Soju Black Podcast

***************TRIGGER WARNING*************** This episode is focused around natures of sexual violence, suicide, depression and such. As these are sensitive topics, please be mindful of your comments. This is a safe space, and we are here to talk, be there for each other, and help each other out, not break each other down. ********************************************************************* V and Keda continue the conversation from last week’s episode regarding sexual violence against women. V shares her story about her encounter with a man that almost stripped her of her womanhood. And Keda bravely publicly shares the details of her father’s suicide, for the first time in 15 years. As always, you can find us on social media: @thesojublack @imyourdaddy.zefling @misskeeds Below are the details (as promised) of the facilities you can contact if you live in South Korea and are ever in need of assistance regarding sexual abuse, violence, rape etc. __________________________________________________________________ KOREAN SEXUAL VIOLENCE RELIEF CENTER (KSVRC) http://www.sisters.or.kr/eng/load.asp?subPage=450 KSVRC (한국성폭력상담소) Tel 02-338-5801~2(available in English, Chinese, Vietnamese) Operating hours: 10a.m. – 5p.m. Website has some English __________________________________________________________________ SEOUL CRISIS INTERVENTION CENTRE English site: http://www.help0365.or.kr/eng.php **PLEASE NOTE BELOW: Response to sexual violence - Call 112 or report to the Seoul Crisis Intervention Center for Women and Children via phone (02-3672-0365). It is recommended that your visit to the center takes place before showering, bathing or washing hands to ensure collection of medical evidence such as sperm and hair that may be found on the clothes that you are wearing. - If you are in immediate danger, call 1366 for help. ** __________________________________________________________________ MINISTRY OF GENDER EQUALITY AND FAMILY: (supports the Danuri helpline) http://www.mogef.go.kr/eng/index.do Danuri Helpline in Seoul (Central) ☎1577-1366 - Services are available in 13 languages. Operates 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Other regional counseling centers and emergency shelters in Korea: *Suwon: 031-257-1841 *Daejeon: 042-488-2979 *Gwangju: 062-366-1366 *Busan: 051-508-1366 *Gumi, Gyeongbuk: 054-457-1366 *Jeonju, Jeonbuk: 063-237-1366 __________________________________________________________________ Gender Inequality Centers at Universities around Korea: Ajou University Sexual Violence Counseling Center Tel 031-219-1745 (may not have English speaker available) Website is in Korean only. Email: helper@ajou.ac.kr Hanyang University Gender Inequality Center Tel 02-2220-1444, 1783 (may not have English speaker available)) Website has information in English, Chinese Consulting can be done by phone and in person. Kookmin University Sexual Violence Counseling Center Tel 02-910-4231~2 (may not have English speaker available)) Website is in Korean only Email: sangdam@kookmin.ac.kr Consulting can be done by phone, e-mail and in person. Seoul National University Center for Sexual Assault Prevention Tel 02-880-5073 (may not have English speaker available) Website is in Korean only Email: helpyou@snu.ac.kr , online counseling in English is possible Consulting can be done by phone, in person and e-mail. Yonsei University Sexual Violence Counseling Center Tel 02-2123-2118 (may not have English speaker available)) Website is in Korean only Email: helpyou@yonsei.ac.kr Consulting can be done by phone, in person and e-mail.

**********TRIGGER WARNING******** *TRIGGER WARNING* ******* *Please note some of the stories that were shared on this episode were requested to be removed, due to the nature of the topic. Therefore, some of the edits may seem out of place. Please understand we are here to share stories that women are ready to share. However, once they have revealed they are not yet ready with their story going public, we will adhere to their request.* *Whew.* This episode was HEAVY #SBFam. We sat in studio today with our friend Muna. A current student in her Master's program at one of South Korea's most prestigious universities. As Muna is entering her final semester of her graduate studies, she is currently in the process of completing her Thesis; which deals with Sexual Abuse of International/Exchange Women in University. She shared the reasoning behind why she selected this topic. As well as why it is so important for her to conduct her studies and research regarding this type of sexual abuse. We also shared our own personal stories of sexual abuse/misconduct and why Muna's study means so much to us. As always we ended our episode with a game of 'What Would You Do?' This episode may be tough for some, but we felt this was important to share this with our viewers and to be as open and honest as possible, while still respecting the stories of others. If you are a current or previous International/Exchange student that attended Uni in South Korea and you have a personal story of sexual abuse, please contact Muna @whatthemuna. Your voices need to be heard. @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

DISCLAIMER: This episode contains sensitive information. This is one person's story, and this was also a learning episode for us. If something we say is offensive (we apologize ahead, as that was never the intention at all), please let us know so that we can become more educated about the LGBTQ+ community. On this episode, we had a chat with our non-binary friend, Bomi, This episode was so informative and we're truly grateful that Bomi joined us in studio to share they're stories. Bomi graciously shared they're stories with us and how they navigate through life being a non-binary human bean. They dug deep and shared some really sensitive info about living a non-binary existence from family, friends, lovers, and how they are dealing with their dysmorphia and depression every day. Follow Bomi on IG: @fresitamilk Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @imyourdaddy.zefling @misskeeds

We were definitely on the sauce with this one. This episode was hella saucy (no pun intended). Your fave duo spilt some soju with En the sauce - a group of young, black creators in Korea. We had the pleasure of being joined in studio by two of the members, Asha and Jameelah, and man did we have some good laughs! These ladies are hilarious, and their YouTube channel is bound to crack you up! This was a really energetic episode with lots of shade and straight up honesty all around. It was a pleasure to finally sit down with these beautiful ladies. It felt like a catchup sesh with a couple of old friends, and it was a lot of fun. Also, let's settle this once and for all... which one is better: NYC or Florida, and why? Hit us up on our IG: @thesojublack You can also catch Jameela (@thronetowolves) and Asha (@ashajebal) on their YT channel En the Sauce and on IG @enthesauce

On this episode, we are joined with Pinnacle The Hustler! DJ, club owner, rapper, entrepreneur basically a man that wears many hats. We sat  down with Pinnacle, to get to know more about his life prior to South Korea and how he got into rapping, DJing and how he became a club owner in South Korea. He tells us about his homelessness when he first moved to Korea and some other struggles he's faced. We touch on how it is being a black business owner in an Asian country. And he shares some gems and left both of us feeling extremely inspired.Get into this episode and get inspired! Make sure you follow Pinnacle on @iampinnacle and visit his dope hookah/hip hop lounge in Itaewon, 'Planet Hustle'.As always follow us:@thesojublack@imyourdaddy.zefling@misskeeds 

On this here episode, Soju Black fam, we had the pleasure of catching up with an old friend (an actual day 1), Arthur Hauser - whom, by the way, sculpted a mini soju bottle for us as a gift AND brought bottles of soju to the party too (our kind of house guest). We met Arthur during our first week in Korea and we are proud to witness his growth and the mark he's making as a creative in these streets. So on this episode, we talk about Hauser's life as a professional photographer in Korea. Mans is hungry for that creative energy and he is out there chasing it, all while working a full-time job as a young branch manager at his company. We touch on the things he looks for when creating his art, what makes him tick and what inspires him, the shitty models he's had to work with and the inspired. It's been a whirlwind of a journey, and we take you on Arthur's journey on this episode. So, tune in as we dig deep into Hauser's brain for some inspo and the nuggets of motivational quotes he graciously drops ever-so-often. To check out Arthur's work, follow his IG: @arthur.hauser Follow us on our socials: @thesojublack @imyourdaddy.zefling @misskeeds

This episode is loud, opinionated, and raucous. LISTEN AT YOUR OWN RISK!! Ladies and gentlemen - we present to you, the other half of... We Fancy!! We were joined in studio by the one and only infamous and controversial, H-A-E-P-P-Y. Mr Haeppy is the other half of the YouTube famous 'We Fancy' duo and we were excited to finally have him on the show to be our 2020 opening act. We talked about A LOT of things on this pod, and some of them left us speechless. Join in on the conversation and let us know your thoughts on some of Haeppy's opinions and views. And since he dubs himself as a natural-born f**k boi, we had to test this claim. You know we love games on this show. So, using our 100% accurate and scientifically proven SBP F**kboi or Flunkboi test, we came to the conclusion that Haeppy is in fact a................ Follow Haeppy on IG: @cuzimhaeppy and @wefancybrand Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

**DISCLAIMER - this is a fully sexual episode, so if you're (sadly) iffy about dirty sex talk, then you have been warned. "BIG BOOTY BECKA BIG BIG BOOTY BECKA" in the building!! On this episode, we were joined with the bad ass self-proclaimed International THOT, Big Booty Becka herself! This is one of our most fun recordings to date y'all. Big Booty Becka sat down with your girls and we had a raw, and dirty conversation about her shenanigans around the world as a thotty. And all the whorrible decisions we've made out in these streets. Becka tells all about her adventures to find premium dick, how she learned to give mean head, trashy men that have no respect for the consent code, and all the fun sex in between. Being an International THOT ain't easy, but it sure can be a lot of fun because sexual liberation is so freeing and exhilarating! Tune in to this episode to find out all the dirty details we get into with Big Booty Becka. Follow Becka on her IGs: @bigbootybecka and @chittychitty.chainchain Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

Are we all actually just on our worst behaviour out in these streets? LOL!! So on this episode, we had a chat with one of our friends @erinleighbrill - who is a graduate study-abroad student. You need to follow her on IG, because her stories will make you laugh ALL DAY!! Erin made us realise that regardless of your job or status as a foreigner in Korea, we all pretty much go through similar experiences. We talked about her adjustment to Korean student life compared to the US, the raw and honest truth about her experience and how foreign students are treated here, compared to Korean students. Right down to the fun bits about all the f**kbois she's encountered in the clubs (again, her IG stories will have you rolling on the floor). As well as how she got through life in Korea by using her 'foreigner privilege' card to get by (just like A LOT of us), instead of learning the language - which, let's be honest, is actually quite taxing. It's a fun episode filled with little nuggets of interesting experiences, lots of laughter, lots of shots, and of course, V's f**kery as always! And on this episode, we also give our most appreciated shoutout to Ariana AKA @spriteandsoju (Instagram) for being such a great supporter. We appreciate you, girl! Follow Erin on her IG page: @erinleighbrill Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

This week, we had a sit-down with one of our friends who started off as a teacher in Korea, but has recently become a consultant at Seoul Guide Medical. Joseph aka Brosef, takes us on his 5-year journey here and how he eventually became a consultant at Korea's largest and most trusted government approved medical tourism service provider. We talk about the importance of skin care, as well as the convenience of plastic surgery in Korea. We had a very honest conversation about the beauty standards in Korea. His thoughts about noninvasive and evasive surgery. As well as the effects of self esteem he has faced. We end our conversation with a really fun game of “What surgery should we get”! This episode is not only fun, but extremely informative! If you are thinking of coming to Korea and are scared due to the language barrier. This company assists majority foreigners as they speak English and can provide you with the best doctors possible. For more information on Seoul Guide Medical please find them on YouTube. As well as following them on their Instagram for further questions or concerns. Follow their IG page: @seoulguidemedical Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

WOW WOW WOW!! This week's episode was a mad trip for your girls. We were joined in studio by none other than Mr. Sam Okyere himself. The atmosphere in the room was eclectic and smelt of pure success and hard-work. After our chat with Sam, we were left in awe, inspired and hungry to take on the world. On this episode, we had the opportunity to get to know Sam from the ground up. From his up-bringing in Ghana and all the ass-whoppings he got when he was a naughty little boy, to how he developed his "ladies man swag" by attending youth meetings at church, right up to the moment he kissed the African soil goodbye and hopped on that plane to Korea. We also discussed his a family life, touched up on his love life and his adventures as an entrepreneur AND SO MUCH MORE!!!! Listen till the end! We gave you guys a little treat of some of the convo we had with Sam while setting-up in studio before we started the show. Remember, you're the only person that can stand between you and your success and our guest this week is the purest living form of that. Follow Sam on IG @samokyere1 Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

On this episode your Soju Black duo is joined with Queen and Bang aka The Seoul Mates; an interracial couple dating in South Korea. They spill all the Soju on how and where they first met and who approached who. They also share the difficulties and discrimination they’ve encountered dating as an AMBW couple. And how they combat it together. We end this episode with a fun game of Fck, Marry, Ignore! With so much more in between! Please go and follow Queen and Bang on their IG: @the_seoul_mates Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

On this episode, the Soju Black power duo is joined by a real life Global Citizen in the flesh. Sherazade is a beautiful mix of Congolese X Moroccan, born and raised in France, studied in Korea and now resides in London. She shares with us the plans about her documentary, which is centred around showing the raw and unfiltered lives of real expats around the world and their experiences living in a foreign land, which some documentaries don't really show us. We were excited to sit down with this lovely lady and find out what sparked her passion for this project. And we're just as excited for you to meet her on this episode. Follow her IG @sherazademtg Follow us on IG: @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

By now you've probably heard or seen this video that's making it's rounds on YouTube. A week ago, a YouTuber who goes by 올리버쌤or also known as “Oliver Teacher”, posted a video highlighting all the "bad" things about a small town in Fort Worth, Texas. A neighborhood that is predominantly black/brown people and what Koreans should look out for in these “dangerous neighborhoods”. @thesojublack provides our views on why this video is dangerous and our feelings on what was depicted within this video. We were also joined by Sam Han, a Korean-American who was raised in Chicago, USA. He provides his own personal experiences as a Korean living in America, in both a predominantly white neighborhood and a predominant black/brown neighborhood. This video has sparked quite a reaction from expats and Koreans and we felt it was important to use our platform to share our personal views. We would love to hear from you all your thoughts and if you agreed or disagreed in the comments below. If you haven’t seen the video please follow the link below (English Subtitles). https://youtu.be/29ZhKo-o2fc Also, we want to shoutout @kenniejd for bringing this video to light and for calling him out. @thesojublack @misskeeds @imyourdaddy.zefling

If you're an active member in any POC expat groups, you probably know this guest we have on on this episode. Because he's probably your friend too!! We had the pleasure of being graced in studio by the one and only The Incredible Beast aka Kenrick. We had a young catchup with our Grenadian DJ friend who specialises in soca, calypso, dancehall and reggae music. He's played for audiences in Japan and South Korea and we hope he continues to sprinkle that Caribbean love all around Asia. Follow him on IG: @realtwiinstar

On this week's episode, your faves discuss the rocky road towards financial stability. Not everything is at it seems on social media. We've had our fair share of issues and struggles. We cannot stress to you enough, how important it is to have a specific goal for what you want to do with your money and finding the right bank in Korea and setting up the right financial plan to suit your lifestyle. Not knowing any better, we've gotten ourselves in deep financial troubles with cell phone companies and banks when we first moved to Korea. Follow us on the journey as we discuss our debts, loans, savings, spendings, salaries and bills and how we've recovered from the decisions made by our younger selves when we first moved here.

On this episode the #SojuBlack duo is joined with 1/2 of WeFancy, Xander. He’s a YouTuber, Director, entertainer, video vixen and DJ, plus so much more. So, basically he does everything. Put on your seatbelts for this episode, as we touch on a little bit of everything. From his rise to YouTube fame, to making out with random women in bars, to how he was attacked by an old Ahjussi and so much more. If you’re a fan of WeFancy or a fan of Xander’s, sit down, grab some popcorn and your Soju and enjoy the ride. IG:WeFancyXander IG:WeFancyBrand

Join us on this very controversial episode where we discuss how some Korean clubs reject foreigners from getting into their establishment. We’re joined by one of our really good friends, Triana, who recently experienced a heated moment with one of the bouncers at her former favorite spot when they wouldn’t allow her in anymore because the rules had changed to “no foreigners allowed”. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but these are just some of the things we have to deal with living in a homogeneous nation as foreign nationals.

And on the 10th episode, V and Keda give you a 1-on-1 catch up episode. We discuss family tings, visits back home, and some of the drama that unraveled after the previous episode. We also discuss the difficulty we face as foreign women in Korea and the lack of safety/protection if/when shit goes down in the streets for us. Let us know if you know or know of someone who knows who we can call upon for assistance if we find ourselves in trouble and need things to be handled fairly with the law.

This week, your faves brought in a guest from the US military to spill the soju and help us clear up a few things like; Why do the military boys go balls to the walls so hard on the weekends? What's wrong with dating American girls in Korea? Do soldiers of the Muslim religion get treated differently in the US military? Why do military men get married so quickly? Listen in to catch all the other juicy stories too. Thank you, Mr. Military man for the tea and thank you for your service.

On this weeks episode, your favorite girls are joined in studio with the beautiful Tana( @ramenbowl_t )What started out as a 6 month stint in South Korea, has now turned into a 3 year residency. Tana tells us all about life as a foreign baker of all things sweet. We also touch on how foreign women are treated by men. And Tana's altercation on a train with two Korean men. Listen to hear how Tana got finessed into spending lots of money on this guy's drink tab! The disrespect of it all!!

And on the 7th episode, wild stories were revealed. On this episode, your favorites play drink or truth. We asked each other questions and had to answer honestly or take a shot of soju. We talk about how we've had to learn to walk with our heads held high and rebuilding our confidence levels, because moving to Korea brought about insecurities we didn't know we had. But moving to Korea also brought about some wild experiences we didn't see coming, like how one of us almost participated in a Korean orgy or got down and dirty in the back seat of a moving cab.

On this episode we share a snippet of our HGS (Hot Girl Summer) moments. We've been taking (or at least trying to) Mama Megan's advice seriously this summer. Wondering what a HGS is? As Megan Thee Stallion herself said in an interview with Refinery23, "It's about women and men being unapologetically them, just having a good-ass time, hyping up their friends, doing you. You definitely have to be a person who can be the life of the party and just a bad bitch." And we've been a couple of boss a** women out in these streets. Sometimes we fell flat on our faces, but for the most part HGS has been an experience this season! What's been your favorite HGS moment?

On this episode, we pop our interview cherry with Michael(IG: @theycallmemisterpig), who is our FIRST guest on #sojublack!! Have you ever wondered what it’s like living in South Korea as an unapologetic, African American male, LGBTQ+ and all around BOSS?!? We dive into topics from dating to dealing with micro aggressions. It’s a good one y’all!!!!! COMMENT DOWN BELOW GUESTS THAT YOU WOULD LIKE US TO HAVE ON FUTURE EPISODES!!! THIS PODCAST IS ABOUT SHARING THE STORIES OF EXPATS ABROAD, NOT JUST EXPATS OF COLOR. We want to hear from EVERYONE!!! Tell a friend and tell them to tell a friend!!!

Updates and rant about Holiday Land Festival (00:00 - 15:00) Mental health talk (15:00 ~~) On this episode, your faves open up about our mental health and how we manage to keep ourselves at bay in SoKo. It's not easy finding that kind of help in Korea, as they don't see mental health as something to worry about on such a great scale. We share our vulnerabilities with you guys about our past experiences, how they've caught up with us and how we deal with them. And what's an SB episode without a little dramatic action... listen and find out what goes down on this episode.

On this episode, V and Keda give you a breakdown on their past relationships and their breakups that led them to South Korea. Learning from past mistakes, and we touch on dating in South Korea. The good, the bad and the little.

This episode V and Keda talk about dry festivals in South Korea and how we miss festival season back home. We also talk about the absolute joy (clear sarcasm) of moving into a new apartment, that's pure filth. We touch on the topic of sexual health and how we need to be more educated in taking care of our vaginas.

We are two WOC/POC from America and South Africa. In episode one, we give you an introduction to V and Keda and our lives in South Korea. From losing and gaining new friends, finding our freedom and learning how to cheat a drug test.