Revamp

What are you going to do differently this time around in your dating life to attract something different in your life outside of your norm?

What are your dating processes? What are you really looking for when it comes to finding love? We have to get to the point of asking ourselves these hard questions, to get to that common denominator.

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Sometimes in order to see how far we have come, we have reflect on where we were before and see the beauty in the survival. You made it!

Are you at the point in your life where you are numb to the fact of failed results that you accept anything; just to say you are with someone. Be intentional about your process!

In the lonely season is where you find clarity of self. But most are afraid to sit at the table and face those fears. But in order to move forward you have to ask yourself those hard questions.

Your past hurt and trauma doesn't define your present and your future being. What lessons are you learning in your pain?

What are you doing differently than before to attract what is specifically meant for you? On this journey of finding love, we have to get outside of our norm in our preparation.

We tend to blame others on what we attract into our lives on this journey of finding love. We blame others instead of looking at what we can control in this regard to heal and take back our control.

Life has a way of testing us. Especially on this love journey; this particular hurt is a different type of hurt that if we don't face those let downs going forth we begin to attract our pain.

On this dating journey, truth be told you want to give up and throwing in the towel. Stay in fight and focus on self-healing.

On this journey of finding love, we tend to say the hell with it when things are not going our way or happening in our timing. Stay focus on your process!

Sometimes instead of doing the necessary work to heal, we tend to find comfort in our pain. We use hurt to attract more hurt, expecting people love use through our pain.

Negating that voice within that tells us that a person is not meant to be in our space is sometime the tipping point of emotions that sends us overboard. Not taking heed to that gut feeling.

On this journey of finding love, we have choices on how we choose to proceed. We have a choice on what we attract into our life in this regard, whether good or bad!

What I often find is that instead of people embracing the single phase or quote on quote the lonely phase of their lives; we begin to use other people for a temporary fix. This phase is meant for preparation of self.

We tend to sabotage our own happiness when finding love because we project our past relationships onto our new relationships; which causes us to attract out past hurts.

Women I want you to understand something, you are the prize! Enough said! You are the backbone of men; we need you to survive and vice versa.

Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves when our dating life and relationship life doesn't go as plan and it puts us in this mood of saying F#@& It; that's ok but we can't stay there. Don't let others Insecurities control your outcome.

More often than not, I find most people that is on their journey to find love; they are infatuated with the idea of love which causes them to be pushed further and further away from their designed partner.

More often than not, I see so many women chasing behind a man that does add any value to their lives; vice versa with men as well. And the intentional chase and pursuit is not reciprocal.

Ladies you are meant to be found not you searching. Trust the process and not rush the process on this journey. Do not force the hand.

Truly our words subconsciously have a make or break outcome over our love life and what we attract into our lives.

We have conformed to the mindset of just settling in this dating and relationship space for the sake of saying that I have a warm body next to me at night; which causes us to delay blessings in this space.

On this journey of finding love, we tend to negate the red flags along the way and we begin to settle by looking the other way.

Oftentimes we negate the red flags in hopes of change, but the change never comes and the words never line up with the actions. How we Navigate through that?

How many deposits are you making into your relationship and are deposits being reciprocal. Oftentimes, we become numb to acceptance of the constant withdrawals in our life; it becomes a norm. We have to command the value we are worth.

We tend to rush the process in finding and searching for love to speed up the timing process. In doing this we continue to push ourselves further away from the person we are meant to be with.

We focus so much on searching for Mr/Mrs. Right in our love life, that we negate the preparation it takes to receive them or attract them into our lives.

We sometimes lose ourselves in our dating experiences or relationships for the sake of others. In doing this we begin to forget that we are individuals first and we question our value.

If you really zone in and focus on your process and not just the fact of being lonely, you can really find clarity on the Why!

Sometimes in order for you to make it through the low moments and lonely moments we have to get to the point of enriching ourselves; even when other don't.

We pray and ask God to send us true love or send us someone that will appreciate us, but ask yourself are you in position or prepared to receive what you prayed for.

Oftentimes when we have experienced trauma and hurt in relationships and throughout the dating process, we begin to question our value and state of being a priority.

Oftentimes we lose sight of being intentional about the process of dating. We try speed up the process to fast track outcomes, but in reality it messes us up mentally.

Oftentimes we are to content with our norm dating and in relationships, but yet continue to stay on the same roller-coaster of hurt. In order to attract something different we have do things differently.

Every decision that we make in our dating life has a consequence attached to it; whether good or bad.

Sometimes when we feel that we are ready to move on in this journey of dating or relationship process, we tend to us others to mask our hurt; which actually causes us to fall for the triggers of our past.

Oftentimes in this process of finding love and dating, we hang onto the words of a person moreso than their actions.

Oftentimes when we are going through our tough times in our relationships, dating experiences, and breakups; we tend to let a person control our emotional happiness in this regard.

In every situation that has taken place in our lives, dating experiences, and in our relationships there are lessons that we need to learn. What are yours?

During our dating and relationship experiences, we oftentimes ask ourselves the "Why" questions. Observing the why in our situation will help us to draw out out factual conclusion about "The Why Factor"

At times during our healing process we where our vulnerability on shoulders, which distorts our judgment in dating process and finding love. Take ownership of what cause your to be in that vulnerable state.

Oftentimes we put so much stock into others to validate us and to make us feel whole. Doing this we sabotage our own happiness.

Believe it or not outside influences affect the way we move and communicate in out Relationship. We make impulse decisions base on influences.

Subconsciously when we want to attract what we are looking for in our dating process or relationships, we first have to take ownership of our past hurts!

Not asking those hard questions while going through your dating experiences that lead to an awesome relationship, can sometimes set us up for the hurt to come down the road.

Oftentimes we tend to look pass certain issues and flaws that does not add value to us in our love life.

In this day and time of relationships we love the feel good moments; the instant gratification aspects of dating.

Oftentimes in relationships and the dating process, we tend to forget about ourselves to appease others and we begin to become stagnant. How do we shift the norm?