Late Bloomers Collective

In this episode I talk about how abusive people can isolate their victims at home but SOMETIMES they encourage victims to leave home. Why? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

No matter what you do or don't do, you WILL be the villain in the abuser's story. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about some issues with abuse in the LGBTQ+ community (and in general) and some things I wish we would change as a whole to make our community safer. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In today's episode, I talk about ways abusive people can use the words I love you as a weapon. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about how when someone is abusing one person at home, they're abusing EVERYONE. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about monkey branching and what that can look like. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about why abusive people LOOK so happy after your relationship with them ends. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about how some abusive people will tell you that you won't like sex with anyone else. Why do they say this? Is it true? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about what it can look like when your "partner" is always walking in front of you, and why an abusive person might do that. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about how we can't really know our abusers because they most likely don't even know who THEY are. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about how sometimes, as you continue to heal from abuse, you might even start to miss moments of testament to your healing and why that's a wonderful thing. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about some little things you might notice when someone starts dating a potentially abusive person. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about several scenarios that might go down on Valentine's Day, or any special day, with an abusive person. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about how an abusive person can pretend to be everything you are/have so much in common with you, at least for a short while... --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about some of the mysterious physical issues I experienced while being abused and how YOUR "mysterious" issues might not be so mysterious. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about a few of the times I attempted to leave my abuser and how eventually I learned (was trained) not to even try to leave. TRIGGER WARNING: physical abuse Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about how abusive people will use finances (financial abuse) to control you.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about how abusive people will use your helplessness (which they will bring out in you) to control you.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about how quite often abusive people will tell on themselves. It's very hard to keep up with all the lies they tell, and if you pay attention, they'll give themselves away! Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about 100 things I've done since I started recording and sharing this podcast with you! Just kidding, that would take too long, but I talk about a few of the big things! Thank you for being on this journey with me. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman In this episode, I talk about 100 things I've done since I started recording and sharing this podcast with you! Just kidding, that would take too long, but I talk about a few of the big things! Thank you for being on this journey with me. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

Many people tell me they feel like a fool for not recognizing the abuse sooner. In this episode, I talk about why it doesn't make sense for us to feel that way! Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about what it can be like as trauma anniversaries roll around. How does it feel? How does it effect our bodies? How to get through those times? Website: Thelindsaygoodman.con 1:1 coaching/group coaching Calendly.com/Thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

Did you "go crazy" when your ABUSER moved on their next victim? Let's talk about why that might be and what to do about it!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about several reasons why it's so important to not rush into another relationship, especially after abuse (I KNOW you don't want to hear this but it's important)! Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about two reasons why I DON'T pet the dog in my viral birthday video (here: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8rqpPKS/). Pets are used as pawns in relationship and here I dive into what that can look like for a victim. Website: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman 1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I answer your questions about going and staying no contact. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about how so many of us confuse the push-pull abuse dynamic with love and why it is NOT love. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I tell a story of a specific experience with triangulation on the day my abuser and I "broke up." I'll talk about what triangulation can look like and why coercive controllers use this tactic. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about how an abusive person may try to sever the connection between you and your kids and I give several examples of what that can look like. I'll also dive into why they do this insidious abuse tactic. website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: thelindsaygoodman.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about when your abuser seems to be getting better. Are they actually changing? Is the relationship still viable? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about ways we can retrain our brains after abuse and how the brain works when it comes to changing the messages we've been given! Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman lindsaygoodmancoaching on Tiktok and Instagram --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about the experience of healing from having your child used as a pawn to abuse you/having your child abused by proxy and the struggles that come with it. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about mysterious (or not so mysterious) health issues that can come with experiencing intimate partner violence (or abuse from a parent, etc). Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about what it really means when your abuser suddenly starts offering to be helpful. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I go over some of the green and red flags to look for when dating when children are involved (but honestly this can apply without children too). Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about my birthday blueberry video which went viral on Tiktok and Instagram (56m+ views) in 2022. WHY was it so viral? WHY is it so important to talk about covert abuse? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about grief. Often we feel (or society makes us feel) like we shouldn't be grieving for someone who has harmed us so terribly. Let's talk about it!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this week's episode I talk about a not often talked about subject: the nitty gritty of what abuse can look like in an LGBTQ+ relationship. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1;1 coaching: Calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about the survivor tendency to be hesitant to go no contact with our abuser. I'll talk you through some of the considerations and hopefully help get you off the fence and on the road to recovery. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about the idea that we have to forgive our abuser in order to heal. Is it required? is there something else that can help instead? Website: thelindsaygoodman.comIG & TT: lindsaygoodmancoaching1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

And this Monday many episode of, it's not all rainbows I talk about whether or not, we need a diagnosis to leave an abusive person or to be able to heal. Website: Thelindsaygoodman.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about ways abusive people will find little things that keep the two of you "attached." You can't go no contact because you're always still waiting for this or that to be resolved. They don't want it to be resolved for a reason. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about some of the things that helped me go no contact and speed up my own healing journey. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about physical abuse and what actually "counts" as physical abuse. There is so much more than we as a society understand as physical abuse. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/LGBTQ Support Group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

And this Monday Mini, I talk about your option to shop for the right therapist. You do not have to work with the first person who comes along. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about a horrible but effective abuse tactic known as stonewalling. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about the difference between abuse and attachment issues. I definitely confused the two and I want to make sure you don't do the same! Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/LGBTQ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

On this Monday mini episode, I talk about how often abusive people will say things like “I'll never leave you” and why they say it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode, I talk about how whatever is yours can become THEIRS as soon as you're together. They have a strong sense of entitlement. It can be something small like wearing your clothes or it can be big, like your car. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/LGBTQ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

In this episode I talk about CPTSD flashbacks and how they can happen any time, anywhere. 1:1 coaching/events: calendly.com/Thelindsaygoodman. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support

On today's episode, I talk about post seperation abuse, or narcissistic collapse, which can happen when a victim leaves their abuser. It can be VERY dangerous, so it's important to know that this MAY happen and to take measures to protect yourself. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/LGBTQ+ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman FREE safety planning: thehotline.org --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support