Podcasts about Physical abuse

   I have never told this story in public and I have not told everything that is here, probably ever. I have always felt a pulling to the children and families who are or have been involved in this system, or have suffered in the darkness of our world. I'm going to include a bio that is taken from the first chapter of my book. That first chapter is a letter to my reader and it is the heart of that letter. However, that bio in grounded much more in the recovery years, and I it is important when talking to foster families to talk about the tough stuff that comes first.  I have a strong desire to tell the story of healing, but in order to appreciate being saved, it is necessary to recognize the conditions that precipitated the need for it. For these reasons, I have added a much more detailed account of my childhood for consideration.             I know the story that follows is overly dramatic and may at times seem sensational. However, it is important to offer the following disclaimer: as I will mention below, It has been clearly demonstrated first within my own meditation and consideration and later confirmed in my medical and psychological records that my early (Oregon and before) memories have been compromised by intentional manipulation, I also have been diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. Consequently, my memory of this entire period and even presently has been greatly affected. I have recounted my history as I remember it and as I have pieced it together. It is impossible that any child's memories not be influenced by the accounts of those around us. This is certainly true in my case. Furthermore, many of the people who surrounded me as I was growing up shared some common traits that make their influence wholly unreliable. However, I have done my very best to apply as much perspective and logic to these recollections as possible; to give an accurate accounting of events as they seem to have taken place. I have intentionally left out points that cannot be substantiated by multiple sources. And as this is a trait I had to devise and develop early just to gain the most basic concept of who I am or where I came from: I am confident that this is as accurate a narrative as I can offer at this time. Foster Care: An Unparalleled Journey Find All Our Links Here https://linktr.ee/fostercarenation Merch! http://tee.pub/lic/RwiARsuuDHs Call the Voicemail Line 413-foster 3 (413) 367-8373 Foster Care 101 Free webinar with  NO sales pitch! Support Our Mission https://www.buymeacoffee.com/fostercare https://patreon.com/fostercarenation Connect with us on our Facebook Page https://facebook.com/7timedad Connect on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fostercarenation/

Maurice Flournoy, MS, LMHC: Take control of your life and implement simplistic strategies with New Mind Creator. Join Maurice Flournoy as he inspires you to take the driver seat of your life and decide what's best for you. Learn more @MauriceFlournoy.com "Everybody knows something you don't know; therefore be enriched by your interaction with one another" by Maurice Flournoy Maurice Flournoy believes a man is literally what he thinks, with his character being a complete sum of his thoughts and of his interactions with the world around him. With his graduate degree and extensive training in the field of psychology, Maurice has gained the knowledge to understand the mind-body connection, and how powerful of a tool it really is in changing one's perspective and outcome in life. He truly understands the psychology of success. He uses his powerful experiences to motivate people through his speaking engagements to connect, share and teach the masses, leaving his audience energized and more enlightened with the proper tools to improve their lives. The very first time Maurice spoke in public in 2001, his audience was enthralled and captivated by his presence, giving him the fuel and ambitious drive to continue to motivate people towards success and happiness. His unique approach to inspiring and empowering people is in teaching them the power of their subconscious mind, and how it can work to benefit them. As a US Navy military veteran, Maurice has used his wisdom to reach out and speak at youth detention centers, men's prisons, and has had great success with his life inspiring commencement speeches. One of the greatest privileges a speaker could have is giving lessons and life advice to those just beginning their journey after graduation. Maurice's passion is echoed in his words as he guides the graduates into a new segment of their lives where they can achieve their future goals and receive extreme fulfillment out of their lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/new-mind-creator/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/new-mind-creator/support

Today I'm talking with Hildegard Koenig, proud mother of 2 who has dedicated her career to helping others. She's a survivor of domestic violence and sexual abuse who has a burning passion to give her voice for victims of crime and cancer warriors. Hilde is the co-founder and president of the Ink Against Cancer foundation, a unique 501c3 that connects local artists to provide financial aid for cancer warriors. The Consequences of Domestic AbuseHilde shares that her first experience with sexual assault came when she was a child in Venezuela, and influenced her adulthood when she met her abuser and eventual ex-husband. She stayed in the marriage until nearly losing her life, and left with nothing but her two children—15 months and 2 months old, respectively—and was scared of what would happen. Hilde says she wishes she had known of more of the resources available for victims of domestic and sexual abuse. After sharing her story and getting a protective order against her abuser, Hilde started from the bottom once again. She endured many medical issues, both physical and mental, from the abuse, and still does today. However, despite her doubts and fears as a single mother, she stayed away from her abuser and eventually remarried to someone who adopted her children as his own. Starting a Non-ProfitHilde's passion for helping people overcome cancer led to her nonprofit, “Ink Against Cancer Foundation.” Not only had her mother-in-law passed away from cancer, but Hilde's close-friend shared his frustrations with her about the lack of resources he had to even pay bills or make rent while out of work. Hilde organized an event where many of the artists who tattooed her friend, Wolf, came together and raised funds to support her friend. Wolf, before passing, asked Hilde to continue in his memory. “Ink Against Cancer” is now preparing for its 7th annual event, with over 90 applications from cancer warriors. Hilde and her husband, along with four other board members, work in their offtime to support in whatever way they can, whether it's helping pay for gas, meals, or buying Christmas presents. Uniting Artists Against CancerThe 501c3 provides last wishes for adults as well as children whose wishes weren't able to be fulfilled during COVID-19. “Cancer does not discriminate,” Hildegard says, which is why the foundation works for cancer warriors no matter the age or cancer type. After the fundraiser, artists get to meet the families they're helping and see where their donations go to. Hildegard says that while they only ask artists for 50% of what they make, the majority donate 100%. Hilde and her partners want to make a difference, big or small, in someone's life. She hopes that listeners know that we all have our own story. “And it's your story. No one can take that away from you.” Listen in to learn more about the effects of abuse on families, Hilde's five-year-plan, and how to get involved with “Ink Against Cancer.” Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webLearn more about Ink Against CancerSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

In this episode, Coach Renée passionately works to create a space that frees you to become fully aware of and gain a deeper desire to heal from your FAMILY TRAUMA. FOLLOW Coach Renée on FB & IG: @iamreneeroberts NEED A LIFE COACH?: www.iamreneeroberts.com

Maurice Flournoy, MS, LMHC: Take control of your life and implement simplistic strategies with New Mind Creator. Join Maurice Flournoy as he inspires you to take the driver seat of your life and decide what's best for you. Learn more @MauriceFlournoy.com "Everybody knows something you don't know; therefore be enriched by your interaction with one another" by Maurice Flournoy Maurice Flournoy believes a man is literally what he thinks, with his character being a complete sum of his thoughts and of his interactions with the world around him. With his graduate degree and extensive training in the field of psychology, Maurice has gained the knowledge to understand the mind-body connection, and how powerful of a tool it really is in changing one's perspective and outcome in life. He truly understands the psychology of success. He uses his powerful experiences to motivate people through his speaking engagements to connect, share and teach the masses, leaving his audience energized and more enlightened with the proper tools to improve their lives. The very first time Maurice spoke in public in 2001, his audience was enthralled and captivated by his presence, giving him the fuel and ambitious drive to continue to motivate people towards success and happiness. His unique approach to inspiring and empowering people is in teaching them the power of their subconscious mind, and how it can work to benefit them. As a US Navy military veteran, Maurice has used his wisdom to reach out and speak at youth detention centers, men's prisons, and has had great success with his life inspiring commencement speeches. One of the greatest privileges a speaker could have is giving lessons and life advice to those just beginning their journey after graduation. Maurice's passion is echoed in his words as he guides the graduates into a new segment of their lives where they can achieve their future goals and receive extreme fulfillment out of their lives. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/new-mind-creator/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/new-mind-creator/support

Topics: Adult Children, Grandparenting, Child Neglect, Dating, Narcissists, Verbal Abuse, Physical Abuse, Separation, Intimacy Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: Should I report my 32yo daughter to the authorities for my 9yo grandson missing his entire 4th grade year? How do I confront my daughter who is dating a man online The post New Life Live: May 8, 2023 appeared first on New Life.

Today I'm talking with Lynn Crook, author of “False Memories: The Deception that Silenced Millions.” After suffering sexual abuse as a child, she sued her parents for damages and won, which led her down the investigation path that inspired her book. Today, she's here to speak loud about encouraging survivors to speak publicly about their experiences, and combating shame with compassion. Uncovering Repressed MemoriesLynn was the oldest of six children who were all molested. Her father forced her to repress the memory after punishing her for talking about it, and over her young lifetime, she eventually forgot about it completely. It wasn't until 40 years later when Lynn was working in a sexual abuse response center that the memories started to resurface in panic attacks and flashbacks. It took Lynn months to speak about and accept what had happened to her, but when she did, she decided to sue her parents for damages due to sexual abuse. She had the means to go to court and wanted to make the world safer, eventually winning her case. However, her interest turned to the concept of ‘false memories,' which her parents tried to use in their defense—attempting to claim that Lynn's memories were made up.Disproving False MemoriesAfter the trial, Lynn's excitement from winning died down as she heard more and more people talk about ‘false memories.' People didn't believe her or sided with her parents, showing her firsthand the impact of the false memory campaign. Over the next decade, Lynn dedicated herself to investigating false memory claims, and deducted that it was a complete scam. Lynn told the story of how the false memory campaign began and decided to put it in her book, believing that if people were able to read it, then they would learn more about how child molesters try to silence their victims. “You believed that?” Lynn will say now. “Really?” Her passion project has now evolved into her published book, after she spent 3 years compiling all the information she had learned over the decade. Living with Confidence Lynn shares that her panic attacks have now stopped, but the childhood trauma will be there for the rest of her life. She says that it's up to the individual to find the tools that work for them in order to live a life that's not impacted by shame or fear. For her, that's seeing her therapist regularly and making sense of things through journaling. Lynn wants readers of her book to gain confidence in coming out about what happened to them—even if someone chooses not to believe them. With that confidence, she hopes people will be able to share their story, awful as it was, and start to stop it. Listen to learn more about where the false memories movement started, the role of women and spouses with child molesters, and what makes Lynn feel empowered today.Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webConnect with Lynn on her websitePurchase “False Memories” on AmazonSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Dr. Mary Anne Kate is a researcher specializing in interpersonal trauma, attachment, and post-traumatic disorders. She talks with Lisa about her research paper published in 2021, titled: Childhood Sexual, Emotional, and Physical Abuse as Predictors of Dissociation in Adulthood.Hear how Dr. Kate identified predictors of dissociation in adults, and demonstrated that women who disclosed being sexual abused had a 106-fold risk of clinical levels of dissociation.For her vast amount of work, Dr. Kate was awarded the Chancellor's Doctoral Research Medal from University of New England, and the David Caul Award from the ISSTD for her PhD on childhood maltreatment, parent-child dynamics, and dissociation. In 2021, Dr. Kate won the Morton Prince award for Scientific Research.She's currently the Lecturer Practitioner for the Master of Professional Psychology program at Southern Cross University and holds an adjunct research position at the University of New EnglandLinks to items discussed in this episode:Dr. Kate's publications and MID-60 resources are available via ResearchGate:https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Mary-Anne-KateDr. Kate's free MID Training: Webinar: Dissociation and dissociative disordershttps://novopsych.com.au/news/dissociation-and-dissociative-disorders/ISSTD Public Resources:https://www.isst-d.org/public-resources-home/ For full transcript: https://howwecanheal.com/podcast/This episode was produced by Bright Sighted Podcasting.

For access to the full Sus Psychedelics, Inc. series and other premium episodes, subscribe to the Al-Wara' Frequency at patreon.com/subliminaljihad. PHASE THREE: RUNNING THE SHOW Dimitri's high school experiences with 2C-B and MDMA, the synchronicity of the Hyphy/Thizz movement sprouting up in Alexander Shulgin's East Bay backyard, the extremely different vibes around drugs in 2005, Dimitri's 2009 documentary about suburban Thizz dealers in the Bay… The origins of the Multidisciplinary Association for Pyschedelic Studies (MAPS), “Early Therapeutic Use of MDMA, 1977-1985”, the Boston Group, Shulgin turning on Lt. Colonel Leo Zeff aka “The Secret Chief” to MDMA in 1977, ARUPA at Esalen, Jungian lay therapist Ann Shulgin, her theory that using MDMA helps you recognize the positive aspects of the totally selfish demon inside you, Chilean Dr. Claudio Naranjo and Sasha Shulgin's collaboration from 1962 onward, Jack Downing's Exuma Island Institute in the Bahamas, Dr. George Greer and his wife Requa Tolbert, Catholic priest Michael Clegg who began selling ecstasy in Dallas night clubs in 1983, Dr. Rick Ingrasci promoting MDMA therapy on Donahue in 1985, Tim Leary's former Harvard research partner Ralph Metzner, Doblin founding the Earth Metabolic Design Laboratories (EMDL) in 1984, Physical Abuse in MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy, founding MAPS advisors Francesco Di Leo and Rick Ingrasci both losing their therapist licenses for having sex with patients during MDMA sessions… Background on Psychedelic godfather Alexander “Sasha” Shulgin, Shulgin's decades-long relationship with the DEA, his membership at Bohemian Grove, Shulgin's infamous bad vibes concoction STP/DOM, German pharma companies selling 2C-B aka “Nexus” in 1990s South Africa, PHASE FOUR: DIMITRI'S TRIP Dimitri reveals for the first time his journeys with “Gustavo”, a Peruvian shaman to the 0.01% in 2011, getting psyopped by ayahuasca utopianism, and which billionaires were secretly getting EnLiGhTeNeD years before the new corporadelic renaissance hit the mainstream.

Today I'm talking with Steve Simpson, an award-winning author, businessman, and volunteer. Steve started writing as a child to escape a traumatic home life, and through his experiences with foster care, therapy, and self-help groups, was able to create a new start for himself. Today, he is here to speak loud about his own experience with abuse and to assure other people that they aren't alone. Living a False NarrativeIn early childhood, Steve describes himself as the opposite of an ‘A student': a ‘Z student.' He was always cracking jokes and interrupting and consistently failed classes because of the physical and verbal abuse he was receiving at home from his father. He recalls being jealous of the ‘smart kids' whose home lives he believed to be perfect. Steve developed the narrative that he was stupid and that it didn't matter how much effort he put in—he would never succeed.Steve says that he started cutting class as early as 3rd grade, and would go to the library and ask for a pen and paper, where he would write poems and short stories. He was always looking for a way to escape. At 11, he attempted suicide, telling people who didn't understand: “I don't want to die—I just don't want to live.” The Power of Self-HelpA turning point came in Steve's life when he entered the foster care system. He stayed in two homes, both of which he recounts as good experiences, but the real trigger for healing was the mandated self-help group he attended. He states that it was the best thing to happen to him. Suddenly, he felt welcomed, and discovered that the so-called ‘smart kids' in his group were fighting many of the battles he was at home. The self-help group supported him not just in his personal life but in school. Steve learned how to study and found himself doing better in school, going from barely passing to achieving high honors. In his teen years, he finally realized that it wasn't his fault, but his circumstances that were creating the negative narrative.  Writing The Survival HandbookAs an adult, Steve has written four fiction novels that he directs towards teens and young adults who are experiencing abuse or considering suicide. The books are works of fiction with abuse victim handbooks hidden inside. Steve wrote the books as a way for the right tools to get into the hands of kids who otherwise wouldn't seek out help or who didn't feel safe. Steve says that he wrote the kinds of books that would have helped him. He wanted the reader to leave feeling better about themselves and encouraged to find help. “If you are an adult,” Steve says, “you are involved.” He believes that it's the adults' responsibility to call out abuse and support victims, especially if they're children. Listen in to learn more about the impact of verbal abuse, the dangers of misdiagnosis in abuse victims, and Steve's five-year-plan. Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webFind Steve's books on his websiteSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Today I'm talking with Jennifer Morris, a mother and author who decided to share her story of love and loss in order to bring comfort to those who have experienced death in their lives. Her book, titled ‘I Will Be With You Alway' released last June in 2022, and provides children with a story on how to understand and cope with loss. Another Side to TraumaJennifer's mother died when she was 5, and still too young to understand what death was. She recalls sitting at the dinner table and asking her family, “So, after the funeral, is that when Mom is coming home?” Eventually, Jennifer learned that her mom had committed suicide, and as a young girl told herself the story that her mother had left her deliberately because she was not enough. Her father's struggle with alcoholism led to another narrative of Jennifer's: “I'm alone with no one to take care of me.” She spent her life searching for someone to take care of her, willing to be whatever role they needed in order to feel loved. She felt like a ship in the middle of the ocean, with no control over what life brought. Jennifer recounts that it took 20 years for anyone in her family to talk about her mother's death. Deepening Relationships with OthersMuch of Jennifer's healing came in the form of her relationships with her loved ones. She had lived a life where she felt like she wasn't enough to keep her mother alive. She recalls a defining moment of bringing her first daughter home for the first time. She was struck with the realization that her own mother must have been so unwell to do what she had, because Jennifer couldn't imagine leaving her child. It hadn't been her fault. Jennifer always wanted to be closer with her husband and friends, and it took many intense therapy sessions for that to become a reality. Now, however, she feels love and deep joy daily by letting her loved ones know how loved they are, and by ‘going deep' with everyone she meets.Finding Love Where It IsJennifer wanted her book to be relatable for anyone who has had someone pass.Over years of therapy, self-healing and self-love, she's learned that she will always still be connected to her mom. She imparts this journey in her book, ‘I Will Always Be With You.'“Instead of looking for where they were,” Jennifer says, “find them where they are.” She thanks her mother—and father—daily for the magical moments in her life, and feels their presence always. Jennifer hopes that listeners know that whatever trauma they experience is not forever. There is hope. Listen in to hear the lessons Jennifer's learned from writing her book, how her family dealt with trauma and shame, and what advice she has for listeners.Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webConnect with Jennifer on her websiteSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

General discussion show - all about NAASCA. Those who call in will form a panel who'll describe, and be critical of, NAASCA's tools, programs, services. Just call in to participate or to suggest a topic !! ~~ (646) 595-2118 ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org  web site. MISSION: We have a single purpose at NAASCA, to address issues related to childhood abuse and trauma including sexual assault, violent or physical abuse, emotional traumas and neglect .. and we do so with only two goals: 1) educating the public, especially as related to helping society get over its taboo of discussing childhood sexual abuse (CSA), presenting facts showing child abuse to be a pandemic, worldwide problem that affects everyone 2) offering hope and healing through numerous paths, providing many services to adult survivors of child abuse and information for anyone interested in the many issues involving prevention, intervention and recovery

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight's special co-host is Penelope Benis from Sarasota, Florida. She's a survivor as well as an Author/Activist/Ace Certified Health Coach accredited in Sports Nutrition/Certified Yoga Instructor (RYS200), specializing in Trauma Informed Trained Yoga and Mindfulness through YBB in Seattle, WA, as well as a NAASCA Blog Talk Radio Host and NAASCA Board Member. A survivor-professional, Penelope teaches Mindfulness in the college classroom setting (Bellevue College, Adjunct Instructor). With regard to experiencing abuse, mindfulness, meditation and breath work play a role in addressing, or helping to regulate, a body and mind affected by traumatic events. Penelope's credentials include expertise in the autonomic nervous system, and how the impact of trauma, often repeated and lasting in duration, can propel the victim into a chronic state of hyper-response to stress (sometimes referred to as fight, flight or freeze). Tonight's episode is a peak into the healing modality sometimes referred to as pranayama-or the breath. All are welcome to join in the discussion. ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

The need for educating young women on the dangers of mental and physical abuse in relationships is urgent. It is essential to raise awareness of what constitutes an abusive relationship and teach young women how to recognize the signs of abuse. By educating young women, they will be empowered to prevent mental and physical abuse in their relationships and break the cycle of abuse. Education can help young women develop healthy relationships, set boundaries, and seek help if they encounter abuse. It is crucial to do more of this education to ensure that young women are equipped with the knowledge to recognize and prevent mental and physical abuse in their relationships. Want to listen to ALL of our Podcasts Ad-Free? Subscribe through Apple Podcasts, and try it for 3 days free: https://tinyurl.com/ycw626tj Follow Our Other Cases:   Hidden Killers With Tony Brueski (All Cases) - https://audioboom.com/channels/5040505-hidden-killers-with-tony-brueski-breaking-news-commentary Chad & Lori Daybell - https://audioboom.com/channels/5098105-demise-of-the-daybells-the-lori-chad-daybell-story The Murder of Ana Walshe - https://audioboom.com/channels/5093967-finding-ana-this-disappearance-of-ana-walshe Alex Murdaugh - https://audioboom.com/channels/5097527-the-trial-of-alex-murdaugh The Idaho Murders, The Case Against Bryan Kohberger - https://audioboom.com/channels/5098223-the-idaho-murders-the-case-against-bryan-kohberger Lucy Letby - https://audioboom.com/channels/5099406-nurse-of-death-the-lucy-letby-story Follow Tony Brueski On Twitter https://twitter.com/tonybpod Join our Facebook Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/834636321133

Tonight's special guest is Steve Simpson from New York City. An abuse survivor himself, Steve thinks there needs to be more accountability and consequences for child abusers. He'll describe his own personal struggles as an abuse survivor and how he is thriving today, and identify identify some of the common characteristics (trauma) of adult abuse survivors. Steve is an award-winning child advocate who has created The Teenage and Young Adult Survival Handbook, a small, life-saving guide. It covers many of the issues plaguing young people today -- suicide, bullying, physical abuse, verbal abuse, self-worth, being the child of an addict, etc. Steve discusses the stats and facts on child abuse and neglect, his own personal struggles as an abuse survivor and how he's thriving today. This CDC report says that at least 1 in 7 children has experienced child abuse or neglect, likely an underestimate. And according to an Administration for Children and Families report, 76% of child abuse perpetrators were a parent to their victim. We often hear about abuse cases once the victim is grown up .. but what happens to the abusers / perpetrators? Are they held accountable for their actions? Steve speaks strictly from a survivor's POV. He is not a doctor, lawyer, or mental health professional, but is a passionate child advocate who volunteers his time speaking at schools and throughout various communities to help spread a healing message of hope.

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight the special co-host is Pastor Deborah Schleich, who grew up all over the world in a military family where her mother was mentally ill, and is now a survivor-professional. Living in Pensacola, Florida, she's trained in ministry, mental health, working with substance abuse and is a trauma informed social worker .. all in one! She volunteers with many community organizations. Pastor Deborah says she ".. can minister by text, phone, Skype, in person and however the Lord directs her, 24/7." She teaches that humans have three parts, being of spirit, soul and the physical body, and believes that all 3 are important .. and that each area needs care. We look forward to Pastor Deborah being an active member of the NAASCA family for a long time! ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is Jodie Tedder from Helena, Montana, a child abuse survivor and author of the book 'A Prisoner by No Crime of My Own'. She triumphs over a hellish childhood through years of intensive therapy. Jodie walks us through her pursuit of justice for the woman who she watched be killed by her fathet in a seedy hotel room in 1968. A true-born sociopath, he strolled undetected, using religion as his disguise. Her family coat of arms was incest. The murdered woman's spirit seemed to ignite a search for answers in Jodie's adulthood, but the family would do everything to keep the secrets they helped conceal. Decades were spent chasing down leads through a private investigator, coordinating with police and confronting perps. Hospital records ultimately point to the identity of the victim and a sister's loving pursuit to find her missing sibling helps spur the investigation. They may have solved this case. The problem -- the cops need a confession or a body. No help would be found in Jodie's family. Her faith sustained her as she moved toward the dragons from her youth. The terror of reliving the incessant sexual abuse stalled her attempts as her body recalled the misery. Others tried to block her efforts with rejection and judgment. Millions suffer for crimes they did not commit. Would this victim find justice? Would peace ever live in her world again? This story is a courageous dedication to all children who have lived through childhood violence and deviance. It's all murder. Unrelenting guilt to bring this woman justice would open doors to the past that could not be closed. Her life mattered and so did her death. Her murder left a destiny to locate the truth and get the chance to bring healing and justice to cold crimes lost to time.

Meet Dee Dee SaidDee Dee Said speaks against violence while advocating for healthy relationships. In addition to her full-time work in the nonprofit sector, she recently volunteered with youth for seven years, mentoring and engaging them to learn about healthy character traits and to be aware of risks associated with what many deem “normal” teenage activity. With the help of others, she also created opportunities for teens to help youth and families in their community.Dee Dee treasures spending time with her kids, family, and friends. She enjoys running along the San Antonio Riverwalk in her free time, cycling, and hiking.Dee Dee Said, has worked for a national non-profit for the last twenty years and also started a local non-profit to help area youth and families. She is the proud mom of two young adults. She's also the author of It Doesn't Start with a Punch, My Journey through an Abusive Teen Dating Relationship. She wrote the book to help others understand how abusive relationships start subtly and grow, the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship and how to help someone in an unhealthy or abusive relationship.Learn and Connect here.https://www.buildstrongfoundations.com/https://www.facebook.com/BSFTodayComplimentary Download:https://www.buildstrongfoundations.com/handout Are you looking to Get Focused and Expose the parts of your life that are or are not working for you? If so, then Download the Live Your Best Life BLUEPRINT at www.travellivegive.com/blueprint

Tonight's special guest is Laura West from Halifax, Nova Scotia, a child abuse survivor and now an activist and coach who was sadistically, brutally and ritualistically beaten and tortured by her older brother for the first 16 yrs of her life. Her parents blamed for Laura for the beatings. They would say “What did you do to make him so angry?” She felt like everything was her fault and had a guilty conscience for things happening outside of her control. "I was terrified of men and anyone in a position of authority as my body would prepare for war in their presence. It affected my relationships because I would make sure I wasn't abandoned by abandoning them first." And that's not all. "It affected my work because I felt like I always did everything wrong and so I spent the majority of my life struggling to survive anyway I could. I was easily manipulated and taken advantage of as I didn't know how to determine who to trust or how." Laura didn't know what was wrong with her and would ask strangers, acquaintances, friends and family to analyze her and tell her what was wrong with her. "I went into debt on counsellors, therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, life coaches, shaman, psychics, meta-physical gurus and anyone who promised relief. I was told I was depressed, anxious or manic and was prescribed drugs for depression, anxiety, and mood disorders. None of which helped me." Laura concludes, "I finally found true help through self-help books and 12 step groups explaining how my brain developed, how and why I was getting ‘hi-jacked' when triggered. I learned life skills that I was never taught."

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight the special co-host is Bill Murray from Los Angeles, our founder. Bill's recovery is 12 Step-based and spans some four decades. Sexually abused by numerous clerics, all men, between the ages of 11 and mid-way through high school, a minor seminary, he was also the victim of pre-pubescent ography and even a two week kidnapping. Bill was graced to have found Alcoholics Anonymous when he was 30 years old. The program not only helped him get clean and sober but also gave him a place to give up his secrets, and the tools by which he's recovered. He firmly believes one can use the 12 Step process to heal from child abuse trauma and to find a way to a comfortable life. ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is David Shubert from Pueblo, Colorado, an author and a Parental Alienation Activist. His latest book, 'Stolen Memories', is a memoir about parental alienation, International parental abduction, family court abuse, and International Hague Convention court Memoir about parental alienation, International parental abduction, family court abuse, and International Hague Convention court. David describes how his children were abducted by their mother and spirited off to another country. This book is his true-life story of how one father fought for twenty years to be in the lives of his daughter and stepson again. As a loving parent, David Shubert never gave up on bringing his children home again against all odds. "As an alienated or left-behind parent, oftentimes we feel as though our life is spiraling out of control," David says. "From the alienation of our children to the never-ending flow of emotions we feel due to the loss of our children, we are left in a constant state of numbness. Is it any wonder that alienated parents suffer so much and for so long? No, and this is understandable given these sets of circumstances. The average person will never understand the level of heartache an alienated or left-behind parent or grandparents carry inside them. Instead, they may feel we embellish these emotions and must learn to let go, but how can we? Until we are able to hold our children in our arms again, this pain will remain a constant in our lives. There will seldom be moments of joy or peace or even, happiness until this nightmare ends. Until that day reunification arrives, we are forced to travel the roads of parental alienation. Please visit the new website: www.aparentingaffair.com

TW/CW: SA, Physical Abuse, Claustrophobia Colleen decided to hitchhike to see a friend, something a lot of young people did in the 60's and 70's. She always trusted her gut and was known to turn down rides if she didn't feel safe. So when a young couple with a baby offered her a ride, she thought everything was fine. It wasn't. Colleen spent nearly eight years as the captive of a sadistic predatorTo see case photos and read case notes, please go to our Patreon. All case photos are public posts. You don't have to be a patron to see them! Support the pod, donate to our Kofi account, read our books, buy our soap, join our discord and more here: https://linktr.ee/cruelteaSupport the show

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight's special guest is Cherie White from Covington, Tennessee, an anti bullying advocate and author of three books who uses her own story of being bullied and gaslighted to help those enduring the same abuse today. "In 6th grade I began a long lesson in the human predator/prey dynamic and a battle for my dignity, safety, and my very soul." At first she took the physical beatings, name-calling, and abuse. Cherie was a victim of what is called 'poly-victimization'. In just six months she went from being a kid who always made the honor roll, to an angry and bitter girl who made only C's and D's. "Who could concentrate on schoolwork?" she asks. Cherie attempted suicide at the age of fourteen. "Because I felt powerless, I began to bully those who were even weaker than me in attempts to grab back some of my power. ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is Dr. Patrick Gannon, PHD, from San Francisco, a Clinical and Performance Psychologist. He works with individuals, groups and couples and specializes in trauma, anxiety, depression, performance anxiety, life transitions, relationship issues, parenting issues and performance coaching. Our NAASCA family members may know him best for founding www.ASCAsupport.org in 1992. In fact,  Dr. Gannon has founded four mental health programs during the course of his career including a treatment program for Indochinese refugees following the Vietnam war, a child and family mental health outreach program in San Francisco's Tenderloin neighborhood, a secular, skill-based marriage preparation program (with his wife Dr. Michelle Gannon) and an international self-help program for adult survivors of child abuse based on his book 'Soul Survivors: A New Beginning for Adults Abused as Children'. Addressed to adults who suffered from child abuse of all kinds, this comprehensive guide is a model of clarity and organization. More recently, Dr. Gannon has developed a multi-modal treatment model for performance anxiety and peak performance training for musicians, athletes, public speakers, emergency medical and law enforcement personnel, soldiers, test takers, writers, and litigators. He sees clients in his San Francisco office and works nationally via Zoom. He is a member of the American Psychological Association and the Performing Arts Medicine Association. Website: www.PeakPerformance101.com.

Special Topic: 'Narcissism; what it is and why are so many survivors drawn to them as life partners?' Many in the NAASCA family have experienced this. Everyone's invited !!!! ~~ Carol and Laurie will lead the topic show. Just call in to participate !! ~~ (646) 595-2118 ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org  web site. MISSION: We have a single purpose at NAASCA, to address issues related to childhood abuse and trauma including sexual assault, violent or physical abuse, emotional traumas and neglect .. and we do so with only two goals: 1) educating the public, especially as related to helping society get over its taboo of discussing childhood sexual abuse (CSA), presenting facts showing child abuse to be a pandemic, worldwide problem that affects everyone 2) offering hope and healing through numerous paths, providing many services to adult survivors of child abuse and information for anyone interested in the many issues involving prevention, intervention and recovery

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight's special guest is Dr Jaime Romo from San Diego, an educator, consultant, author, and Minister, who promotes prevention and healing from child sexual abuse, particularly abuse by religious authorities or in the context of religious settings. A workbook he wrote, Healing the Sexually Abused Heart: A Workbook for Survivors, Thrivers, and Supporters, is an integration of various disciplines that led Jaime to become a certified Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) facilitator. Jaime explains, “While it is no secret that I am a survivor of clergy abuse, it is the journey of integration, transformation and application that is most telling about my accomplishments and the life that I celebrate.” Visit his web site: www.jaimeromo.org. ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is Lynn Crook from Seattle, Washington, a survivor, an author and an activist. Lynn's story is as fascinating as it is heartbreaking, powerful and inspiring, and perfect to share for NAASCA family members in April, which marks both National Child Abuse Prevention Month and Sexual Assault Awareness Month. In 1991, Lynn sued her parents for damages after recovering memories of abuse by her father. Following a month-long trial in 1994, the judge ruled in her favor at a time when most popular press was telling us that adults' accusations of childhood sexual abuse were false memories. Lynn is the author of 'False Memories: The Deception That Silenced Millions', which explores her personal story of surviving sexual abuse and focuses the lens on the harmful mindset that therapists can plant false memories into patients. Her own experiences recovering memories of childhood sexual abuse sparked a life-long mission to give voice back to those who were silenced. What's this all about? When states allowed adults who were molested as children to sue for damages, accused parents went on the offense. The parents claimed the accusations were false memories implanted by therapists. The parents established a non-profit and invested millions in a PR campaign to promote themselves as falsely accused, and to dismiss crimes committed against children as false memories. As evidence, they offered the story of an older brother who convinced his younger brother he was lost at a mall. The false memory story went viral. The popular press and psychology textbooks failed to challenge false memory claims. Individuals who challenged false memories were silenced. The author explains how her successful lawsuit against her parents helped her uncover the rest of the false memory story.

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight the special co-host is Dean Tong from Port Richey, Florida, a  Trial Consultant, Author, Nationally Certified Child Forensic Interviewer and Subject Matter Expert. "I am a forensic trial consultant," he says, "and expert in the area of cognitive child developmental psychology and structured interviews of children allegedly molested, child sex abuse therapy, parental alienation, sexual deviancy/interest testing and child abuse investigations in juvenile, criminal, family and administrative courts across America." He has a web site at: www.abuse-excuse.com ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is Keeper Catran-Whitney from Woodland Hills, California, a child abuse activist. Keeper is the author of a soon-to-be-released book 'HELPLESSNESS: The Hidden Trauma Brother Experience After We Learn Our Sisters Have Been Sexually Abused By Our Parent', the first of a three book series, Helplessness, Hopefulness and Happiness. In 1977, his family made Billboard Magazine's Top 100 for both an album and a single. After years of living in poverty, they could see their way out when Motown Records called. "Days before we were to sign our contract, my brothers and I learned a dark family secret. My stepfather had been sexually abusing my four sisters for years, and my mother knew all along!" It took years for Keeper talk to them because his oldest sister had said to her four innocent brothers, 'It didn't happen to you boys. It only happened to us girls. You can't talk about it - EVER!'" The brothers needed to talk to someone, but the people they needed to speak to the most - their sisters - wanted nothing to do with the four boys. Keeper points out that there are no books and no articles about a brothers' torment, guilt and shame. "We can and must become allies with our sisters in the fight against child sexual abuse." Without this alliance, an invisible, unspoken wedge exists between sisters and brothers. "There are no support groups or even a one-step program. There is currently no outlet for brothers. There is no support system." He concludes, "We can and must become allies with our sisters in the fight against child sexual abuse. Brothers need a voice in the child sexual abuse space."

Jane has had enough. She's fled her arranged marriage, murdered a bit here and there, been manipulated, been powerless, and now you're telling her WHAT about her trusted WHAT?! The reveal of the decade that left Laura Marie and Jessica Marie reeling is just one of the surprises that await the reader in Shadows and Lies, the follow-up to Ruin and Roses. Jane is in a new land after her flight from marriage and now has a price on her head. Barred from her own country, Jane has no choice but to lean on the allies that saved her even though their motives are...vague. If you wanted more politics, more training montages, more travel, and more spice then you are in luck. Friendships, sisterhood, and acceptance are themes that we love at ACOFAE and they are on full display here. "Once upon a time there was a boy with a thief's heart and a girl with emerald eyes...Do they fall in love?" Follow Deanna Ortega! Instagram: @DeannaOrtegaAuthor (https://www.instagram.com/deannaortegaauthor/) (https://www.instagram.com/deannaortegaauthor/) Tiktok: @Deanna.Orama (https://www.tiktok.com/@deanna.orama) (https://www.tiktok.com/@deanna.orama) Deanna's Linktree (https://linktr.ee/DeannaMOrtegaAuthor): https://linktr.ee/DeannaMOrtegaAuthor TW / CW: suicide, sexual assault For additional TW/CW information for your future reads, head to this site for more: https://triggerwarningdatabase.com/ Author's CW/TW for her book, Shadows and Lies: Violence (Graphic), Death, Mature Content, Mature Language, Sexual Content, Mental Abuse, Physical Abuse, Misogyny, Sexual Coercion, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide (Mentioned), Sexual Assault, Death of a Parent, Child Abuse, Animal Death (Mentioned)// Spoilers: Crescent City: House of Sky and Breath (HOSAB). Please note we call out the spoiler before mentioning it so feel free to skip ahead at that part! Mentions: Skin of the Sea, The Cruel Prince *Thank you for listening to us! Please subscribe and leave a 5 star review and follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/acofaepodcast/) at @ACOFAEpodcast and on our TikToks! TikTok: ACOFAELaura : Laura Marie (https://www.tiktok.com/@acofaelaura?) ( https://www.tiktok.com/@acofaelaura) ACOFAEJessica : Jessica Marie (https://www.tiktok.com/@acofaejessica?) (https://www.tiktok.com/@acofaejessica)

Tonight's special guest is Lang Martinez from Oxnard, California, a returning NAASCA family member. Lang was abused sexually and raped as a young person and has struggled to heal from the trauma and his alcohol and drug abuse ever since. When the topic of homelessness is brought up in Ventura County, a single name comes quickly to mind: Lang Martinez. Martinez has built a reputation for himself as the only homeless advocate to have come from the same streets he now walks through with his head held high. He knows the community well, and shares his methodology by writing in VCRreporter, Monticito Journal, Fillmore Gazette, Vc Star, Citizens Journal, La Crescenta Valley Weekly, Keys To Recovery Newspaper and more. He recently wrote, "Being homeless and being a vagrant are two completely different set of problems." His peer-to-peer approach has cemented his name among other professionals in his field and Lang sees a lot of waste. "In my estimation, the funds being allocated to address homelessness lack public scrutiny and transparency." Although his entire adult life has been marred with risky behavior, drug addiction, imprisonment, and homelessness, he has managed to legitimatize himself with a career, family, and an unwavering passion to help others. Today, Lang shares his story of what it takes to recover from the serious addiction that left him homeless and dead on the streets. Lang Martinez is fighting for his life, to stay sober and to stay out of prison. He has surrounded himself with surrogate professionals who believe Lang can survive. He's like a candle blowing in the night searching for a destiny that is elusive, yet he lives deeply inside the salvation that will allow him to finally live in peace.

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight the special co-host is Synova Cantrell from Missouri, an Award-Winning Author, Speaker, Coach and a Life-Long Seeker of Knowledge & Wisdom. After a decade in the world of true crime & victim advocacy, Synova has taken her 10,000 hours of study and entered the self help field. Synova's a certified NLP Life Coach through the American Union of NLP. She's also the owner of Synova's Simply Biz author coaching service and an award-winning crime writer with over 300 cases under her belt. One of her books was even endorsed by a retired FBI Agent! To top it all off, a flag was flown over the Capitol in Washington D.C. to honor her cold case work!!! Now, Synova is using her study and experience to inspire, motivate and educate her audience. Synova's life coaching includes elements of NLP, practical psychology, ancient principles, and biochemistry. You can live a more abundant life and enjoy the journey! ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is Dr. Pamela Pine, PhD, MPH, founder and CEO of Stop the Silence: Stop Child Sexual Abuse, a non-profit, charitable 501(c)3 organization, with a Mission to expose and stop child sexual abuse and help survivors heal worldwide. Pamela is a longstanding NAASCA family member who has just published a wonderful new book, 'Stop the Silence – Thriving After Child Sexual Abuse', now available on Amazon and and published by Brave Healer Productions. In it, 23 survivors and professionals make contributions. Pamela says " Thanks to the efforts of experts, healers, and survivors and their supporters around the globe, we're preventing CSA (child sexual abuse) and promoting healing of victims and survivors, celebrating the lives of those healed, and underscoring CSA as social justice and civil rights issues." She goes on, "This brave collaboration brings together real stories and powerful tools from practitioners and survivors who have been on the front lines of the fight for justice and healing." NAASCA knows well how long and hard fought this effort has been. Pamela continues. "Together, we're normalizing the conversations around CSA; bringing awareness, training, and education to communities; changing norms; and empowering victims, survivors, and their families and other supporters." The goals of her non profit are: 1) to promote healing of victims and survivors; and 2) to celebrate the lives of those healed. Through their work, "Stop The Silence" aims to address the relationships between CSA and the broader issues of overall family and community violence, and violence within and between communities.

Q & A call-in discussion with a survivor-professional, using an OPEN MIKE forum. We'll feature a survivor-professional co-host who'll field topics brought to the episode by you, the listener. ~~ Tonight's special guest is Rev Henry (Hank) McGrath from Caroga Lake, New York, a child abuse survivor, author and NAASCA volunteer. Hank began life in a poor Irish family with 4 siblings in NY. Both parents were alcoholics. At 11 he was hustling to survive in Pittsburgh, PA with bookies, pimps, and prostitutes. It was dangerous for a child alone. Eventually he served time in the juvenile detention system and as a young adult in prison for crimes he'd committed. After decades of hard living and a few near-death situations, he began facing his childhood trauma and by the 90's was happily married. When his beloved wife died from cancer in 2001 Hank promised her to fight for others on the issues of child abuse. Since then, he has worked with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, as a court advocate for youth, and more. Today, Hank is a minister and is very active in his community. ~~ On these episodes we welcome various co-hosts, survivor-professionals who'll assist in fielding questions and lead a variety of topics suggested by our call-in participants. Their trauma-informed perspectives as survivor-professionals will help them guide discussions on the issues of child abuse, trauma and healthy human sexuality that spring from questions and topics brought to us by our listeners. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show. ~~ Please visit the NAASCA.org web site.

Tonight's special guest is Bob Eden from Airlie Beach, Queensland, Australia, a survivor who shares his story in his own descriptive, articulate words. During his own journey with depression, which began in 1984, he developed a drug free protocol for recovering from depression. "Based on the Re-evaluation Counselling process, in which I trained in the 90's, I found a way through by going within and listening to my heart and body. No special tools or books are required, there is nothing to buy, for everyone has their own innate healing tools, and my role is to help people find them," he says. "After more than 20 years of fighting depression, psychologists, psychiatrists and many cycles of medication, one simple personal insight brought me home. To all those beautiful people who have suffered from depression I say 'Thank you.' Simply, thank you for doing such a wonderful job!" Bob explains his childhood trauma, "Mum was prone to violent outbursts of rage, so I got the crap beaten out of me for many years." The message he got was she does not love me." He goes on, "Dad was a mythical being who was always at work, so the message I got was 'Dad never spends any time with me, therefore he does not love me.' Bob became a people-pleaser and totally abandoned his needs. Later, he took a 12-step course for Adult Children of Absent Parents which was helpful. "John Bradshaw's work on the Inner Child and Family of Origin opened the flood gates for me." Bob says, "I realized that I AM the only expert on my life." Bob concludes, "For me we are all victims of victims and if you don't hand it back, you pass it on. Time to break this multi-generational  cycle of abuse!"

Today I'm talking with Jason Hallberg, a friend of many years. He is a new podcaster, from the podcast ‘Rapping Life,' which is currently in its early stages. Today, he is here to talk about childhood emotional neglect and the discoveries he has made through his soul journey. Emotionally Absent ChildhoodJason Hallberg grew up dealing with emotional neglect throughout his childhood. His father was absent from his life and his mother raised him in the same manner she was raised. His mother's boyfriend created an environment of verbal and emotional abuse as well as excessive drug and alcohol use. Jason was quick to lash out and fight in elementary school, and after being expelled in 4th grade and seeing the impact it had on his mother, became closed off and hyper-independent.Jason recalls meeting his best friend in junior high whom he described as changing his life. His friend lived an entirely different lifestyle, with a functioning family and more money than Jason, who felt he didn't bring anything to the table. Growing up poor, he recounts that everything seemed to connect back to money. However, that friend was the beginning of him changing his mindset and accepting that he could be loved and have value as a person, regardless of social status.Noticing and Breaking PatternsJason's soul-searching began about a year ago. He was unhappy at his job, and after he left and went through a breakup at the same time, began to notice patterns in the relationships in his life. He learned about attachment styles, which led to childhood trauma, and from there had a series of epiphanies about his own life and how his early years still affect him in the present day. Most of Jason's healing has been done without a therapist, which he credits to just being honest with himself. He would take early morning walks, starting with affirmations and then later finding meditation. Ideas began to come to him about what he wanted, eventually leading to his podcast. Freeing Yourself From Your ThoughtsToday, Jason is applying the wisdom he's learned to his own life. He accepted that something in his life set him down a different path than the people around him, and from there has made an effort to move forward. “Keep doing something that's uncomfortable,” he says, “until it feels comfortable.” For him, that's been being emotionally vulnerable with his mother and having more open conversations about his childhood. Jason tries to practice honesty with himself and with the people around him. He is aware of how our thoughts shape our reality and what other people tell themselves. In his day-to-day life, he tries to be more uplifting and honest with those around him. If he were able to talk to his younger self, Jason would remind himself that people do care about him and that he is not alone. To listeners, he hopes they know the value of open and honest communication not just with your loved ones but with yourself, as well. Listen in to hear more about childhood neglect, reconnecting with estranged family members, and setting boundaries with the people you love. 

WARNING: This interview contains descriptions of violence and sex that are not suited for children below the age of 12. February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. My guest, Dee Dee Said, was involved in an abusive teen dating relationship between the ages of 16 and 19; she shares about the raw details in her book, It Doesn't Start with a Punch: My Journey through an Abusive Teen Dating Relationship. While it's hard to hear Dee Dee describe the emotional, verbal, and physical abuse she endured, she offers valuable insight into the subtle ways her abuser drew her in and kept her fearful enough to not disobey or anger him. As parents, educators, neighbors, and church friends of tweens through college aged young adults, we NEED TO KNOW these warning signs.A few statistics to be aware of:·        1 in 10 teens will experience teen dating violence·        Youth ages 12 to 19 experience the highest rates of rape and sexual assault·        62% of tweens surveyed said they knew friends who had been verbally abused (called stupid, worthless, ugly, etc.) by a boyfriend or girlfriendThe National Dating Abuse helpline number is 1.866.331.9474Please listen to this interview yourself first for your knowledge. Then, I do encourage you to invite a tween through college aged young adult to listen to it with you. Have a conversation after listening to Dee Dee's interview together.  To learn more about Dee Dee, please visit buildstrongfoundations.comOrder Dee Dee's book, It Doesn't Start with a Punch: My Journey through an Abusive Teen Dating Relationship, on Amazon.

Today I'm talking with Clayne Edward Wayman. He's a sought-after mortgage professional, as well as a speaker, mentor, and founder of the Vasper platform where he shares spiritual insight and mentorship. He's a recent author and a husband and father of four. Today, he's here to share his story and talk about the importance of trust.Growing Up in a Polygamist SectClayne grew up in a Mormon fundamentalist polygamist community. His mother was a first wife of 12, and Clayne was the first of 45 children who were primarily homeschooled. He married his first wife when he was 21, and then remarried after their divorce. Both were members of the same fundamentalist community, based in Arizona. Clayne explains that multiple Mormon fundamentalist groups still practice polygamy. These sects view polygamy as a cornerstone of the religion. Growing up, Clayne thought his lifestyle was completely normal— ‘monogamist' was the worst insult that he knew. However, in 2008 and 2009, he started questioning the environment he was raised in, and by 2017, had left the community entirely. Life Outside ReligionClayne slowly came to realize that his life's direction did not lie with the church. He began testing his doubts when the president of the community read from scripture that God would tell him if one of them sinned. Clayne found this as an opportunity to test it and began experimenting with women outside of his marriage. Not only did the religious leaders not immediately know, but they also called him to say that they wanted to arrange for him what they claimed to be a God-ordained marriage. This was his checkmate. Clayne fully left the community in 2017—with his second wife. He had shared all of his doubts with her before they married and later when he was contemplating leaving. Both times, the trust paid off. His wife left with him, and the two of them were able to step into a deeper and more trusting relationship. Clayne continues to stand, as he says, ‘on the rock of integrity.' Spirituality and Self-DiscoveryWhen telling his president that he was leaving, Clayne recalls the president telling him that he had never found a better way of life. He endeavors now to show people that there is a much better way. Clayne has had several spiritual awakenings and practices the shamanic ancient wisdom. He's used ayahuasca, Psilocybin, and other plant medicines, and has learned to see the signs of divine love and wisdom in everyday life. Clayne's book, “Echoes of Resounding Love,” shares his story as well as techniques for readers to learn more about themselves. He delves into psychology and how to trust your own unique process of discovery. “There are things the heart knows that the head may not even be able to fully wrap around,” he says. Clayne hopes that his readers, as well as the listeners of this podcast, learn to trust in the process—and trust that the universe has better things in store for you. Listen in to hear more about Mormon fundamentalists and polygamy, ayahuasca and plant medicine for trauma survivors, and generational trauma. Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webConnect with Clayne on the Vasper websiteSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Amanda Lee is a domestic abuse survivor and the author of the new book One of The Lucky Ones. 1 in 3 women have experienced physical violence by an intimate partner. This extraordinarily common form of abuse silences victims and paralyzes them with terror, a pattern Amanda is all too familiar with. In this episode, Amanda shares her dramatic story. Like so many women, over time her fairy-tale romance became increasingly turbulent and violent. And like so many, she felt at times that her future looked bleak, but through courage she eventually found freedom. Amanda is a sixth-grade teacher and lives with her two children in Fairfax County, Virginia, where she pursues her passion for writing and advocating for fellow victims of domestic abuse.   Wendy and Amanda discuss non-physical forms of domestic abuse like gaslighting, belittling and emotional abuse; why it can feel impossible to leave an abusive partner; how to support a loved one who is in an abusive relationship; how to know when it's time to leave; and how the legal system is failing women when it comes to protecting them from abusive situations. This is such an important topic – please listen!   Amanda's book: https://www.amazon.com/One-Lucky-Ones-Lee/dp/B0BLQYK4MF Amanda's website: www.authoraelee.com

Today I'm talking with Charles Smith, an author, advocate, and lifelong survivor who uses his story as proof that you can overcome the worst that life has to offer. He has been an orphan, homeless veteran, and suicide survivor, and uses his pain as a building block to support others. Today, he's here to speak loud about bringing awareness to complex PTSD. Compounding TraumasCharles' mother passed away when was 6, followed later by his father at age 11. As a child, he moved often, and from the PTSD found it difficult to create close relationships. His sister recalls that he didn't speak for 6 months after they moved in with their aunt and uncle following his father's death. Charles says that he was in shock and depressed, and afraid of getting close to people only to lose them again. As a young adult, Charles joined the army infantry, serving in Cuba and in the reserves. However, after his uncle and grandfather passed away, Charles found himself a homeless veteran. The depression led him to self-harm and an eventual suicide attempt. He was taken to a mental health facility and later bounced between veteran shelters for 5 years. This crucible, he explains, was actually what helped turn his life around. He no longer felt alone, seeing others in similar circumstances, and changed his views. Understanding Complex PTSD When Charles first experienced PTSD, it was known as battle fatigue and thought to only affect veterans. By the time he grew up, it was concluded that anyone who went through trauma could have PTSD. Standard PTSD forms from one specific trauma. Complex or compound PTSD, however, Charles describes as a layered cake. You can't have multiple instances of PTSD, but you can have multiple traumas that manifest in the same illness. After being diagnosed, Charles wanted to learn as much about PTSD as possible and help other veterans receive the support they needed. He offered help to veterans returning from Afghanistan and Iraq, as well as created programs for various organizations to use what he had learned about PTSD. He's written 7 books on a range of subjects, including PTSD, addiction recovery, and financial well-being. Giving and Receiving HelpPresently, Charles is working with Aware Recovery Care, an addiction treatment organization that specializes in in-home treatment. He works with clients for 52 weeks as they battle addiction. This way, he's able to support people in their homes for a longer period.Charles' advice to listeners is to never give up. When he talks about his suicide attempt, he tells people that it was ten years ago and that his son is now ten years old. Without him, his son wouldn't be here, either, along with many other great things he's received since then. Charles says that he would “rather see someone get help than go to another wake.” He hopes that listeners will feel empowered by his story. Listen in for tools on managing PTSD symptoms, accepting the loss of loved ones, and Charles' upcoming book and other projects. Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webFind Charles' books on his websiteContact Aware Recovery CareSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Today I'm talking with Papa Ray Hurst, a husband, father, and personal coach. After surviving two major depressions, he's now leading people to freedom through his work as a speaker, author, pastor, and business owner. Today, he is here to speak loud about absent and abusive fathers and the social struggles that can be traced back to these roots. Returning to Core BeliefsPapa Ray's greatest desire “is to be for the world what the world was not for me when I needed them the most.” His father left when he was 4, and he grew up in a Mennonite community that wasn't equipped to handle the separation. He recounts that his relatives didn't know what to do for him and no one stepped up to fill the space of father-figure, which led to his depressions later in life. Ray talks about the importance of identifying your dominant thoughts and returning to the core imprint of the subconscious, or the core beliefs. Narratives created in childhood—almost always before 10, Papa Ray says—are difficult to shake but necessary to change. A simple step to this hard process is asking yourself through writing, ‘Why am I thinking this?' and digging deeper until you find the root cause. Freeing the MindFrom his own experience and others', Papa Ray says abuse and trauma are never the victim's fault, but holding onto resentment towards the abuser will block healing. He shares that his father was “looking for what he couldn't find” when he left, but that wasn't Ray's fault. By shaming and blaming the other person, you'll never be free. Ray believes that we can overcome any and every trauma we encounter. But forgiveness is key. He leads his own students to freedom by changing their beliefs of worthlessness and being unlovable. The abuser was broken and empty, and while they should still endure consequences, it's unfair to the victim to continue punishing themselves mentally after the trauma has already ended. No one can live a healthy life until they let go of that resentment and blame. Healing Parental WoundsAs a personal development coach, Papa Ray shares his five simple steps to freedom with his clients, as well as his own father's blessing. He shares that more than 90% of his clients were not loved by their fathers and all benefited greatly from his father's blessing, which he shares in this episode. Papa Ray's book, “Daddy Why Don't You Love Me? A Father's Blessing to a Daughter, Healing the Wounds of the Absent and Abusive Father,” also details his own story, apologies, and blessings. No matter how good a parent's relationship with their child is, he says that there are no perfect parents out there, and everyone can benefit from learning how to identify and heal parental wounds. He hopes that listeners realize that they are valuable and loved, just as he did, and that everything is “one thing, one step. We don't jump up mountains.” Listen in to learn more about Papa Ray's 5 simple steps to freedom, his plans for the next five years, and a sample of his father's blessing.Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webConnect with Papa Ray on his websiteSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Topics: Emotional Abuse, Physical Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Pornography, Adult Children, Sexual Integrity, Divorce, Homeless, Siblings Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Chris Williams Caller Questions: I was emotionally and physically abused by my mom as a child and abandoned by my dad; what do I do next?  I'm emotionally distant from my wife after telling her I looked at porn; is this normal?  What's our The post New Life Live: February 2, 2023 appeared first on New Life.

Before you proceed, I  want to warn you, that this episode does contain graphic content that some may find disturbing.Vivace is a very bright woman who received her undergraduate and graduate degree in Biology from Cornell University. She worked in the medical field for twelve years before becoming  a speaker and life coach.My guest explains that "my mother was my BFF and she lives for her children." This was all terribly hard because Vivace always wanted her mother "to feel  valued and honored yet she was at the bottom of everyone's totem pole."Unfortunately, the abuse toward she and her mother started when Vivace was very young and continued until both women left the family, leaving behind the two sons as they chose to remain with their father. Yet, Vivace recalls asking her mother on a regular basis  "can we leave today, can we leave today" but it was years before they left.  From a young age, Vivace would confront her father verbally about the abuse, but her bravery came with a price. With $100 in their pocket, both women left the horrific beatings behind and found shelter with family members who unfortunately knew of the abuse, but never came to Jaleh's rescue.Through many years of depression, pain, anger, resentment and a planned suicide,  Vivace began her healing process through therapy, research and seeking the truth. She uses her past experience as a tool to help her clients improve their self worth and confidence through compassion and understanding. Ultimately, the client has to realize that the possibilities are limitless.  Website:https://fierceselfconfidence.comInstagram: @vivacemaxvictorYouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNiDk4sN1vUlYOrQ_gg8mDAAbout Vivace: MEDIAVivace was most recently featured on NETFLIX' “Buying Beverly Hills” – which was one of NETFLIX Top 10 shows when it airedVivace has also been featured on:Bravo's Million Dollar Listing NYFox BusinessFox NationCourtTVNewsmaxMedia commentator on celebrity relationships and scandals such as Tom & Gisele, Brad and Angelina, Alec Baldwin, Joe Rogan, Simone Biles, Johnny Depp and others.

Today I'm talking with Dr. Nghi Dang, a family medical physician of over ten years. He's provided care to all ages for both mental and physical health, giving him a deeper view of the importance of mental health. He's the author and illustrator of the “The Adventures of Max and Friends” children's series and father of 2. Today, Nghi is here to speak loud about responding to mental health proactively rather than reactively and encouraging preventative action. Understanding Trauma and Mental IllnessNghi was born in Vietnam and immigrated to the United States when he was 6. The culture shock turned his world upside down and he felt alone and outcasted in his new home. Despite his initial struggles with school, Nghi went on to follow his siblings' examples in medicine and pursue a career as a doctor. Nghi explains that mental illness is often diagnosed when patients come in to treat symptoms that seem unexplained. Trauma and stress can affect the body in more ways than we might know, as Nghi explains, and there is a strong connection between trauma and the somatic system—which is a web of chronic symptoms one might feel in the body. Through his profession, he's come to understand the stigma around talking about mental illness. Practicing Mental WellnessNghi believes that love will always triumph over hate and that taking care of yourself is a crucial part of your health and wellbeing. He shares inexpensive healing modalities, other than medication, such as cognitive behavior therapy for those with anxiety. Treatment requires effort and time on both sides of the patient, Nghi says. Yoga, meditation, and other practices that allow you to sort through emotions such as journaling and therapy are also helpful. Nghi also recommends mindfulness meditation which is derived from Buddhist wisdom. It's easily accessible online and for free and, unlike other meditations, encourages the meditator to focus on the moment at hand. Mindfulness meditations are often guided, which Nghi believes is beneficial for those with trauma, guiding thoughts away from triggering subjects and back into the body. Proactively Addressing Mental HealthNghi believes in treating mental health proactively rather than reactively. Often, he feels that we fall behind and are often playing catch-up when it comes to our mental wellbeing. For this reason, he wrote his children's book series, “The Adventures of Max and Friends” to open up a dialogue between parents and children around mental health. Nghi has written 8 books, all on different mental health topics that he gears towards middle ages. One book centers on bullying, for example, and another follows learning disabilities. Through writing and also his medical practice, he hopes to give resources and the avenues needed for parents to talk with their kids about mental health, and address mental illness before it becomes debilitating. Listen in to learn more about starting the conversation about mental health, stigmas around mental illness, and Nghi's beliefs on how grit and failure can lead to success. Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webFind Dr. Nghi Dang's books onlineSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Topics: Pornography, Verbal Abuse, Physical Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Emotional Abuse, Divorce Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Chris Williams Caller Questions: Without Every Man's Battle and Sustained Victory, I would have never recovered from sex addiction!  How do I let go of the verbal and physical abuse I experienced from my mom growing up?  When it is OK to get a divorce The post New Life Live: January 25, 2023 appeared first on New Life.

Today I'm talking with Neil McKinlay, a meditation teacher and mentor who seeks to share his lifelong interest and reflection in the practice of meditation. Through his online communities, he offers a range of resources to encourage and empower meditation practitioners to access their inner wisdom and bring it into the world. Healing the Relationship with SelfNeil has been meditating since he was a teenager and has practiced in 2 separate Buddhist communities. However, the community was being driven by the spiritual leader's self-centered impulses, rather than healing and meditation. The manipulation and disrespect that Neil suffered from his teacher caused him to make the difficult decision to leave the community he had been a part of for twenty years.Neil left the community with a distorted relationship with himself and his intuition. He no longer works with a spiritual leader but is still reflecting on those twenty years and sifting through for the golden nuggets and silver linings of things he's learned and taken with him. Finding Places to GatherIn Neil's path to recovery and healing, he continued to turn towards his familiar practices of Buddhism and meditation. He has also gained a deeper appreciation for the importance of community, especially in light of COVID-19. Seeing how others were engaging in their lives with brilliance and creativity was a reminder to Neil of the same resilience and wisdom that lived inside himself. Meditation can offer something to heal trauma, Neil believes, but he also agrees that sitting in silence can be overwhelming for trauma survivors. His advice is to respect that experience of overwhelm as a message that meditation isn't the right tool at that moment. While meditation works for some people, other practices may feel safer and more effective, depending on the time. Neil says that this was part of his own experience, even with his deep connection to meditation. Inspiring Others With MeditationFor someone who's never meditated before, Neil suggests perusing the local library, YouTube, or podcasts for resources until something resonates with you, “like grocery shopping: just check things out based on what speaks to you.” There are many different languages and traditions of meditation, so he encourages listeners to explore what works for them.Neil offers resources of his own through his online communities. The Living Meditation Network is a free community that offers many of the meditation resources he mentions, such as writings, guided meditations, questions, and discussion boards. This and his subscription-based community are meant to be opportunities for people to gather, learn, and give and receive encouragement and inspiration weekly. Listen in to learn more about what happens when we meditate, online meditation communities, and Neil's future book and online curriculum. 

Topics: Adult Children, Estrangement, Teens, Physical Abuse, Divorce Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions: How do I mend my relationship with my adult son and daughter-in-law after they've banned me from their life?  Why is my 17yo daughter so hateful and disrespectful to me?  Two of my kids are getting married; should I contact my unfaithful ex-husband The post New Life Live: January 18, 2023 appeared first on New Life.

Today I'm talking with Kimberly Bell, inspirational speaker, minister, and mentor. She's the author of “Epitome of Kimberly: A Memoir of Finding Hope & Resilience.” She has 2 degrees, in Human Development and Psychology and in Theology. Through her books and talks, she inspires others to never give up hope and inspire others to solve societal issues. Today, she is here to speak loud about having the courage to be yourself and embrace your life. Learning to Choose HerselfKimberly describes her background of abandonment and abuse. She experienced abandonment from her parents and all forms of abuse. The ‘broken foundation' started for her when her parents, who were in a physically abusive relationship, left her to be raised by her aunt without explanation. As an adult, she had to accept that it happened but she was not responsible for things adults did to her. She explains how the abandonment and abuse she went through influenced her experience with relationships in adulthood. She always put other people first and focused on what she could offer others, not vice-versa. Eventually, she learned, “I had to choose me and I had to choose my healing.” From there, she began to break the cycle. Breaking Generational CyclesKimberly says that the process of learning love was hard and tiring. As an African American woman, she wasn't encouraged to embrace therapy for her mental health. She had a moment when, in a library, she asked God what direction to go, and looked up and saw a sign for a therapist. She called the number and broke the generational taboo in order to start her healing process. Several years later, Kimberly is single and the mother of 4 daughters and a grandmother. She uses the life lessons she's learned to live in the moment and choose herself. By being true to herself and continuing to push through challenges, she was able to teach her children a better way and is proud to see that they have all had an easier journey. Courageous Enough to Choose YouKimberly shares that whenever she told others her life story, she was always met with the response, “That sounds like a book.” She was receiving the signs to share her story but had to build the courage to go all the way back into her trauma to record it. She soon took the initiative, and states, “You don't have to accept or be defined by your past.” Why wouldn't she share her story and try to help someone else? Kimberly's memoir lays out the foundations of her life and the genuine truth of the lessons she's learned. She hopes that readers will see how she found her voice and be able to do the same. “Through God, nothing's impossible, but we have to go through the process." Kimberly hopes listeners feel empowered and courageous enough to put themselves first and begin their healing.Listen in to learn about Kimberly's journey with forgiveness, how she helps her community, and how to find resources and mentoring on her website. Resources MentionedJoin Me on Speak Loud PlatformSpeak Loud Podcast on the webConnect with Kimberly on her websiteSpread the message of Speak Loudly Podcast and share this episode with a friend!Please review our podcast disclaimer on our website

Topics: Sexual Integrity, Physical Abuse, Adult Children, Alcohol, Same-sex Attraction, Estrangement, Divorce, Grief Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: What do I do if my husband is a minister, tried to kill me, and is on websites for singles?  How do I help our granddaughter who lives with us? She is not interested in connecting with her mom, a recovering The post New Life Live: January 10, 2023 appeared first on New Life.