website On Instagram On Facebook Follow her work on Amazon Find Jennifer Slattery: On her website Instagram Facebook Amazon Subscribe to her free newsletter Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, we explore innovative modular systems for safe and efficient offshore well abandonment, focusing on James Fisher Energy's SeaBass system and global regulatory frameworks.

Join Msgr. John Esseff as he introduces us to the Enthronement of the Sacred Heart and of its incredible importance. The post SH7 – The Sacred Heart and Abandonment – Building a Kingdom of Love with Msgr. John Esseff – Discerning Hearts Podcast appeared first on Discerning Hearts Catholic Podcasts.

The male producers of the Bonfire were poised to have their quarterly lunch with Dan Soder but were stood up by the talented comedian. Black Lou, DJ Lou, and Jacob were left stranded in the rain, wet with heartbreak. Dan calls in to acknowledge his fault in disappointing his old chums. | Jay had to avoid an avalanche of junk as he was driving in from New Jersey. | Jacob sparks a heated debate about which burger is better at Burger King or McDonald's. | There is yet another party in the lobby of SiriusXM and Black Lou investigates. *To hear the full show to go www.siriusxm.com/bonfire to learn more! FOLLOW THE CREW ON SOCIAL MEDIA: @thebonfiresxm @louisjohnson @christinemevans @bigjayoakerson @robertkellylive @louwitzkee @jjbwolf Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes of The Bonfire ad-free and a whole week early.  Start a free trial now on Apple Podcasts or by visiting siriusxm.com/podcastsplus. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See https://pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Bunnie & Jelly Roll called each other twin flames—but what happens when twin flames break up? In this episode, we're exploring runner-chaser dynamics, karmic activations, self-abandonment, and why your greatest love story may have nothing to do with another.MAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (1HR+): https://21-day-break-up-glow-up-challenge.teachable.com/p/making-mind-magnetic-affirmations-all-eyes-will-be-on-you-793498

Your prayer life can be how you avoid healing. In this final episode of the antisocial series, Dr. Greg unpacks why a retreat high or a powerful devotional moment can convince you the healing is done — when the actual work hasn't started yet, and why that work happens in the small, unglamorous moments nobody puts on a holy card.  Key Topics: Why the most moving retreat of your life can leave you exactly the same — and what actually changes you What "magical penance" reveals about the parts of us that prefer grand gestures to real repair Why healing happens in what you do on an ordinary Tuesday, not in the moments when everything breaks open How a soft heart and a defenseless heart are not the same thing — and why that distinction changes everything Why the urge to be "healed already" is itself a form of the pattern you're trying to change Why re-hardening after you've opened up isn't failure — it's part of doing the reps Learn More: Earlier in this series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Antisocial Part 1 — Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Antisocial Part 2 — Ep. #282: You're (Probably) Not a Serial Killer—But You May Share Some of Their Antisocial Traits Antisocial Part 3 — Ep. #283: "I Will Never Be Hurt Again": How Jesus' Sacred Heart Breaks the Cycle The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen — the book Dr. Greg references on accompaniment and the standard of showing up, not being healed Person and Act by Karol Wojtyła (Pope St. John Paul II) Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyła (Pope St. John Paul II) Previous episode on boundaries: Ep. #254: Navigating "Toxic" Relationships: Setting Boundaries Without Losing Charity Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

George Bernard Shaw captured the ache of abandonment through Joan of Arc's cry: “It is better to be alone with God!” In today's episode of the MY Devotional Podcast, Dr. Michael Youssef turns to a more personal kind of loneliness—the sorrow that comes when people you love or labor with lose courage, drift away, or choose another road. The apostle Paul knew this pain. Near the end of his life, he wrote with grief about a former ministry companion: “Demas, because he loved this world, has deserted me” (2 Timothy 4:10). That single sentence carries the weight of countless modern situations: a child walking away from the Lord, a spouse resisting God, a friend turning cold, a trusted partner stepping back when you needed them most. Dr. Youssef reminds you that ministry and faithful living often bring “deeper depths of sorrow and higher heights of joy”—sometimes at the same time. The question is: what will you do with the rejection? Paul did not quit. He did not lose faith. He trusted God, leaned on His strength, and continued the work the Lord had given him. If you're carrying the heartbreak of a “Demas” in your life, this devotional will help you persevere—remaining faithful regardless of personal disappointment, and discovering that God's presence is steady even when people are not. Prayer: Lord, thank You that You will never leave me nor forsake me. May I draw near to You in sorrow and find new heights of joy. I pray in the name of Jesus. Amen.  “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Timothy 4:7). Learn more in Dr. Michael A. Youssef's sermon Never Give Up, Don't Ever Give Up on the Truth: WATCH NOW | LISTEN NOW The voice you hear on the MY Devotional podcast is digitally generated with Dr. Youssef's permission. If today's devotional stirred a question, burden, or need for prayer, you don't have to walk through it alone.

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A hardened heart isn't where the story starts. It's what's left after a child trusted, got hurt, and concluded: I'll never be in that position again. This week, Dr. Greg turns the antisocial series toward hope: looking at how that hardness forms, and how the Sacred Heart of Jesus, betrayed and pierced yet still open, breaks the pattern. Key Topics: Why a hardened heart is never cold by nature—it's protection learned the first time trusting backfired Why the urge to control everyone around you is really an old strategy for never being at anyone's mercy again How "making up for it" can quietly become a way to avoid facing the wound underneath Why Jesus didn't heal the hardened heart from a safe distance—He walked straight into betrayal and stayed open What it means that control isn't the enemy; where you aim it is what changes everything Why healing means loving even the parts of you that sin, not just the parts that behave Why you can't will yourself into trust overnight—and why that slowness reflects your dignity, not your failure Learn More: Earlier in this series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Antisocial Part 1 — Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Antisocial Part 2 — Ep. #282: You're (Probably) Not a Serial Killer—But You May Share Some of Their Antisocial Traits The Litany for Mental Health Dr. Greg references: A Litany for Mental Health The original Sacred Heart revelations: The Autobiography of Saint Margaret Mary Alacoque Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

You're probably not a serial killer. But the patterns that shape one run through all of us, at lower volume. In this episode, Dr. Greg traces antisocial patterns back to their source in everyday life — how we manage people, pray, and protect ourselves from being hurt again. Key Topics: Why the patterns that define serial killers aren't limited to serial killers — and how to see yourself honestly in that mirror How omnipotent control can look like loyalty, competence, or even holiness — and what it's protecting underneath What "magical penance" looks like when atonement becomes a form of control instead of real repair Why prayer can become negotiation with God — and why that's a subtle form of magical thinking How the "hardened heart" of Scripture isn't just Pharaoh — it's any wall quietly built against trust How to meet the controlling parts of yourself with compassion instead of condemnation Learn More: Previous episode in the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope St. John Paul II) Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary: Why Real Change Happens through Love not Willpower Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment   Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Do you actually trust God with your life? In this first conversation, Brother Lawrence invites us to begin the spiritual life by trusting in God's providence rather than relying on techniques or various devotions. Through a simple reflection on a winter tree, he shows us how God is already at work, patiently bringing about growth in our lives. Today, we are reading Part 1: First Conversation. To get your copy of the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/catholicclassics

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